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In this episode of the Senior Horsemanship Podcast, I talk about planning for after us. That is planning for our horses' care if we can't care for them anymore.
One possibility is to adopt a horse from a rescue like Bluebonnet Equine Humane Society. Bluebonnet retains ownership of the horse and will always take the horse back if the adopter can't care for it. Bluebonnet will also provide training and fostering to make the horse more adoptable. If you don't live in Texas, perhaps there's a rescue with similar policies.
Another option is to provide for your horses in your estate plan. We'll be talking with an attorney in a future podcast about estate planning for horses and pets too.
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There are many good reasons for seniors to volunteer for Bluebonnet Equine Humane Society in Texas or at similar horse rescues in other areas. According to Dr. Jennifer Williams, Executive Director at Bluebonnet, the top reasons are:
Seniors fostering horses can do that for a limited time and get a fostering stipend to offset some of the costs of having horses.Seniors volunteering in other ways can be involved in promoting the welfare of horses without the responsibilities and costs of owning horses. If you have a skill or interest, there's probably something you can do to help horses in rescue transition to a new and better life.If you're interested in supporting Bluebonnet in some way, please visit their website at Bluebonnet Equine Humane Society.
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So in summary, here are four good reasons why you should consider adopting from Bluebonnet if you’re a senior living in Texas.
#1 - You get an honest health and training history for the horse you adopt. Anything Bluebonnet knows, you will know.
#2 - You get a 30 day period to try the horse at your barn and if the horse doesn’t work out, you can return the horse and get your adoption fee back.
#3 - If your circumstances change and due to finances or health, you can’t keep your horse Bluebonnet will always take that horse back and find a new good home for it.
#4 - You get the support of Bluebonnet members throughout the State of Texas. If you need a farrier or a vet or you heed help with a behavior problem, Bluebonnet will try to find the information you need.
If you don’t live in Texas, Jennifer has described what you can look for in an equine rescue to help you adopt wisely wherever you do live. We will have more information about what to look for in an equine rescue in a future podcast. Here's the link to Bluebonnet Equine Humane Society!
Thanks for listening to this episode of the Senior Horsemanship Podcast.
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It comes back to whether or not we accept that definition of a good horseman or horsewoman: “A good horseman or horsewoman is someone who, in an educated way, always puts the best interest of the horse first and foremost.”
This is a quote from the book, Begin and Begin Again - The Bright Optimism of Reinventing Life with Horses, by Denny Emerson.
Welcome to the Senior Horsemanship Podcast. Which was the Second Half Horsemanship Podcast. We'll be talking about better horsemanship in the senior part of life. For most of us that means horsemanship for the love of it. That means horsemanship where we always put the best interest of the horse first and foremost.
I'm your host. Paul Sherland.
Denny goes on to say the following:
So any aid applied strongly enough to create nervous tension is an aid applied too strongly. There’s part of my problem, I realized. A kick tells the horse what I want, but it also creates tension, so I have to teach my horse to respond instead to a nudge, a tickle, some pressure that allows him to stay below his anxiety threshold.
Everything I had been doing was based on too much — too much force, too much pressure, too much too soon, too much assumption that my horse knew what I wanted but was simply not doing it right, too much, too much. I wasn’t teaching, I was forcing. And force always escalates, because force creates anxiety in the horse, anxiety creates resistance, resistance elicits more force from the rider to counteract it and down the rabbit hole we go.
It is a fundamental truth that I wish I had learned half a century earlier, and if it can help some riders and trainers — at any age — on their journey, I believe it will help them create stronger bonds with their horses.
I’m working on the website for Senior Horsemanship with the goal of getting it up and running by the new year. If you have comments or feedback about this podcast or any of the podcasts, please visit one of my other websites, SaddleUpAgain.com, and contact me there. I appreciate your comments.
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A burden of these years is to allow all the stereotypes of old age to hold me back. To hold me down. To stop the flow of life in me.
Do you want to be able to ride for years into the future?Do you want your horse to be healthy for years into the future?Do you want to be able to care for your horse as you get older?If you can’t ride for some reason, would you like to be able to remain involved with horses?If for some reason you can’t care for your horse, to you want your horse to go to a good home where she’ll be loved and appreciated for the rest of her life?
A blessing of these years. Is that they give me the chance to break the bounds of a past life. And to create for myself, a life more suited to what I now want to be.
This is a quote from the book, The Gift of Years, Growing Older Gracefully, by Joan Chittister.If your answers are "yes" then you may be interested in what I'm calling Future Horsemanship.
Many of us set our schedules and build our task list for the day based on what other’s need done rather than what we need to do for ourselves. We never seem to have enough time to exercise, train our horses, ride as much as we’d like or need to, and develop horsemanship goals based on what we’d like to be able to do a year from now or five years from now.
With Future Horsemanship, we’ll set goals for exercising to build the strength and fitness we need to ride our horses for years to come. We’ll set goals to work with our horses to build their fitness and train them to be horses that would win friends wherever they go. We’ll set goals to develop our horsemanship to enable us to work with our horses for years into the future. All of these goals drive the habits we form today to achieve those horsemanship goals in years ahead.
Future Horsemanship will be one of the topics we’ll cover in Senior Horsemanship.As I mentioned last week, I want to better prepare for the possibility that I might have to give up my horses. Or that one or more of them might outlive me. I have three horses and they're all different. But their prospects for a good life following me could be improved if I take the time to train them to be easier to handle, easier to ride and easier to care for.
As one of my Future Horsemanship goals, I plan is to do a series of videos, demonstrating my training progress and problems with these horses. The videos will help me share my experiences with you. And they also document where these horses are in their training — what they know, what they can do, and what they have issues with doing. Those videos should be very helpful in finding my horses good new homes if they ever have to be moved from my care.
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I’ve also become increasingly aware of how challenging it is to age. Our bodies change, grief finds us more frequently, we listen as our doctor tells us about invasive health screenings we must endure. Health insurance goes up and energy goes down.
But along with all of that, I also notice the frost on a horse’s whiskers in the winter. How on a chilly morning, the wind catches the mist of their breath. How standing beside them allows me to calm down and experience a grounded sense of peace. The rhythmic sound of horses chewing. Watching them gather hay into their mouths. Feeling their warm huffing breath on my hands or face is the best self-care of all.
For me, horses are sacred. In their veins, whether pureblood or born of unknown dam and sire, the horse carries memories of battles and races, kindness and cruelty, nobility and work.
This is a quote from the book, Getting Along with Horses: An Evolution in Understanding, by Crissi McDonald.
Perhaps you’ve also evolved in understanding your horse. Hopefully your experiences over the years, in working with horses and in doing other things, have changed and improved your horsemanship.
My hope is that many of you will share those experiences on the podcast so that the rest of us can learn from your successes and your mistakes. Some folks on social media are more than willing to share advice based on little or no experience. My goal with the senior horsemanship podcast is to foster the sharing of experiences that might be helpful to other folks and their horses.
You should know your horse better than anyone else. You’re in a better position than anyone to apply or discard the possible lessons learned from these experiences.
One of my goals is to better prepare for the possibility that I might have to give up my horses or that one or more of them might outlive me. I have three horses and they’re all different. But their prospects for a good life following me could be improved if I take the time to train them to be easier to handle, easier to ride and easier to care for.
My plan is to do a series of videos demonstrating my training progress and problems with these horses. The videos will help me share my experiences with you, and they’re also document where these horses are in their training. What they know, what they can do and what they have issues with doing.
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A burden of these years is to fail to get beyond the bitterness of having been displaced, and to not see that being moved quietly off all the platforms of life is also to be free of the stagecraft that goes with them.
A blessing of these years is to wake up one morning and find ourselves drunk with a very thought of being alive. Then wherever we go, we will spread the joy we have finally been able to find in ourselves.
This is a quote from the book, The Gift of Years, Growing Older Gracefully by Joan Chittister.
Welcome to the Senior Horsemanship Podcast, which was the Second Half Horsemanship Podcast last week. We'll be talking about better horsemanship in the senior part of life.
I'm your host. Paul Sherland. Well, the set.
Well, the Texas Secretary of State has assigned the assumed name of senior horsemanship to my company. And I've obtained the domain name for senior horsemanship. The podcast name is changed to senior horsemanship. And I'll be building the senior horsemanship website over the next few weeks.
So why the change? Probably the most important reason is that I'm certainly a senior horseman, at age 71 with three horses. I'm also very interested in riding, caring for and training my horses as long as I can. I'm also very interested in making as long as I can to be as long as possible. That's my goal in horsemanship.
I don't have any goals in the competitive arena. Not that competition is bad, but I just want to enjoy my horses. If you compete. Then I hope you do it for the joy of working with your horse.
So, what will we talk about? How about the following?
I'd like to talk about horse training. First because a well-trained horse makes life safer and makes our time with our horse more enjoyable.
A well-trained horse also has better prospects for a good home if for some reason we can't continue to keep our horse. So for the good of ourselves and our horses, horse training for seniors is a great topic.
I'd like to talk about horse care. I care for my horses myself, and I've learned some things in the process that I'd like to share. I also hope to learn from others about ways to make horse care better and easier as we grow older.
I'd like to talk about riding fitness and safety around horses. I've lost about 40 pounds over the last year and a half, and it's made riding easier for me and my horses. But with the weight loss has come some loss of. But with the weight loss has come a loss of some strength.
I've also suffered from my share of horse related injuries over the years, including a broken arm, broken ribs, several concussions and most recently broken toes. What can we do to be safer with our horses? I'm not as nimble as I once was.
I'd like to talk about the mental aspects of horsemanship. Because we need to rely on the mental more than the physical as we get older. When I was younger, there were ways of handling horses that could be characterized by make them do it. And don't let them get away with it. As I've gotten older, I've realized that there are better ways and I'll talk about them.
Finally, I'll talk about horse, horse.
Finally, I'll talk about how horsemanship can be much more than riding a horse. I've been a volunteer with Bluebonnet Equine Humane Society here in Texas for a number of years. And there are some volunteers who could be examples for all of us. Several volunteers can't ride anymore, but they foster horses and give them a great start on a new path in life. Other volunteers work on the admin side to give the organization the ability to help as many horses as possible. All of those activities count as horsemanship. We'll talk about those and more. -
The Second Half Horsemanship Podcast has its roots in much earlier efforts. About 12 years ago, I launched a Yahoo group and a website called Mature Riders which was intended for horse people in middle-age. I was in my late fifties so the timing seemed about right.
Then in 2015, I launched a website called Saddle Up Again for riders in midlife and beyond. That attracted some interest, but it seemed to be targeting a group that didn't identify itself as midlife and beyond. That made it a marketing challenge.
So earlier this year I launched the Second Half Horsemanship Podcast, again to focus on horsemanship issues for those of us in the second half of life. There are some very significant changes in mental abilities that occur in our forties and fifties. And there are fundamental changes in our metabolism that occur in our early sixties.
For many of us, there are also changes in our outlook on life. There's a move away from career and toward a vocation that's based on our interests and abilities, more than salary and status. These are changes that might reward more mind than muscle in our horsemanship journey.
However, I'm getting older. I'm certainly a senior citizen. I'm 71 and well past the start of the second half of life. I've concluded that it would be best to rebrand the podcast to focus on those of us who call ourselves seniors.
Delle, a friend of mine, suggested that I check a Facebook group called equestrian seniors. I found that there are more than 60,000 members of this group. I also found that some horse loving friends from years ago were also members of the group. This is a lively, highly active group of horse lovers. And it has convinced me that I can rebrand the podcast to serve those of us who proudly identify ourselves as seniors and continue to be interested in topics associated with horsemanship.
So I've applied to the Texas Secretary of State for a new assumed name for the podcast and a website. Hopefully by next weekend, I'll have an approval for the name I've requested. If so I'll announce it on this podcast next weekend.
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When I was a kid, I was largely taught by more experienced horse people. My mentors owned a riding school and I worked casually for them in exchange for lessons. They taught me everything from how to tie a knot to how to perform a half halt and position a horse in front of a jump. All the basic skills that a person needs to know at the beginning began by religiously following the instruction of my two mentors. I didn’t think too much about what I was told or why things were done that way. It was what it was because my mentors said so.
So today 90% of my new knowledge comes from horses and thinking/experimentation. The rest is divided between other professionals, books, videos, and students. Who knows where it will come from tomorrow?
This is a quote from the Good Horsemanship by Ross Jacobs Facebook page in a post titled The Evolution of Learning from November 13, 2022.
Unlike Ross, my horsemanship journey started at age 10 with six lessons at the local stable, books from the public library, and a subscription to Western Horseman Magazine.
My family lived in a horse friendly community. And I sometimes got lessons from the 16 year old boy down the street. But my horse was kept in a small barn near our house, and I rode every day the weather allowed it. I fed my horse, groomed my horse, was bucked off my horse, got back on my horse and got thrown less as time went on. Most of what I learned about horses was learned from my horse and experimentation.
My family moved after about a year. My horse was sold, and I didn't ride much for almost 30 years.
When I bought a horse and started riding again, I took lessons and attended clinics and watched videos. I was working full time so there was much less time for riding. Most of my knowledge came from these expert sources of information and I tried to apply that information to my horse with varying levels of success.
Now in my early seventies, I would agree with Ross that 90% of my new knowledge comes from my horses and thinking and experimentation. For me there is no one horsemanship method or mentor who has all the answers for me and my horses.
I hope you’re at a place in life that allows you to experiment with your horses, and watch for feedback from them to learn what works and what doesn’t. I hope that you think of horsemanship as a journey with detours and occasional setbacks. I hope you enjoy every day on your journey to better horsemanship in the second half of life .
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There is so much variation in the human individual that the approach has to be a little different in order to fit each person. They might come out with the same results as someone else, but if everyone tried to take the same approach, there wouldn’t be too many of them coming out with the same solution. That’s another thing I think is important to emphasize — this is an individual process. I tell people that over and over when they are trying to get something worked out. I say, “All I can do is try to help.” It has to come right out of the inside of the individual. There is no other way I know of that they can get it. It depends on what the situation may be; there might be many things, but there is a variation in how they are applied. People tend to say, “That’s a little deep. I know what you are saying but I don’t understand it.”
This quote is from the book, True Unity - Willing Communication Between Horse and Human, by Tom Dorrance.
In the quote, Tom Dorrance emphasizes that humans are individuals and that our horsemanship approach should be individual too. Our horses are also individuals and the relationships that we have with our horses are unique.
For years I read books, watched videos and attended clinics where various approaches were taught as if the same approach would yield the same solution. That was not the case. Maybe I needed a certain trainer’s saddle or bridle or maybe another video would help. I was taking the methods from these clinicians and applying them to my horse without taking his unique personality into account.
When my horse didn’t respond as the video or book or clinic indicated he should, I interpreted this as resistance or stubbornness. Our relationship was characterized by drilling and tension. Over years of clinics, books and videos, we headed down the wrong path.
I think this happens to lots of riders and their horses. We buy a horse and something happens early in the relationship that causes us to loose confidence in the horse. We anticipate trouble and ride like that. We do more groundwork and that makes the problem worse instead of better. Many of us sell the horse or quit riding altogether.
What worked for me was to watch a Warwick Schiller video on YouTube titled, 10 Year Old Girl Training. In the video, Warwick describes riding a horse at an event called Equidays in New Zealand. The horse almost bucked him off during his demonstration. Later in the day, the same horse was ridden by his 10 year old owner in an obstacle class and the horse behaved perfectly. That experience caused Warwick to have an epiphany about the importance of connection in horsemanship. Watching Warwick’s video caused me to remember my experiences riding as a 10 year old and the importance of the connection I had with my horses at that time.
So I changed what I was doing. I stopped the groundwork drilling and I looked for ways to remove the tension I was seeing in my horse. It worked and it rebuilt the relationship I had with that horse and changed what I do with my other horses.
So I hope that you’re experimenting to find the right approach for the solution you’re looking for with your horse. I hope that you recognize that the solution you read about or see in a clinic might not be the best for you and your horse. I hope that you recognize tension in your horse and that you work to start and end your sessions with your horse without tension and with relaxation.
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Approach your own personal voyage and projects like Michelangelo approached a block of marble, willing to learn and adjust as you go, and even to abandon a previous goal and change directions entirely should the need arise. Research on creators in domains from technological innovation to comic books shows that a diverse group of specialists cannot fully replace the contributions of broad individuals. Even when you move from an area of work or an entire domain, that experience is not wasted.
My initial spark of interest in this topic came after reading viral articles and watching conference keynotes that offered early hyper specialization as some sort of life hack, a prescription that will save you the wasted time of diverse experience and experimentation. I hope I have added ideas to that discussion, because research in myriad areas suggests that mental meandering and personal experimentation are sources of power, and head starts are overrated. As Supreme Court Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes wrote a century ago, of the free exchange of ideas, “It is an experiment, as all life is an experiment.”
This quote is from the book, Range - Why Generalists Triumph in a Specialized World, by David Epstein.
There are lots of early specializers in various horsemanship disciplines. And many of them end up as clinicians and authors later in their careers. I’m not saying we should ignore them, but I am saying that Epstein’s research shows that we can study them and take the principles and ideas that we find most useful and combine them with other ideas from other horsemen and horse women. By experimenting with a broad range of ideas from diverse sources of information, we can progress on the path to better horsemanship in the second half of life.
Here's a link to the book, From Strength to Strength, mentioned in the podcast.
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Nothing great, said Epictetus, is produced suddenly, since not even the grape or the fig is. If you say to me now that you want a fig, I will answer to you that it requires time: let it flower first, then put forth fruit, and then ripen. If, then, the fruit of a fig tree not perfected suddenly and in one hour, would you possess the fruit of a man’s mind in so short a time and so easily? Do not expect it, even if I tell you.
This quote is from the book, The Discourses of Epictetus.
Although Epictetus does not mention horses in the quote, it’s also true that better horsemanship is not produced suddenly. It takes time.
As I’ve worked on this podcast, it became apparent to me that I couldn’t podcast daily and still find time for my horses and my horsemanship. So I tried podcasting once on the weekends and three times during the week.
That was better, but the schedule also left little time for riding and training. So I’m going to try podcasting once a week on weekends.
That will hopefully allow me the time to finish the Second Half Horsemanship website and also spend some time riding and training my horses.
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Is the use of force really going to get rid of a horse’s nervousness? Are you joking? It’s obviously going to make it worse and worse. It has no place to go but downhill. And that is the secret about using force on a horse, any time, any place, for almost any reason. The more force you use, the more scared he gets. The more scared he gets, the more he resists. The more he resists, the more force you use.
See where this is going? Your only hope is to feel that original nervous tension and to instantly think, “Why? Why is my horse responding this way? Is he hurting in some way? If so, where and why? Or is my riding confusing him? Am I asking something he doesn’t understand? Am I driving him too hard? Is he getting tired, frustrated, anxious?”
Your only hope is to find the real reason and start by trying to fix it. No force. Don’t go there. Don’t start that snowball rolling.
This is a quote from Denny Emerson’s latest book, Begin and Begin Again - The Bright Optimism of Reinventing Life with Horses.
And a link to Shawna Karrasch Equine.
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In hushed moments, we know that is our sacred promise to horses. We buy their hay. I was sternly corrected for these words, so I’ll double down and be more clear. Call “buying hay” the tip of the financial and emotional iceberg, call it an abbreviation for the ways we alter our lives for horses, for the love and commitment that we offer freely. It’s the base level, the easy task, cheaper than the list of pros we hire for their care, but it stands in front of the rest… if you ask horses. We’re romantic; horses are pragmatic. Hay.
Here’s my problem. I’m a trainer who has lived long enough to have seen some horrible things. What I haven’t seen, people have told me about in minute detail. My mind is haunted by descriptions of horrible things. People hire me to resolve issues that result from these horrible things. On a good day, it’s my job to see all the horrible possibilities and put a smile on my face and do my job. I feel anxious for you and your horse. And I’m selfish. I can only take so much and a helmet cuts the chances of serious brain injury in half, math even I can understand. Those are great odds. Put your horse first; wear the helmet.
I require helmets at my clinics and I’ve written about them extensively, but lately, I was asked to write about vests, too. Yay. I love them as much as horses love hay. Please, consider a safety vest or an air vest.
Okay, say you truly are the exception to the rule. Your horse doesn’t eat. Of course, serious riders wear safety gear but you’re tough. You don’t care, it’s about tradition. You are opposed to change (although you have managed to adapt to a cell phone.) Besides, you don’t do what the pros do, maybe you “only” trail ride. No jumping and really, your horse is old and seriously lazy. He is as bombproof as a horse can be.
The problem is that we have it mixed up. Humans are the ones who aren’t bombproof.
This is a quote from Anna Blake’s blog post titled, Helmet Safety and the Ability to Buy Hay. For more from Anna, I recommend her book, Relaxed & Forward: Relationship Advice from Your Horse.
We all know that riding horses increases our risk of a fall and traumatic brain injury. Why not wear a helmet to make it more likely that we can continue to buy the hay that our horses treasure? Why not wear a vest to make it more likely that our horsemanship path will continue in the years ahead?
Here's a link to the Harvard Health publication, A Guide to Cognitive Fitness.
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Sports only have meaning because a certain group of humans ascribes meaning to those activities. Think about the passion demonstrated by groups of adults on Saturday fall afternoons sitting in front of television sets. From listening to the screams of ecstasy and wails of despair you might think the survival of earth was at stake, instead of whether some other human carried a ball across some line drawn on some field.
In horse sports, it seems to me, that the FIRST question to ask is whether or not it does harm to the horses.
The horse has zero interest in the hopes and dreams of humans. The horse doesn’t wake up on Saturday morning thinking, “I sure hope I can make my little owner proud of me today.”
On Saturday morning, just like on every other morning, the horse hopes to get something to eat.
This is a quote from Denny Emerson’s Tamarack Hill Facebook page. For more from Denny, I recommend his latest book, Begin and Begin Again - The Bright Optimism of Reinventing Life with Horses.
Here's a link to Lynn Acton's book, What Horses Really Want.
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Scientists used to think that brain connections developed at a rapid pace in the first few years of life, until you reached your mental peak in your early 20s. Your cognitive abilities would level off at around middle age, and then start to gradually decline. We now know this is not true. Instead, scientists now see the brain as continually changing and developing across the entire life span. There is no period in life when the brain and its functions just hold steady. Some cognitive functions become weaker with age, while others actually improve.
Some brain areas, including the hippocampus, shrink in size. The myelin sheath that surrounds and protects nerve fibers wears down, which can slow the speed of communications between neurons. Some of the receptors on the surface of neurons that enable them to communicate with one another may not function as well as they once did. These changes can affect your ability to encode new information into your memory and retrieve information that’s already in storage.
On the other hand, the branching of dendrites increases, and connections between distant brain areas strengthen. These changes enable the aging brain to become better at detecting relationships between diverse courses of information, capturing the big picture, and understanding the global implications of specific issues. Perhaps this is the foundation of wisdom. It is as if, with age, your brain becomes better at seeing the entire forest and worse at seeing the leaves.
This is a quote from the book, A Guide to Cognitive Fitness - 6 Steps to Optimizing Brain Function and Improving Brain Health, by the Harvard Medical School.
So in the second half of life your mental strength can be your ability to detect relationships between different aspects of horsemanship and different aspects of life for that matter. Your strength is probably not your ability to excel in one discipline. Instead it may be to combine the ideas of several disciplines into a unique horsemanship practice better suited to you and your horse.
In his book, From Strength to Strength - Finding Success, Happiness, and Deep Purpose in the Second Half of Life, Arthur C. Brooks says that, “when you are young, you can generate lots of facts; when you are old you know what they mean and how to use them.
So I hope that you recognize your mental gifts in the second half of life. I hope that you can apply your wisdom gifts on your path to better horsemanship and a better life.
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As the little horse stood quietly with his head in my arms, a lady in the crowd who owned a local Arabian farm of her own spoke up. “Buck, now that you’ve gotten this horse coming around the way you have, when would we be able to start with the whips again? Would we be able to start tomorrow or would we have to wait till next week?”
She had no idea what she was saying. It was the most bizarre thing I’d ever heard, and from a woman who appeared to be so sophisticated. How could she say something so uncivilized?
I couldn’t take it, not after what the little horse had been through. “Some of you can go to church on Sunday and claim to be holier than thou, but the other six days of the week you’re torturing horses and committing crimes against them. You make me ashamed to be a human being.”
But that wasn’t all that bothered me. That little horse had made a friend that day. He appreciated what I had done with him — I know he did. Yet I went away with a sick feeling, wondering if maybe I had done him wrong. On one hand, I had helped him, but I had also showed him there was something good in life that he would always miss.
I later learned that he went back to his same life. In that world of barbarians, defense was his only means of survival, and I worried that I might have taken it away from him.
This is a quote from the book, The Faraway Horses, by Buck Brannaman.
Your horse will respond to your kindness. Build a trusting relationship with your horse with your horse’s relaxation as your goal. You and your horse will both be the better for it.This is a link to Descript, the audio and video editor I use and recommend.
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We often forget that horses can do what they do, often in spite of us. In spite of our tension, our imbalance, our defiant grasp on the reins and our breath. A horse and rider can be poetry or a master’s work of art. Horses make us grander than we are on our own two feet. Their four hooves become an expression of what moves us when no one’s looking.
We often give ourselves credit for the activities horses do with us, as though we were the ones who taught them what it means to rise above the ground with such elegance. As though their balance and precision at a gallop were something we schooled. At their best, horse are who they are in spite of us. Not because of us.
This is a quote from the book, Getting Along with Horses - An Evolution in Understanding, by Crissi McDonald.
We have to keep the joy in our horses as we work with them. That should be part of the joy of horsemanship in the second half of life.
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We can decide to live with joy. Or we can allow ourselves to live looking back with bitterness. We can be bitter about all the things we wanted to do, but felt too constrained to risk. We can be bitter for all the hours we gave to a company that was able to say goodbye to us, without so much as remembering to send a card at Christmastime. We can be bitter because we chose security and independence rather than depth and companionship. We can decide to be bitter because at the end, only the end is left. But whichever we decide, bitterness or joy, decide we must. The rest of our life depends on it.
It can take a while before we begin to realize that retirement really plunges us into joy. But if we decide to live this new, unscripted time with joy, then life will come pouring into us, almost more fully than we can sometimes bear.
This is a quote from the book, The Gift of Years - Growing Older Gracefully by Joan Chittister.
So I hope that you are feeling joy in working with your horses. I hope that you are at a place in your life where you are content with your life and the new freedoms that retirement may bring to you. I hope that you can convey joy, peace and contentedness to the horses you work with and the people in your life.
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“The point I would hope to make is that my choices and your choices are all valid as long as we adhere to the first principle of horsemanship — that whatever we choose is always in the best interest of the horse.”
This is a quote Denny Emerson from the closing paragraph of Begin and Begin Again: The Bright Optimism of Reinventing Life with Horses.
In describing that competitive mindset he says, “everything I had been doing was based on too much — too much force, too much pressure, too much too soon, too much assumption that my horse knew what I wanted but was simply not doing it right, too much, too much. I wasn’t teaching, I was forcing.”
I think that most of us who have been riding horses for some time have been guilty of doing too much. I certainly have and it’s resulted in lots of “make them do it” moments and “don’t let them get away with it” decisions.
As Denny says, the use of force with your horse “always escalates because force creates anxiety in the horse, anxiety creates resistance, resistance elicits more force from the rider to counteract it, and down the rabbit hole we go”.
So I hope you're listening to your horse, and you're experimenting with ways to train your horse with connection and relaxation. Please remember that you are an individual, your horse is an individual and your relationship with your horse is unique. Please choose in the best interest of the horse because that choice is in your best interest too.
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