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In this episode, Kate was joined by psychotherapist Lulu Sunnucks to explore trauma during relationships, separation and divorce.
About the episode:
Lulu Sunnucks is a psychotherapist who joins Kate to explore trauma. In the episode, they look at the varying degrees of trauma during and after a relationship breakdown. Lulu gives some great tips and advice about navigating trauma and how to break patterns when moving on to new relationships to healthy and happy relationships.About our guest:
Lulu worked as a Lifestyle Strategist and Personal Coach to some of the world's most powerful individuals for twenty years before retraining as a Trauma Psychotherapist. She completed her clinical placement in a Women’s refuge, working with survivors of rape, domestic violence, sex trafficking and sexual violence. Lulu now runs her own busy private practice in the Cotswolds and she is currently working towards registration as a clinical sexologist and couples therapist.Trigger Warning: This episode covers content that some listeners might find distressing, including abuse, sexual violence and poor mental health.
Organisations who can help:
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In this episode, Kate was joined by the Founder and Managing Director of NameSwitch, Cécile Mazuet-Eller, to discuss navigating name changes in relationships, separation, and divorce.
About the episode
Kate and Cécile focus on why people choose to change their name following a change in relationship status, including the practical and emotional factors. Cécile deep-dives into what happens during a separation or divorce. She provides her tips and advice around when's the best time to do this, as well as common pitfalls.
About the guest
Having experienced first-hand the pain and frustration of navigating through the name-change maze after getting divorced, Cecile set up NameSwitch to help others blitz through their name-change and embrace their next life chapter with simple, affordable packages. NameSwitch is the first and only service in the UK to offer name-change notification as well as deed poll packages.
You can download NameSwitch's free name change checklist here and can find them on all social media channels, including; TikTok, Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn and YouTube.
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In this episode, Kate is joined by award-winning comedian, writer, and actress Harriet Kemsley to discuss her divorce.
About the episode
In part two, Kate is joined by comedian Harriet Kemsley to talk about her marriage, separation, and divorce from fellow comedian Bobby Mair. Harriet talks about why Bobby and her separated, how they have managed to achieve an amicable separation, their child-centred co-parenting arrangements, and how they have navigated challenges during the process.About the guest
Harriet is an award-winning comedian, writer and actress. She has starred in the Viceland reality sitcom Bobby and Harriet: Get Married, which she co-created and co-wrote with her ex-husband, Bobby Mair, to huge critical acclaim. She can also be seen on Dave's Hypothetical, ITV's Hey Tracey, Comedy Central’s Roast Battle, and is a recurring guest on 8 out of 10 Cats Does Countdown and 8 Out of 10 Cats. Her other credits include hosting the BBC Radio 4 Comedy Club, The Radio 1 Comedy Lounge, BBC3’s Comedy Marathon, The One Show (Edinburgh Special) and Kevin’s Hart’s LOL Live.Harriet’s awards include the Leicester Mercury New Act of the Year Finalist, Funny’s Funny Winner, Up The Creek New Act of the Year Winning and Leicester Square New Act of the Year Finalist. She has been described by Time Out as ‘a very funny rising star’ and as one of Rhod Gilbert’s ‘Ten Comics to See’ in the Mail on Sunday.
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In this episode, Kate is joined by comedian Bobby Mair to talk about his divorce.
About the episode:
In this first of two episodes, Kate is joined by comedian Bobby Mair to talk about his marriage, separation, and divorce from fellow comedian Harriet Kemlsey. Bobby talks about how they have managed to achieve an amicable separation, created child-centred co-parenting arrangements, and the role of their friends and family during their separation. Kate and Bobby explore some challenges, and Bobby shares his tips on separating amicably.
About the guest:
Bobby Mair is a Canadian stand-up comedian based in London. He starred in his own sitcom with his wife on Vice and Comedy Central called Bobby and Harriet: Get Married, he has appeared multiple times on Comedy Central’s Roast Battle including appearing in a battle with his wife that got millions of hits online. His other credits include 8 Out of 10 Cats (Channel 4), and Never Mind the Buzzcocks (BBC2). He’s opened for Doug Stanhope, Bill Burr and Bill Maher and appeared three times at Just For Laughs in Montreal. -
In this episode, Kate is joined by Coach and Author Ali Mortimer to discuss navigating difficult moments in relationships and how finding joy can help in this journey.
About the episode
Kate and Ali begin the episode by looking at Ali’s separation story, where she talks about how her relationship was taken to the brink following her husband’s infidelity and how they were able to repair their relationship following Ali’s journey of self-discovery and their joint relationship work.
Ali then dives into the idea of 'finding joy' and how it is created on the foundations of holistic health and peace of mind, something Kate and Ali explore in navigating rocky patches in relationships.
They also look at the idea that although Ali is still married to her husband, they both identify with being in their second marriage, having grieved the loss of their first.
This is a fantastic episode for listeners in any stage of a relationship, whether you’re looking for tools to create a healthy, happy relationship or whether you want to understand if you’re relationship is past the point of repair.
Meet our guest
Ali is a Mentor, Coach, Speaker and Author who focuses on experiencing joy in life. Ali believes that to die happy is to have lived a joyous life, one of pure abundance, prosperity, generosity and fun.
Ali has endeavoured to embody this philosophy after her own loss and trauma, finding her way out of darkness into light, overcoming and embracing obstacles of health, life, work and love, and creating her own business from her motivations.
Ali believes Joy is created on the foundations of holistic health and peace of mind; amplified with love and dreams. She knows now that all paths lead to Joy when walked with love. Have the courage to take those first tentative steps towards joy. -
In this episode, Kate is joined by the founder of Octopus Legacy, Sam Grice to discuss death and divorce.
Meet our guest
Sam Grice is the founder of Octopus Legacy. In 2017, Sam's Mum died suddenly in a car accident, the process that followed was overwhelming, and the grief was made much harder by the tedious hours of paperwork, and legal admin that comes after a loss.Sam founded Octopus Legacy to make life easier for the people who are left behind after someone dies.
Octopus Legacy has since helped over 300,000 people plan for death and find support after a loss. They offer a range of estate planning services from wills to life insurance, as well as probate and bereavement support. When people think about planning for death they think about writing a will, sorting a funeral plan, and taking out life insurance. Octopus Legacy aims to take these cold processes and turn them into something much more human, inviting you to share more than money.
About the episode
Kate and Sam begin this episode by looking at Sam’s story. They explore the concept of grief and how it connects with the loss felt during a divorce or separation, as well as other aspects of the emotional journey.
They look at the legal steps required after loss and the idea that you need to update your will whenever there’s a life change, like a divorce or separation. -
In this episode, Kate is joined by Professor Richard Susskind OBE KC (Hon) to discuss the future of family law and legal services.
About the episode
This episode is focused on technology, the future of family law and legal services.
Richard explains how the landscape has changed and what we, as consumers, can expect for the future. Especially when it comes to AI, alternative dispute resolution delivered remotely and things that haven’t even been imagined yet.
Meet our guest
Richard is the world’s most cited author on the future of legal services. He is President of The Society for Computers and Law and he served as Technology Adviser to the Lord Chief Justice of England and Wales.
His main area of expertise is the future of professional services and the way that AI and other technologies are changing the work of lawyers. He advises leading professional firms, in-house legal departments, and governments and judiciaries around the world.
Richard has authored ten books, including The Future of Law and Tomorrow’s Lawyers. He has also contributed more than 150 columns to The Times. In 2000, he was made an OBE, and In 2022, the King approved Richard’s appointment as an Honorary King’s Counsel. -
In this episode, Kate is joined by award-winning magazine writer Lotte Jeffs and amicable Divorce Specialist, Anthony Syder to discuss queer parenting and different family structures.
Meet the guests
Lotte is an award-winning magazine writer, an author and podcaster. They are a contributing editor for Grazia and have hosted the award-winning podcast ‘Some Families’ as well as ‘Grazia Life Advice’ and most recently ‘From Gay To Ze’.
Lotte writes for broadsheet newspapers, and international magazines and was previously Deputy Editor of ELLE. Lotte lives in London with their wife, daughter and two cats.
Anthony is a divorce specialist at amicable and has worked in the area of divorce, mediation and family dispute resolution for the past 10 years. His areas of interest include the voice of the child, as well as diverse and inclusive families.
About the episode
Kate and Lotte begin the episode by exploring Lotte’s story and current family dynamics. They then move on to look at the topic of LGBTQ+ families and the unique challenges they face during a divorce or parental separation. Later, they explore the dynamics children create in blended families and the different communities and support structures available in the face of separation. -
In this episode, Kate is joined by Jodie Cariss, Founder of the online therapy platform Self Space to discuss the emotional journey of separation and the role of forgiveness in the healing process.
Meet our guests
Jodie is a therapist with over twenty years of experience in the field and a Tavistock-trained executive coach. Jodie has fast become a leading voice advocating for accessible mental health support.
Jodie is the co-author of 'How to Grow Through What You Go Through', published by Penguin in 2022, and regularly contributes to panel talks, podcasts and media titles such as Stylist Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Vogue and The Times.About the episode
Kate and Jodie begin this episode by discussing Jodie’s background, and how she got into her profession and ended up founding Self Space, including Jodie’s individual experience with divorce.
Throughout the episode, they discuss topics such as forgiveness, moving past and overcoming resentment, and replacing it with compassion, especially when it comes to co-parenting. -
In this episode, Kate is joined by Founder of the Bristol Grandparents Support Group, Jane Jackson, and amicable Divorce Specialist, Anthony Syder to discuss role of grandparents during parental separation and divorce.
About the episode
Kate, Jane and Anthony touch on a variety of topics including what can happen during an acrimonious separation, especially how grandparents can lose touch with their grandchildren, as well as the rights they may have and the more amicable ways of regaining contact.
This episode is full of tips and highlights the importance of putting the children first, as well as the value grandparents can bring to children’s upbringing.
Meet the guests
Jane founded the Bristol Grandparents Support Group in 2007 when she lost contact with her granddaughter due to her sons’ divorce.
The support group aims to inform people of the issues surrounding Grandparents and their rights to see their Grandchildren when contact has been denied.
Jane holds bi-monthly support groups remotely to help grandparents deal with estrangement, an issue affecting one in seven.
Anthony is a Divorce Specialist at amicable and has worked in the area of divorce, mediation and family dispute resolution for the past 10 years. His areas of interest include the voice of the child and diverse and inclusive families. -
In this episode, Kate is joined by former family barrister turned therapist and author, Charlotte Friedman.
About the episode
The focus of this episode is loneliness. Kate and Charlotte begin by exploring what loneliness is, whether it’s a physical or mental feeling or both, and how loneliness links to grief, as well as the emotional journey of divorce and separation.
They discuss seeking professional help and how children and other family members can sense and react to loneliness. Finally, Charlotte and Kate discuss coping mechanisms for loneliness, especially post-separation.
About the guest
Charlotte decided to move from the courtroom to the therapist’s chair to help people manage the emotional journey of divorce.
In her book, Breaking Upwards, Charlotte offers calm, therapeutic advice on everything from managing loneliness to letting go of grievance.
Charlotte is a trained Psychodynamic Psychotherapist registered with the British Psychoanalytic Council and the Tavistock Society. She is also the founder of the Divorce Support Group which has provided a community for people trying to manage the emotional impact of divorce and separation. -
In this episode, Kate is joined by clinical psychologist, Angharad Rudkin, and solicitor, mediator, and campaigner Helen Adam.
About the episode
Kate and Helen begin the episode by discussing the Family Solutions Group (FSG) and explaining the Right to Matter report.
They move on to discuss who in Government currently takes responsibility for children when parents separate. Helen explores some of the consultations' findings as well as the common questions that emerged from the UK Youth Parliament.
Later on in the episode, Kate and Angharad discuss how children and families are impacted during parental separation, whether divorce or separation impacts children’s mental health and to what extent. Also, they explore what this can look like day-to-day and what the key factors are that lead to significant impact.
Finally, Helen and Adam give their recommendations for further help and advice and the next steps for future reports and actions on the level of government.
About the guests
Helen Adam started her work with separating families as a solicitor in London. Following a career break, she retrained as a mediator and founded Wells Family Mediation. Helen is also chair of the Family Solutions Group (FSG). The FSG presses for coordinated political oversight and funding for separated families. We’ve previously recorded an episode on language with Helen, so make sure to have a listen.Dr Angharad Rudkin is a clinical psychologist with over 20 years experience of working with children and families to discuss divorce and separation from the perspective of children.
Angharad is also an expert for the Metro's relationship column, offers training and consultation for family lawyers and worked as a lecturer on the Clinical Psychology doctorate at the University of Southampton for 12 years.
Angharad was a consulting editor for ‘101 Questions Answered about Separating with Children’ and has recently published a book for children on how to cope with their parent’s divorce, The Split Survival Kit, written with children’s author Ruth Fitzgerald.
We’ve also recorded an episode with Angharad in the past which is number 57 if you would like to have a listen.For help and advice with divorce, separation, co-parenting or anything related to these, please visit: amicable.co.uk
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In this episode, Kate is joined by clinical therapist and manager, Julie Cooper, to discuss the reality of co-parenting across the varying stages of childhood.
About the guest
Julie is a lead provider of mental health services at Honey for Moms, in Ferndale, Michigan. She is a Co-parenting specialist and single mum of two and has dedicated her career to helping parents throughout their co-parenting journey.
As a mother moving through divorce, Julie’s personal experience of co-parenting highlighted the need for a stronger support system, clearer information and dependable resources. Her journey along this path drove her to believe that, regardless of marital status, raising secure children who feel seen, heard, and loved by both parents, is possible with the right tools and support.
Julie's tenured work in mental health has led her to become a strong clinician, leader, and advocate for mental health. She also has a passion for helping individuals with trauma, anxiety, depression, and low self-worth. As team lead in her practice, Julie is deeply committed to providing professional guidance and furthering education in this field.
About the episode
Throughout this episode, Kate and Julie move through the different stages of childhood, highlighting the most important considerations when moving into a co-parenting family structure.
They look at separating when children are babies, toddlers, young children, teenagers and finally, children as they grow up and the signs and changes you may have to look out for, as well as signposting the available help. -
In this episode, Kate was joined by Professor Lisa Doodson and Rebecca Jones from amicable to discuss introducing new partners and navigating blended families.
Meet our guests
Lisa is a chartered psychologist and founder of HappySteps, a consultancy providing training and advice to professionals and families directly. As an expert in the field, Lisa frequently contributes to TV documentaries and comments in the press.
Rebecca, or Bec, is a divorce specialist at amicable and was previously a family solicitor. Bec has also been through her own divorce and now has a blended family.
About this episode
This episode is full of tips about introducing new partners and general advice on blended families. We look at some of the unique challenges that each presents, as well as the potential benefits of growing up in a blended family.
Lisa provides insightful advice about coping with different parenting styles, as well as tips on establishing house rules. Bec gives many tips on practical things families can do to make the journey smoother, based on her experience.
This episode is a real homage to the idea that families come in all shapes and sizes and there's no ‘right’ way to parent your kids, highlighting the fact that respect and communication are the foundations for a happy blended family. -
In this episode, Kate was joined by Mark Groves, a Human Connection Specialist and founder of 'Create the Love', to discuss co-dependency in relationships, separation and divorce.
About the guest
Mark's separation from his ex-partner sparked his journey to turn his experiences into an impactful message. Mark founded Create The Love, a platform that guides people to design the life and love they long for, following on from his rock bottom when his relationship ended. He hosts The Mark Groves Podcast and has a significant following on social media where he shares his insight into relationships.
Today, Mark is a human connection specialist, speaker, writer, motivator, creator, connector and collaborator. As a bridge between the academic and the human, Mark invites people to explore the good, bad, downright ugly, and beautiful sides of connection. Mark is a friend of the podcast and this is his second appearance; you can check out Mark's previous episode here.
Kate and Mark begin the episode by exploring how co-dependency can manifest in romantic and other personal relationships. They look at the link between codependency and addiction, as well as whether a codependent relationship can ever be healthy.
During the episode, they talk about ending a codependent relationship and how fear is a driver for couples staying together in unhealthy and unhappy relationships.
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In this episode, Kate is joined by founder and Master Divorce Coach, Louise Neville, to discuss surviving the family court.
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Louise founded the company Family Court Survival and supports people emotionally, practically and strategically through the Family Court System In England and Wales. She is a Master Divorce Coach and Professional McKenzie Friend who works in children’s welfare and is at the forefront of everything she does.
Kate and Louise begin this episode by exploring what we mean by the family court. Louise explains how she ended up there after separating from her husband over unresolved financial and child arrangement issues.
This episode is focused on helping people navigate the family court when they have no other choice. Louise’s detailed explanation of the process for Children Act proceedings is useful in understanding what’s involved if you end up in a dispute when you separate.
Trigger Warning: This episode covers content that some listeners might find distressing including poor mental health and abuse.
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In this episode, Kate was joined by Ella Kenion to talk about her experience of divorce and co-parenting. Ella spoke candidly about her two divorces, the first being the pinnacle of ‘amicable’ and the second being far from it. They also explore her co-parenting journey.
About the guest:
Ella has enjoyed a long and varied career as an actress, working successfully across both stage and screen for many years., with highlights including the BBC’s The Outlaws, Doctors, and The Detectorists, ITV’s Midsomer Murders and the feature film The Night before Christmas.Television credits include: Beyond Paradise (BritBox), So Awkward: Kids Camp (BBC), The Outlaws (BBC), Honour (ITV), The Barking Murders (ITV), The Duchess (Netflix), Shakespeare & Hathaway (BBC), Doctors (BBC), Pure (Channel 4), Warren (BBC), Kiss of Death (Discovery), Midsomer Murders (ITV), The Detectorists (BBC), Episodes (Showtime), Swashbuckle (CBBC), New Tricks (BBC), Justin's House (CBBC), Big Bad World (Comedy Central), Law & Order UK (Kudos), Cuckoo (BBC), Heading Out (BBC), Hollyoaks (Channel 4), Doctor Who (BBC), Fun Police (Channel 4), Gates (Sky), Criminal Justice (BBC), Gayle Tuesday: The Comeback (Living TV), Holby City (BBC).
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Theatre credits include: Dusty (Theatre Royal Bath), Ghosting the Party (NT Company), Emil & The Detectives (National Theatre), The School for Scandal (The Comedians Theatre Company), Shooting Star (Chester Gateway Theatre), Private Lives (Watford Palace Theatre), Gift of the Gorgon (Royal Shakespeare Company)
Film credits include: The Offenders (Big Talk), The Knight Before Christmas (HP Christmas Knight Productions), Stan & Ollie (Fable Pictures).
TW: This episode mentions abusive behaviour. Some listeners may find the information and topics discussed distressing.
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To celebrate this special occasion, we're taking a trip down memory lane and bringing you the absolute best bits from our most impactful and insightful episodes.
Tune in as we delve into various topics including the emotional journey, co-parenting and children, and finances on divorce. We'll touch on finding your inner strength, co-parenting with grace, rebuilding your life, and embracing personal growth.
Our guests will share their expertise, stories, and advice, creating a space for understanding and support.
About the guests (In order of appearance):
Jessica Fostekew: comedian, actor and writer
In 2019, Jess was nominated for The Dave Edinburgh Comedy Award ‘Best Show’ for her show Wench. She's the co-writer and co-star of the forthcoming Sky special 'Real Friends' and her series 'Sturdy Girl Club' is now on BBC Sounds.
Ed Bassett: well-being entrepreneur, Dad, and rugby fan
Father of two, Ed is involved in several not-for-profit companies, an Ambassador for Staffordshire, a start-up mentor and a passionate believer in finding your voice and speaking your truth.
The Midlife Mentors, Claire and James Davis
Claire and James Davis are the husband-and-wife team behind the multi-award-winning well-being company 38 Degrees North and the thriving midlife coaching business, The Midlife Mentors.
Dr Angharad Rudkin: clinical psychologist
Dr Angharad Rudkin a clinical psychologist with over 20 years experience of working with children and families to discuss divorce from the perspective of children.
Marcie Shaoul: Director of The Co-Parent Way
Marcie is the Director of The Co-Parent Way, the UK’s only Co-Parent Coaching Practice. She is responsible for developing a unique coaching methodology that enables parents to co-parent together effectively after separation.
Christina McGhee: internationally recognised divorce parenting expert
With over 25 years of experience, Christina has been featured across television, radio and podcasts including The Times, Channel 4 and the BBC.
Louise Oliver: financial planner
Louise has worked in the financial services sector for over 30 years and is a Certified Financial Planner and a Chartered Wealth Manager.
Daniel Copley: consumer expert at Zoopla
Dan is an editor with over 10 years of experience in the property, lifestyle and fashion sectors.
Shreepali Chauhan-Tufail: Divorce Specialist at amicable
Shreepali is a former Solicitor with over 20 years of experience in Dispute Resolution, Family and Commercial law.
Joshua Rozenberg: the UK’s most experienced legal commentator
Joshua Rozenberg KC (hon) is Britain's most experienced full-time legal commentator. He is the only journalist to have been appointed as Queen's Counsel honoris causa.
David Hodson: solicitor, mediator, arbitrator
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In this episode, Kate was joined by Dr. Charlotte Fox Weber to talk about boundaries, relationships, and separation. This episode focuses on what we mean by boundaries and explores how we can use them in the context of relationships, separation, and divorce.
About the guest:
Charlotte is a psychotherapist and writer. She co-founded ‘Examined Life’ and is the founding head of ‘The School of Life Psychotherapy’. She grew up in Connecticut and Paris and now lives in London with her husband and two young children and ‘Tell Me What You Want’ is her first book. She's writing her second book about why we hold onto hurtful relationships.
She is registered and accredited by the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) and a registered member of the British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy (MBACP).
Charlotte founded The School of Life Psychotherapy in 2015, and now works in private practice. She is also a trustee on the board of the Josef and Anni Albers Foundation and works with Le Korsa, running educational programs with women in Senegal.
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In this episode, Kate was joined by Zoë Desmond and Rebecca Cox to talk about their brand new book ‘How to be a happy single parent’.
They start the episode by talking about why Zoë created Frolo and how she got to know Rebecca in the process. Zoë and Rebecca discuss their stories of becoming single parents and the challenges associated with raising children on your own. They explore their new book as well as some of the chapters, including those that focus on boundaries, the emotional side, and what it means to be a single parent
About the guests:
Rebecca Cox is a single mother and founder of The Single Mother Edit. She is a journalist whose writing has been published by Elle, Glamour, Country & Town House, Vogue.com and more. Her pieces on single motherhood have been featured in publications, including The Evening Standard, Grazia and Harper's Bazaar.Zoë Desmond is a single mum and the Founder of Frolo, the award-winning app and community for single parents. Both Zoe and Rebecca are the author’s of the brand new book, ‘How to be a happy single parent’.
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