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Has navigating the world of parenting introduced a whole new set of challenges for you and your partner?
If so, you're not alone. Today, we dive into an insightful conversation with Rhona Berens, a professional certified coach and co-author of the book *"Fight Right for Your Baby"*. This comprehensive guide is designed to help expecting and new parents shift from conflict to connection, an essential aspect of co-parenting that is often underestimated.
Becoming a parent inevitably places stress on relationships. Rhona and her wife experienced firsthand the shock of how parenting impacted their relationship. Rhona's journey emphasized the importance of creating a "designed partnership alliance" to navigate the often tumultuous transition from being a couple to being parents.
One of the key topics discussed was the concept of fighting right versus fighting wrong. Rhona explained that fighting wrong involves unskillful, unproductive ways of disagreeing that pull couples apart. Drawing from John Gottman's research, she explains the four toxic communication styles: contempt, defensiveness, criticism, and stonewalling.
1. Contempt: Disrespectful communication including condescension, sarcasm, and eye-rolling.
2. Defensiveness: Reacting with a chip on your shoulder, refusing to see your part in the conflict.
3. Criticism: Blaming and nagging that turns issues into personal attacks.
4. Stonewalling: Becoming uncommunicative, walking away, or avoiding the conflict entirely.
Rhona emphasized the importance of becoming aware of these behaviors and working towards changing unproductive patterns. She encourages couples to recognize the impact of their communication on their children and to make a conscious effort to model healthier interaction.
Fighting is normal. It's not about never fighting but about how you fight and, more importantly, how you repair and reconnect after a conflict. Small moments of reconnection—like affirming words, a hug, or simply holding hands—can make a significant difference in maintaining a positive relationship dynamic in front of your children.
For parents approaching this monumental life change, Rhona’s insights and the tools in her book can serve as a valuable resource to navigate the complexities of new parenthood while maintaining a healthy, connected relationship with your partner.
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00:00 Intro01:25 Rhona's Personal Journey to Becoming a Coach04:30 The Impact of Parenting on Relationships10:31 The Book: Fight Right for Your Baby17:26 Understanding and Addressing Conflict in Relationships35:35 Tips for New and Expecting ParentsConnect with Rhona
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Are you looking for delicious, plant-based recipes that can help you recover postpartum?
In this episode, I’m joined by Chef Eduardo Justo. Eduardo brings a wealth of experience, having worked in some of the best restaurants in the world and now specializing in vegan and plant-based cuisine. Eduardo shares his journey, cooking philosophy, and two amazing recipes designed specifically for postpartum moms.
Eduardo shares the benefits of plant-based eating for recovery, as well as two nutritious recipes he created that are not only delicious but also supportive of postpartum recovery and nursing mothers. Using ingredients known as galactagogues—foods that help increase breast milk supply—he highlights the importance of these foods, emphasizing how they can aid in both recovery and milk production.
Our first recipe is a Lentil Fenugreek Stew, perfect for the fall season or any time you need a hearty, nourishing meal. The second recipe is a vibrant and nutritious Creamy Chickpea Beet Soup, packed with protein and vitamins.
Both recipes are designed to be simple and quick to prepare, making them ideal for busy postpartum moms. Remember, you can easily add your preferred protein like chicken, fish, or tofu to these dishes to suit your dietary needs. These recipes can also be made in large batches and frozen for later consumption.
Eduardo’s passion for plant-based cooking and his understanding of postpartum nutrition make these recipes a wonderful addition to any new mom’s meal rotation.
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00:00 Intro02:55 Eduardo's Journey to Becoming a Chef05:00 Eduardo's Vegan Transformation06:44 The Importance of Galactagogues08:59 Recipe 1: Lentil Fenugreek Stew15:52 Recipe 2: Creamy Chickpea Beet SoupConnect with Eduardo
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Are you wondering what it’s like to embark on the journey of motherhood later in life? Maybe you’re a new mother in her 40s, or thinking of having kids later on in life. In this episode, I have a profound conversation with Victoria Lauture Duncker from "New Mommy at 40." Victoria, a multifaceted artist, storyteller, and advocate, shared her inspiring journey of becoming a mother in her 40s and the incredible work she is doing to support women navigating similar paths.
Victoria’s journey to motherhood is both unique and inspiring. She started her career in musical theater and film, influenced by the powerful voices of women in her family. Despite her vibrant career, she always wondered when her journey to motherhood would begin. Victoria humorously shares her experience, noting the industry’s tendency to value youth, which led many of her colleagues to delay motherhood. At 40, she met her husband, and within a year, they were married and expecting their first child.
Her journey wasn’t without its challenges, including struggles with fibroids, PCOS, and fertility. Victoria was determined to break societal stigmas and advocate for herself and others. Through her experiences, she created the "New Mommy at 40" podcast to empower other women, share stories, and build a supportive community.
Victoria offers advice to women considering motherhood later in life:
1. Breathe and Manage Stress: Stress never helps, so it's crucial to find ways to relax and manage anxiety about the future.
2. Stay Informed: Understand your anatomy and reproductive health.
3. Explore Options: Consider cryopreservation and other fertility options to keep future possibilities open.
4. Seek Support: Build a support system of like-minded individuals who understand your journey.
5. Advocate for Yourself: Don’t hesitate to ask questions and seek the care you deserve.
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00:00 Intro04:01 Victoria's Journey to Motherhood08:57 Creating the New Mommy at 40 Podcast10:09 Challenges and Realities of Late Motherhood12:12 Navigating Medical and Social Challenges20:24 Insights and Advice for Aspiring Older Mothers40:45 Concluding Thoughts and FarewellConnect with Victoria
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Have you ever faced a medical diagnosis that changed the course of your life?
Today, we delve into the heartfelt journey of Steph, a woman who has battled endometriosis and infertility, and her ultimate triumph in becoming a mother. This is a compelling story of resilience, emotional strength, and the tireless pursuit of a family.
Steph's journey began at the age of 30 when she first received her diagnosis of endometriosis. Despite having a family history of painful periods, it wasn't until she experienced excruciating abdominal pain and was diagnosed with a cyst that she began to truly understand her condition.
Their surrogacy journey brought them to Los Angeles, where they underwent further IVF treatments to harvest and inseminate Steph's eggs, creating embryos ready for transfer. After an initial setback with their first surrogate, they met a wonderful woman in North Carolina who successfully carried their daughter.
Throughout this period, the emotional toll was immense. Steph grappled with grief, anger, and anxiety. Her anxiety hit peak levels during the surrogacy process, to the point where she relied on Pablo (her husband) to manage the logistics and updates. Despite the emotional upheaval, the couple's perseverance paid off when they finally welcomed Alma into their lives.
From her journey, Steph offers invaluable advice for those grappling with endometriosis and infertility. She emphasizes the importance of not losing hope and managing the disease through diet, acupuncture, and physiotherapy to reduce inflammation. Connecting with others facing similar challenges and staying informed about the condition can make a significant difference.
Today, five years after their successful surrogacy journey, Steph continues to manage her endometriosis through a disciplined lifestyle, including dietary changes and regular acupuncture. Despite the challenges, she feels good and is grateful for the journey that brought her to motherhood.
Steph's story is a testament to enduring hope, the power of medical intervention, and the unyielding desire to create a family, no matter the obstacles. Her experience offers a beacon of hope to many struggling with similar issues, showing that with persistence and the right support, one can navigate through the darkest tunnels to find light.
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00:00 Intro02:12 Steph's Diagnosis and Early Symptoms02:43 The Impact of Oral Contraceptives03:24 Surgical Interventions and Challenges07:44 IVF Journey and Miscarriages11:42 Decision for Surrogacy14:48 Surrogacy Process and Success23:09 Managing Endometriosis and Final ThoughtsConnect with me
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If you’re here, you have likely felt overwhelmed by the challenges of new motherhood, and deservedly so. While it’s a beautiful time, it can be an equally challenging one for many new parents.
In this episode, we welcome Kathleena Nair from White Feather Coaching. Kathleena is a transformational coach specializing in helping women change their mindset, overcome limiting beliefs, and crush self-sabotage. Her coaching style is gentle, empathetic, and supportive, focusing on helping women see their unlimited potential, break barriers, and achieve goals they once thought impossible.
During our chat, Kathleena shared insights into how she uses NLP and hypnotherapy in her coaching practice, particularly for postpartum moms. She explained how these techniques can help women break free from negative thought patterns and self-doubt. Kathleena also emphasized the importance of having a support system and preparing mentally for the postpartum period.
An essential topic we discussed was the often-overlooked "fourth trimester." Kathleena advocates for new mothers to prepare mentally for this period and to give themselves grace and patience during this transitional phase. The unpredictability and demands of motherhood require adaptability and self-compassion.
Finally, Kathleena explained how NLP works by examining our thoughts and emotions to influence our behavior positively. This involves creating positive associations and challenging negative thinking patterns. Consistent practice can lead to profound changes, helping women regain control over their thoughts and emotions.
One of Kathleena’s key pieces of advice is practicing gratitude. Even on the toughest days, listing a few things you're grateful for can shift your energy and perspective. Gratitude helps counteract fear and anxiety, fostering a positive mindset.
If you are feeling overwhelmed or need support, Kathleena from White Feather Coaching offers valuable resources and coaching. Remember, it's okay to reach out and ask for help. You are not alone in this journey.
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00:00 Intro03:22 Kathleena's Personal Journey05:56 Challenges of Motherhood08:48 The Fourth Trimester12:46 Understanding Limiting Beliefs14:17 Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)15:34 Changing Negative Thoughts19:30 The Power of Coaching22:28 Understanding and Managing Fear23:57 Identity Crisis in Motherhood24:42 Mindset Shifts During Postpartum25:43 Support for New Fathers27:19 Creating a Postpartum Plan29:18 Hypnotherapy and NLP for Emotional Healing37:10 The Power of Gratitude
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Have you ever wondered why some new mothers struggle with breastfeeding, while others seem to transition seamlessly into bottle feeding?
In today's episode, I’m joined by Dr. Courtney Livaudais, an occupational therapist and lactation consultant. Courtney shares her unique insights and experiences, offering a holistic approach to support new mothers in their feeding journey.
Courtney shares her personal struggles with breastfeeding her first child, who had a significant tongue tie. These challenges led her to seek help from a lactation consultant, which ultimately enabled her to breastfeed successfully for a year. This experience highlighted how crucial early support is in navigating the complexities of breastfeeding, from physical pain to emotional struggles.
Courtney emphasizes a holistic approach to lactation support, where the family's goals are prioritized. Rather than pushing an agenda, she asks, "How would you like to feed your baby?" This method acknowledges that breastfeeding, pumping, and bottle feeding are all valid options depending on the family's needs and circumstances.
Advice for New and Expecting Moms
Permission to Ask for Help: Courtney stresses the importance of asking for help early. The moment you start experiencing issues, reach out to a professional to avoid escalating problems.Find Support Groups: Both professional and peer support are essential. Support groups, whether online or in-person, can provide invaluable insights and normalize the challenges you're facing.No Decision is Permanent: Understand that decisions around feeding your baby are not set in stone. There's always room to adapt and change based on what works best for you and your family.Remember, you're not alone on this journey. Whether you're exclusively breastfeeding, pumping, bottle feeding, or combining methods, the right support can make all the difference. Feel free to reach out for help and support tailored to your unique needs.
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00:00 Intro02:24 Courtney's Background and Journey05:39 Challenges and Realities of Breastfeeding14:00 Holistic Lactation Support27:44 Advice for New and Expecting Moms31:13 Conclusion and Resources
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Have you ever felt overwhelmed, exhausted, and unsure about how to move forward as a mom?
Welcome to a deep-dive conversation with Kelly Sinning from Fulfill and Flourish Coaching. This week, Kelly shares her inspiring journey and expert insights on overcoming the challenges of motherhood. With over a decade of experience as a licensed therapist and a mom, Kelly uniquely understands the struggles that come with trying to conceive and the postpartum phase.
Kelly shared the emotional toll of experiencing multiple miscarriages. Initially, she received empathy and questions about her well-being, but over time, the support dwindled. This left her feeling even more isolated and numb. Kelly emphasized the importance of allowing women to grieve openly without rushing their healing process.
One of the critical points Kelly addressed was the invisible nature of many mental health hardships. By the time people around her understood her struggles, she had already reached her emotional capacity. This led to feelings of loneliness and isolation, even with a robust support network. She pinpointed how friends and family often run out of empathy, contributing further to her feelings of aloneness.
Kelly's advice for new and expecting mothers is twofold:
1. Accept That You Are Both Birthing a Baby and Being Reborn as a Mother: Each child brings a new experience, and it's okay to give yourself grace during this learning process.
2. Prepare Early: Research therapists, coaches, and support systems before giving birth. Knowing who to turn to can significantly reduce the stress of seeking help when you're already overwhelmed.
She also suggests practical tips like outsourcing tasks, using paper plates to reduce dishwashing, and focusing on essential activities to keep things manageable.
We talk about:
00:00 Intro03:56 The Struggles of Recurrent Miscarriages07:14 The Emotional Toll of Loss13:33 Pregnancy and Postpartum Challenges19:51 Recognizing and Addressing Postpartum Depression25:49 Navigating Relationship Challenges Postpartum26:21 Creating a Postpartum Plan29:18 Recognizing and Addressing Postpartum Depression30:53 The Importance of Support Systems34:34 Therapy vs. Coaching for New Moms40:23 Introducing the Reclaim and Restore Retreat45:12 Advice for Expecting and New Moms51:05 Final Thoughts and Resources
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Are you considering co-sleeping but concerned about the potential risks and stigma associated with it?
In this episode, we get into the often controversial topic of co-sleeping with expert Ashley Cooley of Birth Baby Sleep. Together, we aim to provide comprehensive and evidence-based information to help parents make informed decisions, all while challenging the taboo surrounding this parenting choice.
Conversations about co-sleeping are often swept under the rug due to its taboo nature, but many parents end up co-sleeping out of sheer exhaustion. Our goal is to disseminate valuable information, ensuring safer spaces for both parents and babies if they choose this route.
We discuss recommendations from the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the Canadian Pediatric Society (CPS), both of which advocate for infants to sleep on their backs on a firm mattress in their own environment. Ashley and I emphasize that while these organizations strongly discourage bed-sharing, reality often diverges from these guidelines. Many parents, especially breastfeeding mothers, fall asleep with their babies, sometimes in unsafe conditions. We also talk about some practical tips to make it safer.
Ashley Cooley’s insights offer a balanced, non-judgmental perspective on the nuances of co-sleeping. The goal of this episode is not to promote or dissuade parents from co-sleeping but to provide them with the tools and knowledge to make informed choices and create the safest sleep environment possible.
We hope this conversation removes some of the stigma and shame parents might feel about co-sleeping. Remember, parenting is a journey filled with diverse experiences, and informed decisions can make this journey a bit smoother.
We talk about:
00:00 Intro06:20 Ashley Cooley's Journey into Sleep Consulting10:37 Co-Sleeping Recommendations and Realities16:08 Creating a Safe Co-Sleeping Environment19:37 Practical Tips for Safe Co-Sleeping24:33 Preventing Gaps Between Mattress and Wall25:09 Risks of Co-Sleeping with Preterm Babies28:55 Addressing Shame and Embarrassment29:23 Clarifying Co-Sleeping Misconceptions33:48 Smoking and Co-Sleeping Risks36:47 Importance of Back Sleeping40:09 Final Thoughts and Advice for New Parents
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Are you a new dad feeling overwhelmed and unsure of where to turn for support?
Today, we’re diving into the inspiring story of Tyler Kort and his creation, Fathercy, a business and social media platform designed to support dads. Tyler's initiative aims to encourage, equip, and educate fathers as they navigate the complex journey of parenting.
Tyler’s journey into fatherhood began with his daughter and is now expanding with a soon-to-arrive son. His experiences led him to create Fathercy, a resource that offers valuable tools and a supportive community for dads everywhere.
Tyler shared the poignant moment when his wife’s birth plan changed unexpectedly due to his daughter being in a breech position, necessitating a C-section. This sudden twist pushed Tyler into a more active role in the birthing process, from undergoing the excitement of labor to managing the realities of a C-section recovery. He emphasized the importance of having a doula for support, not just for his wife but also for himself as he navigated these unfamiliar waters.
Postpartum challenges are often discussed concerning mothers, but Tyler opened up about his own struggles as a new dad. He discussed the emotional toll of feeling overwhelmed and questioning his capabilities. Initially, Tyler, like many fathers, chose to suffer in silence rather than burden his already recovering wife.
Are you a dad in need of support and community? Visit Fathercy for tools, inspiration, and to connect with a community of fathers undergoing the same journey.
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00:00 Intro05:24 The Birth Experience: Challenges and Emotions08:02 Postpartum Realities and Support13:40 The Emotional Struggles of New Dads17:29 Redefining Good Parenting21:58 The Father C Challenge: 28 Days to Recenter23:27 The Benefits of Cold Showers and Mental Fortitude28:27 Words of Wisdom for Expecting and New Dads32:55 Encouraging, Equipping, and Educating Fathers
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Have you ever wondered what it truly takes to undergo IVF, not just physically but mentally and emotionally?*
Welcome to part two of Vanessa Nasrallah's IVF journey. While Vanessa had previously shared the physical challenges of IVF in last week’s episode, this episode delves deeper into the emotional and psychological toll of the process.
In our heartfelt conversation, Vanessa discusses the unseen and often unspoken emotional load of IVF, the differences between her two experiences, and how she and her husband, Peter, navigated through these trials.
Reflecting on her experiences, Vanessa emphasizes that her journey through IVF and early motherhood was not just about the physical aspects but also about dealing with unresolved trauma and grief. The conversation underscores the importance of recognizing and addressing mental health issues along the way.
Vanessa's story is a testament to the power of vulnerability, resilience, and seeking help. It's a reminder that while the road of IVF and parenthood can be filled with challenges, sharing our journeys can make those paths a bit easier to navigate.
We talk about:
00:00 Intro02:19 The Emotional Aftermath of IVF and Bringing Baby Home03:26 Vanessa's Personal Mental Health Journey06:21 Struggles with Postpartum Anxiety and Seeking Help12:24 The Importance of Therapy and Support18:40 Reflecting on Trauma and the Journey Ahead21:42 Seeking Therapy for Infertility23:53 Deciding to Have Another Baby25:37 Navigating the Second IVF Journey27:04 The Emotional Rollercoaster of IVF33:58 Words of Wisdom for IVF Couples
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Are you or someone you know on the IVF (In Vitro Fertilization) journey? It can be lonely, but you're not alone.
Infertility is a challenge faced by many, and hearing personal stories can provide comfort, guidance, and a sense of community. In today's episode, we get into Vanessa Nasrallah’s IVF journey, exploring the physical, emotional, and financial aspects she and her husband encountered along the way.
Last year, the World Health Organization reported that worldwide, one in six people experience some form of infertility during their lifetime. Vanessa’s willingness to share her story aims to normalize the IVF process and offer hope to others just starting their own journeys. Vanessa and Peter live in Nova Scotia, Canada, with their son and are expecting their second child later this year.
We talk about the complexities and emotional challenges of IVF, highlighting the importance of sharing honest experiences. Vanessa describes the hormonal preparations leading up to IVF, including intense birth control regimens to stabilize hormone levels. The process was physically and emotionally overwhelming, requiring daily bloodwork and ultrasounds.
For those starting or in the midst of their IVF journey, Vanessa’s experience offers insights, reassurance, and a sense of community. Her journey exemplifies the complexities of IVF—from the physical intricacies to the emotional rollercoaster. Her courage in sharing her story provides valuable support to others navigating this challenging path. If you or someone you know is on a similar journey, remember that you're not alone.
Reach out, ask questions, and seek the support of others who have walked this path. Vanessa's story reminds us of the power of community and openness in overcoming infertility challenges.
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00:00 Intro03:53 Vanessa's Early Fertility Journey04:56 Initial Fertility Testing06:05 Navigating the Healthcare System11:01 Peter's Fertility Testing18:10 Consultation with Fertility Specialist21:16 Financial and Emotional Challenges27:21 Understanding the Hormonal Process28:42 Dealing with Partner Dynamics32:36 Egg Retrieval Experience35:26 Embryo Transfer and Pregnancy Confirmation42:56 Pregnancy Journey and Anxieties
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In today's episode, we dive deep into aware parenting with María of Mama Maria Coaching. María, a psychologist and certified aware parenting coach, brings a wealth of knowledge to parents looking to navigate the challenging yet rewarding journey of parenthood. From her multicultural blended family in Amsterdam, Maria offers insights and practical advice to parents worldwide.
After accepting her own role in her daughter's struggles, Maria embarked on a year-long program with an aware parenting coach, Chris Muller. She learned to feel and process her own emotions and teach her daughter to do the same. Maria shares how these experiences paved the way for her work as an aware parenting instructor.
Maria developed her own framework called SMART, which stands for:
- Self-development and Self-care
- Money
- Aware Parenting
- Relationships
- Time
Each pillar addresses critical aspects of both parenthood and personal growth. The SMART approach provides practical tools and guidance for creating a more serene and balanced family life.
Highlighting the first 1000 days of a child's life, Maria emphasizes how crucial these formative years are for brain development and emotional growth. Studies like the ACE Study show that early adverse experiences often lead to trauma, which impacts individuals throughout their lives. Maria's framework incorporates this understanding to help parents nurture healthier relationships with their children.
Maria's insights and the SMART framework offer a comprehensive approach to parenting that emphasizes self-awareness, practical tools, and emotional connection. By addressing our own needs and creating a nurturing environment, we can foster healthier relationships with our children and navigate the challenges of parenthood with greater ease.
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00:00 Intro03:27 Maria's Personal Journey to Aware Parenting04:25 The Turning Point: A Mother's Awakening08:42 The Path to Becoming Mama Maria13:37 The SMART Approach to Parenting14:23 Understanding the Importance of Early Childhood15:47 The Challenges and Realities of Parenting18:37 The SMART Framework Explained26:44 The Importance of Early Attachment and Security27:06 Self-Care and Parental Behavior28:53 Understanding Parental Blind Spots31:11 The Role of Compassion in Parenting36:39 The Power of Play in Child Development43:34 Advice for Expecting and New Parents47:22 Resources and Support for Parents49:14 Final Thoughts and GratitudeResources mentioned in this episode:
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Every new mom’s journey with their newborn is different, but in some ways, we encounter similar challenges, yet often feel alone. In this week’s episode, I’m joined by Gwyneth Fountain, a 22 year old first-time mom to a beautiful baby boy. She shares her experiences of the initial four weeks postpartum, and we cover everything from unmet expectations to coping mechanisms.
One of the central themes of the conversation is the disparity between expectations and reality. Gwyneth shares that her newborn son was a hefty 10 pounds, five ounces at birth, which brought its own set of challenges and surprises.
The conversation turns to the physical and mental challenges Gwyneth faced during the final weeks of her pregnancy. She candidly discusses the pelvic pain, back pain, and the mental toll of the prolonged waiting period. Gwyneth also addresses the relentless and often overwhelming external reminders from loved ones and acquaintances about her overdue pregnancy.
Gwyneth opens up about her initial struggles with breastfeeding, including a traumatic start that required the use of a nipple shield. She describes the conflicting advice she received from different healthcare professionals and the emotional toll it took on her. Cindy reinforces the importance of patience and persistence, offering practical advice for overcoming breastfeeding challenges.
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00:00 Intro02:08 Expectations vs. Reality of Postpartum04:32 Gwyneth's Birth Story06:10 Dealing with Overdue Pregnancy09:22 Coping Mechanisms and Support15:43 Navigating Negative Birth Stories23:27 Navigating Early Parenting Challenges24:04 Breastfeeding Struggles and Solutions26:40 The Emotional Rollercoaster of New Motherhood35:17 Practical Tips for Postpartum Self-Care36:57 Balancing Personal Needs with Baby's Care41:03 Embracing the Journey of Parenthood43:51 Final Thoughts and EncouragementConnect with Gwyneth
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Bringing a baby into a household that already has a dog can be both joyful and challenging. How do you ensure that your beloved pet adapts well to this significant change? In this episode, I’m joined by Dominika Knossalla-Pado, a certified dog trainer and founder of Dog Meets Baby, to discuss tips and insights for introducing a newborn to a household with a dog.
Dominika is a Certified Dog Trainer and the founder of Dog Meets Baby. She lives in beautiful San Francisco with her 8-year-old twins and a yellow Labrador Retriever named Lola.
Dominika graduated with honors from the prestigious Academy for Dog Trainers (called the Harvard of Dog Training).
Lola’s predatory reaction to her newborn twins was one of the main reasons why she started Dog Meets Baby. Dominika is passionate about helping parents of young children and dogs (like herself) who want real tips and solutions to keep everyone safe. She wants parents to have an action plan when they bring their baby home and know what to do when their baby becomes mobile.
Dominika shares various techniques and tools to prepare your dog for a new baby. One of the most crucial elements is to practice with a doll or a baby-like object. By simulating the presence of a newborn, dogs can get used to the new addition. Dominika also emphasizes the importance of familiarizing dogs with newborn sounds, such as crying and grunting, which are available for free on her website.
Dominika Knossalla-Pado’s insights provide valuable guidance for anyone preparing to introduce a new baby into a household with a dog. By planning ahead, using practical training techniques, and recognizing the signs of distress in your dog, you can create a harmonious environment for both your baby and your pet.
Bringing a baby home is a significant change for everyone in the household, including your dog. With the right preparation and guidance, it can be a smooth transition that ensures the safety and well-being of your entire family.
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00:00 Intro03:03 Dominika's Personal Story03:55 Challenges with Lola the Labrador06:13 Starting Dog Meets Baby14:48 Preparing Your Dog for a New Baby21:46 Introduction to Free and Paid Resources22:38 Training Techniques and Tools23:15 Handling Baby Sounds and Dog Reactions25:04 First Meeting and Planning25:55 Addressing Reactive Dog Behaviors28:11 Importance of Consistency and Professional Help32:22 Recognizing Red Flags and Seeking Guidance38:11 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsResources mentioned in this episode:
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Are you a parent struggling with your child's sleep patterns and wondering how sleep training could help? Rebecca Mendoza, a certified child sleep consultant, shares her wisdom on the journey to better sleep for your little ones in this week’s episode.
Timing is crucial when it comes to sleep training. Most sleep consultants recommend starting no earlier than four months, with many preferring to begin at five or six months. Babies should be developmentally ready to understand the connection between their actions and responses, which typically occurs around five months. Premature babies may require adjusted timing based on their development.
Parents need to consider their comfort levels and involvement. More involved methods, where parents stay in the room, can be gentler but tougher. Less involved methods, such as the Ferber method or sleep wave method, involve checking at intervals but not soothing the baby back to sleep immediately. Remember, consistency is key. By allowing your baby to practice self-soothing with decreasing parental intervention, they will eventually learn to fall back asleep on their own.
Having seen, first-hand, with her own children, the enormous benefits that come from making sleep a priority, the seed of Rebecca's career in sleep consulting was planted. As she transitioned out of a 25-year dance career, Rebecca dove into the formal study of sleep science, studying Sleep Physiology with Dr. Richard Horner at the University of Toronto. She continued her studies with The Family Sleep Institute and became a certified child sleep consultant. As a knowledgeable and compassionate consultant, Rebecca gives families the tools and confidence to succeed.
By following a consistent method, understanding your child's cues, and being patient, you can successfully navigate sleep training and help your child—and yourself—enjoy better, more restful nights.
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00:00 Intro04:20 Rebecca's Personal Journey with Sleep Training09:33 The Importance of Timing in Sleep Training14:12 Creating the Right Sleep Environment19:26 Methods and Approaches to Sleep Training24:48 Helping Babies Self-Soothe, Consistency in Sleep Training26:49 Parental Intuition and Decision Making27:57 Challenges and Emotional Struggles29:05 Expected Sleep Training Timeline34:09 Feeding During Sleep Training40:08 Final Tips and EncouragementConnect with Rebecca
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In today's busy world, maintaining fitness and nutrition during pregnancy and the postpartum period can be incredibly challenging. However, Tonya Holmes, a certified prenatal and postnatal fitness and nutrition coach, has dedicated herself to helping women navigate these crucial stages of motherhood. With her personal experience and professional expertise, Tonya is a beacon of knowledge and support for expecting and new moms.
Tonya Holmes has been coaching women online for over four years and recently expanded her services to include in-person coaching. Her journey into fitness began five months postpartum after delivering her son prematurely at 27 weeks due to preeclampsia. Her son spent a challenging 84 days in the NICU and returned home as COVID-19 surged. Driven by her experiences and a newfound passion for fitness, Tonya now aims to educate others on the importance of maintaining a healthy lifestyle before, during, and after pregnancy.
In addition to fitness, Tonya also provides invaluable guidance on nutrition during pregnancy. She highlights the importance of micronutrients (vitamins and minerals) and macronutrients (fats, carbs, and proteins) for fetal growth and development. Her nutrition plans address the increased calorie needs during different trimesters and debunk myths like "eating for two."
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00:00 Intro04:47 The Turning Point: Pregnancy and Preeclampsia Diagnosis07:57 NICU Challenges and Postpartum Recovery09:33 Embracing a Healthy Lifestyle Postpartum12:58 Tonya's Mission: Empowering Prenatal and Postnatal Fitness16:34 Diving Into Prenatal Nutrition and Exercise17:07 Debunking Pregnancy Nutrition Myths17:22 The Importance of Consulting Healthcare Professionals17:43 Guidance on Supplements During Pregnancy18:08 Starting Fitness Journeys Early in Pregnancy18:36 Postpartum Fitness: The First Steps19:15 Advancing Through Postpartum Fitness Phases19:43 Maintaining and Building Strength Postpartum20:42 Personalized Postpartum Fitness Plans21:16 The Long-Term Approach to Postpartum Fitness22:43 Nutrition Tips for Pregnant Women25:00 Postpartum Nutrition and Exercise Continuity26:09 The Role of Mobility and Flexibility in Fitness28:33 Closing Thoughts and Future Plans29:32 The Impact of Fitness on Overall Well-beingConnect with Tonya
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In this episode, I’m joined by Phillip, who’s Cayla’s husband, whom we’ve had the pleasure of talking to in the last three episodes to uncover her postpartum depression journey. Today, we’ll be hearing from Phillip’s perspective on those challenging times and gaining insights into how dads or partners can offer more support.
Philip explained the mix of excitement and nervousness that comes with expecting a first child. He juggled work in a competitive sales industry and the anticipation that seemed endless. He knew there was no rule book to follow and that every parent figures it out as they go along.
We get into those early days after bringing Claire home and Phillip shared the surreal experience of leaving the hospital with their newborn, expected to care for her with no manual or test to guide them. He likened it to paternal instincts kicking in – doing whatever it takes to ensure your child’s well-being.
He explains how Cayla was emotionally distraught, tending to a crying baby, and feeling overwhelmed. It was then that he realized postpartum depression wasn't just a concept but a real, palpable issue affecting their family.
Philip reflects on whether a change in awareness and actions could have altered their experience, and how men are typically hardwired differently. He emphasizes the importance of trusting one’s gut feelings.
Philip’s story highlights that while the journey through postpartum depression is challenging, it can be navigated with communication, support, and understanding. Our conversation serves as a reminder that no one is alone and that finding and offering help is a vital part of the journey.
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00:00 Intro03:30 Expectations vs. Reality05:25 The Newborn Haze: First Weeks at Home11:19 The Moment of Realization: Postpartum Depression Hits Home15:14 Seeking Help and Finding Support16:34 The Impact of Postpartum Depression on Family Dynamics17:45 Reflections on Fatherhood and Postpartum Challenges18:22 Understanding Hormonal Shifts and Emotional Toll20:25 The Importance of Community and Sharing Stories20:44 Navigating Early Parenthood Challenges21:17 Reflecting on Past Decisions and 'What Ifs'23:51 Understanding Postpartum Depression Signs25:31 The Importance of Trusting Your Instincts26:10 Words of Wisdom for New Dads27:23 The Critical Bonding Period28:11 Finding Balance and Avoiding Escapes30:44 Embracing the Journey of Parenthood36:05 Seeking and Offering Support
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Motherhood is often depicted as a joyous and seamless transition, but the reality for many can be starkly different. This third part of Cayla’s story offers an intimate look into the struggles and triumphs of navigating motherhood while dealing with overcoming postpartum depression (PPD). Together, we aim to shed light on her experiences from the dark days of the birth of her first child, to the hopeful journey through her second, emphasizing the importance of support, therapy, and self-care in overcoming the challenges faced.
During our conversation, Cayla emphasized how weekly therapy sessions became her lifeline. The process wasn't just about finding someone to speak with; it was about finding the right therapist who could offer validation, understanding, and strategies to cope with her anxiety and negative thinking. This part of Cayla's journey illustrates the crucial role of mental health support in healing and recovery.
The decision to have a second child after experiencing PPD can be filled with fear and uncertainty. Cayla demonstrates the transformative power of hope and the importance of proactive planning. By seeking postpartum support in advance and focusing on the potential for a different, more positive experience, Cayla and her husband embraced the possibility of expanding their family.
Cayla’s story is a testament to the strength and resilience many mothers tap into as they navigate the complexities of motherhood with PPD. It underscores the critical need for open discussions about maternal mental health, the importance of seeking and accepting help, and the possibility of healing and finding joy in motherhood after PPD.
For mothers experiencing similar challenges, Cayla's journey underscores the importance of reaching out for help and the value of creating a postpartum plan that addresses potential mental health concerns. Know that you're not alone and that with the right support and resources, healing and hope are within reach.
Cayla's journey provides crucial insights into the realities of postpartum depression and the importance of proactive planning, seeking support, and embracing self-care. Her story is a beacon of hope for others facing similar battles, highlighting that with determination, support, and understanding, it's possible to navigate the darkest of times and emerge stronger on the other side.
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00:00 Intro02:46 Therapy and Self-Care: Building a Stronger Foundation03:32 Navigating Anxiety and Negative Thoughts: Strategies for Mental Health06:15 Preparing for Baby Number Two: Embracing Change with Support07:36 Proactive Postpartum Support: Planning for a Better Experience14:21 Facing Birth Anxieties and Hospital Restrictions During COVID21:22 A Different Birth Experience: Challenges and Triumphs25:53 A Gentle Introduction to Postpartum Experience26:04 The First Moments with Baby Emily26:43 Navigating Postpartum Care and Early Motherhood27:01 Returning Home: A New Environment for Recovery27:43 Introducing Siblings28:30 Reflections on Motherhood and Mental Health30:06 The Power of Support: Postpartum Doulas and Self-Care37:00 Breastfeeding Journey and Work-Life Balance44:04 Looking Back: Growth, Healing, and Future Plans
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In this episode, we get into the second part of Cayla’s journey through postpartum depression. This episode uncovers the raw and often hidden struggles that many new mothers face after childbirth.
The first signs of trouble appeared early on when Cayla faced judgment for her baby's weight loss and her decision to breastfeed. Despite the pediatrician’s suggestion to switch to formula feeding, Cayla was determined to breastfeed, clinging to the societal notion and pressure that it was the best for her baby. Unfortunately, the continued efforts and the isolation she felt as a new mother only added to her growing feelings of inadequacy and exhaustion.
As her postpartum depression deepened, Cayla sought the support of a postpartum doula. Though partially helpful, it did not alleviate the overwhelming sense of failure she felt. Her husband, Philip, struggling to understand and support her through this time, inadvertently added to her isolation and despair.
Recognizing the severity of her condition, Cayla reached out to her OB for help, leading to a recommendation for hospitalization at UNC Chapel Hill's perinatal psychiatric unit. Despite her initial resistance due to fear of losing her baby, Cayla’s desperation for relief compelled her to seek the necessary treatment.
Cayla’s two-and-a-half-week hospital stay became a turning point in her journey. It provided her with the support and validation she so desperately needed. The medical team worked closely with her, adjusting medication, and providing therapy to start her on the path to recovery. Her stay in the hospital, though difficult, marked the beginning of her healing process, offering her hope and tools to manage her depression.
Cayla’s story is a powerful testament to the resilience of the human spirit. It serves as a reminder of the critical importance of seeking help and the strength found in honest conversations about mental health. Her advice to other mothers facing the "sticky anxiety" of postpartum depression is clear: recognize the signs and don’t ignore them, ask for help, and know you're not alone.
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00:00 Intro01:30 First check-up, moving to formula and bottle feeding02:58 Getting a postpartum doulas05:23 How her husband was handling things, not seeing her struggles for how depressive it was07:28 Her postpartum depression and how she expressed it to others12:31 Not getting the help she needs14:02 Trying to get help once again from her OB at 5 weeks, her tipping point18:38 Going to the hospital20:55 How long she was in the hospital, and her experience25:44 Finally going home31:47 Advice for moms who are late in their pregnancy and start feeling anxiety
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Welcoming a new life into the world is an incredible occasion that brings joy, excitement, and sometimes, unexpected challenges. In this week’s episode of The Whole Bundle, we share part 1 of Cayla Guins heartfelt story about her journey through postpartum depression following the birth of her first daughter. This conversation touches on the often unspoken struggles of new mothers, emphasizing the importance of conversation, support, and understanding in navigating postpartum depression and anxiety.
Cayla's journey began in North Carolina, where she lives with her husband, Phillip. Having been married for over 4 years and together for 12, they were ecstatic about starting a family. However, what was supposed to be a joyous phase of her life took an unexpected turn after her daughter's birth. The transition into motherhood brought Cayla face-to-face with postpartum depression, a struggle she chose to share to bring light to this crucial issue affecting many new mothers.
Despite a relatively straightforward pregnancy, Cayla, who had experienced mild anxiety and depression in the past, found herself caught in a whirlwind of emotions postpartum. The joy of birth was quickly overshadowed by anxiety, doubts, and the overwhelming responsibilities of motherhood. These feelings were exacerbated by difficulties in nursing and bonding with her daughter, amplified by the lack of sleep and adjustment to her new role.
Cayla's openness about her struggles brings to light the critical need for discussions about postpartum depression and anxiety. From her candid recount of the emotional toll taken by sleepless nights trying to nurse, to the feelings of inadequacy and frustration when things didn't go as planned, Cayla's story is a beacon for others facing similar battles.
Through her vulnerability, Cayla teaches us the power of standing in one's truth and reaching out for help when needed. Her journey is a testament to her strength and resilience, qualities that shine brightly even in the darkest times. It's a reminder to all new mothers that it's okay not to be okay and that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Through seeking support, speaking out, and prioritizing her mental health, Cayla began to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Her experience serves as a message of hope and resilience for anyone in the throes of postpartum depression, reminding them that they are not alone, and that with time and support it does get better.
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00:00 Intro03:46 Cayla's story about her pregnancy and what happened next05:41 How her existing anxiety developed as she went through her pregnancy10:43 Going off all medication and her first spike of anxiety during the first trimester12:58 How her second trimester went13:40 When her anxiety started to build14:58 Fixating on bad outcomes vs. feeling them and letting it go17:52 Did she talk to your OB about your anxiety18:47 Getting a doula20:11 The birth of her daughter25:51 Postpartum floor and challenges with lactation29:25 Starting to feel like you're getting everything wrong, insecurities stacking up33:59 Getting discharged and going home
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