Episodes
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Alexa Van danced in Portland stripclubs and wrote a novel one decade later - not as a memoir but as a way of processing alcoholism and unhealthy relationships. Why is it that the very thing that attracts so many people to ‘us’ is the thing they end up hating and wanting to change? Let’s talk stripclubs, dating, and art.
2:00 - never worked at Sassy’s
4:00 - why is it that these men want to change me?
9:00 - she is a raging alcoholic
12:00 - double standard of working
15:00 - a lap dance is not disrespectful
20:00 - what makes a good shift?
23:00 - negative impact of stigma
28:00 - use cheap makeup
33:00 - stripper warehouses of Vegas
36:00 - nice partners do exist
41:00 - on being a “minor” 18-20years old
47:00 - social media suppression
51:00 - ‘Seggs” is absurd
55:00 - owner favoritism
59:00 - sex tip!
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Are you a current or former Christian still learning how to have guilt-free sex? Mattie Jo Cowsert is a recovering Evangelical who moved to New York City to find her husband - and then learned the world is bigger and more diverse than she had been raised to believe. Meet a shameless oversharer who wrote about her experiences with God, Sex, and Rich people.
3:00 evangelical and moved to NYC
7:00 sex and shame
10:00 rich people were unexpected
13:00 white, blue eyed woman privilege
18:00 where my Evangelicals at?
20:00 abuse dismissed as sin
25:00 jesus defended cheaters from death
29:00 further reading for hip Christians
34:00 what are “misogynist daywalkers”
37:00 how to give yourself permission to have good sex
41:00 disordered eating mention
44:00 on spirituality now
49:00 DOGMA was a weird movie
52:00 a confession from Mattie Jo
55:00 red flags
57:00 “sex ghosts” is a weird orgy
1:01:00 progress and pushing forward
1:06:00 have sex with people who respect you
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What does penis health have to do with heart health? A lot! Erica Leroye was a teacher and a lover when a tragic death led her to a new calling: teaching people about penile health, and doing touch work around pleasure and healing. You’re invited to November’s ‘Soft Cock Week’, and listen here now to learn about the penis in its most common state: soft.
3:00 - this episode can save lives8:00 - sex is outercourse and intercourse
12:00 - retrograde ejaculation and ED - common symptoms of undiagnosed diabetes
16:00 - go to the Genital Gym
19:00 - “you have to train for what you want to be good at”
22:00 - how do I help men tap into the erotic self?
25:00 - pleasure mapping
29:00 - her fave way to play with a softie
33:00 - what is Soft Cock week?
37:00 - what else can you learn?
42:00 - what to eat?
46:00 - create a scavenger hunt for a treat
49:00 - trouble with orgasm
52:00 - “is gooning bad?”
54:00 - disconnect between brain and penis
59:00 - fear of penis in medical systems
1:03:00 - am i normal?
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Lenora Claire was a business owner and public figure in Los Angeles before her stalker incidents led her to becoming a private investigator and media consultant. Learn how survivors and perpetrators of stalking can be handled smarter, by a person who teaches better practices for true-crime coverage.
2:00 - reality shows and progressive parents
5:00 - crime show producers don’t know how to treat survivors
7:00 - Batman and Superman to the rescue!
10:00 - why blocking isn’t always best
14:00 - risk assessment
18:00 - “what did you do to upset them?”
23:00 - her current work
25:00 - Private investigator things
28:00 - women producers and empathy
31:00 - British production companies doing it better
34:00 - treated like dogshit by cops when reporting
38:00 - how to help people open up?
41:00 - disclosure tips
45:00 - being judged on appearance
51:00 - what to NOT do to survivors in interview
56:00 - what is the guiding purpose of the media?
58:00 - a sex tip? Maybe :)
Your guest can be found at lenoraclairellc.com
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Jack Parker has been doing sex work since just before he was an adult, and he’s now a writer and publisher of an anthology of stories from other trans-masculine sex workers. Let’s talk about how queerphobia makes unique spaces and options for some working guys in the arts and adult industries.
3:00 sex work before 18, before public
7:00 making $4 an hour? WHAT
10:00 not enough options for advertising or undies
14:00 how to transition without them knowing?
17:00 any port in a storm
23:00 my favorite part is strange bookings
26:00 nightmare coworkers can make it hard
28:00 enjoyable client sex
32:00 age gaps with clients
36:00 clients objectifying us, their own insecurities
41:00 where to find the book!
45:00 how to find trans masc providers
50:00 targeting for homosexuality
54:00 criticisms of jack’s work
57:00 resources for more reading
Find your guest on JackViolet.com and @mxjackparker on all socials.
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If you’ve ever watched mainstream tv or movies with sex scenes in them, you can appreciate the people who make them look more realistic, while helping the performers be safest. Let’s talk with our guest Jamie Monahan, who works as an Intimacy Coordinator and Director.
3:00 #MeToo history
6:00 actors are taught to Say Yes
8:00 sexual alignment on film
11:00 there is a lack of lube in film
14:00 history behind intimacy coordinator
17:00 scenes that stuck in your mind
21:00 other memorable scenes
25:00 kissing on film
28:00 elle’s preference on oral sex visuals/contact
31:00 prosthetics are not common
35:00 more rules and regulations
40:00 the sounds of sex on film
45:00 don’t copy movies and that includes Titanic
49:00 have you ever mimicked a film?
54:00 SAG requirement to become IC
Your guest is at www.Jamiemonahan.comIG/Facebook/X: @Jmemonahan
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Elizabeth Foreman works sober in New Orleans strip clubs these days. Here she shares her experience with sex work and sobriety which has given her insight, tactics and coping mechanisms while she continues to share her healing journey with others.
4:00 disclaimer - experiential and not academic
6:00 dancing instead of full-service
9:00 confusing laws around sw and trafficking
13:00 NOLA vs PDX stripper economics
17:00 how she got started in sobriety self-help
20:00 alcoholism in the family and the club
24:00 tips to not get drunk at the strip/club
27:00 check-ins reminders
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32:00 why do you use while working?
37:00 mental strain of sobriety
40:00 why we numb out or use it to enhance performance
48:00 practicing setting boundaries
54:00 don’t stop drinking abruptly
57:00 what happens when you stop drinking?
1:01:00 do you have the wrong prescription?
1:05:00 resource share
1:08:00 the downsides of AA
1:12:00 ADHD and sex tips, slow down
Tip Elizabeth for her sobriety help to CASHAPP $liz4mannola
For more self-help books mentioned in the episode: See this list by Raina LeGrand
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Erica Smith is a sex educator specializing in purity culture trauma and recovery. Let’s talk about dealing with shame and some tips for better sexual health and lives.
4:00 a controversial event in 2000
7:00 working in abortion clinic, juvenile justice system
10:00 youth in sex work or experiencing trafficking
14:00 how purity culture relates to juvenile justice
17:00 the Army of God loves fake anthrax
20:00 sexually active teens
23:00 she who is without shame!
27:00 how to tell my partner I’m queer?
30:00 use your hands more
33:00 chronic health disclosures to partner?
37:00 herpes shaming, we hate it
40:00 purity culture grossness
43:00 social media and sex education
47:00 who is her clientele?
50:00 tradwife trend will have impacts later - @missgingerlocks on IG
53:00 confessions
57:00 sex advice
Find your guest at purityculturedropout.com
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Have you ever been made to feel like an object instead of a person? Do you objectify others? What does objectification mean, how can we take our power back, make the best of it, or get off on it?
Let’s talk with Suzannah Weiss, author of “Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject”
2:00 See her live August 18th at Sanctuary club in Portland6:00 growing breasts made people treat her differently
9:00 sexuality healed her disordered eating!
13:00 people being degrading at cam models
16:00 this economy making me do more
18:00 if a SW takes advantage!
21:00 examples of objectification from others
24:00 “I don’t do bareback with someone I just met”
28:00 former sex worker(?)
30:00 examples of objectification in language
33:00 Nina Menkes + film POV
36:00 we need to see what women desire, more often
39:00 it is a turn-on for me, being objectified
42:00 anxiety about fantasies in relationship
46:00 Stoya started hitachi reading!
50:00 less respect happens for escorts
55:00 work stress - stigma
59:00 examples, more
1:02:00 sex tips from suzannah and elle
Find your guest at SuzannahWeiss.com
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How can intentional psilocybin use help people heal from big life events, or create a better understanding of theirselves? Let’s talk with “trauma queen” expert and educator Jimanekia Eborn.
4:00 policing to psychology
7:00 numbing vs pushing through
15:00 what has changed for you?
17:00 tripping tips
20:00 how did shrooms impact you?
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27:00 more advice for tripping
30:00 sensory play ideas
34:00 small vs big trauma
37:00 germ transfer overload
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44:00 that medication might not work for you!
48:00 dating a survivor class
52:00 you're going inside, not outside
55:00 sex advice
Check out Cintima.co and find our guest on TraumaQueen.love
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What’s it like to go to a clinic to receive an abortion? Our guest has been escorting patients for years and talks about the science of medical abortion, care tips and how to advocate for yourself when you need one. Meet the Executive Director of Nebraska Healthcare Resource, Shelley Mann.
3:00 patient to clinic escort to executive director
6:00 why people need abortions
8:00 known as the abortion lady
12:00 pointless to argue with these people
15:00 why are you so obsessed with me?
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20:00 how to tell my boyfriend I need an abortion?
23:00 find out as early as you can
25:00 TRAP laws and “cardiac activity”
28:00 more on clinics getting shut down
31:00 “late term abortion” is not a medical term
34:00 99% of abortions prior to 21 weeks
37:00 what can you do to prepare for an abortion?
40:00 how to care for yourself after?
43:00 what about a bad experience?
49:00 pregnancy and birth is 13.5x more deadly than legal abortion
53:00 www.plancpills.com, www.ineedana.com, www.abortionfunds.org
55:00 sex tip
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Naomi left the strict Amish at seventeen, and worked for twenty years in adult entertainment, and wrote an erotic memoir about that time. We talk about dating, parenting, boundaries and sex clubs.
1:00 raised as strict Amish, left at 17
4:00 literally pushed to audition by friends
10:00 financial advice from a coworker
14:00 the regret was having to hide it
18:00 online use
21:00 being OUT to family?
24:00 dark days and substance abuse
28:00 coercive partner sex
31:00 leaving the situation
33:00 parenting a kid now
37:00 I know that sex club!
40:00 everybody is different!
45:00 how to prevent sexual assault in small communities?
48:00 communication
53:00 try new things!
Find our guest @AmishInspiration on IG, TikTok
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Miss Mei is a political organizer in Miami Florida and talks sex work, explains what can help prevent trafficking and police abuse, and gives tips on how to look for bad-actor organizations.
3:00 - a friend got her work doing threesomes to begin SW6:00 - they prefer in-person work
9:00 Slutwalk helped lead to #MeToo
12:00 reclaiming the word Whore
15:00 Amber Rose did not invent Slutwalk
19:00 women’s spaces and nonbinary ppl
22:00 no arrests YET
26:00 when the client follows your Other Work
30:00 THEYTALK20 for 20% off MayerLabs.com condoms and lube
32:00 child labor laws in Florida
37:00 a long road ahead about record expungement
40:00 I grew up as a young whore
47:00 @ Jonni_qwest is a pal
50:00 In-fighting
54:00 “Sex Workers and the Left: Pass The Mic” Tryst.Link article
58:00 AOC endorsed anti-SW and homophobic organization NCOSE
1:01:00 “we cannot defeat what we cannot define”
1:04:00 should strippers be able to work at 18?
1:07:00 fibromyalgia and cops
Find our guest at @MultiverseOfMei on Twitter/X/IGFind Decrim305.org
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Mike Stabile is a journalist and documentary filmmaker and ol’ gay activist who has written about and advocated for sex workers and sexual speech for twenty years.
2:00 - I was an anonymous hand once
6:00 - why Twitter is relevant to free speech and liberties
8:00 - Polari - slang speak of gay sailors and sw’s
10:00 gay porn film history and Chuck Holmes
15:00 - what is KOSA and why should we hate it?
18:00 do u want the government to see your searches?
21:00 age verification doesn’t work
25:00 THEYTALK20 for 20% off MayerLabs.com
29:00 do journalists fear cops?
32:00 more fear about retribution?
35:00 why journalists are fooled by cop press releases
40:00 Tim Ballard and Operation Railroad is a scam
42:00 “ending modern slavery” is a red flag
46:00 protecting safety and privacy
49:00 if a journalist contacts you as a SW
53:00 GetTheLayer.com - ELLE code for 10% off
54:00 haters?
58:00 conspiracy theories AGAIN
1:02:00 be your own expert on your life
1:04:00 Lorelei Lee tweet (they/them)
Find our guest on: IG @fauxjob and Twitter/X @mikestabile and https://www.freespeechcoalition.com/staff
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Born in India, neurodivergent, non monogamous, a New York sex therapist who loves sex-positive spaces, let’s talk healing with Nikita Fernandes MHC-LP and learn some healing tips for life and sex.
1:00 meet our guest
3:00 women’s gender studies classes were key to critical thinking
6:00 assimilation as a safety mechanism
9:00 tips for therapeutic movement
12:00 dance, hiking, kink, gym
15:00 medical issues
19:00 The People’s Book of Human Sexuality - Laureano
23:00 coping tips
26:00 more tension release tips
28:00 fantasies around sexual assault
40:00 needing to offload or share to others
43:00 what if I’m not responding to trauma?
50:00 DBT (dialectical behavior therapy)
55:00 partner jealousy and disclosure
58:00 working all the time makes healing harder
Find our guest on: healingwithnikita.com
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He’s telling his life story besides the two random events that led to him working in the xxx industry as a Bull in the cuckold scene. “Thrash: “Penetrating the Business” author talks about filming and life.
4:00 Brickhouse Magazine
6:00 the pros of accessible technology
9:00 @brickhousemag on Twitter
13:00 there’s levels to it
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20:00 what is the best part of being a bull?
24:00 filming vs real life
29:00 a one man show on stage
33:00 GetTheLayer.com code ELLE for 10%
37:00 reflecting on the cuck episode
40:00 does Thrash have preferences?
43:00 trends in porn?
47:00 becoming ambivalent to porn
54:00 sex tips
Find our guest on:
IG @thrashculture23
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Pomma is a xxx content creator who tirelessly informs followers on news, legislation, harm reduction practices, and hazards related to online sex work and adult industry work. Let's talk!
4:00 what kind of work?
7:00 money is tight for many
10:00 socialized to be performative as youth
13:00 banned from social media ooops
16:00 FOSTA SESTA
19:00 facial recognition and TSA
22:00 will this get me evicted?
27:00 when your beloved sugar daddy dies
30:00 the athletes of sex workers
35:00 thick models like London Andrews, Valentine Von Bettie
39:00 some advice for receiving shibari ties
42:00 please do not ask to meet us while on paysites
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50:00 UNICEF supported bad legislation FOSTA and SESTA
54:00 law enforcement raiding Backpage.com owners
57:00 Decrim305, Cupcake Girls, SWOPBehindBars.org
1:00:00 organizations we like
1:03:00 sex tips for our audience?
Find our guest on:
IG: @onlypomma @notonlypomma
Twitter: Succubusluut
Tiktok: Juicypomma2.0 and LeaveJuicyPommaAlone
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His nickname is The Dick Whisperer and he’s spent years perfecting his penis-injections services and science: Meet the founder of PhalloFill . Let’s talk about why some men want to augment theirselves and why you should always follow post-procedure advice!
3:00 - hair removal and penis augmentation
4:00 - the P shot began
7:00 porn, peer comparison, indirect teasing
11:00 how to talk to youth about media
14:00 confidence in the workplace
18:00 let’s talk about complication rates
21:00 increase in sensitivity
25:00 what is Hyaluronic acid?
28:00 explaining the filler and amount
31:00 Phalloboards.info - forum
34:00 he’s the penis master
38:00 more science on filler
41:00 what is fascia?
46:00 example patient who needed a fixjob
52:00 discussing costs
55:00 width vs girth
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She’s a model, full contact fighter and martial arts instructor, genderfluid princess and more: lets meet Sybilla Bakzaza.
3:00 martial arts, baseball, football, sailing, relay racing, US NAVY
5:00 a commentary on Marine culture or US Navy
8:00 (devil dock is a penis joke)
9:00 cross-dressing as an entry
12:00 American assimilation
18:00 what can suck about gym environments
22:00 she has a team of Hulks on her side
25:00 how to screen employers/venues?
29:00 advice on showing up as trans in cis spaces?
32:00 you gotta project confidence
34:00 red flags for clients
39:00 on bullying in the workplace
43:00 what is your support network?
49:00 perception is more powerful than truth sometimes
53:00 some people are only as good/bad as their commanders
55:00 sex tips!
59:00 some inspo and support from our guest
Meet our guest on TikTok, OF, and Twitter and
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Let’s explore the history behind masturbation misinformation, pseudoscience and shaming, with clinical psychologist and author Dr Eric Sprankle.
3:00 how he got here
7:00 a vast conspiracy to teach education (elle has worked with PH tho)
10:00 history repeating on anti-porn
13:00 misinformation is the same
16:00 exploring negative online comments
20:00 be a man - destroy your lungs
23:00 how do people feel about the word?
27:00 does ejaculation impact hormone levels?
32:00 what do “sex rehab programs” look like?
36:00 how can masturbation be harmful?
38:00 chemical castration
40:00 high libido does not equal offensive behavior
45:00 sperm vs semen vs female ejaculate
48:00 more about ejaculate fluid
51:00 events causing shame
56:00 online communities and hate groups
1:01:00 white genocide conspiracy
1:06:00 a cute childhood anecdote
1:09:00 Dr Drew - how could you?!?
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