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Is your child struggling with symptoms that might be ADHD, anxiety, or perhaps both? It can be difficult to tell the difference, as these two conditions often share similar characteristics.
This episode clarifies the complex relationship between ADHD and anxiety, providing practical tools to help you understand your child's experience.
Discover how to distinguish between ADHD and anxiety, understand the phenomenon of masking, and learn actionable steps you can implement today.
For further support, sign up for our FREE email series, "From Confusion to Confidence," and discover how you can best help anxious children: www.huddlewisdom.com/14days
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Understanding Separation Anxiety:
Separation anxiety is normal, but that doesn't make it enjoyable.
The goal is to understand why a child perceives temporary absence as abandonment and how to reassure them.The child's brain acts like an overenthusiastic security guard, setting off alarms when a parent leaves.The child's brain is trying to protect them, but it can be "extra" about it.Signs of Anxiety:
Beyond a child treating a parent's departure as a major event, look for these indicators:Physical symptoms such as headaches and stomachaches, particularly on school days.Behavioral changes, like a normally independent child becoming clingy.Sleep changes, including trouble falling or staying asleep, or checking on the parent.The SECURE Method:
Dr. Tan introduces the SECURE method, an acronym for managing childhood anxiety.S - Safe Space / neutral space Creation: Create a secure environment, like a "Chill Zone" with pillows and books, where the child feels safe to express their feelings.E - Emotional Validation: Validate the child's feelings instead of dismissing them. For example, instead of saying "There's nothing to worry about," say "I understand this feels scary. It's okay to feel this way".C - Consistent Routines: Children need routines. Create a short, sweet, and consistent goodbye routine. A good routine includes a quick hug, a simple phrase, and a confident exit. A bad routine involves prolonged hugs, tearful goodbyes, and multiple returns.U - Understanding Triggers: Identify anxiety triggers such as new situations, changes in routine, or loss of control.R - Realistic Expectations:E - Empowering Independence:When to Seek Professional Help:
Consider professional help if:The child's anxiety severely impacts daily life.The strategies discussed aren't helping after consistent effort.The parent develops anxiety about the child's anxiety.Statistics:
Separation anxiety affects about 4% of children under 12.It's equally common in boys and girls.Most children show significant improvement with proper support.Many parents feel like they're the only ones dealing with this.14 Days from confusion to confidence: FREE email series / course. IT will help you make big changes in your anxious child's life, and yours in my opinion
www.huddlewisdom.com/14days
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In this episode Dr Davin Tan shares his insights about what to look out for so that you can distinguish between what's probably normal age and stage anxiety stuff and what might be more serious.
With his usual brand of self-effacing humour, we hope you'll enjoy this somewhat lighthearted episode about an important topic.
If in doubt, please consult a professional.
Making Sense of Anxious Kids Online Course
www.huddlewisdom.com/makingsenseofanxiouskids
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This podcast episode focuses on building resilience in children through empathic listening and emotional validation. The host, Dr. Davin Tan, explains that these techniques foster strong parent-child connections by creating a safe space for children to express their feelings. Empathic listening involves understanding children's emotions, while emotional validation means acknowledging their feelings without judgment. The podcast offers practical tips for applying these methods and promotes related courses for further learning. Ultimately, the goal is to help children develop emotional strength and navigate challenges effectively.
The 'Making Sense of Anxious Kids' course:
www.huddlewisdom.com/makingsenseofanxiouskids
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Discover the connection between the brain and gut, and how anxiety triggers the release of stress hormones which can disrupt your child's digestion.
Learn why mood imbalances can lead to stomach problems, because of the key neurotransmitter, serotonin, found primarily in the gut.
Recognise that timing is key; see if there's a pattern between stomach aches and stressful situations.
Look out for other symptoms of anxiety, such as sleep changes, appetite changes, and irritability.
Know the difference between anxiety-induced stomach aches and when it's important to seek medical help, particularly if the pain is severe, persistent, or accompanied by other symptoms like fever, vomiting, or blood in the stool.
Learn how keeping a symptom journal and encouraging open communication with your child can help.
Get insights into managing your child's anxiety.
Explore Dr Tan's course, "Making Sense of Anxious Kids", www.huddlewisdom.com/makingsenseofanxiouskids
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2024 was a tough year, wasn't it?
In this episode, I share my own experiences of navigating personal challenges while trying to be the best parent I can be.
We'll explore the true meaning of resilience, how to practice intentional parenting even when you're struggling, and practical steps to help you and your kids thrive.
Plus, I'll tell you about my free "14 Days of Reflection" program for anxious kids and my comprehensive course, "Making Sense of Anxious Kids". Let's face the challenges of parenting together - you are not alone!
CHECK OUT THESE AWESOME RESOURCES
✌️14 Days - From Confusion to Connection (FREE)
www.huddlewisdom.com/14days
🤔Making Sense of Anxious Kids
https://www.huddlewisdom.com/makingsenseofanxiouskids
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Understanding Before Change: Huddle Wisdom Podcast Episode 124
Do you ever feel frustrated by your child's anxiety?
In this episode, we explore how your own behavior might be impacting your child.
We often react quickly to our kids' anxiety.We want to fix it immediately.But sometimes, our reactions can make things worse.Take a moment.
Think about how you respond to your anxious child.
Do you get anxious yourself?Do you try to solve their problems?Do you avoid situations that make them anxious?Your reactions can unintentionally reinforce your child's anxiety.
Instead, try this:
Understand your own anxiety.Manage your own emotions.Model calm behavior.When you change, you'll see a change in your child.
Listen now to learn more.
www.huddlewisdom.com/14days (14 Day email series)
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Building Resilience - From Anxiety to Confidence - This episode explores practical strategies for helping children build resilience and confidence in managing their anxiety
Dr. Tan introduces the "Courage Ladder" approach, which involves creating manageable steps to gradually expose children to their fears
The episode also emphasizes the importance of understanding the physical symptoms of anxiety and how to manage them
Dr. Tan introduces the "Body Detective" technique for recognizing and managing physical anxiety signals
Practical tools are also discussed, including the "Dragon Breath" technique, the "Worry Box," and the "Superhero Pose"
The episode stresses that supporting an anxious child is a journey and that consistency and understanding are crucial
The episode emphasizes that the goal is not to eliminate anxiety, but to help children learn to navigate it effectively
Course: Making sense of anxious kids
www.huddlewisdom.com/makingsenseofanxiouskids
IMPORTANT NOTE:
The information provided in these podcast episode descriptions is for educational purposes only and should not be considered as medical advice It is important to consult with a qualified healthcare professional for any concerns about a child's mental health. The podcast series, "Making Sense of Anxious Kids," aims to help parents better understand and support their anxious children. Dr. Davin Tan, a child psychiatrist, shares insights and strategies based on his experience working with families The series covers topics such as understanding the anxious mind, effective communication techniques, and building resilience
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The Power of Validation - Communication That Transforms - This episode focuses on the critical role of validation in communicating with anxious children
Dr. Tan explains how dismissing a child's fears can worsen their anxiety and emphasizes the importance of acknowledging their feelings
Validation acts as a "bridge" to help anxious children move towards coping strategies
The episode provides examples of how to validate a child's feelings by using phrases such as "It sounds like you're really worried" instead of dismissing their fears
It also introduces the "Feel and Deal" approach, which involves validating the emotion first, then working on coping strategies together.
The key takeaway is that validation creates emotional safety, which is necessary for children to face their fears
Course: Making sense of anxious kids
IMPORTANT NOTE:
The information provided in these podcast episode descriptions is for educational purposes only and should not be considered as medical advice It is important to consult with a qualified healthcare professional for any concerns about a child's mental health. The podcast series, "Making Sense of Anxious Kids," aims to help parents better understand and support their anxious children. Dr. Davin Tan, a child psychiatrist, shares insights and strategies based on his experience working with families The series covers topics such as understanding the anxious mind, effective communication techniques, and building resilience -
Understanding Your Anxious Child's Mind - This episode introduces the concept of anxiety as an oversensitive "smoke alarm" in children, creating a "threat telescope" effect where minor issues seem overwhelming
Dr. Tan emphasizes that anxious children aren't being difficult; they are responding to a world that feels genuinely threatening
He also discusses how anxiety can manifest in various ways, including physical complaints, avoidance, and irritability
The episode highlights the importance of understanding what is happening in a child's mind to better support them
It encourages parents to shift their perspective from "What's wrong?" to "What feels unsafe right now?"
Course: Making Sense of Anxious Kids
IMPORTANT NOTE:
The information provided in these podcast episode descriptions is for educational purposes only and should not be considered as medical advice It is important to consult with a qualified healthcare professional for any concerns about a child's mental health.
The podcast series, "Making Sense of Anxious Kids," aims to help parents better understand and support their anxious children. Dr. Davin Tan, a child psychiatrist, shares insights and strategies based on his experience working with families The series covers topics such as understanding the anxious mind, effective communication techniques, and building resilience
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Making Sense of Anxious Kids
Join Dr. Davin Tan as he delves into why some kids exhibit challenging behaviours and how we can better support them. He discusses:
Misconceptions about "misbehavior" and the importance of understanding root causes.
The "problem of fit" and how demands on children can exceed their coping abilities.
Becoming a behaviour detective using the "ABC" method.
The role of temperament in children's behaviour.
Creating a supportive environment with empathy and understanding.
Long-term strategies to help kids manage their emotions.
For more strategies, check out Dr. Tan's course MAKING SENSE OF ANXIOUS KIDS self paced audio course "www.huddlewisdom.com/makingsenseofanxiouskids"
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A recap of the Meltdown Solution Series.
EBOOK available for download:
https://www.huddlewisdom.com/the-meltdown-solution-ebook
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The STEPs procedure is an excellent, effective and easy method of creating solutions to problems that lead to meltdowns. It does take some practice but it saves you time and energy and helps your children to build up resilience as you go through this process.
The Meltdown Solution EBOOK
https://www.huddlewisdom.com/the-meltdown-solution-ebook
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In this episode, we dive into Chapter 4 of the ebook, exploring how to create a Heatmap of Friction Points. This visual tool helps identify when and where meltdowns are likely to occur, enabling you to address potential triggers and create smoother transitions throughout the day.
Key Points:Creating Your Own Heatmap:
Draw a timeline: Outline your typical day.
Mark meltdown times: Use red dots for frequent meltdowns.
Stressful periods: Mark these with orange dots.
Calm periods: Use green dots to indicate easy times.
Identifying Patterns:
Look for clusters of red/orange dots.
Identify challenging times and activities that lead to stress.
Real-Life Example:
Sarah's Story: Sarah noticed her son had meltdowns around 4 PM. She adjusted her routine by preparing dinner earlier, setting up a quiet activity for her son, and involving him in simple food prep tasks. These changes turned a red spot on her Heatmap into a green one.
Using Your Heatmap:
Identify Patterns: Spot clusters of stress points.
Consider Factors: Think about hunger, fatigue, or overstimulation.
Brainstorm Solutions: Adjust schedules, prepare in advance, create routines, and introduce calming activities.
Implement Gradually: Focus on one or two friction points at a time.
Reassess Regularly: Review and update your Heatmap every few weeks.
Exercise:Pause the podcast to jot down one red spot on your Heatmap and three strategies to address it.
Common Questions:Overwhelming Red Spots: Focus on the most challenging times first.
Unpredictable Days: Look for patterns in activities rather than specific times.
Involving Your Child: Create a Heatmap together or use stickers for younger children.
Partner Disagreements: Create individual Heatmaps and compare notes.
Seeing Improvements: Consistent effort should show changes within weeks, though progress may not always be linear.
Final Thoughts:The Heatmap aims to reduce unnecessary stress, not eliminate all challenges. Frustration is a normal part of child development.
Homework: Create your own Heatmap, track your routine, and focus on one friction point.
Thanks for listening! Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review if you found this episode helpful.Link to the Meltdown Solution eBook : https://www.huddlewisdom.com/the-meltdown-solution-ebook
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In this episode, we delve into Chapter 3 of the The MELTDOWN SOLUTION ebook. The SAVE Protocol. This essential strategy is your go-to for managing meltdowns as they happen. By the end, you'll have a powerful tool to help your child navigate intense emotional moments.
Episode Highlights:Recap of Previous Episode:
Differentiating between tantrums and meltdowns.
Identifying common triggers and early warning signs.
Introduction to the SAVE Protocol:
S: Safety First - Prioritise removing hazards and creating a calm space.
A: Assess and Approach - Evaluate the situation and approach your child calmly.
V: Validate Feelings - Acknowledge and accept your child's emotions.
E: Engage Calmly - Maintain a calm presence and offer comfort or space as needed.
Real-Life Application:
Scenario walkthrough: Applying the SAVE Protocol to a child frustrated with a puzzle.
Practical tips for public settings and when feeling overwhelmed.
Common Challenges and Questions:
Adapting the SAVE Protocol in public.
Managing your own emotions.
Dealing with violent meltdowns.
Patience and consistency in applying the protocol.
The importance of supporting your child through ongoing meltdowns.
Role-Playing Exercise:
Practicing the SAVE Protocol with a playground scenario.
Reflection on how the protocol feels and its effectiveness.
Homework:
Implement the SAVE Protocol during your child's next meltdown.
Reflect on what worked and areas for improvement.
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In this episode of The Meltdown Solution podcast, we explore the first two chapters of the ebook, focusing on what meltdowns really are and how to spot them before they escalate. We differentiate meltdowns from tantrums and dive into the neurological processes behind these intense emotional responses. Learn about common triggers, such as sensory overload and changes in routine, and discover early warning signs to help prevent full meltdowns. Plus, gain practical tips for managing and understanding your child's unique behavior patterns.Click on the link to get your copy of "The Meltdown Solution" ebook for deeper insights and strategies: The Meltdown Solution Ebook.
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This podcast series accompanies the book.
Mental models for parents, teachers, professionals dealing with their children's meltdowns.
For Episode 1 we start with controlling the one thing we can control in the heat of the moment...tune in to find out what this is.
Episode Highlights:
Personal Journey: I share my own experiences as a parent, including a haunting day at the school car park, and why these moments led me to create effective systems for managing meltdowns.
From the Expert: Despite being a child psychiatrist, I admit that parenting expertise comes from practical experience, not just professional training.
Unique Frameworks: Learn about the practical frameworks developed through real-life experiences, designed to help you manage intense emotional moments with your children
Resources Mentioned:
Download the Meltdown Solution Ebook: [Link to ebook]
Watch the Old Video: [Link to video]
Visit the Website: [Link to Huddle Wisdom website]
Thank you for joining me on this journey to transform meltdowns from moments of crisis into opportunities for growth and connection.
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Are you a parent struggling with anxiety? Do you worry about how your anxiety might be affecting your children? In this episode of 'The Huddle Wisdom Podcast' with Dr Davin Tan explores practical strategies for managing parental anxiety. Discover how to identify your triggers, practice mindfulness, communicate effectively, and set healthy boundaries. Learn how taking care of your mental health can create a more positive and nurturing environment for your entire family.
www.huddlewisdom.com/signup
www.huddlewisdom.com/courses
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In the final episode of the Huddle Wisdom Podcast series, Empathic Guidance for Anxious CHildren, Dr. Davin Tan explores the importance of tailoring your approach to your child's mental age rather than their chronological age. Using the factory analogy, Dr. Tan explains how children develop at different rates across various domains and provides practical strategies for supporting them at their actual developmental stage.
Highlights:
Recap of the factory analogy for understanding child anxiety
Differences between mental and chronological age
Story of Emma, a 12-year-old with varied developmental stages
Practical strategies for preschool, primary school, and teenage developmental stages
Identifying your child's mental age through observation and interaction
Introduction to the "developmental gradient" method
Dr. Tan also introduces the Empathic Guidance course, a comprehensive program designed to help parents and caregivers develop a deeper understanding of child psychology and anxiety. The course offers in-depth insights and practical tools to nurture your child's emotional well-being.
Tune in to learn how to adapt your approach to meet your child's changing needs. Thank you for joining us throughout this series!
To learn more about the Empathic GUidance for Anxious Children course
www.huddlewisdom.com/courses
To sign up for our free newsletter: www.huddlewisdom.com/signup
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Join Dr. Davin Tan in this episode of the Huddle Wisdom Podcast to explore the power of encouragement in helping anxious children thrive. Recapping the factory analogy from previous episodes, Dr. Tan highlights the importance of recognizing and reinforcing a child's efforts to build self-confidence and resilience. Learn practical strategies to implement encouragement and help children navigate challenges.
Highlights:
Recap of the factory analogy for understanding child anxiety
Importance of empathy and positive reinforcement
Story of Alex, a young boy overcoming his fear of speaking up
Strategies for recognizing and reinforcing efforts
Emphasizing intrinsic motivation over external rewards
Creating a safe environment for mistakes and learning
Tune in to discover how encouragement can be the steady hand guiding anxious children through challenges. Don't miss the next episode on matching your approach to your child's mental age!
Learn more about the empathic guidance for children course:
www.huddlewisdom.com/practice
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