Episodit
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Taking a Podcast Break: Self-Acceptance & Self-Worth
Patricia announces that she will be taking a break from the podcast. She discusses the challenges of OCD and attachment injuries in relationships and shares tools that have been helpful for her, such as identifying wants, needs, desires, and expectations. She also talks about the importance of rupture and repair work in therapy and coaching relationships. Patricia expresses gratitude to all the listeners, and emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and self-worth.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
Taking breaks for self-care and healing is important, even in professional endeavors.
Identifying wants, needs, desires, and expectations can help navigate relationships and attachment injuries.
Rupture and repair work in therapy and coaching relationships can strengthen the therapeutic alliance.
Self-acceptance and self-worth are essential for personal growth and well-being.
Sound Bites
"I'm going to be taking a break from the podcast."
"We struggle, especially if you're neurodivergent, if you're autistic, if you identify as a highly sensitive person."
"I can regulate on my own and I am able to stay connected."
Chapters please allow for the addition of the introduction
00:00 Taking a Break for Healing and Self-Care
02:16 Navigating Relationships and Attachment Injuries
04:10 Tools for Identifying Wants, Needs, Desires, and Expectations
09:41 The Challenges of Containing Emotions in Relationships
15:04 The Power of Rupture and Repair in Therapy and Coaching
20:37 Embracing Self-Acceptance and Self-Worth
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/
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Attachment Injuries and OCD: The Healing Continues
Summary
Patricia discusses her experience with OCD and attachment injuries while Jen, is on vacation. She explores her fears and insecurities about asking for support and needing connection. Patricia reflects on the importance of consistent communication and creating containers to improve nervous system regulation. She also delves into her childhood experiences of feeling invisible and not belonging, and how this impacts current relationships.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
· Consistent communication and connection can help soothe attachment injuries and provide a sense of security.
· It's important to ask for support and express your needs, even if it feels uncomfortable or vulnerable.
· Childhood experiences of feeling invisible or not belonging can impact current relationships, but healing and corrective experiences are possible.
· Managing medication and mood during challenging times requires self-awareness and flexibility.
· Sensitivity is nothing to apologize for, and everyone has the right to take up space and ask for what they need.
Ways to navigate attachment injuries and related OCD
· Acknowledge and accept personal wounds and trauma.
· Establish consistent connections with a supportive individual.
· When possible, engage in regular communication to ease nervous system and promote relaxation.
· Reflect on past experiences to differentiate from current relationships.
· Practice self-awareness and internal reflection.
· Identify personal needs and communicate them.
· Let go of expectations and embrace uncertainty
· Challenge negative thoughts and OCD lies.
· Stay present and focused on current tasks.
· Acknowledge intrusive thoughts without acting on them.
· Engage in corrective work to address attachment injuries.
· Cultivate a sense of security and belonging through consistent connections.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Context
01:29 Navigating OCD and Attachment Injuries
08:05 The Importance of Consistent Communication
20:38 Healing Childhood Wounds in Relationships
26:08 Managing Medication and Mood
29:18 Embracing Sensitivity and Taking Up Space
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/
Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6
Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4
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Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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Annoyance & Acceptance: Managing Emotions in Friendships
Jen and Patricia discuss the importance of naming and accepting emotions, including annoyance, as well as the challenges of communication and managing expectations in their friendship. They share personal experiences and strategies for navigating difficult feelings, emphasizing the value of patience and trust in their conversations. They discuss concepts like nonviolent communication and the impact of attachment wounds on relationships.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
Patricia and Jen discuss their recent experiences with physical activity and the importance of setting realistic expectations. They explore the tendency to have all-or-nothing thinking and the need for flexibility and self-compassion. Patricia shares her recent experiences with medication and managing her OCD symptoms. In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss Patricia's experience with OCD and how it affects her relationships. They explore the challenges of managing dysregulation and the importance of communication and authenticity in navigating difficult emotions. They also touch on the impact of past traumas on current relationships and the need for self-compassion and setting boundaries. The conversation highlights the importance of accepting and expressing emotions and the value of being honest about one's limitations.
Takeaways
Setting realistic expectations and being flexible is important when trying new activities.
Naming and accepting emotions is crucial for self-awareness and healthy relationships.
Communication and managing expectations are key in maintaining strong friendships.
Medication can be helpful in managing symptoms, but self-awareness and self-compassion are also important. OCD can manifest in different ways, such as excessive worry and fear of harm to loved ones.
Managing dysregulation can be challenging, and reaching out for support is important.
Authenticity and open communication are key in navigating difficult emotions and maintaining healthy relationships.
It's important to recognize and address past traumas that may impact current relationships.
Setting boundaries and being honest about one's limitations is crucial for self-care and maintaining healthy relationships.
Sound Bites
· "I went kickboxing. Yes, it was so much fun."
· "Finding ways to really lower the bar to just get my body there."
· "Are there ways that you can create a little bit more flexibility and options so that your life works for you?"
· "I worry every morning that my husband, you know, is dead."
· "I felt very disconnected from you, like everything just felt meh."
· "I wonder if you remembered about recording and you didn't say anything about recording."
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Kickboxing Experience
01:54 Setting Realistic Expectations and Lowering the Bar
04:15 Embracing Emotions and Practicing Self-Compassion
06:16 Communication and Expectations in Friendships
08:43 Managing Symptoms: Medication and Self-Awareness
20:43 Dysregulation and Feeling Disconnected
24:47 Navigating Uncertainty and Hurt Feelings
29:26 Being Present and Authentic in Relationships
33:18 Addressing Past Traumas and Setting Boundaries
40:13 The Importance of Honesty and Saying No
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Diane Poole-Heller: https://dianepooleheller.com/
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/
Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6
Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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The Importance of Self-Regulation, Self-Compassion and Connection
Patricia discusses her feelings of annoyance and disappointment when her scheduled recording with Jen is cancelled. The conversation highlights the complexities of managing emotions and maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships. She also discusses her experience of transitioning from an expansive state to a contractive state and the challenges that come with it. She talks about managing dysregulation, the impact of trauma work and OCD, and the importance of self-compassion.
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
Patricia explores her attachment style, OCD, and preoccupation with Jen, as well as her efforts to regulate her nervous system. Patricia also reflects on the challenges that arise from the different ways she and Jen navigate time and commitments. She emphasizes the importance of self-regulation and the need for connection in her relationship with Jen. Overall,
Takeaways
· Different individuals have different attachment styles and ways of navigating time and commitments.
· Self-regulation is important for managing emotions and maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships.
· Open communication and understanding can help navigate challenges in relationships.
· Recognizing and challenging OCD lies can prevent spiraling into negative thought patterns.
· Transitioning between expansive and contractive states is a normal part of being human.
· Managing dysregulation and finding ways to self-soothe are important during contractive states.
· Trauma work and OCD can add additional challenges to the process.
· Self-compassion and acceptance of all emotions and experiences are crucial.
· Validation and support from others can help navigate difficult times.
· Fears and anxieties as a parent are valid and should be acknowledged and addressed.
Sound Bites
"I'm annoyed and I'm disappointed."
"I have a need to be, feel like we've got autonomy over things."
"Timeliness, making commitments about things often are more challenging for her."
"I noticed probably about a week ago, I went into what I call an expansive state."
"I know that I do not maintain this expansive state and that at some point I will drop back into a contractive state."
"It felt nice to go into this very expansive space and I could feel myself kind of dropping down out of it."
Chapters
Navigating Attachment Styles and Time Management
Uncertainty and Preoccupation in Relationships
Challenging OCD Lies and Managing Emotions
Communication and Understanding in Relationships
Navigating the Expansive and Contractive States
Managing Dysregulation and Self-Soothing
Challenges of Trauma Work and OCD
The Power of Self-Compassion
Validating Fears and Anxieties
Finding Support and Acceptance
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/
Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6
Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4
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e-mail-- [email protected]
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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Navigating Reconnection after Rupture: Messiness Is a Healthy Part of Relationships
Patricia and Jen discuss the challenges of reconnecting after a rupture in their relationship. They explore the fear of not being able to get back to normal and the desire for rupture and repair in significant relationships. They also discuss the importance of authenticity, setting boundaries, and being clear about needs and expectations. They touch on topics such as OCD, panic attacks, and the process of growth and transformation.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their current emotional states and the challenges they are facing. They explore topics such as discomfort, identity, accuracy in sharing personal experiences, and the process of unmasking. They also touch on the importance of honoring individual processes and the impact of communication and responsiveness in relationships. Patricia shares her experiences with OCD and the need for connection, while Jen reflects on the need for self-care and exploring new directions. Overall, the conversation highlights the importance of self-awareness, authenticity, and growth.
Takeaways
· Honor your own process and don't feel pressured to share or show up in a certain way.
· Recognize the impact of communication and responsiveness in relationships.
· Embrace self-awareness and explore new directions for personal growth.
· Practice authenticity and unmasking to find joy and connection. Reconnecting after a rupture in a relationship can be challenging and may require starting over to rebuild the connection.
· Fear of not being able to get back to normal after a rupture is common, but rupture and repair are a natural part of significant relationships.
· Authenticity, setting boundaries, and clear communication about needs and expectations are essential for maintaining healthy relationships.
· It is important to recognize and manage conditions like OCD and panic attacks, and to seek support and self-care when needed.
· Growth and transformation in relationships require navigating uncertainty and being open to change.
Sound Bites
· "Hey, Patricia, that feels like a trick question these days."
· "I'm feeling a little uncomfortable."
· "I get excited that we're willing to talk about some of the things that are difficult."
· "But it's not like when I reconnect with you, I go oh, we're connected. It's like I lose that and we almost have to start over again for me to get that connection."
· "The if onlys, right? The if only we do this right, then we're never gonna have to do it again."
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Expressing Discomfort
03:02 Navigating Identity and Accuracy in Sharing
07:58 The Impact of Communication and Responsiveness
11:52 Embracing Self-Awareness and Exploring New Directions
23:38 Reconnecting After Rupture
28:22 Authenticity and Setting Boundaries in Relationships
30:15 Managing Conditions like OCD and Panic Attacks
32:20 The Process of Growth and Transformation in Relationships
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Diane Poole-Heller: https://dianepooleheller.com/
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/
Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6
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Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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Taking up Space and Expressing Your Feelings is Important for Healing Attachment Injuries
Patricia shares her experiences of her recent trip to Chicago. She discusses the challenges she faced in navigating changes in plans and the emotions that arose during her son's graduation from boot camp. Patricia also explores the importance of creating a secure attachment in her relationship with Jen and the need to ask for what she wants and needs with both Jen and her son. She emphasizes the significance of taking up space, expressing feelings, and finding support in managing attachment injuries.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
· Navigating changes in plans and unexpected events can be challenging, especially for individuals with attachment injuries.
· Creating a secure attachment in relationships involves open communication, asking for what you want and need, and being aware of your own emotions and triggers.
· Taking up space and expressing your feelings is important for healing attachment injuries and building healthier relationships.
· Finding support from trusted individuals can help regulate emotions and provide a sense of security.
· Managing attachment injuries is an ongoing process that requires self-awareness, self-compassion, and patience.
Sound Bites
"Navigating changes in plans and unexpected events can be challenging"
"Creating a secure attachment in relationships involves open communication"
"Taking up space and expressing your feelings is important for healing attachment injuries"
Chapters please allow for the addition of the introduction
00:00 Introduction and Disappointment
08:27 Emotional Challenges of Departure and Goodbyes
13:46 Creating a Secure Attachment in Relationships
16:19 Taking Up Space and Expressing Feelings
28:00 Managing Attachment Injuries: An Ongoing Process
31:45 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
Neurodivergent Online Course-- https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/neurodivergent-online-courses/
Receive the top 10 most downloaded episodes of the podcast-- https://www.subscribepage.com/e6z6e6
Sign up for the Newsletter-- https://www.subscribepage.com/y0l7d4
To write a review in itunes:
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Facebook-- https://www.facebook.com/Unapologetically-Sensitive-2296688923985657/
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Tik Tok--https://www.tiktok.com/@unapologeticallysensitiv
e-mail-- [email protected]
Show hashtag--#unapologeticallysensitive
Music-- Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com
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Anger and Attachment: Navigating Different Neurotypes Within a Relationship
Patricia and Jen explore the dynamics of attachment injuries, ADHD, and autism within their friendship. They explore the challenges of communication, time orientation, and emotional regulation. They touch on the concept of platonic life partnership and the challenges navigating different attachment styles and the impact of past trauma on present interactions. They discuss the importance of setting expectations, creating safe containers for communication, and validating each other's emotions.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
The conversation delves into the complexities of attachment wounds, communication styles, and emotional regulation within a friendship.
Takeaways
· The impact of attachment injuries, ADHD, and autism on communication and emotional regulation in friendships.
· The challenges of navigating differences in time orientation and managing expectations within a friendship.
· The concept of platonic life partnership and its relevance in fostering secure attachments and meaningful connections in friendships.
· Navigating attachment wounds and communication styles in friendships can be complex and challenging.
· Understanding the impact of past trauma on present interactions is crucial for building empathy and connection.
· Setting clear expectations and creating safe containers for communication can help navigate emotional triggers and attachment injuries in friendships.
· Validating each other's emotions and experiences is essential for building trust and understanding in a friendship.
Additional Takeaways:
Understanding the importance of having important conversations and finding the right time for them. Exploring vulnerability and the fear of being misunderstood or perceived as angry. Acknowledging feelings of frustration and hopelessness in relationships. Validating the range of human emotions, including anger, and the need to express them fully. Reflecting on personal tendencies and vulnerabilities, such as attachment injuries. Recognizing the impact of dysregulation and expressing anger in a healthy manner. Navigating feelings of anger and the desire for mutual understanding in relationships. Balancing the need for connection with the challenges and pain of relationships. Embracing vulnerability and seeking growth through therapy and self-reflection. Learning to communicate effectively and manage difficult emotions in relationships. Exploring the complexities of attachment styles and their influence on behavior. Cultivating self-awareness and empathy towards oneself and others. Addressing past traumas and their effects on present relationships. Practicing self-care and setting boundaries to maintain emotional well-being. Embracing change and growth through ongoing self-reflection and therapy. Building resilience and coping strategies for navigating challenging emotions. Fostering healthy communication patterns and conflict resolution skills. Recognizing the importance of seeking support and guidance in times of emotional distress. Embracing authenticity and vulnerability as pathways to personal healing and growth. Encouraging listeners to engage in self-discovery and emotional exploration for personal development.Sound Bites
"Having these conversations is important."
"I'm doing the best I can in my unmedicated, very sloppy way."
"Those are gonna be the labels that you're gonna have if you don't want the label."
"Navigating attachment wounds and communication styles in friendships can be complex and challenging."
"Understanding the impact of past trauma on present interactions is crucial for building empathy and connection."
"Setting clear expectations and creating safe containers for communication can help navigate emotional triggers and attachment injuries in friendships."
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
Chapters
00:00 Exploring Attachment Injuries and Gremlins in Friendship Dynamics
03:04 Understanding Time Orientation and Emotional Regulation in Relationships
08:20 Navigating Differences in Communication and Expectations
14:02 The Concept of Platonic Life Partnership and Friendship Dynamics
29:19 Understanding the Impact of Past Trauma on Present Interactions
39:22 Creating Safe Containers for Communication in Friendships
43:19 The Importance of Validating Emotions in Friendships
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
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PDA & Empowering Autonomy: Navigating Uncertainty and Travel Preparation
Patricia discusses her experiences with attachment injuries, being activated, anxiety, and preparing for travel. She shares insights into managing her emotions and navigating relationships through the lens of autism with a PDA profile. Patricia asserts her need for autonomy, feelings of powerlessness, and the challenges of managing uncertainty. Patricia also explores her experiences with OCD, hypervigilance, and the impact of early childhood trauma on her current behaviors and thought patterns.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
· Exploring attachment injuries and the impact on relationships
· Managing anxiety and OCD symptoms
· Navigating travel preparations and the challenges of change and uncertainty
· Understanding the impact of early childhood trauma on current behaviors
· Coping with autism and sensory processing
Ways to reclaim a sense of agency and control when faced with feelings of powerlessness.
Acknowledge the lack of control and see if there are ways to be more proactive in daily life. Focus on stepping back into your life and regaining a sense of autonomy. Address attachment injuries and work towards healing and growth. Engage in activities that help manage anxiety, especially in anticipation of upcoming events like travel, or where there’s uncertainty. Utilize skills and coping mechanisms to navigate challenges that can activate your nervous system. Seek comfort in preparedness and organization, such as creating packing lists and to-do lists (IF this brings you comfort). Maintain open communication with family or support systems to process emotions and work through difficulties.Strategies for travel to increase your sense of autonomy, reduce anxiety, and promote a smoother travel experience.
Create a universal packing list to streamline the packing process. Develop a to-do list for tasks related to travel arrangements and pet care, childcare, plant care, etc. Utilize familiar items like a fleece throw for comfort during the trip. Opt for direct flights to minimize the stress of layovers. Communicate openly with family members or travel companions to address concerns and plan activities effectively. Embrace routines and familiar items to provide comfort and stability in new environments. Engage in troubleshooting and forecasting to anticipate potential challenges and mitigate anxiety. Make a plan, but try and have some flexibility for unanticipated changes.Sound Bites
"I think probably the easiest place to start is the attachment injuries."
"It's just fascinating to watch. It's also really annoying AF."
Chapters please allow for the addition of the introduction
00:00 Navigating Attachment Injuries and Emotional Management
13:39 Challenges of Travel Preparations and Coping Strategies
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
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Friendships Paradigms: Monogamy and Polyamory and Platonic Partnerships
Patricia discusses the concept of monogamy and polyamory in friendships and platonic partnerships. She explores how the traditional view of monogamy has a hierarchy when one person enters a romantic relationship. Neurodivergent folks often have closer friendships that are more like platonic partnerships. Patricia shares her insights on the importance of defining communication patterns and expectations in friendships. She also reflects on the challenges of permanence and attachment wounds in relationships.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
The traditional view of monogamy can impact friendships when one person enters a romantic relationship.
Defining communication patterns and expectations in friendships is important for maintaining connection and avoiding attachment wounds.
The challenges of permanence can affect neurodivergent individuals, leading to feelings of disconnection and uncertainty.
Embracing blended parts and honoring individual needs in relationships is essential for creating healthy and fulfilling connections.
Additional Takeaways
Understanding the dynamics of relationships through the lens of attachment theory, particularly in the context of neurodivergent individuals. Exploring the nuances of polyamory and monogamy in modern society and how they intersect with platonic partnerships. Unpacking the concept of primary and secondary relationships within the framework of monogamous norms. Delving into attachment injuries and how they can impact friendships and romantic connections. Gaining insights into navigating blended parts within relationships and the challenges they may present. Examining the shifts in relationships when one party enters a new romantic relationship, especially in the context of monogamous views. Learning about communication patterns and compatibility in friendships and partnerships, particularly in the realm of polyamory. Discovering strategies for healing attachment wounds and fostering healthier relationships, as discussed in Jessica Fern's book "Polysecure." Reflecting on the differences in communication styles between individuals and how they can affect relationship dynamics. Exploring the complexities of non-monogamous relationships and platonic partnerships in the modern world. Recognizing the importance of self-awareness and open communication in maintaining strong friendships and romantic connections. Considering the impact of societal norms on relationships and how they influence our perceptions of friendship and partnership. Embracing the diversity of relationship structures and finding resonance in the experiences shared by individuals navigating polyamory, monogamy, and platonic partnerships.Sound Bites
"Attachment wounds and the challenges of permanence in relationships"
"Polyamory and platonic partnerships"
"Feeling left behind in a friendship"
Chapters please allow for the addition of the introduction
01:50 Monogamy and Platonic Partnerships
11:48 Defining Communication Patterns
15:24 Feeling Left Behind in Friendships
23:21 Permanence and Limited Communication
26:06 Embracing Blended Parts in Relationships
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non-Monogamy by Jessica Fern
Episode 109: The Power of Attachment Styles with Jessica Fern https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/episode-109-the-power-of-attachment-styles-and-the-highly-sensitive-person-hsp-jessica-fern-ms/
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Attachment: Self-Compassion, Recognizing & Healing Unblended Parts
Patricia and Jen discuss their personal experiences with attachment injuries and how it affects their relationship. They explore the challenges of communication and the impact of past traumas. Patricia shares insights from her recovery journey, drawing parallels between her eating disorder and her attachment struggles. They emphasize the importance of self-compassion and understanding in navigating these complex dynamics. The conversation concludes with a discussion on the value of conflict and the importance of welcoming all parts of ourselves.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
Patricia and Jen discuss the experience of being preoccupied with attachment injuries and how it affects their thoughts and behaviors. They explore the concept of being blended with certain parts and the importance of unblending to gain perspective. They also touch on the role of a catalyst in triggering attachment wounds and the process of healing and unblending. They emphasize the need for self-compassion and understanding when going through intense emotions and trauma work
Takeaways
· Attachment injuries can impact relationships and trigger past traumas.
· Communication can be challenging when attachment wounds are activated.
· Self-compassion and understanding are crucial in navigating attachment struggles.
· Recovery from past traumas requires self-reflection and self-awareness. Attachment injuries can lead to preoccupation with thoughts and behaviors related to the relationship.
· Being blended with certain parts can make it difficult to gain perspective and let go of preoccupations.
· The presence of a catalyst in triggering attachment wounds can provide an opportunity for healing and growth.
· Self-compassion and understanding are crucial when going through intense emotions and trauma work.
· Conflict can be seen as an opportunity for growth and understanding, rather than something negative or bad.
Sound Bites
"I'm actually doing really well. This is day four of feeling like I'm back to my grounded self."
"In the absence of having information and without a secure attachment, I made up a story in my head of like, you didn't even respond to this."
"Confidence is such a beautiful attribute sometimes, right? That I have the confidence that you have this."
"When I'm in a place where I'm struggling with my attachment injuries, I'm preoccupied about the thoughts that I have about you, where you are, where I am in the relationship."
"In IFS terms, we would say blended, right? When you're so completely blended, there's no other perspective."
"This preoccupied stuff is, oof, I mean, it can get so intense."
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Personal Updates
03:27 Parenting Challenges and Appreciation
05:10 Navigating Attachment Injuries and Communication Challenges
08:06 The Impact of Past Traumas on Relationships
11:25 Understanding the Complex Dynamics of Attachment
16:14 Articulating Experiences and Symbolic Communication
21:36 Blended Parts and Unblending
25:20 The Role of a Catalyst
29:59 Healing and Unblending
37:47 Conflict as an Opportunity
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
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Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
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Healing Attachment Wounds: Navigating Tough Conversations with Love
Patricia discusses her ongoing work on attachment wounds and her recent conversation with her mother about her childhood. She emphasizes the privilege of being able to have these conversations and acknowledges that not everyone has that opportunity. Patricia also explores expectations in her relationship with Jen, highlighting the challenges of navigating attachment injuries. She shares an email from a listener expressing gratitude for her vulnerability and relatability. Patricia concludes by affirming the importance of honoring all of your feelings.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
· Having conversations about attachment wounds with a parent or caregiver can be a healing and transformative experience, but it is a privilege that not everyone has.
· The healing work can still happen even if you can’t do it with the person where the injuries originally happened.
· The majority of healing work is done individually, with support from coaches or therapists, and having conversations with a parent or caregiver is just a small part of the process.
· Navigating attachment and expectations in relationships can be challenging, especially for individuals with attachment injuries. It is important to communicate and share feelings with your partner (when it is safe and appropriate) to create understanding and connection.
· Sharing vulnerability and authenticity can have a profound impact on others, as it helps them feel seen, heard, and less alone in their own struggles.
· Embracing sensitivity and honoring all of our feelings, even the challenging ones, is an important part of self-care and self-acceptance.
Additional Concepts Covered
Embracing Vulnerability: Acknowledging and exploring emotional openness in healing. Cultivating Empathy: Nurturing understanding and compassion in relationships. Navigating Childhood Wounds: Understanding the impact of past experiences on present emotions. Honoring Neurodiversity: Recognizing and respecting diverse cognitive perspectives. Fostering Emotional Resilience: Building strength in facing emotional challenges. Celebrating Individual Differences: Valuing unique ways of processing emotions. Promoting Self-Care Practices: Encouraging personalized well-being routines. Empowering Neurodiverse Voices: Amplifying diverse narratives in healing conversations. Building Emotional Intelligence: Developing awareness and regulation of emotions. Creating Safe Spaces: Establishing supportive environments for emotional expression. Exploring Trauma Healing: Engaging in the process of emotional recovery and growth. Supporting Coping Strategies: Assisting in developing effective ways to manage emotions. Advocating for Inclusivity: Promoting acceptance and understanding in emotional discussions. Navigating Complex Emotions: Understanding and processing intricate feelings. Respecting Personal Boundaries: Honoring individual needs and comfort levels. Amplifying Diverse Narratives: Elevating a range of experiences in emotional healing. Encouraging Self-Reflection: Promoting introspection and self-awareness. Embracing Neurodivergent Perspectives: Valuing unique viewpoints in emotional discussions. Promoting Emotional Wellness: Supporting holistic well-being in emotional journeys. Championing Self-Acceptance: Encouraging self-love and validation in emotional growthSound Bites
"I'm always touched and inspired by your authenticity and depth."
"I'm having feelings. Let's look at the feelings. What is the reality and do the work that I need to do."
"You have a right to all your feelings. You have a right to be loud. You have a right to be intense. You have a right to take up space."
Chapters please allow for the addition of the introduction
00:00 Introduction and Update
02:00 The Healing Work and Reparenting Process
08:03 Challenges and Vulnerability in Conversations
14:06 Self-Care and Managing Attachment Injuries
29:01 Managing Change and Uncertainty
37:48 Gratitude for Vulnerability and Embracing Sensitivity
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
LINKS
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Expansion and Contraction: Honoring Your Rhythms
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their personal experiences with stress, burnout, and the challenges of navigating relationships. They explore the importance of self-compassion, the need for rest and downtime, and the impact of attachment wounds on their interactions. They also touch on the concept of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the role of the 'self' in healing and growth.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
Jen and Patricia discuss stress, self-care, and finding joy in everyday moments. Topics include managing stress using insights from Emily & Amelia Nagoski's book, Burnout, and embracing self-compassion. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of self-care activities like crocheting, walking, paddling, resting, and watching TV for relaxation. Patricia and Jen share personal experiences, highlighting the value of open communication and supportive relationships in navigating challenges. Overall, the conversation offers practical tips for stress management, promoting well-being, and finding happiness in simple pleasures.
Takeaways
Practicing self-compassion and separating stressors from the stress response in the body can help manage burnout.
Honoring the body's need for rest and downtime is essential, even if it goes against societal expectations of productivity.
Navigating relationships can be challenging, especially when attachment wounds are triggered, but open communication and self-reflection can help repair and strengthen connections.
The concept of Internal Family Systems (IFS) emphasizes the importance of accessing the 'self' and its qualities of compassion, wisdom, and creativity in healing and growth.
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Personal Experiences with Stress and Burnout
02:52 The Importance of Rest and Downtime
08:11 Navigating Relationships and Attachment Wounds
14:11 The Role of the 'Self' in Healing and Growth
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cody by Emily Nagoski & Amelia Nagoski
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
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Managing Expectations: Showing Up for Yourself During Hard Times
Jen and Patricia discuss attachment wounds in their friendship. They explore the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and managing expectations. They highlight the need for compassion & understanding when dealing with attachment issues & emphasize the ongoing work of healing & growth. In this conversation, Patricia shares her recent experiences with conflict & how she navigated this. She discusses the importance of leaning into difficult emotions and listening to others without defensiveness.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
The conversation revolves around attachment injuries and the impact they have on relationships. Patricia explores the concept of self-care and the need to treat oneself with kindness and nurturing. The conversation highlights the different lenses through which people view relationships and the importance of understanding one's own biases. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the value of curiosity, compassion, and self-empowerment in navigating challenging situations.
In Depth Takeaways
· Attachment injuries can impact relationships and trigger emotional reactions.
· Self-awareness is crucial in recognizing and understanding attachment wounds.
· Setting boundaries and managing expectations can help navigate attachment issues.
· Compassion and understanding are essential in healing and growth.
· Working on oneself and developing a strong inner relationship is key to managing attachment wounds. Leaning into difficult emotions and situations can lead to personal growth and understanding.
· Listening without defensiveness allows for better communication and resolution in conflicts.
· Self-care involves treating oneself with kindness and nurturing one's own needs.
· Understanding one's own biases and lenses can improve relationships and communication.
· Curiosity, compassion, and self-empowerment are essential in navigating challenging situations.
Additional Takeaways
Understanding emotional struggles: Gain insights into navigating complex emotions. Communication strategies: Learn effective ways to express feelings and thoughts. Attachment wounds exploration: Understand how past experiences impact relationships. Self-reflection tools: Discover techniques for introspection and personal growth. Compassion importance: Explore the role of empathy in fostering connections. Relationship navigation: Tips for managing challenges in interpersonal dynamics. Trauma healing techniques: Tools for addressing and healing past traumas. Empathy and connection building: Foster deeper connections with others. Self-care prioritization: Learn to prioritize self-care and well-being. Embracing imperfections: Understand the value of self-acceptance and growth. Emotional intelligence enhancement: Develop skills for understanding and managing emotions. Healthy boundaries cultivation: Establish boundaries for healthier relationships. Validation of experiences: Feel validated in your personal journey and struggles. Self-discovery encouragement: Find inspiration for exploring your true self. Personal growth support: Receive guidance for personal development and transformation. Conflict resolution strategies: Learn techniques for resolving conflicts peacefully. Resilience and strength building: Develop resilience to overcome challenges. Effective listening techniques: Enhance your listening skills for better communication. Vulnerability encouragement: Embrace vulnerability as a path to authenticity. Positive change inspiration: Get motivated to make positive changes in your life.Sound Bites
"The theme is attachment injuries."
"We all need a secure attachment."
"I really have learned to lean into whatever is going on for the moment and knowing that it will last for as long as it lasts."
"I was really able to listen instead of going into a place of defensiveness."
"This is the first time that I honestly thought I don't want to do relationships anymore because the feelings were so intense."
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Checking In
01:26 Attachment Injuries and Emotional Challenges
09:03 The Importance of Secure Attachment
11:18 Managing Expectations and Setting Boundaries
16:38 Learning to Show Up for Ourselves
18:30 Leaning into Difficult Emotions and Situations
19:40 Listening without Defensiveness in Conflict
24:35 The Importance of Self-Care and Nurturing
26:28 Understanding Biases and Lenses in Relationships
29:17 Curiosity, Compassion, and Self-Empowerment in Challenging Situations
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
Jen’s Links
Email: [email protected]
Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
Patricia’s Links
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Attachment Wounds: OCD, Projection, Managing Dysregulation
Patricia candidly discusses her experiences with attachment wounds, OCD tendencies, projection and trauma responses with Jen, and how this is showing up in their relationship. Patricia shares what her OCD thoughts tend to look like. Through introspection and vulnerability, Patricia reflects on the impact of past traumas on her emotional well-being. Their dialogue underscores the importance of self-awareness, self-care, and resilience in healing from attachment-related struggles.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their current emotional states and the challenges they are facing. Patricia shares her struggles with attachment wounds, OCD, and trauma triggers, while Jen offers support and understanding. They explore the concept of projection and how it affects their interactions. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-care and creating space for emotions. Overall, the conversation highlights the complexities of relationships and the need for compassion and empathy.
Takeaways:
Understanding trauma responses and emotional regulation techniques. Exploring the impact of OCD on thought patterns and relationships. Navigating attachment wounds and their influence on behavior. Recognizing the importance of self-awareness in healing from past traumas. Addressing vulnerability and sensitivity in processing emotional challenges. Learning to set boundaries and prioritize self-care in relationships. Embracing authenticity and openness in communication. Coping with uncertainty and distress through emotional expression. Building resilience through self-reflection and self-compassion. Exploring the connection between somatic experiences and emotional well-being. Challenging cognitive distortions and negative self-talk. Cultivating empathy and understanding in interpersonal dynamics. Validating the full range of human emotions and experiences. Practicing mindfulness and conscious decision-making in relationships. Recognizing the role of shame and inner criticism in self-perception. Naming and addressing personal "gremlins" and self-doubt. Modeling emotional authenticity and self-care for others. Finding language for complex emotions and internal struggles. Embracing vulnerability as a pathway to healing and growth. Expressing gratitude for support and shared experiences in the journey towards emotional well-being. Understanding trauma responses and emotional regulation techniques. Exploring the impact of OCD on thought patterns and relationships. Navigating attachment wounds and their influence on behavior. Recognizing the importance of self-awareness in healing from past traumas. Addressing vulnerability and sensitivity in processing emotional challenges. Learning to set boundaries and prioritize self-care in relationships. Embracing authenticity and openness in communication. Coping with uncertainty and distress through emotional expression. Building resilience through self-reflection and self-compassion. Exploring the connection between somatic experiences and emotional well-being. Challenging cognitive distortions and negative self-talk. Cultivating empathy and understanding in interpersonal dynamics. Validating the full range of human emotions and experiences. Practicing mindfulness and conscious decision-making in relationships. Recognizing the role of shame and inner criticism in self-perception. Naming and addressing personal "gremlins" and self-doubt. Modeling emotional authenticity and self-care for others. Finding language for complex emotions and internal struggles. Embracing vulnerability as a pathway to healing and growth. Expressing gratitude for support and shared experiences in the journey towards emotional well-being.Chapters (please allow for addition of introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Emotional States
09:01 Exploring Attachment Wounds and Trauma Triggers
30:00 Building Stronger Relationships through Compassion and Empathy
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
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Attachment Wounds: A Follow Up Conversation
Jen and Patricia reflect on their recent challenge (see episode 241), and they discuss the importance of taking responsibility for their own needs and emotions. They explore the impact of attachment wounds and the challenges of navigating relationships. They talk about what trauma and reenactment looks like in a relationship. They also discuss the need for self-care and the importance of managing expectations. This is a very vulnerable and open conversation.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss their recent experiences and the impact it had on their relationship. They explore the challenges of change and disruption, the importance of naming and validating emotions, and the process of healing from past trauma. They also touch on the dynamics of their friendship and the need for autonomy and understanding. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the importance of holding space for each other and navigating through difficult emotions with patience and curiosity. In this conversation.
Takeaways
· Change and disruption can be challenging.
· Naming and validating emotions is powerful and can help in moving forward.
· Healing from past trauma requires self-awareness and taking responsibility for one's own healing process.
· Navigating difficult emotions in relationships requires patience, understanding, and the ability to hold space for each other. Taking responsibility for our own needs and emotions is essential in relationships.
· Attachment wounds can impact our expectations and behaviors in relationships.
· Self-care and managing expectations are important for maintaining healthy relationships.
· Open and honest communication can lead to growth and healing.
Sound Bites
· "Change and disruption are difficult for me"
· "Letting it be okay to say it's annoying"
· "The power of naming things and how validating it is"
· "It's the openheartedness really."
· "Adulthood in many ways is a myth except for taxes and stuff."
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Frustrations
08:03 Reenactment and Taking Responsibility
25:49 Openheartedness and Taking Responsibility
34:00 Accepting Unmet Needs
40:39 Managing Expectations
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
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Attachment Wounds: When You Can’t Work It Out In The Moment
Patricia reflects on her attachment wounds & something that happened with Jen. She emphasizes that the issue was not a rupture in her relationship, but rather her own trauma and wounding. She reassures listeners that they are doing fine & have navigated the situation with honesty & grace. Patricia also touches on the importance of doing personal work & finding others who are also committed to growth. She encourages listeners to embrace their sensitivity & prioritize their own needs and boundaries.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
· Attachment wounds can surface unexpectedly and it's important to seek consent before sharing personal experiences.
· Healing from trauma and wounding requires individual work and support from others who are also committed to growth.
· Embracing sensitivity means honoring one's own needs and setting boundaries.
· Challenges in relationships are normal and can be navigated with honesty and grace.
· Validation and reassurance are important in maintaining a sense of safety and regulation.
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
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Navigating Grief, Uncertainty & Travel Through the Lens of Attachment
Patricia and Jen discuss navigating uncertainty and overwhelm, managing change and unexpected situations, balancing personal needs, the power of communication and validation, finding meaning and value in relationships, coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking, choosing to assume the best, managing energy and boundaries, secure attachment and autonomy, dealing with uncertainty and seeking information, taking care of yourself in travel. They also reflect on their friendship
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Summary
Patricia and Jen discuss various topics including body image, grief, historical trauma, emotional support, communication, and family dynamics. Patricia shares her personal experiences and emotions surrounding her son leaving for boot camp, which triggers both current and historical grief. They explore the importance of emotional attunement and the impact of different processing styles on relationships. The conversation highlights the need for compassion, understanding, and open communication in navigating intense emotions and supporting one another.
Takeaways
· Body image concerns can impact self-perception and emotional well-being.
· Grief can be triggered by current events and activate historical trauma.
· Emotional support and attunement are crucial in navigating intense emotions.
· Open communication and understanding of different processing styles can strengthen relationships. Navigating uncertainty and overwhelm can be challenging, but finding ways to manage change and unexpected situations can help.
· Balancing personal needs and family expectations is important for maintaining well-being.
· Effective communication and validation can strengthen relationships and provide support during difficult times.
· Coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking requires self-awareness and the ability to assume the best in uncertain situations.
· Taking care of oneself and setting boundaries is crucial for managing energy and maintaining emotional well-being.
· Seeking information and being proactive can help reduce uncertainty and increase feelings of security.
· Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy.
· Taking care of oneself during travel, such as having snacks and staying hydrated, can help manage stress and anxiety.
· Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy.
· Reflecting on friendship and growth can bring appreciation and gratitude for the journey.
Additional topics discussed:
Exploring the complexities of loss, grief, and change in personal experiences. Normalizing and validating diverse ways of coping with sadness and challenges. Reflecting on the interplay between present circumstances and past narratives. Nurturing compassion and gentleness in relationships to facilitate healing. Recognizing the value of secure attachments in both personal and life contexts. Strategies for dealing with uncertainty and finding resources for support. Cultivating wisdom in distinguishing between controllable and uncontrollable aspects of life. The power of communication in addressing needs within relationships. Overcoming codependency and setting healthy boundaries in interactions. Embracing vulnerability and authenticity in sharing personal experiences. Balancing self-expression with consideration for others in relationships. Addressing feelings of inadequacy and the need for self-affirmation. Seeking empowerment through information and planning in uncertain situations. Building resilience through shared experiences and mutual support. Fostering a sense of autonomy and self-assurance amidst societal pressures.Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Checking In
00:28 Body Image and Self-Perception
07:09 Intense Grief and Emotional Support
08:02 Communication and Emotional Boundaries
12:09 Processing Grief and Emotional Reactions
14:58 Capacity for Emotional Support
20:06 Last Moments and Emotional Vulnerability
21:05 Navigating Uncertainty and Overwhelm
22:01 Managing Change and Unexpected Situations
23:24 Balancing Personal Needs and Family Expectations
25:17 The Power of Communication and Validation
26:15 Finding Meaning and Value in Relationships
27:09 Coping with Anxiety and Catastrophic Thinking
28:03 Choosing to Assume the Best
29:00 Managing Energy and Boundaries
29:26 Secure Attachment and Autonomy
30:18 Dealing with Uncertainty and Seeking Information
32:35 Taking Care of Yourself in Travel
38:33 Finding Security in Relationships and Life
40:18 Reflecting on Friendship and Growth
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
LINKS
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Jen’s website: https://heartfulnessconsulting.com/
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Being “Too Much” is a Narrative that needs to be Re-examined
Summary
Patricia discusses the wound of too much and how it can impact relationships. Too much is about BOTH people and the capacity of the other person. This is a narrative that needs to be reexamined, and the context of both people needs to be addressed. She explores the intersection of neurodivergence, trauma, and socialization. Patricia also explores the concept of rules, and how through an autistic lens, this can create some challenges.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
The wound of feeling like you're too much can stem from trauma and socialization of neurotypical norms.
Understanding and respecting one's own capacity and the capacity of others is crucial in communication.
Navigating relationships as a neurodivergent individual requires open and honest conversations.
Embracing sensitivity and accepting oneself is essential for personal well-being.
Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
Points made in this episode:
Exploring the concept of the "wound of too much" in relationships and self-perception. Addressing the impact of past traumas and relationship experiences on feeling "too much." Discussing the importance of understanding and respecting personal and others' capacities. Emphasizing the need for setting healthy boundaries to overcome the "wound of too much." Highlighting the dynamics of communication and capacity in relationships. Encouraging empathy and consideration for others' limits in interactions. Recognizing the interconnectedness of personal wounds of "too much" and "not enough." Offering strategies for balancing enthusiasm and respecting others' capacities. Challenging the narrative that focuses solely on one person being "too much." Advocating for a shift towards understanding and honoring both individuals' capacities. Discussing the challenges faced in relationships between neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals. Providing insights on communication, boundaries, and self-awareness in relationships. Emphasizing the importance of mutual understanding and communication in addressing capacity issues. Exploring the nuances of being perceived as "too much" and the impact on self-esteem. Encouraging self-acceptance, setting boundaries, and fostering healthy connections.00:00 Introduction and Setting the Topic
01:36 The Wound of Too Much
06:21 PDA Profile and Autonomy
07:52 Socialization and Autistic Females
10:16 Stimming and Accommodations
11:34 Navigating Communication and Social Cues
13:17 The Fear of Being Too Much
14:07 The Influence of Others' Opinions
18:22 Shifting the Narrative: Capacity of Both Parties
20:11 Navigating Relationships with Limited Insight
21:10 Personal Examples and Communication
23:35 Finding Balance in Showing Interest
24:05 Conclusion and Encouragement
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
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Learning to Trust Yourself and Finding Peace in Your Own Rhythm
Patricia discusses her experience when her husband is away. She shares her journey of managing attachment wounds, and the challenges of household responsibilities. Patricia also explores the impact of autistic burnout and ADHD on her ability to stay on top of things. She emphasizes the importance of honoring autonomy and considering others while maintaining a sense of self. Patricia concludes by encouraging listeners to trust themselves and find comfort in their own needs and wiring.
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
Learning to trust yourself and find peace in your own rhythm.
Managing attachment wounds and fear of being alone.
Balancing household responsibilities and find ways to stay on top of things.
Honoring autonomy and consider others while maintaining a sense of self.
Additional takeaways:
Recognize the evolution of coping strategies over the years. Understand the impact of attachment wounds on relationships. Explore ways to manage feelings of fear and insecurity. Discover the importance of staying connected during separations. Learn how to anchor oneself to a support system. Reflect on the challenges of maintaining responsibilities solo. Identify the role of communication in long-distance relationships. Explore personal growth through periods of solitude. Acknowledge the significance of self-care during partner's absence. Reflect on the journey of building trust and resilience. Consider the balance between independence and interdependence. Explore strategies for regulating emotions during separations. Understand the dynamics of individual growth within a relationship. Reflect on personal boundaries and self-compassion. Discover the power of vulnerability in relationships.Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Background
00:56 Attachment Wounds and Fear of Being Alone
03:04 Trusting the Process
04:24 Autistic Burnout and ADHD
05:19 Autonomy and Consideration of Others
06:47 Guilt and Honoring Autonomy
07:36 Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)
09:13 Taking Care of Pets
11:08 Autonomy and Space in Relationships
13:03 Trusting Yourself and Letting Go of Tension
16:29 Transitioning and Adjusting
22:30 Processing and Communication
24:43 Non-Traditional Relationships and Balance
26:09 Trusting Yourself and Finding Peace
28:47 Honoring Your Needs and Wired
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
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Unmasking & Authentic Communication: Navigating Differences in Relationships
Patricia and Jen discuss the challenges of unmasking and being authentic in relationships including the role of PDA (Pervasive Drive for Autonomy). They explore the narratives we have about ourselves and how they can impact our interactions with others. They also delve into the differences in communication styles and perspectives, and the importance of embracing who we are. The conversation highlights the need to navigate personal dynamics and self-reflection in order to foster understanding and growth.
CO-HOST
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC
HIGHLIGHTS
Takeaways
· Unmasking involves recognizing and embracing our authentic selves, even if it brings up discomfort or challenges in relationships.
· Differences in communication styles and perspectives can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts, but it's important to approach these differences with curiosity and compassion.
· Challenging the narratives we have about ourselves and others can help us break free from limiting beliefs and foster healthier relationships.
· Navigating personal dynamics requires open communication, self-reflection, and a willingness to honor our own needs while respecting the autonomy of others.
Unmasking involves revealing one's authentic self and needs in relationships. It can bring up feelings of selfishness or discomfort when prioritizing personal authenticity. The author discusses the challenge of balancing personal needs with making others feel comfortable. Self-awareness plays a role in navigating the discomfort that may arise from unmasking. The author highlights the importance of authenticity in fostering genuine connections in relationships. Embracing one's true self involves acknowledging and communicating personal preferences and boundaries.
More about unmaskingChapters (please adjust time for the addition of the introduction)
00:00 Introduction and Setting the Stage
08:03 Unmasking and Authenticity
12:05 Differences in Perspectives and Communication Styles
26:13 Struggles with Identity and Unmasking
30:05 Levels of Experience and Narrative
35:26 Navigating Personal Dynamics and Self-Reflection
36:06 Closing Remarks
PODCAST HOST
Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you
CO-HOST BIO
Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.
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