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This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined by Kyra Yang, a Certified Hypnotherapist that helps 7 and 8-figure entrepreneurs design a winning CEO mindset, to discuss emotional intelligence. Kyra has been responsible for generating multi millions in new revenue and higher entrepreneurial fulfillment for her clients by overcoming self sabotage and deep mindset blocks around money, visibility and success. By leveraging neuroscience, Kyra helps break mental bottlenecks in business to help unveil your utmost potential so that you can amplify your success and happiness sustainability.
When Kyra got started in entrepreneurship, she started to notice that a lot of the people she worked with were having stress, anxiety, and self-doubt. Even if they were creating new levels of success, they were still feeling a very low quality of life. Thatâs when she realized the emotional intelligence and the mindset component were so crucial for entrepreneurs to actually sustain this level of success and continue to break into more.
People think if they work for themselves, theyâll be free of all of these stressors from working the daily grind. And yet, entrepreneurship for many people is more stressful and less abundant. The reality is you just have more success and more money, but you're still the exact same person. If you have a perfectionism cycle or a scarcity loop running, the pressure to sustain that level of success that is self-created is so high.
When you have more positive thoughts or a positive belief system, that then results in thoughts that release positive emotions, greater confidence, and we move forward. That's naturally gonna increase your energy. There's a lot of pressure to be a certain way, and itâs natural to doubt yourself. The good thing is we can start to reframe imposter syndrome as moving towards an even bigger goal. Of course, it's gonna feel uncomfortable because we haven't been there before, but that doesn't mean that we can't do it.
Learn all this and more on this episode of the Marina Perry Podcast!
What You Will Learn:
Why entrepreneurship can be so stressful
What you can do to harness passion and energy into a more sustainable state
Tips for dealing with imposter syndrome and self-doubt
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This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, EJ Love returns to the podcast to discuss healing from heartbreak and betrayal. EJ is a trauma-informed, conscious sexuality, and thought leader, specialising in transparent and authentic conversations.
EJ has recently experienced heartbreak. When these things happen, the journey we end up on is facing a lot of our own shadows and darkness, and having to feel the grief and loss of a relationship. There's always two sides to every story, and EJ is someone who likes to come with as much curiosity, compassion, and responsibility as possible.
There's a lot of people who say, âwell, I didn't lie.â But not telling a truth is withholding authentic communication and sometimes it's more painful. Many people relate conflict to death, so if they go into conflict, they might die. There's a fear of loss of respect, especially if the person they're conflicting with is related to them being productive or gaining resources.
Many women have had the story told that their beauty, attractiveness, and beliefs are there for a man's pleasure. Yet, in EJâs experience, personally and professionally talking to men, they really love boundaries, feedback, and information because it gives them confidence. Being able to consciously explore sexuality after her uncoupling has been uplifting for EJ in her own journey. It helps to understand that no one else needs to love or see her partner in his wholeness other than her.
Learn all this and more on this episode of the Marina Perry Podcast!
What You Will Learn:
Background on EJ Love and her work in conscious sexuality and thought leadership
Her story around betrayal and uncoupling in her recent relationship
What conscious sexuality is and how it can help us heal from heartbreak
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This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined by Narelle Clyde, a spiritual mentor and life coach, to unpack light language. Light language is a multi-dimensional form of communication that speaks directly to the heart, soul, body, energy field of human consciousness, and also animals and nature. It is a healing frequency that can transmute anything into a loving frequency.
If you think about stuck emotions, traumas, and other difficult experiences we can have that get congested in the body, light language works as an energy healing tool to transmute through it. We already use light in traditional medicine to heal and explore the body. X-rays, for example, are a certain frequency of light. Humans are multidimensional beings. So we are here on this 3D earth plane as physical beings, but we also exist through other dimensions. Research has shown that there are up to 13 dimensions, and we exist in them all. So through those dimensions, we have access to different frequencies.
Narelle has received quite a bit of pushback over her career from people who canât make sense of her work, but in deciding to take light language seriously in her own life, she did a live stream online about who she was, what she does, what light language is, and what she uses it for. From there, everything just blew up in the best way. This universe went âyes, this is alignment; this is your fullest expression.â And clients started coming in from everywhere.
It's a nuanced experience, and a piece of a cosmic puzzle. It's a return to more wholeness, which arguably is a return to greater light. The purpose of life is to be happy, and yet we know with the epidemic we have of depression, anxiety, and the pharmaceutical culture, weâre in a lack of happiness. The worst thing we can do is think about it and let it ruminate because we send ourselves in a spiral and it's soul destroying. We need to be in charge of who we are and who we want to be, and light language is a tool available to you if you seek it out.
Learn all this and more on this episode of the Marina Perry Podcast!
What You Will Learn:
What light language is
Narelleâs background and how she came into light work
How we can utilise light language to come into our higher selves
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This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina hosts a solo episode to discuss the human superpower of trust. Too many of us don't have enough trustâ in ourselves, in life, or in others. As a result, we essentially lack safety, and when we lack safety, we seek to control more. We shrink, we contract, and we don't live fully expressed and liberated. Trust is so fundamental, yet there are mistaken beliefs that we hold around it.
Trust is not actually earned. It can be, but that's not actually how it exists. Trust is only ever given, so even when someone proves themselves trustworthy, you can still withhold trust. And if someone proves themselves to not be trustworthy, you could still give them trust.
There are categories of trust that Marina teaches to the coaches she certifies through the school of growth. These categories include capability, character, and commitment. These categories work together to establish trust. You might love someone's character and commitment, and think theyâre such a good person. They just have the purest heart and you adore them, but maybe they are useless at doing the things you need. So they lack the capability arena of trust for you.
There are ways you can try and extend more trust if you can break down where thereâs a potential lack of trust. If you see someone in their wholeness, in their capability, and affirm that verbally, they now have a capacity to grow into it. This is how we get to be more impactful leaders in any area in our lives. When someone breaks that trust and betrays us, we get to see someone's true colours. We get to make a choice, and weâre the better for it because if we hadn't given that trust, we run the risk of staying in that situation longer.
Learn all this and more on this episode of the Marina Perry Podcast!
What You Will Learn:
The basic fundamentals of trust and how itâs formed.
Background on the fundamentals of trust.
Personal examples of how trust is built and demolished.
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This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined by Lynn Kendall to discuss resilience in children and what we can do to bolster and amplify it. Lynn has over 35 years in the education system inside of Australia's schools and studied psychology. She created her own program called the Resilience Tutor built on the idea that resilience trumps intellect when it comes to what we need to instil in our children.
Statistics and studies show our children are in desperate need of support systems, due in part to social media and the current cultural climate of the world. Lynn got started in resilience after witnessing so many kids struggle with everything from academic work to social skills in schools. In an effort to get to the route of the problem, she went into the field of psychology and worked as a school psychologist. However, helping kids as a psychologist required waiting for something bad to happen first. So, she was still seeing kids struggle and felt like her current path wasnât able to help them.
This led her to focus on a preemptive program based on teaching skills to navigate the world in terms of their emotions, thoughts, energy, and how it links to every experience that kids have in life. It comes from a proactive space that allows children to understand who they are within their space. They are able to take these skills out into life and have tools to help them perform better.
A large part of this approach is picking about the mistakes and beliefs we think are fueling our behaviours because behaviour is the outcome. Behaviour is what we see. So when we see a tantrum or meltdown, or weâre seeing anger and frustration because when we actually unpack what behaviour is, we realise itâs all emotion. What Lynn does differently in her programs is teach emotion from an energy perspective.
Emotions can be very complex for kids, and they canât always work out whatâs happening because they donât yet understand life or where they fit in society. If we are not used to being present with ourselves, we cannot hear ourselves. We cannot feel ourselves. We are literally absent and outside of ourselves. Self-mastery is the foundation of self resilience. With higher levels, kids get the opportunity to modify their identity. So if we go back to the âbehaviourally challengedâ children, or ones identifying as âdumbâ or âslowâ or âproblem children,â they have the chance to reclaim their self-identity and transform.
However, not all weaknesses are bad or even need to be changed. Helping kids know their uniqueness, strengths, and knowing what they want to achieve in this lifetime, can work toward achievement. We're not all academic and we weren't all born to be academic. The system is one-fit-all, and that doesn't work in the way that enhances the diversity of the world that we live in because our world is becoming more and more diverse.
If they are capable of connecting to themselves emotionally first, and then socially, with resilience, compassion, and curiosity, we start seeing happier, healthier, and more confident children who grow into happier, healthier, and more confident adults.
What You Will Learn:
What led Lynn to studying psychology and developing her Resilience program, the Resilience Tutor.
The foundational values of her program.
How the Resilience Tutor helps kids become happier, healthier, and more confident in themselves, their life, and their place in society.
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This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined by Caitlin, someone Marina met through Pure Health Club who also participated in Dream Builder. Sheâs done the program multiple times, and started out as a PT. She now works as a confidence coach and has built her dream life thanks to the confidence and empowerment she built in her life.
Holistic health and nutrition has always been close to Caitlinâs heart, and as soon as she learned about Marinaâs business and mission, she knew immediately she needed to work with her. She was very much focused on how she wasnât good enough, and was living in a lot of fear. She felt like a complete fraud and didnât know what she was doing. What led Caitlin to dive deep into her work with Marina and seek out Dream Builder was letting go of that fear and resistence.
At that point, Caitlin was trapped in a defensive state, and the intimate groups of Dream Builder forced her to work through that resistance. She had no idea what she was doing or where she wanted to go in life, so the first Dream Builder planted seeds around self-sovereignty, awareness, and figuring out what she wanted. The second time, she was experiencing a lot of change in life, and the program got her to the otherside of that situation. The third time she took Dream Builder, she saw herself in a future she never considered and reached out to achieve that next level.
Dream Builder was the thing that allowed Caitlin to step in and own her next step in life. Listen now to hear more about what Dream Builder can do for you.
What You Will Learn:
An inside look at Dream Builder Background on Caitlin and what brought her to the program How Dream Builder can benefit you -
This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined by Lauren, who has been on the show in the past, to discuss her experience with the growth work program, Dream Builder. Dream Builder is a three day workshop meant to help you reach your higher self and build your dream life.
Lauren is a sex and relationship therapist, a sex educator, and an adult entertainer. She loves to combine her fields to give people a safe space to explore their sexual expression. Lauren did Dream Builder back in 2015, when she was raising three kids and caring for her husbandâs traumatic brain injury. She was also dealing with a lot of PTSD from dealing with her husbandâs accident as well as child loss.
Dream Builder allowed Lauren to take radical responsibility for herself and her life, which was a huge game changer. After Dream Builder, Lauren had a fourth child and felt empowered enough to leave a relationship that was not serving her. Dream Builder allows you to let go of whatâs not serving you, so despite Laurenâs relationship ending, her ex-husband is still in her life. They are best friends, he is one of her biggest supporters, and it is a much healthier relationship. You are worth the heartache and pain to change your life.
What You Will Learn:
An inside look at Dream Builder Background on Lauren and what brought her to the program How Dream Builder can benefit you -
This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined by her client, Carol to discuss her experience with Dream Builder. Dream Builder is not just about learning new things, but also learning about yourself through experience and self-discovery. The goal of Dream Builder is to reach to your higher self and build your dream life.
Carol is originally from Ireland, and is a graphic designer, editor, and mother. She did dream builder in 2016 when she was feeling a bit lost in life. She wanted to find direction and purpose, but wasnât sure where to go. If you feel stuck, change is what your system is calling for, so Carol signed up for Dream Builder. She had no idea what she was signing up for, she was new to Australia, and had a gut feeling that this was what she needed to do.
Dream Builder is a fast-track degree in yourself. Learning how we personally do things, and how our minds work differently in the same situations. The program is very layered, designed to help you take accountability for your stuff and put you back in your power. It also helps us to step into compassion and change ourselves for the better.
What You Will Learn:
An inside look into the program, Dream Builder. Carolâs story on building her dream life. How you can build your dream life through Dream Builder. -
This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined by Benjamin Berry to discuss breathwork and how it plays into healing and recovery. Benny has dedicated his professional career to assisting the community in times of need. From an Ocean Lifeguard, Underground Search & Rescue Team Leader and a Firefighter, he has been faced with some of the most challenging circumstances that can be presented to humans.
Through injury, Benny not only found the power to take his physical health into his own hands, but the ability to connect with the essence of what it is to be human. With breathwork and cold exposure guiding him, his life broadened from rolling through the motions of everyday living, to the expansion of discovering himself as his own man with the power to choose the life he wants to live.
We breathe in oxygen and blow out carbon dioxide, and in exhaling, weâre influencing our blood and urinary system into going into a deep rest and repair state. Breathwork allows us to take control of our oxygen intake and be a catalyst to that repair cycle. Many people are unaware that our body is an ecosystem. We forget itâs not the one thing, itâs the overflow and bringing harmony to the system. Thereâs a pushback in using very powerful breathwork and playing with this tool because people are afraid of their own power.
It's work, but itâs a different kind of work and you have this power within you. The conscious mind drifts aside and allows us to sit with ourselves. This allowed Benjamin to separate himself from his pain and injury and start to heal from within. Itâs about the desired outcome and itâs a skillset that takes time and development. Itâs incredibly accessible to everyone, whether you do it on your own or take classes and develop community.
Benjamin highly recommends working with someone to guide you through the process, but it is work you can do on your own. He encourages listeners to look outside their normal archetype and play around with passion until you find answers. Listen now and learn more on what breathwork can do to help you discover your deeper self.
What You Will Learn:
What breathwork is and how it can help stimulate healing. Background on Benjamin Berry and his journey. How to access your energy and discover your true path.Additional Links:
https://www.instagram.com/your.mate.benny/
Extras:
Benny has dedicated his professional career to assisting the community in times of need. From an Ocean Lifeguard, Underground Search & Rescue Team Leader and a Firefighter, he has been faced with some of the most challenging circumstances that can be presented to humans.
Through injury, Benny not only found the power to take his physical health into his own hands, but the ability to connect with the essence of what it is to be human. With breathwork and cold exposure guiding him, his life broadened from rolling through the motions of everyday living, to the expansion of discovering himself as his own man with the power to choose the life he wants to live.
Benny is a certified Wim Hof Method instructor and now works full time delivering workshops based on this method and other practices he has utilised throughout his career and his own journey of personal health and growth.
My mission/message:
To spread love and create community! It doesn't bother me how this is done - through exercise, meditation, mens/womens groups etc. In my case, I do it through breathwork and cold exposure, but I get just as amped joining other people on their journey of creating spaces where people can truly be themselves and feel powerful in doing it.
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This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined once again by Lauren Violet for a second dive into the topic of sexuality, sexual trauma, and the ever-evolving relationship we have with sex. How sexually free we are is not directly related to how much sex weâre having, but rather how we approach the concepts of sex and sexuality.
For Lauren, she was raised to view sex was for married people, not for pleasure or fun, and taking part in it outside of marriage was viewed as sinful. For most of her early life she abstained because that was what she thought she was supposed to do. As a teen, she indulged in other pleasures, but she knew she didnât want to have a one-on-one relationship, get married, or have kids. She didnât identify as monogamous, or even heterosexual, and many of her first sexual experiences were with women.
In her twenties, she fell in love with a man and explored a monogamous path. After the breakdown of that relationship, she abstained from sex despite having embraced it during the relationship and discovered she really enjoyed it. Her decision to abstain was a direct result from sexual trauma within that relationship. Sexual trauma, assault, and violation typically happen with someone you know and is not uncommon in domestic relationships. It happens across all genders, in all walks of life, all relationships, and we have to move through them. They are a part of our sexual evolution.
If you or someone you know is experiencing or dealing with an older experience, reach out to someone. There are people trained in sexual trauma that can help you through that experience.
As part of her evolution and healing, Lauren explored many different types of relationships before transitioning into an exclusive polyamorous relationship and then ultimately pivoting back to monogamy. An exclusive polyamorous relationship is between three or more people where all people involve are only dating each other. Relating and communication between partners is challenging whether you have one or multiple, and whether a relationship works or not is not based on the style, but on the effectiveness of the individual, communication, and emotional regulation.
Thereâs a fluidity to how we relate to one another thatâs present even in couples. How our context evolves will change the trajectory of how we relate to others, and itâs important that we feel safe to explore the ebbs and flows of our evolution whichever way it takes us. Exploring our own sexuality and embracing our natural evolution allows us to better connect with ourselves and our partner(s). Listen now to learn more about Lauren Violet, sexual evolution, and working through sexual trauma.
What You Will Learn:
Background of Lauren Violet and her experience with sex, sexuality, and sexual trauma. How sex, sexuality, and relationships are ever-evolving. Polyamory and the fluidity within all types of relationships. -
This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined by Lauren Violet to discuss navigating the unique nuance of children entering the teen/tween phase and relating to their blossoming relationship to sexuality. Sex and sexuality is the part of society that holds the most shame and the most conditioning. When itâs misused or abused, itâs harmful because that energy is so powerful. But when itâs embraced and embodied, it can literally createâ whether itâs life, connection, growth, or healing. So the question is, how do we navigate that as parents?
As children get older, the exploration of their bodies switches from curiosity to sexual in nature, and being uncomfortable in these conversations with your kids is very natural. But itâs important to be a part of the conversation as parents because itâs a part of life. Whether we talk about our sexual journey or not, itâs still going to impact our kids. Lauren advises listeners not to be afraid of being open about that discomfort and acknowledging that you donât have all the answers.
Children are forever evolving into adulthood. If you want your child to be a healthy, functional, sexually active adult, you need have these conversations with them as they evolve because thatâs where they learn healthy communication. We all have an inner child that should be welcome within that space as well, so if you can recognize and hold your own transition into sexuality, you can better recognize and hold your childâs.
Many of our parents didnât handle our transition well and some of us felt the impact of that well into adulthood. Others even bring that experience into the next generation. The most important aspect is that weâre practicing sex in a happy, healthy, and safe way, but what that looks like to each of us might differ. Having differing views can create struggle, but itâs okay to experience that struggle. Letting go of control is at the core of the solution. Sex and sexuality is explorative and an avenue of learning, and it takes personally navigating the journey to understand it.
Listen now and learn more from Lauren!
What You Will Learn:
An inside look at the sexual transition from child to adult Tips for navigating the transition from a parentâs perspective Why being present for these uncomfortable conversations is important -
This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined by Stepha Doyle, an international branding photographer, creative wildcard, content creator, speaker and facilitator. She is also the co-founder of Daydream Dreamday photography and branding studio. Her vision, art, and work centres around self-expression, creativity, aliveness, and humanness.
She taught herself photography at age 19 but felt too young and naive to feel confident in it. It wasnât until she became a blogger and starting Instagramming that she picked the camera back up again. After being asked to take photos for othersâ social media profiles is when she really launched herself into photography as a career.
The best photos are less about the pose and more about the human connection. Itâs the intimacy and vulnerability we see in them. Photos are just another journey to self love because weâre seeing ourselves through a different lens. We start to learn our best angles and poses, and overall start feeling more confident in ourselves. When in doubt, move more, and do what feels natural.
Thereâs such a stigma when it comes to selfies, and despite how commonplace theyâve become, they are still met with judgement. But being unafraid to take your phone out when youâre feeling good and capturing that moment, doesnât make you conceited. In many ways, itâs empowering and a way to come into your own. We downplay these parts of us and take away this love because there are all these narratives around if we love ourselves too much then weâre not a good person. Meanwhile, there are so many industries that profit off of people not loving themselves.
Nailing the âbig selfie energyâ comes down to approaching it from a place of neutrality and realising taking a picture doesnât mean anything. On the technical side, Stepha recommends exploring different lighting like natural and ring lights, and playing with lighting angles. Learning the foundations of photography is great, but donât be afraid to experiment and break the rules. Donât take just one or two, either. Sometimes it takes a hundred shots to get the one that looks the best, and not even all of Stephaâs photos are keepers. Understanding what we see online is not a true representation of real life.
Our personality is a large piece of what can build a brand and help people remember us, so creating content that capitalises on who we are on a personal level is so beneficial. We feel safe around what we know, so being imperfect and showing that vulnerability is key to making those connections.
Learn more from Stepha Doyle and listen now!
Bio:
Stepha Doyle is an international branding photographer, creative wildcard, content creator, speaker and facilitator. She is also the co-founder of Daydream Dreamday photography + branding studio.
Her vision, art and work centres around self-expression, creativity, aliveness, and humanness.
Mission/message:
To support people in feeling their aliveness and the liberation of their self-expression through photographic experiences, art and creativity.
What You Will Learn:
Background on Stepha Doyle and how she broke into photography. How to take your selfies to the next level. Why you should take a humanistic approach to branding.Additional Links:
instagram.com/stepha_doyle
instagram.com/daydreamdreamday
https://www.stephadoyle.com/photography
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This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined by Atlas Talisman, a game designer living in Tokyo, to discuss harnessing energy. He grew up in South Africa and studied creative arts throughout his life. He moved to Australia in his early teens where he really broadened his creative focus and worked as a creative consultant for many different industries.
He set out to grab all of these different âcreative playâ things he was doing, pull them together in some way, and trust the hive mind to create some sort of symbiotic relationship between them. The approach opened a lot of doors for him in so many different industries that he otherwise wouldnât have gotten to be a part of. Now, he tells trans-media stories and brings culture and art into the electronic space.
There is an artificial structure in society which forces the unnatural. And we can create metrics of success, put money into marketing, and use brute force to make sure that we adhere to things which are actually against our natural way of being. For Atlas, gamifying something means highlighting whatâs already there, not making something new. Itâs turning the spotlight onto things that are already present, and giving you an interface to help you interact with and challenge whatâs artificial.
Everyone wants to be a king or queen rather than understanding the group enrichment of symbiotic living where you give to the system that gives to you. We live in a world where everyone is addicted to control and giving others what they think they want to hear. The gaming industry is able to challenge those mindsets within us and explore the relationship between enslavement and freedom. Thereâs definitely a darkside to the web and gaming, but thereâs a powerful leverage point there as well that can take us to the new era in society.
The facade of power and success is crumbling, and artificial intelligence is just adding another voice to that conversation. We have trust that thereâs good and bad, and that there will be a syntropic evolution to it. NFT, or Non-Fungible Token, is more than graphic art. Itâs a standard of Smart Contract, and is traceable through the digital world. Itâs programming code that cannot be duplicated and can change the way we handle medical records, voting, and more.
Atlas suggests starting with participation. Getting involved with gaming and technology will connect you to the culture and community in the tech space. Donât wait until Apple or Google give you the opportunity, but get involved now. Get a twitcher account, and attend âAsk Me Anythingâ events with developers at the forefront of the space.
What You Will Learn:
Background on Atlas Talisman and his journey to trans-media storytelling. How gaming and storytelling can bring the next age of society. NFT and the future of the gaming space. -
This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined by Teila-Anne Butler to discuss aligning your brand from the beginning to reach success. Sheâs a digital marketing guru and has years of experience helping brands define themselves and stand out online. Teila got into marketing on accident by following a skillset, and naturally grew through sharing her knowledge.
Aligned branding means keeping true to you, and itâs important from the beginning because of the sheer amount of noise present in every industry. When youâre showing up as who you genuinely are, the right people will find you. That saves you time and energy in marketing because your fans and the people who love you and your services will do a large part of your marketing for you. It also keeps you from having to rebrand later on because youâre staying to whatâs natural to you, and it will feel like less work.
The number one mistake people make on social media is putting pressure on themselves to create. Itâs the perception that every piece of content has to be intentional, and they stop having fun with it. This comes out specifically with people with personal brands, who have a hard time separating themselves from their online persona.
Knowing your target audience will help you streamline your alignment. Showing up for people comes down to the kind of language youâre using about your business, images youâre sharing, and the way youâre speaking to people. The moment you have that person in mind as you do these things, youâll naturally change the way youâre showing up for them. Your brand vision is long-term, whereas your mission works shorter term and allows you to target specific goals and customers. Figuring out where you want to start showing up is the first step to aligning your personas with your vision and mission. Listen now and learn all this and more from Teila-Anne!
What You Will Learn:
Background on Teila and what she does in social media. Why alignment in your brand is key to running a successful business. Actionable steps listeners can do to level up their brand. -
This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined by Queen of Confidence, Erika Cramer. Erika has survived many different traumas throughout her life including, childhood abuse, foster care, loss, and more, and is the definition of transforming trauma into triumph. Erika believes all women are queens of confidence and the route to achieving that level is to see it in ourselves.
Curvy women struggle with finding clothes that fit more than any other demographic in Australia, so back when she was a clothing stylist, she started out as the Queen of Curves. But through that journey, she felt the exclusion of other types of women, and she decided she didnât want to stand in that spotlight. So she changed the name to be more inclusive to any woman looking for a leader.
Erika grew up in the US. Her mom was in and out of mental hospitals, so Erika spent a lot of time in foster care. She was constantly looking for validation, had no sense of belonging or confidence, and was very angry. At 17 she joined the army, thinking that was the only way she could get out of her world. Years later, Erika was involved in a very bad car accident, spent 30 days in the hospital, and had to learn to walk again.
Thinking that was her wakeup call, she left the military and started on her journey of becoming a model and stylist. At the age of 23, her husband was involved in a drunk driving accident and passed away. Feeling lost and alone, she dated several men who were not good people, and ended up relocating to Australia. While living in Australia, she realized she couldnât outrun the past and really needed to do the work to heal and grow. That set her on the path to becoming the Queen of Confidence and meeting her now-husband.
You need to look in the mirror, and realize that the common denominator in your life is you. Itâs not because of anything else, and we canât keep blaming all those other things. If youâve had a lot of terrible things happen to you in your life, they can be easy to blame for where you are now. But so many people have had truly horrible things happen in their pasts and are thriving. Look to those people, and take responsibility for the life you have and the future you want. We canât change anything through anger and judgment.
What You Will Learn:
Background on Erika and her journey. How to transform trauma into triumph. Taking responsibility for our present and future.ABOUT ERIKA CRAMER
Known as the Cardi B of the personal development world, Erika Cramer aka The Queen of Confidence is a full-flavoured, spicy inspirational speaker and mentor to thousands of women across the globe.
Today, she connects with an engaged global community and shares with tens of thousands of women on a daily basis to help empower, encourage and inspire them to step into their confidence.
But it hasnât always been this way. Having survived many traumatic experiences in her youth, Erika spent a number of years searching for love, peace and validation in all the wrong places. She has survived childhood sexual abuse, being brought up in and out of the foster care system, life-altering car accidents and a whole lot of grief and loss.
In the last decade, she has been able to turn her life around from one of hopelessness and pain to one of passion, growth and success, after going on her own powerful journey of personal healing.
An international confidence coach, Erika also hosts a five-star rated podcast, The Confidence Chronicles, which is in the top 10 of the Australian Apple charts for Mental Health, with 1,800,000+ downloads and counting, and listeners in 86+ countries.
She has created a seven-figure global business by mentoring and supporting those who have suffered similar life experiences as her own.
Erikaâs story is one of triumph over adversity and she is full of light, laughter and of course, confidence. Erika is a beaming and beautiful example of how you can heal your personal story to transform trauma into triumph.
LINKS
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Theconfidencequeen/
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This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined by Brianna Bowley, a trauma coach who focuses on rewriting trauma response and teaching what we need to learn. People think trauma is abuse, witnessing something violent, or an accident. For Brianna, my definition of trauma is anything that disconnects us from ourselves. When we have these traumatic experiences, whether traditional trauma or minor experiences, one of three things happens: fight, flight, or freeze.
Understanding our go-to response and why we do what we do is incredibly important to achieving new growth because then we can start to shift those patterns. Brianna encourages her clients to track their reactions, what triggered it, the responses in their bodies, and what they felt driven to do afterward to deal with it. That adds an extra depth of awareness, and we start to see how it impacts our lives.
For people in a constant state of fight-or-flight for survival, teaching them to be in their stillness allows them to take themselves out of that space. You don't feel it when you're in a fight or flight state. It feels normal to you, and it's often a real struggle when you try to slow down. So take it in small steps and know that the things we feel we're missing pave the way for values. Our pain points pave the way for our power.
What You Will Learn:
Background on Brianna and how she got into trauma coaching. How trauma, big or small, shapes our internal systems and impacts our bodies. Tips for rewriting your own trauma responses to reach your highest level. -
This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina is joined by Trace Garbin to discuss inner wisdom and intuition. In the journey for the meaning of life, Trace found self-awareness was her answer. Self-awareness unlocked everything for her when weâre lost, and things donât feel good. Now, she works with adults to unlock that inner wisdom and soul energy. With self-awareness, you can retain your life-force energy and focus on whatâs expansive for you.
Self-help can feel like busy work, but that doesnât mean youâre not getting results. And you can get caught up and distracted in self-help. Being more in tune with what youâre feeling, hearing, saying, etc., can help you gain self-awareness. Itâs like a muscle, and you have to keep using it. Absolutely everyone has intuition, and the key to tapping into it is getting rid of the layers that dimmed it. The biggest step toward initiative awareness has self-trust. Relationships take time. Skills take time. So donât stop showing up.
Regarding growth work, the most important thing is figuring out what works for you. Sometimes, like if weâve suffered a big trauma, meditation wonât be helpful, and something else might be more effective in achieving the right amount of mental stillness. Explore different ways of grounding yourself and pay attention to what you feel in your body. Give yourself a chance to get into those lows and work past the initial challenge of learning a new system.
Once weâve done the work, we can better see our true calling in life. Everyone has a side-hustle; thereâs nothing wrong with it, and if itâs genuinely your divine calling, go to it. However, you want to be doing it because of you and not for any external reasons.
What You Will Learn:
Background on Trace Garbin and her background in inner wisdom. An inside look at inner wisdom and why intuition is important. Tips for unlocking and improving your inner wisdom. -
This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina discusses parts, fragmentation, and the reclamation of our parts. Parts of us are the aspects of our personality or behaviors we either identify with or have chosen not to. As we go through life, weâre being fed information and feedback that we internalize as lessons for survival and expectation.
If youâre punished for certain behaviors, or even if youâve heard people in your life speak poorly of others who displayed those behaviors, your desire to be loved and accepted will force you to reduce the acceptance of those parts within yourself.
We can disown a part of ourselves, meaning you brought a part forward and experienced a painful rejection for it. And if we experience that rejection repeatedly, weâll shut it down and stop doing it. We can also leave pieces of ourselves dormant, which happens when we witness someone we respect reject someone else we are less likely to step into that same behavior for fear of rejection.
Thirdly, we can fragment ourselves in whatâs called the distorted part. This is when we allow pieces of ourselves to show through, but only in specific environments when we know weâre more likely to not experience rejection. Every single person walking the planet has fragmented themselves based on their conditioning. It doesnât mean youâre living a terrible life; you can be incredibly successful and still fragment. A sign of fragmentation is triggered by someone displaying a specific behavior because that means youâve encoded that behavior as bad.
We end up draining our own energy by not owning these parts. That denial takes energy away from us, and when we open up, we can release and use that energy. The same way you have an arm and an elbow in your physical being, you have parts to your identity and spiritual being that is just as much a part of you as anything else.
With women in particular, as we pick up more roles in life, we start establishing all these rules for ourselves of what weâre âsupposedâ to be in these roles. For example, when we step into motherhood, we can no longer be a boss or a sexy minx because our conditioning says mothers canât be those things. So we start repressing those parts of us to be what we think of as a proper mother. Marina invites you to explore what makes your identity, is something serving you, and think of what life would be like if you welcomed those parts back into expression.
What You Will Learn:
What parts and fragmentation are, and why we repress them. How repression of those parts drains our energy. What we can reclaim those parts. -
This week on the Marina Perry Podcast, Marina discusses how we can only manifest what our system allows. She explores the concepts of inner floors and ceilings we all have in our lives and how our reality reflects our inner codes. Only once we truly understand that can we step in and call what we want.
Codes are learned concepts we hold ourselves to, and they ultimately create a cage of conditioning. And most of us arenât even aware of it. It doesnât matter if your life is amazing or not. We all have something inside the matrix of all of our codes that creates a floor and ceiling that keeps us âsafe.â Without growth work, we cannot reach anywhere above that ceiling of our cage thatâs limiting us.
When weâre in a cage, we might not be happy, but our system is happy because it knows whatâs happening. It keeps up in belonging and the routine. The unconscious mind likes to lock in because so many of our actions and movements are unconscious so the brain can conserve energy. When we consciously try to reach above our ceiling, our system gets a little freaked out.
The fear of success is more common than people realize. We know we can do it, but our codes interfere. To move past that ceiling, we need to do that work and update our codes to be more in alignment with what weâre trying to achieve. We manifest what our system allows, so allow it, and then you get to have it. But when we fear success, weâre afraid that weâre going to lose another by achieving one thing. Hitting our ceiling back bouncing back down isnât like a sabotaging cycle. Your goal is not to eliminate the ceiling or the floor but elevate them.
What You Will Learn:
How our codes define our walls and ceiling. Where the fear of success comes from and how to combat it. Tips for redefining our codes so we can elevate our ceiling and floor. -
On the Marina Perry Podcast this week, Marina discusses how to get around the number one block to being your best self. We often talk about our best self being our higher self or next-level you. Itâs an ever-evolving concept, and the block thatâs stopping us from being our best selves is identity coherence.
Identity coherence is when we believe we are a certain way and actively work to match that perceived identity. The problem is, that our best self is a different version of us. So if weâre always working to match the identity of what we think we are, weâre never going to be able to change into a better version. The etymology of the word âidentityâ is âsame,â meaning when you identify with something, youâre saying youâre the same as it. So we construct this cage of our own making, and only you have the power to change.
This doesnât mean that the you you are right now canât have the life you want. It means you arenât a match. We live in a magnetic universe, and we attract the things that we are, not the things we want. To close the gap between what we are and what we want to be, we have to stop limiting our identities and blocking our birthright. When weâre in our wholeness, we are everything, and when weâre everything, we can have anything.
What You Will Learn:
What Identity Coherence is, and why it blocks us from becoming our better selves. Tips for battling Identity Coherence to become our better selves. What we can do to update our identity. - Mostrar más
