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Happy Lesbian Visibility Week, HTBQers!
Tomorrow is Lesbian Visibility Day, this week is Lesbian Visibility Week, and so in honour of this we reunited with one of our fave lady lovers: MELANIE (she/they)!!!! Since each of us relates in our own way to the word, we discuss how each of us relates to the word lesbian and get into the nitty-gritty of labels and words and how we have come to use the ones we use (or don't use). We are so excited to share this episode with you beautiful humans!
We hope you enjoy the episode! Happy Lesbian Visibility Week! We see you lesbians, and WE LOVE YOU, LESBIAN LISTENERS!!! THIS ONE IS A LOVE LETTER FOR YOU!! Let us know what you think: drop us a line on our Insta, or email us at
We are back to a semi-biweekly-ish schedule, so stay tuned for our next episode coming to your earbuds on May 9th!
We appreciate you so much <3
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So you caught feels for your bestie, maybe they did too? Are sparks flying between ya'll but you don't want to ruin your friendship. We've all been there, and we do mean all of us, falling for a friend is, at this point a rite of passage, but unlike a lot of our hetero-counterparts, it doesn't have to end friendships and it doesn't have to end up as a relationship either.
Join Sam and Kellum in the second episode in our How To Be Queer: After Dark series, our semi-monthly spicy🔥series, where Sam and Kellum will be discussing some spicy topics of How To Be Queer!!
Stay tuned next month for a juicy one 🧃This episode is rated 🌶️ 🌶️ / 🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️
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We love you, thank you so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy episode 10 of this beautiful season!!
We are back in the swing of things with biweekly episodes, which means that you will hear from us again on February 28, because gd it is a leap year!
So glad you are here on this journey, with us and we have so much to share with you this season. We appreciate you so much <3XOXO
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This week, Sam and Kellum dive into Queer love, the L word and the Last of Us. We begin the episode by discussing queer love, referencing an article, Kellum found on Queer Relationships and why queer love feels so much more real than other loves we’ve had.
This is also our first episode in our semi-monthly spicy🔥series, How To Be Queer: After Dark, where Sam and Kellum will be discussing the spicy parts of HTBQ!!
Stay tuned next month for a juicy one 🧃This episode is rated 🌶️ / 🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️🌶️
We hope you enjoy the episode! Let us know what you think: drop us a line on our Insta, or email us at
We love you, thank you so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy episode 10 of this beautiful season!!
We are back in the swing of things with biweekly episodes, which means that you will hear from us again on February 28, because gd it is a leap year!
So glad you are here on this journey, with us and we have so much to share with you this season. We appreciate you so much <3XOXO
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Hey y'all!
This week we have an extra special guest episode: this time with the one and only ECHO!! Echo (they/them) is a nonbinary, queer student who is navigating the world as a young Gen Z and trying their best to be their self and get through high school. But we wanted to hear all about that journey, and about what makes them tick!
We met Echo through the Arts Jam program that safeword (you remember Brandon from episode 40?) put on in summer of 2022. While we were there, we met Echo and thought it would be so cool to talk to them about their experience and their art and what they have to say and share. And here we finally are! Long time in the making, a queer convo with Echo!!!
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We love you, thank you so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy episode 9 of this beautiful season!! We are back in the swing of things with biweekly episodes. So, our next episode will air on February 14th (do you smell that love in the air? I think it's how much HTBQ loves u)! We have so much in store for you and cannot WAIT to share it! So glad you are here on this journey, with us. We appreciate you so much <3
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WE'RE BAAAAAAAAACK!
A panel of three, and it's all your fave hosts!! Today we are talking to each other about our holiday experiences, and also about our new queer resolutions/vibe checks.
WATCH OUT 2023! HTBQ is coming to getcha!
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We love you, thank you so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy episode 8 of this beautiful season!! This is the first episode of 2023, coming back at you with biweekly episodes. So, our next episode will air on January 31st and we will be discussing our vision for 2023 for HTBQl! We have so much in store for you and cannot WAIT to share it! So glad you are here on this journey, with us. We appreciate you so much <3
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Hey y'all, welcome back for the mid-season finale of season 4!
A panel of three, and it's all your fave hosts!! We have come together for one last podcast episode of 2022 to send you off into the holigays with some gorgeous tips on how to get through and thrive!! :)
For our last episode, Sam, Chris, and Kellum decided they wanted to discuss what they are doing for the holigays, what the season looks like for them, and how they survive the difficult times. Queerness and holidays don't always mix, and some of us at HTBQ know that better than others. But regardless, it is a time to celebrate you and your family, whatever family looks like to you. So whether you are with birthed or adoptive or foster family, or with chosen or circumstantial family, celebrate and know that we are with you every step of the way! We love you so much!!
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We love you, thank you so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy episode 7 of this beautiful season!! This is the last episode of 2022, our mid-season finale, if you will. We will be taking a quick hiatus, and will be returning to your feeds bigger and better than ever on January 17th!! We have so much in store for you and cannot WAIT to share it! So glad you are here on this journey, with us. We appreciate you so much <3
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Hey y'all, welcome back for episode six of season 4, a very special guest episode!!
This week we have a guest star that kellum and chris interview and get the dish on queerness and art, from the director of safeword, Brandon Crone (they/them)!!
We start out by talking about how Brandon got into the work that they are doing, then move into the intersection of queerness and art, and discuss representation of queer people and its importance to our community. Stay tuned for a bunch of beautiful thoughts from this beautiful human!!
Wanna find out more about the work they are doing? Check out safeword!
online: safeword.ca
insta: @safeword.arts
facebook: safeword.arts
tiktok: @whatsyoursafeword
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Hey y'all, welcome back for episode five of season 4!
This week we have a panel of two because of food poisoning. But it's totally alright!! Because now you get to experience the joys of listening to the incredible amazing voices of Kellum and Sam!! You still get an episode because we still have hosts in the event of illness :)
Recently, while Sam was just minding her own business, she heard someone say "if my child is queer, I will need some time as a parent" and she was like I KNOW HTBQ NEEDS TO DISCUSS!!! So she brought it to the table this week! Kellum and Sam dive in and discuss the thoughts behind what it means to come out to given family, and the grace or grieving that some talk about needing. They also look at how they represent their queerness in daily life, and compare it with their past, look at how many times and how they have come out, and also look at how their queer journey has evolved and continues to evolve to this very day!
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Hey y'all, welcome back for episode four of season 4 - Halloweeeeeeeen edition!!
This week we have a panel of four - Sam, Chris, Kellum, and our special guest, Old Hollywood Correspondent, Max Mosher!
We get into some sp00ky territory this week, discussing all things horror! We ask Max some important questions, like 'why is horror queer?' and 'why do we love it so much?' and 'what's ur fave movies?'. We also talk about camp (no, not the outdoors kind, the gay kind) and its place in the horror genre. You are in for a treat with this one y'all. It's simply sp00ktacular!!
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We love you, thank you so much for listening, and thanks for tuning in on an irregular day!! We wanted to treat you this week, no tricks!! An early episode to get you some queer content for ur ears this Halloween day 2022. Hope it gives you a fright!!
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Hey y'all, welcome back for episode three of season 4!
This week we have a panel of two because of scheduling conflicts, but this may happen with three of us. But it's totally alright!! Because if it does, you still get an episode because we still have hosts :)
Tomorrow (October 19th) is Pronoun Day, a day to celebrate the fact that people are in charge of their own pronouns. Pronouns are part of gender expression and tell the world how you feel you fit into the giant human social construct that is gender. Pronouns rock because they allow us to feel seen, especially when people use the pronouns that fit our truth. And that's what Kellum and Chris talk about today - how did they come to understand their pronouns, what is their relationship to pronoun usage, and some tips for everyone. Also, some other random gender stuff is discussed.
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We love you, thank you so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy episode 3 of this beautiful season!! So glad you are here on this journey, with us. We appreciate you so much <3
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Hey y'all, welcome back for episode two!
This week, we went interview style, but looked for our guest from within the inner HTBQ circle - Chris! Yes, that's right, Chris takes the hot seat and answers questions from Kellum and Sam, with the conversation orbiting around Chris' experience with and intimate knowledge of education! For context, Chris currently works in a secondary school in Ontario and is the department head of social sciences. Chris is also currently working toward a Master in Social Justice Education, so a lot of equity is discussed. Other topics include: How does Chris run their classroom? How did the pandemic change things? What is going on with teens these days?
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Uh huh! Yep! We have email. I mean we did last season too, but we thought we would bring it up again in case you forgot.
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Hey y'all, welcome to our grand opening!
We have returned for a healthy season 4, with lots of tasty morsels for you to enjoy! This week, we went roundtable style for a Styles-centred conversation, because there are few hotter queer icons right now. Harry Styles certainly has been making headlines recently, and caught the attention of the gays a long time ago while he was still in 1D with some of his first mentions he might be into guys too. But now he's notable Hollywood celebrity Harry Styles, of a different calibre and applicable to all. So, due to this, and due to Harry being once again asked "r u gAy?" by the media, this week we get into the nitty-gritty with our focus question of the episode: why won't Harry just come out already?!?!?!!!?
Our format for this episode is different than before, but we enjoyed the roundtable style of our conversation for this episode. If it so pleases the court, we would like to continue with this kind of rich conversation into future episodes. But otherwise, what can you expect from this season of HTBQ? Well, honestly all the same GOQS (good ol queer stuff). We have a few guests lined up already, we have some side episodes/series that we will be launching this season, and we will continue to educate you and keep you abreast (or achest) of the hottest topics in queer culture at any given moment.
We love you, thank you so much for listening, and we hope you enjoy episode 1 of this beautiful season!!
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Harry Styles on Understanding the Mind of a Closeted Gay Man for ‘My Policeman’ — TIFF. Variety.
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As mentioned, your beloved co-hosts have vacated for the summer. We will be returning, but in the meantime, we wanted to replay some of our fave episodes for you, as well as the faves that you chose to have replayed! Here is the fourth in the series: stonewall uprising activist martin boyce!
Martin was at the Stonewall Uprising back in 1969, the riot that sprung the gay rights movement into visibility and action! Hear about this historical event again in this week's replay episode! Thanks again to International Day of Pink for sponsoring this episode!
Stayed tuned for biweekly summer replay series! And until season 4, enjoy your summer and stay queer!!
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Hey y'all!
As mentioned, your beloved co-hosts have vacated for the summer. We will be returning, but in the meantime, we wanted to replay some of our fave episodes for you, as well as the faves that you chose to have replayed! Here is the third in the series: asian and pacific islander heritage with michael!
Michael rocks and was such a great guest! We learned a lot from our conversation, and definitely look forward to the next time we are able to sit down for a chat - Michael is absolutely filled with beautiful knowledge!
Stayed tuned for biweekly summer replay series! And until season 4, enjoy your summer and stay queer!!
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Hey y'all!
As mentioned, your beloved co-hosts have vacated for the summer. We will be returning, but in the meantime, we wanted to replay some of our fave episodes for you, as well as the faves that you chose to have replayed! Here is the second in the series: sapphic and queer women!
This was only a few months ago, right before Sam's departed on leave, and it's actually one of our most successful episodes of the season! We love that you love sapphic and queer women just as much as we do. Also, if you haven't yet, check out Episode 4 of the Book of Queer, streaming on Discovery+. It features a bit of the history of Sappho and the word Lesbian!
Stayed tuned for biweekly summer replay series! And until season 4, enjoy your summer and stay queer!!
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Hey y'all!
As mentioned, your beloved co-hosts have vacated for the summer. We will be returning, but in the meantime, we wanted to replay some of our fave episodes for you, as well as the faves that you chose to have replayed! Here is the first in the series: chosen families with kellum!
This was the first time Kellum was on the podcast, long before we even knew that they would be joining us as a permanent fixture. We love how the podcast has evolved and how Kellum themself has evolved in that time! After all, a lot can happen in a year and a half!
Stayed tuned for biweekly summer replay series! And until season 4, enjoy your summer and stay queer!!
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Well, beautiful family, that's a wrap on both our Pride Series and Season 3 of How To Be Queer!
This series has been very well-received from our mighty audience. This is why we are doing this - to produce some cool queer content that you can learn from and feel more connected to the queer community. We love you and we are very glad you are here! Thank you for coming on this journey with us.
We would also like to thank everyone who participated in the Pride series, including:
Martin Boyce, Stonewall Uprising Activist, courtesy of International Day of Pink (episode 31)
MJ and Tianna from Glad Day (episode 32)
Raegan from the ArQuives (episode 33)
Taryn (episode 13/14), Michael (episode 27), Shelly (episode 28), and Sara (episode 29)
Thank you for a great season to everyone involved! Stay tuned for when we launch season 4, with a release date of episode 35 in talks right now. For now though, HTBQ is going on hiatus. We will return for season 4 in the fall. In the meantime, we will be replaying 4 episodes: 1 chosen by us, and 3 chosen by you. Check out our Instagram stories on the release date of this episode to vote for your faves to replay! We are also returning to biweekly episodes... for now.
Alright, that is likely not all the updates we wanted to give you but it's all the ones we can currently remember lol. Have an absolutely spectacular summer, babes.
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Instalment 3 of our Pride series!
In this week's episode we are talking to Raegan Swanson (she/her) about queer Canadian history. We talk about many significant events from the 60s, 70s, and 80s, and give you some more of the Canadian context! The events in the queer rights movement in Canada did not happen simultaneously to the US, and thus our histories are quite different. Listen to find out more!
The ArQuives is open to the public! If you are in Toronto check out their enormous catalogue of queer Canadian history by first booking an appointment and then visiting them at 34 Isabella Street in Toronto, or check out their website or Instagram!
A huge thank you to The ArQuives for sponsoring this episode.
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Next week is our last episode in our Pride series - and with it, the end of season 3. It has been a beautiful season, and we cannot wait to see what season 4 has in store! Until that time, we will be going back to a biweekly schedule. During the hiatus we will be re-releasing some of our old episodes we want you to hear again!
Hope everyone is having a safe and happy Pride! As always, C U Next Time on How To Be Queer!
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And we are back with more Pride content for ur ears only!!
For episode two of our Pride series, we asked our friends MJ Lyons (he/him) and Tianna Henry (she/her) at Glad Day to chat with us about this historic queer Canadian landmark bookshop (the oldest one in North America, we might add). We wanted to know everything: history, day in the life, what kinds of things they sell. We also chatted about representation and the power of books.
Y'all are in for a treat with this one! Our friends are beautiful AND talented.
Check out some of the things we talked about here, including work by our fantastic guests:
Sponsored by: Glad Day Bookshop
Smut Peddlers: Glad Day 50 EZine. Henry, Hardy, and Lyons.
Smut Peddlers: Lusting in Isolation EZine. Henry, Kelly, and Lyons.
Queer Werewolves Destroy Capitalism. Lyons.
Painting Church Street Lavender. Henry.
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An enormous gay thank u to Glad Day for sponsoring this episode :)
Slide into our DMs and let us know how you are enjoying this series so far!! Our Pride series continues next week!! Stay tuned, y'all!
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Wanna get the story of the Stonewall Uprising right from someone who was actually there??
Well look no further!! HTBQ has got you covered!
This week, in the first episode of our Pride Month series, we are in conversation with Martin Boyce, who was there irl on that infamous day that Stonewall was raided and kick started what we know today as Pride!
"Martin Boyce is a Stonewall Riot (Uprising) activist, sharing the story of one of the most pivotal queer/trans action in history.
The Stonewall Riots (also known as the Stonewall Uprising or the Stonewall Rebellion) were a series of spontaneous demonstrations by members of the gay community in response to a police raid that began in the early morning hours of June 28, 1969, at the Stonewall Inn in the Greenwich Village neighbourhood of New York City. Patrons of the Stonewall, other Village 2SLGBTQIA+ bars, and neighbourhood street people fought back when the police became violent. The riots are widely considered a watershed event that transformed the gay liberation movement and the twentieth-century fight for LGBT rights in Canada and the United States."
Visit International Day of Pink's Stonewall page for more!
Quick content warning: some descriptions of violence and slurs used.
An immense thank you to the International Day of Pink for arranging this conversation and sponsoring this episode alongside the Embassy of the United States!
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Extra resources from Martin:
Read Martin’s New York Times Interview
Read Martin’s interview in USA today
Read the PBS interview with Martin
Read Martin’s interview in Teen Vogue here
Listen to Martin’s story on Making Gay History’s podcast
Watch the LGBTCentre of NYC documentary of Stonewall with Martin
Watch the New York Times Documentary here
Watch Martin in the documentary (wiki page) here for free with your local library card
Watch Martin in the news clip from WCBS
Watch Martin in the mini-documentary from The Moth.
Watch Martin in the Stonewall Oral History Project.
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