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How long has it been since you had a date with your bride? A lot of marriage experts advocate a weekly date night. If you can do that, great, but for many cost (including babysitting) and time make weekly difficult. So, while more is better, twice a month is enough to get the necessary effect. […]
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A ran across a study that found mental fatigue can lead to increased aggression and uncooperative behaviour due to changes in the brain’s frontal cortex. This would explain why I have to work harder to be nice to Lori when I’ve spent hours doing coding. And why she has the same struggle after doing a […]
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Lori and I keep seeing ads for Georgie & Mandy’s First Marriage. Yes, I know why it’s called that. I still hate the title and what it suggests. That said, I’d like to talk to you about your second marriage. To the woman you currently call your wife. Lori and I have dealt with couples […]
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What might happen if you made a point of doing one small act of kindness for your wife every day? Some might be so small they don’t register with her, but they will add up. She will feel better loved and more accepted. She may not know why she feels that way, but it doesn’t […]
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I know the holidays means low or no sex for some couples. Often the husband wants to, but the wife is too busy. And sometimes they both want more sex, but they’re too tired to make it happen. If you want to try to change that this year, ask your wife what you could do […]
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I’ve mentioned the importance of a couple’s vacation before. And I will do so again. I know you’ve a long list of reasons you can’t possibly do it. I can only counter with this: doing it is very good for your marriage. You need a chance to get away together and be a couple. You […]
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On Tuesday, I talked about being unkind to folks. I talked about the assumptions I made about people’s intelligence, integrity, and decency. And those assumptions are the real problem. I justified my wrong behaviour based on my assumptions. How we treat folks is based on the assumptions we have made about them. How you react […]
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This is not specifically a marriage post. But it is a marriage issue for many. I’ve been aware of the ongoing breakdown of basic civility. This last election cycle certainly did a lot of damage, but we were well down the road before that. Some have suggested social media is to blame. I see plenty […]
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It’s easy to invalidate your wife’s reality. You can do it without meaning to do so, and without having a clue you’ve done it. Her perception may or may not be accurate, but it’s still what she sees and how she feels. Dismissing that makes her feel disrespected, and it’s not good for your marriage. […]
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For women, good sex is all about timing. First, you have to pick a good time to have sex. That means she’s not tired or stressed. It means she has enough time to not feel rushed. And it means you’ve been loving and decent recently. As you move from “do ya wanna?” to climax, timing […]
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When I wrote this a dozen years ago, I said, “There has been a lot of hype about testosterone the last few years. I say hype because the claims have run way ahead of the science.” Science has mostly caught up, so I’ve modified accordingly. There are those who claim testosterone replacement is the next […]
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I got the expected push-back from saying porn is not addictive. I know a lot of Christian groups and some secular ones say it is an addiction. But they base this on something less than solid science. The hard science says it’s not. There is a difference between physical addiction and mental habituation. Porn is […]
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Ever since I stopped making a living doing very physical labour, I’ve struggled with my weight. I like food; I enjoy flavour. A couple of times I have dropped a good deal of weight. And while I’ve not always kept it all off, it’s been fifteen years since I was within 50 pounds of my […]
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I use AI to suggest titles and SEO data for my posts. And every time I put in something about porn, what it kicks back includes the words “porn addiction”. Here’s the thing; porn addiction is not a real thing. Addiction is a word that has a specific meaning, and porn doesn’t check all the […]
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If you want to have great sex, you have to make your bedroom a great place to have sex. So let’s look at some things that make a bedroom sex friendly for a woman: Temperature: Women run cooler than men. If the temperature is good for you, she’s probably cool or cold. And that’s not […]
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In, What do you mean by “need”? I said I felt sorry for anyone living with a spouse who only felt they had to meet needs, not wants. Of course, it’s not that clear in most marriages. We’re happy to give what we like to give, and what’s not too difficult for us to give. […]
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A common excuse for porn use is “I do it because my wife says no to sex”. Or “refuses to do oral” or “won’t have sex with the lights on.” If you looked at porn before you were married, this excuse is not valid. Your wife’s sexual reluctance may be a trigger, but it’s not […]
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Today, I want to deal with the lies and excuses we use to avoid dealing with porn. We tell ourselves these things because doing so makes us feel better about not ending our porn use. It’s Not Really Wrong: I’ve had guys try to use the Bible to prove this. But they do so by […]
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Are you a porn again Christian? You’ve stopped a number of times, and just keep falling back into it? First, no condemnation. Second, we can walk away and stay away. Most of us first saw porn before puberty. Maybe we stumbled on it, maybe someone introduced us to it. But for the most part we […]
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You have no doubt heard of the orgasm gap. If you have somehow managed to miss it, the short version is when a man has sex with a woman, he is far more likely to come than she is. Most of the time when this is discussed, the gist of it is this happens because […]
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