Episodes

  • Without doubt, social media has made our world smaller. We are more connected than ever. Our social media accounts have hundreds, even thousands, of our friends and other people we collect through life.

    For those of us living the diplomatic life, social media is a real link to those friends and family members spread all over the world.

    Why then do so many us feel so alone? Why are we in the grip of a ‘loneliness epidemic’?

    This episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast investigates how we diplomats and those living the diplomatic life can use social media in a way that it feels like real connection, but it’s not. It’s ersatz connection.

    Let’s talk about how we can use social media in a way that serves us and actively use it to connect with the people in our lives.

    Links:

    Blog post: https://bit.ly/2CKRvUs
    Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
    ‘The Loneliness Epidemic’ (NPR ‘On Point’ story): https://wbur.fm/2NessjL
    Please, support my work: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/support
    The Lounge: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/thelounge
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  • Something wonderful happens when diplomats and those living the diplomatic life get together. We are with people who understand; we are with people who get what this life is like. Without too much effort, stories of successes, near misses and disasters are shared.

    This episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast looks at these stories and how they’re a valuable source of connection but can also evolve into competitive stories where we ‘one-up’ each other with our tales.

    What happens when someone says something that could indicate that they’re not OK? What if their courage and bravery in admitting that they may be struggling – albeit subtly – is lost in a round of competitive storytelling?

    What if the only people who really understand and can help us aren’t listening?

    Links:

    Blog post: https://bit.ly/2KB7JEw
    Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
    Please, support my work: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/support
    The Lounge: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/thelounge
    Contact me: admin@thelonelydiplomat.com

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  • If you’re a parent who’s also a diplomat or you’re the child of a diplomat, you need to hear this episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast.

    In my chat with Jaqueline Benndorf – herself the daughter of a diplomat and accomplished psychotherapist – we explore what her childhood and adolescence in a diplomatic family has meant for her throughout her life.

    As parents, we all are doing the best we can for our children. Jaqueline and I provide some advice for those who are parenting as well as leading a diplomatic life and some advice for the children living a diplomatic life.

    Jaqueline is wise, kind and extremely funny. The interview is emotional and very real.

    Oh, and our collective wisdom combined with our awesomeness broke the internet at one point. Sorry about that…

    Links:

    Jaqueline’s blog post: https://bit.ly/2F7jeiw
    Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
    Please, support my work: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/support
    The Lounge: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/thelounge
    Contact me: admin@thelonelydiplomat.com

  • In this episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast, I talk about self-deprecation and my relationship with my friend Joe.

    I wrote on this topic in ‘Are you the self-deprecating diplomat?’ (go to https://bit.ly/2JmB3Lx to read) and I wanted to talk more about self-deprecation and how it affects me.

    Self-deprecation is nasty and insidious. It masquerades as good-humoured humility but hides our belief that we are not enough.

    I explore the feeling that many of us have that we are frauds or imposters and that we will be found out at any moment and how some of us can fear being the tall poppy, but desperately want to be seen and recognised.

    I see evidence of self-deprecation throughout diplomacy. I know that I’m not alone. You’re not alone, either.

    Links:

    Website: www.thelonelydiplomat.com
    Please, support my work: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/support
    The Lounge: www.thelonelydiplomat.com/thelounge
    Contact me: admin@thelonelydiplomat.com

  • On this episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast, I speak with Mike Campbell on the power of the stories we tell ourselves.

    I wrote on this topic in ‘The Lonely Diplomat: on the stories we tell ourselves’ (go to www.thelonelydiplomat.com/blog to read) and wanted to discuss the power of these stories with Mike.

    Each of us have stories that our minds scrap together to make sense of ourselves and the those around us. They are incredibly powerful, and we can build them into truths about ourselves and others. We rarely challenge them, even when they’re wrong.

    Be sure to listen for Mike’s suggestions about how we can begin to question these stories.

    ABOUT MIKE

    Mike is a men’s coach, author and founder of The School of Personal Mastery coaching program for men. He’s also the creator of the interview show and events, Beyond The Beers. He brings easily implemented and effective personal development to everyday men who want to break free of the ordinary and achieve greater success in their career, relationships, and life – without the guilt and hang-ups. He challenges us in the most kind and supportive way imaginable. He will be a rock of certainty even when we’re not.

    Mike is on a mission to change the narrative around masculinity and what it means to be a mature, strong, capable, compassionate, kind, and effective man.

    More information: www.mikecampbell.com.au

  • In this episode, we explore the concepts of stress and resilience. The interview follows my blog post ‘The Lonely Diplomat: on resilience – part 2’ (go to www.thelonelydiplomat.com/blog to read). Alison and I have an enlightening discussion about her work as a Positive Psychology Practitioner and her work helping people to thrive under stress in a range of industries.

    If you’ve ever been stressed, are stressed, or feel that you could be stressed soon, this episode is compulsory listening.

    Alison has worked as a researcher strategist and positive psychology practitioner around the globe. She’s a Behavioural Strategist with Burns Group, a NYC-based brand transformation agency, and is the founder of BG Hatch, a think tank dedicated to solving the most complex problems in behaviour change, which brings together the leading academic and commercial minds.

    Through BG Hatch she leads an ongoing collaboration with the Harvard Kennedy School and Harvard School of Public Health (HSPH) and is a repeat guest lecturer in HSPH Behavioural Economics class for the Public Health Masters, where she lets her geeky side shine through.

    More information about Alison, her work and her excellent book, 'Tripowerment: The Why, The Will and The Way of Breakthrough Change' (which I’ll be coming back to soon), can be found at www.alisonearl.com.

  • In this episode of The Lonely Diplomat podcast, we'll explore the concept of 'home' and what it means to diplomats. This is a topic I explored in my blog post 'The Lonely Diplomat: on home', published on 17 March 2019 (go to www.thelonelydiplomat.com/blog to read).

    In this episode, you’ll hear a great conversation between me and Katia Vlachos, author of the fantastic book: ‘A Great Move: Surviving and Thriving In Your Expat Assignment’.

    Katia and I chat about the topic of home and moving internationally. Specifically, we talk about why it’s important to be brave and to speak up when you’re not coping with a move (because you’re not alone); how to handle reverse culture shock and many other topics.

    Katia’s professional background is in policy analysis. She holds an MA from the Kennedy School of Government at Harvard and a PhD from the RAND Corporation. Katia is a seasoned expat herself, having lived in eight cities, seven countries and three continents in the past 20 years. She currently lives in Zurich, Switzerland.

    Her website is www.katiavlachos.com

  • An open, honest and fun interview with Georgie Ryan, author of the 'Diplomatic spouses of the world, unite!' blog post on www.thelonelydiplomat.com. Georgie shares her thoughts and experiences from her 22 years of accompanying her spouse on diplomatic postings in Hong Kong, Canada, Turkey and South Africa.

    A must-listen episode for diplomatic spouses and those that love them.

  • It's time for some introductions: to me; my work and why I want to help mid-career diplomats reconnect with themselves and the world around them.

    Go to www.thelonelydiplomat.com to learn more.