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Karen Conti was a young and inexperienced attorney when she spent 7 months as part of the legal team representing serial killer John Wayne Gacy in his final death row appeals. A time that defined her professional trajectory.
We discuss societal aspects of criminal infamy, including the consequences of giving attention to nefarious individuals and the importance of redirecting attention and funds from capital punishment towards crime prevention.
Further, we reflect on the difficult balance for an empathetic lawyer between professional duty and public scrutiny. Karen offers sage wisdom on self-worth and living by one's own values, while also sharing her experience dealing with dangerous minds, their manipulation tactics, and the significance of surrounding oneself with positive influences.
For a deeper understanding of these topics and an inside look at Karen Conti’s professional journey and her book, "Killing Time with John Wayne Gacy", make sure to tune into our compelling conversation that moves beyond the flashy headlines and into the essence of our humanity.
Content note: This episode contains sensitive content, discretion is advised
Guest links: https://www.amazon.com/Killing-Time-John-Wayne-Gacy & www.karenconti.com
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Today, I’m joined by Madam Bella Cummins, the proprietor of Nevada's only true female-owned brothel, bringing nearly 40 years of experience as a Madam to our discussion. We delve into the nuanced landscape of legalised prostitution, shedding light on ongoing efforts to reduce stigma, promote safety, and ensure consent within the profession.
We explore her advocacy for sex workers' rights through the Onesta Foundation, the shift from 'prostitute' to 'courtesan,' and the recognition of sex work and the human need for connection.
We also tackle the societal judgement faced by those in the industry, underscoring the importance of open dialogue.
Discover more about Madam Bella's mission and advocacy at the https://onestafoundation.org/ Her website www.bellas*dot*us; X: Bellashacienda
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Breaking free from societal expectations of beauty, body image, and identity. In this empowering episode we cover the power of listening to the body's signals, questioning societal narratives, and approaching ageing with grace and self-respect. Including the Compliance vs Defiance Mode of Operating in relation to those and all of life.
We unpack the dangers of seeking external validation and discuss the significance of self-validation, interdependence, and the complex relationship people have with food.
We delve into Ximy's personal experiences with health challenges and her transition from a vegan lifestyle to embracing holistic health principles focused on self-nourishment. If you want to learn more, join Ximy in her holistic program: 7 Body Basics.
Ximy is from Columbia and lives in DR, Caribbeans. She worked in entertainment, fitness, holistic health and beauty. She now helps women reconnect with themselves going from vanity to the pursuit of self-care.
Find Ximy Gonzalez: bombshellformula.com; instagram.com/bombshellformula/; linkedin.com/in/ximena-gonzalez-467273179
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Three scientists won the Nobel Prize in Physics in 2022 for proving Quantum Entanglement is real! We delve into its fascinating world and philosophical implications on human connections and the universe. Lindsay, an astrophysicist with expertise in space policy, breaks down complex scientific concepts like wave function collapse and quantum mechanics into digestible analogies (organizing chopsticks).
We explore how quantum entanglement might explain the deep interconnectedness between people and life's synchronicities. The conversation also touches upon Lindsay's passion for the impact of dark skies on our appreciation of the cosmos, and light pollution's effect on our wellbeing.
We also discuss the power of individual decisions and the butterfly effect on shaping our lives and the universe at large. Lindsay's passions for art and science make her a captivating guest, effortlessly blending them into our discussions, making advanced science topics fun and accessible.
Find Lindsay:
lindsaydemarchi.comlinkedin.com/in/lindsay-demarchiPetition Your Mayor: Use Our Email Template to Reduce Light Pollution here:https://forms.angie-s.com/ep103
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After getting out of debt, Tawnya dedicated herself to help others do the same. She shares how to create a budget to help break free from living paycheck to paycheck. It's not always easy, but it's worth it.
We cover:
// The impact being broke has on your health.
// Why getting into debt is so common and normalised.
// The first steps you need to take to get out of debt.
// Budget fluctuates.
// Is it an income issue or a spending issue?
// What can you afford, how much should you spend on rent? Plus other % to know based on your income.
// Out of the box ideas to get out of debt.
// Why people relapse into debt.
// Should everyone have a budget?
// How to still enjoy yourself when budgeting and saving money.
// What is an emergency fund and what should it be used for?
// Her thoughts on the F.I.R.E. movement.
// How your past with money doesn’t have to equal your future.
// Why buying a house is not always the best financial option.
// Should you buy a new car or a second hand car?
Am taking a little break (more details shared in the intro of the episode) but I’ll be back soon!
Find Tawnya www.themoneylifecoach.com & https://instagram.com/tawnyaschultz
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The ethics of AI: AI is neutral but how it’s coded and used will determine if it’s good or bad for us. Here’s the catch: its development is based around profit and private companies are racing each other for it. This race is not democratically run and we have no regulations in place to manage AI’s warpspeed advances and without fail-safes it’s a gloomy prospect.
We also cover the link between Green energy, lithium, AI and Tesla. If one day things go south with lithium’s import, will sending that one email be as expensive as heating our home?
Not all gloom and doom, we also touch on the advantages of having AI in our lives.Tune in to find out what can be done to avoid the worst and manage our world with AI already deeply embedded in it. Hear all of this from today’s guest Scott Sereboff with 25+ years in surveillance and security technologies. This includes everything from cameras to AI and biometrics. Recorded on the 27th Apr 2023.
Find Scott at http://www.us-deepingsource.io His podcast: The Privacy of Me https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-privacy-of-me/id1670242621
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Today with Mac, a NY Couples Therapist, we talk about this new era of where men are opening up more and how to navigate this new paradigm. Mac specialises in infidelity recovery, black men going to therapy and recovering from narcissism and porn addiction.
We go over
+ Discerning between good and bad advice on the internet. Are they voicing an opinion or educating on relationships?
+ Why men (tend to) cry by the 5th session in couples therapy with Mac.
+ What makes a man feel unappreciated, unseen and feels as a 2nd thought in relationships.
+ The misunderstanding behind ‘Happy wife, happy life’.
+ The identity crisis and struggles for men today. How do you balance gender roles in this modern society?
+ Men and women are after the same in the relationship but get them fulfilled differently: Mac shares a solution that fits both.
+ How much can we open up to a partner?
+ How does a man feel listened to?
+ How does a couple end up in therapy?
+ Representation in the therapy world and how important it is.
+ Finishing up with a fun fire round of: The 5 worst relationship advice according to Mac.
Find Mac on Insta @ talk2mac_therapist/ + his podcast: Ménage À Mind
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Ever wondered how someone is exonerated after 28 years in prison? Innocence Projects are doing an insane amount of work to make that happen.
Today with Louise, Director of The Innocence Project London, we talk about what they do for the wrongfully convicted.
Dr Louise Hewitt has many accolades but the one that stands out to me is the pro bono work she’s been doing for over 13 years at the Innocence Project London (IPL).
We go over:
+ Claiming back your innocence and why it’s such a lengthy process?
+ Are the requirements to get your case reviewed fair or not?
+ Various types of wrongful convictions: Joint enterprise liability & mistaken eyewitness identification.
+ How good storytelling from a prosecutor can sway a jury against you.
+ How does she know if her clients are genuinely innocent and not just playing her?
+ Is anyone more vulnerable to be wrongfully convicted?
+ The look of innocence: our misconceptions and ideas. Are there parameters in place to combat bias in the justice system?
+ Different categories of prison.
+ Even when exonerated, can you ever remove the stain - Is that injustice ever made right again?
+ What to do if you’re arrested for a crime you didn’t do.
+ The lack of legal aid funding and how she keeps going.
+ The empathy for the individuals in prison as being part of our society.
+ The ripple effect of the innocence project.
+ Could a world without IPL ever exist?
+ The future of IPL.
+ Being pardoned and wanting your name back.
Mentioned in the episode: Maria Konnikova (journalist) & John Huffington (exonerated)
This is an episode that is very important to me, what the Innocence Project London does is not easy but very important work that requires tenacity and support. I hope this episode will go some way in giving them support.
Find Louise & Innocence Project: www.iplondon.org
Twitter & FB: @innocencelondon
Insta: @innocenceprojectlondon/
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Are memories reliable? Memories can be implanted or misremembered and be used against you or someone else. Not always knowingly but it happens.
Today with Kevin, Director of Communications for the British False Memory Society. We go over what they are, when they occur and we can protect ourselves from others [therapists, police and other officials] to implant memories in us.
We go over:
// Recovered memories and regression therapy.
// What got him in this line of work.
// Repressed memories vs the evolutionary advantage of (partly) forgetting pain (like childbirth & heartbreak).
// Why do some have no recollection of their childhood or teenage years?
// You never remember where you left your keys but remember what I told you May 10th 1997 at 10am….what is that about???
// Which parts of our memories can we trust?
// Is photographic memory real?
// Eyewitness testimonies leading to so many being wrongly identified and convicted.
// Misremembering vs forgetting
// Implanting memories.
// Doctoring photographs used to implant false memories.
// Implanting memories in police cross-interrogation.
// The impact of deepfake videos and how to protect ourselves.
// Is the legal system equipped for preventing false memories?
// Someone’s truth is not always the truth.
// Stimulating memory.
// The future of memory science.
// Finishing on a positive note on how healing affects our memories for the better.
Content note: This episode contains sensitive content, discretion is advised.
Find Kevin at https://bfms.org.uk/
Carol's story: https://bfms.org.uk/tedx-talk-on-carol-felstead-scandal/
Book:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Books-Dr-Kevin-Felstead/s?rh=n%3A266239%2Cp_27%3ADr+Kevin+Felstead
Find me at https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit
Submit your questions / thoughts here: www.angie-s.com/contact. I want to hear from you!
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Shawn, a trained therapist and now a marriage and relationship expert, specialises in couples who are in business together and whose relationships have either fallen asleep or fallen apart.
We go over:
// What got her into this line of work.
// Power struggles: Why we have them and how to transcend them.
// Practice makes permanent.
// The 7 key Emotional Weapons and their Sub-Weapons.
// How we pair up with a partner who has our opposite set of emotional weapons.
// Emotional weapons unconsciously used to seek compliance.
// How to undo years of relationship damage.
// Pattern interruption.
// Why do some couples stay together despite the hard times when others break up?
// What makes a couple unstable.
// Developing emotional safety.
// Couples that are in business together. The basic things they need to have in place to not kill the romance.
// How couples can be both emotionally and financially profitable when in business together.
// Different ways to overcome negative experiences by letting go of the day before coming home.
// How thoughts are people’s gateway drugs.
Find Shawn @ www.reimaginelove.com
Book: Living For Love
FB group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/ReimagineLove
Have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes? I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact
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While TO4TS is on a break, check out this revisit of a past favourite episode (#086 When Self-Help Goes Horribly Wrong and How To Prevent It). I will return early 2023 with Season 4!!!
What led to the death of 3 individuals seeking to better their life and looking for enlightenment at a James Arthur Ray 5-day event?
Ray was made famous by the movie The Secret and being featured several times on the Oprah Winfrey show.
Together with Kirby Brown’s mother Ginny, a licensed clinical social worker and her sister Jean, we discuss the perfect storm that led to that tragedy, their mission to stop it from ever happening to anyone else and how self-help can be done safely.
We cover:
+ How strong minded people can fall victim to the self-help industry.
+ Tools and dirty tactics used by the self-help industry.
+ What may have contributed to James Ray’s situation.
+ How to not collapse after grief.
+ The legal system is not yet equipped to advocate for the families of [Self-help gone wrong] victims.
+ How to find self-help organisations that have pledged to do no harm and signed [The Promise].
+ What has changed for them in how they perceive life after Kirby’s passing.
*Content note: this episode contains sensitive content, discretion is advised*
You can find Seek Safely at: https://www.seeksafely.org/
The list of red flags: https://www.seeksafely.org/consumers/
The book https://www.seeksafely.org/this-sweet-life-book/
Social @seeksafely
If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. You can message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact
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Mentioned in this episode: Guru: The Dark Side of Enlightenment podcast
If you have been affected and need to talk to someone below are some helplines:
UK: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/
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While TO4TS is on a break, check out this revisit of a past favourite episode (#058 Love Isn’t Enough). I will return early 2023 with Season 4!!!
Natasha Koo & Jachym Jerie are a couple and relationship coaches that have gone through the wringer together from long distance, to open, to semi open to polyamorous to closed again, today we discuss its good, bad and ugly and what it takes to make a relationship work.
We cover:
- Moving from transactional relationships to being of service to your partner but from a place of synergy, so not to drain yourself.
- Being able to receive without nagging.
- Their path as a couple from mistrust, bickering, passive aggressive, snarky remarks to being in a respectful and loving relationship.
- Seeing your man from useless to someone you respect.
- How to stop parenting our romantic partner.
- How we see our partner, is not who they are aka being present with your partner and not living in the archives of all their perceived wrongdoings.
- They don’t believe compromises/sacrifices make for a healthy and happy relationship.
- Being responsible for our own emotions, whatever we feel is internally created.
- The blaming and projecting game.
- It’s not just about being honest with someone, it’s about being honest with yourself.
Find Natasha Koo & Jachym Jerie Podcast: awakenedwife.com
Communication Quiz: www.yourexceptionalrelationship.com/understand
Find me: https://linktr.ee/toooldforthisshit or www.angie-s.com
References in this episode: https://thework.com/ by Byron Katie where you can download her worksheets
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Today’s episode is about money, how to save for your pension and even retire early. Jeremy Schneider breaks it down into bitesize steps to regain control over your finances and redirect your financial trajectory.
We cover:
// Index Funds.
// How to change your financial trajectory.
// Investing vs speculating.
// The dirty little secret of Hedge Funds.
// Passive and Active management of investments.
// [32min] How to calculate the magic number to retire.
// Emergency funds vs retirement plan.
// Strategies for those with longer time frames and shorter time frames to retire comfortably.
// [41min] Should you put money in one pot or divide it into several pots, like ISA, Index Funds, etc.
// [43min] Strategy to financial independence when you have zero funds.
// When more money stops making you happier.
// The 10% rule in investment.
// [58min] Buying Index Funds vs buying individual stocks.
// [1hr03] How to get started with Index Funds.
// [1hr09] What are the risks when investing in Index Funds?
// [1hr12] Saving for a house vs investing for financial independence.
Listen till the end where I recap the takeaways.
Announcement: Taking a little time off but I will be back!
Find Jeremy: https://www.personalfinanceclub.com & https://www.instagram.com/personalfinanceclub/
If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact
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Today is a laughter filled threeway on divorce with Pete & Seth on all things love, and the weird things heartbreak makes us do.
With podcast Producer Pete, married for 23 years and Divorce Lawyer Seth, engaged to be re-married; we cover:
// How they met.
// Oddest items fought over in past divorce settlements.
// What makes for good relationships?
// What is love?
// When to stick it through and when to leave?
// What they learned from their own podcast on what to avoid in relationships.
// Their views on infidelity.
// Second life marriages, causing terrestrial divorces.
Mentioned in this episode: Esther Perel
Find Pete & Seth: www.nelsonlg.com, https://trustory.fm/ Their podcast: How to Split a Toaster
If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact
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Why do you think black holes exist and where do they lead to? I want to hear your thoughts on this :-)!!
Today with Astrophysicist and poet Lindsay we take a fun look at what a black hole is, what lies behind it and where it could all lead to.
This is part 2 of this two-part series.
We cover:
// What are black holes and how are they created?
// What’s behind a black hole?
// What happens to the content in the black hole?
// What happens to the spatial coordinates after a black hole has gone through it?
// Multiverses.
// String theory for beginners.
// And my biggest question: How are we still around as a species?
Find Lindsay https://www.lindsaydemarchi.com Her podcast: Go Ask Alice.If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact
Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online
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With astrophysicist and poet Lyndsay, we take a deep-dive into the benefits and harms that come from the Mars exploration & her unusual journey into academia. This is part 1 of a two-part series.
We cover:
// Her unusual journey into academia.
// How we are related to dead stars.
// The ethical issues on the mission to Mars.
// The colonial language & attitude that is continually applied to space exploration.
// Elon Musk’s mission and the lack of scientists being part of the big decisions.
// Starlink’s satellites posing a huge threat to observational physics.
// Who does Starlink’s satellites truly benefit?
// The benefits and harms that come from Mars exploration.
// A lawless Mars.
// Why are we so curious about finding life on other planets?
// Is an Armageddon-like event a likely threat?
Timestamps:
[00:17:01] "The intersection of science and spirituality: Exploring near-death experiences"
[00:21:57] "Embracing the Unknown: A Personal Belief on Death"
[00:35:43] "Elon Musk and the ethics of space travel"
[00:44:16] "Surviving a 7-month trip to Mars"
[00:50:32] "The Cost of Colonizing Mars: Private Whim?"
[00:55:26] "Contemplating Life: Poets and Physicists' Perspectives"
[01:03:51] "Can Life on Other Planets Save Humanity?"
Next week in part 2:
// What are black holes and how are they created?
// What’s behind a black hole?
// What happens to the content in the black hole?
// What happens to the spatial coordinates after a black hole has gone through it?
// Multiverses.
// String theory for beginners.
// How are we still around as a species?
Find Lindsay https://www.lindsaydemarchi.com Her podcast: Go Ask Alice.If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact
Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online
If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations
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From working with one of rock's most influential bands KISS to being a Florida Supreme Court Family Law Mediator, Mary a Licensed mental health counsellor, is here to wake us up from the codependent funk.
Today we cover:
// What is codependency?
// How Ted Bundy utilised codependency to trap his victims.
// Why healing codependency is a matter of survival.
// Why codependency is a form of self-harm.
// The narcissist / codependent attraction.
// How do you know if you’re the narcissist or the codependent party?
// How codependents & narcissists use people to medicate themselves.
// How to undo a lifetime of codependent habits and learn to set healthy boundaries.
// Steps to take to avoid relapsing into codependency.
// The difference between compassion and compulsion when setting boundaries as a codependent & the role of the vagus nerve.
// The difference between collaborating and compromising.
// How to leave a codependent relationship you can’t save.
Find Mary http://www.winterhavencounseling.com
If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact
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Are you a good friend or do you feel let down by your friendships? Maybe it’s a bit of both…?
Today, Professor, Speaker and author Dr Marisa Franco, gives us some very good insights based on science and how our brain & attachment style interpret things subjectively when it comes to our friendships.
We cover:// The one thing we get wrong about friendship.
// When to walk away and when to build on your friendship.
// Mutual vs reciprocal friendship.
// Managing friendship expectations.
// When we love our friends more than they love us.
// What are friend crushes?
// Placid and Dynamic safety in relationships
// How to make friends and keep them as an adult based on psychological research.
// What ruins friendships.
// The importance of boundaries and resolving conflicts with your friends.
// Friendship attachment styles.
// Are we getting more fussy with age?
// The difference between a friend, good company and an acquaintance.
// How our expectations are what hurt us in our friendships.
Find Marisa https://drmarisagfranco.com/If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact
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*Recorded June 2022 - Will Wood is more than a singer - songwriter, after a great deal of criticism and attempts at cancelling him. He has come out wiser and stronger. I loved hearing his insights on mental health and how society and culture defines what mental health & illness are.
We go over:
+ How to keep doing what feels right to you despite people having their own erroneous idea of who you are.
+ Cultural pressures.
+ Going viral and being opened to criticism.
+ The manipulation of social media and the radicalisation it can cause.
+ Morality and culture.
+ The amount of subjectivity around mental health. Kanye West being mocked for his mental illness.
+ How to not let other people’s opinions affect your art.
Find Will: www.willwood.net
If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact
Become a podcaster: www.learnpodcasting.online
If you want to support the show further: www.angie-s.com/donations
For mental health crisis helplines:
UK: https://www.mind.org.uk
Europe: https://www.mhe-sme.org/library/helplines/
USA: American Foundation of Suicide Prevention
*Recorded June 2022
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His curiosity, focus and open-mind rewrote our history books, but don’t be fooled, Eske is an adventurer and his life journey is nothing short of extraordinary. Eske Willerslev is the world-leading evolutionary geneticist and the rockstar of science.
Today, we discuss where life comes from, conspiracy theories and if our DNA is alien technology. The biggest misunderstanding about Darwinism explained.
Find Ekse: https://eskewillerslev.com/
Eske's new book: ‘It’s a fucking adventure’ is now out!
If you have any questions or thoughts from this or any other episodes, I want to hear from you. Message me directly here: www.angie-s.com/contact
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