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In this episode, Dr. Talia and Doug agree partially but not totally on whether we are more honest when we are drunk. Are we feeling our deepest darkest repressed resentment but unfiltered enough to finally say something? Well, that never turns out well. Are we no longer able to hide our longing and lust for a coworker at a Holiday Party? The question is whether our frontal lobe turning to mush for the evening helps us unleash our truth, or if what we are unleashing is an immature and distorted exaggeration of the truth and that is why we feel regret in the morning.
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In this Mailbag Episode, Doug and Dr Talia take on the many angles, caveats and exceptions to whether liking and commenting on your ex’s posts online is actually OK when you’re in a committed relationship. We’d love to hear your take!
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In this mailbag episode, Dr. Talia and Doug are faced with one woman’s disgust with her boyfriend’s all too close and dependent relationship with his doting mother. On the one hand, how wonderful that he can connect so deeply, that could only be a great sign for your relationship… Right? On the other hand, if he is not capable of fully taking care of himself, are you even dating an adult? Will he be able to take care of you? Or will you be taking his mother’s place?
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In this episode, Doug & Dr Talia chose their top 5 favorite questions to ask a potential partner! Some of the answers will tell you if you would be a good fit for a strong and healthy dating relationship, and other questions might help you determine if your personalities, lifestyles and dreams of your future won’t be compatible long-term.
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Happy Thanksgiving WNF Family! We got great feedback about this Turkey Day episode from last year, so we are airing it again. In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug respond to some very relatable Thanksgiving mail bags. Then we tackle the most common stressors of the season with humor and one or two harsh slaps of seasonal realism. We also offer some suggestions about creating your new holiday traditions. Whether the holidays are a time of great heart warming joy and anticipation for you, or dread, loneliness and obligation, we embrace you and want to share it with you. Gobble Gobble!
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In the second half of this amazing LIVE recorded episode, Doug and Dr Talia dive into how Rhianna’s history of chronic pain might still be affecting her, and she shares with us the professional knowledge she has gained from both her pain journey and her education. She teaches us about Somatic yoga therapy, and takes us through a powerful exercise in awareness. She gives us tips, tricks & strategies to live a more pain-free life.
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In the first half of this amazing LIVE recorded episode, Doug and Dr Talia dive into Rhianna’s personal story of battling excruciating and debilitating back pain at the age of 25. She shares with us how her unexplainable chronic pain affected her mental health and her romantic, family and friend relationships, as well as how she advocated for herself in the health care system. In the second half, dropping next week, we ask Rhianna how the trauma and grief associated with her chronic pain might still be affecting her, and she shares with us the professional knowledge she has gained from both her pain journey and her education. She teaches us about Somatic yoga therapy, and gives us tips, tricks & strategies live a more pain-free life.
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In this mailbag, Doug and Dr Talia respond to our listener “Giuseppe”, who is in love with his girlfriend and wants desperately to be supportive of her, but can’t help but notice that she has conflict with so many people in her life. She insists she is not the problem. People either can’t stand her, or have cut her off and she will tell me that she has spent years putting up with their behavior and has finally created boundaries for herself and will no longer accept their disrespect. Who do I believe? How do I support her if I don’t like the drama that follows her everywhere? Help!
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For the third Halloween in a row, our favorite Mystic, Medium, Psychic and Healer Kaya Jelani returns to answer all of our questions! How can we tell the difference between intuition and our own anxiety? How do we know if something isn’t a hell yes and then what do we do about it? How do we know when it’s time to leave a relationship? How do we tune into alignment and misalignment? Can you read someone’s aura? How do you tell your partner they need to evolve or evacuate?
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In this mail bag episode, Dr. Talia and Doug respond to a self-conscious 31 year old man who says that his fiancé is way out of his league, like traffic accident causing and heart stoppingly beautiful. He says he’s just an average guy, and was mostly feeling comfortable until the barrage of questions and criticism from her friends and family started and never stopped. They can not understand why she would be with him when she could do so much better. Needless to say, this poor couple is suffering from a bad case of self doubt that is like a crack in the pavement, as it will keep growing under any further stress. Are they doomed?
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Nothing makes our intentions to grow and change, to start a good habit, stop a bad one, feel more poignant and urgent than sitting at the bedside of the dying. We think we have problems? We probably don't even notice the petty things we complain about, the ways we feel sorry for ourselves, or the things we take for granted. In this live recorded episode, Dr Talia and Doug have the honor of speaking with Kelly Grosklags, LICSW, Grief Therapist, Podcaster (See My Grief) and author of "A Comforted Heart" and "When Love Meets Grief" about her 30 years of experience sitting with the dying and their families. We ask her what she has found are the most common themes of what we should not spend another second worrying about, we dive into peoples' near-death experiences and related epiphanies, why some find comfort in religion and spirituality, how to be a compassionate witness and support person for the dying and their family, and differentiate between grief and depression. It was an incredible episode if we may say so ourselves!
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In this final sixth of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia discuss how to apologize so well, you will not need to continue apologizing. In order to resolve conflicts in relationships, we encourage you to use 'I feel' statements and take responsibility for your behavior and its impact on others. Easier said than done. Sincere apologies are those that acknowledge the other person's experience and commit to making changes. To be heard is to be healed, and apologies without behavior change are just manipulation. BAM.
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In this fifth of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia discuss how to disappointment-proof yourself and accept the truth that your needs are not as obvious as you think they are. And your partner is not psychic, as much as you wish they were. And even though you might be better than your average bear at anticipating and fulfilling the needs of others, there are a host of reasons why your partner might not be beating you to the punch in meeting your needs. When you say “ I shouldn’t have to tell them” or “they should already know “, you are in fact setting yourself up for a world of resentment, frustration and disappointment. Doug and Dr. Talia are encouraging you to own your needs and lovingly make them clear, even if you have to repeat them. We are rooting for you!
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In this fourth of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples’ therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we talk about “giving the benefit of the doubt” even if it’s hard. Yes Yes, the best predictor of future behavior might be past behavior, but giving the benefit of the doubt allows your relationship and your partner to grow. Don’t pigeon hole them and jump to dark conclusions, you will perpetuate a reactive relationship dynamic in which neither of you see each other accurately and with love. We hope you enjoy this mini-sode!
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In this third of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples’ therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we talk about where each of us lies on the continuum of authenticity vs harmony in our love relationships. We tend to give our partner what we most desire. Those valuing “authenticity” (sometimes at the cost of harmony) feel most connected to their partner through honesty, sharing their thoughts, feelings, observations, and are more free to share constructive feedback and state their needs with their partners, hoping for a reciprocation in effort. On the other hand, those valuing “harmony” (also often at the cost of authenticity) value a general feeling of calm, ease, positivity, joy, and hope for a reciprocal “going with the flow for the greater good” in their interactions with their partner. Both ways of being in the world are often in reaction to family of origin patterns that we are either seeking to recreate, healthy or not, because the interactions feel like home to us, or to regulate our fried nervous systems, or hopefully to create a connection that feels healthier and stronger than the one we grew up in. Which is superior? A balance is what we seek, but what we do know is that you can have authenticity without harmony (not an enjoyable relationship perhaps), but you cannot have true harmony without authenticity. Enjoy!
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In this second of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples’ therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we urge you to stay in the discomfort of having a loving but tough conversation with your partner. “Don’t Drop the Rope” speaks to the idea that when our nervous system is short-circuiting in a trauma response; fight, flight or freeze, let’s try to stick with it if we can, or at least acknowledge their bid for partnership along with our need to calm down, and reassure our partner we will circle back to resolve it as soon as we are regulated.
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In this first of a six part mini-sode series “How to Love Better”, Doug and Dr Talia offer their favorite and most used couples’ therapy nuggets of wisdom. This week we focus on “If you don’t do your your work, everyone around you will have to”. The idea is that the benefit of doing your work, owning your past, your trauma, your triggers, your unmet needs, is so great. You will be changing dysfunctional and toxic relationship patterns, you will be empowered to communicate your thoughts, feelings, needs and boundaries, you will stop feeling victimized by others’ bad behavior and you will find more fulfillment and joy in your relationship life. On the flip-side, we argue the cost of not doing your work is too damaging. You will be perpetuating unhealthy patterns and continue to think others are the problem. You might even blame them for disregulating you rather than feel responsible for your own reaction, communication, and triggers. To “own” your triggers is to be freed from the unconscious toxic relationship patterns that are no longer serving you. We encourage you to level up in your precious relationship skills.
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Dr Talia & Doug welcome you to Part 2 of our two-part series recorded LIVE at the Rogue Buddha! Have you ever wondered why any woman in your life has had unexplainable mood swings, insomnia, irritability, rage, physical discomfort, irrational reactivity, anxiety, and/or depression? Well friends, buckle your seatbelts & grab a glass. If you, dear listener, are not a woman, you are about to understand the unbelievably powerful effects hormonal imbalances have on women, and if you are a woman, you’re welcome. You are about to feel validated and learn so much about what is happening to you.
Our amazing couple, Gabriela & Chris Ball share with us their painful journey through IVF, Post-Partum Depression/ Psychosis and Menopause. And as Gaby said, we need male allies! Chris’s perspective is invaluable as a husband struggling with his own adjustments to parenthood, grieving his father and mentor, a new job that had him traveling more often than not and their communication withered away to “How’s it going?” “Fine”. We can all relate to this too well.
In this week's episode, our couple shares how they reconnected after years of sadness, loneliness and solo journeys through their own busy lives and bumpy mental health. Gaby finally shared with Chris what she had been struggling with for four years. And stay tuned for our BONUS guest the last 25 minutes. Meet Functional Integrative Hormone Specialist Jenikka Tomashek, NP.
You will come out of this episode feeling warm & hopeful, with a suitcase full of strategies for improved partnership around the hormonal struggles, as well as increased insight into the medical angle of what’s happening, lifestyles suggestions and potential treatment options.
SEND THIS EPISODE TO YOUR HUSBANDS, WIVES, PARTNERS, SISTERS, FRIENDS, MOMS, FRIENDS’ MOMS & MOM’S FRIENDS... anyone you think would benefit from this conversation! Like, subscribe and follow for more!
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Dr Talia & Doug welcome you to Part 1 of our two-part series recorded LIVE at the Rogue Buddha! Have you ever wondered why any woman in your life has had unexplainable mood swings, insomnia, irritability, rage, physical discomfort, irrational reactivity, anxiety, and/or depression? Well friends, buckle your seatbelts & grab a glass. If you, dear listener, are not a woman, you are about to understand the unbelievably powerful effects hormonal imbalances have on women, and if you are a woman, you’re welcome. You are about to feel validated and learn so much about what is happening to you.Our amazing couple, Gabriela & Chris Ball share with us their painful journey through IVF, Post-Partum Depression/ Psychosis and Menopause. And as Gaby said, we need male allies! Chris’s perspective is invaluable as a husband struggling with his own adjustments to parenthood, grieving his father and mentor, a new job that had him traveling more often than not and their communication withered away to “How’s it going?” “Fine”. We can all relate to this too well.Part two next week includes our couple sharing how they reconnected as Gaby shared with Chris what she had been struggling with for four years, as well as a segment with our bonus guest, Functional Integrative Hormone Specialist Jennika Tomashek, NP. You will come out of this episode feeling warm & hopeful, with a suitcase full of strategies for improved partnership around the hormonal struggles, as well as increased insight into the medical angle of what’s happening, lifestyles suggestions and potential treatment options.SEND THIS EPISODE TO YOUR HUSBANDS, WIVES, PARTNERS, SISTERS, FRIENDS, MOMS, FRIENDS’ MOMS & MOM’S FRIENDS... anyone you think would benefit from this conversation! Like, subscribe and follow for more!
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Divorce is not the end, and it definitely does not need to be a black ominous mark in your life story. In this episode, Doug and Dr Talia dive into Love After Divorce! Many of us get married young in our 20s with hearts full of hope and sporting a fresh pair of rose colored glasses. We live footloose and fancy free, no responsibilities, no real problems, and then a myriad of changes happen during those next two decades that can challenge and change us to our core. Sometimes the external strains of real married life; unsupportive in-laws, purchasing a house, financial trouble, having children and all of the complications co-parenting can bring, or even something innocuous like finding a new community, hobby, or religion and growing passionately in that direction, but not with your partner. Maybe one of the partner’s develops mental illness or chemical dependency, maybe they have an affair, maybe you do. We are all human; not everyone has done their work, is an amazing communicator, or is willing to be self reflective and own their behaviors that are straining the relationship.
In which case, let’s talk about Love After Divorce. Tune in for some truly beautiful stories!
00:00 Introduction: Falling in Love After Divorce
14:59 The Importance of Self-Discovery in Relationships
17:23 Chemistry and Attraction: Essential Elements in a Relationship
21:57 Communication and Growth: Keys to Long-Term Relationships
25:41 Soulmates and Compatible Partners: Are There Multiple?
26:38 The Impact of Life Stages on Relationships
29:47 Reconnecting with High School Friends
35:15 The Importance of Emotional and Physical Intimacy
45:37 Finding Multiple Loves in One's Life
50:10 Recovering from Abusive Relationships
51:55 The Journey of Self-Growth and Self-Awareness
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