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What can you do to strengthen your relationship? What have you done so far to keep your relationship loving and harmonious? Have you recognized the setbacks that could potentially affect it? There are a lot of factors that can impact the bond you have with your significant other. All we need is to recognize them and deal with them with an open mind.
In this episode, Jay Shetty shares the common mistakes we consciously or unconsciously make throughout our relationships and how we can pivot from them to stay in love, in peace, and united.
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Key Takeaways:
00:00 Intro01:52 What defines the quality of our lives?03:41 Mistake #1: When our partner is sharing their pain, we choose to complain07:46 Mistake #2: We’re scared to say we need distance or space from our partner12:30 Mistake #3: We use safe or unhealthy language16:36 Mistake #4: Honesty plus love has to be the way it works19:46 Mistake #5: Communicate how you want them to improve 22:50 Mistake #6: Stop trying to get their respect indirectlyLike this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!
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What are your expectations in your current relationship? Do you wish for your partner to like the things that you like, enjoy the things that you enjoy doing, and share the same passion with you? Or do you want your partner to carve their own path along with you?
In many relationships, this idealism that your partner needs to like what you like, love what you love, and hate what you hate in the pretext that it should be how they show their love for you can be toxic. It can strip away your partner's identity and freedom. It can be suffocating.
In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty tells us the common mistakes we make that don't help our relationships grow and what you can do now to strengthen it.
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00:00 Intro01:41 The mistakes we make in a relationship02:58 Mistake #1: We make someone our everything07:28 Mistake #2: You’re with someone for they could be, not for who they are12:33 Mistake #3: You stay too long because you’re scared to be seen as the bad person15:04 Mistake #4: We trade time with our partners instead of creating new experiences16:39 Mistake #5: You want them to like what you like18:12 Mistake #6: You don’t take the time to understand why they are the way they are20:06 Mistake #7: You talk to too many people but not to the person you’re in a relationship with21:31 Mistake #8: You’re mad at them for the sacrifices you made that they didn’t ask for23:47 Mistake #9: Know the difference between ownership, partnership, and relationshipLike this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!
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A lasting relationship doesn't just thrive on love alone. It takes a lot of work… a lot of hard work from both partners.
It isn’t a simple walk in the park or a picnic at the beach. It’s about putting into heart the daily grind to make the relationship work while enjoying the feelings of happiness and being loved and appreciating your partner’s effort every single day.
In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty enumerates the habits that make successful relationships work and last for a long time.
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Key Takeaways:
00:00 Intro02:55 The relationship habits of successful couple03:54 Habit #1: Respect their value even if they have different values09:14 Habit #2: Try to notice the small things12:08 Habit #3: Encourage, not discourage each other14:35 Habit #4: Have a balance between time together, time alone, time with friends17:59 Habit #5: They argue about the issue not each other20:56 Habit #6: Think about how your decisions affect your partner22:40 Habit #7: Know the difference between your trauma and the issue25:18 Habit #8: Commit to rituals and new experiencesLike this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!
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In every relationship we have, we often set expectations. When these expectations aren’t met, we feel unloved and uncared for. And sometimes, we feel that it’s not working and that it isn’t true love.
What we fail to realize is that our expectations are based on our standards, our own ideals, our own terms. OURS, not theirs. It’s one sided. We want the other person to meet our standards, ideals, and goals; but we never consider THEIR own expectations of us.
In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty explains why setting unrealistic expectations only leads to a failure in your relationship and builds up your insecurities.
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Key Takeaways:
01:34 What are your expectations when you’re in a relationship? 03:45 Expectation #1: We create a list of expectations that we will find 07:07 The three G’s: Goal, Growth, Gratitude 11:20 Expectation #2: Our partner should be perfect 15:50 Expectation #3: Expecting your partner to make you happy 18:56 Expectation #4: Our partners can read our mind 22:20 Expectation #5: Know how to do things we usually do that we’ve never explained 25:33 Expectation #6: Have it all together all the time 27:38 Expectation #7: Our partner want the same things we want 30:03 Expectation #8: Our partner should understand us immediatelyLike this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!
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Fearne Cotton joins Jay Shetty to discuss the weight and importance of setting boundaries for yourself so you can learn to respect other people’s boundaries, why you need to change when your inner voice is telling you, and channeling negative energy into positive outcomes and changes in you and around you.
Fearne is the author of the book, Speak Your Truth, and one of the best known and most popular broadcasters in the UK and is most recently known as the Founder of the wellbeing brand, Happy Place. Her podcast, Happy Place, has featured an array of guests such as Ellie Golding, Jada Pinkett Smith, and Russell Brand amongst others.
What We Discuss with Fearne:
00:00 Intro 02:11 The inspiration behind the running selfie 04:41 Try and push yourself with vibrant colors 07:48 Life is everything, it’s loud and it’s quiet 10:54 Don’t ignore that consistent feeling of wanting to change yourself 14:11 Being yourself relieves the pressure to be brilliant at all time 17:03 When we’re curious, we’re always willing to learn 20:13 This social conditioning that we have to act a certain way 24:01 Speaking your truth is learning to say NO 27:52 Setting boundaries now will create healthy relationships 30:52 We need to be responsible for what we are putting out there 34:01 “I’m alright so I can be of service.” - Fearne Cotton 36:51 The pros and cons of having stop abruptly when you mind is at work 39:56 Think about how you can channel negativity into something positive 44:54 Be messy and create something that is authentically you 48:28 We have something to go with how we feel 52:44 Fearne on Fill in the Blanks 53:54 Fearne on Final Five 54:52 How good are we at accepting other people’s boundaries?Like this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!
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Have you ever wished you could change someone in your life? Have you tried changing someone to fit your ideals and beliefs? If so, have you succeeded? Did it make you happy?
It’s frustrating to try and change someone who isn’t willing to change, especially when your circumstances aren’t helping. This will only trigger stress and anxiety, and will continuously deplete your inner peace and compassion.
In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty discusses why we should stop trying to change others and instead, focus on loving ourselves through cultivating patience, tolerance, and compassion.
Key Takeaways:
01:29 Have you tried changing someone in your life? 02:25 Top 3 reasons couples fight: money, sex, children 03:36 The reasons why we try to change others 05:08 In trying to positively impact the world, we are changing ourselves 05:45 3 things that happen when we try to change people 08:01 Reason #1: We care more for comfort than change 12:52 Reason #2: We can’t understand others because of own narrow thinking 15:20 Reason #3: We think we are always right 18:04 Reason #4: We don’t understand the value of diversity 20:40 Change and the motivation to change are an inside jobLike this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!
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Dr. Shefali (@DrShefali) joins Jay Shetty to talk about overcoming the objectification of feminine energy and how this suppression holds many women back from embracing their power
She is a New York Times best-selling author and a clinical psychologist specializing in the integration of Western psychology and Eastern philosophy. She is an expert in family dynamics and personal development, teaching courses around the globe.
What We Discuss with Dr. Shefali:
00:00 Intro 02:19 Women are the nurturing emblem for our children 03:21 How women’s power has been dampened and weakened over time 09:06 Getting lost in the idea of containing another person as possession 12:49 First step to radical awakening 16:16 Women are conditioned to keep it all together 20:23 Finding the motivation and inspiration to keep moving 23:59 A lot of women are putting everyone before themselves 31:21 Why men move on faster in any situation 34:22 When we internalize the concept of objectification 46:47 Embracing emptiness: we are all the mirrors of each other 50:28 Dr. Shefali on Final FiveLike this show? Please leave us a review here - even one sentence helps! Post a screenshot of you listening on Instagram & tag us so we can thank you personally!
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If you’re unsure what went wrong in your last relationship, your current one may not last very long either... that is, until you learn why.
It might come as a surprise when you learn that the answer is simple, and it lies within you. The power to lasting relationships doesn’t depend on who your partner is, but your level of commitment.
In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty unpacks the top reasons relationships fail and what you can do to make them last.
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Money. Kids. Parents. Housework. These are the pieces of everyday life that we either work with or against and sometimes it’s difficult to remember that our partner is on our team. It’s often said that practice makes perfect. But who knew that we should also be practicing how we argue with our partner?
On this episode of On Purpose with Jay Shetty, Jay explains three strategies on how to conduct better arguments to find the root cause and move past conflict.
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