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âThe problem isnât you; the problem is the toxic workplace,â explains host Caitlin Donovan on this latest #straightfromcait episode of FRIED, in which she discusses the dangers of returning to a toxic workplace only to repeat the burnout cycle again, as if you never made any recovery progress. Too often weâre led to believe that if we improve ourselves enough, we can develop an immunity against a bad environment, which, as Cait says, simply isnât true.
On todayâs episode, she explains why you should reconsider returning to your toxic workplace, and, if you do find yourself there, what to do if you find yourself unsupported. She discusses the common feelings of isolation, loneliness, emotional and mental paralysis and low self-esteem that accompany this scenario, and the devastating effects of bullies in the workplace.
Youâve come too far in your burnout recovery to jump back into the very situation that got you burned out in the first place. Join Cait today to learn the importance of being aware of, and listening to your body responses, to better detect and determine if your environment is safe.
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âWhat happens, because of pop culture and pop psychology, is people assume that if they just get stronger, have better boundaries or can manage their emotions better, that somehow they will be able to manage and handle a toxic environment. That would be like saying, âIf I just meditate enough, I can swim in toxic chemicals and they wonât bother my body.â Thatâs just not true.â (2:56 | Caitlin Donovan) âThere are a lot of people who explain that they, after something like this happens, are left with really low confidence. Theyâre feeling worthless, they feel socially isolated. They donât know how to search for a new job; theyâre nervous about searching for a new job. Theyâre wondering if theyâll ever be able to work again. Their social circle often doesnât know how to respond, which is not their social circleâs fault, most people are just not educated well enough in the realms of burnout to have these conversations easily.â (6:37 | Caitlin Donovan) âAnd then that social isolation turns into loneliness, and you feel like the odd one out and you feel like, âOh, my God, why is everybody around me making it in life and I canât hang, I canât hack it.â And then that turns into a general feeling of despair.â (7:08 | Caitlin Donovan)âIt only takes one bully, one crappy boss to set things totally sideways. And I know that people who work in HR and leaders donât want to hear that one crappy boss can really ruin it like that for someone, but they can, and they do, and the cost is magnificent. The cost is immense for this person.â (9:38 | Caitlin Donovan)Links
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âHow do we rewrite the playbook together?â asks Daisy Auger-Dominguez, global leader, workplace strategist and author of the upcoming book âFrom Burnt Out to Lit Up,â on todayâs episode of FRIED. The contemporary workplace is in major flux at the moment. In addition to being in collective burnout that weâve just been able to give a name to, weâre also in what Daisy calls a âmessy middle,â where workers are still learning how to effectively use their voices and leaders are trying to navigate these rapidly changing waters with archaic methods. So, how can leaders gain the skills to lead high-performing teams, shift workplace culture, and drive performance without causing more burnout? By showing up differently, modeling vulnerability and humanity for their workers, so that they feel seen, can heal, and eventually, help change the system from the inside out.
Today Daisy talks about what it takes to do such healing. It includes being conscious of your sacrifices, weighing the pros and cons of your decisions, replenishing your social battery and staying on top of your cultural debt. Many leaders fall into the trap of thinking theyâre needed everywhere 24/7âwhen delegating not only eases the leaderâs burden but lets capable workers shine.
Daisy explains how we can acknowledge the undue burden many groups experience in the workplace while exercising agency that helps not only us thrive but others as well. By rewriting the stories we tell ourselves, we help remodel the current paradigm of workplace culture into something better.
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âThatâs what weâre hoping for from our leaders. Weâre hoping that they will help us, get us to the other side, and that they will do so vulnerably; that they will do so with humanity; and that they will do so in a way that allows us to feel seen, validated and understood so that we can deliver to our best capacity.â (9:24 | Daisy Auger-Dominguez)âI do believe that when you tell the world that you have boundaries, you tell the world that you matter. But I also think âŠwhat I do for me is also what I model for others so thatâthey donât have to do what Iâm doing, but they can create the conditions where they can thrive.â (20:40 | Daisy Auger-Dominguez)âOne of the practices in the book that I share is about reframing our narratives, reframing our stories, because for a long time, the story I told myself was, âAs a woman⊠As a woman of colorâŠââ all these âonlyâ characteristics that you have, I needed to show up differently. And to be fair, and this is to your naysayer listener, I had to. I really did have to.â (24:07 | Daisy Auger-Dominguez)âI know the system has failed me, but how do I exercise my agency to figure out how I thrive in this way, and by doing that, help change the system? Because by my figuring out, âHow do I show up differently, and âHow do I help others show up differently,â we help build that new leadership. We were just talking about how most leaders are using the same old playbook. Well, how do we rewrite the playbook together?â (27:02 | Daisy Auger-Dominguez)Links
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âWhat kind of 85-year-old do you want to be?â asks Cathy Richards, exercise physiologist, wellness coach and best-selling author of âBoom! Six Steps to Living a Longer, Healthier Lifeâ who joins the podcast to help us learn what we can do to protect our brains against neurodegenerative diseases such as dementia and Alzheimerâs Disease. The habits we build nowâstarting with as little as just five minutes a dayâwill help, in large part, to determine the quality of our later years.
The best thing you can do? Get moving. This doesnât have to mean exercise. Cathy and Cait discuss the power of movement to not only yield physical benefits such as weight loss, but helps to promote neuroplasticity that will help us develop healthier thoughts and, ultimately, belief systems. The point is to build small consistent habits over time.
The future is coming faster than we think. Though none of us has entire control over it, we can begin today to form the best version of ourselves in the future.
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âI will say that I think that sleep is one of the biggest things we can doâŠI donât think in general that sleep is protected as much and itâs not part of American culture to get enough sleep, I would say, in my opinion. I feel like weâre always deciding if we have more to do, we just stay up late and we get up early.â (9:32 | Cathy Richards)âTotally modest investment of time can yield enormous benefits. It doesnât have to be a lot, it doesnât have to be complicated and we really canât afford not to. Thatâs the thing, if we could prescribe movement, whether itâs for migraines, or whatever it is, or whatever your problem, movement can fix it, or can help fix it. Almost every single solitary time.â (17:30 | Cathy Richards) âPeople get stressed out thinking, âWhat do I need to do to prevent my heart disease?...what do I need to do to protect my brain?â Guess what? Itâs all the same listâŠMoving your body has more impact on your brain function than anything else you could do.â (33:18 | Cathy Richards) âYou donât turn into the kind of 85-year-old thatâs in a nursing home versus traveling the world at 84. Weâre building the kind of 85-year-old we want to be right now.â (47:52 | Cathy Richards)Links
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âWe really need to break our limitations of what we say rest is,â says Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith, a board-certified internal medicine physician, internationally renowned thought leader on well-being, and author of the bestselling book âSacred Rest: Recover Your Life, Renew Your Energy, Restore Your Sanity.â By overwhelming demand, Dr. Saundra joins the FRIED podcast to discuss the seven types of rest, which she explains is distinct fromâbut nonetheless essential toâsleep. Sheâll explain how you can determine in which area of your lifeâfrom the mental, physical and emotional, to the sensorial, spiritual and creativeâ-you are experiencing the greatest rest deficit, and how you can begin to fill those empty buckets amidst your busy life, not around it.
Along the way she reveals some surprising insights about the nature of rest and unpacks some of our most enduring misconceptions about it. Often what we think of as rest is really more work and when we think we are relaxing we are just indulging ourselves. She explains the difference between fitting in and true belonging, why trauma dumping can actually cause more stress, and why that watercolor painting class is not as creatively restoring as you may think it is.
Over 250,000 people have discovered their personal rest deficit with Dr. Saundraâs help. Join todayâs episode to learn how you can discover yours and start your journey toward overcoming burnout and living your best life.
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âI got to this point where I realized all of the work and energy that I put into building that life that looks so good, I could put the same energy into building a life that actually felt good, and that actually was a life that was satisfying and did give me the things that I desire.â (4:49 | Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith) âDo something. Donât settle for exhaustion. I feel like thatâs the culture weâve lived in. Weâve settled for, âWell this is just how everybody feels. Everybodyâs burnt out. Everyoneâs exhausted. Nobodyâs happy.â Itâs not true. Itâs a lie.â (13:51 | Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith)âI think for a lot of people, we feel like sleep is the end all/be all of rest. And so we try to bypass all other forms of stress and just go straight to, âGive me six, seven, eight hours of deep, restorative sleep,â and thatâs just not the reality of it. You can pop pills all day, youâre not going to have restorative sleep. It just doesnât work like that. Itâs something that comes when your body, your mind, your spirit, your relationships, all of those components of rest feel safe, they feel rested. So, then itâs like your whole self is able to completely go into the truly helpless state of deep, restorative sleep.â (17:32 | Saundra Dalton-Smith) âFifty years agoâŠwe trained our brains for memorization, concentration and focus, whereas now we train our brains to multitask.â (21:08 | Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith)Links
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âMaking yourself feel good in your own space is really important,â urges host Cait Donovan on todayâs episode of FRIED, the second in a six-part series dedicated to the various factors that make us more vulnerable to burnout. Following the episode which covered factors in the workplace, todayâs episode discusses the impact of our environmentâboth interior and exteriorâon our parasympathetic nervous system and our ability to handle stress. Today, Cait will cover the importance of light exposureâand lack thereofâas well green spaces, clutter piles, and when. Youâll learn why even the way you store your cutlery can change the way you feel in your own space.
No matter how much time, energy or money you have to devote to changing your environmentâevery little adjustment makes a difference. Cait shares research and science behind her suggestions, while also encouraging you to cater to your own individual preferences. Sheâll share the three colors that are proven to inspire calm in the home, how to increase the function of your prefrontal cortex and how to create community around you even when you live alone.
Ready to leave burnout behind for good? Join UNFRIED: A Small Group Burnout Recovery Program and start reclaiming your energy and joy. Apply today! https://bit.ly/unfryapplyWhat small shift can you make in your environment in the next week? With that one small change you will begin to buy yourself the energy you will need to make the larger changes in your burnout recovery.
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âA lot of times, this is something that we have a lot of control over for relatively low costâif not totally freeâand weâre not thinking about it because so much of the âself-helpâ work out there is about fixing your mindset, and managing your perfectionism and doing something about your boundaries. Sometimes, when you canât do any of those things, I want you to know there is still something you can do, some changes you can make, some influence you can have without having to be focused on doing all this work all the time.â (2:02 | Caitlin Donovan) âWhen you view the sunrise and view the sunset and your eyes are exposedâthere are actually cones and rods in your eyes that are exposed to a particular level of blue light thatâs given out during those hours, that help to set off your hormonal cascade, the circadian rhythm of your hormonal cascade properly.â (6:49 | Caitlin Donovan)âWhen weâre thinking about burnout recovery, we [often think] âGo boundaries, and have these conversations and maybe even quit your job or talk to your manager,â and do all these big life things. Sometimes, the first thing you need to do is buy a round nightstand or something else equally seemingly insignificant in your world that will help lower your stress level so that you can manage the other things in your life with more ease so that you have more buffer in your stress response system to be able to handle the rest of life.â (13:41 | Caitlin Donovan) âYou should feel community within your household if there are other people who live with you, and/or around your household. So, if there is no community at all in your neighborhood, even if the only community you have is that you have a dog and the fellow dog walkers say hello to each other when theyâre out, that matters.â (17:32 | Caitlin Donovan)Links
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âI completely lost myself, my physical, mental and emotional well-being, but I lost my identity. I was no longer Claudia, I was the caregiver,â explains todayâs guest Claudia Taboada, a holistic wellness and burnout prevention coach, bestselling author and international speaker who joins FRIED today to discuss the experience of burnout by those who care for neurodiverse children. After her oldest son was diagnosed with autism in 2003, Claudia left her job to care for him full time. Soon, not only was she mentally and physically exhausted from trying to be, as she called it, the âautism supermomâ but she lost sight of her own goals and aspirations along the way. On todayâs episode, she explains how a guide dog who had been gifted to the family to help with sonâs development, actually helped her realize how important it is for those who care for everyone else to carve out time to care for themselves, to de-clutter their minds, to get their bodies moving and reconnect with themselves.
Of course, for most women, this is easier said than done. Claudia talks to host Cait Donovan about the pressure to people-please, to put oneâs own needs last on the list, and the importance of filling your own cup. She also discusses setting mental boundaries against toxic people and influences, while also pushing past our own limiting beliefs and fears, and what she does to foster a growth mindset.
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âIt was really about decluttering the mind. On these walks, I was by myselfâand the dogâbut I was into the present moment. They were mindful walks, I called them âthe mindful walks.â I was on my stride, and the smells, the sightsâeverything. So, I was in the present moment and that finally allowed my mind to start decluttering. The mind started to declutter and I started to reconnect with myself.â (9:37 | Claudia Taboada)âI crossed the finish line and that was the moment, that was my epiphanyâmy real epiphanyâwhere I said, âThis is it. Burnout stops here. I need to take charge. I need to take charge of my physical, mental and emotional health because I have been neglecting myself and as the mother of a severely autistic child who is going to be dependent on me for the rest of his days, I cannot die. I need to recover from this burnout and I need to stay in peak mental, physical and emotional state to be able to not only take care of him in the long run, but also go after my dreams and my aspirations, which I had lost.â (13:26 | Claudia Taboada) âI also have my own identity now. So even though my life is harder now because Iâm by myself, taking care of my son, Iâm also feeling fulfilled and Iâm doing my things and I have my business and all that. And I have learned how to put my boundaries around my caregiving role so that I can do my own things as well.â (20:15 | Claudia Taboada) âWomen, we have been conditioned to give, to be everything to everyone and we put ourselves at the bottom of the priority list, and when we start setting boundaries and when we start saying, âWell, maybe I also have needs,â we feel guilty. Whether itâs at work or itâs at home, we feel guilty.â (22:02 | Claudia Taboada)Links
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âIrrational fear is just a sign of depletion,â said Sarah Vosen in a recent conversation with co-host Cait Donovan. This profound insight became the foundation for todayâs episode. According to Chinese medicine, the paralyzing anxiety that often accompanies burnoutâleaving you disconnected from yourself and others, doubting your intuition, and retreating from the worldâstems from a depletion of energy in the kidney system. Citing the book âRooted in Spirit: The Heart of Chinese Medicine,â Cait explains that when the heart and kidney systems fail to connect and communicate, it leads to insecurity, hesitation, and a loss of perspective on lifeâs possibilities.
So, what can we do about it? Since fear is a physical symptom of a deeper issue, the solution lies in the physical realm. Sarah and Cait discuss dietary changes, exercise, and environmental adjustments that can help restore kidney energy. They also delve into a specific visualization technique and even suggest the best fashion choices to support this healing process.
Join the conversation to discover the surprising and common physical signs that may be linked to the kidneyâs energetic system, along with a specific exercise that could bring you the relief youâve been seeking.
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âWhen youâre feeling irrational fear, it feels like itâs the biggest thing, top priority, it is coloring everything in your world. Itâs a big deal.â (2:31 | Sarah Vosen)âItâs just a signânot to minimize that it feels gigantic, but itâs just a signâitâs just one of the ways that your bodyâs telling you, âIâm so depleted that I am terrified of everything on purpose. Iâm telling you that Iâm scared of everything because I want you to sit still. I want you to honor this fear and stop pushing yourself because you are dangerously depleted.ââ (3:45 | Sarah Vosen) âThis goes both ways: when this communication is disrupted, fear is the result. And also, when there is too much fear, a disruption of this communication can be the result.â (9:11 | Caitlin Donovan)âYour hesitation to take a step forward in any direction because you feel like itâs all wrong and youâre going to hurt yourself and you just donât know. You canât trust because youâre disconnected from your heart. Your heart is no longer leading you in the way that it used to. We didnât even used to think about it, but a lot of times, you just thought, âOh. That feels good. Iâm going to do that.â But when youâre not connected to your heart anymore and this fear is driving you, it actually just drives you straight into the ground.â (10:29 | Sarah Vosen) âMost people donât necessarily know this but the heart sends more signals to the brain during the day than the brain sends to the heartâthis is not Chinese medicine, this is Western research. So, your heart is sending more information to your brain than the other way around. So, your heart has a lot of influence over how you function on a day-to-day basis.â (11:19 | Caitlin Donovan)Links
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âIf youâre ready to recover, understand whatâs going on with you, and get a life you love, letâs do this,â says Dr. Jacob Teitelbaum, a leading expert on Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS) and fibromyalgia. The author of 12 books, including the best-selling âFrom Fatigued to Fantastic,â Dr. Teitelbaum joins the FRIED podcast to discuss the similarities between these conditions and burnout, including four key symptoms, and how they are distinct. He likens the hypothalamusâa crucial brain area controlling hormones, adrenaline, and thyroid functionâto a circuit breaker that trips to prevent the body from âburning down.â He suggests that living inauthentically and ignoring our true needs can trigger these health issues, serving as crucial warnings that we need to realign our lives.
Dr. Teitelbaum critiques the shortcomings of a profit-driven Western medical system that often fails to recognize these conditions, despite its claims of evidence-based practice. He and host Cait delve into the benefits of homeopathic and natural remedies, and discuss a common hormonal issue affecting a significant portion of the population.
Dr. Teitelbaum also shares his personal struggle with chronic fatigue, which led him to drop out of medical school and briefly live on a park bench. His journey to becoming a healer in his own right is not only a testament to his resilience but also serves as a beacon of hope for anyone on their own path to recovery from burnout.
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âBurnout includes the physiology of CFS and fibromyalgia, sometimes, but burnout, to me, is when youâre not being authentic. Youâre doing stuff you donât want to be doingâyouâre doing what you should be doing, but you hate it, youâve outgrown that.â (8:25 | Dr. Jacob Teitelbaum) âDo you see chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia or long Covid as a more extreme place from burnout? Yes. Itâs when your bodyâs giving you a symptom of burnout to say, âYouâre on the wrong path; Cliff Ahead,â and getting you to slow down and change direction. The cliff is chronic fatigue syndrome, fibromyalgia or that part of long Covid. Thatâs when you go over the cliff because you didnât listen to your psyche when it said, âWrong Way.ââ (12:04 | Caitlin Donovan and Dr. Jacob Teitelbaum) âPeople need to realize thereâs not a single way to get to where you want to go. You can go north and south and get to the same place, you just need to turn west. There are all kinds of ways to get there. In medicine, weâre geared to, âWhat is the most profitable?â The doctors are almost all really good people who think theyâre doing the right thing. They say their catechisms every morning, they say, âEvidence-based medicine. Domini, Domini, Domini.â And the drug reps are these cheerleaders.â (35:13 | Dr. Jacob Teitelbaum) âSteer with some simple things. Number one: how does that feel to you? Your brain is a computer, itâs a product of your programming⊠It has no clue who you are. Your feelings know who you are.â (43:45 | Dr. Jacob Teitelbaum)Links
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âWe sometimes resist our own healing because it feels like punishment,â says Sarah Vosen in this latest #sarashares episode of FRIED. Today, she discusses the challenge of healing, which despite being good for us, doesnât necessarily always feel great. And because of this, we are tempted to self sabotage, retreat back into our old coping mechanisms, and continue to sacrifice long term growth and greater reward for smaller, short-term rewardsâor merely the illusion thereof. You may recognize yourself in a few of the scenarios that Sarah shares to illustrate how we can backslide down the slippery slope of healing. She also shares her own journey toward healthy eating and forming a new relationship to alcohol, and the incremental success in forming new habits.
As with everything in nature and the universe, contraction is as natural an element of the growth and healing process as expansion. So, on our healing journey, for every step forward there may be a retreat back to old, comforting habits, especially when weâre physically and emotionally exhausted. Thatâs why we must take it slow and steady, show ourselves grace and reward, and look for and accept support. Sarah discusses the subject of ârevenge procrastination,â and the big questions that lay at the heart of our resistance to change.
With vulnerability and courage, Sarah continues to share her own journey with us so that we can learn more about what it means to heal from burnout and take bold action along our own path.
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âContinuing to use only these instant gratification comforts is like choosing a consolation prize thatâs depleting over time because theyâre like empty caloriesâsometimes literallyâor sometimes more like empty fulfillment, like how a diet soda is sweet but not really. It isnât exactly satisfying.The real prizes are the ones that healing provides.â (2:33 | Sarah Vosen) âAll periods of growth have a retreat following them, just like winter is a retreat of energy from the full out growth period of the summer.â (8:23 | Sarah Vosen) âWhen you are embarking on a healing journey, remember that in order to change, you have to change, and with change comes growing pains, mostly because you have to shift your habits away from a lifestyle that is the only safety you know, and has been comforting you in some way, for years. Even if it wasnât helpful for you in many other ways.â (11:52 | Sarah Vosen)âYouâve heard it said before and Iâll say it again: make smaller changes. If youâre very tired, make even smaller changes. I know it wonât seem like enough, but it will add up.â (19:04 | Sarah Vosen)Links
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âIâm giving you permission to give up,â says Courtney Clark, author of the recent book âRevisionary Thinking,â who joins the FRIED podcast to talk about the power of quitting. After being diagnosed with cancer four times starting at a very early age, she became acutely aware of the demand our culture makes on staying positive at all costs, creating a vacuum around anything even resembling a negative, or even more realistic thought. In workplace and career, this means we tend to stay on a career path past the time we realize itâs not working, convinced there is only one way to do things.
Quitting doesnât mean abandoning your dreamsâor just lazing on the couch. Instead, Courtney encourages us to âsupersizeâ our dreams, to realize what you really want in the big picture, so that you can allow for more than one path to get there. And the more paths there are to get to our dreams the more chances we have to achieve them.
Most of us have done this type of pivoting in our lives, perhaps without even realizing it. Courtney and Caitlin share their experiences in âsupersizingâ in their career as well as in their personal lives.
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âWeâve very much romanticized the idea of powering through and putting on a happy face and I think part of the reason we like it, and we tell ourselves that story that other people are sufferingâ, Oh, theyâre doing it with so much grace,â we like that because, I believe, that it allows us to cling to this thought, this hope, that, if it were us, weâd be OK, too. âItâs bad but itâs not so bad.â But the reality is then, that can lead friends, family, the support system to minimize.â (7:33 | Courtney Clark)âI believe weâve created this culture where if you canât find positivity, youâre bad and wrong. And if we could just kind of let that go, and maybe just allow two things to co-exist at the same time. You can have gratitude for something for where it got you and what you have because of it and also decide, âI donât have to hold onto this forever.ââ (12:23 | Courtney Clark)âThere are a lot of people shouting and saying, âChange the system so that itâs what I wanted it to be.â Instead of, âIâm going to quit the system and still help people or still engage with people in a way thatâs more aligned.ââ(18:17 | Caitlin Donovan)âA lot of times when we set what we think is a goal, weâve really made a plan. And when we realize and we buy into the more ways you have to achieve something, the more achievable it is, then in order to build a lot of paths to something, you need to make a bigger goal. This is a strategy I call âsupersizingâ your goal.â (23:14 | Courtney Clark)Links
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Host Cait Donovan is back with another #straightfromcait episode, this time discussing the six factors which leave you most vulnerable to workplace burnout. Drawing from leading research, she will explain how you can evaluate these factors in order to make the best decisions for yourself going forward.
These factors will be all too familiar to longtime FRIED listenersâor anyone going through burnout recovery. Cait discusses the many ways that values can misalign in the workplace as well as how to respond when you feel your contributions are being under appreciated. Sheâll reveal just how many friends the average person needs to have in the workplace, according to research, and how to deal with a micromanaging boss.
Tune in to todayâs episode where youâll also learn how to deal with a lack of autonomy and how to determine when your workload is unmanageable.
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âIf you know these things, then you can start to make some changes, see where things can be shifted and where they canât be shifted and then maybe make some better decisions moving forward in your workplace.â (1:44 | Caitlin Donovan)âIf you have high levels of job strain and low levels of resources, that becomes an unbearable workload.â (2:28 | Caitlin Donovan) âThereâs a ton of research that says that you need one solid friend in the workplace in order to feel like somebodyâs got your back and to feel connected to your workplace.â (3:08 | Caitlin Donovan)âThereâs only so much you can do when someone hasnât learned how to trust the people that work for them. You canât change that for them, thatâs their own stuff that theyâve got to work through. The only control you have is whether or not you work under this person.â (5:18 | Caitlin Donovan) âIf youâre feeling a lack of fairness, you need to know what itâs about in order to decide whether or not you can influence it.â (7:47 | Caitlin Donovan)Links
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âYouâre such a light and I feel like your flame is being extinguished,â said Maggie Reyesâ husband when she was experiencing burnout. For many, addressing their partnersâ burnout and its impact on the relationshipâstress, resentment, uneven distribution of responsibility, feeling unacknowledgedâis as challenging as recognizing their own burnout. Today, Maggie, a master certified life coach, modern marriage mentor, and author of the bestselling book âQuestions for Couples,â as well as the host of the popular podcast âMarriage Life Coach,â returns to FRIED to discuss how couples can navigate burnout recovery for the benefit of all involved.
Maggie will discuss how those suffering from burnout can start to vocalize and recognize their needs and wants, starting with small steps. Women, in particular, often find it difficult to speak up. Maggie will explain when itâs best to be direct and specific, when to be gentle and loving, and how to know when itâs time to take a break.
What should you do when both partners are burnt out, but one canâtâor wonâtâacknowledge it? Tune in to todayâs discussion to find out.
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âWhat are the symptoms or the byproducts of burnout? If you think specifically in a marriage or in an intimate relationship, itâs the stuff you stop doing where the other person has to pick up the slack, so to speak. If youâre feeling a lot of resentment or theyâre just piling on one more thing on top of you and you feel overwhelmed on a regular basis. For you it feels overwhelming, and for them it feels like theyâre not being seen, theyâre not being seen or being heard.â (4:57 | Maggie Reyes) âWhen we have enough self-awareness to know that weâre in it, thereâs no subtlety. Itâs âIâm drowning. I need help. You may not see it because everything is put together, youâre not feeling the effect of it at all because Iâm still juggling all these balls, but everythingâs about to drop.ââ (8:48 | Maggie Reyes)âWhatâs hiding in the middle of burnout is, we donât even know what to ask for because weâre so overwhelmed with everything. But the minute we have any awareness of, âI would like it to be warmer,â then thatâs my ask: âCan we just close the window?ââ So, what is my âaskâ here? What would bring me relief here?â (10:27 | Maggie Reyes) âFor some partners, their burnout is their identity. Itâs so tied to who they are, how much they do is so tied to who they are that itâs almost like, to deal with their burnout would threaten their self-concept and their image of themselves.â (13:30 | Maggie Reyes)âIf you have to be at a 2 for someone else to be at a 5, you need to run.â (30:39 | Maggie Reyes)Links
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âThere is a perfect fit out there for you,â encourages host Cait Donovan in this episode of FRIED, where she and Sarah Vosen discuss the process of job searching while recovering from burnout. They guide you through a four-step framework to navigate this challenging process.
The goal is to dig beneath the trauma and anxiety of burnout to where your instincts and intuition can guide you toward what you truly want. This is your chance to reacquaint yourself with your true values, not those imposed by family, friends, or society. Youâll learn how to access Caitâs complimentary worksheet and how to hold yourself accountable as you complete the exerciseâideally more than once.
Though it can be scary to face the working world again while still healing, if you allow yourself to dream big, youâll find your perfect alignment. Cait and Sarah are living examples of this journey.
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âThis also sort of gives you an opportunity to tap back into your intuition, which youâve probably lost connection with during burnout and you probably stopped trusting yourself. So, while it takes time to build trust with a new company and new bosses and new team members, it also, in burnout recovery, takes time to build trust with yourself. Can I make the right decision? What if I make the wrong decision?â (7:58 | Cait Donovan) âAnchor yourself in the belief that there is a well-aligned job out there that will allow you to earn money and keep your health and have colleagues and be joyfulânot saying youâre not going to have a stressful day now and again, not saying youâre going to love every single person you work with, itâs not going to be a cultâbut there is a perfect fit out there for you. We see this over and over and over again in situations where it really should not exist.â (11:47 | Cait Donovan) âHonestly, weâre these people, too. I mean, for real. Itâs a little different when itâs an entrepreneurial thing because weâre making small adjustments and course corrections over time, but we have become better and better bosses and made decisions that fit each of us. Weâre making decisions collectively and individually that are better and better for us and itâs working.â (13:03 | Sarah Vosen)Links
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âIt was something I was doing just for me, no one else, a very unfamiliar feeling,â says todayâs guest Kristin Lis, reflecting on her decision to begin burnout recovery with host Caitlin Donovan as her burnout coach, nearly a year before todayâs interview. At that time, Kristin's mental fog was so severe that she couldn't read or form coherent sentences, a critical issue for her role as a lawyer focused on amicable divorce and family matters. Like many suffering from burnout, her boundaries were almost non-existent. She took calls and checked emails at all hours, even conducting Zoom hearings while at Disney Worldâpractices deemed normal and necessary in the legal field. She was constantly reshaping herself to fit into her companyâs mold.
In todayâs episode of FRIED, Kristin discusses the devastating effects of values misalignment, whether between a companyâs stated versus practiced values, an employeeâs values versus the companyâs, or your own values versus those you aspire to live by. When Kristin allowed herself to fully imagine her ideal life and work, and was willing to proceed without a map or a net, something truly amazing happened.
Kristinâs story exemplifies what can occur when we break free from the limiting narratives we tell ourselves and allow ourselves the time and grace needed to heal.
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âWhat I do for a living isnât a value. The role I have in family life, thatâs not a value. And I also canât borrow values from an organization I work with. I had to figure out not only what my values were, but actually what I wanted them to be, and those were two very different things.â (16:38 | Kristin Lis)âThat misalignmentâIâve heard of misalignment, everybodyâs heard this on the podcastâthat is a huge factor for burnout. When weâre not living in integrity with ourselves, itâs this internal conflict that doesnât necessarily show up except for that tight feeling in the chest and the really sick feeling in your stomach. When youâre perceiving and doing something and it doesnât really truly represent the best part of you, but youâve convinced yourself that this is the only way to do it because this is the way itâs done in this field, or my office, and itâs unsettling.â (17:42 | Kristin Lis) âI was fully prepared to take a 50% payout. I thought that if I worked half the time, I would make half the money. And instead it was completely inaccurate. Again, it was another story I was telling myself in order to kind of compel me to stay in the same massively burnout-y, toxic corporate structure.â (28:40 | Kristin Lis)Links
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Many of us know what it means to be burned out, but do you know what it means to be F.R.I.E.D.? On todayâs episode Cait breaks down the five elements that make up the acronym F.R.I.E.D., five pillarsâFacility safety, Reprioritize, Internal world, Explore whatâs possible and Dedicate yourselfâwhich comprise the main framework of burnout recovery. Within that framework, however, your recovery process is as individual as you are. In this episode, Cait expands on each aspect of the framework, while encouraging you to determine how to incorporate them into your own burnout recovery in a way that suits you best. The goal is to make choices that align with you, while keeping you moving forward on the pathway to recovery.
Cait will ask you to consider what you can do to create buffers in both your internal and external environments so that you are more resilient when, inevitably, things go wrong. Think about what you are willing to change or let go of, so that you start seeing new and better results. Understand your BRFs (burnout risk factors) and BPFs (burnout prevention factors), and recognize where you need to draw boundaries, and where you need to expand your possibilities.
Burnout recovery is an ongoing process and there will be inevitable setbacks. But through dedication and commitment there will also be inevitable growth and positive change.
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âThe F.R.I.E.D framework has everything that you need in order to recover, is generic enough to cover a lot of different processes, and specific enough to give you guidance if you feel lost.â (3:59 | Caitlin Donovan)âI have so many people asking me if they can get back to normal. I donât actually want you to get back to normal. Normal is what got you here. So, we need to figure out what your new normal could be that can allow you to live sustainably and have well-being for the long term in your life.â (9:17 | Caitlin Donovan) âDedicate yourself to living a burnout-free life. Dedicate yourself to living a life that feels like you want it to feel rather than looks how you think it should look.â (19:32 | Caitlin Donovan) âThe body is designed to not stay in perfect harmony. The body is designed to be pushed out of center and come back to some middle-ish range.â (20:29 | Caitlin Donovan)Links
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âThe self-abuseâthat we donât even realize weâre doingâis so glorified in this society.â Aria Johnson, a TV personality and celebrity voice coach, is best known for appearing as the music expert in the hit Reelz series âBeverly Hills Pawn.â Though this was ostensibly a reality show, Aria was ultimately playing a characterânot unlike countless people who cast themselves as characters in their own realities, and like Aria they end up burned out emotionally and even physically. There is a particular pressure on women, she says, to portray a manufactured image based on impossible standards and to overachieve in all aspects of life. As Cait points out, this is why so many burnout sufferers think they are self-aware when they are merely character-aware.
On todayâs FRIED episode, Aria, now a motivational speaker and host of the âBehind the Glitzâ podcast, talks about the central feeling of ânot enough-nessâ from which so many of usâeven the rich and famousâoperate. She explains how she learned to view self-care as a necessity rather than a luxury, one that has nothing to do with bubble baths or bro science. She and Cait discuss the importance not just of asking for help but of asking in the way thatâs most beneficial and productive for all involved, and why in order to gain peace, you must forfeit perfectionism and control.
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âHow many of us have cast ourselves as characters in our own lives? Itâs true. The perfect mother, the perfect wife, the perfect corporate baddie, the perfect entrepreneur. I think itâs something women suffer from more than menâmen suffer in a different wayâbut for women, our image is so important. And we donât do it for us.â (5:58 | Caitlin Donovan and Aria Johnson) âMost of us burn out because we are trying to be something that we are not. We are trying to be the superwoman version of ourselves that we are told we have to be because we are handed on a platter, every single day, 22-year-old women that look a certain way, and theyâre badasses in their careers, and all these things.â (12:38 | Aria Johnson)âWe think weâre self aware, but what we are is character aware. We are aware of the chosen character that we think will get us the life that we want.â (14:49 | Caitlin Donovan)âIt is glorified in this society for you to abuse yourself.â (20:39 | Aria Johnson)Links
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FRIED Fam!âAnother fried guide episode arrives by popular demand! This time hosts Cait and Sarah are talking about the holistic guide to burnout recovery, and that includes learning to listen to your bodyâs signals to figure out what larger issue theyâre trying to draw your attention to. Most of us are so accustomed to ignoring our bodiesâ signals and burnout signsâpain, rashes, refluxâor even just having to pee!â that we forget that we have the option to address them. But when we do, we build trust with ourselves and our bodies, and over time learn to regulate our emotions and bring ourselves into closer alignment with who we truly are and what truly brings us joy.
Which isnât to say itâs easy. Our cultureâfrom teachers and coaches to doctorsâhave taught many of us to push through our pain. Cait and Sarah compare the way that American Olympic gymnast Kerri Strug was hailed as a hero for putting her body in danger for the sake of her team, while fellow American Olympic gymnast Simone Biles was vilified for listening to her own needs and bowing out of the games. Sarah shares a story about a recent party that she threw for herself and what her bodyâs signals told her in the days leading up about her issues with knowing what she wants and asking for it.
Everyoneâs burnout recovery process, and body signals, are unique. Sarah and Cait will show you how you can begin to hear the personal message your body is trying to send you.
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âEverybodyâs body does this. But there are so many physical things that we are accustomed to feeling discomfort in, that we override them and we donât know how to interpret them, so we just move about our day.â (8:33 | Caitlin Donovan)âWhen you pay attention to it, you grow a part of your brain that teaches you to be more in tune with yourself. And, the research shows, when you pay attention to these small little things like peeing when you have to pee and drinking when youâre thirsty, guess what happens? Your ability to emotionally regulate improves.â (12:14 | Caitlin Donovan) âYou build trust with yourself in this process, which creates safety. Not only are you meeting the immediate need by emptying your bladder, also your body says, âOh! Thank you for listening.ââ (13:06 | Sarah Vosen) âThis is now changing because people donât put up with things the way they used to, but Sarah and I grew up as gymnasts. You play through the pain, man! Pain is not a reason to stop. Pain is a reason to add tape. Add tape. Oh, my God, I had so much tape on my body and Ibuprofen in my system.â (24:43 | Caitlin Donovan and Sarah Vosen)âIt might be overwhelming to tune in, because when youâre in burnout, all of your alarm bells are firing. Your nervous system is on high alert. So it may feel like an emergency when you tune in and thatâs because it is.â (41:12 | Sarah Vosen)Links
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âThe home is a container for our sensory inputs, and the inputs to our sense organs affect us tremendously,â says Dr. Jaime Rabin, doctor of acupuncture, certified feng shui practitioner and executive leader of Deepak Chopraâs Global Awareness brand. She joins the FRIED podcast today to tell us what we can do to make our living spaces soothing, sanctuaries that infuse us with energy, promote well-being, improve our state of mind and help to form long term behavioral changes. As we discussed in the last episode, emotional detritus buildup blocks energy from flowing freely in the body, and itâs the same with physical clutter in the house. On todayâs episode dedicated to burnout and feng shui, Dr. Jaime reveals some of the surprising aspects of your environment that may be causing that energy to leak, as well as her âgreen flagsâ and âred flagsâ when assessing someoneâs home.
Feng shui starts at the front doorâand thatâs exactly where you should leave your self-judgment. The process of optimizing your home is highly personal, and while evaluating your surroundings and your needs requires honesty, this should be a positive experience. Learn how to create engaging visual cues that make sense for you, even if itâs just a pretty box for your doom pile.
Are your plants and pets working for your home? Join Dr. Jaime to learn more about symbology, the psychology of color, and incorporating the five elements of nature into your home.
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âThere are two things: thereâs the removal of that which is irritating you and adding to your stress and overwhelmâthe decluttering, the switching things out, fixing, the mending all of that. And then thereâs also the intentional. âOK, now, how do I bring in the things that, like you said, the sunshine yellow or whatever it may be for each person. And it doesnât have to be a complete overhaul.â (10:30 | Dr. Jaime Rabin) âYou start letting go of things. And the more the process of letting go then it opens up portals for people, because now theyâve created space for new possibility.â (12:46 | Dr. Jaime Rabin)âSomething you can do is start to ask yourself, âWhere in my home have I accumulated things and what is that saying about where I am right now?ââ (13:59 | Dr. Jaime Rabin)âNever feel shame about the things that you need help and support with, and then find the personalized solution for them.â (22:28 | Dr. Jaime Rabin)âThe front door specifically is considered the mouth of chi in the home. It is where the fresh energy enters the home, itâs where you welcome your friends and your family, and so the ease with which you enter your home is something extremely important.â (24:51 | Dr. Jaime Rabin)âIâm noticing vibe, Iâm noticing flow and then Iâm noticing opportunities for intentional design. Iâd say those are the real three things that Iâm noticing.â (42:22 | Dr. Jaime Rabin)Links
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lluministaliving.com
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âWhen Iâm stressed, I trip more, I bang into things more, I stub my toe moreâso thereâs definitely something going on here,â Cait shares, highlighting the curious link between burnout and clumsiness. In this latest "Fried Guide" episode, Sarah Vosen joins Cait to delve deeper into why burnout can make us more accident-prone and even lead to injuries. They discuss how stress can cause physical reactions like tensed neck muscles and narrowed peripheral vision, making us clumsier.
According to Chinese medicine, unprocessed emotions can accumulate in the liver, decaying and poisoning our system. This toxic buildup, combined with neglecting our basic needs like rest and proper nutrition, leads to a depletion so severe that our bodies can't even benefit from healthy inputs. Sarah explains how ignoring our spiritual needs contributes to this misalignment, exacerbating our stress and physical discoordination.
So, whatâs the solution? Identifying a personal outletâwhether itâs exercise, journaling, or engaging in meaningful conversationsâand approaching these activities with mindfulness and intention. Cait and Sarah share how they navigate their own emotional landscapes and manage their stress cycles, offering insights into finding balance in our complicated lives.
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âWhen youâre in the flow of life, and youâre aligned and in balance with yourself, youâre in this flow with everything around you, and therefore, thereâs no clumsiness. Youâre on it; youâre in your center. Your energy is very intentional. Your thoughts are clear and everything goes smoothly, as you wish.â (3:45 | Sarah Vosen) âChronic stress mode, when weâre not processing our emotions or processing life, it gets stored in our tissues and our physical body gets solid, hard, tense, and then everythingâs not flexible. Weâre meant to be flexible, weâre meant to be like a tree that bends in the wind, but when all that stuff builds up and youâre just hanging on tight and youâre tense, not only are you not seeing with your eyes but your body canât, really itâs just not flowing.â (8:07 | Sarah Vosen) âThe same way that we have overactive emotions when weâre burnt out, we know weâre responding ridiculously but we canât help ourselves, this is the same when we injure ourselves and have a pain response. Itâs above and beyond and not appropriate to the thing that happened.â (9:59 | Caitlin Donovan)âWhen youâre burnt out your body is under-resourced. So, it doesnât have the tools or the resources that it needs to deal with the injuries that arenât life-threatening, which is why it usually takes someone getting really sick, or really hurt, or really ending up in the hospital to start responding.â (32:19 | Caitlin Donovan)Links
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âAre you an introvert or just into hurt?â asks Jahmaal Marshall, certified counselor and founder of Listen Then Speak LLC and the podcast of the same name. Many of us develop behavior and personae, he explains, around a need to protect ourselves from rejection, and we carry these into our personal and professional adult lives. Growing up with a severely addicted father, Jahmaal became as he calls it, âthe classic chameleon,â overachieving in school and later at work, fulfilling everyoneâs needs in an effort not to cause problems. Today on FRIED, he and Cait talk about the connection between childhood trauma and burnout, the resentment that can build up in us when we feel like we are giving with no reciprocation and the resentment we can experience from others when we set boundaries for ourselves.
When we give with the expectation of receiving in return, we may think weâre being generous when actually we are assuming othersâ needs, or acting from our own neediness. We can also close ourselves off to the many unexpected ways in which people can show their gratitude.
Join todayâs discussion to find out what happened when Jahmaal drew a line in the sand at work, and the important lesson he learned.
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âI just wanted someone to say, âYouâve done well.â Not that my mom didnât do those things, but itâs something about when a dad speaks into his sonâs life and calls the man out of him. I didnât have that as a little boy. So, I went through most of my professional life basically searching for that.â (5:09 | Jahmaal Marshall)âMy excellence, my quote-unquote high performance, was just a trauma response of a fear of rejection. I did not want to be rejected. So, itâs not that I didnât know how to say no, I refused. Letâs key in on that word: I refused to say no, because I wanted to protect myself.â (8:09 | Jahmaal Marshall) âThat expectation we have and that desire to give and receive, weâve even been taught thatâIâm a Christianâ weâve been taught that in faith-based spaces, if you give youâll receive. Thatâs not always the case. It actually already puts you in the place of a false motive of life is like a genie in a bottle that I can just rub. And if I rub it like this, somethingâs going to pop out, and this is going to be my return on the investment I made.â (17:10 | Jahmaal Marshall)âAre you an introvert or are you just into hurt? Do you have hurt and pain that is not processed that is causing you to turtle your way through life to play it safe. There are people who are actually introverts, but you have a lot of people who are extroverts masquerading as an introvert to protect themselves from pain that has not been processed.â (29:02 | Jahmaal Marshall)Links
Connect with Jahmaal Marshall:
https://listenthenspeak.com/
https://mindsetmastermethod.com
https://www.linkedin.com/in/jahmaalmarshall/
https://topmate.io/jahmaal_marshall
Connect with Cait:
Initial Call with Cait: bit.ly/callcait
Initial Call with Sarah: bit.ly/callsarahv
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