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In this episode, we dive into the journey of Richard Gosling—a man who left the safe world of civil service to become a funeral director, driven by a desire to connect with others on the deepest level. Join us as Richard shares stories of courage, unexpected life changes, and how facing death can bring new appreciation to life.
Richard Gosling didn’t follow a conventional path to become a funeral director. His journey took root after experiencing his own family’s health crises and realising the vital role that those who manage death play in the lives of the grieving. With humour and insight, Richard recounts his career shift and why he felt the need to serve people in their most vulnerable moments.
Through Richard's stories, we uncover what goes on behind the scenes in a funeral home. From coaxing out meaningful details to creating unique rituals, Richard reminds us that every goodbye is an opportunity to celebrate a life. He also shares his thoughts on why we need to stop shying away from conversations about death and instead embrace them as part of our human experience.
Highlights:
Richard’s path from civil service to funeral director, sparked by personal family experiencesThe surprising and rewarding challenges in helping families honour their loved onesHow funeral directors balance empathy with emotional boundaries for self-careInsights into voluntary assisted dying and supporting families through that experienceThe power of rituals—religious or otherwise—in easing the grieving processRichard's advice on how to take the time to properly honour and remember those we’ve lostEncouragement to openly discuss death and capture loved ones’ stories while they're still with usChapters:
0:00 - Introduction
1:20 - Sound Quality Alert
1:35 - Meeting Richard Gosling
2:34 - A Life-Changing Moment
4:04 - Leaving a Safe Job for a Calling
7:24 - The Emotional Impact of the Role
8:37 - Honouring Families’ Wishes
11:54 - Involving Families in the Process
13:05 - Navigating the Pressure of Time
15:26 - Self-Care for a Funeral Director
16:54 - Facing Mortality
19:20 - Encouraging Conversations on Death
21:30 - The Power of Rituals
24:41 - The Rise of Digital Memori
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Imagine caring for someone for over 20 years without anyone ever asking if you want to be their carer. It sounds unthinkable, right? In this episode, we delve into this powerful, often unasked question and explore what it truly means to support someone at the end of their life, without sacrificing your own.
Join me as I chat with Inge McGinn, a Senior Counsellor and Caseworker from Peninsula Home Hospice, who has over 25 years of experience working in palliative care. Inge’s unique journey to this field started with deeply personal experiences that taught her the importance of discussing death openly.
She’s passionate about helping people talk about what’s often left unspoken: death, dying, and the role of carers. In our conversation, we explore how she supports carers in navigating the intense emotional journey that comes with caring for someone at the end of life. Inge’s approach brings compassion to an often-overlooked aspect of palliative care, recognising carers' needs and creating space for their struggles and strengths.
In this episode, Inge and I also tackle the importance of asking carers, “Do you actually want this role?” It’s a powerful moment when carers realise they can have a say in their role. We unpack how understanding their own limits, boundaries, and desires can help carers fulfil their responsibilities with respect for both themselves and those they care for.
Whether you're a carer, know someone who is, or are interested in palliative care, Inge's wisdom and experiences offer a touching perspective on what it means to live—and die—with dignity and support.
Key Takeaways:
• The Question No One Asks Carers: How "Do you want to be a carer?" can transform lives.
• Caring Beyond Assumptions: Recognising the unique challenges and choices every carer faces.
• Self-Care for Carers: Inge’s insights on setting boundaries and maintaining your identity.
• Community and Compassion: How a strong support network can uplift both carers and the dying.
Remember: You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.
Take care,
Catherine
Chapters:
00:01 - Introduction to palliative care journey and experiences in family therapy
02:28 - Inga's inspiration to work in palliative care and early professional experiences
03:17 - Challenges faced in juvenile justice and supporting familiMY LOVED ONE HAS DIED, WHAT DO I DO NOW?
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In this episode, I chat with Luke Roberts of Mornington Green, a unique final resting place that's revolutionising how we approach death and remembrance. Imagine a lush, 34-acre property that feels more like a botanical garden than a cemetery. That's Mornington Green - a place where loved ones' ashes are infused into the roots of trees, creating living memorials that grow and change with the seasons.
Luke, a former lawyer, shares how his brother's experience with grief led to the creation of Mornington Green. The concept is simple yet profound: instead of traditional burial plots or urns, families choose a tree where their loved one's ashes will be placed. The ashes undergo a special organic treatment process, transforming them from potentially harmful to beneficial for the tree's growth. It's a beautiful cycle of life, where human remains quite literally give new life to nature.
What sets Mornington Green apart isn't just its innovative approach to memorialisation. It's the entire experience they've created around death and remembrance. From the variety of trees available (including jacarandas, oak trees, and flowering gums) to the thoughtful ceremony where families can participate in placing the ashes, every detail is designed to make the process more meaningful and healing. They even host regular events like planting days and Christmas in July, encouraging visitors to create positive, living memories in a place traditionally associated with loss.
Key points from our discussion:
- Mornington Green offers a range of trees for memorialisation, from individual trees to those that can accommodate up to eight people's ashes.
- The ashes undergo a special organic treatment process to make them beneficial for tree growth.
- Families can participate in a meaningful ceremony to place their loved one's ashes, including writing a final note on biodegradable paper.
- Mornington Green hosts regular community events to create positive experiences and memories.
- They're expanding to other states in Australia to meet growing demand.
- A volunteer gardening group is being established to provide purpose and community for elderly clients.
Remember; You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.
Take care,
Catherine
Resources:
Find out more about Mornington Green here: https://morningtongreen.com.au/MY LOVED ONE HAS DIED, WHAT DO I DO NOW?
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Ever wondered what it's like to chat with ghosts for a living? Join me as I sit down with Jenny Tomkins, the fascinating mind behind Sorrento Ghost Tours, who stumbled into the world of the paranormal quite by accident. What started as a way to stay awake for late-night mum taxi duties has turned into a 14-year journey of discovery, scepticism, and ultimately, belief.
Jenny shares how she's developed her own sensitivities over the years. She recounts incredible experiences, from ghostly encounters in haunted houses to the surprising ways spirits communicate through modern technology. But it's not all spooks and spectres - Jenny's tours have also unveiled forgotten histories, including poignant stories of Indigenous spirits still making their presence felt.
This episode is a deep dive into the world of ghost tours, clairvoyance, and the thin veil between our world and the next. Jenny's journey from non-believer to ghost whisperer will challenge your perceptions and maybe, just maybe, make you question what lies beyond our everyday reality. Whether you're a sceptic or a true believer, Jenny's stories will leave you with a newfound curiosity about the unseen world around us.
Key points from our discussion:
The accidental birth of Sorrento Ghost Tours - from mum taxi to ghost guideJenny's personal journey from sceptic to believerThe role of clairvoyants in developing ghost tour routesUnexpected ghostly communication through modern technologyThe importance of historical research in validating paranormal experiencesDealing with sceptics and managing different levels of beliefThe ethics of ghost tours and 'moving spirits on'Indigenous spirits and the importance of respecting sacred sitesThe development of personal sensitivity to the paranormal over timeThe varying ways people perceive and interact with spiritsThe impact of running ghost tours on personal beliefs and life outlookRemember; You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.
Take care,
Catherine
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction
01:20 The Accidental Birth of Sorrento Ghost Tours
05:10 From Sceptic to Spirit Whisperer
10:45 Ghostly Communication Through Modern Tech
15:30 The Role of Clairvoyants in Ghost Tours
19:50 Historical Research Validating Paranormal Experiences
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Ever wondered what it would be like to wake up 200 years in the future, in a young, healthy body with all your memories intact? This isn't science fiction - it's the ambitious goal of cryonics, and it's happening right here in Australia.
In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with Peter Solapides, founder, director, and chairman of Southern Cryonics. Peter shares the fascinating journey that led him to establish Australia's first cryonics facility in Holbrook, New South Wales.
From the intricate process of patient suspension to the complex legal and ethical considerations, we delve deep into the world of cryonics and its potential to revolutionise our approach to death and dying.Peter's enthusiasm is infectious as he explains how cryonics works, dispelling common misconceptions and painting a picture of a future where death might be merely a temporary state.
We discuss the demographics of cryonics supporters, the challenges of long-term planning, and the profound philosophical questions that arise when we consider the possibility of extending human life far beyond its current limits.Key points from our conversation:
Cryonics involves preserving a person's body at extremely low temperatures after legal death, with the hope of future revivalSouthern Cryonics completed their first cryonic suspension in May 2024The process involves a team of medical professionals and specialised equipmentCryonics supporters tend to be science enthusiasts, secular, and optimistic about the futureThe cost of cryopreservation is typically covered by life insurance policiesLegal and ethical considerations include next-of-kin rights and the definition of deathThe facility in Holbrook can currently house 40 patients, with potential to expand to 600Maintenance costs are surprisingly low, mainly involving regular liquid nitrogen top-upsRemember; You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.
Take care,
Catherine
Resources:
Find out more about Peter and Cryonics here: https://southerncryonics.com/
MY LOVED ONE HAS DIED, WHAT DO I DO NOW?
Our guide, ‘My Loved One Has Died, What Do I Do Now?’ provides practical steps for the hours and days after a loved one's death. Download it here.
SUPPORT SERVICES
If you're feeling overwhelmed by grief, find support through our resources and bereavement services here.Contact Catherine
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Ever wondered what it's like to plan a funeral in a golf course or use a combi van as a hearse? Today, we're diving deep into the world of personalised farewells with Mon Jones, a funeral director at The Last Hurrah.
Mon's journey into the funeral industry was unexpected, but it's clear she's found her calling. The Last Hurrah isn't your average funeral home - it's a family affair that's reimagining how we say goodbye to our loved ones. From cardboard coffins that families can decorate together to funerals held in unconventional venues, Mon and her team are breaking the mould of traditional services.
What sets The Last Hurrah apart is their commitment to truly personalised farewells. Mon shared fascinating insights into their process, from the initial family meeting to the final ceremony. It's not just about ticking boxes; it's about listening intently to every story, every throwaway comment, and weaving these details into a ceremony that genuinely reflects the person who has died.
Key Takeaways:
● The importance of slowing down the funeral planning process - there's often more time than families realise
● How The Last Hurrah incorporates children into the funeral process, including decorating coffins and creating quiet spaces at services
● The value of transparency in pricing and offering affordable options like cardboard coffins
● Creative ways to personalise funerals, from unconventional venues to unique rituals
● The annual tree planting event that keeps families connected long after the funeral
Mon's advice for families facing a loss is simple yet powerful: take a breath, slow down, and remember that there's no 'right' way to do this. It's about creating a farewell that feels true to your loved one and helps you begin your grief journey.
Remember; You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.
Take care,
Catherine
Resources:
Contact Mon via here website: https://www.lasthurrahfunerals.com.au/MY LOVED ONE HAS DIED, WHAT DO I DO NOW?
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In this deeply moving episode, we explore the heart-wrenching journey of Sarah Eagle, a neurodivergent public speaker and consultant, who lost her brother Ben to schizophrenia. Sarah's story is a powerful testament to how profound loss can lead to transformative change and a lifelong commitment to mental health advocacy.
The challenges of supporting a loved one with schizophrenia and navigating the mental health systemHow grief can be transformed into a force for positive change and community buildingThe importance of self-care for carers and family members of those with mental health issuesThe impact of a late diagnosis of neurodivergence on understanding oneself and past experiencesInnovative approaches to mental health support, including Polyvagal Theory and sensory lifestyle medicineThe power of walking and pilgrimage as a means of processing grief and raising awareness
Sarah takes us through the harrowing experience of Ben's disappearance in the Australian bush and the subsequent search that ended in tragedy. She shares the raw emotions of grief and the pivotal moment when she chose to channel her pain into purpose. This decision led her on a series of extraordinary journeys, including a 600-kilometre walk along the Bibbulmun track and a solo pilgrimage on the Camino de Santiago, all in memory of Ben and to raise awareness for mental health.
As Sarah's story unfolds, we discover how her own late diagnosis of autism and ADHD became a turning point, offering her a new perspective on her experiences and shaping her approach to helping others. Her work now focuses on supporting neurodivergent individuals and their families, using innovative approaches like Polyvagal Theory and what she terms 'sensory lifestyle medicine' to create understanding and foster better communication.
Key Points from the Episode:
Sarah's journey reminds us that even in our darkest moments, there is potential for growth, healing, and positive impact. Her story is a beacon of hope for anyone grappling with loss or struggling to support a loved one with mental health challenges.
Remember; You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.
Take care,
Catherine
Resources:
Connect with Sarah Eagle via her website here: https://joyMY LOVED ONE HAS DIED, WHAT DO I DO NOW?
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In this eye-opening episode, we dive deep into the heart of Aboriginal funeral traditions with Kaneesha Wise from the Aboriginal Advancement League and the Victorian Aboriginal Funeral Service. Kaneesha shares powerful insights into the cultural significance of Aboriginal funerals, the challenges faced by families, and the vital role of community support in honouring the deceased.
From the importance of returning to Country for a proper burial to the intricate beliefs surrounding the journey to the Dreaming, Kaneesha paints a vivid picture of Aboriginal death customs.
Kaneesha emphasises the holistic approach taken by Aboriginal organisations in supporting not just the individual, but the entire family network during times of loss.
She also opens up about her personal experiences with grief, sharing touching anecdotes about keeping loved ones' memories alive through simple yet meaningful gestures.
Key Takeaways:
- The Victorian Aboriginal Funeral Service provides culturally strong, community-based funerals and support for grieving families
- Aboriginal funeral traditions often involve Smoking ceremonies, gum leaves, and totems to help the deceased's journey to the Dreaming
- Financial challenges are a significant hurdle for many Aboriginal families in providing proper funerals
- Community support and presence are more valuable than material offerings during times of loss
- The importance of talking about deceased loved ones to keep their memory alive, especially for young children
- The Victorian Aboriginal Funeral Service needs community support to continue providing essential services
Resources Mentioned:
Victorian Aboriginal Funeral Service. Contact the Aborigines Advancement League for donation details: https://aal.org.au/programs/victorian-aboriginal-funeral-service-2/
Pay the Rent: An organisation supporting Aboriginal communities with funeral expenses. Find out more here: https://paytherent.net.au/formob-funeralsupport/
Aboriginal Advancement League. Provides various support services for the Aboriginal community. Find out more here: https://aal.org.au/
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CatherineMY LOVED ONE HAS DIED, WHAT DO I DO NOW?
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In today’s episode, I sit down with Emily Kisvarda, an integrated healer, alchemist, author, teacher and spiritual guide, to discuss her profound journey through grief and loss. Emily shares her deeply personal story of losing her husband and brother-in-law within two weeks, followed by her mother’s passing just three years later.
Despite these heartbreaking experiences, Emily found strength and resilience, using her gifts and spiritual awareness to heal herself and guide others.
Emily’s journey through trauma became the catalyst for unlocking her intuitive gifts and diving deep into the world of energy healing. We explore how grief shifted her perspective on life and death, opening doors to new realms of consciousness and a connection to the spiritual world.
Through her work with crystals, energy healing, and ancestral wisdom, Emily has learned to embrace both the physical and metaphysical aspects of healing.
Join us as we explore:
- How Emily navigated the devastating loss of her husband and how it shaped her spiritual journey
- The role of energy healing and crystals in her personal transformation
- Emily's insights into ancestral connections and the lessons we can learn from them
Remember; You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.
Take care,
Catherine
Resources mentioned:
"The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/resources/the-body-keeps-the-score
“The Body is the Barometer of the Soul” https://www.amazon.com.au/Body-Barometer-Soul-Annette-NoontilL/dp/0646197215
Emily’s Details:
Website: https://phoenixgateway.com.au/MY LOVED ONE HAS DIED, WHAT DO I DO NOW?
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This episode contains discussions of sensitive topics including sexual abuse, childhood trauma, and suicide. Listener discretion is advised.
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From Troubled Past to Funeral Crasher: Meet Bill Edgar, Australia's Infamous Coffin Confessor
In this gripping episode, I sit down with Bill Edgar, a man whose life story reads like a Hollywood script. From his tumultuous childhood as the son of a notorious gangster to becoming Australia's most talked-about funeral crasher, Bill's journey is nothing short of extraordinary.
But what exactly is a Coffin Confessor?
Imagine someone crashing a funeral to deliver messages from beyond the grave - that's Bill's job, and he does it with unwavering dedication.
Bill's past is a tapestry of hardship and resilience. A victim of horrific childhood sexual abuse, he's fought tirelessly against the institutions that failed him.
This struggle has shaped his unique perspective on life, death, and everything in between.
As the Coffin Confessor, Bill gives voice to the deceased, ensuring their final words - whether loving or scathing - are heard. It's a role that requires a strong moral compass and the courage to face grieving families with potentially shocking revelations.
Key Insights from Our Conversation:
● Bill's philosophy on death: "We're all going to die. It doesn't matter what you do, we're going. Nothing's going to stop it. It's coming."
● The importance of preparation: Bill emphasises the need to be ready for death, both emotionally and practically.
● Confronting uncomfortable truths: Bill's work often involves revealing secrets at funerals, challenging the notion that we should only speak well of the dead.
● Elder abuse awareness: Bill sheds light on the often-hidden issue of elder abuse in aged care facilities.
● Advocacy for abuse survivors: Through his Facebook page "Lost Boy of TSS", Bill continues to support victims of institutional abuse.
● The Afterlife Delivery Service: A unique extension of his work, delivering messages and gifts from the deceased to their loved ones.
Bill Edgar's story is a powerful reminder that it's never too late to confront our past, speak our truth, and prepare for the inevitable. His work as the Coffin Confessor challenges us to think differently about death, encouraging open conversations and honest reflections oMY LOVED ONE HAS DIED, WHAT DO I DO NOW?
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In this episode of Don't Be Caught Dead, I’m sitting down with the incredible Justine Phillips, a sudden cardiac arrest survivor and founder of Heart Matters Australia. Justine shares her jaw-dropping story of being clinically dead for 93 minutes – yes, 93 minutes – before her heart miraculously restarted. It’s a story of resilience, survival, and the determination of her family and paramedics who refused to give up on her.
We talk about the life-saving importance of CPR and defibrillation, and how knowing these skills can literally mean the difference between life and death. Justine also opens up about the emotional toll her cardiac arrest had on her family, especially her children, who had to perform CPR under the guidance of emergency operators.
During our conversation, Justine clears up the difference between a heart attack and cardiac arrest (there’s more to it than you might think!) and busts some common myths around these critical health issues. Through her organisation, Heart Matters Australia, she’s on a mission to educate communities on how to perform effective CPR and use defibrillators, all with the aim of saving lives and reducing trauma for families in the aftermath of cardiac events.
We also dive into the bigger picture – how surviving a near-death experience has changed her outlook on life, shifted her priorities, and led her to embrace breathwork as a way to process what happened. This is more than a survival story; it’s a powerful reminder that we all need to know how to help in an emergency.
Here are the key points from our chat:
Justine survived a sudden cardiac arrest and was clinically dead for 93 minutes.Her son performed life-saving CPR, guided by emergency services.We discuss the key differences between a heart attack and a cardiac arrest, and why CPR and defibrillation are so important.Justine founded Heart Matters Australia to promote CPR education and make defibrillators more accessible.She’s experienced some major life changes since the cardiac arrest, including a shift in her priorities.She’s used breathwork to recall and process her near-death experience (NDE).Justine advocates for open, honest conversations about death and end-of-life planning.Remember, you may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.
Take care,
CatherineResources
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In this episode of "Don't Be Caught Dead", I sit down with Jane Morris, President of Dying with Dignity Victoria, to unpack the complex journey of voluntary assisted dying legislation in Australia. From its controversial beginnings to its current stringent implementation, we delve into the challenges, triumphs, and ongoing struggles in the fight for end-of-life choices.
Jane takes us on a captivating historical journey, starting with the formation of the Voluntary Euthanasia Society of Victoria in 1974. We explore pivotal moments like the groundbreaking Rights of the Terminally Ill Act in the Northern Territory in 1995, and the tireless advocacy of Dr Rodney Syme. The conversation paints a vivid picture of the societal and political battles fought over decades, culminating in Victoria's landmark legislation in 2017.
But the story doesn't end there. Jane provides an eye-opening look at the current state of voluntary assisted dying in Victoria, detailing the stringent eligibility criteria and complex process individuals must navigate. We discuss the controversial 'gag clause' that prevents doctors from initiating conversations about VAD, and the logistical challenges faced by rural residents. This episode offers a comprehensive overview of where we stand and the work that still needs to be done to ensure dignified end-of-life choices for all Australians.
Key points from our discussion:
The history of Dying with Dignity Victoria, dating back to 1974The Northern Territory's pioneering but short-lived euthanasia legislation in 1995Dr Rodney Syme's significant contributions to the causeVictoria's current VAD legislation: eligibility criteria and processThe 'gag clause' and its impact on patient awarenessChallenges faced by rural residents in accessing VADThe role of Dying with Dignity Victoria in providing witnessing servicesThe VAD process; Two verbal requests, Assessments by two doctors, written request, witnessed by 2 independent witnesses and then a permit is issuedRemember; You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.
Take care,
Catherine
Dying with Dignity Resources:
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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode covers the topic of suicide
In a world where mental health struggles often go unspoken, three young blokes from Melbourne are turning their personal tragedies into a powerful force for change. Meet Ben Farish, one of the founders of Speak and Share, a charity that's taking Australia by storm with its mission to normalise mental health conversations and prevent suicide.Born from the depths of their own mental health battles during the COVID lockdown, Ben and his mates, Nathan and Mason, transformed their pain into purpose.
After losing a close friend to suicide, experiencing family upheaval, and grappling with grief, these three teachers realised the dire need for open, honest conversations about mental health.
What started as a simple Instagram account sharing funny skits with positive mental health messages has now blossomed into a medium-sized charity running programs in schools, sporting clubs, and workplaces across Australia.But Speak and Share isn't just another mental health organisation. With their iconic sunflower logo symbolising strength and community, and their sought-after merchandise drops, they've created a movement that's as cool as it is crucial.
Their approach is all about prevention, starting conversations early, and creating a world where speaking about mental health is as natural as talking about the weather.
Vulnerability is infectious: Ben emphasises the power of being honest and open about your struggles, which encourages others to do the same.Create comfortable spaces for tough conversations: Whether it's going for a walk or grabbing fish and chips, find environments where people feel at ease to open up.Early intervention is key: Speak and Share focuses on educating young people about mental health strategies before crises occur.Collaboration over competition: Despite the challenges, Ben stresses the importance of mental health organisations working together towards common goals.Self-care is crucial: Even for mental health advocates, maintaining personal wellbeing through activities like exercise, journaling, and podcasts is essential.
Key Takeaways:
Donate to Speak and Share: Visit www.speakandshare.com and click the donate button (tax-
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Ever wondered if there's a kinder way to say goodbye to your loved ones? Most of us are aware of burials and cremations, but have you heard of water cremation?
Luke Cripps is a Director at Alluvium Water Cremations, established in 2023 with Director Brendan Cooper to bring a gentle, affordable, and eco-friendly method of final disposition to families in Tasmania, Australia.
Luke has worked in the death space both practically and theoretically in Tasmania for the better part of a decade, and has a particular interest in the intersection of end-of-life practices and what it might mean to live well.
Built on the founding principles of dignity, transparency, and sustainability, Alluvium Water Cremations are proud to support Tasmanian families to make informed choices around their end-of-life decisions.
In this eye-opening episode, we dive into the world of water cremation. Discover how this innovative process is revolutionising the way we approach death care in Australia.Luke takes us on a fascinating journey through the ins and outs of water cremation, also known as alkaline hydrolysis. We explore how this process differs from traditional flame cremation and burial, and why many families are finding comfort in its gentler approach. From the soothing sound of trickling water to the preservation of more remains, water cremation offers a unique and environmentally friendly option for those looking to make mindful choices about their final disposition.
But it's not just about the science. Luke shares the challenges of bringing this new technology to Australia, navigating complex regulations, and the surprising reactions from families. We discuss the importance of informed consent in death care and how water cremation is opening up new conversations about choice and dignity in our final moments.
Key points from the episode:
Water cremation uses water and alkali instead of flame, resulting in a gentler process that many families find comfortingThe process often returns 20-30% more remains to families compared to flame cremationAlluvium Water Cremations is the first fully approved and regulated water cremation service in AustraliaWater cremation can be integrated with traditional funeral services or used as a standalone optionThe environmental impact is significantly lower than traditional crematioMY LOVED ONE HAS DIED, WHAT DO I DO NOW?
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Have you ever wondered what to say to someone who’s grieving? Or felt unsure about how to handle your own grief? In this episode, I chat with Bryan Petheram, a counsellor and group facilitator from Griefline, about the complexities of grief and how we can better support ourselves and others through loss.
Bryan shares his journey from being a police officer to becoming a grief counsellor, offering unique insights into how our understanding of grief has evolved. We discuss the importance of acknowledging loss, the power of language in grief, and why it’s crucial to avoid platitudes like “at least…” when comforting someone who’s grieving. Bryan emphasises that there’s no “right” way to grieve and explains how grief can change as we age and experience different losses.
We also delve into the practical aspects of grief support, including when it might be time to seek professional help and the various services Griefline offers. Whether you’re supporting a grieving friend or navigating your own loss, this episode provides valuable insights and strategies for dealing with grief in a healthy, compassionate way.
The evolution of grief understanding: from stages to a non-linear processThe importance of acknowledging loss and using clear language about deathWhy saying “I’m sorry for your loss” might not be the best approachHow to support someone who’s grieving: be present, not perfectWhen and why to seek professional help for griefThe various support services offered by Griefline
Key points from the episode:
Griefline website: griefline.org.auGriefline helpline: Available 8am to 8pm every day of the yearLet's Talk About Grief! campaign: https://griefline.org.au/2024-grief-awareness-campaign/Let’s Talk About Greif Fundraising event https://griefline.org.au/lets-talk-about-grief-fundraising-event/E-book: “How to Support a Grieving Friend” by Sal and Im (Good Mourning podcast)Good Mourning podcast
Resources mentioned:Remember; You may
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In honour of Dying to Know Day and Loneliness Awareness Week Australia, this week I chat with Associate Professor Michelle Lim, the inaugural CEO and Scientific Chair of Ending Loneliness Together.
Michelle dives deep into the pervasive issue of loneliness and how it affects us all, especially those dealing with the death of a loved one.
Michelle explains that loneliness is often misunderstood and concealed, with one in two Australians feeling lonely yet hiding it. We talk about how to approach conversations around loneliness respectfully, ensuring that we don’t invalidate someone's feelings or assume that what works for one person will work for another.
Michelle’s insights are both enlightening and practical, offering ways to support those who feel isolated.
We also touch on the significant difference between loneliness and social isolation, and why it’s essential to understand this distinction. Michelle shares her thoughts on how loneliness can still be felt even when surrounded by people, and why meaningful social connections are crucial.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to better understand and support loved ones experiencing loneliness, particularly after a significant loss.
Key Points:
Understanding the hidden nature of loneliness and how to have non-threatening conversations.The difference between loneliness and social isolation.The impact of losing an intimate partner and how to support someone through it.Resources:
Ending Loneliness TogetherCritical InfoRemember; You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.
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This week is DonateLife Week (Sunday 28 July - Sunday 4 August 2024), and I've had the honour of speaking with Sam Stones from DonateLife Victoria. Sam shares the delicate and important work they do, helping families navigate the difficult decisions around organ and tissue donation when a loved one is dying.
In this episode, Sam walks us through the process of donation conversations, explaining how she approaches families in their most vulnerable moments.
We dive into the rarity of organ donations, the specific conditions required for someone to become a donor, and the emotional and logistical complexities involved. Sam also shares some heartwarming stories about the impact of organ donation, including the long-lasting connections between recipients and donor families.
You'll learn about the practicalities of organ donation, clear up some myths, and understand the entire process.
Sam's insights highlight the incredible generosity of donor families and the profound difference organ donation can make in people's lives.
Lynden’s story – additional detailsIn this episode, Samantha speaks about her dear friend Lynden, who sadly lost his life in 2023 after a 10-month battle with cancer. As Lynden was very ill, his wife Melissa was key in communicating his decision about corneal donation to medical staff, friends, family, and the Lions Eye Donation Service, also completing the necessary consent paperwork on his behalf. At the time of recording this episode, it had been almost 16 months since Lynden had passed away.
In this episode, we discuss:
The process of organ donation conversations with familiesThe rare conditions required for organ donation to be possibleThe emotional and logistical complexities of coordinating organ donationsHeartwarming stories of donor and recipient connectionsResources and Links:
DonateLife VictoriaFiona Coote's StoryFact sheet providedThank you for tuning in, and I hope this episode helps you understand the vital importance of organ donation.
Remember; You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.
Take care,
Catherine
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Ever wondered what legal documents you need to have in place before you die? Or how to handle your assets and loved ones when the inevitable happens? In this episode of "Don't Be Caught Dead," I'm joined by Greg Russo, one of Victoria's most experienced and respected succession law solicitors. Greg shares his journey into law, driven by a love for maths and logic, and how he found his passion in succession law—a field where numbers meet human stories.
We dive deep into the essentials of succession law, discussing everything from wills and superannuation nominations to powers of attorney and advanced care directives. Greg explains the importance of having the right documents in place to ensure your assets are managed and your loved ones are cared for when you're no longer able to do so. He also sheds light on how to plan for your financial future and the guardianship of your children if you die or become incapacitated.
Get ready to learn about the nitty-gritty of succession law in a way that's clear, engaging, and relatable. Greg's insights will not only help you understand the legal landscape better but also empower you to make informed decisions about your future.
Key Highlights:
Understanding the importance of wills and superannuation nominationsThe role of powers of attorney and advanced care directivesPlanning for the guardianship and financial future of your childrenInsights into managing your business and personal assets after death or incapacitationResources Mentioned:
Contact Greg Russo via his website hereRemember; You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.
Take care,
Catherine
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Today we’re talking about a revolutionary approach to farewelling our loved ones, pioneered by an extraordinary guest.
Meet Jennifer Briscoe-Hough, the founder and CEO of Tender Funerals Australia. She's been on quite a journey to get to where she is now. She even has had a movie made about her journey!
From her own personal experience with the death of her mother and the shocking costs of traditional funeral services, she was driven to find a solution that not only made sense financially, but also emotionally and spiritually. She talks about how the seed was planted for Tender Funerals, a non-profit franchise model that offers choice, transparency, and affordability.
In our discussion, Jenny shares the story of how Tender Funerals came into existence, the challenges faced along the way, and the beautiful meaning behind the term ‘undertaker'. She also touches on the industrialisation of the funeral business and how Tender Funerals aims to bring back the personal touch often lost in the process. This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in understanding more about the funeral industry and looking for a more personalised, meaningful approach to saying goodbye.
Remember; You may not be ready to die, but at least you can be prepared.
Take care,
Catherine
Key takeaways from this episode include:
Jenny’s personal experience with her mother’s death and how it inspired the creation of Tender Funerals.Insights into the funeral industry and how it has evolved over time.The unique approach of Tender Funerals, a non-profit franchise model that offers choice, transparency, and affordability.The meaning and significance of the term ‘undertaker’.The concept of paying for funerals from estates, and the financial challenges many face when dealing with a loved one’s death.MY LOVED ONE HAS DIED, WHAT DO I DO NOW?
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In honour of NAIDOC week 2024, the theme: Keep the Fire Burning! Blak, Loud & Proud honours the enduring strength and vitality of First Nations culture – with fire a symbol of connection to Country, to each other, and to the rich tapestry of traditions that define Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples.
Also, because I simply love what this wonderful woman has to share, we explore the experience and philosophies of Aunty Jill West, a Bunurong and Palawa woman, who generously shares her fascinating life story and the lessons she's learned from dealing with death.
In our chat, Aunty Jill talks about her dual heritage, her father's untimely death at 53, and how it made her reflect on her own mortality. She highlights the importance of understanding and accepting where we come from, and how it shapes our identity. Her father, a man of 'supreme intelligence', had a profound impact on her, and she continues his work, walking next to his footsteps.
Aunty Jill discusses the impact of the 1967 referendum on her family and the Aboriginal community at large. She gets candid about her father's journey to become a teacher, a university lecturer, and a doctor of Indigenous philosophy, despite facing numerous obstacles and systemic discrimination. It's an eye-opening conversation that gives us a glimpse into the resilience and determination of the Aboriginal community.
In today’s episode:
• Aunty Jill discusses the importance of understanding and accepting one’s heritage, highlighting how this acceptance can help alleviate the burden of historical guilt and contribute to personal and community healing.
• We delve into Aunty Jill’s personal journey through grief following the sudden death of her father, exploring how her Aboriginal heritage and customs provided her with the frameworks to cope and find strength.
• The significance of cultural rituals in mourning and remembrance is touched upon, giving us a poignant view of how Indigenous practices can deeply influence the healing process.
Key Points from Our Conversation:
• Heritage and Healing: Aunty Jill emphasises the strength found in accepting and knowing one's heritage, which for her, was key in navigating life’s challenges, particularly in dealing with the death of loved ones.
• Grief as a Path to Healing: She shares her intimate experiences with grief, illustrating how the AborigMY LOVED ONE HAS DIED, WHAT DO I DO NOW?
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