Episodes
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I’ve been talking to thousands of people in the last fifteen years, and one common theme among all these people was that everyone felt stuck.
Even though they knew the feeling, but they didn’t know where they were stuck.
So today I thought it’d be a great idea to explore together how we can identify where exactly that feeling of stuckness comes from.
To illustrate this phenomenon, I have a very intriguing tale that I’d like to share with you. It may give us some ideas. Maybe we can draw even some parallels to our own life experiences. And if we’re lucky we can even learn some valuable lessons.
Hope you'll join the conversation and receive some valuable insights.
Thank you for listening.
Arda
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In this Episode 63 “Levels of Consciousness, Stairway to Happiness”, I’d love to introduce you to the levels of consciousness and how you can use this knowledge to live a happier life?
First of all, did you know that your consciousness level is 100% correlated to how happy you are and how smoothly your life flows?
If you’d like to get to those high-flowing, you better start climbing up the stairs of consciousness.
Well, if you decide to do so, you have to rise through 3 very distinct levels of consciousness.
I’m sure you know the first one. Most of us are pretty much stuck there, and suffering on a daily basis. Yup, the first level is the Sub-Consciousness. Where you don’t know what you’re doing, and why you’re doing it?
Listen on to learn the other 2 levels of consciousness, and find out what level you live most of your life on.
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In this episode, I’m sharing a guided meditation to help you Ease Pain using Breathwork called, 3 by 3.
Over the last 15 years, I watched hundreds of my clients reduce the intensity of their pain and stay calm and relaxed by using this breath technique.
Some of them even felt a sense of power and control over their body.
I hope you can achieve similar results.
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The death of Arda’s father was not a surprise, as he had been very ill over the past 3 years, experiencing a slow decline. Nevertheless, the loss of a father or a mother, whatever the relationship, evokes feelings, emotions, and reminiscing about what was and what could have been.
Join Arda on his trip to Turkiye and listen in on his thoughts on life, death, yearning, loss, and accepting the inevitable fate awaiting us all. Reflecting on these most recent experiences, Arda has returned with a renewed commitment to live life even more consciously, to its fullest potential, where harmony, bliss, and balance reign.
The parting gift of those who leave this earthly realm is to find their calling, embrace their loved ones and enjoy the moments of the present.
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Arda is guiding you how to quiet your mind, and calm your thoughts with a simple breathing technique, called Square Breathing.
In this technique, you'll draw an imaginative square with every movement of your breath.
Every time you inhale, you’ll count to 5. Then, you’ll hold your breath for 5. Next, you’ll exhale slowly while counting to 5, and finally, you’ll hold your breath out for a count 5 to complete the cycle.
Let’s do a few cycles of Square Breathing together.
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Even though an emotional reaction is neither good nor bad, at the end of the day, it is an energy drainer, leaving you feeling depleted afterward. Worse yet, these situations often lead to conflict with others, leaving you even more exhausted and drained.
Negative thoughts rush into your head and occupy your mind for hours, for days—maybe even for weeks. Sometimes you can’t easily shake them off or let them go, and with little energy left for anyone or anything else, you feel stuck and lost, blaming the situation and other people for your unhappiness.
Upon closer look, though, these situations and people seem to repeat in your life. When the cycle of emotional reactions and depletion of your energy continues, you start to feel more stuck, lost, and confused.
Join the conversation between Elizabeth and Arda to learn more about the reasons behind your emotional reactions and what to do when you find yourself in reactive state of judging others.
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Our brand-new episode, no. 58, opens up with an interesting discussion about two monks, Ekido and Tanzan, having a debate about whether helping a girl to cross a muddy road is a noble thing to do or is to be avoided, because it's against their sacred oath of "thou shall not near women!"
How did Tanzan move on so quickly, without being bothered by either Ekido’s judgment or his own violation of a sacred rule, while Ekido got all jumbled up in his mind and couldn’t let go of what he saw? Is it because, as an older monk, Tanzan is more trained in controlling his thoughts and reactions than Ekido? Does he have more willpower? Has he done more med- itations, recited more mantras?
Before we answer these questions, let’s remember not to be too critical of Ekido. You and I are not that different from him. We all naturally react to people or situations that don’t align with our values or belief systems. It’s part of life to judge and react to others’ negative attitudes, bad behaviors, annoying personalities, condescending actions, or critical words.
What shall we do?
Listen to Elizabeth and Arda unpack this spiritual story and explore answers to why we judge others.
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Do you realize that we all live life according to restrictive and limiting patterns stemming from thoughts and beliefs we hold true about ourselves and the world around us? Check it out: As children, we register and conform to the attitudes, mindsets, and ideologies of our parents, teachers, friends, family, and society. As we age, we are replete
with messages about ourselves that simply aren’t true, but we believe them to be true. As adults, these old ways of thinking no longer serve us. Still, we continue to act and react using an outdated script, responding to a cast of obsolete characters. Want to break free of the old and embrace the new? Arda shows the way to a more fulfilling and authentic life.
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Are you feeling stuck? Confused? Lost? Not sure if you are coming or going? Maybe you should read Arda’s book, The Art of Becoming Unstuck. In this exclusive interview, Arda explains why he wrote a life skills training guide, a manual to live your best life right now. As you listen, you will learn how to identify and become aware of self-defeating belief systems and patterns acting like sandbags, weighing you down, and keeping you in the doldrums.
No matter how stuck you feel today, the key to fulfillment is within you. Learn to rise above challenging situations, difficult people, and negative thoughts. A happy and rewarding life is within reach. Join Arda’s podcast to explore the path to ultimate happiness.
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In this first episode of the Ask Arda Podcast Show with Elizabeth Ouellette and Arda Ozdemir, you will dive deep into the very personal life of Arda himself. From Turkey to Australia and finally to the US, you’ll learn how Arda turned his life upside down, inside out, to follow his inner calling to help others become unstuck and live a life of their dreams. From VP, Finance in a high-tech Silicon Valley company to founding Rise 2 Realize Coaching School and Ask Arda Coaching Platform, he’s been living indeed his dream life.
Through coaching over the last 15 years, and close to 5,000 clients, he has developed an impressive, transformational and state-of-the-art 5-step Power Method to help hundreds of clients transform their lives and show up in life as their best Self. Let’s learn about Arda, his movement, and his mission to bring more joy, happiness and fulfillment to the world.
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Life is an emotional rollercoaster ride. One moment, you're up, feeling happy, and next, you find yourself down and feeling anxious and depressed.
Your emotional reactions contribute to this rollercoaster ride. Whenever you react, you lose energy , you lose momentum, and eventually, you lose your happiness.
In this guided meditation, Arda walks you through the Rise 2 Realize 3 by 3 Breath Technique to help you regulate your emotional reactions to achieve emotional balance and mental clarity for a smoother flow in life.
Arda recommends practicing this technique at the end of each day as part of your daily review to release the negative impacts of the stress and emotional reactions out of your body.
Contact Arda at [email protected] with questions and comments.
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In this video, Elizabeth, Beth, Jon and Arda discuss powerful tips for you to have a stress-free holiday this year.
They covered:
1. How to navigate difficult people and situations in holiday gatherings
2. What our favorite "go to" communication strategy is to handle difficult conversations and arguments
3. Which one is a better strategy, “I feel” statements or Aikido (leveling) or Open-ended questions?
4. How do you bring curiosity when interacting with your family members that you already know?
5. How to set and keep your self-boundaries (tip: through grounding :) so that you don't exhaust yourself after spending so much time with family?
Enjoy!
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In this episode, Arda, Elizabeth, Beth and Jon explore the process of forgiveness and how it affects our emotional and mental well-being.
They discuss what forgiveness really means. According to The Art of Becoming Unstuck, page 225, forgiveness is defined as "releasing of others from their responsibility to act in a certain way according to our expectations, beliefs or value systems." In a way, this release brings acceptance which offsets the judgment we hold against others.
They also explore the factors that help us or prevent us from forgiving others, as they discover that forgiveness is a process that benefits the person who forgives more than the person who is forgiven.
And finally, they share the essential communication strategies, especially I-Feel statements and Open Ended Curious Questions, to foster the process of forgiveness, and facilitate a deeper connection between the forgiver and the forgiven.
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Do you experience anxiety? If so, what are your tools to deal with anxiety?
In this episode, no. 51, Arda, Elizabeth and Beth, Rise 2 Realize Life Coaches, discuss anxiety and how to overcome it when you experience it next time in your life.
They covered the following questions:
1. What is the difference between stress and anxiety? The terms are sometimes interchanged, but there are important differences.
2. How does anxiety become a life limiting pattern? It's so interesting and strange that no matter what we do, situations that cause anxiety keep repeating in our lives.
3. What can we do to overcome anxiety and break free from these patterns? Rise 2 Realize Power Method outlines three steps: 1. awareness 2. understanding 3. acceptance
4. How can we help others with anxiety, even if we do not experience it ourselves?
If you'd like to know more, schedule a free 30-minute consultation call and experience how the Rise 2 Realize Power Method helps you ease the intensity of your anxiety, and guides you to overcome.
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In this 50th episode of The Art of Becoming Unstuck podcast show, Elizabeth, Beth, Jon and Arda discuss everything about People Pleasing:
Are you a people pleaser?
What are your tendencies?
How do you feel after you "people please"?
How do you break free from your People Pleasing tendencies?
What are the communication strategies that can help you set boundaries? How did you become a People Pleaser?
What to do with the guilt - and the fear that you feel when you start saying no to others and yes to yourself?
All answers are in this episode. Listen in. Join the conversation.
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A few months ago, Valeria Teles, Fit For Joy (fitforjoy.org) interviewed me for her podcast show, A Quest for Well-Being, and graciously permitted that interview to be republished on Rise 2 Realize podcast.
So here it is, an intimate, spiritual conversation exploring the purpose of life, higher conscoiusness and ultimate happiness.
Enjoy!
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Are you aware of your perceptions that give meaning to your life? Do you know your emotional reactions are direct result of your perceptions?
Join the conversation. Enjoy.
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As irritating as they can be, triggers are actually here for a reason. They serve as an invitation to understand the root cause of your emotional reactions in life.
The message that each trigger carries is a substantial one because every time you're triggered, you have a chance to learn about your Self.
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Join the conversation between Elizabeth, Dionne, Beth and Arda about how to regulate your emotional reactions.
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Law of Life #2: Life is not meant to be heavy or confusing. Our fears make it so. And our fears create the emotions we feel, when we get triggered by the challenges of life. Join in the conversation between Beth, Dionne, Elizabeth and Arda and reflect on your repressed fears that may be the cause of your emotional reactions toward life.
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