Episodios
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How to Become Emotionally Non-Reactive
In a world that often feels fast, loud, and emotionally charged, learning to become emotionally non-reactive is one of the most powerful and healing inner skills we can develop.
In this episode, we explore how the habit of mental resistanceâour knee-jerk fight against difficult emotions, anxiety and unwanted life experiencesâcan keep us stuck in cycles of suffering. Youâll discover how the shift from reaction to response opens the door to peace, clarity, and true emotional resilience.
Through engaging storytelling, psychological wisdom and practical tools, this episode offers a roadmap for working with your emotions instead of against themâso you can stop spiralling and start thriving.
Youâll learn:
đŒ Why resisting difficult emotions fuels anxiety, frustration and burnout
đ The story of Sue, a client whose journey reveals the power of acceptance
đż How to stop reacting and start respondingâeven when life is really hard
đ§ââïž A simple mantra to return to your point of power in any moment
Plus, youâll hear the unforgettable story of âThe Problem with Dandelionsââa metaphor for what happens when we try to control everything we donât like about our emotional experience. Spoiler: It doesnât work.
Instead, youâll walk away with a powerful mindset shift:
Acceptance isnât weaknessâitâs wisdom.
And itâs your doorway to emotional freedom.
đ§ Tune in now and learn how to meet the challenges of life with flexibility, calm, and clarity.
đ Mentioned in this episode:
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đ Free Deep Resilience Care Package
10 bonus meditations, mindfulness tools + a 10-day mindfulness course
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Be Your Own Algorithm: Detox Your Mind, Reclaim Your Inner Peace
In an age of infinite noise, what if the most radical act is reclaiming your own mind?
In this episode, we explore how to take back your attention from the forces that seek to hijack itâand why doing so isnât just a wellness practice, but a deeply empowering and even spiritual one.
Youâll discover how modern algorithms are designed to exploit your ancient brain wiringâfueling distraction, anxiety, and disconnectionâand how being unaware of this can quietly pull you away from your values, your joy, and your peace.
Drawing from psychological research, mindfulness wisdom, and a personal story from a pivotal moment in Melliâs own journey, youâll learn why reclaiming your âinner algorithmâ is like coming home to yourselfâand how simple daily practices can help you realign with clarity, strength, and presence.
If youâve been feeling scattered, overstimulated, or distant from what really matters, this episode offers a grounded, heartful path forward.
đ§ Tune in to learn how to reset your mental environment, honour your values, and live from a place of intention in a distracted world.
Key Links:
đ© Newsletter â Get invites to free live meditations, tools + updates:
https://melliobrien.com
đ Free Deep Resilience Care Package â My gift to support your inner strength:
https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package
đ The Book â Deep Resilience â A four-step journey to unshakable inner strength:
https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book/
đ The Distracted Mind by Adam Gazzaley & Larry D. Rosen â Science behind why attention gets hijacked:
https://mitpress.mit.edu/9780262034944/the-distracted-mind/
đïž The Social Dilemma â A powerful documentary on the attention economy:
https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224
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The Philosophy of No Destination
In todayâs world, the pressure to constantly improve, perfect, and get somewhere can feel endless. Weâre told that happiness lives just beyond the next achievement, the next version of ourselves. But what if that destination... doesnât exist?
In this episode, we explore the philosophy of no destinationâa mindset shift that brings immediate peace and long-term resilience. Through powerful storytelling, practical mindfulness wisdom, and insights from modern psychology, youâll learn how the endless striving to be âbetterâ can actually create sufferingâand how self-acceptance can offer true freedom.
Youâll discover:
Why the belief that âIâll be okay whenâŠâ fuels stress, anxiety, and self-criticism
The psychological research linking self-discrepancy to depression and burnout
A Zen teaching that beautifully reveals the trap of over-efforting
A simple practice from Thich Nhat Hanh to anchor you in the present moment
A powerful reminder that peace isnât out thereâitâs available right here, right now
If youâve been feeling behind, worn out, or like youâre not enough yet, this episode will meet you with deep compassionâand remind you that thereâs nothing wrong with you. You donât need to arrive. Youâre already home.
đ§ Tune in now to reconnect with your inner peace and remember what truly matters.
Key Links
đ© Newsletter â Get invites to free live meditations, tools + updates:
https://melliobrien.com
đ Free Deep Resilience Care Package â My gift to support your inner strength:
https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package
đ The Book â Deep Resilience â A four-step journey to unshakable inner strength:
https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book/
đ Self-Compassion by Dr. Kristin Neff â The science behind self-acceptance:
https://self-compassion.org
đ The Culture of Counter-Culture by Alan Watts â A radical reflection on the meaning of life:
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/556038.The_Culture_of_Counter_Culture
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When Life Hits Hard, Start with Curiosity
What if the single most powerful skill in difficult times⊠isnât having all the answers, but learning to ask better questions?
In this episode, we explore how curiosity can transform the way we meet uncertainty, anxiety, and lifeâs inevitable challenges.
Youâll discover why the brain defaults to overthinking or avoidance when life feels unstableâand how curiosity interrupts that cycle, helping us reconnect with clarity, calm, and possibility.
Drawing from fascinating research at Harvard and Penn State, youâll learn how curious minds experience lower anxiety, more flexibility, and greater resilience. Iâll also share a personal story from an unpredictable river kayaking trip that changed the way I meet lifeâs rapidsâboth literal and emotional.
If youâve been feeling overwhelmed, stuck in spirals of fear or doubt, or craving a healthier way to navigate uncertainty, this episode will give you simple tools to pause, inquire, and move forward with strength and wisdom.
đ§ Tune in to discover how curiosity can become a steadying force in uncertain timesâand how to start practicing it today.
Key Links:
đ© Newsletter â Get invites to free live meditations, tools + updates:
https://melliobrien.com
đ Free Deep Resilience Care Package â My gift to support your inner strength:
https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package
đ The Book â Deep Resilience â A four-step journey to unshakable inner strength:
https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book/
đ Curious Minds by Perry Zurn & Dani Bassett â The science of curiosity and connection
https://press.princeton.edu/books/hardcover/9780691243960/curious-minds
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The Expectation Effect â How Your Mindset Shapes Your Reality
What if the way you think about life⊠actually changes how life feels?
In this episode, we explore the science of The Expectation Effectâthe powerful way your beliefs and assumptions shape your mind, your body, and your outcomes.
Drawing from David Robsonâs groundbreaking research and real-life stories, Iâll show you how your brain filters the world based on what it expects to findâand how this can either create self-fulfilling defeat⊠or open the door to resilience, clarity and strength.
Youâll learn how everyday expectationsâabout relationships, work, your own capabilitiesâcan literally impact your biology and perception. And Iâll walk you through the practical ways you can begin working with this effect, instead of being unconsciously shaped by it.
If youâve ever struggled with self-doubt, negative spirals, or feeling stuck in stressful patterns, this episode will help you understand whyâand what to do about it.
đ§ Tune in to discover how to shift your expectations to shift your lifeâfrom the inside out.
Key Links:
đ The Calm in Crisis 5-Day Course STARTS IN 48 HOURS â Tools to stay steady, strong and mentally clear in uncertain times:
https://melliobrien.com/calm-in-crisis-course/
đ The Expectation Effect by David Robson â The science behind how our beliefs shape our reality:
https://www.davidrobson.me/the-expectation-effect
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You Are the Calm Series: Episode 4
Why Weâre Facing a Global Mental Health Crisis â and How to Avoid Falling Prey to It
Life feels heavy right nowâand for good reason. With rising rates of anxiety, burnout, loneliness and overwhel
m, many of us are wondering, âIs it just me?â
In this episode, I unpack the deeper roots of the global mental health crisis weâre living through. From the impact of technology and the pace of modern life, to the cultural values that are pulling us away from what truly mattersâIâll explore why so many of us are feeling off-centre⊠and what we can do to find our way back.
Youâll discover three powerful yet simple ways to stay connected to your inner steadiness, even when the world outside feels uncertain. These shifts are about going against the grain, tuning into your own wisdom, and coming back to presence, purpose and real connection.
If youâve been feeling tired, off-track or a little lost lately, this oneâs for you.
đ§ Tune in to reconnect with what truly supports your wellbeingâfrom the inside out.
Key Links:
đ The Calm in Crisis 5 Day Course â Tools to stay centred in hard times: https://melliobrien.com/calm-in-crisis-course/
đ© Newsletter â Get invites to free live meditations, tools + updates: https://melliobrien.com
đ Free Deep Resilience Care Package â My gift to support your inner strength: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package
đ The Book â Deep Resilience â A four-step journey to unshakable inner strength https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book/
Matt Killingsworth research and TED talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qy5A8dVYU3k
Lost connections book, Johann Hari: https://www.amazon.com.au/Lost-Connections-Uncovering-Depression-
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You Are the Calm Series: Episode 3
The Most Powerful Question You Can Ask in Hard Times.
When life gets overwhelming, itâs easy to feel lost in the chaos of our thoughts and emotions. But thereâs one powerful question that can shift everything.
In this episode, Iâll share how this simple question can bring clarity, calm and empowerment in the middle of lifeâs toughest momentsâand how itâs the foundation of real resilience.
Youâll learn a tool to identify unhelpful patterns, gently reset your inner state, and come back to what you can control: your response.
If youâre feeling stuck, stressed or struggling, this episode will help you ground, reflect and reconnect with your strength.
đ§ Ready to relate to life with more clarity and calm? Tune in now.
Key Links:
đ The Calm in Crisis 5 Day Course: https://melliobrien.com/calm-in-crisis-course/
đ Melli OâBrien â Sign up to my newsletter for free live meditations, invites and more https://melliobrien.com
đ Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package
đ The Book â Deep Resilience: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book
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You Are the Calm Series: Episode 2:
True Resilience Is Not What You Think
So many people think of resilience as being mentally 'well' or tough, holding it all together, or pushing through no matter what. But in this episode, Iâm sharing why thatâs not just a misunderstandingâitâs a dangerous misconception.
If youâve ever felt like youâre failing when youâre struggling, or stuck in a label like ânot copingâ or âmentally unwell,â this episode is for you.
Weâll explore what true resilience really is (and what itâs not), why youâre not broken if youâre feeling overwhelmed, and how to relate to your mental and emotional states in a way that brings more calm, clarity, and inner strength.
Iâll also share powerful insights from both modern research and timeless wisdom traditions and some great free tools to help you reconnect to your resilience this week.
đ§ Ready to rethink resilience and return to your steady centre? Tune in now.
Key Links:
đ The Calm in Crisis 5 Day Course: https://melliobrien.com/calm-in-crisis-course/
đ Melli OâBrien: https://melliobrien.com (sign up to my newsletter to be notified of free live calls this month)
đ Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package
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You are the Calm Series: Episode 1:
Find Your Ground: A Practice for Calm and Clarity in Chaos
In hard times, our minds often race, and emotions run high. So much of this stress comes not from our circumstances, but from our refusal to accept them. In this episode, I share a foundational tool for letting go of stress and mental clutter, and reconnecting to inner calrity and calm so we can handle our challenges more effectively.
Iâll share a simple metaphor that illustrates the shift from resistance to presence, and offer gentle steps to help you practise this in real life.
đ§ Ready to find peace with what is? Tune in now.
Key Links:
đ The Calm in Crisis 5-Day Course: https://melliobrien.com/calm-in-crisis-course/
đ Melli OâBrien: https://melliobrien.com
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Why Feeling 'Enough' Feels So Hard
In this episode, I explore why we feel so much pressure to be better than averageâand why that pressure is actually making us unhappy. Our culture teaches us that to be valuable, we need to be exceptional. But the truth is, this drive to be special is one of our biggest blocks to true fulfilment. Fulfillment comes not from standing out, but from embracing the richness of ordinary life.
Iâll share why this drive for significance is so hardwired into us, how research from psychologist Tim Kasser reveals that pursuing materialism and status doesnât lead to happiness, and why the courage to be ordinary might be the key to feeling whole.
Plus, youâll learn practical steps to break free from the achievement trapâso you can continue to grow and succeed, but from a place of true confidence and self-worth rather than lack, fear and self-doubt.
đ§ Ready to stop chasing and start feeling whole? Tune in now.
Key Links:
đ Melli OâBrien: https://melliobrien.com
đ Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package
đ The Book â Deep Resilience: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book
đ The Deep Resilience Experience â 30-Day Course: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-experience
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Befriending Your Body: A Body Appreciation
In this episode, Iâll share a simple yet powerful practice to help you shift from self-criticism to self-compassion in your relationship with your body.
Profoundly healing and deeply transformative, body appreciation practice can return you to your innate sense of worthiness and enoughness. By letting go of the mental stories that tell us we need to be "fixed," we create space for a new way of being and living. Operating more from a place of love rather than lack. đ§ Ready to see what this practice can offer you? Tune in now! đż
Key Links:
đ Melli OâBrien: https://melliobrien.com
đ Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package
đ The Book â Deep Resilience: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book
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A Healthy Way to Be With Sadness
In this episode, Iâll share a simple yet powerful practice to help you navigate sadness with mindfulness and self-compassion. Instead of pushing difficult emotions away or feeling overwhelmed by them, learn how to meet sadness with awareness, care, and wisdom.
By shifting from resistance to understanding, youâll discover how to tune into your emotions, recognize your needs, and take empowered action to support yourself. đ§ Ready to transform sadness into a source of clarity and resilience? Tune in now! đż
Key Links:
đ Melli OâBrien: https://melliobrien.com
đ Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package
đ The Book â Deep Resilience: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book
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The Art of Letting Go: How to Stop Resisting Life and Find Freedom
In this episode, Iâll share a simple yet powerful practice to help you let go of resistance and meet life with more ease and peace. Instead of struggling against realityâwishing things were different or clinging to controlâdiscover how to release tension and embrace the flow of life.
By shifting your focus from struggle to strength, youâll cultivate greater freedom, resilience, and inner peace. đ§ Ready to stop fighting life and start flowing with it? Tune in now! đż
Key Links:
đ Melli OâBrien: https://melliobrien.com
đ Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package
đ The Book â Deep Resilience: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book
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From Self-Defeat to Self-Compassion: How to Handle Lifeâs Tough Moments
In this episode, Iâll share a simple yet powerful practice to shift from self-defeat to self-compassion. Learn how to quiet your inner critic, break free from negative thought loops, and build resilience in the face of challenges.
By changing the way you relate to mistakes and struggles, you can cultivate strength, confidence, and inner peace. đ§ Ready to let go of self-judgment and move forward with self-kindness? Tune in now! đż
Key Links:
Melli OâBrien: https://melliobrien.com
Free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package
The book: https://melliobrien.com/deep-resilience-book
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Mistakes happenâit's a part of life. But how you respond to them can make all the difference. Do you beat yourself up and spiral into negativity, or do you seize the chance to grow?
In this episode, I explore the transformative power of meeting mistakes with a tranformative practice that shifts negative thinking into courage, curiosity, and a commitment to growth. Learn how to shift your mindset from self-criticism to self-improvement with a simple tool you can take with you and use for the rest of your life.
Discover how this mindset shift not only reduces stress and self-doubt but also unlocks rapid personal growth, wisdom, and well-being. By embracing mistakes as stepping stones, youâll begin to realize your full potential. đ§ Ready to let go of self-judgment and start thriving? Tune in now! đ
Key Links:
Melli OâBrien: https://melliobrien.com
Get the Deep Resilience book on Amazon here https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/B0DWTBWHNX
Get your free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package
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In this episode, I share a powerful mindset shift to help you handle lifes problems and challenges with less stress and overwhelm and more clarity, calm and flexibility. One simple perspective shift can make a big difference in how effectively we work through challenges, what outcomes we create and how we feel along the way.
Want to see how a small mindset tweak can change everything? Tune in and letâs piece it together. đ§đ§© as we shift out problems into puzzles.âšLetâs get started.
Key Links:
Melli OâBrien: https://melliobrien.com
Get your free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package
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Do you ever feel like self-doubt is running the show, holding you back from your true potential? You're not alone. What if self-doubt didnât have to stop you?
In this episode, I share a simple, playful hack to flip the script: Instead of letting self-doubt stay in the drivers seat, respond with to it with a powerful defusion technique (a way of unhooking from thoughts) that helps you adopt a mindset of flexibility, curiosity and empowerment.
When you retrain your mind to meet self-doubt with curiosity, humor, and determination, it transforms from a roadblock into a powerful stepping stone to personal growth. Ready to shift your mindset and unlock inner strength? Letâs go!
đ§ Tune in now â and emerge stronger, wiser and happier.
Key Links:
Melli OâBrien: https://melliobrien.com
Get your free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package
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Anger is an important, healthy and valuable emotion. It's something we all experience.
However, if anger is suppressed or not expressed in a healthy way, it can lead to all kinds of regrettable situations. In this podcast episode I explain the difference between toxic anger and healthy anger and how you can bring the wisdom of healthy anger into your life.
Key Links and notes:
Melli OâBrien: https://melliobrien.com
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When we are struggling or feeling 'emotionally messy', instinctively, many of us try to hide that vulnerability from others because of a fear weâll be seen as weak, unworthy, flawed, and we will lose love, connection and approval in our lives. But research shows that when we share our vulnerability and struggles with others it actually makes us stronger, improves our connection and deepens their love and approval of us.
In this episode I share the science around what researchers have dibbed 'the beautiful mess effect' and give you some tips to embrace the beautiful mess effect and get the support, connection and resilience you need when navigating messy times.
Key Links and notes:
Melli OâBrien: https://melliobrien.com
Waitlist for the deep resilience experience course release (currently the waitlist is on our old course page called headstrong https://melliobrien.com/headstrong-program/ here )
Get your free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package
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We all encounter difficult dilemmas in life at one point or another where we don't know what to do yet. What can happen in these times is we can easily tip into spending our days endlessly ruminating and worrying about it, often making ourselves really stressed in the process.
In this episode I share a three step method to navigate our dilemas in a more empowering way and maintain greater freedom and peace of mind on the way to finding our answers.
Key Links and notes:
Melli OâBrien: https://melliobrien.com
Waitlist for the Deep Resilience Experience course release (currently the waitlist is on our old course page called Headstrong https://melliobrien.com/headstrong-program/ here)
Get your free Deep Resilience Care Package: https://melliobrien.com/#deep-resilience-care-package
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