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Do you you keep going back to the good times with someone who’s no longer in your life? Whether that’s an ex, a situationship, or something that never fully got off the ground.
In this episode of Lessons in Attachment, Carly Ann (therapist & coach helping you heal anxious attachment) breaks down the real psychological reasons why we play the positives and stay stuck on a loop feeling bad about it all, wishing it was different.
If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I stop thinking about them and remembering how good it was?” this episode is for you.
I do not want you think think you’re not weak for caring. You’re human for remembering. But you don’t have to stay stuck, so let me help you.
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A Radical Acceptance Practice
If you have anxious attachment, you may find yourself stuck in the highlight reel of your relationship - that means replaying the good times over and over, wondering what went wrong, and blaming yourself when the present doesn’t match up
This gentle, guided exercise is designed to help you practice radical acceptance - to hold space for the memories and accept the reality of what is, without self-rejection or shame. Through six grounding steps, you’ll learn to calm your nervous system and move forward with more
Whether you're navigating a breakup, feeling distant in a current relationship, or just struggling with a sense of loss, this can helpSupport the show
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Your inner critic knows exactly when to strike, and if you can be ready for it - you can stop it in its tracks! In this episode, Carly Ann shares the common moments where self-criticism hits hardest, especially for those with anxious attachment, low self-worth, or a constant fear of not being good enough.
Plus stay tuned because you will because you will get so much value - Carly Ann will guide you through simple steps to notice and start responding to your inner critic.
If you’re tired of the same old thought loops and want to finally quiet the inner critic that holds you back in relationships, self-love, and everyday life - this one’s for you.
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A motivational episode - consider it your personal pep talk to manage your inner critic and give you a confidence boost.
Carly Ann is here to help if you’ve got something coming up that’s making you nervous. Whether it’s a date, a job interview, a boundary to set, or a tough conversation, this episode will help settle your mind and lift your energy. It’s for those moments when your inner critic gets loud and tries to convince you to stay small, quiet, or hidden.
Carly Ann is speaking directly to that inner critic and guiding you back into your body - back into your power. This pep talk helps you reconnect to the present moment with calm, strength, and self-belief. If you’re done playing small and ready to feel grounded and capable, this is the boost you’ve been waiting for.
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For Low Self-Esteem
Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough no matter how hard you try? Do you second-guess your worth, wonder if you’re truly lovable, or compare yourself to everyone around you? If your confidence feels fragile and your inner critic is running the show, this episode is for you.
In this episode, Carly Ann shares 4 powerful, evidence-based ways to start healing low self-esteem, drawn from her own experience and the work of psychologist Melanie Fennell. You’ll learn 4 common ways therapists support their clients to create lasting self-worth. If you’re ready to stop believing the worst about yourself and start feeling more secure, capable, and worthy, definitely don’t skip this one.
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This self-esteem reset meditation is for you if you struggle with self-worth, overthinking, people-pleasing, or anxious attachment.
In just 6 minutes, you'll be guided through a calming, healing experience to:
Let go of self-doubt and critical inner talk
Reconnect with your inner strength and self-belief
Start feeling good enough as you are
Build confidence from within, not from external validation
Heal patterns of low self-worth and emotional insecurity
This meditation blends CBT-based tools, guided visualisation, and somatic grounding techniques to help you rewire negative beliefs and feel emotionally safe in your own skin.
Whether you’re working on healing after a breakup, navigating anxious attachment, or simply tired of not feeling enough — this is your reset.
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Do you find yourself constantly preparing for the worst? Playing out disaster scenarios in your head? Comparing yourself to others and feeling like you’re always coming up short?
In today’s episode, we’re diving into a sneaky but powerful habit many of us don’t even realise we’re stuck in, the automatic pull toward the negative. Whether it’s fear, comparison, or imagining everything that could go wrong, this pattern is draining your energy, confidence, and joy.
Plus, I’m giving you reflective questions and a motivational boost to help you shift your focus, feel more grounded, and stop letting fear run the show.
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You know they’re not right for you. You know you deserve better. You know the anxious spiral is hurting you. So why does it still feel like your heart hasn’t caught up with your head?
In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the frustrating phenomenon known as head-heart lag...That all-too-familiar space where your logic is crystal clear, but your emotions and behaviours aren’t playing ball.
If you’ve ever said, “I get it, but I just can’t seem to do it” this one is for you.
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Struggling with anxious attachment? Always asking “Do you still love me?” or “Are you sure you’re not leaving?” even when you know the answer won’t help for long?
In this episode, Carly Ann unpacks why anxious attachers seek constant reassurance, how it keeps you stuck in a loop, and why your nervous system never quite feels safe.
If you're stuck overthinking, spiralling after silence, or chasing reassurance through asking non-stop questions, this one is for you
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Everything seems fine… but you still feel stuck or lost?
Or maybe you know you’ve fallen into that pattern again - the overthinking, obsessing, clinging, second-guessing, unsure how to get out.This episode is for the anxious attachers who keep finding themselves here: things look okay on the outside, but inside it’s the same fog, the same fear, the same cycle. Or you cant seem to stop yourself falling into old, painful cycles.
You've had enough!
Carly Ann explores feeling stuck and lost with you, what keeps it going, and how to start breaking free - today!
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Struggling with feeling panicky or desperate when you think someone you love is pulling away? Do you find yourself turning into a version of yourself you barely recognise - anxious, overwhelmed, even irrational…whenever you fear abandonment or rejection? If you’re tired of the emotional rollercoaster with avoidants or feeling stuck in cycles of panic and overthinking, this episode is made for you.
Join me as we unpack what’s really happening beneath the surface of anxious attachment, why your panic feels so overwhelming, and, most importantly, how you can start reclaiming your calm and grounded self, even if you don’t believe it’s possible!
If you want to finally stop letting fear control your relationships and start coming home to yourself, hit play now.
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Struggling with relationship anxiety/anxious attachment? Feeling like you are struggling with self-worth and showing up as your true self?
Today, I am sharing 2 common patterns that actually keep you stuck in a cycle of insecurity, fear of rejection, and low self esteem.
If you’re ready to get out of the anxious cycle and build your self worth - this episode makes it clear how you can start today!
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EXAMPLE ANXIOUS CYCLEWATCH THE WORKSHOPJOIN STUCK TO SECUREDOCUMENT WITH TOOLS TO INTERRUPT THE CYCLEIf you know you're stuck in an anxious cycle, like overthinking, chasing, second-guessing, or feeling like you just can't relax in love, this episode is your lifeline.
In this free workshop, I’ll guide you through powerful and practical steps to break the cycle you're in right now. It doesn't matter if you're single, dating, in a situationship, or in a relationship that leaves you feeling unsure.
Grab a pen and paper, or simply follow along in your mind. This isn’t just something to listen to. It’s a hands-on experience to help you get clear on your patterns, understand what’s really going on underneath, and shift how you respond to your triggers.
Expect reflection, real talk, and gentle prompts that go straight to the heart.
You don’t have to stay stuck in anxious attachment. Let this be the moment things start to change.
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FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOPIf you have an anxious attachment style and you’re doing the work, trying to heal, build self-worth, and stop losing yourself in relationships, there’s a question you need to be asking.
In this episode, I bring that question to the table. It’s the kind of conversation most anxious attachers skip over, but without it, the healing can only go so far.
If you’re still getting triggered, still chasing reassurance, or still forgetting who you are in love, this episode is a must-listen.
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FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOPIf you’re feeling like you’ve messed it all up… again, like you’re back at square one, stuck in the same old anxious attachment spiral than this episode is for you. Maybe you’ve texted when you said you wouldn’t. Maybe you’re beating yourself up for caring too much (again). Maybe your mind is screaming: “Why am I like this?!”
Before you disappear into shame or start rewriting the story that you’re too much, too needy, or never going to change, listen to me in this ep.
Carly Ann shares the one thing you need to hear in this moment. It’s the thing that will help you soften the spiral, reconnect with yourself, and start moving forward again (without pretending it doesn’t hurt). It’s not a quick fix.. but it is a powerful shift, and will certainly help you get back on track.
If you’ve ever searched:
“Why do I always ruin relationships?” “I feel like I’ve messed up again” “Why do I keep going back?” “How to stop being so needy”…this episode is for you.
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FREE BREAKING THE CYCLE OF ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT WORKSHOPFeeling triggered in love, dating, and relationships? Constantly worrying, acting out, and obsessing? This episode is for anyone with anxious attachment who finds themselves overreacting, spiralling, or shutting down. Learn the most common attachment triggers and even get some bonus tips on how to manage them.
Perfect for anyone healing anxious attachment, exploring their reactions, and ready to feel more secure in relationships.
🎧 Attachment triggers, relationship anxiety, anxious attachment podcast, reacting in relationships, healing attachment wounds.
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You've been working hard to heal your anxious and/or disorganised attachment and right now you just feel like nothing is working?
All the tools, the therapy, the journaling - none of it seems to be helping, and you're right back where you started? This episode is for you.
Whether you're feeling a heavy dip right now, stuck in a familiar loop, or questioning if healing is even possible for you, this episode is going to give you what you need right now. Carly Ann speaks from both professional and personal experience, plus shares expert insight about what these "stuck" moments really mean, and what to do when your attachment wounds flare up despite all the work you've done.
If your inner critic is loud right now, if you're caught in anxious spirals or shut down, tune in. This is for your healing heart.
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Anxious Attachment is often maintained by low self-worth..
If you’ve ever felt like you’re not good enough in love, dating, & relationships (especially when they pull away or act cold), this episode is 100% for you.
In this raw and honest moment, Carly Ann speaks straight from here heart to anyway that has anxious attachment, low self-worth, and knows the pain of being caught in a cycle you just want to break!
Listen when you’re feeling low, hurt, triggered, or just stuck in that familiar spiral of overthinking and self-blame. Or even when you just need a motivational boost. This one’s here to remind you, it’s not you, it’s the pattern...and guess what? it can change.
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Why do people ghost? If you have anxious attachment, being ghosted can feel devastating..like rejection, confusion, and obsession all rolled into one.
In this episode, Carly Ann is diving into the reasons that different people ghost.
If you have recently been ghosted, I hope this gives you some clarity around what is going on.
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If you've ever found yourself obsessing over a message or an ex, worrying they've lost interest, or feeling completely triggered by distance or mixed signals...this episode is for you. Whether you're in a situationship, dating an avoidant, or constantly battling your own anxious attachment style, you’ve probably heard the advice: just self-soothe. But what does that actually mean?
This episode is your go-to if you’ve been confused about what self-soothing really looks like when your anxious attachment is in overdrive, your thoughts are spiralling, and all you want is reassurance.
Hit play if you’re tired of being stuck in anxious spirals and ready to learn what it means to self-soothe
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