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The known facts about being triggered are these: We don't know when they're going to occur, or how they will occur. What this means is that we cannot prepare for that which we cannot know. These triggers can appear through anything that involves one or any of the five senses; sight, smell, sound, taste, or touch: triggering a memory or experience of the abuse we suffered. There is nothing we can do to stop that, but there is a way to manage it.
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Q&A Session
Join us on this Q&A Session where Gloria answers questions posed by you, the Survivors. Ranging from how to manage a family who still believe the predator, to is it even possible to go on to have a loving and healthy relationship as an adult. The range of questions is moving, and Gloria, as always provides calm and measured responses that helps restore grace and acceptance to these difficult experiences.
For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org
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Meet Diane Payne
SurvivorDiane was sexually abused by her brother-in-law from age 12 to 16. He was 24 when it started. She told no one for 40 years. Fast forward 4 years, & last year he finally got convicted in NZ. He got home detention for 8 months, due to a plea deal & the laws in the 1980's, when the abuse occurred. Don’t miss her story here.
You can reach out to Diane here:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ffs.trauma/HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected]. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:
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Feelings of shame and guilt are common to Survivors. This is especially true if we had siblings we felt we couldn't protect, or that we had to lie to protect the abuser which hurt our siblings even more. There is a process over time of healing, which requires great self compassion and tenderness. Don’t rush it and please give yourself some grace. The blame and shame never belonged to you.
Watch the full clip here: https://youtu.be/i92FPdCwp8k
For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org
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Meet Sue Philip
SurvivorSue was abused from preschool age by her father. She blocked the memories out for many years until she was in her 40’s.. Her parents were part of the mormon church, and it was not until she left the church as an adult, that she was able to remember the details of what her father had done to her and her siblings.
Watch the full clip here: https://youtu.be/NrhT15r_iqQ
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected]. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
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Many people consider that mind games are something that are done to us and that we are being manipulated by others. No one ever considers the bigger truth: that we play mind games with ourselves, more than with any other person, and we do it in a multitude of ways: like testing ourselves, overthinking, questioning ourselves and through sabotaging ourselves! The point being we are constantly undermining who we are by doing this. We need to stop doing this!
► Visit our website for more information on our foundation: http://handingtheshameback.org
► Donate please, this helps us keep going: http://handingtheshameback.org/donateADDITIONAL RESOURCE
► If you are looking for coaching whether survivor or supporter, visit: http://handingtheshameback.org/coachingWe are on all social media platforms:
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On behalf of Handing the Shame Back, I had the privilege of presenting to the Parliamentary Select Committee on Child Sex Trafficking within NZ, (we are wanting increased penalties added to the slavery offences amendment bill). Although the experience was daunting, the submission was well received.
Watch the video here: https://youtu.be/GwndoRE3kRI
Video source: New Zealand Parliament
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Meet Hanz Freller
Survivor Advocate. Dad. AuthorHe was abused in care by a St John of God Brother. The abuse was to span several years and was calculated and manipulative in the grooming of him throughout those vulnerable teenage years.
You can reach out to Hanz here:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/hanz.freller
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hanzfrellerHELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected]. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
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First Q&A Session
Join us on this, our very first Q&A Session where Gloria answers questions posed by you, ‘yes you’, the Survivors. Ranging from what to look for in kids who are being trafficked to coping with seeing your child experience the worst trauma possible, Gloria provides calm and measured responses that help soothe and restore equilibrium to these difficult experiences.
For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org
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Today marks the start of something powerful — 2,700 books are being unboxed, packaged, and prepared for delivery to schools across New Zealand.
Every book sent is a step toward a safer future. If you’d like to help us get them into schools, please consider donating: https://donate.stripe.com/aEU4iIfR1b8Pdpu7ss (Reference: ‘Book Distribution’).
At Handing the Shame Back, we don’t see this as just opening boxes. We see it as opening a path to better protecting children, breaking barriers, and giving teachers the tools they need to recognise and respond to child sexual abuse.
Let’s make a difference together!
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Sometimes as survivors we can feel guilty, frozen or just plain wrong about having sex. As adults this has impact beyond what we can imagine. Have a look at this video as it just may help free you up from anything holding you back from enjoying intimacy with a loved one.
Watch the full clip here: https://youtu.be/j-hwv9GTetA
For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org
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Today is the day!
We are beyond excited to have received the books, "Keeping Kids Safe", which will be distributed to schools across New Zealand.
We are still accepting donations to cover book distribution costs. If you’re able to help, please use this direct link: https://donate.stripe.com/aEU4iIfR1b8Pdpu7ss and include the reference "Book Distribution".
Our goal is simple but vital: to equip teachers with the knowledge to recognise the signs of child sexual abuse, respond appropriately, and ultimately protect vulnerable children.
Thank you. Your support could help save some children.
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Meet Susan Gold
Survivor, Author and Transformationalist.She was the middle child born in a family where generational abuse was undealt with and therefore continued. She was abused by her brother between 7 to 10 years of age with some flashbacks of both her father and grandfather being abusers as well. She believes that finding kindness for yourself from within is a key part of the healing journey.
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected]. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
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We have now raised $2,500. If you are able to help, please use this direct link: https://donate.stripe.com/aEU4iIfR1b8Pdpu7ss and include the reference 'Book Distribution' to ensure the funds are allocated to processing and postage. Every $10 means one school receives a copy of the book!
Thank you. You may just save some kids!
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It is entirely natural for you as a survivor of child sexual abuse to struggle with sex as an adult. some survivors have a constant battle with this, preferring to be celibate in the end. For others guilt, fear and dissociation can occur. Wherever you are at is entirely normal, and can be worked with if it is of concern. Don’t miss this podcast.
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As children, we were always dependent on the adults around us to meet our needs. This is common and expected, as we were unable to feed or clothe ourselves. However, guilt does feature because we had to accommodate the adults around us, even when we felt scared and uncomfortable.
For more information, resources, or coaching — whether you are a survivor or a supporter, visit: handingtheshameback.org
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Meet Steven Shelton
Survivor and AuthorWas abused by many males beginning when he was just 4 years old. His mother walked in on the abuse, saw it, and walked back out again. This was the beginning of Steven’s nightmare, culminating in him developing Dissociative Identity Disorder or DID. He firmly believes that passage of time, a loving spouse, and talking about it, have helped him recover from this.
For further information on Steven, go to: https://stevensheltonauthor.com/author-page/
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected]. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/
X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
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We are thrilled to provide answers to any questions you may have — let's interact! We want to provide information you need, in order to do that, please email us at [email protected] and put ‘Question’ in the subject line, followed by your main question in the body of the email.
Let's customise our content to work with your objectives as closely as possible.
We are always thinking of you and finding ways to support the amazing survivors that you are.
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Meet Elizabeth Melendez
Author. Advocate. CEO/Founder of the Foundation United Org.She was sexually abused by a family friend at age 11, though saw that physical, emotional and sexual abuse was happening throughout her family from a very young age, she feels this was ‘generational’ rather than ‘intentional abuse’.
To reach Elizabeth: https://www.thefoundationunited.com/, or on Instagram: @thefoundationunited
HELP
NZ Sexual Harm Helpline, 0800 044 334 or text 4334, [email protected]. Help Auckland 0800 623 1700. Male Survivors Aotearoa, Freephone: 0800 044 334
USA RAINN https://www.rainn.org/ Largest US support for adult survivors of child sexual abuse
UK NAPAK https://napac.org.uk/ Supporting recovery from childhood abuse
AUSTRALIA Blue Knot Foundation - https://blueknot.org.au/ Provide support to people who have experiences of complex trauma, and for those who support them.
OTHER To get some more resources from us, please go to: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/, we offer books, coaching and tips for survivors and for those supporting them.We are on all social media platforms:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack
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X: https://x.com/HandinShameBack
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Don't make any new year resolutions, instead reflect on what you have achieved over the last 12 months and honour that. You may consider growing that skillset further or adding to it, but at this time of year, recovering from Xmas and the holiday season is challenging enough. Don’t pressure yourself by making impossible goals that are unlikely to be achieved.
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