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Pacing When Communicating with a Narcissist – Episode 312 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Pacing is a great technique that I rarely hear talked about in communicating with a narcissist. It can slow their attacks, stop the incessant arguing and best of all, put you back in control of the conversation. Pacing can also bring peace to the chaos if you can learn to use it effectively. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Should I or Shouldn’t I – Episode 311 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. I often get asked by clients if they should or shouldn’t bring up a concern or something they are worried about regarding their coparent. Does it make them look difficult? Does it matter? Will the Court care? In this episode, I’ll give you some criteria to help you know if you should or shouldn’t and more importantly, how to address it once you decide you should. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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When the Narcissist Texts You: The Anxiety and Chaos Inside – Episode 310 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. We all know that feeling, when you see your narcissist’s name pop up on your phone or when you get a message notice and you are immediately triggered. Your emotional world starts spinning out of control and you haven’t even opened the message! The familiar patterns kick in and you’re sucked back into the emotional vortex. If this sounds familiar, this episode will help you break free! To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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My Ex Is the Problem – Episode 309 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. I get it, I have an ex too and yes, many times our ex causes all kinds of drama and problems that effect the kids. But, if you go into Court trying to convince your Judge that your ex is the problem, things probably will not go well for you. Often, after about five minutes of talking with someone, I can tell why they aren’t succeeding in Court. It’s not the information you’re sharing that is the issue, it’s the way you are sharing it. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Legal Custody Disagreements – Episode 308 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When you are dealing with a narcissistic co-parent, legal custody issues are often difficult to navigate. If you are unable to reach agreement then filing in Court becomes the necessary step to resolve issues. But, that obviously gets very expensive and very stressful. So what are your alternatives? To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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It Takes A Village – Episode 307 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. We’ve all heard this expression especially when it comes to the physical labor of raising children. But your village is just as important to the emotional support of both you and your children. So, who should be part of your village? And how can you ensure that you are leveraging your village for maximal positive benefit for your children? To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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What Is Your Priority? – Episode 306 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Is your priority your ex or your kids? Now, I think any parent would say, the kids of course. But we often, unintentionally, communicate to the court and other experts that our ex is the priority. This happens through the behaviors we exhibit and the language we use not only with our ex, but when we speak to the court and other experts. In this episode, I’ll give you tips to help ensure that you are community that your priority is your children! To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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It's the Little Things – Episode 305 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When you are dealing with a high-conflict co-parent, it’s often the little things that become the most frustrating. I’ve seen many clients who come out of Court and realize many of the details of their situation did not get addressed. And even when they do get addressed, a narcissistic co-parent won’t follow the orders anyway. So, you’re left with all the small daily aggravations that drive you insane. So, what do you do? To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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When Your Child Refuses to Go – Episode 304 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Children refusing to transition to the other parent can become a very problematic issue in child custody. We tend to see this more frequently in the teenage years but I have seen it happen even with young children. Sometimes, it can be so severe that a child will self-harm if forced to go. However, the Court expects the parent, not the child, to be in charge. So, you must learn to strike a delicate balance of supporting the other parent while also ensuring your child’s safety. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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How to Feel Certain in Child Custody – Episode 303 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. We tend to feel certain about things that are familiar. But the entire child custody process is full of unfamiliar things. And, to boot, if you’re coming out of a narcissistic relationship, you’ve probably been stripped of the ability to trust yourself, which only adds to your uncertainty. In this episode, I’ll explore how you can create more certainty for yourself and your children in this process. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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The Enormity of the Tedium – Episode 302 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. How do you eat an elephant? One bit at a time. I’m sure you’ve heard that joke before but it’s no joke when you are dealing with the overwhelm that comes from the family court process. In this episode, I’ll help you understand some of the tedious aspects of court and give you my key to learning to manage the enormity of the tedium. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Determining What Is Important in Child Custody – Episode 301 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. One of the biggest struggles I see for parents is understanding what is and isn’t important to the Court in your child custody case. What seems logical to us is not always what is important to the Court. Parents often focus on whether they are a better parent than the other person, or the other parent’s history, or how the other parent has behaved toward them. We are essentially looking at the situation through a moral lens, but the Court looks at your case through a legal lens. To succeed, it is critical that you understand the difference. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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The Narcissist is the Key – Episode 300 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. I know, you’re thinking the key to what? We often think of all the negatives that come from having been in a narcissistic relationship: the trauma, the frustration, the ongoing parenting conflict, and the list goes on. But like any trial in life, there are also positive things in your life that the narcissist is the key to. In this episode, I’ll help you do a reframe so you can reap some of the rewards of having survived this toxic relationship. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Custody is a Marathon, Not a Sprint – Episode 299 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. The Courts have both short-term and long-term issues to resolve in custody cases. When cases start of with a “bang” like a domestic violence filing or emergency orders, the Court is looking at short-term issues. When the outcome is unfavorable to us, we often panic and begin doing things that sink us in the long-term issues. In this episode, I’ll discuss these two perspectives and help you avoid the pitfalls. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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You Are In Charge of Your Child Custody Case – Episode 298 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When you’re in Court it’s easy to feel like everyone else is in control, your attorney, the judge, the experts and that you have no say. You actually have the option to advocate for yourself, even if you have an attorney, if you know how to navigate the process. In this episode, I’ll share tips to help you increase the chances of success in your case. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Trust the Process – Episode 297 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Trusting the process can be very difficult, especially when you have a negative outcome in your first interaction with the Court. Many times, our own emotional patterns work against us in trusting the process. There are reasons that the Court does things in particular order and in a particular way. Understanding that will help you feel less anxious and more confident in presenting your case. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Expectations vs Reality in Child Custody – Episode 296 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When we are dealing with child custody issues, we have expectations of our children, our co-parent and most of all the Court. But when our expectations don’t match reality, we end up feeling all kinds of negative emotions like frustration, anxiety, depression, anger, sadness, and the list goes on. Shifting your expectations to more closely match reality will lower stress and frustration around the entire situation. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Finding a Narcissist’s Kryptonite – Episode 295 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Dealing with a narcissist is all about regaining the emotional power. There are ways that you can do this, even if it feels impossible. In this episode, I’ll give you my top three tips to accomplish this and one of them you will be able to start immediately! To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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What You Say vs What You Do – Episode 294 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Are you consistent? Consistency creates credibility with the Court. Often, we recognize inconsistency in our ex, the Courts, or other professionals but it’s easy to miss your own inconsistent behavior. When the Court feels that your words match your actions, you have a better chance of getting a successful outcome. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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The Power of Doing Nothing – Episode 293 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Have you ever heard the analogy of how turning the nose on an airplane, even as little as one degree, before takeoff can land the plan in a completely different destination hundreds of miles away? Well, the same is true in your child custody case. The decisions you make, or avoid making, in the beginning of your case are often the decisions that have the greatest outcome in your case. And if you’re already off course, the sooner you course correct, the closer you’ll be to your destination. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at www.divorceuniversityonline.com/vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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