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Your child needs your regulated nervous system. Whether you're raising little ones, guiding teens, or showing up as a leader in any area of life, this episode is all about learning how to embody your own healing so you can support others with calm, confidence, and care. With her signature mix of compassion and clarity, Sarah breaks down how our past often informs our parenting style, and how we can begin doing it differently.
You'll walk away with a fresh perspective on what children actually need to thrive. Plus, youâll also get simple, practical tools for nervous system regulation and addressing your younger parts. Itâs never too late to begin cultivating deeper levels of safety, attunement, and connection in your home.
Episode Highlights
01:10 Be Gentle with Yourself
05:16 4 Things Your Child Needs to Thrive
05:35 #1 - Safety
09:06 #2 - Regulation
11:10 #3 - Attunement
13:37 #4 - Be Seen As A Unique Individual
15:53 Only Need to Securely Attach 30% of the Time
19:59 Adversity Builds Resiliency
22:30 Itâs Never Too Late
25:03 Parenting Through A Parts Work Lens
29:04 Nourishing Yourself
32:12 âHow Do I Parent When Iâm Dysregulated?â
43:53 âHow Can I Get My Family On Board with This Work?â
57:00 âHow Do I Manage Anticipatory Anxiety?"
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Important Keywords:
Nervous System Regulation - The process of supporting your autonomic nervous system to return to a balanced, calm state after stress. Itâs essential for feeling safe, connected, and present in relationships, and allows you to respond to life from choice rather than survival.
Co-Regulation - This is the process where one personâs regulated nervous system helps another person return to a calmer state. For children (and adults), co-regulation is essential because it teaches the body how to feel safe and soothed in connection with others.
Somatic Healing - A body-based approach that involves releasing trapped activation/energy stored in the body, regulating the nervous system, completing the incomplete response to past trauma, and reconnecting with the physical self. Techniques like movement, touch, and breathwork are commonly used to support this healing process.
Attachment - The way we connect and relate to others, shaped by our early childhood experiences. A secure attachment allows us to feel safe in relationships, while insecure attachment styles can lead to patterns of anxiety, avoidance, or confusion.
Attunement - The ability to deeply connect with and understand another personâs emotional state, beyond just their words.
Resiliency - The capacity to recover and bounce back after stress or adversity. Itâs built through safe, supportive relationships and repeated experiences of navigating challenges while feeling seen and supported.
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Many of us are quick to label ourselves as an âintrovertâ or âextrovertâ â but have you ever wondered if this is actually representative of your most authentic self? In this episode, Sarah explores the role trauma plays in shaping our relational identity. Whether you fawn, withdraw, feel drained by connection, or are known as the âlife of the party,â this episode will help you to begin distinguishing what patterns might actually be a result of unresolved trauma.
Through a powerful blend of science-backed modalities, Sarah breaks down what it really means to connect from regulation, not self-protection. She shares how to begin listening to your own internal rhythm of connection and solitude, how to recognize protective parts when they show up, and how to gently guide your system back to safety, so that you can experience deeper, more fulfilling relationships.
Episode Highlights
00:00 Intro
01:24 Connection Is a Primary Human Need
08:23 Being an Introvert from Past Relational Trauma
12:26 Why We Find Some Connection Exhausting
18:19 Being an Extrovert from Past Relational Trauma
21:31 Connection Coming from Survival
23:21 How to Become Your Most Authentic Self
26:17 Who Do You Enjoy Connecting With?
28:06 Finding Safe Environments
30:02 Anchoring in Your Adult Self
32:09 Disconfirming Experiences & Leaning Into Discomfort
34:22 âI Become a Verbal Firehouse in Social Settingsâ
38:30 âWhy Do I Constantly Blush?â
42:04 âHow Do I Navigate Awkward Silences?â
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Only $27 with replays available for a limited time.
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Important Keywords:
Nervous System Regulation - The process of supporting your autonomic nervous system to return to a balanced, calm state. This is essential for feeling safe, connected, and present in your life and relationships.
Trauma - Trauma is the overwhelm of activation (energy) experienced in our bodies, in the face of helplessness. If we do not have the conditions necessary for trauma to process through our bodies, it becomes stuck and stored, leaving lasting emotional, physical, or psychological imprints. It disrupts the nervous system causing chronic dysregulation, disconnection, and/or hypervigilance.
Parts Work â A therapeutic approach (e.g., Internal Family Systems) that explores different parts or aspects of the self and their roles in emotional healing.
Fawning - This is not a state in the nervous system but a self-protective behavioral response that can happen in any state of dysregulation. It often looks like over-agreeing, over-giving, avoiding conflict, or becoming what you think others want you to be in order to feel safe or loved.
Dysregulation - Active self-protection that occurs when the nervous system believes we are in danger, whether it is a real or perceived threat. Chronic dysregulation is often a result of unresolved trauma and can significantly impact daily functioning.
Attachment - The emotional bonds we form in early life and carry into adulthood that influence how we relate to others. Sarah references the insecure attachment styles (anxious, avoidant, and disorganized) that lead us to seek or push away connection as a way to maintain safety.
Somatic Healing - A body-based approach to healing that works with the nervous system to discharge stored trauma and create internal safety. Sarahâs entire approach is rooted in this method, helping people heal through embodiment and felt experience.
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There can be so much shame around the ways we procrastinate and self-sabotage. But these behaviors arenât just âbad habitsâ â theyâre actually forms of self-protection. In this episode, Sarah uncovers the hidden roles our nervous system and parts play in keeping us stuck around the things we desire most.
Youâll learn how to work with your nervous system and parts, rather than against them, using practical somatic tools to help shift these patterns. Plus, Sarah answers listener questions on discipline, self-care, and why some of us freeze when it comes to responding to text messages, emails, and other correspondence. If youâve ever felt stuck in a cycle of avoidance and frustration, this episode will show you why it makes so much sense.
Episode Highlights
00:00 Intro
00:42 Self-Sabotage Is a Form of Self-Protection
03:30 Understanding the Experience of Procastination
09:10 The Habitual Process of Procastination
14:09 Why Do We Self Sabotage?
17:41 Protective Parts at Work When We Self Sabotage
19:31 How to Befriend Your Nervous System
27:53 âWhy Canât I Stay Disciplined?â
41:31 âWhy Do I Feel So Much Resistance Around Self-Care?â
50:48 âWhy Do I Struggle to Respond to People?â
53:53 Relationships Are About Messiness
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Feel overwhelmed by conflict in your relationships? Get ready for tangible, science-backed tools inside Mastering Conflict: The Art of Turning Conflict into Connection. The two-day live experience is co-hosted by Sarah and licensed marriage and family therapist, Vienna Pharoan.
Only $27 with replays available for a limited time.
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Important Keywords:
Procrastination â The act of delaying or avoiding tasks, often due to underlying fears or protective mechanisms in the nervous system. Sarah explains that procrastination is not laziness but a way the body tries to keep us safe from perceived danger.
âSelf-Sabotageâ - This term can often feel shaming, but it is simply a way our nervous system and parts protect us from what they donât yet know is safe, often by pushing away or leaving things we might actually deeply desire.
Autonomic Nervous System - The bodyâs internal network that controls responses to stimuli and regulates our experiences of safety, fear, and connection. In the context of self-sabotage, it drives automatic reactions based on past experiences stored in our internal "database."
Protective Parts - Protective parts are internal mechanisms (or versions of ourselves) developed to shield us from pain or harm, often formed during childhood. These parts use behaviors like perfectionism, overachievement, or avoidance to keep us safe from perceived threats. While they are well-intentioned, they can also keep us stuck in unhelpful patterns until their needs are addressed.
Regulation - Regulation refers to the ability to maintain or return to a state of safety, presence, and connection within the nervous system. A regulated nervous system promotes calmness, focus, and the capacity to handle life's challenges effectively. Building regulation involves consistent neural exercises and creating disconfirming experiences that show your system itâs safe to come into a state of rest.
Parts Work - A therapeutic process that involves connecting with and healing younger parts of yourself that hold onto past wounds. Itâs a core tool for building internal safety and reshaping how you show up in relationships and life.
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Do you struggle to know what kind of boundaries to set? Many of us are taught to intellectualize our approach to boundary setting, which can leave us feeling confused or overwhelmed. In this episode, Sarah explores the embodied nature of boundaries and why unresolved trauma can leave us setting self-protective boundaries that arenât actually aligned with our highest truth.
Youâll learn about three styles of boundary setting â diffuse, rigid, and embodied â and how to somatically begin coming back in contact with your truth. During the Q&A with Rachel, Sarah will also tackle real-life boundary challenges in work, relationships, and beyond. If you feel caught in cycles of over-giving, reflexively saying âyesâ or âno,â or sacrificing your own needs, this episode will help you understand why â and how to create boundaries that truly serve you.
Episode Highlights:
00:00 Introduction
00:15 What Are Embodied Boundaries?
04:46 Why We Struggle With Boundaries
09:22 Self-Protective Boundaries: Diffuse
18:01 Self-Protective Boundaries: Rigid
25:01 Embodied Boundaries
28:33 Steps to Begin Setting Embodied Boundaries
35:17 Q&A Segment With Rachel
35:58 âCan I Stay in a High-Pressure Work Environment?â
43:25 âHow Can I Stop Over-Giving and Being Resentful?â
56:20 âAm I Going Backward in My Healing Journey?â
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Important Keywords:
Embodied Boundaries â A behavioral response that is rooted in oneâs internal truth, limits, and needs. These boundaries are usually accessed when close to or in regulation and allow for deep levels of connectivity and autonomy.
Self-Protective Boundaries â When weâve experienced trauma or our truth was chronically taken away, we learn to adapt and set self-protective boundaries. These boundaries are typically rooted in survival or a younger part that is seeking safety.
Diffuse Boundaries â An adaptive, self-protective boundary associated with the reflexive âyesâ response. Think of these as âSwiss cheeseâ boundaries, where it is a boundary of sorts but it is permeable.
Rigid Boundaries â An adaptive, self-protective boundary associated with the reflexive ânoâ response. Think of these as âsteel wallâ boundaries, where nothing is able to permeate the boundary.
Autonomic Nervous System: The self-protective system within the body that is responsible for our thoughts, feelings, sensations, behaviors, and perception of self, others, and the world around us, as well as regulating involuntary functions, such as your heart rate and digestion, and playing a central role in how you react to stress or calm.
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What if the work you do isnât just a paycheck but a path to alignment and fulfillment? In this episode, Sarah breaks down how our nervous system influences career choices and why so many of us end up in survival-based jobs rather than roles that truly inspire us. She explores the impact being misaligned in our work has on our nervous system, relationships, health, and overall well-being.
If youâve ever felt like youâre meant for more, this episode will teach you how to step into a career (and life) that truly aligns with your gifts. Youâll learn how to create congruency in your current role, identify your true calling, and take tangible steps toward your desires. When youâre aligned with your purpose, it not only allows for deeper personal fulfillment â it also lights up the world around you.
Episode Highlights
00:00 Intro
00:27 Choosing a Career or Job From Survival
06:45 Human Beings Thrive When Purposeful
08:39 Finding Your Unique Gifts
11:03 How Being Misaligned Impacts Our Relationships
13:53 How Being Misaligned Impacts Our Health
14:51 Tools For Becoming More Aligned
22:50 Changing Your Role As You Heal
25:12 Our Systems Deeply Desire Alignment
26:47 Transitioning Careers and Finding Fulfillment
32:51 Work Environments Can Replicate Dynamics From Childhood
37:55 Why Self-Like Parts Keep Us From Our Purpose
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Important Keywords:
Protective Parts - Protective parts are internal mechanisms (or versions of ourselves) developed to shield us from pain or harm, often formed during childhood. These parts use behaviors like perfectionism, overachievement, or avoidance to keep us safe from perceived threats. While they are well-intentioned, they can also keep us stuck in unhelpful patterns until their needs are addressed.
Nervous System Regulation â Techniques and strategies used to calm and stabilize the nervous system. Regulation helps move the body out of a fight/flight, freeze, or shut down responses and into a balanced state of presence and connection.
Internal Safety â The feeling of stability and security that comes from within, rather than external circumstances. Sarah emphasizes that without internal safety, change can feel terrifying or overwhelming for our system and parts, making it difficult to step into a fulfilling career.
âSelf-Likeâ Parts â These protective parts often sound like adult you but are in fact a protective part that is coming online to keep us safe. This often looks like self-doubt, avoidance, hesitation, retreating, or seemingly ârationalâ arguments that are based in fear.
Alignment â The state of living in accordance or congruency with oneâs purpose, values, and natural gifts. Sarah explains that when we are aligned with our work, it energizes us rather than drains us, creating a ripple effect of positive impact.
Disconfirming Experiences â New, positive experiences that challenge and override old self-protective beliefs. For example, if it was unsafe in the past to use our voice, any time we tolerably step toward using our voice in the present, that is a disconfirming experience, showing our nervous system the past is over and itâs now safe to speak up.
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In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah dives into the complex layers of family dynamics, personal boundaries, and healing from past experiences. You'll learn how the dynamics within your family of origin created the roles you had to play, how those roles shape your adult relationships, and how to begin breaking free from those roles to step into your most fully-expressed self.
Through personal insights and therapeutic wisdom, Sarah discusses why our family of origin often triggers or activates us the mostâand why we often see our caregivers as an extension of ourselves. If youâve ever dreaded going home or struggle to set boundaries with your family, this episode will equip you with the somatic tools necessary to release the pain of the past and move forward with more ease.
Episode Highlights:
00:00 Introduction
00:15 Why We Struggle with Our Family of Origin
12:57 Becoming the Primary Parent to Your Parts
22:45 Access Healthy Aggression
27:41 Finding Belonging Through Chosen Family
30:58 Differentiating From Our Caregivers
37:37 Creating Safety & Setting Boundaries
49:40 Processing Recent Traumatic Experiences
56:58 Healing From Abuse
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Important Keywords:
Family of Origin â The family system you were born into or raised in that shaped how you relate to others, your sense of belonging, and your identity. This dynamic then informs the way you show up in your adult life.
Boundaries â Boundaries are not a cognitive process but a somatic one that is informed by our internal truth, limits, and needs. We are all born with an innate ability to know our internal truth, but many of us become disconnected from that truth as a result of trauma.
Somatic Healing - Somatic healing focuses on addressing trauma and stress stored in the body, rather than just the mind. It involves practices that help release trapped activation/energy, regulate the nervous system, complete the incomplete response to trauma of the past, and reconnect with the physical self. Techniques like movement, touch, and breathwork are commonly used to support this healing process.
Healthy Aggression - A term coined by Peter Levine, this is our lifeforce energy, which is needed to set boundaries, protect oneself, and assert personal needs. Itâs also the energy that allows us to experience full aliveness, connection, wonder, and awe. When suppressed, it can lead to unresolved anger, resentment, and even physical symptoms, but when expressed appropriately, it helps complete past emotional responses.
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If youâve ever tossed and turned at night, wondering why you just canât seem to get the rest you need, youâre not alone. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah Baldwin breaks down how insomnia, struggling to stay asleep, and other sleep disorders are often deeply connected to whatâs happening in your nervous system.
Sarah explains why stress, unresolved trauma, and even daily overwhelm can keep you stuck in fight-or-flight, making deep sleep and rest nearly impossible. From easy, science-backed strategies like movement and time in nature to simple bedtime routines and setting boundaries, this episode is packed with practical tools to help you experience better quality sleep.
Episode Highlight:
00:00 Intro
00:35 Why Do We Struggle with Sleep?
04:31 7 Things You Need to Achieve Deep Rest
12:36 Effects of Chronic Lack of Sleep
16:50 The Epidemic of Sleep Disorders
21:24 3 Categories of Sleep Struggles
30:02 Why Nervous System Regulation is Needed for Deep Sleep
32:57 Creating a Nighttime Routine
39:00 Finding Relief From Insomnia
43:30 Unresolved Emotions or Grief Can Impact Sleep
46:58 What To Do When You Wake Up During the Night
48:40 Setting Boundaries Around Sleep
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Important Keywords:
Nervous System Regulation â Techniques used to discharge activation and bring the nervous system back into a state of rest. Regulation helps move the body out of a fight/flight, freeze, or shut down response and into a balanced state of presence and connection.
Dysregulation â A state of active self-protection where the nervous system perceives danger. This can either be caused by a real threat based in the present moment or stem from past trauma, danger, or hardship, causing our system to superimpose a past experience onto the present.
Sympathetic Nervous System â When our system believes there is something we can do about the threat, it will send us into this mobilized state of dysregulation, often sometimes referred to as âfight or flight.â This is where we experience things like anxiety, terror, rage, panic, fear, agitation, or irritation.
Freeze State â A blended state of dysregulation experienced as tonic immobility. It is made up of equal parts mobilizing sympathetic energy and immobilizing dorsal energy, rendering us stuck. This state of dysregulation can make it difficult to fall or stay asleep..
Circadian Rhythm â The bodyâs internal clock that regulates sleep-wake cycles. Exposure to natural light in the morning and evening helps align this rhythm, making it easier to fall and stay asleep.
Restorative Rest â True rest that recharges the nervous system, which is different from passive activities like watching TV or scrolling on your phone. Practices like meditation, sound baths, and deep breathing help bring the body into a relaxed state before sleep.
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In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores the profound shifts that occur as we healâboth within ourselves and in our relationships. She delves into the challenges of evolving while being in partnerships, the difficulty of letting go when growth outpaces connection, and the natural distance that can emerge between those on different healing journeys.
Sarah also answers listener questions about navigating major life transitions. From unfulfilling marriages and moving forward when a partner is unwilling to grow, to forgiveness and releasing resentment following a betrayal, these questions spark a powerful conversation about trauma, self-protection, and reclaiming life after pain.
Episode Highlights:
00:00 Introduction
00:15 Processing Endings
03:26 Internal Safety and Connectivity
06:42 Unwritten Contracts and Change in Our Relationships
09:59 Healing Decreases Our Toleration for Suffering
12:15 Giving Ourselves the Things We Never Got
13:21 Healing Invites Space for Change
18:58 Meeting New Parts of Ourselves
28:14 Leaving A Stagnant Relationship
32:13 Navigating Betrayal and Resentment
36:41 Forgiveness and Resolving Past Trauma
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Important Keywords:
Resentment â Resentment often signals unmet needs or unprocessed emotions. Nervous system regulation helps in addressing these feelings by discharging the underlying dysregulation.
Forgiveness â True forgiveness can only happen when a person has processed the appropriate response and emotions related to their trauma, by accessing whatâs called healthy aggression.
Relational Shifts in Healing â As healing progresses, people may feel disconnected from past relationships, social circles, or roles. This is a natural part of transformation, signaling new growth and self-awareness.
Somatic Experiencing â Created by Dr. Peter Levine, this therapeutic modality uses body awareness, movement, and nervous system regulation to release and resolve stored trauma. By building capacity to be in our embodied experience, we can teach our nervous system how to pendulate, resulting in the discharge of stored trauma and overall regulation of the nervous system.
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There can be a lot of talk around forgiveness in the self-help space, but what does it actually mean to forgive? Forgiveness is not just a mindset shift or something we can âthinkâ our way intoâit is a somatic process that requires addressing the nervous system and accessing our healthy aggression.
Using the latest neuroscience research, Sarah explains how unresolved trauma gets stored in our bodies until we are able to âcomplete the incomplete experienceâ or access the appropriate response to what occurred. If youâve struggled to let go and move forward in life, this episode will give you a step-by-step guide to somatically resolve these wounds, so that you can find freedom from the past and release feelings of shame and resentment.
Episode Highlights
00:00 Intro
00:46 Time Does Not Heal All
04:36 We Must First Process What Occurred
08:01 What is Healthy Aggression?
11:20 What is Unhealthy Aggression?
12:36 Building Your Capacity for Healthy Aggression
15:56 Practical Applications for Somatic Forgiveness
21:31 Accessing Your Unmet Needs
24:09 Struggling to Move On After a Betrayal
27:21 Healing Shame and Anger from Childhood Trauma
32:48 How to Overcome Parental Guilt
42:07 Spiritual Bypassing Around Forgiveness
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Important Keywords:
Polyvagal Theory - This theory, developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, explains how the autonomic nervous system regulates our responses to stress, danger, and safety. It highlights the role of the vagus nerve in shifting between survival states (fight, flight, freeze, and shut down) and social engagement, which is crucial for emotional healing.
Healthy Aggression - A term coined by Peter Levine, this is our lifeforce energy, which is needed to set boundaries, protect oneself, and assert personal needs. Itâs also the energy that allows us to experience full aliveness, connection, wonder, and awe. When suppressed, it can lead to unresolved anger, resentment, and even physical symptoms, but when expressed appropriately, it helps complete past emotional responses.
Trauma - Trauma is the overwhelm of activation (energy) experienced in our bodies, in the face of helplessness. If we do not have the conditions necessary for trauma to process through our bodies, it becomes stuck and stored, leaving lasting emotional, physical or psychological imprints. It disrupts the nervous system causing chronic dysregulation, disconnection and/or hypervigilance.
Somatic Healing - Somatic healing focuses on addressing trauma and stress stored in the body, rather than just the mind. It involves practices that help release trapped activation/energy, regulate the nervous system and complete the incomplete response to trauma of the past, and reconnect with the physical self. Techniques like movement, touch, and breathwork are commonly used to support this healing process.
Titration of Trauma - This refers to the body's natural process of releasing stored energy from past trauma or stress. It can happen through movement, sound, breathwork, or other somatic practices that allow the body to complete an unfinished emotional cycle and pendulate through stress responses.
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Do you ever feel like thereâs an invisible wall holding you back from the life you desire? In this episode, Sarah explores why achieving our goals can feel so difficultâeven when weâre putting in the effort. The key to unlocking our full potential lies in understanding and befriending our autonomic nervous system, which shapes our entire experience and the ease in which weâre able to take steps forward.
By viewing the nervous system as a vehicle, Sarah shares practical strategies for how to guide your nervous system down roads that lead to your deepest desires. Through the power of nervous system regulation, parts work, and safe connection, itâs possible to get unstuck and tangibly move toward a more full, expansive life.
Episode Highlight:
00:00 Intro
01:35 The Vehicle Inside You (Your Nervous System)
07:31 The Roads of Your Deepest Desires
19:02 What Determines the Size of Your Life
23:52 Building Capacity in Your Nervous System
26:48: 4 Things That Donât Actually Work
27:46 #1 - âMuscling Throughâ
30:08 #2 - Setting Unattainable Goals
32:43 #3 - Taking Steps in Isolation
34:52 #4 - Comparing Our Self to Others
36:28 Building a Bridge to Where You Want to Go
40:48 Cultivating Safe Community and Connection
42:07 Start Honoring Your âNOâ
44:58 âWhat About Taking the Big, Scary Step?â
49:44 âHow to Take Tolerable Steps in Dating?â
53:27 âWhy Is It So Hard to Take Steps Forward?â
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Important Keywords:
Autonomic Nervous System - The body's command center for automatic functions like breathing, heart rate, and digestion. It also plays a vital role in how we respond to stress and perceived threats, as well as our ability to feel safe, connected, and regulated.
Roads of Safety - The pathways our nervous system recognizes as safe and predictable, often shaped by past experiences. While they provide comfort and stability, they may not always align with our true desires or highest potential.
Roads of Familiarity - The patterns and dynamics we've learned to navigateâwhether healthy or not. Our nervous system tends to gravitate toward familiar routes because they offer a sense of control, even if they donât always serve our well-being.
Safe Connection - The deep sense of being seen, heard, and understood by others, fostering a feeling of belonging and security. Safe connection is essential for regulating the nervous system and expanding our capacity for growth, healing, and change.
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In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores the science behind relationships using Polyvagal Theory, Attachment Theory, and Parts Work. She explains how these frameworks complement each other and shape our ability to connect, feel safe inside our relational containers, and navigate emotional intimacy.
Sarah highlights the importance of understanding how our nervous system and parts inform the people we choose in our lives, emphasizing that much of what we experience in adult connections is rooted in early life experiences. By combining these three approaches, itâs possible to heal the past in the present, navigate challenges with more ease, and attract the kinds of partners we truly desire.
Episode Highlight:
00:00 Introduction
00:15 Understanding Our Relationships
02:00 The Nervous System & Attachment Theory
09:02 How Attachments Form
16:04 How We Connect In Our Adult Lives
21:24 How to Regulate Based On Your Attachment Style
22:12 The Nervous System & Parts Work
32:58 How âSelf-Like Partsâ Show Up
39:07 Why Moving On Can Be So Challenging
49:29 Avoidant Attachment & Healing Shame
53:03 Panic In Relationships
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Important Keywords:
Polyvagal Theory â A framework explaining how the autonomic nervous system governs safety, connection, and self-protective responses in our relationships and lives.
Attachment Theory â A psychological model describing how early childhood experiences shape relational patterns, emotional bonds, and the way we connect with others.
Parts Work â A therapeutic approach (e.g., Internal Family Systems) that explores different parts or aspects of the self and their roles in emotional healing.
Nervous System Regulation â Techniques and practices that help manage stress responses, promoting emotional balance and internal safety.
Avoidant Attachment â A self-protective relational pattern where connection can often feel overwhelming and individuals subconsciously withdraw from intimacy due to past emotional wounds.
Anxious Attachment â A self-protective relational pattern where we feel less safe on our own and often sacrifice our own needs in order to maintain connection with another.
Disorganized Attachment â A self-protective relational pattern where we tend to feel comfortable in chaos and want others close, but when they come close, we push them away.
Shame & Internalization â The process of internalizing negative beliefs about oneself, often rooted in childhood experiences of criticism or neglect.
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What if there was a way to find more lightness and joy in your healing journey along the way? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores the profound impact of two transformative states within the autonomic nervous system: play and stillness. These states arenât just about fun and quietâtheyâre the keys to unlocking creativity, emotional regulation, and deeper connections.
Sarah shares practical tips to help you embrace these vital states, from finding freedom through dance and movement to building rituals that invite inner peace. Whether youâre using play to resolve conflict in your relationships or creating a nighttime stillness routine for better sleep, this episode offers a roadmap to navigate life with greater ease and aliveness.
Episode Highlights
00:00 Intro
00:17 Play and Stillness
02:03 3 States of Dysregulation
03:00 Getting to Know Your Blended State of Play
11:06 Why Do We Struggle to Experience Play?
15:09 Tools to Begin Stepping Toward Play
19:20 Getting to Know Your Blended State of Stillness
26:40 Why Do We Struggle to Experience Stillness?
30:02 Tools to Begin Stepping Toward Stillness
38:18 âHow Do I Feel More Playful and Free While Dancing?â
50:41 âWhy Doesnât Meditation Work For Me?â
59:42 âHow Can Play Help Improve My Relationship?â
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Important Keywords:
Autonomic Nervous System (ANS) - The autonomic nervous system is a part of the nervous system that operates unconsciously to regulate vital bodily functions such as heart rate, digestion, and respiratory rate. It has two primary branches: the sympathetic (activates fight-or-flight responses) and parasympathetic (promotes our rest-and-digest state along with our dorsal vagal complex), which are integral in supporting us to experience both regulation and dysregulation.
Play - Play is a blended state within the autonomic nervous system, made primarily of regulation (ventral vagal complex) with a touch of mobilizing sympathetic energy (sympathetic nervous system). It fosters creativity, learning, and bonding by bringing joy and aliveness into life experiences.
Stillness - Stillness is a state predominantly rooted in regulation (ventral vagal complex) with a subtle influence of the dorsal vagal complex. It encourages deep presence, better sleep, intimacy and emotional connection, and rejuvenation, allowing individuals to fully embrace quiet, restorative moments.
Ventral Vagal Complex - The ventral vagal complex is part of the parasympathetic nervous system associated with safety and regulation. It governs states of connection, calm, and engagement with others, enabling social bonding and overall well-being.
Sympathetic Nervous System - The sympathetic nervous system is responsible for activating the fight-or-flight response, preparing the body to react to real or perceived threats. It increases energy and alertness, mobilizing the body for action when needed.
Dorsal Vagal Complex - The dorsal vagal complex is a branch of the parasympathetic nervous system linked to immobilization and shutdown responses. It becomes active in extreme stress or trauma and helps us to leave our bodies, resulting in feelings of disconnection or dissociation.
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Shame often keeps us from living the full, expansive life weâre desiring. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explains the difference between âhealthyâ and âunhealthyâ shame, and why unresolved trauma can often leave us feeling unworthy or like there is something inherently wrong with us.
While shame can affect every area of our lives, from our relationships to our purpose, the good news is that itâs absolutely possible to heal. Sarah will walk you through tangible somatic steps to bring your nervous system back into internal safety and access your healthy aggression or âlife force energy,â both of which are imperative to releasing shame and finding freedom in your everyday life.
Episode Highlights
00:00 Intro
00:26 What is Healthy Shame?
04:29 What is Unhealthy Shame?
11:55 How the Internalization of Shame Occurs
13:59 How to Resolve Unhealthy Shame
18:43 Accessing Healthy Aggression
21:25 Parts Work & Embodying Your Creativity
27:10 Processing the Underlying Activation of Panic Attacks
33:17 Being Ferociously Protective of Your Own Story
37:52 Shame Around Experiencing Setbacks
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Important Keywords:
Healthy Shame - Healthy shame teaches individuals about boundaries, consequences, and experiencing health in relationships and life. It begins to occur during early developmental stages and builds resilience to navigate stress and be with affect in our bodies. In the process, we are not made to feel like we are inherently bad or unlovable.
Unhealthy Shame - Unhealthy shame is the internalization of what happened to us (or what was said to us) making one feel inherently bad and unworthy. This type of shame is often rooted in traumatic experiences and can result in long-lasting psychological distress.
Nervous System Regulation - Nervous system regulation involves managing the body's response to stress and stimuli through various techniques that help maintain or restore a state of balance. It is crucial for emotional resilience and overall mental health.
Somatic Experiencing - Somatic Experiencing is a modality developed by Peter Levine that uses the body to release stored trauma and activation. This approach is grounded in science that confirms the body holds past trauma, and that through somatic healing and completing the incomplete experience, we can release the stored traumatic energy and consequently, the past becomes the past rather than the perpetual present.
Trauma - Trauma is the overwhelm of activation (energy) experienced in our bodies, in the face of helplessness. If we do not have the conditions necessary for trauma to process through our bodies, it becomes stuck and stored, leaving lasting emotional, physical or psychological imprints. It disrupts the nervous system causing chronic dysregulation, disconnection and/or hypervigilance.
Internalization - Internalization is a psychological process where individuals unconsciously integrate the beliefs, values, and norms of others into their own self-view. In the context of shame, it often refers to the absorption of negative beliefs about oneself that are derived from critical or dismissive messaging and treatment by others.
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Diving into the often overlooked but deeply interconnected realms of science and spirituality, Sarah guides listeners through a transformative exploration. She underscores how both domains intertwine, particularly in the context of trauma and healing. Many of us desire to embody the core elements of spiritualityâconnectivity, presence, love, and surrenderâbut struggle to actually do so.
This episode will address the common misconceptions and challenges associated with spirituality, including the impact of trauma on our capacity to experience deep levels of connectivity. She critiques the prevalent shaming in spiritual contexts, advocating for a more empathetic and inclusive approach.
Episode Highlights
00:00 Intro
01:36 What is Spirituality?
07:56 Most Trauma is Relational
15:58 Processing Your Anger Toward the Universe
22:53 Unlocking Connectivity to Your Spirituality
31:51 Spiritual Journey and Nervous System Work
33:19 Healing is Spiritual Work
41:54 âHow Does Plant Medicine Relate to the Nervous System?â
49:35 âWhy Do I Feel Like I Have No Spiritual Connection?â
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Important Keywords:
Trauma Resolution - A process aimed at addressing and healing from traumatic experiences. Trauma resolution involves somatic therapeutic techniques that help individuals process and discharge stored traumatic energy from their bodies, reducing the ongoing impact on their mental and physical health.
Nervous System Regulation - Refers to the practices and techniques used to maintain or return the nervous system to a state of balance. Effective regulation helps individuals manage their responses to stress and recover from experiences of chronic dysregulation, such as anxiety, depression, overwhelm, panic, or other trauma-related symptoms.
Interconnectivity - A key concept in spirituality that denotes the interconnected nature of all things in the universe, including the self, others, and the environment. It suggests that everything is linked, and leaning into these connections can lead to deeper levels of regulation and support overall wellbeing.
Spirituality - Often defined broadly as a sense of connection to something bigger than oneself, which can involve a search for meaning in life. Spirituality is personal and can encompass religious beliefs, personal values, and practices aimed at cultivating inner peace, deeper connectivity, love, and surrender.
Somatic Experiencing - A therapeutic modality developed by Dr. Peter Levine aimed at resolving the mental, emotional, and physical symptoms of stored trauma by focusing on the body.
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The secret to changing your thoughts isnât in your mindâitâs in your body. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah uses Polyvagal Theory to unravel the fascinating science behind how our nervous system shapes our story and why just telling ourselves to âthinkâ differently doesnât actually work.
In order to change our thinking, we must first address the underlying dysregulation in our system. Sarah will walk you through tangible somatic practices to shift toward regulation, create new neural pathways for more âpositiveâ thoughts, and find clarity on your truth. By harnessing the power of your nervous system, itâs possible to transform your inner world.
Episode Highlights
00:00 Intro
00:49 Our Autonomic State Creates Our Story
07:29 Thoughts in Dorsal (Immobilization)
09:19 Thoughts in Sympathetic (Mobilization)
11:15 Thoughts in Freeze (Tonic Immobility)
12:38 Thoughts in Ventral (Regulation)
15:09 Projecting Your Past Onto the Present
17:03 We Cannot Change Our Thinking in Dysregulation
20:20 Limitations of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
28:09 âWhy Do Thoughts I Know To Be Wrong Feel So True?â
36:58 How to Overcome Negative Thoughts
44:29 Mindset Work & Manifestation From A Somatic Lens
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Important Keywords:
Nervous System - The nervous system regulates bodily functions and responses to stress, consisting of the sympathetic (fight/flight) and parasympathetic (rest/digest) systems, comprised of our ventral vagal complex (rest and digest) and our dorsal vagal complex (shutdown/energy conservation). A well-regulated nervous system supports emotional balance, overall well-being, and supportive thoughts.
Polyvagal Theory - A theory developed by Dr. Stephen Porges, explaining how the autonomic nervous system responds to safety or threat through three primary states: Ventral Vagal Complex (regulation and connection), Sympathetic Nervous System (mobilization), and Dorsal Vagal Complex (immobilization). This framework helps understand how our physiological state influences thoughts, emotions, behaviors, and perception.
Dysregulation - Active self-protection in response to real or perceived threats, leading to physiological and emotional imbalance. It can manifest as anxiety, depression, apathy, or other distressing emotions and can hinder clear thinking or positive actions.
Sympathetic Nervous System - The branch of the autonomic nervous system associated with mobilization or the fight-or-flight response. When activated, it increases energy, heart rate, and alertness to prepare for action.
Dorsal Vagal Complex - A part of the parasympathetic nervous system responsible for immobilization or the shutdown response. It activates in extreme situations of perceived danger, leading to feelings of numbness, dissociation, or hopelessness.
Ventral Vagal Complex - The branch of the parasympathetic nervous system associated with regulation, safety, connection, and presence. It supports social engagement, calmness, and the ability to rest and recover.
Freeze Response - A blended state made of equal parts mobilizing Sympathetic energy and immobilizing Dorsal energy, creating a sense of urgency to act but an inability to do so. It often feels like being "stuck" or overwhelmed.
Perceived Threat - A situation or stimulus that the nervous system interprets as dangerous, even if it is not an immediate danger in reality. It often stems from past trauma being projected onto the present.
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If slowing down feels impossible or like a luxury you canât afford, this episode is for you. Sarah unpacks why so many of us stay trapped in a cycle of constant âdoing,â where rest feels risky and burnout becomes inevitable. Drawing on her expertise in Somatic Experiencing, Polyvagal Theory, and Parts Work, she explains how your past, trauma, and societal expectations can all keep you stuck on the hamster wheel.
Youâll get simple, actionable steps to show your nervous system that slowing down isnât just safeâitâs powerful. Whether itâs finding joy in a quiet walk, saying no to one more email, or unburdening your protective parts, this episode will help you reconnect with your body and bring regulation to your nervous system. Slowing down isnât giving upâitâs the key to embodying the life and abundance youâre desiring.
Episode Highlights
00:00 Intro
00:40 Your Environment Influences Your Nervous System
03:13 The Sympathetic Nervous System
06:44 The Origin of Our Protective Parts
11:55 Building Your Capacity to Slow Down
17:01 Somatic Tool: Disconfirming Experiences
19:31 Somatic Tool: Taking Tolerable Steps
21:25 Get to Know Your Protective Parts
24:04 âI Feel Like Iâm Constantly in a Dysregulated Stateâ
30:04 The Expand/Contract Experience of Healing
34:34 Somatic Support for Difficult Life, Political, or World Events
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Important Keywords:
Sympathetic Nervous System - The sympathetic nervous system is part of the autonomic nervous system responsible for mobilizing energy in response to perceived threats. By activating the HPA axis, cortisol and adrenaline levels are increased in the body, preparing our system to respond to danger and stress. Chronic activation of this system can lead to anxiety, burnout, and health issues.
Regulation - Regulation refers to the ability to maintain or return to a state of safety, presence, and connection within the nervous system. A regulated nervous system promotes calmness, focus, and the capacity to handle life's challenges effectively. Building regulation involves consistent neural exercises and creating disconfirming experiences that show your body itâs safe to come into a state of rest.
Trauma - Trauma is the overwhelm of activation (energy) experienced in our bodies, in the face of helplessness. If we do not have the conditions necessary for trauma to process through our bodies, it becomes stuck and stored, leaving lasting emotional, physical or psychological imprints. It disrupts the nervous system causing chronic dysregulation, disconnection and/or hypervigilance.
Protective Parts - Protective parts are internal mechanisms (or versions of ourselves) developed to shield us from pain or harm, often formed during childhood. These parts use behaviors like perfectionism, overachievement, or avoidance to keep us safe from perceived threats. While they are well-intentioned, they can also keep us stuck in unhelpful patterns until their needs are addressed.
Somatic Healing - Somatic healing focuses on addressing trauma and stress stored in the body, rather than just the mind. It involves practices that help release trapped activation/energy, regulate the nervous system and complete the incomplete response to trauma of the past, and reconnect with the physical self. Techniques like movement, touch, and breathwork are commonly used to support this healing process.
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How often do we hear, âJust love your body,â only to feel more disconnected than ever? In this thoughtful episode of You Make Sense, Sarah tackles the complexities of body image, aging, appearance, and the journey to genuine self-acceptance. With her signature mix of science, storytelling, and somatic wisdom, she unpacks why conventional approaches to self-love often miss the markâand what truly works.
Sarah shares relatable personal stories and actionable tools to help you heal your relationship with your body, process past trauma, and embrace your unique self. From reframing societal pressures to building a compassionate connection with your body, this episode offers practical steps for feeling more at home in your own skin.
Episode Highlights
00:00 Intro
02:45 Societyâs Messaging About Body Image
11:15 Befriending Your Body
13:54 Why Do We Hide in Our Body?
19:57 Trauma & Changing Our Appearance
22:18 The Origin of Our Negative Orientation to Aging
26:18 Somatic Tools to Build Self-Love and Acceptance
31:09 Replace Coping Strategies with Regulating Resources
38:01 âWhy Am I Suddenly Negatively Fixated on My Height?â
43:16 Somatically Healing Your Relationship with Your Body
51:56 Binge-Eating and Sugar
01:02:14 Weight Gain Can Be a Response to Trauma
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Important Keywords:
Somatic Healing - Somatic healing is an approach to healing that focuses on addressing the nervous system and stored trauma within the body. It uses practices like body awareness, movement, and nervous system regulation to support emotional and physical well-being.
Trauma - Trauma is the overwhelm of activation (energy) experienced in our bodies, in the face of helplessness. If we do not have the conditions necessary for trauma to process through our bodies, it becomes stuck and stored, leaving lasting emotional, physical or psychological imprints. It disrupts the nervous system causing chronic dysregulation, disconnection and/or hypervigilance.
Self-Compassion - Self-compassion involves treating oneself with kindness, understanding, and care, especially during difficult times. It replaces self-criticism with empathy, fostering emotional resilience and self-acceptance.
Dissociation - Dissociation is a coping mechanism where a person disconnects from their physical or emotional experiences, often in response to trauma or stress. It can manifest as a sense of detachment from reality, feeling "numb," or being "out of body."
Parts Work - Parts work is a therapeutic approach that identifies and works with different "parts" of the self, often associated with distinct emotions, behaviors, or events from childhood. It helps individuals address internal conflicts and foster self-integration.
Nervous System - The nervous system regulates bodily functions and responses to stress, consisting of the sympathetic (fight/flight) and parasympathetic (rest/digest) systems, comprised of our ventral vagal complex (rest and digest) and our dorsal vagal complex (shutdown/energy conservation). A well-regulated nervous system supports emotional balance, energy levels, and overall health.
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Ever wonder why the relationships with the most potential sometimes feel the hardest? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah unpacks the ways in which romantic partnerships often trigger our deepest woundsâand how they can also become the most powerful spaces for healing.
Sarah dives into the role our nervous system and parts play in unconsciously shaping the way we show up in love, and what we can do to begin building more safety, intimacy and trust in our partnerships. Backed by the latest neuroscience and trauma research, this episode will help you step toward deeper connection and transform your relationships.
Episode Highlights
00:00 Intro
01:09 Why We Struggle in Our Relationships
05:59 How Do We Choose the People We Choose?
06:52 Ways Safe, Healthy Partnerships Support Us
12:32 The âGoodâ Doesnât Always Feel Good At First
17:28 Parts Work and Leaning into Exposure
20:53 Understanding Resistance to Vulnerability
24:35 Tools to Step Toward Vulnerability & Intimacy
29:28 The Rupture and Repair Process
35:38 Navigating Different Perceptions in Relationships
48:10 Anxious Attachment and Avoidant Attachment Dynamic
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Important Keywords:
Neuroception - Neuroception is the subconscious process through which our nervous system detects safety or danger in our environment. It operates automatically, scanning both internal and external cues to determine if a situation is safe, dangerous, or life-threatening, which deeply influences our emotional and relational responses.
Autonomic Nervous System - The nervous system is our bodyâs command center, regulating everything from basic functions to complex emotional states. In relationships, its state determines how we perceive safety, connection, and danger, impacting our ability to connect.
Vulnerability - Vulnerability is the act of allowing ourselves to be seen fully, including our fears, emotions, and imperfections. It is essential for building intimacy and trust, but it often feels risky because it exposes parts of us weâve learned to protect.
Attachment Styles - Attachment styles are relational patterns shaped often in early childhood that dictate how we connect with others. The common stylesâsecure, anxious, avoidant, or disorganizedâimpact our ability to feel safe, express needs, and navigate intimacy in adult relationships.
Intimacy - Intimacy refers to deep emotional or physical closeness, where two people allow themselves to be fully seen and known. It goes beyond surface-level connection, requiring trust, presence, and a willingness to share vulnerable parts of ourselves.
Rupture and Repair - Rupture and repair describe the natural process of disconnection and reconnection in relationships. While ruptures are moments of conflict or disconnection, repair involves addressing the issue, rebuilding trust, and deepening the relationshipâs safety.
Safety - Safety in relationships means feeling emotionally and physically secure with another person. It creates a foundation for vulnerability, intimacy, and trust, allowing individuals to show up fully without fear of judgment or harm.
Healing - Healing is the process of addressing unresolved wounds and past traumas that influence our current behaviors and perceptions. In relationships, healing occurs when we create safe spaces to experience love, trust, and connection that our past may have lacked.
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This episode unpacks the vital connection between our nervous system and how we leadâin business, at home, and in life. Sarah dives into the science of regulation, exploring how dysregulated states like fight/flight, freeze, or shut down often drive our decisions, keeping us stuck in survival mode. These patterns, rooted in past experiences of stress or trauma, influence how we show up as leaders, parents, and creators.
With clear explanations and actionable tools, Sarah offers a roadmap for recognizing when weâre leading from dysregulation. She shares how to cultivate a regulated nervous system, unlocking creativity, connection, and clarity. Whether you're looking to grow a business, nurture your family, or simply lead yourself with more purpose, this episode offers the practical steps to create the lifeâand leadershipâyou desire.
Episode Highlights
00:00 Intro
00:26 Leading from a State of Regulation
01:20 Entrepreneurs Have Higher Stress Levels
04:28 The Most Important Thing Parents Should Focus on
06:43 Your Nervous System Affects Everyone Else
08:23 Leading from Sympathetic (fight/flight)
11:05 Leading from Regulation (safety)
13:36 Leading from Dorsal (shut down)
15:27 Leading from Freeze (tonic immobility)
17:42 Consistent Neural Exercises
20:41 How to Reshape Your Nervous System
23:02 The Key to Somatic Manifestation
26:57 Anchoring in Your Adult Self
32:30 Trust Your Own Pacing
38:19 Embodying Your Purpose
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Important Keywords:
Nervous System Regulation - The practice of bringing your system into safety in presence, which supports effective leadership, whether in business, parenting, or personal growth. Being in regulation allows for more creativity, clarity, and connection while reducing the reactive tendencies of stress and overwhelm.Ventral Vagal Complex - Your state of presence, safety, and connection where creativity, connection, and problem-solving thrive. Itâs the optimal state for leadership and decision-making, allowing leaders to see possibilities and act with confidence.Co-Regulation - The process of connecting with another person in safety where each person's nervous system positively influences the othersâ. In leadership and parenting, co-regulation can set the tone for calm and productivity, creating a ripple effect in teams or families.Dysregulation - When your nervous system senses a threat (whether real or perceived), it sends you into dysregulation or active self-protection. Leading from this place can often result in stress, burnout, or stagnation.Capacity Building - Capacity building involves gradually increasing our ability to handle new or challenging situations. Itâs about expanding the nervous system's tolerance and adaptability through small, intentional experiences of growth. -
In this special New Yearâs episode, Sarah invites listeners to reimagine the way they approach goals and resolutions. Kicking off the five-part Somatic Starter Kit series, Sarah dives into four reasons why traditional New Yearâs resolutions often fail and offers transformative science-backed tools to use instead. Youâll learn how unresolved past experiences and traumas can keep you stuck in cycles of unmet goals.
Listeners will learn the importance of taking tolerable steps, building nervous system regulation, and fostering safe connection to support personal growth. Sarah also shares actionable insights on cultivating self-compassion, replacing coping strategies with healthier habits, and understanding the deeper desires that drive us. The episode is both a manual for self-discovery and a compassionate reminder that you make sense, just as you are.
Episode Highlights
00:00 Intro
02:26 Reason 1: We Arenât Addressing Our Nervous System
05:05 Do You Feel Like Youâre Behind in Life?
07:03 Connecting to What You Truly Desire
09:41 Reason 2: Our Desires Often Have Flavorings of Past Danger
14:03 Reason 3: We Arenât Addressing Our Parts
19:07 Reason 4: Lack of Support and Connection
24:19 Safe Support and Connection is Crucial
25:21 Take Tolerable Steps Towards Your Desires
30:17 Consistent Regulation of Your Nervous System
31:37 Work at the Rate of Your Most Apprehensive Part
37:39 Relation Between Money and the Nervous System
46:00 What is a Coping Strategy?
53:54 How Do You Know Your Lifeâs Purpose?
01:01:36 Trying Something New Can Feel Overwhelming
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Nervous System Regulation - This refers to practices that help balance the body's stress response, promoting a state of calm and safety. By regulating the nervous system, we can better handle challenges, make intentional choices, and build resilience in the face of discomfort or fear.Coping Strategies - These are habits or behaviors developed to manage discomfort or stress, often unconsciously. While they can serve as short-term relief, understanding and replacing maladaptive strategies with healthier alternatives promotes long-term well-being.Somatic Healing - Somatic healing focuses on reconnecting with the body to release tension and process trauma. This approach integrates physical sensations, emotions, and thoughts to foster self-awareness and recovery.Parts Work - This therapeutic concept involves recognizing and addressing different "parts" or aspects of ourselves, often tied to past experiences or emotional wounds. By understanding and integrating these parts, we can move toward greater wholeness and self-compassion.Safe Connection - Safe connection refers to relationships where we feel seen, valued, and accepted without judgment. These connections are essential for emotional and nervous system regulation, providing a foundation for personal growth.Capacity Building - Capacity building involves gradually increasing our ability to handle new or challenging situations. Itâs about expanding the nervous system's tolerance and adaptability through small, intentional experiences of growth.Dysregulation - Dysregulation occurs when the nervous system is stuck in states of fight, flight, freeze, or shutdown. It manifests as heightened anxiety, emotional overwhelm, or disconnection and requires mindful practices to return to a balanced state. - Show more
