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Today’s Ramblings episode is brought to you by 2 weeks of insomnia off the back of the eclipse portal, Easter holidays and general creative mad-brain.
The question I’m loosely exploring is, Do soul-led creativity and entrepreneurship really mix?
Some juicy morsels to look forward to in this episode:
* Flipping the energetic switch on our “failings” and “limitations”
* Produce-led art vs soul-led creativity, and being fundamentally wired for the latter
* The era of entrepreneurship & its benefits
* The ick factor of soul-led creative business
* Capitalism, financial expectations, PDA and the creative contribution
* Entrepreneurship, chronic illness and neurodiversity
* Now is the time for soul-led creatives to be valued and supported
* The imminent change in our financial culture - community resourcing
* Understanding and learning about each others needs & gifts equally
* Releasing the burden of guilt, shame & doubt behind the creative contribution
* The double-edged, hollow sword of government funding
* The much-needed, mammoth contribution soul-led creatives give the world
* Heralding in new ways of being through art
Listen in now and tell us what you think!
💗MAKE ME A BEAUTIFUL OFFER!💗
In this week’s Substack I talked about not getting the arts funding I so wanted and committing to pursue my big vision of a room-sized energy-landscape art installation myself - however I possibly can!
So I’m having a one-time studio sale where all my paintings are “pay what you want”! Yup, and you can even pay in instalments.
Once I’ve raised the funds I need to move forward, the sale will be over, so this really is the chance of a lifetime to check out my catalogue and choose something your heart is drooling over for your sacred space 😍.
After that it’s just a matter of sitting with it and feeling into a heart-glowing offer and sending it to me!
TIP FOR ANXIOUS TYPES:
if it feels really good to you in your heart, it will feel really good for me too!
Alternatively, simply pick one of the following offers:
£300, £600, or £1000 💗
So make me a beautiful offer today and help me begin to realise my BIG VISION ove the coming months! THANK YOU 🙏.
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This week, just as we emerge into the burnishing light of Ostara, I am bringing you a celebration!
2024 to me feels like it has a very unique energy to it, and 4 years after the world changed completely, it is giving me some very clear messages about how to BE in the world as we move forward.
So this dropped in for me recently - the celebration not just of “successful” women, but specifically unbound.
Unbound - those who have by necessity freed themselves from the shackles of patriarchal culture and done things THEIR way. Deprogrammed, deconditioned, Reclaiming, remembering, reintegrating and re-honouring what it really means to be a woman in all her divine feminine power - not just being a “good girl”!
But this is all just some chit-chat to get us started. The REAL conversations are happening with the women I’m celebrating - in their own words.
And this week I’m thrilled to start off with Ceryn Rowntree and The Divine Feminist. Today I read a few pages from her wonderfully affirming, nuanced and honest take on The Divine Feminine and why it’s not about “man-hating”; but most importantly, why the conversation goes SO much deeper and wider than we’ve been allowed to voice until fairly recently.
You can find Ceryn at CerynRowntree.com and on instagram at @cerynrowntree and @divine.feminist. She’s also right here on Substack at Ceryn Rowntree 😍
Listen in now and tell us what you think!
💗MAKE ME A BEAUTIFUL OFFER!💗
In this week’s Substack I talked about not getting the arts funding I so wanted and committing to pursue my big vision of a room-sized energy-landscape art installation myself - however I possibly can!
So I’m having a one-time studio sale where all my paintings are “pay what you want”! Yup, and you can even pay in instalments.
Once I’ve raised the funds I need to move forward, the sale will be over, so this really is the chance of a lifetime to check out my catalogue and choose something your heart is drooling over for your sacred space 😍.
After that it’s just a matter of sitting with it and feeling into a heart-glowing offer and sending it to me!
TIP FOR ANXIOUS TYPES:
if it feels really good to you in your heart, it will feel really good for me too!
So make me a beautiful offer today and help me begin to realise my BIG VISION ove the coming months! THANK YOU 🙏.
Be sure to subscribe to receive my videos on all of these themes and more in the coming weeks!
Thanks for engaging! I’d love to connect - pop your details below and let’s have some fun 😍
Want more? Try these!
💖 Read my Pleasure-embodiment diary:
Is pleasure the ultimate state of acceptance?
💖 Join in my Lunacy Circle
💖 Order my book, It’s Written in the Stars: Poems, reflections & transmutations on becoming
Share this episode with your tribe! 💗
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Most of us have grown up in a world where feelings - especially “big” feelings are not deemed appropriate, acceptable or even relevant within our society.
So we’ve learned to stuff them down, routinely numb them and avoid, dismiss and gaslight them - within ourselves as well as in those around us.
And yes - I’m talking about the HIGHS as well as the lows! This is going to make you self-reflect on those celebration moments for yourself in particular!
Our big feelings are the GOLDEN CORE of our humanity, and learning to honour, acknowledge and healthily process and EXPRESS these feelings are the key to our evolution, both individually and as a species.
Listen in for some absolute gems on:
* How to recognise emotional funkiness beneath the surface
* What to do about that when it feels icky
* When numbing is actually OK, and
* Ultimately how to harness the POWER of your big feelings for expansive magic in your life!
Watch this episode on YouTube:
Be sure to subscribe to receive my videos on all of these themes and more in the coming weeks!
Thanks for engaging! I’d love to connect - pop your details below and let’s have some fun 😍
Want more? Try these!
💖 Read my Pleasure-embodiment diary:
Is pleasure the ultimate state of acceptance?
💖 Join in my Lunacy Circle
💖 Order my book, It’s Written in the Stars: Poems, reflections & transmutations on becoming
Share this episode with your tribe! 💗
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Do you ever feel really stuck in who you think, or even feel, you are? Perhaps you think you can’t possibly do the things your heart yearns for, or be the person you most dream of. Or maybe you just feel contracted by these times of overwhelm, and can’t see how to react any differently?
If any of this resonates, this special meditation episode of the podcast is for you!
Yes, this festive, solstice week I’m bringing you a powerful, loving, gently transformational meditation to shift you beyond those well-worn neural and nervous system pathways, into the soul of you as seen - and viscerally felt - from ALL parts of you.
This is definitely one to sit with this solstice, and through the reflective, integrative time of the holidays and new year.
Resonate at the vibration you most desire. Rise up. You are becoming! Breathe your way into expansiveness. Journey from your corporeal manifestation, right out through the layers to your most infinite self. Leave behind your insecurities, self-doubts, worries, and fears. Move your energy beyond your perceived limitations, conditioned beliefs, and ego-driven contracted states. Ease into your most infinite potential self, connected intricately to the entire living earth and cosmos.
If you enjoyed this episode, please share it!
And leave me a review on your podcast platform - it only takes 2 minutes and means the world of difference to my audience reach! 😍
More things to peruse & enjoy:
💖 Read my Pleasure-embodiment diary:
Is pleasure the ultimate state of acceptance?
💖 Join in my Lunacy Circle
💖 Order my book, It’s Written in the Stars: Poems, reflections & transmutations on becoming
Share this episode with your tribe! 💗
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Is your self worth intrinsically linked to our societal values of what is “worth” living for? e.g.:
* Productivity & Gold-star seeking
* Good girl syndrome
* Taking up space
* Standing out / being “loud” & wacky
* Money worth
How is this affecting you and your mental/emotional, physical and spiritual health?
Can we radically shift our personal values system by coming back to the roots of our feminine instead, through:
* Unconditional love, nurture & caring
* Wisdom vs knowledge - ancestral, embodied, intuitive
* Understanding & embracing our natural biorhythms
* The intangible and multi-sensory- the ethereal, energetics of connection and nature
* Creativity - big and little c! Intellectual vs embodied, expressive creativity and releasing expectations/ tangible goals.
* Intuitive trust & faith
What else do you consider to be fundamental values - personal and collective - which actually help you feel valued?
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Be sure to subscribe to receive my videos on all of these themes and more in the coming weeks!
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Is pleasure the ultimate state of acceptance?
💖 Join in my Lunacy Circle
💖 Order my book, It’s Written in the Stars: Poems, reflections & transmutations on becoming
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Introducing my brand new podcast series, Ramblings of a Madwoman!
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Some themes I will cover in this exciting new series:
🎇 The VALUE of the Feminine - why hasn’t it been valued traditionally, and how have we embodied that within ourselves and our society?
🎇 Money and community - how we can expect a big change in this realm, and what we can begin to do to make that shift more comfortable!
🎇 The pivotal role of feelings in our human evolution - why it’s so important to relearn this now, particularly in how to process big feelings.
🎇 Wisdom vs knowledge - which is more crucial at this time and why?
🎇 How to say YES to our No - exploring our boundaries, power and presence.
🎇 Understanding our Avoidance Habits
Be sure to subscribe to receive my videos on all of these themes and more in the coming weeks!
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Thanks for engaging! I’d love to connect - pop your details below and let’s have some fun 😍
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We jump RIGHT in here - no introductions, no ceremony. Imagine you’re eavesdropping in on a *really* juicy conversation at the next table 😄.
This was such a touching, vulnerable conversation with Kathy Bell - Breathwork Healer, Spiritual Mentor & Soul Connection Guide.
We go really deep into childhood numbness and emotional challenges due to sensitivity, what it means to be a “sensitive” person, and how we can learn to heal the misfit/‘difficult’ label through re-mothering ourselves. If you were ever at a loss to understand your own or others’ sensitivity we cover myriad examples, including but not limited to, the challenge of ‘worthiness’, being a sponge to our family’s energies, being labelled ‘inconsistent’ in business, reclaiming our cycles and natural rhythms, stepping into ‘selfishness’ and energetic sovereignty, and so much more.
This is truly one for all the misfits, rebels, those who have never felt “good enough” and anyone who has felt they needed to numb or ‘normalise’ their emotions to fit into our world’s systems, structures and expectations.
Check out the timestamps below for teasers!
Watch this episode on Youtube:
00:25 What were Kathy’s big dreams as a girl, and what happened to them?
“There’s a lot when it comes to childhood stuff, and I think for so many of us it’s still very raw”
Lack of joy and shutting down emotionally as a child
03:15 Childhood depression and what it revealed to her
“I was very sensitive, quite lonely - but I loved dolphins, art and nature”
The adult pressure of finding joy in our younger selves
06:50 The problem with snapshot memories and what’s often beneath them
Not feeling worthy or “good enough” at 4 years old
How we try and control our emotions through our environment, and learn this from an early age
09:30 Visions and dreams, and wanting to be a marine biologist
How we learn from a young age to limit our dreams
11:00 How do you explain what you do now?
“It’s the most awkward question you could ask me!”
On fitting your soul work into bureaucratic, system-driven boxes
12:40 How our soul work evolves and changes
“A lot of it is just, I show up as myself”
Being a way-shower and sharing our own learning
16:35 The huge gap between wearing a badge / costume and showing up as our full selves
“It is actually so frigging hard to share your vulnerabilities in the way that you’re called to”
On dealing with being “inconsistent” in traditional business expectations
20:35 On being a perpetual misfit and “changing our minds”
“Change is just following the call of the soul, following the call of the heart”
What happens when we try to force ourselves back to something we’ve evolved through already
22:20 What it feels like to expand our own energies
“What a different place the world would be if you weren’t doing that”
But how do we get out of our own way?
28:05 On stepping into “selfishness”
“I’d held and done and sacrificed so much, I was coming from a place of ‘I really fucking deserve this’”
“I want to be able to control my own happiness”
30:00 How Kathy learned to process the judgement of self-indulgence
“I did have to get over, and get around, and work through, and learn to love the self-indulgent piece”
How we work through societal-imposed perceived restrictions on time, space and resources
34:10 Sensitivity and our soul-expansion
What happens to you physically when you fail to follow your soul-nudges?
“My body is my barometer of happiness”
39:15 Self-sabotage and getting sick
“If something is not going right, I feel it in my body straight away”
Energetic differences between the right and left side of the body
41:35 Being a really sensitive child and how it creates our adulthood reality
“Through childhood, I continued to be the sponge of emotional charge within the family”
Kathy’s book, “The Sensitive Subject: A Parents Guide to Understanding Their Sensitive Child”
45:35 How having children helps us to understand and acknowledge our own “sensitive” traits
“When I felt like her as a child it was more like, ‘what’s wrong with me?’”
Internalising the unknown as a judgement that something is wrong with us
48:45 What does sensitivity mean for us, for our children, and for humanity now?
“Yes I’m sensitive but I know how to take care of myself. I’m energetically sovereign.”
What does ‘energetic sovereignty’ even look like? (Do you STILL carry crystals in your bra?!)
50:04 Beyond victimhood: sensitivity as a gift
“Sensitivity is now my gift. It allows me to hold space. It allows me to really feel and tune into emotions”
Depression as a narrowed range of emotions and suppressing our sensitivity
54:30 What numbing out really means, and why it’s not a solution
How does it feel to actually sit with and IN our emotions, whatever those are?
On learning not to avoid, suppress or identify with our emotions
57:30 How do we unravel “I’m not good enough”?
Learning to surrender to all the messy, “ugly”, shadow stuff
“We allow autumn to happen. We allow nature to be messy and muddy and murky.”
58:45 Allowing our cycles and understanding that death MUST happen
“If we can… bring the love and affection and reverence that we have for outer nature to our inner nature, we create this beautiful cycle of acceptance”
Blanding, averaging and normalising in order to maintain the status quo
61:45 When will we move beyond the industrial revolution?
“The world is going to need us”
The need for human empathy, intuition, holding space and reading the energies and subtle differences within a roomful of people
You can connect with Kathy here:
https://www.kathybell.uk
https://www.instagram.com/kathy.bell_/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/166772885032016
Kathy’s book, The Sensitive Subject: https://amzn.to/3vb8ib
Find more about me at:
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https://www.facebook.com/zoekmfoster
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We jump RIGHT in here - no introductions, no ceremony. Imagine you’re eavesdropping in on a *really* juicy conversation at the next table 😄.
This was such an illuminating and invigorating conversation with Hayley North - soul-aligned business coach and wild rebel.
We really get expansive in this one, going deep into the missing pieces of the puzzle that is our world today, and in particular the issues of chronic illness and creating a truly aligned business that works with, instead of against, our nature. As part of the whole we discuss what it means to live within and as part of our rhythms, cycles and nature itself, and why we would choose to separate ourselves from all of this.
I think this episode may well blow your mind. A great episode for a Sunday to set you up for the week ahead :)
Check out the timestamps below for teasers!
Watch this episode on Youtube:
00:20 The wild, fiery rebellion of Hayley North
Rewilding ourselves and our businesses
The core value of creativity and how it shows up
05:50 Whole body expression: metalsmithing, dance and beyond
“You can express more with bigger pieces”
Bringing the body awareness and attunement piece into our business
07:15 The missing piece of the business puzzle
“I always rejected the idea of ‘business’” - on boring, greyscale “Business”
“It’s like the ultimate creative energy to take a vision and an idea and bring it into reality”
10:00 On re-harmonising the energy of the planet
“I want to see the environment and people and the animals and everything within that flourish in harmony with one another”
Redressing the masculine-feminine energy imbalance
11:50 What does a more feminine approach look like?
“There is a sense of creating something to have a positive impact”
The key component of integration
13:15 What it means to fall into masculine-energy aversion
Separation from our feminine energies at a young age and how this manifests
“If I was doing, and I was being productive, and I was active and I was ‘busy’, then I was valuable”
16:20 The Shadow Masculine vs the Evolved Masculine
Being so immersed in the masculine systems that we are disconnected from our own cycles
Where rewilding comes in
20:25 Hayley’s journey through extreme burnout
Resetting, realigning and reconnecting with natural rhythms and cycles
Introducing “sacred time”, boundaries and phasing out artificial lighting
23:10 “Why do I feel driven to show up that way? Why do I feel compelled to always be ‘on’?”
Hayley’s big awakening
“It was like my legs had been kicked out from underneath me”
27:20 Fighting our own biology
“It’s why there’s so much chronic illness in the world right now”
Our co-evolution with nature and manmade separation from that
28:30 Is there a place for our hierarchical systems?
“It’s such a deluded way of seeing things, that we sit at the top on our perch above everything else”
Multidimensionality and interconnectedness
29:50 What does business look like, for 99.9% of them?
Integration, embodiment and tangible spirituality in business, government and beyond
The fully-embodied mechanics of manifestation, in real life (not just think and you’ll receive)
33:30 Merging science and spirituality and using each to make sense of the other
“The majority of spiritual traditions contain a whole lot more information than science has yet been able to measure in a tangible way”
Multiverses, “other” consciousness and beyond!
36:30 How does Hayley come back to her core self and purpose?
“It brings me back to 1, my insignificance and 2, how I’m part of everything - how I’m everywhere and everything all at once”
Reconnecting to the wholeness of everything and moving beyond survival consciousness
41:05 Cold water swimming chat
Why on earth would you cold shower?
Zoë’s secret alchemical recipe for maximum energetic cleansing and reinvigoration!
44:35 Evolving our rhythms and routines
Humanity’s Bernard’s Watch moment
“Going forward it’s going to be about building connection and collaboration and working as a collective”
50:05 The real work of transformation - getting comfortable with the unfamiliar
Being IN and AS all of it, and allowing it to process through us
You can connect with Hayley here:
https://hayleyknorth.com
https://www.instagram.com/hayley.k.north/
https://www.facebook.com/hayleyknorth
Find more about me at:
zoekmfoster.com
https://www.facebook.com/zoekmfoster
https://www.instagram.com/zoekmfoster
Get intimate with me in my studio! Join me Behind the Paint.
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We jump RIGHT in here - no introductions, no ceremony. Imagine you’re eavesdropping in on a *really* juicy conversation at the next table 😄.
This was a delightfully fun, connective and thoroughly relatable conversation with Becky Wright - professional brand photographer and virtual photoshoot pioneer.
In this episode, we go deep into what it means to be creative - especially when life becomes ultra-challenging and we need to problem-solve our way out quickly! Becky relays how she struggled to find a valued place for her creativity until she settled on photography, and then the pandemic hit! We cover school career testing, what Becky’s younger self would say about her “job” now, and why being self-employed in the year 2021 means having to evolve at an ever-increasing rate, and lean into our creativity with full faith more than any other generation.
If you’re a struggling creative, or feel like you need permission to really trust your creativity, this episode is for you!
Check out the timestamps below for teasers!
Watch this episode on Youtube:
00:10 What to do when you don’t feel like “marketing”…
Showing up every day and putting yourself out there multiple times a day
The harmful myth of “The more you put out there, the more you’re gonna get”
03:10 Feeding the machine of social media
On quantity vs quality
“As a creative, I just couldn’t put out work that I didn’t like or didn’t believe in”
06:45 Creating a business that reflects and honours ourselves
How Becky created the niche that lit up her soul AND made her money
The challenges 2020 brought us as creatives and how Becky rode the waves
10:15 Turning cancellations into a creative opportunity
Why Becky shifted from wedding photography to small business owners
Dealing with criticism within the industry
15:30 Being pushed into being MORE creative in finding solutions for the evolution of our businesses
How we’ve learned to let go of the “way things should be”
Making photoshoots super-accessible, even during lockdown
21:35 What Becky’s younger self would feel about the life she’s created
Growing up and embracing her creativity within a scientific family
“The creativity has always been there, but I didn’t, for a very long time, have the confidence to do anything with it”
26:25 On being the generation that HAS to continually evolve in business
Navigating uncertainty, unpredictability and rapid changes in technology and social connection
“I think we’ve had to be very adaptive and [we]’ve just gotta remain open minded”
28:10 Anything is possible - and it can be really quick
Introducing the “fuck-it muscle”!
“The alternative is ‘Do nothing’ or try doing something and fail at doing it, but like, fuck it!”
31:05 “I basically use ‘Fuck it!” now to shut my anxiety up”
Embodying the understanding that we’re here for more
Becky’s journey through egg-freezing to alleviate pressure over finding “Mr Right”
35:20 “It’s scary at times the speed at which things are changing and progressing”
Is the education system serving the next generation?
“What our kids can grow up to do and be is so much more limitless”
38:10 Traditional career testing and what it brought up for Becky!
The no. 1 thing her private education could have resulted in
“There’s just so many more options for what you can do with your life to make money”
41:20 The path of the “starving artist”
“For anybody who’s up and coming in the creative world, there’s LOTS of opportunity there”
How the pandemic campaign for artists to “retrain” backfired with a bang!
43:45 “We need to stand up for ourselves and NOT be undervalued”
The immense capacity to problem-solve arising from the uncertainty and unknowns (esp during a pandemic)
The role of play and allowing it
45:05 How Becky literally rewired the rules of creativity for herself
“Same outcome - looked a bit different - I was told it was WRONG”
Embracing the space between “right” and “wrong”, and moving beyond the concept of “failure”
49:20 “I feel like I’ve come back to my true course even MORE than what I was on before”
The creative soul gifts within the upheaval
How Becky brings it all back to centre
54:20 When Becky time-travelled to chat with her older self….
“For all of the crap I’ve endured, it’s totally been worth it, because there’s glitter in that crap!”
The real formula for happiness which we’re not told about
You can connect with Becky here:
beckywrightbrandphotography.com
http://instagram.com/beckywright_brandphotography
https://www.instagram.com/beckys_virtualphotoshoots/
http://facebook.com/beckywright_brandphotography
Find more about me at:
zoekmfoster.com
https://www.facebook.com/zoekmfoster
https://www.instagram.com/zoekmfoster
Get intimate with me in my studio! Join me Behind the Paint.
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We jump RIGHT in here - no introductions, no ceremony. Imagine you’re eavesdropping in on a *really* juicy conversation at the next table 😄.
This was a profoundly revealing and expansive conversation with Serena Davidson - founder of The Free Range Sex Movement.
In this episode, Serena reveals exactly what it was like to be raised in a cult and to be subjected to chronic trauma and abuse until she made the decision to leave everything behind in her early 20s. We discuss the parallels of what was systemic in her world, taken to extremes, with what women are still experiencing as “normal” in our current society. And as Serena’s tells of her own journey towards a “sacred sexuality and wholeness”, we uncover exactly what that might mean, how it feels, and why it is so entwined with self-sovereignty, self-awareness, self-love and our capacity for increased pleasure.
This may be a triggering episode for some, as it covers sexual and emotional abuse, yet it is also deeply moving and heart-opening. There is so much nourishment in this conversation for all genders, all orientations, and all fully-consenting ages.
Check out the timestamps below for teasers!
Watch this episode on Youtube:
00:33 From being raised in a cult to embracing mystical spirituality
Trauma and inhibitive sexual abuse to intuitive sexuality
“It was such a high degree of shame and guilt that it crossed the line into abuse.”
02:55 Oppression of the feminine and being told sexuality was “bad”
“The natural flow of healthy development was cut off because of fear and control”
Healing and facing her spiritual fears
04:00 Serena’s spontaneous kundalini awakening
Sacred sexuality, embodying the present moment and energetic release
“If I’d had an ‘orgasm’ then we were both in trouble and needed to be reproved and reprimanded”
08:50 Being raised with fundamentally harmful beliefs around sexuality
“We weren’t taught to listen to our heart, we weren’t taught to listen to our body”
Separation from our own inner guidance and innate wisdom as a method of control
10:00 The recipe for “success” which broke her body
“I treated my body like a machine instead of an animal that needed tenderness and care and compassion”
Learning to get into her body and emotions
12:10 The honesty of our body’s deep, inner knowing
Losing her entire community of everyone she’d known
“Huge losses, huge self-sacrifice just to live a life of self-sovereignty”
18:25 Self-sovereignty as independence vs inter-dependence
Generational suppression
Why ex- Jehova’s Witnesses loved The Matrix
22:05 20 years on - where is she now?
Disability, chronic illness and processing decades of pain
“I’m coming into a new fullness of my whole self”
25:20 Why “intuitive sexuality”?
What are the right questions to be asking about sex?
“What does it require of me to feel my best in an experience?”
27:05 Understanding our own sexuality: identity, orientation and beyond
Spectrums of sexuality and embodying true awareness
31:00 Serena’s motivation every day
Learning to embrace her capacity for joy to arise
The place of intentional, ceremonial grief work
32:35 Widening our emotional bandwidth: from the depths to ecstasy
“Being able to attain ecstasy, being able to have that emotional range to be able to grasp the ecstatic”
The real truth of “self-love” and “embodiment”
34:05 How does self-love FEEL?
“The important thing to identify is, ‘what is self-love for ME?’”
Sexuality as a microcosm
35:35 One thing you can do today to radically improve your self-love
Do this every day for a week, a month, or 90 days
“It’s money in the bank emotionally”
41:15 The emotional labour we take on as women
“I don’t need to smile just for you to feel pleasant right now”
How this affects our sex lives
43:00 The problem with performance-based sex
Self-conscious considerations take us out of the moment
What is the spiritual experience of our sexuality?
44:30 What it feels like to have a spiritual experience during sex
Moving beyond the “mystical” idea of spirituality
“It’s just this vivaciousness and vibrancy of life flowing through you”
48:35 What about porn?
Heart-space connection, awareness of feelings and exploring our own self-pleasure
Fast food vs home-made christmas dinner!
51:35 “How much pleasure can you stand?”
Tuning into your own sensuality in all areas of life
Slowing down, enjoying the journey
53:20 How does Serena come back to her own sensuality?
“When I pause and check in with my body and my heart, I get new information”
Breath, tuning into the body and ecstatic dance
58:36 “Am I being too ‘me’?”
Traumatic childhoods and how we struggle to own our identities
How long does it take to heal?
60:00 “Our sexuality is our whole health”
Genitals, fetishism, censorship, shame culture and beyond
Integrating our sexuality as part of our wholeness
You can connect with Serena here:
Freerangesex.org
https://www.facebook.com/FreeRangeSex/
https://www.instagram.com/freerangesex/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvg0PdvCXj7Dj7S1tMJxDQA
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We jump RIGHT in here - no introductions, no ceremony. Imagine you’re eavesdropping in on a *really* juicy conversation at the next table 😄.
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This was an utterly magical and deeply honest conversation with Jo Gifford - content marketer for changemakers and all-round wild soul.
In this episode we explore a lot around identity - especially what it means to be female, including the seismic shifts of motherhood and our monthly cycles. Together we share our own stories of struggling against “good-girlness”, “not-enoughness” and our previous disconnection from our bodies. As this interview took place just before the UK exited its 3rd lockdown in April 2020, we also dive into how that feels to re-emerge and reintegrate with the world, and Jo shares all the ways she is helping herself stay sane, grounded and committed to her daily adventure of becoming “more Jo”.
Jo is always such a delight to chat with and this convo delivers on all her key gifts of connection, not least her profound humility and ability to keep things utterly real! There is a tonne of magic in this episode. Grab a cuppa and some chocolate and tune right in :)
Check out the timestamps below for teasers!
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00:30 What would Jo’s 5-year-old self say about her now?
“You came back, you found the magic again!”
Magic, reality and perception - and the confidence of our younger selves.
03:15 Seeking approval and love and healing from that
“Undoing the good-girlness”
The journey through accumulating accolades to “enoughness” and beyond
05:30 Owning our adulthood and relinquishing the need for approval
The mirror of parenthood
“In my 40s is where I’ve really stepped into ‘This is who I am’”
07:20 The label of Motherhood and how it affects our sense of Self
“I feel like my identity was obliterated”
The rapid loss of structures, systems, support and feeling valued
09:40 “Oh wow! I’m invisible now!”
How we treat new mothers simply as carriers
The difficulty in talking about motherhood issues openly
12:15 The rapid identity shifts that take place as our kids grow up
“What it is to be a mum of tweens is completely different than it is to be a mum of toddlers”
“I’m relearning pieces of me again, but also letting go of that identity of motherhood in a different way”
13:40 Perimenopause and loss of Motherhood
“There’s a lot of hormones going on in everyone’s houses when that happens!”
Why is this not talked about?
14:50 The generational knowledge gap, and how misunderstood menopause really is
“This is a beautiful, sacred part of our feminine journey an even more badass, wiser version!”
Our feminine cycles are not supported in our society as standard, in any way
17:10 How and why Jo withdrew herself from the coil and how it affected her
“Then I got to my cycles again!”
The incredible power of self-knowledge and awareness around our cycles
19:40 Masking symptoms, disconnecting from our body and using the pill
“We were doing the best we could at the time, we were being responsible!”
How we can now model to our daughters the self-compassion we’ve learned the hard way
20:45 “Women are the gateway of life!”
Reductive notions of productivity and lists are not in alignment with our innate magic
22:05 What wisdom would Jo pass down to her girls?
“Trust when your body says no, trust when you have a gut feeling about something - trust your intuition because it’s there and it’s powerful”
The challenges of getting our kids to listen!
23:55 Embodying and modelling what our kids will absorb and remember
Gratitude journalling, tapping, breath-work, yoga and more
“Making stuff normal”
28:20 Owning our identity vs the challenges of parenting during lockdown
“I’m chronically desperate for my own space!”
Anxiety around reintegration with other people after lockdown
31:55 The Joy of Missing Out - freedom from obligatory trips, visits and meet-ups
“What shall we do at the weekend? Nothing! GREAT!”
Boundaries and making time to come back to ourselves
33:20 “Trees and nature are my mainstay. It just plugs us back in, to breathe a little bit on our own.”
Cold wild swimming as the most instant re-access to self
Centring through breathwork, journalling, immersion in nature and yoga, dancing etc.
36:05 Coping with the really heavy days: physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually
“What’s a little thing that I can do that might plug me back in?”
Tiny steps and talking kindly to ourselves
41:45 Setting yourself a timer to just let it out
“I’m gonna bawl and howl for ten minutes - I’m gonna let myself just go with it.”
Showing up in our entirety
44:05 What keeps Jo motivated to keep becoming more of herself?
“I’m loving and relishing the adventure of becoming more Jo - without social approval, pre-designed destinations or inheriting goals that aren’t mine”
Leaning into play and trusting to cycles
47: 00 “If I do the work - if I talk about that journey, that stuff in my own way - then maybe it serves a couple of people, and that is amazing”
Relating it all back to our cycles: “I can usually tell by my inner talk where I am in my cycle”
Losing faith and going into comparison, hustle mode and wanting to burn it all down
50:10 Normalising and modelling “social media fasting” for everyone
Bringing it all back to humanity’s core need right now
“People need space to be heard, to be witnessed: compassion”
You can connect with Jo here:
https://www.jogifford.co
https://www.instagram.com/thejogifford/
https://www.facebook.com/jo.jogifford
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We jump RIGHT in here - no introductions, no ceremony. Imagine you’re eavesdropping in on a *really* juicy conversation at the next table 😄.
This was a gorgeously connected, fun and insightful conversation with Kate Moores - expressive figurative artist and creator of Creative Hands Courses.
In this episode we really explore what it means to be an artist and how it feels to have had that suppressed from an early age. Kate openly talks about her lifelong struggles and why she is so full of joy and gratitude now, at the age of 50. We also talk about society’s attitudes towards “naked nudes” and our endemic prudishness - reflected in rules of ‘appropriateness’ and censorship - around the body in all its forms, both real and interpreted through art.
I really loved this convo and I feel there are so many deep truths in here for everyone - whether you relate as a creative or not. The part around body consciousness and attitudes is particularly resonant and topical right now.
Check out the timestamps below for teasers!
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01:05 Welcome to Kate’s studio!
The “messy” side and the “tidy” side
How we inhabit our spaces and make the most of them
02:55 Space, embodied expansion and energy
How are we limiting ourselves within our spaces?
04:05 On not caring what the neighbours think
Having open, deep conversations loud and proud
Breaking down old boundaries of “what’s acceptable”
06:25 The “rat race” lifestyle is being questioned
“There’s other ways of being”
07:55 How does Kate describe herself?
Her journey of liberation and gratitude
What she uses as a visual anchor every day
09:55 The hundred days’ project
How & why she committed to 100 days of life-drawing
“I have this old story of being a flake, of not being able to finish things.”
12:25 How she transformed her own body consciousness
“I thought it would be horrific”
“It’s really changed my body positivity”.
14:25 Intentionally using mood to influence her art
Creating intentionally-enhanced body art
Body-love and objective connectivity through sacred expression
16:40 Creating self-love pieces for others
“Hung on a wall, other people wouldn’t necessarily go, ‘OMG that’s YOU!’”
17:50 Movement and music in Kate’s art
“I just have to stand and move and dance while I’m drawing”
Embodied, energy-infused art vs static creation
19:50 “We’re often conditioned to sit and draw nicely”
Making the shift from the detailed, analytical and realistic to abstract, expressive and energetic
“I’m an emotional, expressive person, so it would be weird for my art to not be like that.”
22:05 “For me, it all stems really from not feeling seen or heard”
Suppression, permission and feeling dismissed as a person
How forced subject choice at school affects our entire sense of self
25:15 “I’ve absorbed this idea that I was not allowed to be an artist”
Coming back to art fully at the age of 50
The idea of productivity and usefulness in our expression
27:15 On having a “slash and burn mother”!
“I’m really adamant that we can change the whole myth around being a struggling artist”
Moving from a “father-approved job” to starting a business with her partner
31:25 Why life drawing?
Sensualty, synaesthesia and honouring the magnificence of the body
Getting messy and being inside a very visceral experience
37:25 “Expressing people through art - I think it helps them see something different in themselves”
Transmuting the self through art
How does it feel to be drawn?
39:10 “There’s something really ancient and primal about seeing it in materials”
Using charcoal and mark-making language
41:05 The prudishness reaction to seeing “naked nudes” on show!
“There’s this battle between personal safety and being expressive”
The problem with nipples…
43:40 “It’s predominantly the female form, predominantly from the male gaze”
Feeling exposed and uncomfortable in our own sexuality
There is NO NORM around female body choices - yet we feel deeply vulnerable in “showing” certain parts of ourselves
48:20 How social media automatically censors the body as an art form
“There’s still often things that have been looked at by a human being and they’ve gone, ‘No I still think that’s a bit rude’”
50:20 The balance between making money and following her soul-calling
“This does just set my soul on fire, because the human body is extraordinary”
How we tend to deny and ‘disinfect’ parts of our wholeness in seeking approval and conformity
52:50 The role of art in social change
Exploding the ‘average’, mainstream way of things and uncovering the breadth available to us
54:55 What motivates Kate each day to keep exploring this path?
“I have nothing to lose”
“Now I’m out, there’s no way anyone is putting me back in the box!”
56:35 On expressing our opinions and being heard
“Who wants to be a soulless box?”
Doing anything you want and living a limitless life
You can connect with Kate here:
https://www.katemooresartist.com
https://www.instagram.com/katemooresartist/
https://www.facebook.com/katemooresartist28
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We jump RIGHT in here - no introductions, no ceremony. Imagine you’re eavesdropping in on a *really* juicy conversation at the next table 😄.
This was a profoundly searching, affirmative and expansive conversation with Katy Henry - 5 Elements practitioner and creator of the The Energetic Self Success System.
In this episode we cover our insidious disconnection from nature and how it is affecting our energetic (whole) wellbeing, the key role of connecting to our soul purpose, and healing generational trauma as we seek to dismantle the systems which created it. All in all, a really meaty, curious convo grounded in Katy’s open sharing of some of her most vulnerable times. This one is for you especially if you identify as sensitive, empathic and have struggled with feeling disempowered.
Check out the timestamps below for teasers!
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00:10 Katy’s “first lockdown” - 5 years ago
Stepping away from biz, separation, cancer & menopause
“My soul was saying ‘I want to do something else’”
02:10 Buying a motorhome, a puppy and leaving everything behind
03:20 Trying to fight Mother Nature, uprising & dismantling constructs
“The way in which we continue to do business is not sustainable”
Taking care of the whole
04:40 “We ARE nature”
Living in the seasons, ebb and flow, rewilding and connecting with nature
Being part of the system AND trying to dismantle it
07:10 On being both vastly insignificant AND significant!
Connecting to source, earth and beyond
Visceral connection and its transformative powers
11:30 Evolving our soul’s purpose and deepening connection
“We can only ever be responsible for how we show up for ourselves and others”
Relationship to source vs religious worship
13:35 Healing our own relationship to patriarchal religious doctrine
“I’ve taken myself back into church”
Sacred energy, space, worship and ceremony
14:15 The loss of sacred rituals within our everyday life
Being disconnected from nature and even how we feed ourselves
Biochemical and energetic disconnection
17:20 The 2 main things which have moved us out of balance
“We should be hibernating”
Circadian and lunar rhythms - creating disharmony within our energetic system
19:15 Moving knackered energy around doesn’t heal depletion
We need nourishment
21:10 Burnout and what it really looks like
True adrenal fatigue and associated conditions take a LONG time to heal from
Inflammation, emotional imbalance and intense vibrational shifts
22:55 The energetic & emotional shifts in our young people
On sensitivity and emotional intelligence
Generational shifts: we all have our role
26:40 “It astounds me - the wisdom that sits within us”
Each generation does the best it can
Emotional neglect and abuse and how we are healing that
29:25 “If we don’t feel safe and we don’t feel we matter, we’re working with trauma”
Has our collective empathy grown?
Social polarisation and being an energetic mediator in today’s world
32:20 Hurt people, blame culture and the damage caused by labelling others
“We hear the messages and we then believe them”
33:15 The energy of things and polarisation: Racism
Microaggressions vs overtness
“The fear and ignorance that sits within people’s hearts”
36:00 “There’s the hope that we have a kinder and more compassionate, inclusive world”
Our world NEEDS more sensitivity
Opening our eyes and hearts up to MORE
39:20 Sensitive children: celebrating that intuition & connection to energy
Are we either one or the other?
“We’re whole human beings” - divine masculine & feminine soul unity
41:00 Redressing a gross imbalance in masculine & feminine energies
A feminine “uprising” is not taking over: it’s rebalancing
“Domination is not the essence of harmony”
42:55 The constructs of our language and how it enhances polarisation
Masculine energy as “stronger” - reminiscent of having our power taken away
“I just want everyone to get along!”
45:00 Self-compassion, mental health & teen suicide
“I was absolutely in pain - I couldn’t make sense of the world”
The one thing that really helped
46:20 “We’re going against our tide, and it’s going to create resistance in the body”
Coping with injustice, power imbalance and feeling unsafe
Our soul purpose as the key to our emotional wellbeing
48:00 “It’s a learning to love yourself”
Evolving our soul’s purpose and going within
The profound love, honour and acceptance in simplicity
52:20 Shifting soul purpose: opening up to MORE
Deeper connection, harmony and losing our ego
Combining our humanness with our spiritual growth
54:30 Learning to say NO
How we grow up with broken boundaries
Advocating for our children: how do we teach them to really trust themselves?
57:10 “Our bodies know when something’s not right”
Honouring our childrens’ bodies, their truths and their energies
How we systematically strip away their power
You can connect with Katy here:
https://www.activateandadvance.co.uk
https://www.facebook.com/katyhenryactivate
https://www.instagram.com/katyhenryactivate/
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We jump RIGHT in here - no introductions, no ceremony. Imagine you’re eavesdropping in on a *really* juicy conversation at the next table 😄.
This was a really delicious buffet of a conversation with Ebonie Allard - priestess of alchemy and founder of Misfit for Life, guiding lifelong misfits into mavens.
In this episode we go into the difference between personality types and cognitive stacks, and how they are both useful in helping us find our way back to our most “natural” self. Delving deeper, we boldly and unashamedly discuss polarisation of identity - from gender to vaccine choice. Ebonie shares why she is so passionately against a “one size fits all” approach, and in particular, why labels - such as “narcissist” and “codependent” are so unhelpful.
There really is so much to ponder and ruminate on in this convo for everyone, whether you believe in “one true path for all” or are somewhere along the spectrum of individuality.
Check out the timestamps below for teasers!
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01:05 Personality shifts & how we evolve
Operating systems vs personality types & nature vs nurture
“I learned that a lot of my intrinsic nature wasn’t ‘normal’, wasn’t ok”
02:55 Armouring up & adopting a one-size-fits-all role for “success”
Living in a world designed for extroverts
“That is why I believed myself to be introverted - because I had a side for the world and a side for me.”
04:50 Personality typing & “cognitive stacks”
“How we process the world isn’t as simple as ‘introvert’ and ‘extrovert’”
Avoiding boxes and learning to lean into “your most natural self”
07:30 Polarities vs a spectrum
Being “more” than just a type - especially in our “one size fits all” society
“We weren’t designed to compete against one another”.
10:20 Archetypes as your “character”
11:15 External factors which “affect” our personality
Narcissist - empath / dependency relationship
Polarisation of our “typing”
12:15 Our “one size fits all” world in relationships
Moving towards a “custom fit” of belonging, connection, togetherness etc
“These terms are really unhelpful and a side effect of a society that hasn’t given us enough ways to relate to one another”
15:15 Narcissism and generational trauma
“We are not our behaviour” - why labels aren’t helpful
How each generation is doing the best with what they have
19:05 The 3 stages of processing the narcissist-codependent relationship
Understanding - embodiment - expression
“Whatever place you’re in with it now, it will change and it will shift and it will soften”
21:30 What would little Ebonie think of where you are now?
On consciously and unconsciously creating space for our inner child
Being connected to her: “That wasn’t always the case”
24:55 What is Ebonie working on now in her character journey?
“Letting myself be seen in my fullness, my range”
On being less controlled about how others perceive her
27:05 How deep does your armour run?
28:20 How we relate vs how we “know”
When are facts NOT facts?
30:55 The Westernisation of personality typing
“There have not been studies into everybody”
32:30 The identity crisis around THAT vaccine
“There is no animosity, there is no division, there is no binary hate or ‘right’ and ‘wrong’”.
Can we make it OK for people to disagree with one another?
35:55 Whether it is ALL or NOTHING depends on who you are!
“For so many types of people, the ‘one true path’ is a thing for them”
How Ebonie takes her coffee (*may astound you*!)
37:25 Codependent, narcissist, anti-vaxx, vaxxers - what’s in a label?
“We can be dangerously unaware of how hypocritical we’re being”
How to be INClusive rather than EXclusive
39:35 My judgement vs your judgement
“What I see in you I honour in me”
Saying what we see and mirroring our values
41:55 Being a lighthouse for what you stand for
Are you saying it for the sake of controversy/provocation, or as an affirmation and in allyship?
“Sometimes it’s virtue-signalling, and sometimes it’s signalling!”
44:25 Why Ebonie can’t last in a “real” job!
“If I don’t do it, I don’t do anything”
On being eclectic and desperately wanting to be “normal”
48:05 What needs to shift within humanity right now?
Where will we be in 80-90 years?
Uniqueness, equity, and being absolutely true to ourselves within the realms of “We”
51:30 “Being both individual and sovereign, AND part of a collective”
What the utopia needs in order to get there - decluttering!
53:50 Ebonie’s processes to come back to her core
You can connect with Ebonie here:
https://www.ebonieallard.com
https://www.instagram.com/ebonieallard/
http://facebook.com/ebonieallard
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We jump RIGHT in here - no introductions, no ceremony. Imagine you’re eavesdropping in on a *really* juicy conversation at the next table 😄.
This was an absolutely ticklesome and deeply soul-centred conversation with Nicola Humber - author and founder of The Unbound Press.
In this episode we get into the real furballs that make a woman splutter in today’s world, and how we are beginning to unbind ourselves from society’s patriarchal shackles - bras included! We go deep into creativity, writing and what our mini-mes would say about how we live our lives now. Listen in for a really warm, funny and deeply heartfelt convo.
Check out the timestamps below for teasers!
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01:10 Looking good in our own energy!
“She makes me look good!”
Balancing the deep with the superficial!
02:00 Throat chakra “furballs”
Get it up!
03:00 Who is Nicola and what is her truth?
Letting go of the bindings and getting right back to little Nicola
The continual process of curiosity
05:45 “There’s always more to unbind ourselves from”
The cycles of energy and growth
How to get to “the other side”
07:55 Resistance to being boxed in by labels
Giving yourself permission NOT to label yourself
“We *are* always growing and changing”
09:15 What would little girl Nicola would say about your journey?
On being surrounded by books!
“Is that ok to be…?”
11:55 Trying to comprehend the world we live in now
Standing on the outside, waiting to be let in
“I might just want to stay in the forest actually”
13:15 The weight of responsibility we carry as adults and changemakers
Being a loner and introvert and being called to share ourself
Learning to hold space for our communities
14:50 what we *thought* it would be like to be a writer!
Attics, ink and getting published on a whim
15:45 Nicola’s favourite word (and why its energy is so fierce)
Core desired feelings and the woolliness of “freedom”
The power energy of embodied words
18:30 Sometimes it’s the little releases that make a big impact
Bras, corsets and releasing of the feminine
“Allowing it all to be expressed - because we *haven’t* been allowed”
19:50 The infinitude we are continually uncovering on the feminine aspects of ourselves
A process of remembering who we truly are
How the polarisation provides a powerful sense of release
21:35 Unconscious unbinding through healing our symptoms
Back to bras and breasts!
“Our bodies will always let us know”
23:15 “I have a corset still in my closet”
Being constricted physically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually
How quickly we can shift our perception of what is truly important to us
25:05 “We reach these points where there’s no going back”
Is this a generational leap in consciousness?
As a society are we now saying “no” to what we once said “yes” to?
26:55 The rising up of truth and realness
Younger people, being perimenopausal and trying to “override” symptoms
“We’re conditioned not to recognise our own power”
30:00 “When you start to see that for yourself, you can’t unsee it”
The timing piece and being ready to receive
Judging ourselves and others
32:00 “My body will let me know when the time is right for something”
Tuning in, being in nature, feeling deeply connected
Getting out of the way; letting our brains go offline
35:30 More space, time and the magic that happens in the being
Permission to give ourselves space - complete freedom of movement
Our energetic bubble and how we treat it
38:05 Letting ideas, downloads and visions process
“We don’t have to be *doing* something with every little idea”
Leaving space can be much more powerful than acting on something
40:00 You don’t need to put everything into your project!
The energy of your ideas will be infused in what you create
40:45 Verbal creation and the critical mind
Inhabiting an embodied, intuitive, energetic space
42:25 Naming the criticism on the page - have a conversation with it!
Getting the judgement out and moving on
Keep ourselves moving and flowing
44:20 Nicola’s writing process
Chunks of time and writing by hand
“What wants to come through today?”
46:30 Allowing the nonlinear unfolding
Rejecting the restrictive advice of the masculine publishing world
Feeling stifled by our current models
49:40 The radical importance of a sense of mystery
As creators, we love the unknown
“You’re feeling excited as you’re writing it, which means your reader will too”
52:45 The mysterious, magical, fertile place
Bringing through ideas we hadn’t preconceived
Having an energetic intention and going with it
56:00 “I’m interested in a different approach to publishing”
Not knowing but trusting - alchemy and co-creation
“Let’s go on a journey together”
58:30 Why “Unbound” is different to other publishers
Soul-driven and community-oriented
“The author’s truest essence, what they want to share - that won’t be watered down”
60:00 The one thing Nicola wish we all knew
Chaos, unruliness and balance
“I just need to remind myself of this frequently!”
You can connect with Nicola here:
https://www.theunboundpress.com
https://www.instagram.com/nicolahumber/
https://www.facebook.com/nicolahumber
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We jump RIGHT in here - no introductions, no ceremony. Imagine you’re eavesdropping in on a *really* juicy conversation at the next table 😄.
Join me in this poignant, palpable and gorgeously heart-connecting conversation with Jo Howarth - an Advanced Hypnotherapist dedicated to helping others believe #happiness is the most important thing in life.
If you believe “Happiness” is elusive and only for those with zero challenges in their life, you’re not alone. Jo used to feel that way too: from abusive relationships to lacking self belief and confidence, I can guarantee you’ll find plenty in this deeply authentic and vulnerable conversation that resonates. This is a thoughtful, connecting and highly motivational episode - enjoy!
Check out the timestamps below for teasers!
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01:05 Why little Jo thought “happiness” beyond her
“Embracing the whole kit and caboodle”
Happiness and misery are great bedfellows!
04:30 Living inside an abnormal childhood
The realisation that other families weren’t like this
“I must be the most horrible, terrible child ever”
05:50 Repeating what we’ve learned in childhood
“Luckily I narrowly avoided marrying an alcoholic”
How therapy made me shift my approach to life
07:35 How our paths choose US, not the other way round!
Choosing agency within our challenges
Transforming our shadows for ourselves and others
09:15 “It is about experiencing the contrast so we can determine what we want”
Money, external validation, and what success means!
Energy matters
11:15 Generational conditioning and trauma
Being the torch-bearer of toxicity
12:20 Jo’s number 1 tool for igniting happiness!
“The purest, most positive emotion you can ever experience”
The crucial difference between gratitude and appreciation
14:40 Are you doing it all wrong?
Embodying the FEELING, not just making a mental list
Releasing the feel-good hormones!
16:15 The “Glad Exercise”
Reviewing things that have actually happened today
If you struggle with the idea of feeling “grateful”, do this!
19:35 How to help someone who can’t be helped
“The really subtle language shift that makes a massive difference”
Turning the perception of your whole day on its head
23:35 “Even in the day from hell, there’s always good stuff”
Learning to appreciate in survival mode
In my very worst times, feeling appreciation saved me
25:40 “A warmth spreading through the body”
Calming down all of the physical, mental and emotional anxieties
Learning to open our focus back up to give ourselves relief
27:25 On “Choosing” what we focus on
Sometimes we NEED to choose the negative feelings to process them
On “positive” and “negative” emotions
29:00 Holding onto difficult feelings and not letting them “deliver their message”
The roots of chronic illness
The amazing metaphor of “We’re Going on a Bear Hunt”!
31:35 Shelving problems for a period and numbing out
“I can’t look at that right now”
Being conscious of our intentional choices
33:45 You’re NOT broken
“What is SO true for you that you could take everything else away and it would still be there?”
Reconnecting to your wholeness and appreciating it
35:15 Coping with “negative” friends
You don’t need to “fix” others OR be drawn into their world
The difficulty of being a natural “Helper”
37:15 The line between “therapist” and “family”
“Ok, enough of the inspirational speeches!”
They know where to find you
39:25 What motivates Jo to keep going?
Sacred time and how Jo uses it
The foundation of everything she shares
42:20 What do we believe is important?
“It doesn’t matter”
There really is only one thing that matters
45:30 “We’re not really human beings; we forget who we really are”
The little inkling that is the biggest key of all
The profound feeling of utter peace
47:15 How to bring yourself back to centre
A few golden tips!
(and how not to teach your children 😂)
50:00 What is at the heart of humanity’s truth?
Who we are when we enter this world
“You are the wellies, not the mud!”
You can connect with Jo here:
TheHappinessClub.co.uk
https://www.facebook.com/TheHappinessClubLtd
https://www.instagram.com/thehappinessclub.co.uk/
https://twitter.com/HappinessClubJo
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zoekmfoster.com
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We jump RIGHT in here - no introductions, no ceremony. Imagine you’re eavesdropping in on a *really* juicy conversation at the next table 😄.
This is a magical and heartfelt, deep conversation with Yolandi Boshoff - spiritual coach for heart-led light workers and DNA activation & light language healer.
Welcome to Yolandi-land! Dive in with us both and find out how to access the real gold beneath all the sh1tty layers of stuff we’ve accumulated, take responsibility for the patriarchy within ourselves, and reconnect to Mother Gaia to decontaminate and revive our own magical energies. If you’re a creative, healer or lightworker, this one is definitely for you - and for everyone else, there’s more than enough here to blow your mind!
Check out the timestamps below for teasers!
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00:25 The rollercoaster of February 2021
Is this the start of a new era?
“I feel like I’ve been underground”
01:30 The hard truths of writing a book
The visual - verbal divide
In crystallising our truth, it’s easier to express it visually
04:30 If we are unable to process verbally, it gets stuck!
How judgement stops us from expressing our verbal truth
On being our own harshest critics
06:55 This is the Yolandi show!
Why we blow up our own significance, and how it holds us back
“The people who care will BE there”
08:20 How Yolandi sees herself
“I live in Yolandi-land!”
“I want to see things that other people haven’t seen before”
10:00 Who were you as a little girl?
Can you still connect to that part of yourself?
Where the magic lies!
11:20 Dissecting the patriarchy
“If I’m going to b1tch about something, then I’d better have a way of fixing it!”
Coming back to self & the ripple effect
12:45 All the things we don’t remember
Pockets of newness and different perspectives
“Where can we put everything up on its head?”
13:30 The C0vid question & Mother Gaia
“How do we all show up differently?”
“When we’re healing, we have to bring up the dark stuff”
15:40 Healers & the contamination of our core truths
Showing up in our wounds vs integrating & processing
Getting honest with our wounds and creating radical self-responsibility
17:25 Modelling, facilitating & teaching the way forwards
Triggering others and shedding light on where the work needs to be done
“I do think we are here to p1ss some people off!”
18:25 Where can we start reconnecting with our truth?
Unpeeling the layers: superficiality, conditioning, ancestral wounds
“My truth is evolving”
20:20 Creating your truth through external filters
“Your eyes have to open up”
Recognising the different energies we are exposed to & constantly consume
22:01 Social media: judgy & critical energies
Choosing to be inspired and solution-focused in what we consume
Being discerning about our words and spaces
26:05 What motivates Yolandi to keep coming back to her truth & share it?
Soul-level missions and finding our hashtag-magical
The little engine that could!
28:45 Dark moments & wanting to give up
“You’re doing this for something bigger”
“Potential is what makes it worth it”
30:35 “My best friend in the whole wide world is shadow work” **
From love-and-light to the shadow queen!
Tools for excavating the shadow
33:50 “How can I make it better for myself?”
Fixing vs acceptance
Seeing and acknowledging the issue to move through resistance
38:45 Masculine vs feminine energies & finding balance
Denying the feminine, being in ‘fighting’ mode
Reverence of the masculine
41:30 The filter of forced masculinity
“I’m unravelling the patriarchy within myself”
All that we know: going back to our ancient ways & wisdoms
43:30 Solving today’s problems through the feminine
“She holds space for people to help themselves”
The ripple effect: it has to start here.
44:30 The true meaning of empowerment
“I can’t go and change the government, it’s just me”
Being inspired by our historical figures and their part - yet not living to see the solution
46:05 Know that you are playing a key part in our evolution
“You don’t have to go down in the history books”
Making an impact upon yourself is already huge
48:05 What is humanity’s core truth?
What we know intrinsically vs what we are told repeatedly
Focus on the good in each other
49:20 Intentional focus of energy vs Spiritual Bypassing
Reserving energy for creating positive change
“How am I helping?”
51:20 “I choose not to be in the fear-mongering energy of this world”
Finding the balance between awareness & the ability to effect positive solutions
“If I’m not harming within, I’m not going to be harming without”
54:05 Initiating a new way forwards
“We are the people birthing a new way”
You can connect with Yolandi here:
divinesoul.me
https://www.facebook.com/1divinesoul/
https://www.instagram.com/yolandi_divine_soul/
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5GeyUCReQTIhUHX-VoVLsQ?
Find more about me at:
zoekmfoster.com
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We jump RIGHT in here - no introductions, no ceremony. Imagine you’re eavesdropping in on a *really* juicy conversation at the next table 😄.
This is a joyful and effervescent deep conversation with Trish McKinnley - manifestation expert, Goddessologist and teacher of the Forgotten Tools of the Universe™.
We really hone in on connection in this episode, and what that really means across the different parts of our lives. There’s a lot of magic packed in here: we unabashedly chat all things creativity, angels, manifestation, goddesses, embodied energies and fairies! AND we also take it to the ‘darker’ side of witch trials, cPTSD, chronic illness, dying, and coping with hard times and wanting to give up. There’s something in here for everyone, not matter your beliefs. As Trish says, “Everyone is welcome”. 😊
Check out the timestamps below for teasers!
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00:00 You DON’T have to have the perfect rituals to manifest what you want!
The 3 goddesses of Manifestation: Order, Optimism & Action
2:20 What’s the “right” way to manifest?
Why I stopped painting for 20 years!
What are *your* biggest blockers to your soul expression?
4:55 Why we suppress our creativity
When you take everything else out of the way, what’s stopping you?
Accessing vs denying our soul
7:55 How I paint without a plan
Fully embodying energies
Releasing & creating in the shower!
9:40 Why I shifted from a hard NO on cold showers to a YEAH-S!
(Watch me try and convince Trish on this one 😆)
Being SO in your body & being that you lose the mind-chatter and anxiety
11:20 What Trish would RATHER DO than take a cold shower!
Calling on Archangel Michael…
How I prepared myself gradually for cold exposure
13:30 How I ended up with cPTSD
What getting wet or hot/cold meant to me
How I’m creating new resilience and bandwidth for stress in my body
14:50 Why Trish believes 2020 was fabulous
Connecting with nature and fairies
How fairies help us work with our intuition and gifts
18:10 Tips on how to connect back to your inner wisdom
How to release pent up anxiety, anger and frustration quickly
Using sense withdrawal & sound vibrations for inner peace & expansive energies
A quickie!
23:00 The energy of the 3 goddesses
The Goddess of Action - won’t be derailed!
The Goddess of Optimism - likes shiny objects!
The Goddess of Order - needs to hang onto the past
25:00 Normalising the freak-outs & bad days
Leaders, influencers & “gurus” are NOT EXEMPT!
“We are all in this together”
27:15 Trish’s deepest experience of her “core truth”
Dying, bringing the light & dark energies
Ghost, angel & fairy encounters
29:20 Do you believe you are “worthy” of supernatural experiences?
“Oh, was that a sign? Nahhh…”
“Give me a sign!!”
30:25 The moment I felt profoundly connected to everything
Why I intentionally embody this feeling regularly
31:55 Witch trials, midwifery, healing & alchemy
The generational reincarnation of ancestral slaughter
How 2020 opened us back up to our light
33:00 Living life uncensored
Why being vulnerable and sharing our truth is so important
“We’re allowed to disagree, but let’s be kind”
35:55 Accessing the ancient-ancient-ancient wisdom of the goddesses
The suppressed power of the feminine:
Birthing the universe, owning property & passing it down through the female line
40:25 The natural spiral of growth & rebirth
“What did you ask for when you were little?”
How our soul keeps nudging us back to our core truths
42:20 “Well this is what’s important”
How have you been conditioned to pursue your current trajectory?
“You MANIFEST when you’re ENJOYING something”
44:20 What does Trish typically not tell people about herself?
Dying, stargazing and playing “library”
Owning our connection to everything
46:30 The power of play and the 3 goddesses
Flowing through the 3 timelines regularly
“This is the amusement park of the spiritual life!”
51:40 What it takes to get on camera, and why we do it!
Deep conversations & deep connections
“I was excited about the pandemic”
53:15 “From stressed to success”
Consciously using the forgotten tools
“Say yes to really uncomfortable things”
54:50 “Hey is that a satellite? No - that’s Zoë & Trish 😆”
Different personalities: “Everybody is welcome!”
Myers Briggs meets Louise Hay / Enneagram meets Rebecca Campbell
56:30 THE VERY BEST ANLOGY for those times you don’t want to show up!
Movie star manure!
“We’re supposed to help pull each other out”
59:00 The power of music in raising your vibration
Create your manifestation playlist
Trish’s tip on calling in your angel support
102:15 Why you need to hum your favourite song!
Moon manifestation tips from Trish
104:00 What is the Core Truth of the universe?
“There is a oneness in all of us”
Grounding our soul
105:45 Serious vs Sparkly Spirituality!
“It can be fun, it can be easy, it can be beautiful”
You can connect with Trish here:
TrishMckinnley.com
https://www.facebook.com/trish.mckinnley
https://www.instagram.com/trishmckinnley/
https://www.youtube.com/c/TrishMckinnley
Find more about me at:
zoekmfoster.com
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