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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex & Love, with Ashley and Heather. On this episode, we answer these questions:
I relapsed last weekend and feel so much shame. How do I pick myself up off the floor?Who do I tell about my relapse?What tools can I use to get back to restoration?If you have a question youād like us to answer on Unfiltered, email us at [email protected] or simply reply to this email. We canāt wait to hear from you!
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FASTER Scale
Crash Site Analysis
Recovery Action Plan
Three Circles
Betrayal & Beyond
Unraveled: Managing Love, Sex, and Relationships
Authentically You
Seven Pillars
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. On this episode, we answer the following questions:
Everyone thinks heās the ideal husband, but Iām miserable. Where do I find help if nobody sees the problem?Why is it so hard to walk away from someone causing me pain?My husband and I are in counseling, and the counselor thinks Iām the one overreacting. What can I do?If you have a question youād like us to answer on Unfiltered, email us at [email protected]. We canāt wait to hear from you!
ResourcesFull Episode On Youtube
Betrayal & Beyond
Unraveled: Managing Love, Sex, and Relationships
Authentically You
Seven Pillars
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex & Love, with Ashley and Heather.
In this episode, we answer these questions:
How much do I share with my kids?If I tell people about my struggles, will I look like a bad mom? How do I avoid hurting my kids while Iām recovering? Will I be able to raise secure kids when Iām such a mess?If you have a question youād like us to answer on Unfiltered, email us at [email protected]. We canāt wait to hear from you!
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.
In this episode, we answer these questions:
Since discovery, I canāt seem to function like I did before. Iām crying one minute and angry the next. How long will this last?As a betrayed mom, what steps can I take to begin healing and ensure I donāt take out my pain on my kids?How much do I share with my kids?P.S. If you have a question youād like us to answer on Unfiltered, email us at [email protected]. We canāt wait to hear from you!
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.
On this episode, we answer these questions:
What does it mean to be sexually healthy as a single?What type of boundaries should I have for dating?Iāve heard of the ālove cocktailā of chemicals people experience when falling in love. Can a person actually experience withdrawals from feeling in love?ResourcesFull Episode on YouTube
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.
In this episode, we answer these questions:
What comes first: thoughts, feelings, or behaviors?I grew up in a home where we didnāt talk about feelings. How can I learn more about feelings, so I can teach my kids about feelings?I struggle with talking about feelings, especially to my husband. What can I do to get better at communicating my feelings?ResourcesFull Episode on YouTube
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.
In this episode, we answer these questions:
I could go the rest of my life without sex. Is this normal?My husband is sexually anorexic. What does this say about me?Does the Bible really tell us we canāt withhold sex from our husbands?ResourcesThe Great Sex Rescue, by Sheila Wray Gregoire
Betrayal & Beyond
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.
On this episode, we answer the following questions:
Iām five days post disclosure and Iām clueless how to handle this. How should I feel? Can I sleep with my husband if I want and be so angry and hurt at the same time? Itās a weird place to be. He didnāt have an affair but lots of acting out online in chat rooms, fantasy too. I think Iām still numb, is that normal? Iām also a therapist so I feel like I know the answers to these questions but it's different when you are on this side of the fence. a little. maybe a lot, I dunno. Does that help?Why do things like violent sex scenes and nude women arouse me?We are trying to recover from my husband's SA [Sex Addiction]. He is getting counseling and I know our intimacy needs to be restored one day at a time. Is it wrong within our marriage for him to say explicit words to me? I feel like he's trying to make me feel safe but at the same time these words trigger me.ResourcesFull Episode on YouTube
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:
Iām in a Betrayal & Beyond group and itās teaching me so much about emotional awareness and health. My husband is in a Seven Pillars group and heās not learning anything about emotional health or betrayal trauma? Why is this?When/How will my husband learn to be empathetic and take responsibility for the pain heās caused me, if itās not in the Seven Pillars work?My husband has been in group for months and Iām not seeing any changes in his attitude or behaviors. Can I talk to his group leader to find out if heās actually doing the work?Show notes:
Help Her Heal, by Carol Juergensen Sheets
Help Them Heal, by Carol Juergensen Sheets
Worthy of Her Trust, by Stephen Arterburn
Pure Desire Counseling
Betrayal & Beyond (Women's Betrayal Resource)
Seven Pillars of Freedom (Men's Recovery Resource)
The Compassionate Warrior (Men's Recovery Resource)
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:
Can my husband rape me?Can I say no to my husband?I feel disconnected when we don't have sex, but when I have sex with my husband I feel used. What can I do to change this pattern?ResourcesFull Episode on YouTube
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. On this episode, we answer these questions:
My question is how do you know if you are actually having an orgasm?I donāt know that I have ever enjoyed sex. I can orgasm but I donāt know how to wake my body up. Sex was shamed in my Christian home then I was supposed to enjoy it after marriage but for so long, sex was used as a tool when my husband was in his addiction. We are doing so much better, relationally, after PD but I donāt know how to start liking sex.How are the brain and orgasm connected?ResourcesFull Episode on YouTube
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. On this episode, we answer these questions:
My husband went to a āmassage parlorā for a hand job about every two weeks until I discovered what he was doing 13 months later. How do I get over the shame?My question is, after a 33-year marriage, where I trusted my husband, I found out he was having a long-term affair with a married woman. I suspected porn and seeing some of the pictures on his phone, he was into some very devious stuff. Iām now divorced, and Iām wondering if I can trust another man again to love who I am and not feel like I have to be a woman of the world to grab a manās attention again. Iām doubting that Iām someone desirable in bed anymore.After having sex with my husband, I feel so much shame and often cry. Why is this? Weāve been through the healing process, but I canāt seem to shake these feelings after sex.ResourcesFull Episode on YouTube
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. On this episode, we answer the following questions:
Since discovery, it's been hard for me to know when my husband is telling me the truth. Should I trust my gut intuition even though heās telling me Iām being paranoid?What is gaslighting? Can you give examples of what this looks like?What are the best ways to respond if I think someone is gaslighting me?Show Notes:
The Betrayal Bind, by Michelle Mays
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:
Why am I so angry?My husband betrayed me; why am I taking it out on my kids?Growing up, it was implied that being angry was sinful. I know I'm hurt but how do I know if I'm dealing with anger?Show NotesAnger Test
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:
Is calling a sexual sin āaddictionā just excusing the behavior?Is sex addiction real?People who struggle with sex addiction, why canāt they just stop the behavior?Show NotesUnraveled: Managing Love, Sex, and Relationships
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather. In this episode, we answer these questions:
What is betrayal trauma?My husband says I'm overreacting but the pain and foggy-headedness I'm feeling seem uncontrollable. Is it possible to heal from betrayal trauma?Women Iāve been with in group use phrases like "before Pure Desire and after Pure Desire.ā What are they referring to?ResourcesFull Episode on YouTube
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.
In this episode, we answer these questions:
Is fantasy ever okay?Should my husband share his fantasies with me?I canāt be intimate with my husband unless I fantasize. How can I practice being more present?Show Notes
The Fantasy Fallacy, by Shannon Ethridge
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.
In this episode, we answer these questions:
I quit drinking and now I donāt enjoy sex. How can I learn to like sex again?I am afraid to re-engage with my husband sexually after quitting porn. How do I learn to become aroused by my husband instead?My husband and I are doing well with our recovery and healing but Iām still afraid to engage sexually, because I canāt get the images of his porn use and affairs out of my head. Will this ever go away and what can I do to help this process?ResourcesFull Episode on YouTube
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Thanks for listening to Unfiltered: Real Talk about Sex and Love, with Ashley and Heather.
In this episode, we answer these questions:
Iām nervous about telling anyone whatās really happening in my marriage. Where can I find safe people?Since discovery, I feel like Iām going crazy! Where can I find help?Is this long, expensive process going to fix anything, when Iām not the one with the problem?ResourcesFull Episode on YouTube
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