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This episodeâs question comes from Ashley in San Diego: (3:43)
Question:
"I recently got upset at my child because they bluntly told me I was using my phone a lot. What can I do to make sure they'll continue to be open with me and share things in the future?"The Goal:
Create an environment where kids feel safe and respected enough to be candid. This means encouraging kids to speak freely, even if what they share may feel hard to hear as a parent. When kids can express their feelings without fear, they learn to trust and build a more genuine, open relationship.
Common Misconception:
Many parents believe that allowing children to voice criticisms or frustrations is disrespectful. However, children who feel safe sharing their honest thoughts and frustrations with their parents are more likely to have strong relationships and confidence in the long run.
Staying on Track in Parenting:
Understanding True Candor:Candor is giving kids the freedom to speak honestly to their parents, even about uncomfortable topics. When kids know they wonât be punished for sharing concerns, it strengthens trust and confidence.Being candid helps kids learn boundaries respectfully while creating space for authentic relationships. God models this in the Bible, giving us the freedom to come to Him with our frustrations, doubts, and even complaints.Hear It, Donât Defend It:Respond to your childâs comments calmly, without shutting them down, even if the initial reaction feels defensive. This shows them you value their feelings and opinion.Practice patience and restraint when your child calls out something you may not even agree with. Encourage them to say more by asking, âWhat else are you feeling?â or, âWhat else would you like me to know?âEncourage Regular Candor and Look for Growth Opportunities:Seek out their thoughts when things are calm, even if nothing âbigâ is happening. A simple, âHow am I doing as your parent?â can invite them to share safely.The goal is consistent communication rather than focusing on âgetting it rightâ every time. Over time, kids will see this as a safe pattern.Favorite Quotes from This Episode:
âKids need to tell you the hard things about yourself without fear of punishment.ââGod doesnât shut us down when we bring Him our hard questionsâHe wants to hear them.ââThe more important thing isnât that what theyâre saying is fully right, but that they feel the freedom to say it.ââIf our kids canât be honest with us, weâll never have a truly heart-connected relationship with them.âKey Points Takeaways:
Prioritize openness over correctness. Focus on making your kids feel safe in sharing thoughts over worrying about how accurate they are.Practice humble listening. Create a culture of honesty by giving your kids a voice and the assurance that what they say matters.Candor builds strong relationships. Candor done well will bring you closer and give you more insight into your childâs heart and mind.Conclusion:
In this episode, Greg and Cody discuss the value of encouraging kids to speak freely, even when it means hearing uncomfortable truths. Using Ashleyâs question as a springboard, they cover the importance of candor for building strong family relationships. In teaching kids to communicate honestly, parents model Godâs willingness to listen to our questions, fears, and even complaints, creating a home culture where kids feel deeply valued.
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(00:00) - Intro (03:43) - Question, How do I encourage my kid to speak candidly and what do I do when they call me out on something? (03:57) - Discussion. How to teach kids to be candid and how to react well when your kid is candid.
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This episodeâs question comes from Katie in Wisconsin: (3:33)
Question:
"When I was in high school, I loved being in sports and clubs and hoped my daughter would enjoy them too. But sheâs very introverted and isnât interested. I know sheâs her own unique person, but it feels like sheâs missing out. How do I parent a child so different from me?"The Goal:
True thriving happens when kids feel the freedom to be themselves. While parents often wish for their kids to share their interests or strengths, weâre called to raise our children in the unique way God designed them to be. Embracing their differences strengthens connection and allows them to flourish as the individuals God created.
Common Misconception:
Many parents think they must shape their children to be like themselves or follow in their footsteps. While sharing common interests can be enjoyable, children thrive when theyâre supported in their unique paths, even if that means theyâre vastly different from us.
Staying on Track in Parenting:
Celebrate Uniqueness as God-Given:God intentionally made each child with unique traits and interests. When we celebrate their differences, we reflect Godâs love for their individuality.Proverbs reminds us to âtrain up a child in the way they should goâânot necessarily the way we want them to go. Like archers who study the natural bend of the bow, parents should observe their childrenâs ânatural bendâ to guide them well.Different Isnât Wrong:Distinguish between behaviors that are genuinely concerning and behaviors that are simply different from our expectations.Children need space to experiment with their personalities and interests, even if these behaviors sometimes annoy us. Giving them this freedom builds their confidence.Flip the Script on Parenting Goals:Rather than hoping our children become âmini-meâs,â we can embrace the adventure of watching them become who God intended. Itâs freeing to move away from control and instead become encouragers, helping them become their best selves in Godâs plan.âFlipping the scriptâ reminds us that parenting isnât about control; itâs about supporting our childrenâs journey with grace and curiosity.Favorite Quotes from This Episode:
âKids thrive when they feel the freedom to be themselves.ââOur job is not to raise kids in our image, but to raise them according to who God created them to be.ââWhen we focus on supporting their natural bend, we set them up for lasting confidence and joy.ââFlip the scriptâparenting is less about our goals and more about who God is calling our children to be.âKey Points Takeaways:
Your childâs uniqueness is a gift. Godâs design is not for kids to mirror us, but to shine in their own way.Encourage, donât control. As they grow, embrace the role of guide and encourager, giving them space to explore what makes them different.Ask, âIs it wrong or just different?â Most of the time, kidsâ quirks and differences are harmlessâtheyâre simply expressions of who they are.Conclusion:
In Episode 12, Greg and Cody talk about the balance between nurturing kidsâ unique traits and letting go of control. Using Katieâs question as a springboard, they explore how kids develop confidence and strength when given the freedom to be themselves. This perspective shifts the parent-child relationship, making it richer, more joyful, and a beautiful reflection of Godâs unconditional love.
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This episodeâs question comes from Rick in Grand Rapids, MI:
Question:
"My daughter just entered high school, and the transition has been tough. Sheâs struggling with school and friendships. How can I give her the strength she needs to face these challenges?"The Goal:
Resiliency in children is built through hope. True hope is not just wishful thinking but the belief that future good will make todayâs hardships worthwhile. Itâs our job as parents to model and cultivate this kind of hope in our children, helping them endure challenges while remaining anchored in faith and purpose.
Common Misconception:
Parents often believe that raising resilient children means shielding them from hardships. However, resilience doesnât come from avoiding difficultyâit comes from learning to face struggles with confidence that things will get better. Hope is essential for nurturing this ability to persevere.
Staying on Track in Parenting:
Hope Builds Resilience:Hope is tied to beliefâitâs the confidence that future good will outweigh todayâs difficulties.Biblical stories of exile, suffering, and redemption (e.g., Jeremiah 29 and Revelation) remind us that hard seasons are part of life, but they donât define the whole story.Just as the Bible offers hope to those in trials, parents can offer hope to children by connecting their current challenges to a bigger picture.Model Hope, Donât Just Preach It:Kids learn about hope by watching how parents face difficulties. If parents demonstrate hope in hard times, children will see that hope is real.Be honest with your kids about your own struggles, but show them how faith and hope anchor you.Practice Delayed Gratification and Create Meaningful Moments:Encourage âhope practices,â like celebrating small victories and engaging in activities that build anticipation (e.g., holidays, milestones).Help children reflect on past blessings and challenges to create âremembrance moments,â like the Ebenezer stones from the Bible. These practices help them build confidence in future restoration.Favorite Quotes from This Episode:
âHope is practiced, not preached.ââWithout hope, kids falter. Despair does incredible harm, but hope is the antidote.ââGodâs story doesnât end in sufferingâit ends in renewal.ââYour kids will believe hope is real when they see it practiced in your life.âKey Points Takeaways:
Hope strengthens kids for lifeâs challenges. It equips them to endure struggles with faith that things will improve.Parents must model hope. Words alone arenât enoughâkids need to see hope in action through how we respond to hardship.Incorporate small âhope practices.â Whether through holidays, family traditions, or small victories, give children moments to look forward to and reflect on Godâs faithfulness.Conclusion:
In Episode 11, Greg and Cody explore how hope is a critical element in building resilience in children. With examples from scripture, personal experiences, and parenting practices, they emphasize that hope isnât just taughtâitâs modeled. By showing our kids how to endure with faith and by creating meaningful moments, we teach them that even the hardest times are not the end of the story.
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This episodeâs question comes from Tiffany, a youth pastor in Portland:
Question:
"The kids I serve seem so aimless. Itâs hard to help them find purpose when they are overwhelmed by distractions and pressure. How do we help our kids discover the purpose they need to thrive?"
The Goal:Children need a sense of purpose to truly thrive. Purpose gives them direction, confidence, and a sense of belonging in Godâs bigger plan. As parents, we have the opportunity to nurture and call out the gifts God has given our children, helping them see how their lives fit into the larger story of God's work in the world.
Common Misconception:Itâs easy to think that kids need less responsibility and more freedom to âjust be kids.â However, children benefit when they are given meaningful tasks and responsibilities that connect them to the bigger picture. Too much aimlessness can leave kids feeling disconnected and undervalued.
Kids Need Purpose to Thrive:A purpose-driven child is more likely to be motivated, engaged, and joyful. Even small contributions to their family or community can foster a deep sense of belonging and significance.Biblical stories, such as God calling Adam to name the animals, show that God invites people to actively participate in His work from the start.Call Out Their God-Given Gifts:Be a student of your children. Pay attention to their interests, talents, and passions, and affirm them when you see something unique.Encourage kids to explore ways they can use their gifts now, rather than waiting for adulthood. Help them discover that even small actions, like serving in their church or community, have kingdom impact.Help Kids See the Bigger Picture:Connect their everyday actions to Godâs greater story. Show them that what they do at school, home, or church matters to God.Give them meaningful responsibilitiesâat home, church, or in the communityâthat show them they are part of something bigger than themselves.
Staying on Track in Parenting:Favorite Quotes from This Episode:
âA kid with purpose and a kid without it are like night and day.ââGod gives us all a part to play in His bigger story.ââHelp your kids see how their gifts fit into Godâs kingdom work.ââWhat you do now matters to what God is doing in the world.âKey Points Takeaways:
Purpose fuels thriving: When children feel they have a role to play, they become more engaged in life.Affirm their gifts: Point out the unique ways God has wired them, helping them grow into their purpose.Connect daily actions to Godâs bigger plan: Help children see that their contributionsâwhether small or bigâare meaningful.Conclusion:
In this episode, Greg and Cody explore how a sense of purpose helps children thrive. Drawing on personal stories and biblical insights, they encourage parents to recognize and call out their childrenâs unique gifts. When kids understand their place in Godâs story, they grow in confidence, joy, and faith. Itâs never too early to help them discover their purposeâand the result is a life full of meaning and connection.
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This episodeâs question comes from Noelle in Colorado:
Question:
"Last week, my son did something that really upset my husband and me, and we didnât handle it well. How do we communicate our love to him, even when heâs making choices we strongly disagree with?"The Goal:
Love should never depend on a childâs behavior. As parents, our goal is to provide discipline in a way that fosters connection, growth, and restorationâjust as Godâs love for us remains unconditional, even when we fail.
Common Misconception:
Many parents feel that disciplining their children requires a harsh response to convey seriousness. However, using punishment alone can create emotional distance and fear, leaving kids unsure of their parents' love. Discipline, when guided by love, is an opportunity for growth, not shame.
Three Big Ideas:
Love is Not Dependent on Behavior:Children need to know they are loved no matter what. Mistakes should not impact how we express love.Just as Godâs love is rooted in grace, our love for our children should remain secure, even when correction is needed.Separate Identity from Actions:Avoid attaching labels to misbehavior (e.g., "You're a liar"). Instead, affirm your childâs identity apart from their actions (e.g., "What you did doesnât reflect who I know you are").Correct behavior without compromising the childâs sense of worth and belonging.Discipline as a Path to Connection, Not Punishment:Discipline should teach and restore, not punish. When children already feel guilty or ashamed, piling on punishment can shut them down emotionally.Use discipline moments to grow in relationship with your child. End with a reminder of love and a gesture of connection (e.g., a hug).Favorite Quotes from This Episode:
"Our love for our kids can never depend on their behavior.""Godâs love for us isnât based on meritâand neither should ours be.""Discipline is about restoring, not punishing.""Kids thrive when they know they are loved, even when they mess up."Key Takeaways:
Love first, always: Your love should be consistent and visible to your child, no matter the situation.Separate behavior from identity: Misbehavior should be addressed, but it doesnât define who the child is.Use discipline to connect: Discipline moments are opportunities to foster connection and growth, not shame or emotional distance.Conclusion:
In this episode, Greg and Cody discuss how to navigate the tension of disciplining kids while making sure they feel loved. Drawing on Godâs example of covenant love, they emphasize that love must be secure, not tied to behavior. When we discipline, the goal should be to teach and restore, not to punish or shame.
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This episodeâs question comes from Eric in Billings, Montana:
Question:
"I see a lot of other parents pushing their kids really hard to succeed. Sometimes it feels too much. Am I hurting my kids by not pushing them hard enough?"The Goal:
Winning or achieving success should not be the ultimate focus of parenting. Instead, the aim is to nurture childrenâs hearts and help them become whole, healthy individuals.
Common Misconception:
Many parents believe that their job is to ensure their kids achieve success, whether in sports, school, or life. But this pressure often teaches children that their worth is tied to performance, which can stifle their growth and lead to anxiety.
Winning is Not the Goal:Winning or high achievement is not a measure of parental success. What matters more is raising children with character, joy, and resilience.A shift from performance-based parenting to heart-centered parenting allows kids to thrive without fear of failure.Love is Not Based on Success:Emphasizing performance can inadvertently make kids feel that they need to earn their parents' approval. God's love is unconditional, and our parenting should reflect that.Success-driven parenting risks building fragile identities that crumble when achievements fall short.Failure is a Growth Opportunity:Losing or falling short can be valuable teaching moments. These moments provide opportunities to build character, humility, and perseverance.Instead of focusing on wins, focus on effort, attitude, and joy in the processâwhether your child wins or loses.Favorite Quotes from This Episode:
"An emphasis on winning is a losing plan for parents.""Godâs love is not based on merit, and neither should ours be.""Our kids are more than what they accomplish.""Winning might feel good, but itâs not the pointâwholeness is."Key Points Takeaways:
Winning isnât everything: Success isnât the goal. Parenting should focus on shaping character, not chasing achievements.Love must be unconditional: Children need to know they are valued beyond their accomplishments.Embrace failure: Use moments of struggle as opportunities for growth. Value your childâs effort and attitude more than their outcome.Conclusion:
In this episode, Greg and Cody challenge the idea that success defines good parenting. They explore how focusing on effort, joy, and character developmentârather than chasing winsâleads to healthier children and relationships. Parenting, they argue, should reflect Godâs unconditional love, freeing kids to grow without the fear of failure.
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Show Notes:
This episodeâs question comes from Allison in Georgia: Timestamp 3:50
Question:
"I grew up with strict discipline and want my kids to have more freedom, but Iâm struggling to find the right balance. How can I give them freedom while still guiding them with discipline?"
The Goal:
Kids need gracious structure in order to thrive. Proper discipline doesn't restrict themâit sets them free by providing boundaries that allow for growth and flourishing.Common Misconception:
Discipline is often viewed as limiting freedom. However, real freedom can only come when children have clear boundaries that guide their choices and protect their well-being.Key Discussion Points:
Godâs Model for Discipline:In the Bible, Godâs commandments and laws werenât designed to restrict people but to help them thrive and grow. Similarly, parental boundaries allow kids to flourish.Reference: "The law was made for man, not man for the law" (Mark 2:27)âa reminder that boundaries are for our benefit, not our restriction.Boundaries Increase Freedom:Without clear boundaries, kids may feel anxious or overwhelmed. Establishing healthy, firm limits allows children to explore within safe zones, giving them true freedom.Example: Screen time restrictions can actually reduce arguments and create structure, leading kids to explore other interests like playing outside or reading.Freedom and Discipline Go Hand-in-Hand:Giving kids freedom within boundaries teaches them responsibility and helps them make better decisions. By involving kids in decision-making, they learn independence within a secure framework.Example: Offering kids choices within structured guidelines empowers them while still ensuring discipline.Discipline Creates Opportunities for Growth:Just like music theory or sports rules enhance creativity and performance, boundaries in life help kids excel. Whether itâs screen time or chores, discipline gives kids a sense of achievement and satisfaction when they work within the rules.Favorite Quotes from This Episode:
"Our kids need gracious structure in order to thrive.""Discipline doesnât restrict freedom; it enhances it.""Boundaries are for our flourishing, not for holding us back.""Kids are really bad at being adults. They need us to provide structure so they can grow into it.""If we donât give them boundaries, kids will actually feel less free."Key Takeaways:
Balanced Discipline: Discipline is not about controlling your kids but setting them up for success. Boundaries provide a structure that leads to real freedom.Freedom Within Structure: By offering choices within boundaries, kids gain independence while still being guided by the limits youâve set.Flourishing, Not Restriction: When kids understand and operate within boundaries, they thrive, becoming more confident and capable.Conclusion:
In this episode, Greg and Cody discuss how discipline, when paired with freedom, helps children grow and flourish. By using the model of Godâs structure with His people, parents can create a safe, guiding framework that allows their kids to explore life with confidence. Remember, true freedom comes from understanding and thriving within the boundaries set by loving parents.
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This episodeâs question comes from Sarah in Minnesota: Timestamp 3:25
Question:
"With all the changes happening in the world, how do I keep my kids safe in what feels like an increasingly dangerous environment?"
The Goal:
Our primary job as parents is not to make sure our kids are always safe, but to help them become strong and resilient. Safety is important, but it is part of a bigger goal: preparing kids to thrive in a challenging world.Common Misconception:
Parents often think their main responsibility is to protect their kids from every risk. However, a better approach is to prepare them for life's challenges, equipping them to face danger with wisdom and confidence.
God Prepares Strong Disciples, Not Just Safe Ones:Throughout the Bible, God continually leads His people into challenging situations. He didnât always protect them from hardship but used struggles to help them grow stronger in faith and character.As Romans 5:3-5 says, suffering produces endurance, which builds character and leads to hope. Risk and struggle are necessary for growth.Fear Shouldn't Drive Parenting Decisions:While safety is a concern, fear should not be the driving force behind our parenting choices. By preparing kids for danger, we help them face the world with confidence rather than fear.God is not afraid, and perfect love drives out fear (1 John 4:18). This truth should guide how we approach our childrenâs development.Risk and Suffering Are Essential for Growth:Risk and suffering are not obstacles to avoid but tools for developing resilience. Giving children appropriate levels of challenge at each age helps them learn to navigate the world.Preparing the child for the roadânot clearing the road of challenges for the childâis key to raising confident, capable adults.
Staying on Track in ParentingFavorite Quotes from This Episode
"Our job is to raise strong kids, not just safe kids.""God's goal is to raise strong disciples, not just safe disciples.""If we remove all the wind, the tree won't grow strong roots.""Fear should never drive our parenting decisions.""Prepare the child for the road, not the road for the child."Key Points Takeaways:
Strength over Safety: Parenting isnât just about minimizing risk, but about preparing children to handle challenges with strength and faith.Risk is Part of Growth: Appropriate challenges and risks help children build resilience and confidence.Fight Against Fear-Driven Decisions: Keep fear from controlling how you parent. Instead, trust God and focus on preparing your children for the worldâs challenges.Conclusion:
In this episode, Greg and Cody discuss the difference between raising safe kids versus strong kids. The Bible provides many examples of how God uses challenges and suffering to help His people grow. As parents, our role is to prepare our kids to face risks with strength and wisdom, not to eliminate all danger from their lives.
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This episodeâs question comes from Emily in New Jersey:
Question:
"No matter how much I discipline my kids, they keep misbehaving. How do I get my kids to behave and do the right thing?"
The Goal:
Good behavior is not the ultimate goal of good parenting. While discipline is important, the true focus should be on shaping a childâs heart and identity, rather than just their actions.Common Misconception:
Many parents fall into the trap of thinking good parenting means having well-behaved children. However, focusing solely on behavior risks teaching children that love is conditional.Staying on Track in Parenting
Good Behavior is Not the Ultimate Goal:Good behavior is important but not the most crucial outcome of parenting. Parenting is about guiding children in character development, not just behavior correction.Discipline is essential, but it should be seen as a process of shaping children into the person God designed them to be.Behavior and Love Shouldnât Be Conditional:When parents make behavior the ultimate goal, they unintentionally teach that love is earned through obedience. This results in children who either rebel or behave out of fear.Godâs love for us is not transactional, and our parenting should reflect that same covenantal loveâunconditional and consistent, regardless of behavior.Misbehavior is a Learning Opportunity:Instead of viewing misbehavior as a failure, see it as an opportunity for growth and discipleship. Itâs a chance to teach your child about their identity and potential.Discipline the action, but affirm the child's identity, reminding them that they are loved and capable of more.Favorite Quotes from This Episode
"Good behavior is not the goal of good parenting.""Kids are really bad at being adultsâand thatâs okay.""Love is not conditional to obedience.""When we make behavior the main thing, we teach our kids that love is earned.""Parenting isnât about behavior modification, itâs about identity shaping."Key Points Takeaways:
Behavior isn't everything. Good behavior is fine, but it's not the ultimate goal. Parenting is about shaping a childâs heart and character.Love must be unconditional. If we emphasize obedience over love, children may feel that they have to earn our love through good behavior, which is not the message we want to send.Focus on identity over actions. Use misbehavior as a teaching moment to guide children in becoming the people God designed them to be, rather than simply correcting their actions.Conclusion:
In this episode, Greg and Cody challenge the common belief that good parenting equals good behavior. True parenting involves guiding children through love, identity, and discipleshipânot just focusing on their actions.
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This episodeâs question comes from Bradley in Las Vegas, Nevada:
Question:
"Youâve talked about the challenges of parenting in a culture of hurry and hostility. But what about the part of culture that seems to be getting more hopeless? How can we raise our kids to have hope in a world that feels like things are only getting worse?"
The Goal:
Instilling hope in our children, despite the increasing hopelessness in the world. While cultural despair is real, it doesn't need to infiltrate our homes. By aligning our perspective with God's truth, we can offer hope to our kids.Common Misconceptions:
Many people believe the world is worse now than ever before, but biblically, there's nothing new under the sun. Whatâs changing is our perspective, not necessarily the state of the world.How to Stay on Track in Parenting:
Perspective Matters:The biblical worldview tells us that while challenges are real, this isnât the worst the world has ever been. Wars, famines, and hardship have always existed, but todayâs hyper-connected media amplifies fear and anxiety.It's essential to shift our focus from the gloom to the bigger picture of God's plan, much like the analogy of holding a credit card close to your faceâwhen it's too close, it's all you see, but when you step back, the world becomes clearer.Anxiety is Caught and Taught:If weâre anxious, our kids will be too. Children pick up on our emotions and responses. While anxiety is real and should not be minimized, we must recognize its contagious nature and be intentional about creating an environment of calm and trust.Jesus himself spoke frequently about fear, reminding us to âbe anxious for nothing,â and that anxiety is not an outgrowth of the Holy Spirit.We Donât Have to Play the Game of Hopelessness:Though the world is filled with fear and hopelessness, as followers of Christ, weâre invited to live differently. We are called to a life of hope, grounded in Godâs promises, not in the shifting circumstances of the world.Parenting with this perspective can set our children free from the fears that dominate culture, allowing them to grow with hope and confidence in God's ultimate control.Favorite Quotes from This Episode
"Anxiety is caught and taught. If a parent is anxious, so will a kid be.""Just because hopelessness is part of the culture doesnât mean it has to be part of your family.""Our world isnât worse than itâs ever been. Itâs our perspective thatâs gotten worse.""Jesus said, âDo not be afraid,â not because the world wasnât hard, but because God is bigger than the world's problems.""Anxiousness is not a fruit of the Spirit."Key Points Takeaways:
The world isn't worse than ever, but our perspective often makes it seem that way. Shifting our focus allows us to raise children who see beyond the immediate chaos.Children learn anxiety from their parents. Being open about our struggles while pointing to hope in Godâs promises helps our kids navigate a world full of fear.God offers a life of hope: We are not doomed to play by the world's anxious rules. We can parent with hope, knowing that God is in control.Conclusion:
In this episode, Greg and Cody discuss the growing sense of hopelessness in the world and how parents can counter that by instilling hope in their children. Remember, anxiety may be present in the culture, but it doesnât need to define your home. Focus on Godâs bigger plan, and model trust and hope for your kids.
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Welcome to Episode 3 of Blueprints!
This episode's question comes from Megan in Texas:
Question:
"Hi, this is Megan from Texas. My oldest is about to start school, and Iâm torn about where to send him. Whenever I reach out to friends or do research, the environment seems really hostile. I feel like I canât make the right choice. Why do I feel so much shame when Iâm trying to make the best decision for my child?"_
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The big idea: Parenting with confidence and grace in a world that often amplifies shame and judgment. Grace sets parents free from the shame-inducing hostility of our culture.
In this episode, Cody and Greg will discuss:
1. It's not just you, the culture is meaner:
- Todayâs digital world amplifies judgment, making parents feel like every decision is scrutinized.
- However, this judgment is not new. Like the Pharisees in the Bible, our cultureâs hostility is driven by fear and insecurity.
- Parenting confidently in this environment helps teach our kids not to be afraid of making mistakes.
2. Grace can free us from shame and fear:
- Godâs grace allows us to parent without fear. We can make decisions confidently, knowing mistakes are part of the process.
- Our kids learn from our confidence, even when we make the wrong choices.
3. Parenting out of wisdom and delight:
- We are called to parent with wisdom and delight, not out of fear or shame.
- We canât control the hostile culture outside, but we can create a loving, grace-filled environment at home.
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Key Points Takeaways:
- The world is hostile, but our homes donât have to be. Create a space where both parents and kids can grow without fear of judgment.
- Teach by example: When parents are confident in their decisions, kids learn to trust their own choices.
- Grace allows freedom: Parenting with grace gives us the freedom to make mistakes and learn from them, without the burden of shame.
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Learn more at:
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Welcome to Episode 2 of Blueprints!
This episode's question comes from Logan in Louisiana:
Question:
"Yesterday, I was trying to get my kids out the door and completely lost my patience. It feels like weâre always running late, and itâs adding a lot of stress to our family. Why are we in such a hurry all the time, and what is this doing to our kids?"
Big Idea: We can't follow God's blueprint for raising kids if we are always in a hurry.
Here are a few things you'll hear in the podcast.
1. Hurry is the result of idolatry.
2. Hurry harms our kids.
3. Weâre not doomed to a life of hurry.
Key Takeaways:
- Hurry is violence to the soul. It impacts our relationships with our kids and blocks us from creating an environment of grace.
- Your schedule doesnât need to control you. Slowing down, saying ânoâ more often, and creating margin allows for better decisions and deeper connections with your family.
- Godâs blueprint for parenting involves grace and patience, not rushing. We can live a life free from the idolatry of busyness and focus on what really mattersâour kids and our relationship with them.
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Welcome to Episode 1 of Blueprints!
This episode's question comes from Katy in West Linn, Oregon:
Question and Timestamp: 7:30
"Hi I'm Katy, I have four kids 10 and under. Between the kids sports schedule, school schedule, all the different discipline needs and trying to be intentional with my husband, I feel like I'm barely treading water sometimes. I know there's a big picture for parenting and I really want to be intentional, but it's hard to see it right now. What is the big picture for parenting and how can I stay on track for it amidst the business of life?"This episode looks at the big picture of parenting, which is to help our kids become fully alive in God.
To stay on track in the midst of all the parenting chaos, parents need to develop:
1. A long game perspective
2. A mindset the sees parenting as an opportunity, not an obligation
3. A commitment to learning and living out God's blueprint for families
Key Takeaways:
- Parenting is consequential: Our influence shapes who our kids become.
- Kids want us to succeed: They desire a relationship and support in their spiritual growth.
- Parenting amidst busyness: Embrace opportunities in everyday moments to connect and guide spiritually.Learn more:
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Welcome to Blueprints a podcast about parenting from Grace Based Families.
Each week you'll hear insights and humor from Greg and Cody as they explore a grace based blueprint for raising kids in all stages of life.
Get more from Grace Based Families at wwww.gracebasedfamilies.com
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