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What's the difference between the version of you who attracts emotionally unavailable, avoidant men, and the version of you who is attracting a partner who will choose you, and gives you the deep love you crave? This episode cracks it open and breaks in down. 🧡
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Learn about the 4 distinct anxious attachment archetypes that may be shaping your inner world and relationships: The Sensitive Soul, The Calm & Collected Overthinker, The Affection Enthusiast, and The Distant Dreamer.
I discuss how each archetype copes with triggers, their unique challenges, and what healing looks like for each type.
Take the quiz here.
Episode guide:
0:00 There are 4 different types of anxious attachment..
4:30 - 4 Archetypes Overview
9:15 The Sensitive Soul
12:06 The Calm & Collected Overthinker
16:22 The Affection Enthusiast
19:09 The Distant Dreamer
23:29 Summary of 4 Types
24:15 Healing the Distorted Coping Mechanisms
26:23 Refining Your Attachment Style
26:57 Take the Quiz
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Puuttuva jakso?
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Affirmations give our mind new and better ideas for empowering beliefs and new paths for our thoughts. Listen to this episode for 20 affirmations to rewire negative self beliefs and focus on healing anxious attachment tendencies. ❤️
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Inspired by a question from a woman in the Becoming Secure membership I had to respond will a full episode because there is some major distortion around the word detached and how to be detached.
In this episode I discuss:
-Trauma bonds
-Love versus attachment
-Choosing better men
...and more!
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Your need for control is fuelling your anxiety, pushing away love, and ironically..leaving you feeling more out of control.
In this episode, we explore the complexities of control and how unconsciously trying to control everything shapes our lives, drains our energy, and causes tension in relationships.
You'll learn:
How grasping for control affects you emotionally and physicallyHow control in an anxious attachment tendency and how it pushes away relationships and signifies a lack of trustSigns of underlying control issues, like tight shoulders or clenched jawsThe link between anxiety, overthinking, and the need for controlInsights on releasing these patterns for a healthier, more balanced lifeKey understandings for letting go, surrendering, and creating space for trust, ease, and peace in your lifeResources mentioned:
Becoming Secure Membership: find the associated somatic and journalling healing exercises for control within (plus 30 other 15 minute practices for daily inner work) 🦢
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Exploring the concept of Inner Child work and what it means to heal your inner child.
Resources Mentioned:
Guided Practice - Inner Child Healing: Instantly accessible within the Becoming Secure library. Month-to-month access, cancel anytime.
Anxious Attachment Quiz: Which Anxious Attachment Archetype are You?
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Exploring the 7 types of mothers and how they affect your attachment system.
-Overprotective Mother
-Critical Mother
-Emotionally Unavailable Mother
-Enmeshed 'Best Friend' Mother
-Narcissistic/Addict Mother
-Supportive Mother
-Absent Mother
Associated Practices, Meditation and Journal Prompts can be found in Becoming Secure my community and library space to go deep on the inner work. I would love to have you in there ❤️
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Analyzing 8 different father dynamics and why it's relevant to look at for our inner healing journey.
Mapping the patterns that drive us to:
-seek validation
-fear abandonment
-emotionally close
-attract men who 'need fixing'
-feel like we need to earn love
You'll learn how to free yourself from these patterns by identifying them and healing them through the body.
Mentioned
Becoming Secure Library of Practices for Healing Anxious Attachment
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Holding back on your needs is not serving you in relationship. When we don't feel seen and loved we constrict and control. It is embracing authentic communication which will transforms your love dynamics, and nurture deeper connections. Let's talk about it.
Mentioned:
Becoming Secure - Library of tools, somatic practices, nervous system regulation, meditations, and teachings for more confidence, inner peace, and feeling whole within yourself.
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My ayahuasca plant medicine ceremony shared some profound insights as to what provokes anxiety and how we can avoid being run by it. In the episode I share the model I saw for understanding and eliminating anxiety, thoughts, overthinking, and fear.
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Why somatic work is key when it comes to making lasting change.
Why body based and nervous system work is not just helpful, but a requirement to your healing journey Tracking your own subsconcious mind Where you anxious tendencies live in the nervous system Energy release to calm the system What it looks like to do somatic workMentioned in the episode:
🪷 Becoming Secure - Library of somatic practices, tools, and teachings for becoming more self confident, self-connected, and self loving.
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In this episode we explore the importance of your relationship to anger. When we don't have a healthy expression of anger it can stay suppressed in the body which usually manifests as having a short fuse, pain, or feeling like you can't connect to your anger at all.
You'll learn:
-How to know if your anger is suppressed and why you might feel disconnected from anger
-Why we feel sensitive, easily irritated, or frustrated
-The conditioning of anger within women
-How to move it out of the body
Mentioned in this episode:
Becoming Secure A library of practices, prompts, and tools for healing anxious attachment. This is also where you'll find the demonstrated exercises for releasing anger from your body. ❤️🔥
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When a relationship ends anxious attachment personalities often feel a strong need for closure, replaying conversations in our minds and yearning for explanations. The fixation on closure stems from a primal urge to gain reassurance and understand why, but can often end up driving us into a spiral.
I'll share why closure is so important to you, and why the other person may not be willing to have a closure conversation.
I hope this episode can provide some solace and clarity amidst the chaos of heartbreak.
You can find the corresponding episode exercises and many more in the Becoming Secure library and community space.
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-Johanna
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I've extracted the 5 things that made real shifts when it came to my healing. I was inspired to create this episode after watching a tiktok with a similar title but hearing THEIR list was quite different. Anxious attachment manifests differently in different people, so I'm hoping this episode gives another relatable perspective.
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The connection to our boundaries and needs is foundational to developing strong relationships that feel safe, nurturing, and supportive!
But what if asking for your needs feel scary?
What about the part of us that feels our needs are too much?
This episode will help you decide what your needs really are.
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-Johanna
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This episode is thorough breakdown of what we need to understand an master of the journey to overcoming insecure attachment tendencies. Don't worry it's not complicated and you'll be able to pick it up easily.
Open your mind and heart and let this episode connect you deeper to yourself.
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This episode has a somatic therapy based practice which is about to give you a new found awareness into your attachment tendencies.
You should do this practice while sitting, eyes closed, undistracted.
I know you're going to love it!
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Welcome to class!
You probably already know about attachment style so I only spend a bit of time defining the different tendencies; avoidant, anxious, disorganized.
I'll also break down myths around attachment style so that you can ensure that there isn't an unnecessary belief holding you back from healing.
You'll learn how attachment styles are formed and how and where they affect our relationships and relating dynamics.
I share why the Anxious - Avoidant loop happens (from both sides).
And finally I break down the typical tendencies of anxious attachers and provide direction on how to navigate the fears.
Enjoy the episode!
Warmly,
Johanna
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