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In this insightful episode, Steph Gobraiel, a thriving entrepreneur and single mum, opens up about the challenges and rewards of juggling motherhood and running a business. Steph emphasizes the importance of taking it one day at a time, focusing on small victories, and building a support system to help balance the daily demands of parenting and entrepreneurship.
Key themes of the conversation include:Self-care: Steph highlights the crucial need for self-care, explaining how it empowers mums to handle both motherhood and business.Trusting your instincts: Steph advises mothers to trust their own judgment and tune out societal expectations that often place undue pressure.Breaking taboos: They dive into the taboo topics surrounding pregnancy, childbirth, and motherhood, pointing out the lack of awareness and support in these areas.Steph also reflects on her personal experience as a single mother, discussing the importance of finding your own tribe—people who understand your journey and offer meaningful support. She encourages mums to surround themselves with positive networks and reminds them that it’s okay not to have all the "balls in the air."
Takeaways:Take it one day at a time and celebrate the small wins.Prioritize self-care to be the best version of yourself in business and at home.Trust your instincts as a mother and focus on what works best for you and your child, not societal expectations.Seek out your support network—build rapport with like-minded parents for positivity and strength.Don’t shy away from discussing taboo topics surrounding motherhood—they deserve more awareness.Sound Bites:"It's a juggle, and you're not always going to keep all the balls in the air, and that's okay.""When we embrace it, we step into a light.""Outsource within your family as well.""Listen to your instincts and go with it.""Our bodies are primed to know what to do. The problem is our minds are still stuck on what society is telling us."Chapters:00:00 – Introduction to Steph Gobraiel01:22 – Balancing Motherhood and Business02:34 – Taking it One Day at a Time03:30 – Celebrating Small Wins05:18 – The Importance of Self-Care and Support Systems08:29 – Embracing Your Instincts as a Mother13:03 – Blending the Roles of Mum and Business Owner16:23 – Stepping into the Light: Overcoming Fear21:20 – Dealing with Judgment and Trusting Yourself28:20 – Breaking Taboos in Motherhood31:34 – The Importance of Support Networks35:41 – Building Rapport with Other Parents Join the Mum First Community on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/mumfirst
Connect with Steph
Website: https://s38businessmanagement.com.au/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steph-gobraiel/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/steph_gobraiel.obm/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/s38businessmanagement -
In this episode, Ruqya Khan, a S.M.I.L.E Strategist and expert in coaching, shares powerful insights on creating a nurturing environment for children to thrive. Drawing from her personal experiences, Ruqya emphasizes the importance of being a safe space for children, fostering transparent communication, and understanding their perspectives. She believes that instead of rushing to "fix" every problem, parents should focus on listening, building trust, and nurturing core values through daily interactions. Shaun and Ruqya also dive into how parents can be more mindful of what they offer their children, not just in terms of food but also in media and overall consumption. They discuss the influence of parental behaviour, highlighting how children often mirror their parents' confidence and decision-making skills. Ruqya talks about practical strategies for enhancing awareness, including the power of silence, managing attention, clarifying intentions, letting go, and embracing possibilities. She underscores the significance of curiosity, self-trust, and releasing the need for perfectionism. The conversation encourages parents to be present, conscious, and confident in their roles.
Key Topics Covered:
Safe Space and Transparent Conversations: How to create a nurturing environment that promotes open dialogue.Mindfulness in Parenting: Why parents need to be aware of their own behaviours and their impact on their children.Values and Upbringing: Nurturing values in children through a supportive environment, not through direct teaching.Technology and Parenting: Avoid using digital tools as a quick fix for challenging situations; focus on real-life engagement.Power of Silence and Attention: Tools like managing attention, identifying intentions, and letting go can boost parental awareness.Letting Go of Perfectionism: The need to move beyond societal expectations and trust oneself in the parenting journey.Top Takeaways:
Create a Safe Space: Encourage open and honest conversations with your children.Mindful Parenting: Be conscious of your own actions and the example you set for your kids.Nurture Through Example: Children learn best by observing and mimicking their parents' behaviours.Avoid Tech as a Bandaid: Use communication to address challenges rather than relying on technology.Cultivate Self-Trust: Let go of perfectionism and societal expectations; focus on presence and connection.Notable Quotes:
"The mum is the very first coach a child has.""Children mirror the confidence and decision-making of their parents.""It's like the bandaid over a bullet hole wound."Episode Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction to Ruqya Khan02:01 - Ruqya's Experience as a Mother03:03 - The Role of a Mother as a Coach05:37 - Observation and Application in Parenting11:46 - The Influence of Parents on Children's Confidence19:26 - Nurturing Values in Upbringing30:09 - Tools for Increasing AwarenessJoin the Mum First Business Mums Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mumfirst
Connect with Ruqya
Website www.ruqyakhan.com
LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/ruqya-khan/
Instagram www.instagram.com/ruqyakhan_smilestrategist
Facebook www.fb.com/RKwrites
YouTube www.youtube.com/RuqyaKhan -
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In this episode, we sit down with Tu Dinh, a dedicated mother of two and an accomplished lending manager, to explore her remarkable journey of self-discovery and achieving balance between career and motherhood. As a young immigrant in Australia, Tu faced significant challenges, from struggling with communication barriers to finding her true passion in finance. Her story is one of resilience, growth, and learning to prioritize what truly matters.
Episode Highlights:Discovering Passion and Purpose: As a young immigrant, Tu initially struggled to find her direction. After discovering her passion for finance, she focused intently on her career as a lending manager. It took time for her to realize the importance of balancing work with spending quality time with her children.Challenges and Joys of Motherhood: Tu shares her personal experiences with the complexities of motherhood, including an initial lack of connection with her daughter and the emotional journey of becoming a supportive and nurturing parent.Navigating Pregnancy Loss and Grief: Tu opens up about the emotional toll of experiencing a devastating miscarriage and the importance of allowing oneself to grieve and seek support.Premature Birth and Bonding: Tu discusses the intense journey of her son Jaden’s premature birth and how this challenging experience forged a profound bond between them. She emphasizes the critical role of being fully present and prioritizing children, even when it requires career sacrificesKey Takeaways:Finding direction and purpose as a young immigrant can be challenging, but discovering your passion is key to personal fulfillment.Balancing career and motherhood is a journey that requires time, effort, and the ability to prioritize spending quality time with children.Forming a connection with your child may not always come naturally—patience and presence are crucial.Miscarriages are emotionally challenging, and grieving is essential to the healing process.Parents should create moments of joy and shared experiences with their children, making fun and presence a priority.Key Sound Bites:"I struggled with communication and finding my passion.""I didn't have that exhilarating feeling of love bursting out.""Being a supportive and nurturing parent involves listening, understanding, and being present."Chapters:00:00: Introduction and Background03:00: Finding Direction and Purpose08:14: The Journey of Bonding with a Child13:02: Balancing Work and Motherhood17:59: Being a Supportive and Nurturing Parent25:25: Navigating Pregnancy Loss and Grief28:18: The Intense Journey of Premature Birth36:28: Balancing Career and Motherhood43:29: Being Present in Your Children's Lives49:17: Having Fun and Creating Shared Experiences Join the Mum First Business Mums Community on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mumfirst
Connect with Tu: Website: https://www.anz.com.au/personal/home-loans/get-started/mobile-lending/tu_dinh/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tu-dinh-75954736/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tu.c.dinh.9 -
In this episode, host Shaun Tucker interviews Sue Geelan, an expert in change, resilience, and connecting with people. Sue shares her personal journey of overcoming a tough childhood and finding her own path. She also discusses her love for sports motorcycle riding and how she took control of her own life by getting her own license. Sue emphasizes the importance of making conscious choices and accepting the consequences of those choices. She also talks about her work with couples and the need for new tools and strategies to improve relationships. Sue Geelan shares her wisdom and insights on parenting and relationships. She emphasizes the importance of giving children the freedom to make choices and take responsibility for their own lives. Sue believes that relationships should be based on mutual respect and support, and that both partners should have the opportunity to grow and develop. She encourages parents to have fun and enjoy their children, and to not lose their own identity in the process. Sue also discusses the impact she hopes to make through her counselling practice and the importance of seeking help and support when needed. TakeawaysMaking conscious choices and accepting the consequences is key to personal growth and transformation.To create change in our lives, we need to try new tools, strategies, and ways of thinking.In relationships, it's important to have open discussions and continuously work on improving communication and understanding.Separating emotions from logic can help us make better decisions and avoid being driven solely by our emotions. Give children the freedom to make choices and take responsibility for their own lives.Relationships should be based on mutual respect and support.Have fun and enjoy your children, while also maintaining your own identity.Seek help and support when needed to improve and strengthen your relationships.Sound Bites"I had to create my own beliefs and values so my kids could do the same.""I like to be in control because of my early years when I wasn't in control.""We always ask the question, what would you do in that situation? Here's what I think I would do in that situation.""Here's mum with the words of wisdom.""The pain is what pushes, the vision is what pulls.""You're not what you think you are."Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Sue's Background
04:06 Taking Control: Sue's Journey into Motorcycle Riding
07:54 The Impact of Sue's Childhood on Her Parenting
11:08 Sue's Early Years and Overcoming Adversity
13:29 Building a Strong Relationship with David
16:22 The Importance of Conscious Choices and Accepting Consequences
19:09 Separating Emotions from Logic in Decision-Making
21:26 Creating Change Through New Tools and Strategies
23:55 Improving Relationships Through Education and Awareness
26:28 Applying Lessons Learned to Parenting and Grandparenting
29:51 The Push of Pain and the Pull of Vision
32:50 Discovering Your True Identity 36:06 Continuing Wisdom and Impact
40:41 The Importance of Nurturing and Support
46:27 Believing in Yourself and Others
Join the Mum First Business Mums Community on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/mumfirst
Connect with Sue:
Website https://metanao.com.au
LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/suegeelan/
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/metanao/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/suegeelan
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@metanao -
Mary Wiegand, CEO of Boon, shares her journey of building a business while navigating personal trials and raising six children. She discusses the challenges she faced during the pandemic, including giving birth to twins alone and going through a divorce. Mary emphasizes the importance of resilience and independence in making difficult decisions. She also explains how her business, Boon, helps brands with inventory planning and reducing waste. Mary's motivation comes from her desire to give back and make a positive impact on the world. In this conversation, Mary Wiegand and Shaun discuss the challenges of being a high-performing individual and a parent. They explore the importance of being present and finding a balance between intensity and relaxation. Mary shares her experience of juggling multiple roles and the need to prioritize and ask for help. They also discuss the impact of social media on the perception of motherhood and the importance of believing in oneself while also relying on a supportive community.
Takeaways
Building a business while navigating personal trials and raising children requires resilience and independence.The pandemic presented unique challenges, such as giving birth to twins alone and going through a divorce.Boon helps brands with inventory planning and reducing waste, making a positive impact on the environment.Mary's motivation comes from her desire to give back and make a positive impact on the world. Being present and finding a balance between intensity and relaxation is crucial for high-performing individuals.Juggling multiple roles requires prioritization and the willingness to ask for help.Social media can create unrealistic expectations and contribute to feelings of guilt.Believing in oneself and relying on a supportive community are key to navigating the challenges of parenthood and high-performance.Being flexible and adaptable is essential in managing the unexpected.Finding moments of relaxation and intensity in a blended way allows for a more fulfilling and balanced life.Sound Bites
"I delivered twins alone by myself in the hospital, given personal circumstances, as well as the global pandemic.""I am responsible for the lives of six humans on this earth.""We're just bringing product to market, but from Boon's perspective, we're taking a different approach.""they're not present with what's happening inside of them and they can be completely unaware that they've just had a heart attack. Right? It is, it's nuts.""Yeah, overly ambitious in many ways. Yeah. And it's not wrong, right? This is the thing. We live in a world that is almost just constantly trying to grab your attention. Constantly. So our bodies and minds can't really process all that's happening right now. Like we have levels of our mind that's constantly recording. Like there's nothing wrong with the recorder. It's constantly going."Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Mary Wiegand and Boon
03:09 Navigating Personal Trials and Motherhood
08:52 The Impact of Boon: Inventory Planning and Waste Reduction
18:01 Motivation to Give Back and Make a Difference
25:27 Being Present and Balancing Intensity and Relaxation
32:05 Juggling Multiple Roles: Prioritization and Asking for Help
36:01 Believing in Oneself and Building a Supportive Community
39:28 Flexibility and Adaptability in Managing the Unexpected
45:30 Blending Relaxation and Intensity for a Balanced Life
Listen to Mary’s Podcast “Real House Blend”: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/real-house-blend/id1725845347
Website: https://boonllc.net/
Connect with Mary:
LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/mary-wiegand-67484628/
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/boon_llc/ https://www.instagram.com/mary_momentary/ -
Simone Lord shares her experiences as a mother of three boys and the challenges she faced, including her husband's health issues during her first pregnancy. She discusses the importance of self-care and finding the right support system. Simone also talks about the pressure of societal norms and the need to parent in a way that feels right for her and her family. She emphasizes the importance of open communication, trust, and setting rules and standards in the household. Simone reflects on the changing dynamics of parenting and the impact of technology on children's mental health. In this conversation, Simone Lord and Shaun discuss the pressures and challenges of parenting in the modern world. They explore the importance of physical exercise, the impact of technology and marketing, the role of routines and boundaries, and the significance of communication and awareness. Simone emphasizes the need for parents to be willing to learn and improve, to prioritize relationships with their children, and to seek support and connection with others. They also highlight the importance of self-care and asking for help when needed.
TakeawaysSelf-care and finding the right support system are crucial for mothers to manage the challenges of motherhood.Parenting should be done in a way that feels right for the individual and their family, regardless of societal norms.Open communication and trust are essential in navigating the parenting journey.Setting rules and standards in the household helps children understand expectations and develop a sense of responsibility.The dynamics of parenting have changed, and parents have less influence on their children due to various factors, including technology.Children's mental health is a growing concern and needs to be addressed. Physical exercise is important for parents to handle the pressures and challenges of parenting.Technology and marketing can contribute to stress and overwhelm, and it's important to be aware of their impact.Routines and boundaries can provide structure and support for both parents and children.Communication and awareness are key in navigating the complexities of parenting.Seeking support and connection with others is crucial for parents.Self-care and asking for help are essential for maintaining well-being and being present for children.Sound Bites"Looking after yourself and finding the right people to support you in business and in life is the most important thing you can do to achieve your success.""Expectations is such a funny thing because you can have the perfect plan for the perfect pregnancy and the perfect life. But what do we know about perfection is that it can lead to disappointment.""Your best is enough. It's not about trying hard, this is just actually not working for me. It wasn't an effort, it wasn't a motivation thing. It was literally welcome to the journey of parenthood. You don't always get what you want.""I think it definitely needs to start from a willingness to want to be better.""I think society has a lot to do with it, but I also think a huge part of it is technology.""You really just need to accept that I am, I'm doing the best I can until I know better and then I'll do better."Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
03:02 Navigating the Challenges of Motherhood
08:50 Parenting on Your Own Terms
11:17 The Importance of Open Communication and Trust
16:39 Setting Rules and Standards in the Household
23:36 The Changing Dynamics of Parenting
25:23 Addressing Children's Mental Health
29:54 The Impact of Technology and Marketing
33:02 Acceptance and Doing Your Best
37:11 Finding Role Models and Peer Support
39:26 Being Present and Having Fun with Kids
48:36 Setting Boundaries and Sticking to Your Values
50:28 Seeking Support and Connection
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In this episode, Shaun Tucker interviews Henny McMahon, a mother of two who migrated to Australia from Germany. Henny shares her experiences of motherhood, including the challenges she faced as a young mother without family support and the judgment she received for her parenting choices. She emphasizes the importance of trusting oneself and making decisions that are right for you and your child, despite societal expectations. Henny also discusses the unique challenges of co-parenting and balancing different parenting styles between households. The principal themes of the conversation are trust, evolving relationships, meeting children on their level, supporting their passions, and enjoying the journey of parenthood. The subtopics discussed include the influence parents have on their children, earning trust, supporting children's interests, letting go and allowing them to experience life, and finding joy in the ups and downs of parenting.
TakeawaysMotherhood can be a lonely journey, especially for young mothers without family support.It is important to trust yourself and make decisions that are right for you and your child, even if they go against societal expectations.Co-parenting can present unique challenges, especially when there are different parenting styles and expectations between households.Balancing the environment and influences on your child is crucial for their well-being and development. Parents have a significant influence on their children when they are young, but as they grow older and enter social structures, the influence diminishes.To maintain a strong relationship with their children, parents should find ways to meet them on their level and support their interests.Supporting children's passions and being actively involved in their activities can bring parents and children closer together.Parenting requires trust, both in the child and in oneself as a parent. Trust is earned over time through consistent actions and communication.Letting go and allowing children to experience life is essential for their growth and independence.Finding joy in the journey of parenthood, including the highs and lows, is important for overall happiness and fulfillment.Sound Bites"I'm gonna do what's right for me and for my baby""There's always going to be people watching, there's always going to be people judging you""We've got to find a way to meet our children on their level.""It's not a dictatorship, right? It's more democratic as they get older.""You're holding them in your arms, basically."Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
04:42 The Challenges of Young Motherhood and Immigration
09:34 Trusting Yourself as a Parent
13:28 Navigating Postnatal Depression and Support Networks
18:22 The Dynamics of Co-Parenting
21:09 Balancing Different Parenting Styles
22:50 Introduction and Children's Resilience
24:51 Meeting Children on Their Level
27:29 The Evolving Relationship Between Parents and Children
31:06 Youth Led, Adult Supported
34:41 Supporting Children's Passions
39:11 Letting Go and Trusting
42:31 Reflecting on the Journey of Parenthood
44:11 Connecting with Henny McMahon
Connect with Henny
hennyqconsulting.com.au
https://www.linkedin.com/in/henny-mcmahon
Instagram @hennyque502 -
Summary
In this episode, host Shaun Tucker interviews Kate Mitchell, a passionate photographer and mother of five. They discuss the challenges of raising a large family, the differences between her children's personalities, and the changing dynamics of parenting in the digital age. They also touch on the fear and awareness surrounding child safety, both online and in the real world. The conversation explores the potential damaging effects of online interactions and the importance of open communication between parents and children. It also touches on the challenges of parenting in the digital age and the need for adaptability. The guests discuss the influence of social media on body image and self-esteem, as well as the potential future developments in technology. The main takeaway is not to beat oneself up over parenting mistakes and to embrace change.
Takeaways
Raising a large family comes with its challenges, but each child has their own unique personality.Parenting in the digital age requires awareness of the potential dangers of social media and online platforms.Fear and the desire to protect our children can sometimes lead to overprotectiveness and limiting their experiences.It's important to set boundaries and rules around screen time and be mindful of the content children are exposed to.Balancing the rules and expectations between co-parents can be challenging, but communication is key. Open communication is crucial between parents and children in the digital age.Parents should not beat themselves up over every decision and mistake.Social media can have a negative impact on body image and self-esteem.Adaptability is key in navigating the ever-changing landscape of technology.Future developments may include technological implants.Change is inevitable, and it's important to embrace it.Sound Bites
"No, I mean, it was particularly hard when we had our daughter, with the 10 year age gap. It was hard to find activities to do with her and with our older boys.""Yeah, I think we've realised the damage that we've done to our children by giving them those expectations that they're always going to win, not making them work really hard for it.""You can have damaging things, not necessarily more damaging things.""What's necessary? What's better in the long term? Well, we don't know. We really don't know.""Coercive control being far more damaging than physical domestic violence."Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
03:02 Differences in Children's Personalities
06:02 Challenges of Raising a Large Family
12:00 Fear and Awareness in Parenting
15:24 Dangers of the Digital Age 23:34 Parenting in the Age of Online Games
26:26 The Damaging Effects of Online Interactions
27:27 Coercive Control vs. Physical Violence
29:28 Manipulation and Control in Online Relationships
31:30 The Dangers of One Click
33:26 Unintended Consequences of Relaxed Parenting
36:06 The Reality Behind the Perfect Life
38:55 Social Media and Self-Esteem
41:15 Adapting to the Challenges of Parenting
45:31 Embracing Change in the Digital Age
48:26 Reflecting on Parenting and Adaptability
Connect with Kate here:
https://www.katemitchellphotography.com.au/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/kate-mitchell-photographer/
https://www.instagram.com/katemitchphotos/
https://www.facebook.com/katemitchellphotography/ -
Sabina Sulovsky, a health and performance coach, shares her personal journey of overcoming mental and physical challenges as a mother and business owner. She discusses her traumatic birth experience and the subsequent battle with postnatal depression. Sabina emphasizes the importance of seeking support and taking time to heal. She encourages new mothers to embrace their own unique style of motherhood and not compare themselves to others. Sabina also highlights the need for self-care and finding a balance between societal expectations and personal well-being. In this conversation, Sabina Sulovsky and Shaun discuss the challenges of motherhood and the importance of trusting oneself. They explore the impact of expectations, the connection between the mind and gut, and the need for self-love and self-care. Sabina shares her personal journey as a mother and how she has learned to prioritize herself and her well-being. They emphasize the importance of setting a positive example for children and the ripple effect it can have on their lives. The conversation concludes with Sabina offering guidance and support for those who may be struggling.
Takeaways
Seeking support is crucial for new mothers dealing with postnatal depression or other challenges.Embrace your own unique style of motherhood and don't compare yourself to others.Take time to heal and prioritize self-care.Find a balance between societal expectations and personal well-being. Trusting oneself is essential in motherhood and in life. It is important to listen to your intuition and trust your own decisions.Expectations can lead to stress and anxiety. Being aware of your expectations and managing them can help reduce their impact.Self-love and self-care are crucial for personal well-being and setting a positive example for children.The mind-gut connection is a scientific basis for understanding the importance of intuition and trusting oneself.Receiving help and support can be a game changer and can positively impact the trajectory of your life.Sound Bites
"Mums can be whoever they want to be.""Take your time and focus on the progress you're making.""Loneliness and isolation can contribute to depression.""I just couldn't at that point.""If it's not for you, then be okay with it.""You can't still disregard the other stuff that goes on."Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background of Sabina Sulovsky
03:14 The Traumatic Birth Experience and Postnatal Depression
09:01 Embracing a New Identity as a Mother
15:31 Seeking Support and Prioritizing Self-Care
25:32 Trusting Yourself and Managing Expectations
29:08 The Mind-Gut Connection
32:24 Setting a Positive Example for Children
36:37 The Evolution of Motherhood
38:48 Contributing and Empowering Others
44:08 Advice for New Mothers
Connect with Sabina:
https://sabinasulovsky.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/sabina-sulovsky/
https://www.instagram.com/mindbodybysabina/
https://www.facebook.com/ChatWithSabina -
Summary
Richard Patterson shares his experience of becoming the primary caregiver for his son when his ex-wife was unable to provide a safe environment. He prayed for supernatural nurturing powers and was amazed at how his prayer was answered. Despite the challenges, Richard's son has thrived and become a sensitive and empathetic young man. Richard discusses the social stigmas he faced as a single father and the importance of nurturing in a child's life. He also emphasizes the need for empathy and understanding in parenting. Richard Paterson shares his insights on parenting and making decisions as a father. He emphasizes the importance of making pragmatic choices and teaching children the value of hard work. Richard also discusses the significance of having a clear vision of the future and reframing one's preferred reality. He shares personal experiences from his journey as a single father and highlights the importance of nurturing and recalibrating regularly. Richard concludes by encouraging listeners to focus on who they want to be rather than what they want to do or have.
Takeaways
Being a parent is a marathon, not a sprint, and requires sacrifices.Nurturing can come from various sources, not just the biological mother.Empathy and sensitivity are important qualities to develop in children.Parenting requires a balance between being emotive and pragmatic.Social stigmas and expectations can create challenges for single fathers. Parenting involves making pragmatic decisions and teaching children the value of hard work.Having a clear vision of the future makes decision-making easier in the present.Reframing one's preferred reality is essential for personal growth and success.Regularly nurturing and recalibrating one's focus is crucial for staying on track.Focusing on who you want to be is more important than what you want to do or have.Sound Bites
"Can you give me a supernatural capacity to nurture my little boy?""He's going through his preparation for his competition, which you'd be familiar with, Sean's pretty ugly.""Can you help me accountable, help me be accountable to not getting grumpy with Lou?""Parenting is not just all about doing what feels right. It's about making some decisions as well.""Life is really choices. It's all about your choices that you make.""The more crystal clear the end game looks to us, the easier it is to make decisions in the now."Chapters
00:00 Introduction: Richard's Unique Journey
01:06 Becoming the Primary Caregiver
07:34 Challenging Social Stigmas: The Single Father Experience
08:14 Raising a Sensitive and Empathetic Young Man
12:29 Finding Balance: Emotive vs Pragmatic Parenting
30:09 The Power of a Clear Vision
34:32 Reframing Your Preferred Reality
42:24 Nurturing and Recalibrating Regularly
52:55 Who You Want to Be vs. What You Want to Do
Connect with Richard
Richard on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/richardgpaterson/
Basix 4 Blokes Charity: https://basix4blokes.org/ -
In this episode, Shaun Tucker interviews Cora Howard, a mindfulness coach specializing in empowering C-section moms. They discuss the importance of finding one's voice and reclaiming their identity as a mother. They also explore the power of words and how they shape our experiences. Cora shares her personal journey of healing and self-discovery, including the impact of death and the realization that a part of us dies every day. The conversation emphasizes the need to live in the present moment and embrace the duality of life and death. In this conversation, Cora H. and Shaun Tucker discuss the profound topics of life, death, and the interconnectedness of all things. Cora shares her experiences with loss and how she helps her children understand the concept of death. They explore the idea that our psychological structure is bigger than life itself and how our consciousness extends beyond our physical bodies. They also touch on the connection between science and spirituality and the importance of embracing the cycles of life and death. Cora shares her upcoming writing course that focuses on healing and transformation through words.
Takeaways
Finding your voice as a mother and reclaiming your identity is essential for personal growth and fulfillment.The words we use shape our experiences, and choosing empowering words can create a positive mindset.Living in the present moment allows us to fully experience life and appreciate its beauty.Death is a natural part of life, and acknowledging its presence can lead to healing and personal transformation. Life and death are interconnected and part of the natural cycles of existence.Our psychological structure is bigger than life itself and extends beyond our physical bodies.Science and spirituality express the same truths in different ways.Embracing the cycles of life and death allows for a deeper understanding of existence.Writing can be a powerful tool for healing and transformation.Sound Bites
"You can redefine motherhood how it is to you. But you have to voice what that is.""If I say it's hard, it's going to be hard. If I say it's easy, it's going to be easy.""Every moment is a new moment.""Most people are just completely in denial and ignorant of the fact that it's true.""I wish I had me when that happened to me.""It's gonna be okay, even if we don't think so in the moment."Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background of Cora Howard
02:15 Exploring the Journey of Motherhood
05:02 The Power of Words and Finding Your Voice
08:26 Living in the Present Moment
11:20 Teaching Children to Live in the Present
13:29 Emptying Yourself to Create
16:06 Reflecting on Personal Journey and Wisdom
20:26 Understanding the Concept of Death
23:20 Acknowledging the Truth of Life and Death
25:23 Understanding Death Through the Eyes of Children
27:27 Exploring the Concept of Identity Beyond the Body
29:50 The Profound Nature of Our Psychological Structure
34:22 Embracing the Cycles of Life and Death
39:47 Healing and Transformation Through Writing
Connect with Cora:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/corahoward/
https://www.instagram.com/redefinemama/
https://www.facebook.com/cora.howard.353/ -
Monique shares her experience as a young mother and the awakening she felt after becoming a mom. She emphasizes the importance of staying true to oneself and maintaining authenticity in parenthood. Monique and Shaun discuss the challenges of balancing work and family life, the impact of decision-making on a child's well-being, and the deep sense of responsibility that comes with being a parent. They also explore the need for understanding and empathy in relationships, especially in the context of parenting. The conversation explores the challenges and joys of motherhood, emphasizing the importance of support and self-reflection. It touches on topics such as the impact of communication on relationships, the healing journey of parenting, the role of self-transformation in happiness, and the societal pressures and privileges of motherhood. The conversation also discusses the significance of maintaining the mother-baby bond, the struggle of balancing work and motherhood, and the importance of trusting oneself and avoiding judgment.
Takeaways
Staying true to oneself and maintaining authenticity is important in parenthood.Balancing work and family life can be challenging, but communication and understanding are key.Making decisions for a child's well-being requires weighing the risks and rewards.Being a parent comes with a deep sense of responsibility and a willingness to protect and provide for one's child.Understanding and empathy are crucial in relationships, especially in the context of parenting. It's important to have support and communication in relationships, especially during the challenges of motherhood.Parenting can be a healing journey that helps individuals address their own childhood issues.Self-transformation and self-awareness are crucial for personal happiness and success in motherhood.Maintaining the mother-baby bond and trusting one's intuition are essential for the well-being of both mother and child.Balancing work and motherhood can be challenging, but it's important to prioritize and find fulfillment in both roles.Avoid judgment and trust yourself in your journey of motherhood, as everyone's experience is unique.
Chapters00:00 Introduction and Overview
02:12 Balancing Authenticity and Parenthood
04:38 The Deep Sense of Parental Responsibility
26:26 Self-Transformation and Happiness in Motherhood
29:19 The Cultural Perspective on Co-Sleeping
32:04 Balancing Work and Motherhood -
Alice Cheng shares her journey of becoming a mother and finding her path in balancing her career and motherhood. She discusses the challenges she faced as an ESL (English second language) migrant from Hong Kong and how she overcame them. Alice emphasizes the importance of self-care and not neglecting oneself while raising children. She also talks about the pressure and guilt she felt as a working mum and the need to prioritize her own needs. Alice's decision to transition her career and become a career coach was driven by her desire for fulfillment and to set an example for her children. Alice Cheng shares her journey of self-discovery and personal growth as a mother and individual. She emphasizes the importance of living life on your own terms and not being bound by societal expectations. Alice discusses the challenges of parenting and the need to find a balance between guiding and empowering her children. She also reflects on the preciousness of time and the importance of being present with loved ones. Alice encourages listeners to be true to themselves and pursue their passions, while also making a positive impact on others.
Takeaways
• Balancing a career and motherhood can be challenging, but it's important to prioritize self-care and not neglect oneself.
• The pressure and guilt of being a working mum can be overwhelming, but it's important to make decisions that align with personal fulfillment and happiness.
• Transitioning to a new career path can be empowering and allow for personal growth and fulfillment.
• Setting an example for children by pursuing one's passions and prioritizing self-care is important for their own development and well-being. Take the time to uncover and embrace your true self, even if it feels like a late discovery.
• Back your decisions with action to create meaningful change in your life.
• Parenting is a journey of learning and adapting, and it's important to find a balance between guiding and empowering your children. • Time is precious, so prioritize being present with loved ones and enjoying the moments.
• Live life on your own terms, pursuing your passions while making a positive impact on others.
Sound Bites
• "I have found my mission in life."
• "From survival to thriving"
• "Neglecting myself for a good 15 years"
• "I don't wanna waste any more years. I've already kind of lived my life to people's expectations, doing this great corporate job and chasing money."
• "It's not enough to make a decision. You've got to back it up with action. And that's the only way you can really change your situation in life."
• "Yes, and that's probably where I got motivated to uncover. I think I've always had it in me. It's just me now digging them up."
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Alice's Passion for Helping Others
02:10 Alice's Journey as an ESL Migrant
06:10 From Survival to Thriving
09:25 Neglecting Oneself as a Working Mum
13:44 The Responsibilities and Guilt of Motherhood
23:10 Prioritizing Self-Care and Personal Fulfillment
24:33 Uncovering Your True Self
26:06 Backed by Action
30:26 Parenting: Balancing Guidance and Empowerment
39:10 The Preciousness of Time
44:05 Living Life on Your Own Terms
Connect with Alice here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alice-cheng-coaching/
Support Alice's Handmade Candles here: https://www.eneraura.com/ -
In the first episode of the "How Are You Really Mum?" podcast, host Shaun Tucker shares a personal story about his deep connection with his mother, revealed during a hypnotherapy session. He introduces the podcast's mission to celebrate and support mothers by sharing their stories and creating a supportive community. The episode underscores the selfless nature of motherhood and the importance of daily recognition and support for mothers.
Bullet Points
- Introduction of the "How Are You Really Mum?" podcast
- Shaun Tucker sharing a personal story about his connection with his mother
- Purpose of the podcast to celebrate and support mothers
- Emphasis on the joys, challenges, growth, and tears of motherhood
- Importance of recognizing and celebrating mothers every day
- Desire to create a community of like-minded mothers
- Invitation for mothers, children, and supportive partners to join the community
- Emphasis on the need for unity and the power of sharing true stories
- Message that mothers are not alone and invitation to join the supportive community
Timestamps
The introduction (00:00:10)
Shaun Tucker introduces the purpose of the podcast and shares a personal story about his connection with his mother.
The emotional bond (00:01:36)
Shaun Tucker describes the experience that led to a deep emotional bond with his mother when he was three years old.
The role of mothers (00:03:56)
Shaun Tucker emphasizes the importance of celebrating and supporting mothers in their daily sacrifices and nurturing role.
Creating a supportive community (00:05:17)
Shaun Tucker explains the purpose of the podcast in creating a platform for sharing stories and creating a supportive community for mothers.
The journey of motherhood (00:09:03)
Shaun Tucker discusses the life cycle of motherhood and the need for mothers to embrace themselves fully.
Invitation to join the journey (00:11:24)
Shaun Tucker invites the audience to join the journey of opening up stories and interviews with mothers and other nurturers.
Closing and reminder (00:14:31)
Shaun Tucker concludes the episode with a reminder to subscribe and become part of the supportive community, emphasizing that mothers are not alone.
