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For women, good sex is all about timing. First, you have to pick a good time to have sex. That means she’s not tired or stressed. It means she has enough time to not feel rushed. And it means you’ve been loving and decent recently. As you move from “do ya wanna?” to climax, timing […]
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When I wrote this a dozen years ago, I said, “There has been a lot of hype about testosterone the last few years. I say hype because the claims have run way ahead of the science.” Science has mostly caught up, so I’ve modified accordingly. There are those who claim testosterone replacement is the next […]
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I got the expected push-back from saying porn is not addictive. I know a lot of Christian groups and some secular ones say it is an addiction. But they base this on something less than solid science. The hard science says it’s not. There is a difference between physical addiction and mental habituation. Porn is […]
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Ever since I stopped making a living doing very physical labour, I’ve struggled with my weight. I like food; I enjoy flavour. A couple of times I have dropped a good deal of weight. And while I’ve not always kept it all off, it’s been fifteen years since I was within 50 pounds of my […]
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I use AI to suggest titles and SEO data for my posts. And every time I put in something about porn, what it kicks back includes the words “porn addiction”. Here’s the thing; porn addiction is not a real thing. Addiction is a word that has a specific meaning, and porn doesn’t check all the […]
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If you want to have great sex, you have to make your bedroom a great place to have sex. So let’s look at some things that make a bedroom sex friendly for a woman: Temperature: Women run cooler than men. If the temperature is good for you, she’s probably cool or cold. And that’s not […]
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In, What do you mean by “need”? I said I felt sorry for anyone living with a spouse who only felt they had to meet needs, not wants. Of course, it’s not that clear in most marriages. We’re happy to give what we like to give, and what’s not too difficult for us to give. […]
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A common excuse for porn use is “I do it because my wife says no to sex”. Or “refuses to do oral” or “won’t have sex with the lights on.” If you looked at porn before you were married, this excuse is not valid. Your wife’s sexual reluctance may be a trigger, but it’s not […]
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Today, I want to deal with the lies and excuses we use to avoid dealing with porn. We tell ourselves these things because doing so makes us feel better about not ending our porn use. It’s Not Really Wrong: I’ve had guys try to use the Bible to prove this. But they do so by […]
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Are you a porn again Christian? You’ve stopped a number of times, and just keep falling back into it? First, no condemnation. Second, we can walk away and stay away. Most of us first saw porn before puberty. Maybe we stumbled on it, maybe someone introduced us to it. But for the most part we […]
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You have no doubt heard of the orgasm gap. If you have somehow managed to miss it, the short version is when a man has sex with a woman, he is far more likely to come than she is. Most of the time when this is discussed, the gist of it is this happens because […]
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Recently I said: If your spouse has a need, either you do your best to provide it, or you do not. The first is loving, the second is not. What we often hear when we talk about “needs” is “That’s not a need, it’s a want.” My first thought, which I usually don’t express, is […]
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On Tuesday, I talked about the need to do something. Today I want to talk about a subset of that. There is a group of older Christian men who gather at the local coffee shop when I’m there. I’ve learned to sit where I can’t hear them because they endlessly gripe about pretty much everything. […]
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We’ve talked about how men want to fix things. We are all about action, and doing something makes us feel good about ourselves. So, an honest question: Have you ever been so desperate to do something you did something that was useless, stupid, or destructive? Or is that just me? Actually, I know it’s not […]
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The Holidays are coming, and you can not escape. Neither can your wife. But you can get out ahead of them so they don’t run you down. The time to make choices and hard decisions is now. And the way to do that is as a couple. The holidays are a place where less is […]
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Is your sex life a part of your marriage, or its own thing? Does sex flow through your marriage, or does it just exist when you take it out of its box to enjoy it? When I say flow through your marriage, I don’t mean you’re having sex all over the house any chance you […]
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I’m going to finish torturing the heating and insulation metaphor today by discussing the danger of being spiritually cold. Most of us understand the importance of our spiritual lives. However, accepting the importance and actually doing things to benefit this area are two different things. Because the spiritual is unseen, it is easy to ignore […]
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Last week over on the XY Code I said: As hard as it is for me to say, I have found agreeing is more important than what you think. As long as you both freely think what you agree on, being of one mind will be a good thing for both of you. I was […]
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In the M*A*S*H television series, Major Charles Emerson Winchester III once said: I do one thing at a time, I do it very well, and then I move on. It’s a nice sentiment, but it’s not always possible. What’s more, it’s not always wise. If you haven’t caught on, Lori and I are doing some […]
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Yesterday at church, I did a sermon talking, in part, about the liturgy and practices of the church. I did a lot of explaining about why certain things were done. For example, creeds were a way to help illiterate Christians learn the basics of the faith. Creeds hung on long after virtually everyone could read. […]
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