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Welcome back! This week we have Evelyn Mendal who is a mom to two strong-willed, different humans, who are seven and a half years apart. She is a licensed Child and Adolescent Therapist providing individual family therapy and parent coaching with her practice, Hatch and Bloom, which she founded in 2012. Evelyn’s areas of expertise are parenting and child development and she founded Hatch and Bloom as a resource for parents who want to parent with the purpose of raising confident, accepted, and resilient children. Tune in!
In this episode…
Hatch and Bloom Ethos
Stereotyping your Child
Separating Personal Character Traits vs. Describing Behavior
Sibling Dynamics
Creating Opportunities to be Collaborative vs Competitive
Idea of Fairness
Humanizing Emotions
Externalizing Meaning for Kids
Aspects of Co-Parenting with Kids
Perfectionism
Boundaries
Quotes
“The messaging our kids get from the way that they’re treated is how they start to understand who they are” - Evelyn Mendal
“Don’t speak to them as who they are, but rather the behavior that you’re seeing” - Evelyn Mendal
“You don’t have to make everything fair” - Evelyn Mendal
“Kids can handle hard realities, it’s how we deliver it” - Evelyn Mendal
“It wasn’t necessarily the child that needed therapy, it was the parents that needed coaching” - Nikki Spo
“Pretending to show up with a happy face or a pretended happy face is not serving them” - Evelyn Mendal
Timestamps:
0:00 - 0:30 | Reflecting, Letting Go, & Reprogramming ourselves
0:30 - 2:44 | Intro
2:44 - 6:39 | “The way we talk to our Children becomes our inner voice”
6:39 - 7:18 | Having Transparency
7:18 - 9:18 | Falling into Roles
9:18 - 10:21 | Roles in a Family Dynamic
10:21 - 13:13 | Sibling Competitiveness
13:13 - 14:00 | Collaborative vs. Competitive
14:00 - 16:57 | Protecting your Kids Individuality
16:57 - 18:01 | Fairness
18:01 - 24:00 | Acknowledging the Elephant in the Room
24:00 - 25:24 | Internalized vs Externalized Meaning
25:24 - 31:00 | Confident and Capable Attitude with Hard Things
31:00 - 32:25 | One Stable Caregiver
32:25 - 34:38 | Parents Needing Coaching & Kids needing Therapy
34:38 - 35:41 | Learning a New Way to Be in the Face of Triggers
35:41 - 38:45 | Kids Needing to See a Whole Range of Our Feelings
38:45 - 42:00 | Managing Perfectionism
42:00 - 43:30 | “Gentle” Parenting
43:00 - 46:06 | Straight to the Boundary & Cause and Effect
46:06 - 48:43 | Dignity in Parenting
48:43 - 49:32 | Outro
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This week we are hearing from Amanda Kuda who helps ambitious women level up their life, career, and relationships, and say GOODBYE to booze while unbottling your potential. This conversation is aimed to help us take a look at, and maybe even reframe our relationships with alcohol so that we can begin to manifest the life that we truly deserve. Let's jump in!
In this episode…
“Normal” Drinkers vs. Alcoholics
Dry January
Social lubricant & social crutch
SoberCURIOUS
Controlled drinking
Alcohol “pickling”
Disconnection to reality
Benefits of becoming sober
Glowing UP
Quotes
“Everything was checking off the boxes on the outside, and it wasn’t that my inner life was unmanageable because I felt like I was doing okay, but that was the part that made it hard. My life was just okay. It wasn’t unmanageable but it was unfulfilling.” - Amanda Kuda
“When you go from feeling lackluster to having your wildest dreams start to come true because you just started showing up differently, you feel really badass.” - Amanda Kuda
“Quitting alcohol in general has been the glow up of my life.” - Nikki Spo
“Curiosity is not placed on you by accident, so what are you gonna do with it now that you have it?” - Nikki Spo
Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:20 | Intro
3:20 - 5:00 | Amanda’s journey & dry january
5:00 - 9:40 | SoberCURIOUS
9:40 - 14:25 | Sober growth
14:25 - 21:20 | Shame around not drinking
21:20 - 24:50 | Rediscovering your identity
24:50 - 31:20 | Benefits of becoming sober
31:20 - 36:05 | Bad things still occurs
36:05 - 44:40 | Tips
44:40 - 46:31 | Outro
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Welcome back! This week we have Case Kenny, who you likely follow or are at least definitely familiar with his motivational meme style posts on instagram with the white background and red handwriting, dropping hope bombs and truth bombs and beautiful messages for self-actualization and confidence building. Case encourages millions of people to be true to themselves and believe in their worth. Tune in!
In this episode…
Tethered to your WHY
Your mission
Hope
Spreading the word
Pain into power
Glowing UP
Point of view
Get what you WANT or get what you NEED
Quotes
“I would rather be the guy who shares his feelings online is too sensitive than being the person who is clout chasing.” - Case Kenny
“I think that there's such a redemption arc from pain and frustration.” - Case Kenny
“The only way through is through. The healing process is not linear and it is not quick” - Nikki Spo
“Healing isn’t about forgetting someone else, it's about remembering yourself.” - Case Kenny
Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:50 | Intro
2:50 - 7:10 | The mission
7:10 - 10:20 | Tethered to your WHY
10:20 - 15:05 | Staying positive
15:05 - 18:00 | Spreading the word
18:00 - 20:15 | Online hate
20:15 - 22:40 | “They lost you and you got finer, happier, and even more magnetic”
22:40 - 24:10 | Healing
24:10 - 31:00 | Opinions
31:00 - 37:35 | Yes or no
37:35 - 40:40 | If you’re not changing, you’re choosing
40:40 - 42:40 | Get what you WANT or get what you NEED
42:40 - 49:25 | “What people think is the bag”
49:25 - 50:53 | Outro
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Welcome back to Part 2 with Jocelyn Sandstrom. Tune in!
In this episode…
Stuck in indecision
Inner power
Your story
Manifestation
Leveling UP
Feeling the feels
Quotes
“I believe that indecision is a core belief system of not knowing yourself. I think that when you know yourself, you already know the answers.” - Nikki Spo
“As long as you don’t get stuck in the disappointment, you can harvest the learnings, pivot, and then you can turn it into your superpower.” - Jocelyn Sandstrom
Timestamps:
0:00 - 4:00 | Intro
4:00 - 11:50 | Making a decision
11:50 - 21:30 | Attachment to your story
21:30 - 26:55 | Manifestation
26:55 - 30:43 | Outro
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Welcome back everyone. This week we have a very magical human joining us, Jocelyn Sandstrom, who specializes in quantum energy, neuro linguistic programming, and neurological reprogramming. She is the founder of Wellness and Metaphysical, which is a community driven platform that promotes a higher level of consciousness through expos and retreats. This is a gem right here so let's get going with Jocelyn!
In this episode…
How we define ourselves
Inner power vs. circumstantial power
Teaching and learning resilience
EMDR
Changing neuro-pathways
Reprogramming old behaviors/thought processes
Generational programming
Creating emotional stability
Becoming a “generator”
Gene Keys
Quotes
“The answers are always within us. We keep looking on the outside, but it's always been within us. The more we get to know ourselves, the more we get to live our most authentic truth.” - Jocelyn Sandstrom
“You need to ask yourself, how do I feel my inner power and not my circumstantial power.” - Jocelyn Sandstrom
“How do we courage a human being, like our children, to shift from what was to what can be, because these neurological pathways are difficult to break.” - Nikki Spo
Timestamps:
0:00 - 4:10 | Intro
4:10 - 7:05 | Jocelyn’s journey
7:05 - 11:35 | Looking within
11:35 - 20:15 | Changing the narrative
20:15 - 27:45 | Breaking down quantum energy
27:45 - 29:05 | Manifestation
29:05 - 30:14 | Outro
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Whats up my friends and welcome back! This week we are welcoming back a man we know and love who has helped so many individuals as a dating coach, Evan Marc Katz. He specializes in helping smart, successful, women create lasting love. The last episode we talked about the dating game which you should DEFINITELY check out, but this week we are talking about relationships… let's get started!
In this episode…
Adult romance
Relationships goals
Honesty
Optimism
Online dating
Safe, heard, and understood
Confidence
Quotes
“Dating for some people is such a shitshow but online and off. So sometimes it's really hard for people to break through and feel special when we have created these systems of online dating apps where we basically dehumanize everybody to be products.” - Evan Marc Katz
“Good qualities come with bad qualities.” - Evan Marc Katz
“If I am going to be with a man for a long period of time, then I do not need to rush into anything.” - Nikki Spo
“No man is real until he is your boyfriend. He is just hope, fantasy, projection, and potential.” - Evan Marc Katz
“If you don’t have confidence, nothing works. It is the umbrella in which everything resigns.” - Evan Marc Katz
Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:20 | Intro
3:20 - 7:05 | Adult romance
7:05 - 8:55 | Creating your own paradigm
8:55 - 11:25 | Honesty
11:25 - 13:10 | Optimism
13:10 - 17:40 | Online dating
17:40 - 27:00 | Good qualities come with bad qualities
27:00 - 32:26 | Dealing with uncertainty
32:32 - 36:15 | Being present while keeping an eye on the future
36:15 - 41:30 | Compromise
41:30 - 45:55 | Collaboration
45:55 - 47:25 | Handling conflict
47:25 - 52:10 | Having the hard convos
52:10 - 58:20 | Recommendations for dealing with self doubt
58:20 - 1:00:25 | What makes relationships last
1:00:25 - 1:02:27 | Outro
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Jamie Ruiz is back for more. If you don’t already know, Jamie is my Lifey….For Lifey. This week we talking about spirituality and co-creation and how we each became expert manifestos and magical AF. It was a weird, wonky road but WE HERE NOW!
Tune in!
In this episode…
The evolution of spiritual experiences
No religion or belief judgment
Co-creation of life
Demanding control
Freedom
A power greater than yourself
Traditional & non-traditional beliefs
Different connections
Quotes
“There's no shade of what you believe in. You believe in what you want to believe in.” - Nikki Spo
“What Gd was to me before is what the universe is to me now.” - Jamie Ruiz
“The universe is not something outside of me. It is me, it’s within me, and it is without me.” - Jamie Ruiz
“I think that the miracles and catastrophes that we experience here are hellish and heavenly.” - Nikki Spo
“I believe that we’re all communicating and connecting to the same Gd, we just have different language, different ways of connecting, different relationship dynamics to it, and different organizations to do that through and if we could stop judging each other for whose is right and whose is wrong, we would be living in more of a heaven than a hell.” - Jamie Ruiz
Timestamps:
0:00 - 1:20 | Intro
1:20 - 20:30 | The evolution of Jamie’s spiritual experiences
20:30 - 32:05 | The evolution of Nikki’s spiritual experiences
32:05 - 34:00 | Hellish & heavenly
34:00 - 35:00 | Studying religion
35:00 - 36:35 | No right or wrong beliefs
36:35 - 37:43 | Outro
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Welcome back to The Know! This week we have Lauren Brill joining us for a powerful conversation. Lauren has fearlessly told her story of sexual assault and has dedicated her career to creating a space through writing and poetry to amplify healing journeys through relationships, trauma, discrimination, addiction, mental health, illness, and grief with the goal of inspiring thousands of individuals to discover their superpowers so that they can live fulfilling lives.
In this episode…
Sexual assault
Haters
Facing the bullies
Becky Hammond outworking folks at NBA summer league
The power of storytelling
Mind & body connections
The power of hope
Secrecy
Quotes
“Part of what I try to do with people is make sure that through storytelling we see the humanity in everyone.” - Lauren Brill
“Once I started talking about my traumas being okay with my position, is when the awakening really, really happened for me.” - Nikki Spo
“Once I got through the anger, then I was able to be like, oh, I'm the toughest bitch I know.” - Nikki Spo
“Your body remembers what your mind forgets. And if you don't heal the mind, you'll feel it in your body.” - Lauren Brill
Timestamps:
0:00 - 4:45 | Intro
4:45 - 10:25 | Connections (NBA)
10:25 - 15:30 | Standing up for yourself
15:30 - 19:00 | The Unsealed
19:00 - 25:36 | Pushing through the hardships
25:36 - 28:30 | Shared community
28:30 - 34:50 | Secrecy & hope
34:50 - 40:30 | Lauren’s writing story
40:30 - 43:00 | Speaking up
43:00 - 44:55 | It’s all worth it
44:55 - 46:21 | Outro
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Welcome back to PART 2 with the STUD of all studs, Jackson Hightower. Enjoy!
In this episode…
Being a team
Healthy sex life
Discipline
Foreplay
A CLEAN space to be DIRTY
Respect
Divine masculinity & femininity
Does size matter?!
Quotes
“A lot of us do attach our self worth to what we are able to produce and what we do for a living and the outcome.” - Nikki Spo
“If you’re not a disciplined human, I just don’t think that you’re exercising your full potential.” - Jackson Hightower
“We're here as humans so that the universe can express itself through us and whatever skills we have.” - Jackson Hightower
Timestamps:
0:00 - 4:25 | Intro
4:25 - 8:10 | Healthy relationship sex life
8:10 - 12:20 | Discipline for men
12:20 - 17:15 | Foreplay
17:15 - 21:15 | The sacredness of intimacy
21:15 - 25:40 | Respect
25:40 - 28:20 | Men need to be leaders
28:20 - 29:15 | Does size matter?!
29:15 - 31:40 | Smaller and harder? Or bigger and not as hard?
31:40 - 33:00 | STD test
33:00 - 34:05 | D**k pics?!
34:05 - 37:00 | Communication
37:00 - 38:25 | Outro
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It’s getting hot in here. Are your hips all stretched out? Are you ready? Bc this week we have Jackson Hightower joining us… and girly pops, you need to hear thisssss.
Jackson Hightower is a pioneer in redefining masculinity. He advocates for a holistic and fulfilling approach to male sexuality. This is a two part series so in Part 1 we are chatting about being a content creator in our respective spaces and then we go real… um… deep when it comes to porn’s impact on men and relationships.
Send this to your boo. BOO.
In this episode…
Expectations for public personalities
Haters & negativity
Parasocial reality
Semen retention and… WHYYYYY TF would anyone do that
Porn’s impact on men and their intimate performance
Addiction to watching porn
Quotes
“If you are continuously releasing multiple times a day you are getting rid of your life force energetically, it's your power.” - Jackson Hightower
“Guys are addicted to porn. It's an addiction and it's nasty because you can’t see it.” - Jackson Hightower
“The most difficult part for people who have an addiction problem is delaying the gratification and then continuing to delay the gratification and stay in the moment.” - Nikki Spo
“When it comes to addiction you lose your power, and your life force, and creative drive, and your edge.” - Jackson Hightower
Timestamps:
0:00 - 4:30 | Intro
4:30 - 8:05 | Expectations
8:05 - 10:45 | Social media haters
10:45 - 13:30 | How Nikki & Jackson met
13:30 - 14:45 | Parasocial reality
14:45 - 20:51 | Jackson's buildup
20:51 - 23:20 | Energy release & preservation
23:30 - 29:35 | Freedom from porn
29:35 - 34:30 | How to bring up the porn addiction to your partner
34:30 - 39:00 | Swallowing your pride
39:00 - 40:37 | Outro
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I am so excited to host the goddess herself Jayne Gottlieb. She is Aspen Shakti's owner
and founder and the creator of Shakti Method. She and I are talking about SHAKTI
ENERGY: what it means, the fact that you have it and how you can harness it, live it,
love it, and let it guide you home to your inner goddess so that you can walk in the
physical world with that gorgeous, potent, powerful, feminine, female presence.
In this episode...
● Shakti energy
● Anxiety & Fear
● Courage
● Next right step
● The illusion of self
● Sharing your gift
● Rebalancing
Quotes
“I've come to define shakti as the divine creative energy of the universe. Shakti is alive,
luminous and desirable. It’s that inner magnetism, that inner sparkle, that inner thing
that we can't quite touch, but we can see it and smell it and hear it in the way that
people speak.” - Jayne Gottlieb
“I think a lot of us long to feel at home within any space. Not from an egotistical
standpoint where we want other people to notice it in us, but for us to realize it within
ourselves.” - Nikki Spo
“Shakti is walking the talk of what is the truth of your soul.” - Jayne Gottlieb
Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:40 | Intro
3:40 - 8:45 | What is shakti energy?
8:45 - 13:05 | Times without shakti energy
13:05 - 16:00 | Open and honest conversations
16:00 - 17:25 | God is a woman
17:25 - 19:40 | Shifting responses
19:40 - 21:30 | Marianne Williamson
21:30 - 24:55 | Why is shakti so dormant
24:55 - 26:30 | Sharing your gift
26:30 - 29:30 | Rebalancing
29:30 - 31:00 | The responsibility to be yourself
31:00 - 34:20 | Life force energy
34:20 - 41:05 | Aspen shakti
41:05 - 44:42 | Outro
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This week I am spearheading a LOADED conversation with Lauren LaRusso About ROMANTIC AFFAIRS 😐
We are here to talk about all the things that no one wants to talk about… and we are going to answer the questions that have probably crossed your mind when it comes to ROMANTIC AFFAIRS.
Lauren is a psychotherapist specializing in marital affairs. She has helped countless individuals and couples process the unexpected and inalterable impact of infidelity on their lives. Let’s jump right in!
In this episode…
Inflection points
Seeing the signs
The TRUTH behind infidelity
Shame, silence, & secrecy
Non monogamy
Entitlement, vulnerability, boundaries
Quotes
“As betrayed spouses, we become complicit sometimes because we adjust our expectations based on the slow creep of changes in our partner.” - Lauren LaRusso
“As humans, we always want what we can’t have.” - Lauren LaRusso
“You have to be hyper vigilant for yourself. You need to be connected and in tune to yourself enough to be looking outside and sending the signals of unavailability of loyalty to your primary relationship.” - Lauren LaRusso
“I would recommend handling your shit as soon as you possibly can.” - Lauren LaRusso
“I think that the affair itself removes the power of choice for the person who doesn’t know about it.” - Nikki Spo
Timestamps:
0:00 - 6:00 | Intro
6:00 - 9:40 | Does everyone have a role in affairs?
9:40 - 11:15 | Inflection points
11:15 - 15:00 | Laurens background
15:00 - 18:20 | Shame, silence, & secrecy
18:20 - 19:40 | Ethical or consensual non monogamy
19:40 - 22:15 | Secrecy can be enticing
22:15 - 27:30 | The main reasons affairs occur
27:30 - 32:55 | The betrayed spouse
32:55 - 36:00 | Can marriages be saved after affairs?
36:00 - 38:00 | How do we get to being happy?
38:00 - 41:05 | Making a choice for YOURSELF
41:05 - 43:50 | Forgiveness & unavailability
43:50 - 46:45 | Being strung along
46:45 - 49:25 | The power of choice
49:25 - 51:35 | Honesty & integrity
51:35 - 54:30 | People who stay in their marriages
54:30 - 57:11 | Outro
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Jamie Lee Ruiz is BACK, baby, and this time we are talking about… AGE DIFFERENCES IN RELATIONSHIPS LFG 👀
In this episode…
The ”50 shades of grey” guys
Open communication
Safety
Inappropriate age gaps and what makes them inappropriate…
When age gaps are good
Settling into adulthood
The magic of being young, wild, and free
Losing your light and reclaiming it.
Quotes
“Women have to get a lot more comfortable in their own skin to understand what they want, what they like, and what they expect.” - Nikki Spo
“Men don’t know what they don’t know. They don’t know what you like or what you want if you don’t say it.” - Jamie Lee Ruiz
“I had to grow up very quickly and because of that I’ve learned that children should never be placed in adult roles. Parents sometimes emotionally dump on their children when it's not a child's responsibility to hold the emotional or physical capacity or weight of an adult.” - Nikki Spo
“There are men that have healing to do and either don’t know that they have to do it, or don’t want to do it and so it’s easier to get a young woman who is easily manipulated or molded that isn’t going to challenge them to grow.” - Jamie Lee Ruiz
Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:05 | Intro
3:05 - 7:30 | The 50 shades of grey guys
7:30 - 9:00 | Open communication
9:00 - 10:30 | Age differences
10:30 - 12:35 | A sense of maturity
12:35 - 13:55 | Emotional and physical parenting as a child
13:55 - 21:43 | What age is the age gap okay?
21:43 - 24:35 | Jamie’s POV on age differences
24:35 - 26:45 | Dating older men
26:45 - 30:30 | Young women
30:30 - 34:05 | Losing your light
34:05 - 36:10 | Do we still love older men?
36:10 - 39:35 | What does dating look like with kids?
39:35 - | Outro
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What is up my friends and welcome back to The Know! Today we have Marni Battista who is the founder of Dating with Dignity and the Institute for Living Courageously. Marni is one of those women who is walking the talk, she's just doin it all! We have so much to cover today but some of the heavy hitting topics you can expect from this episode is dating after divorce in today's complex social environment, were talking about why women date unavailable men, and how we can move away from suffering through unfulfilling relationships and into relationships that are fulfilling, love centered, want based, happy, and safe. With that, let's get started!
I also have some exciting news to share…I know first hand the power of community and shared experience and I am so honored to announce that I have created an online women's community where we talk about all of life's topics. In my group Becoming HER, we are striving to become the best versions of ourselves and realize that SHE is ME and that we can become the her of our highest desires. I have a special promotion for my podcast audience and I want to welcome you all to becoming her where we will do great things together!
In this episode…
Self worth
Shame & embarrassment
Dating with DIGNITY
Dating from a place of insecurity
True self love
Your soul's journey
Core values & Non-negotiables
NOT being a pick me
Quotes
“Dating with dignity is waking up the next day feeling great about yourself. It's about not taking rejection personally, it's about having an abundant life, it's about setting boundaries and acting on the behalf of your highest self and knowing your value.” - Marni Battista
“In this new dating scene post divorce I have had to rediscover who I am as a single woman and what I want in a new relationship moving forward.” - Nikki Spo
“If you have dignity, self worth, and self respect and you have the actual tools to communicate appropriately, dating is actually kind of fun.” - Marni Battista
“At this point in my life, men now are competing with my peace. I love myself so much and so if somebody else loves me, that's just icing on the cake” - Nikki Spo
“You’re creating your soul's journey for a reason, wake up and listen. - Marni Battista
“People tend to rule out before they rule in and my invitation is to rule in before you rule out. Let a guy rule himself out.” - Marni Battista
Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:55 | Intro
3:55 - 5:35 | What is Dating with Dignity
5:35 - 10:05 | What damages our dignity
10:05 - 15:15 | Finding your self worth
15:15 - 19:25 | Learning the lessons
19:25 - 21:17 | Deep reflection
21:17 - 27:05 | Core values & Non-negotiables
27:05 - 30:40 | The checklist
30:40 - 33:45 | Re-entering the dating world
33:45 - 37:00 | NOT being a pick me
37:00 - 42:50 | Living courageously
42:50 - 45:00 | Outro
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Welcome back to part 2 with Dr. Kat Vigo. Today we are talking about the thing no one really talks about: sex after you have a baby… Tune in to find out more!
In this episode…
Sex life after a baby
Societal pressures
Perception vs. reality
Progesterone & estrogen
FOREPLAYYYYYYY FTW
A healthy vagina :)
Health concerns
Quotes
“Returning to intimacy after having a baby does not necessitate penetration and everyone thinks that.” - Dr. Kat Vigo
“There are plenty of reasons why a postpartum vagina is not set up for success sexually.” - Dr. Kat Vigo
“Our brains are largely rewired during and after pregnancy and it’s 100% focused on keeping that new baby alive.” - Dr. Kat Vigo
“We as women should be having the best sex of our lives throughout our lives.” - Nikki Spo
“The more we talk about these things the more people are able to ultimately come home to themselves, to feel happy and secure in their bodies and minds, and so that they can go and thrive and be the best versions of themselves.”
Timestamps:
0:00 - 1:25 - | Intro
1:25 - 2:50 | Sex after having a baby
2:50 - 4:35 | Societal / male pressure
4:35 - 5:40 | Postpartum changes
5:40 - 9:45 | Progesterone & estrogen
9:45 - 13:20 | A healthy vagina for intercourse
13:20 - 16:46 | Rest & digest postpartum
16:46 - 21:55 | Do vaginas go back to normal?
21:55 - 24:20 | Making sense out of a postpartum vagina
24:20 - 28:15 | Health concerns
28:15 - 29:20 | Hope & healing
29:20 - 31:50 | What holds women back from having these hard convos
31:50 - 34:13 | Outro
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Welcome back fam to PART 2 of Divorce & Co-parenting with Michelle Dempsey-Multack. If you have not checked out part 1 it is sooo good. Anybody who is going through a divorce or separation or if you know somebody who is, I highly recommend you checking out part 1. Today we are getting started with part 2 so let's do this!
In this episode…
Rediscovering what you like and who you are
Becoming a better parent
Guilt vs. shame
Social media hate
Creating your own identity
Finding your co-parenting groove
Introducing new partners to your children
Quotes
“You gotta make sure you’re with somebody you want and not somebody you need.” - Michelle Dempsey-Multack
“Co-parenting is underrated, it's made me a better parent.” - Nikki Spo
“You really have to understand the difference between guilt and shame. Are you guilty of doing something bad or do you feel ashamed because somewhere along the line you believed you weren’t allowed to have your own identity as a mother or a person.” - Michelle Dempsey-Multack
“Social media has become so black and white but when it comes to divorce you have to live in the gray. Get comfortable in the gray as a co-parent because that's your life” - Michelle Dempsey-Multack
“What good co-parenting is is supporting your child's relationship with the other parent, staying in your lane and letting them be the parent they need to be, and following your parenting plan. It doesn’t need to be more difficult than that.” - Michelle Dempsey-Multack
Timestamps:
0:00 - 1:25 | Intro
1:25 - 6:05 | Staying empowered
6:05 - 11:40 | Co-parenting is UNDERRATED
11:40 - 21:05 | Addressing social media hate
21:05 - 25:55 | Finding your co-parenting groove
25:55 - 30:15 | The importance of introducing new partners to your children
30:15 - 32:33 | Outro
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Fam fam. This week we are joined by Michelle Dempsey-Multack who has helped me come to my own sense of deep inner knowing as a divorced woman and co-parenting mother.
Michelle is a certified divorce and co-parenting specialist, a best selling author of “Moms Moving On,” and is an educator for divorce coaches. She is known for her ability to inspire and empower moms through their divorce and co-parenting journeys.
This is a two part series you don’t want to miss out on.
In this episode…
Not repeating patterns
Explaining co-parenting to children
Moms moving on
Putting the children first
Seeing past the pain
Modifying vs. enabling
Quotes
“We paint people to be the villains and we want to be the victim ourselves because it’s so much easier.” - Michelle Dempsey Multack
“My mission is to keep the child at the center and not put them in the middle.” - Michelle Dempsey Multack
“The parenting plan is not for the parents and that’s what everyone forgets.” - Michelle Dempsey Multack
“To see parents who might not have been as involved during the marriage show the f*** up and rally in parenthood is truly amazing.” - Nikki Spo
Timestamps:
0:00 - 5:30 | Intro
5:30 - 9:30 | Michelle’s divorce journey
9:30 - 11:10 | Separating
11:10 - 14:44 | Explaining co-parenting to children
14:44 - 16:35 | Moms moving on
16:35 - 19:40 | Keeping your child in the center and not the middle
19:40 - 21:05 | Helping people see past the pain
21:05 - 24:20 | Modifying expectations
24:20 - 28:25 | Mom & dad
28:25 - 29:34 | Outro
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What’s up fam! I am sooo excited to share some news with you guys. I am going to be hosting a mastermind with my good friend Jamie Ruiz this Friday, August 2nd at 12pm EST. Jamie is a manifestation and life coach and is now helping thousands of women achieve their life goals and dreams.
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Now for today's episode of The Know, we have Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri and I diving deep into narcissism and its effects within a family dynamic. Tune in to find out more!
In this episode…
Family roles
The Golden Child
Narcissism legacies
The Scapegoat Child
IFS & EMDR
The Peacekeeper Child
The Personal Assistant Child
The Invisible Child
The Truth Seer & Truth Teller Children
The Adherent Child
Quotes
“You can not have an identity for yourself if you want to be a part of a family that is narcissistic.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
“I feel that narcissists would like to believe they are immortal. Cognitively they know they are going to die so they need somebody who can continue their legacy which falls onto a child.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
“The scapegoat children are most likely to wind up as victims in relationships and are prime to be a partner of a narcissist because of their upbringing.” - Nikki Spo
“Let’s not keep revisiting the trauma. Let's really heal from the emotions that the trauma left behind.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
“The peacekeeper child becomes a people pleaser and learns to put themselves last and never take care of themselves.” - Nikki Spo
“We should not be placing adult responsibilities, emotional or physical, on children.” - Nikki Spo
Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:45 | Mastermind
2:45 - 4:35 | Intro
4:35 - 9:00 | Family roles
9:00 - 13:25 | The Golden Child
13:25 - 20:15 | The Scapegoat Child
20:15 - 25:30 | Trauma from family origin & IFS
25:30 - 29:15 | The Peacekeeper Child
29:15 - 32:10 | The Personal Assistant Child
32:10 - 35:05 | The Invisible Child
35:05 - 41:25 | The Truth Seer & Truth Teller Children
41:25 - 43:00 | The Adherent Child
43:00 - 46:35 | Moving away from making choices out of habit
46:35 - 49:07 | Outro
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What is up fam! Today I am welcoming back Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri who we have heard from a few times now on the topic of narcissism. This is part three of a multi-part series in which Dr. Rachna and I are discussing the topic of narcissism. I am really honored to be able to chat with an expert like her and today we are going to be answering some of the spicy Q & A’s that have been sent in after our first two initial episodes. Let’s jump right in!
In this episode…
Rigid personality traits
Vulnerable narcissism
Insecurity, shame, rage
Narcissism with a friend
Narcissistic boss
Setting boundaries for YOURSELF
Victimizing
Co-parenting with a narcissist
Building a sense of self
Quotes
“Not everybody who’s divorcing a narcissist knows that the person is narcissistic.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
“A lot of narcissistic characteristics are reinforced by society.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
“Narcissism inherently comes from insecurity, insecurity brings shame, and shame takes a form of rage.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
“There is no way to have a healthy relationship with a narcissist.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
“I think it takes a lot of self-reflection to ask yourself what you are really longing for in friendships and in general. Ask yourself what gives your life meaning, what gives your life purpose, and what makes you feel happy and fulfilled out of your interpersonal relationships.” - Nikki Spo
“The boundaries you set are really for yourself and not for them.” - Nikki Spo
“You have to not exist to be a part of these narcissistic relationships.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:00 | Intro
3:00 - 4:50 | How do narcissists react to divorce?
4:50 - 7:30 | Therapy with a narcissist
7:30 - 10:15 | How to treat someone with narcissistic personality traits
10:15 - 12:20 | Self confidence
12:20 - 15:45 | Insecurity, shame, rage
15:45 - 18:30 | Experiencing narcissism with a friend
18:30 - 21:30 | Setting boundaries for YOURSELF
21:30 - 26:55 | A narcissistic boss
26:55 - 28:10 | The word “charming”
28:10 - 32:15 | Victimizing
32:15 - 35:30 | How do you deal with narcissists who body shame you
35:30 - 40:15 | What is it like to co-parent with a narcissist
40:15 - 47:45 | How to get a narcissist to apologize
47:45 - 49:28 | Outro
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Welcome backkkk ladies and gents- I am so excited to host somebody who I have worked with for a long time and who has become one of my close friends over these past few years, Dr. Kat Vigo.
Dr. Kat is the founder of Painless Pregnancy, which provides physical therapy to women throughout every stage of their motherhood journeys. Dr. Kat earned a bachelors and doctorate of physical therapy degrees from the University of Florida and has worked in the hospital setting for the first decade of her career. Get ready because we are going to talk about it ALL!
In this episode…
Having a painless pregnancy
Changing the pregnancy narrative
Pitocin and inducing labor
Postpartum mental health
Pregnancy awareness
Healing our female bodies
Giving moms hope
Quotes
“For a pregnant body, we should have the same expectations that a man does. You can be fit and healthy and do what you wanna do while being pregnant.” - Dr. Kat Vigo
“A female body is made to grow a baby.” - Dr. Kat Vigo
“If you’re experiencing postpartum anxiety or depression you are in this dark cloud that you don’t even know you’re in.” - Nikki Spo
“When it comes to a first time post pregnancy experience, you don’t know what you don’t know until you figure it out or until somebody tells you, and that's no one's fault.” - Nikki Spo
“I think that when women and men and parents in general are more informed they can make better decisions about their future and their birth plans.” - Nikki Spo
Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:15 | Intro
3:15 - 7:40 | Can pregnancy really be painless?
7:40 - 10:40 | Alleviating discomforts
10:40 - 17:25 | Pitocin
17:25 - 22:20 | Kat’s birthing experience
22:20 - 25:35 | Postpartum
23:35 - 31:45 | How to heal our female bodies
31:45 - 35:25 | Disassociating from your vagina postpartum
35:25 - 43:45 | A correct way to push for vaginal deliveries
43:45 - 45:20 | Involving the baby daddies
45:20 - 51:55 | When to start physical therapy after delivering a baby
51:55 - 53:22 | Outro
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