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In the midst of everything that was going on, Louis ended up switching to a new school. That meant leaving behind his friendships, but it also offered an opportunity to set aside who had been in the past and try out a version of himself closer to the kind of young man he wanted to become.
This is friendship, violence, shame and vulnerabilityâbut more than anything else, Louisâ story is a story of transformation.
At a new school and among a new group of peers, Louis noticed a boy in his class who was being targeted and harassed for not fitting in. He risked his social status with his peersâand went behind the teacherâs backâto be the ally that his classmate desperately needed.
He still gets called a fag sometimes.
But in the journey of discovering true friendship, aligning with his values and standing up for others, he developed social skills, toughness and an unparalleled clarity of purpose.
This is the kind of young man our world needs. His story is the roadmap to get there.
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As his friends got out on probation and their victim started to recover, Louis was left to wrestle with immense and challenging feelings about what was going on. He felt guilty that he had hurt someone who didnât deserve it. He was afraid of losing a group of friends that had meant a lot to him. He felt helpless to stop them from perpetrating further violence.
He wanted to be better but he didnât know how.
As he started seeking forgiveness and building a relationship with Matthew, he had to go through the challenge of forging a new friendship, and he had to figure out if it was still possible to hang out with guys whom he no longer trusted. Perhaps most importantly, he had to face himself.
Listen to Louis unpack those feelings with me, and share from the heart about his uncertain experience of not being defined by his past, and instead being committed to his future.
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As Louis spent more time with his new group of friends, he started going along with them as they verbally harassed another classmate, Matthew. He figured it was no big deal, but things started to escalate when Matthew decided to tell their teacher what was going on. Louisâ friend group didnât like getting snitched on, so they got into a fight with Matthew after school.
Matthew told on them again. Louis and his friends decided there was hell to pay, and assaulted him so badly he went to the hospital with four broken ribs and had to be monitored for lung damage. This time, Matthew pressed charges.
Sit with Louis as he wrestles with the feelings that started weighing on him in the weeks that followedâthe guilt and shame of hurting another person, the betrayal of getting laughed at by his friends when he told them to stop, and his growing determination to make a change.
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Louisâ first day at the new school was a grey day in December. He had to get forced out of the car, he got lost in the big, old and crowded building; and he hated the too-cheery holiday decorations. After a couple of days, he started bringing a paperback with him and pretended to read it at lunch in order to avoid the awkwardness of the unfamiliar place and new group of peers.
But during gym class on day, a boy named Jackson sat down beside him. Jackson struck up a conversation with him, and before Louis knew it, he had been invited over to hang out with Jacksonâs friends after school.
Listen to Louis revisit his feelings from that time, reminisce about after-school skateboard sessions and prank calls, and ultimately lay out how much this group of friends really meant to him.
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I first met 11-year-old Louis because he was bullying another boy. Badly. To an extent that included going to the hospital and going to juvenile detention.
Over the span of 2021, Louis embarked on one of the bravest journeys Iâve seen a kid his age undertake. He built his empathy for the other boy, he faced his guilt for the hurt he had caused, he switched friend groups and committed to standing up for those who were vulnerable instead of targeting them.
So when he told me he wanted to be part of the podcast, I knew he had something to say.
Coming soon wherever you listen to podcasts.
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One of my earliest memories with Joseph is hanging out with him at a park when he was around 10 years old. He spent most of his time climbing trees with his friends. Since then, climbing has become a steady passion for himâitâs his primary sport, his job, one of his favourite things to do and one of his biggest aspirations in life.
Weâve spent countless hours underneath bouldering walls and pull-up bars. Iâve worked out with him, listened to him blast Apashe, and watched him grow into a remarkable young athlete. I asked him to join for a podcast episode so we could capture this moment in his life.
Then I connected with an Olympic medalist named Jason Rogers. This is what we created.
FURTHER READINGJason Rogers writes The Mandate Letter, a patient and meaningful exploration of the world of masculinity that features in-depth research and thought-provoking interviews on relevant topics.
SOURCESWilliam Pollack, Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood â
Michael Thompson, Speaking of Boys: Answers to the Most-Asked Questions About Raising Boys â
David Cohen, No Boy Left Behind? â
Rachel Giese, Boys: What it Means to Become a Man â
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Iâve known Jack for several years. Weâve been in touch throughout the pandemic, from the initial school closures and cancellation of his summer camp to the uncertainty of a new school year and ongoing boredom of life without the social closeness and sports teams that he expected to experience in high school.
Jackâs story of two-hour online classes and tentative new friends, frustration with masks and enjoyment on Minecraft isnât representative of every young person this year, but his search for engaging learning experiences and meaningful connections with peers is an important snapshot of adolescence in the pandemic.
For those of us who know boys, weâve got work to do.
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FURTHER READINGJonâs book My Bad: 24 Educators Who Messed Up, Fessed Up & Grew delves into the importance of vulnerability for educators, and how we can grow my acknowledging our mistakes for ourselves, our colleagues and our students. Michael and Richard Hawleyâs research was published in a must-have resource for teachers that work with boys: Reaching Boys, Teaching Boys: Strategies That Workâand Why.
You can find out more about the online youth programming Iâm doing with Next Gen Men, check out NGM Boys Club, and learn from us through our online course Raising Next Gen Men.
SOURCESMichael Reichert and Richard Hawley, Reaching Boys, Teaching Boys: Strategies That Workâand Why â
Michael Reichert, How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men â
Carola SuĂĄrez-Orozco and DesirĂ©e Baolian Qin-Hilliard, Immigrant Boysâ Experiences in U.S. Schools â
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I often talk about suicide like itâs a statisticâthe fact that it was the leading cause of death for teenage boys in Canada in 2018, for example; that rates of suicide attempts among trans youth are as high as 78%; that 70% of mental heatlh problems begin in childhood or adolescence.
Suicide is more than numbers. Itâs a difficult and ongoing thing that I face in my conversations with young people, and itâs personal. I wanted to write something for World Suicide Prevention Day, but it was hard.
This whole thing is hard.
In the end, thatâs what made me decide to record this. Itâs messy. It has broken edges and a slam poem that I wrote in a single night five years ago. But itâs my effort at saying something worth saying.
If you are in crisis, Kids Help Phone is accessible and anonymous 24/7 at 1-800-668-6868, text CONNECT to 686868 or live chat at kidshelpphone.ca. 911 for emergencies.
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Several months ago, Evan invited me to see his middle school musical. The night of the show, I rode my bike across town and found a seat next to his dad, who was watching for the second time. The audience filled up, and the lights went down.
It ended up being a remarkably good show, but one of the most memorable moments for me took place right away in the opening number. Evan was unmistakeable in the front row, eyes darkened with makeup and shining at the audience. His voice carried through the ensemble. His body committed entirely to the scene. He was captivating.
That was the moment I wondered if he had a story to be told.
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FURTHER READINGYou can read about the Dream Crazier ad campaign that Evan talked about on Nike News, and watch the video itself on Vimeo.
SOURCESNiobe Way, Intimacy, Desire, and Distrust in the Friendships of Adolescent Boys â
Clementine Ford, Boys Will Be Boys â
Michael Chabon, My Son, The Prince of Fashion â
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Logan moved to Florida at the end of the summer. Iâll never know entirely what he left behind in California. I know that he had half a dozen friends on his street and the next, that on early mornings he would go to one of their houses for breakfast before bicycling together to school. I know that his grade at school held a lot of trust between themselves and cried at their graduation ceremony. I know that they were almost always together.
The new school isnât the same. Itâs a private school built for achievement, serving a highly ambitious student population and no single school district. Itâs meant a lot of changes for Logan, with one of the most significant being the depth of his relationships with his peers.
Over the months, heâs also noticed changes within himself. While he still identifies the same strengths in himself that I doâhis capacity for connection, his thoughtfulness and selflessnessâhe sees himself reflecting the attitudes and priorities of the people around him. âI donât know if itâs just high school or being in a new place, or new people or whatever it is, but I feel like Iâm changing,â he told me. âLike, I can notice myselfâŠmy personality is different from when I left.â
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Further ReadingMichaelâs most recent book is How to Raise a Boy. He also co-wrote two books on boys and relational learning with his research partner, Richard Hawley, which you can find on his website. They also published the initial findings of their research in a report for the International Boysâ School Coalition called Teaching Boys: A Global Study of Effective Practices.
SourcesMichael Reichert, How to Raise a Boy: The Power of Connection to Build Good Men â
Julie Beck, Raising Boys With a Broader Definition of Masculinity â
Judy Chu, Supporting Boysâ Healthy Resistance to Masculine Norms â
The Haverford School, Counseling Services â
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January 29, 2017 saw the worst mass murder in a house of worship in Canadian history: the Québec City mosque shooting in which six Muslim worshippers were killed and 19 injured.
Rehan was ten. âI remember when it happened,â he said on the podcast. âThat night, I actually started crying because I was like, âWhat if that ever happened to me?ââ
Islamophobia is on the rise in Canada. Itâs perhaps most visible in the forms of explicit violence such as the massacre in QuĂ©bec City, but it also manifests in schoolyard jokes and whitewashed media. Girls having their hjiabs torn off; refugees being told to leave. A kid like Rehan who can describe racism as easily as his evening prayers.
Violence doesnât end just because you cross a border. And just because we can point to a historical event and say that it was an example of Islamophobia doesnât mean that itâs not still happening now. It is still happening. We need to talk about it.
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Further ReadingFatmeh mentioned the Centre for Race and Culture and recommended their publication Race and Respect as a resource for teachers seeking to teach students about active citizenship and inclusive communities.
SourcesJasmin Zine, Islamophobia and hate crimes continue to rise in Canada â
Joanna Schroeder, Racists Are Recruiting. Watch Your White Sons. â
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Breaking the Boy Code began in March 2018, or the summer of 2017, or April 2014 depending on your parameters. But some part of it has its roots in an underweight boy with too many bracelets and long blonde hairâbecause if you had asked me when I was young what I thought about gender stereotypes and rules about masculinity, I would have had a lot to say.
I learned at a young age that some things are not allowed for boys, and some things result in violence that I wasnât ready for. I was told I was doing it wrong. I was told I was a girl. I was called a fag before I knew what a fag was. As I navigated the winding path of both resistance and adherence to the rules of masculinity, I went to great lengths to hide or change parts of who I was. And while I had some great teachers, I also had teachers who were unprepared to intervene on homophobic violence in their classrooms.
Iâm now an educator, and Iâve seen firsthand the impact of committed and authentic relationships with boys. Boys are saying: âWe want change. We want these kinds of conversations about masculinity, about mental health and relationships, we want to be supported by committed educators who spend time with us and help us create a space to explore who we want to be.â So as parents and educators we are part of something better than what we experienced when we were young.
âThere is a systematic mistreatment underlying boyhood, and those of us responsible for its design and maintenanceânot boys themselvesâmust fix its flaws. We will find ready partners in boys themselves, who have a keen interest in being seen as they are, hearts beating loudly behind the masks they must wear.â â Michael Reichert
Together, we are breaking the boy code.
SourcesMichael Reichert, How to Raise a Boy â
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With the debate about gay rights in the national media last year, homophobia became the mainstay of school hallways in Mumbai. Ash faced this every day with the unplaceable ache of being a closeted gay Hindu boy. âEven though theyâre not talking to me,â he said on the podcast, âI feel what they say.â So each day he sidestepped one-sided debates that drove homophobic language through his skin, and gradually his helplessness translated to anger.
âIt was enraging to not be able to stand up for myself. Thatâs one of the things that got to me the most. Because it would be odd for a straight kid to stand up for gay rights. If you take even a slightly pro-gay stance people are definitely going to start questioning you. I canât risk that. But I canât just stand and watch them spew homophobia. So what the hell do I do?â
Indian society upholds what Sikata Banerjee calls masculine Hinduism in Mumbai and what Aakriti Kohli calls Sikh martial masculinity in Punjab. Meanwhile Ash is caught on the frontlines, the victim of both the unrelenting pressure and cruel manifestation of a masculine narrative long defined by invulnerability and the domination of others.
The irony is that we can follow this thread from modern India to the perceived crisis of masculinity in the British Empire and the consequent rise of muscular Christianity in 19th-century North America. We are inherently part of the construction of boyhood masculinity as it has been for a hundred years.
Which means we are part of its redefinition.
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Further ReadingIâm going to be sharing more about Love and how to support him through his refugee claim process soon. In the meantime, reach out on social media if youâre interested in learning how to support him.
SourcesSikata Banerjee, Make me a man!: Masculinity, Hinduism, and nationalism in India â
Sikata Banerjee, The Quest for Manhood: Masculine Hinduism and Nation in Bengal â
Sanjay Srivastava, The making of toxic Hindu masculinity â
Aakriti Kohli, Militarization of Sikh Masculinity â
Rohini Nilekani, Boys canât be boys. Hereâs how to fix Indiaâs toxic masculinity problem â
Amanda Keddie, Little Boys: tomorrowâs macho lads â
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Chadâs first experience with hazing was on his first night back at summer camp. Older boys grabbed him and his friends and told them to strip to their underwear. He tried to refuse but had to fight his way out of their grip, then left the cabin to the sound of the senior campers yelling, âDonât be like him!â
Chad told a counsellor what had happened, but it wasnât easy. âYou donât want to be a snitch,â he said on the podcast. âWhatâs holding you back is fear.â The risk of angering older peers in the moment and being ostracized from the group afterwards makes boys hesitate to speak out, and then the pressure to fit into a narrative of dominance and invulnerability compels them to bury their feelings deep inside.
If incidents of hazing could be said to have one thing in common, itâs silence. More than half of all boys experience hazing before they leave high school, but according to research, 92% of students will not report any kind of hazing to an adult. To put it bluntly, boys arenât talking about hazingâat least not with experienced role models and mentors who could help them end ongoing cycles of violence.
Itâs time we changed that.
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Further ReadingClementine Ford recently published Boys Will Be Boys and is a bit of a firebrand on Twitter or Instagram. You can support her work on Patreon.
Visit Werklund Schoolâs Masculinities Studies webpage to learn more about Michael Kehlerâs work and feminism-based gender research in Canada.
SourcesClementine Ford, Macho âpranksâ and the devastating cost of male emotional repression â
Clementine Ford, Boys Will Be Boys â
Phil Christman, What Is It Like to Be a Man? â
Cavetown, Boys Will Be Bugs â
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Stress wound its way into Michaelâs life throughout his preteen years, growing in size until it overwhelmed him in his first year of high school. âIt took over my life,â he told me. âIâd come home and do four hours of homework. This took a toll on my social life, and my physical health. I began to develop an eating disorder, which I still have to battle to this day. I lost a lot of weight. I became more of an unhappy person. I wasnât fun to be around. I didnât enjoy being around other people. I just felt like my life was a mess.â
âIt was painful, to see my life almost crumbling. Because of schoolwork, or my friends, or just something that was stressing me out so much I couldnât be who I wanted to be. It was really justâitâs painful to think about now, it was painful to go through then. Iâm still going through it.â
Things came to a head when Michael broke his leg and missed several weeks of school. He did his best to keep up with schoolwork in his absence, but the pressure he felt when he returned to school started building up. âI felt like I wasnât strong, like I was a failure,â he told me, âand because of that I lost a lot of self-esteem.â His mind felt scattered and unable to focus. More and more work accumulated.
Michael came home from school one day and went straight to his room. He didnât leave all evening. He didnât sleep all night. Emotions flowed out of him as he yelled at himself, cried, and realized heâd been holding back his feelings for years.
âAfter that,â he said, âI knew I had to change something.â
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Further ReadingAs well as being a middle school counsellor, Phyllis Fagell is a writer and columnist in The Washington Post. Check out her blog and follow her on Facebook or Twitter.
You can support Damion Cooperâs program for boys and young men in Baltimore on the Project Pneuma website. If you want to learn more about the statistics I cited in the episode, visit The Baltimore Sunâs Baltimore Homicides webpage.
SourcesWilliam Pollack, Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood â
Niobe Way and Jessica Cressen, âIt Might Be Nice to Be a GirlâŠThen You Wouldnât Have to Be Emotionless:â Boysâ Resistance to Norms of Masculinity During Adolescence â
Andrew Reiner, Boy Talk: Breaking Masculine Stereotypes â
Wide Angle Youth Productions, Project Pneuma â
Luke Broadwater, From anger to forgiveness: How one manâs shooting led to a new program for Baltimore boys â
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Sebastianâs voice is captivating because its weight shifts dramatically. For part of his story, he maintains a sort of matter-of-fact nonchalance. âYeah,â he starts out, âI had a very close friend, and we had been friends for like, our whole lives.â This lightness follows his memories of their earliest times together, how they grew closer and closer until they became inseparable.
After about ten minutes, however, Sebastian begins describing the crisis point where things between them changed. His voice catches as he says, âI went to the court, and it was probably one of the hardest things Iâve ever had to do.â His voice breaks. âI knew that wasnât him.â
Then, with wet eyelashes, he shares his emotions. The loss. The loneliness. The yearning. His voice still flits back and forth, but it becomes heavier.
He was like one of those necklaces that are engraved with âbest friendâ and marketed at preteen girls, where each pendant on its own is just an incomplete phrase and a broken heart.
Itâs a fitting comparison. Primarily because it really does do justice to Sebastianâs feelings, but also because it illuminates the gender bias within our cultural expectations about friendship. There are no âbest friendâ necklaces for teenage boys. We donât have conversations with them about platonic trust and intimacy. We donât help them resist the ways that homophobia limits their relationships. We donât support them in maintaining those relationships through their adolescence.
We donât expect boys to have emotionally intimate male friendships. Boys have them anyway.
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SourcesWilliam Pollack, Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood â
Niobe Way, Deep Secrets: Boysâ Friendships and the Crisis of Connection â
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When I think of resilience, I think of Eli. On the outside, heâs as cut and as worn as you can imagine, but at his core is a dogged spirit that has withstood countless attacks on his gender, body and identity. He faces transphobia with bitter resolve. Heâs like a war survivor whoâs repeatedly been sent back to the front lines.
One of Eliâs front lines has always been school, in particular physical education classes and spaces defined by youth culture, where he either has to fight to have his gender identity recognized or he has to be on guard against homophobia- or transphobia-based violence. He tries hard to protect himself, but sometimes he doesnât make it.
His story is all too familiar. Nearly all LGBTQ youth have faced discrimination based on their gender or sexual orientation. Sometimes itâs outright physical violence. Sometimes itâs more implicit.
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Further ReadingLori Duron writes a blog called Raising My Rainbow. You can also follow her and her son on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.
Alissa and Victoria were representatives of SOGI 1 2 3, an initiative based in western Canada. The website has LGBTQ-focused resources for both parents and educators. If youâre looking for more resources I recommend Gender Spectrumâs Gender Inclusive Schools Toolkit, Human Rights Campaignâs Schools In Transition and Welcoming Schools programs, as well as GLSEN and The Trevor Project.
SourcesUBC News, Gay-straight alliances in schools reduce suicide risk for all students â
CJ Pascoe, Homophobia in Boysâ Friendships â
CJ Pascoe, Dude, Youâre a Fag â
Stephen Frosh, Young Masculinities â
Debbie Epstein, Boyzâ Own Stories: Masculinities and sexualities in schools â
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How do you stop a man from being violent? How do you stop the college student whoâs taking things to far, or that guy at the bar who wonât back down, or the dad whose words are fists? On one hand these are complex issues and the answer is not one thing, but at the same time all of these men have one thing in common. Boyhood. So how do you stop a man from being violent? You talk to him when heâs a boy.
At first glance, the context of this podcast is ending violence against women and girls. In order to effectively confront patterns of male violence, we need to look deeper at the ways that masculinity is constructed, enacted and resisted by boys and men. In a word, patriarchy.
Patriarchy also has negative effects on boys and men. Boys are dropping out of high school twice as much as girls. Using drugs and alcohol more frequently and more heavily. Dying by suicide four times as often. Men are committing 98% of shootings in the United States, and filling 93% of the prison population.
The premise of this podcast is that boys have inner livesâpersonal, emotional experiences that are often hidden from view. And if we can better understand and support those inner lives, we can better protect them and the people around them. Each episode will centre on a single boy, describing an experience within that inner lifeâanxiety, grief, depression, bullyingâand will interweave his story with the perspectives of experts and leaders in progressive masculinity.
Coming monthly.
SourcesJR Thorpe, Gender Stereotypes Put More Pressure On Boys Than Girls, and The Consequences Can Be Really Toxic â
Rachel Brandt, 4 Ways the âBoys Will Be Boysâ Attitude Harms the Men in Our Lives â
Michael Reichert and Sharon Ravitch, âDefying Normative Male Identities: The Transgressive Possibilities of Jewish Boyhood,â Youth & Society â
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