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In Episode 62 of the Conflict Skills Podcast, host Simon Goode delves into the complexities of "moving on" from conflicts, offering insights inspired by a listener's review about unresolved workplace issues. The episode explores the nuances of understanding individual perspectives on resolution, breaking down five types of apologies, and emphasizing the significance of trust and mindfulness. Simon also introduces Robert Greene’s concept of "ascending the mountain" to gain broader clarity and shares personal elements to consider in the process of moving forward.
Overview of the Conflict Skills PodcastHost: Simon GoodeFocus: Resources for handling conflicts in various contextsEpisode InspirationListener's review about unresolved workplace issues
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SHOW NOTES:
IntroductionDealing with Unresolved Conflicts
Situations of Unequal Resolution
One person feels resolved, the other remains upsetVice versa: The importance of aligning both partiesApologies and Moving Conversations Forward
Five Types of Apologies
Introduction to various forms of apologiesStructured apologies as a tool for resolutionRobert Greene’s "Ascending the Mountain" Concept
Overview from "The Daily Laws"Broader perspective over timeSeeing situations more clearlyPersonal Elements in Moving On
Five Key Personal Elements
Cognition: How we think about the conflictEmotion: Our feelings about the conflictPerception: How we interpret the conflictAction: Steps we take toward resolutionPhysical Body: Physical responses and stressesMoving On vs. Moving Forward
Discomfort with the term "moving on" in contexts of griefSuggestion of "moving forward" as a more supportive termThe Importance of Trust in Moving On
Four Pillars of Trust
Competence: Trust in skills and abilitiesIntegrity: Trust in honesty and moralsBenevolence: Trust in goodwill and kindnessPredictability: Trust in consistent behaviorAcknowledgments and Structured Apologies
Role of acknowledgments in the conflict resolution processFive types of apologiesImportance and implementationManaging Personal Feelings
Strategies for struggling with moving onAltering perceptionsManaging emotions through mindfulnessConclusion
Encouragement to reflect on personal approaches to moving onInsights into expectations and assumptionsInvitation for listener feedback and future topic suggestionsHighlighting the importance of reviews for podcast visibility
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TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 Guidance on moving forward, apologies, trust-building.05:14 Viewing change from a holistic self-perspective.
09:07 Accept differences, maintain boundaries, foster working relationships.
12:54 Rebuilding trust: Clear expectations and predictability.
17:25 Prepare for impact, then rebuild trust collaboratively.
21:18 Making up for mistakes with gestures.
23:34 Seeking reconciliation, offering support, moving forward.
27:32 Consider contexts, don't take actions personally.
31:01 Manage emotions deliberately using imaginative persp
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In today's episode, we're diving deep into the art of analyzing workplace conflict situations. Join me as we walk through a strategic, step-by-step toolkit designed to help you better understand and resolve conflicts at work. We'll explore key topics such as self-awareness, the role of goal setting and understanding your circle of control, and the five types of conflict you may encounter. Additionally, we'll shed light on the Insight Discovery model for grasping personality differences and break down various conflict modes like competing, collaborating, and accommodating.
This episode is packed with insights on how to calm your physical stress responses through effective breathing techniques, and why strategic thought always trumps knee-jerk reactions. Whether you're a manager, team member, or just someone eager to improve your conflict resolution skills, this episode has something valuable for you. Let's embark on this journey together and transform our approach to workplace conflicts. And as always, I encourage you to reach out with your feedback at [email protected]. Stay tuned!
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In Episode 60 of the Conflict Skills Podcast, host Simon Goode analyzes three detailed case studies of workplace conflicts, offering strategies to address issues such as office music preferences, phone usage during retail shifts, and chronic absenteeism. Each case is examined through various levels of intervention, emphasizing the importance of open communication, empathy, and collaborative problem-solving. Listeners are encouraged to apply these insights to foster healthier and more productive workplace environments.
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Welcome back to the Conflict Skills Podcast! I'm your host, Simon Goode, and today we're diving into one of the most requested topics—workplace mediation. Episode 59 is all about answering your frequently asked questions on how to effectively mediate conflicts within the workplace.
We'll explore the key aspects of ensuring a fair mediation process, from addressing power imbalances to determining the suitability based on safety, willingness, and capacity. Whether you’re dealing with minor disputes or major conflicts, we’ll cover the varying levels of formality—be it a simple meeting, a facilitated conversation, or full-scale mediation.
I'll walk you through the essential role of a mediator, how to establish clear ground rules, and strategies for managing high emotions using de-escalation techniques. We’ll also discuss how managers can promote mediation, handle refusals, and what steps to take if mediation doesn’t resolve the issue.
Remember, not all conflicts are best suited for mediation, especially in cases involving clear breaches of conduct or when parties are unwilling or incapable of participating. Stay tuned for some insightful tips and practical advice to enhance your conflict resolution toolkit. Plus, don’t miss our upcoming episode where we'll delve into real-world case studies!
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Welcome to the Conflict Skills Podcast, where we provide you with crucial tools and insights for effectively managing both workplace and personal conflicts. I'm your host, Simon Goode, a professional mediator, and today we dive into a particularly challenging yet essential topic: How to run a mediation between a manager and a staff member.
In Episode 56, we'll outline the entire mediation process—from determining its appropriateness to conducting pre-mediation meetings and managing the joint session. We'll also explore critical techniques like creating a balanced environment for contributions, de-escalating conflicts, and ensuring thorough follow-ups. Whether you're a mediator, manager, or team member, this episode will equip you with actionable steps to foster resolution and understanding in your workplace.
Stay tuned to explore how structured mediation can transform workplace dynamics and contribute to a more harmonious environment. Don't forget to engage with us through comments, feedback, or emails at [email protected]. Let's get started!
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In today's episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, we're focusing on a challenge many of us face: how to say no to invitations from colleagues without causing offense. We'll delve into effective strategies to decline invitations gracefully, keeping relationships intact, particularly when these relationships are crucial to your work or personal life. I'll share insights on managing five key factors—status, autonomy, certainty, fairness, and relatedness—to help you communicate your decline in a way that is respectful and clear. Whether it's a social event or a professional project, tune in and learn how to handle these tricky situations smoothly. If you find our tips helpful, don't forget to subscribe or leave a review. Let's get started!
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In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, host Simon Goode delves into five strategic approaches for negotiating a raise with your boss, focusing on various conflict types: data, interest, values, structure, and relationship. Through professional examples and personal anecdotes, Simon illustrates how to effectively prepare for these conversations.
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In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, host Simon Goode delves into the common struggles parents face during morning routines and shares strategies to ease the chaos. He highlights the importance of maintaining a calm environment to prevent stress and conflict, emphasizing how morning turmoil can affect one's emotional state throughout the day. Through techniques like the GROW coaching model, Simon offers practical advice for fostering responsibility and problem-solving skills in children.
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In today's episode, we're diving into an essential toolkit for anyone dealing with conflict: the best questions for de-escalating tense situations. Drawing from my experiences mediating deeply entrenched conflicts and working in high-stress environments like youth crisis centers, I'll share specific types of questions that can help lower the temperature and foster more productive conversations. We’ll explore how to open dialogues with neutral questions, how to prioritize urgent needs, and how to maintain empathy and understanding throughout the process. Plus, I'll touch on the importance of tone, body language, and offering a sense of control to the other party. Whether you're managing workplace disputes or personal conflicts, this episode provides actionable insights to help you navigate tricky interactions with confidence. Let's get started!
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In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, host Simon Goode delves into the importance of developing emotional awareness in navigating workplace conflicts. He explains a structured approach encompassing four stages: self-awareness, self-regulation, awareness of others, and the ability to influence others. Simon also provides practical tips and coaching questions for both individuals and leaders to enhance emotional intelligence and improve workplace relationships.
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In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, host Simon Goode delves into the issue of client scope creep, particularly in the construction and design sectors, and provides five conflict resolution strategies to address it. The strategies include addressing data, structural, interest, values, and relationship conflicts, offering listeners tools for effective negotiation and clear communication. Simon emphasizes the importance of understanding these different types of conflicts to better manage and prevent scope creep, ultimately fostering healthier client relationships
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In Episode 51 of the Conflict Skills Podcast, Simon Goode provides a comprehensive guide on inheriting and managing a dysfunctional team, emphasizing the importance of starting with low-stakes interventions and understanding different types of conflicts. He elaborates on the phases of team development, the emotional toll on team members, and the pivotal role of self-care for leaders. With a focus on gradual, compassionate, and firm approaches, Simon shares his own experiences and offers practical advice for long-term team improvement.
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Welcome to Episode 50 of the Conflict Skills Podcast! I’m your host, Simon Goode, a professional mediator here to guide you through the complexities of conflict management. In today's milestone episode, we dive into a unique application of the renowned GROW model—Goals, Reality, Options, and Way Forward—not for coaching others, but for self-care and avoiding burnout in the midst of conflict. Drawing inspiration from John Whitmore's influential book "Coaching for Performance," we'll explore how you can use this framework to navigate negative thought patterns, manage stress, and improve your well-being. Whether you're dealing with workplace disputes, family tensions, or simply trying to unwind after a hectic day, this episode offers valuable insights to help you regain control and foster a healthy mind. So, tune in and learn how to apply the GROW model for your own self-coaching journey. Let's get started!
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In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, host Simon Goode delves into five common conflict mistakes, beginning with the damaging impact of the phrase "calm down." He explores why such phrases are often counterproductive and provides alternative strategies for more effective communication. Simon also underscores the importance of maintaining a self-aware and collaborative approach to conflict resolution, avoiding quick fixes and focusing on genuine empathetic engagement.
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Why is conflict so stressful? Join me as we explore the various factors that contribute to the immense stress caused by conflict, whether it's in our personal relationships or workplace interactions. We'll discuss the physiological impacts, why our brains perceive conflict as a threat, and how this connects to our ancient survival mechanisms. I'll also share practical insights on managing stress, recognizing negative patterns, and implementing healthy self-care strategies to help you feel more composed and in control during conflict. If you're looking to better understand the roots of conflict-related stress and discover ways to cope effectively, this episode is for you. So, hit that subscribe button and let's get started!
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Listener Question - Staff Using Phone At Work. In this episode, host Simon Goode tackles the common workplace issue of staff using their phones on the job. Through a detailed analysis of a manager's dilemma with a younger staff member repeatedly using their phone at an after-school care center, Simon explores various conflict resolution strategies. From clarifying expectations to navigating value conflicts and relationship dynamics, listeners will gain valuable insights on how to address similar challenges in their own workplaces. Join us as we uncover the keys to managing conflict with confidence and success.
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In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, your host, Professional Mediator Simon Goode, dives into the intricate world of navigating cultural differences in the workplace. Drawing from his personal experiences working abroad in South Korea, Simon unpacks the challenges and strategies involved in bridging cultural gaps. From differing managerial styles to varying expectations around professional communication, Simon offers practical tools and real-life examples to help you understand and navigate these complex dynamics. Whether you're dealing with differences in leadership approaches or finding common ground in conflict resolution, this episode is packed with insights to enhance your cultural competence and conflict management skills. Tune in for an enlightening discussion that will equip you with the knowledge to handle workplace cultural differences with confidence and empathy. If you find this episode valuable, don't forget to subscribe and leave a positive review.
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I’m your host, Simon Goode. Today, we delve into a personal conflict that hit close to home—literally—with the president of a local soccer club. Living next to the soccer field, the blend of community sport and personal peace has often been tricky to balance. This episode uncovers how I navigated the cacophony of game day disturbances, especially loud music on Anzac Day, and the challenges of conflicting neighborly values.We’ll explore the importance of managing emotional reactions and strategies for conflict resolution that respect both parties' autonomy, while aiming for a collaborative outcome. Despite the stressors in personal life, including family issues, the episode presents a case study of my interaction with the club’s president—turning conflict into a conversation, and fostering an environment where even a complaint about a soccer ball over the fence leads to mutual understanding and respect.Join me as I reflect on these experiences, offering insights and strategies to handle similar conflicts you might face, underscoring the importance of reciprocity and understanding in all our interactions. So tune in, and let’s master the art of conflict resolution together.
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In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, host Simon Goode delves into effective strategies for resetting after experiencing workplace conflict. Simon shares personal and professional tips, outlining a three-step process including immediate actions, evening routines, and longer-term recovery strategies to manage stress and restore balance.
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In this episode of the Conflict Skills Podcast, Simon delves into the uncomfortable reality of being stuck between two conflicting parties at work, especially when there are personal stakes involved or you're simply swamped with your own tasks. He'll guide us through a three-pronged strategy to navigate these turbulent waters: maintaining impartiality without taking sides, empowering involved parties through the GROW model of coaching, and establishing firm boundaries to safeguard your own well-being.
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