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In this episode, I sit down with my good friend Anita Bartholomew, who is deep into writing her upcoming book, "Sacrificial Lambs," which explores the alarming indoctrination happening in our K-12 education system. Have you ever wondered how children are being taught about gender identity in first grade? What happens when the lines between education and ideology blur?
Anita shares her journey from being a traditional liberal to confronting the radical shifts in educational content, particularly around queer theory and gender ideology. We discuss the troubling rise in young people identifying as transgender and the role schools play in this phenomenon. How are children being primed for these beliefs, and what impact does this have on their mental health?
We dive into shocking examples of curriculum materials that normalize complex and abstract concepts about gender for young children. Are teachers equipped to handle such sensitive topics, or are they overstepping their bounds? As we unravel these issues, we also touch on the implications of comprehensive sexual education and the troubling trend of keeping parents in the dark. What does this mean for the future of our children? Tune in to discover the answers and more as we navigate this critical conversation.
For almost three decades, Anita Bartholomew has been one of Readerâs Digestâs top reporters, and a contributing editor to the magazine for eight of those years. Sheâs covered a vast range of stories over the course of her career. But whatâs always animated her writing, no matter the topic, is her focus on the people involved, how they coped with the extraordinary events affecting their lives. Her current book project, about how the trans cult targets kids, combines in-depth reporting and analysis with vignettes about the real people trying to maintain sanity in what amounts to a mass psychosis afflicting nearly all of the western world. She is the co-author of the award-winning medical memoir SOMETHING TO PROVE, and the author of SIEGE, about the January 6, 2021 US Capitol uprising. Two of her narratives have been adapted as TV movies, one for Netflix and another for Lifetime. AnitaBartholomew.com
Books mentioned in this episode:
Time to Think by Hannah BarnesIrreversible Damage by Abigail ShrierWhy Gender Matters by Leonard SaxAll books mentioned on this podcast can be found at sometherapist.com/bookshop
00:00 Start
[00:01:32] Indoctrination of children.
[00:08:25] Queer theory and social justice.
[00:10:07] Queer theory in education.
[00:16:41] Predation in gender identity discourse.
[00:19:16] Gender identity teaching in schools.
[00:25:23] Teacher's role in sexual education.
[00:28:00] Innocence of childhood crushes.
[00:34:45] Pornographic content in education.
[00:36:39] School curriculum and anti-bullying.
[00:44:51] Diagram of a thousand genitals.
[00:46:00] Planned Parenthood and gender clinics.
[00:52:00] Fourth grade girls and furries.
[00:55:04] Intersex and genitalia misconceptions.
[01:01:39] Gender identity and inclusion in education.
[01:06:04] Gender education in schools.
[01:09:14] Puberty blockers and children.
[01:12:42] Sexualization of children in education.
[01:19:19] Furries and sexual role-playing.
[01:21:45] Predators disguising in society.
[01:29:32] Sympathy for monsters and boundaries.
[01:31:26] The battle between good and evil.
[01:36:24] Cultural shifts and individual responsibility.
[01:40:56] Understanding January 6th participants.
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MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude & permission.
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Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude and permission.
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Laura Wiley Haynes returns to shed light on the complex intergenerational aspects of the current gender crisis. Why do so many young people today seem unable to launch into adulthood, remaining perennially online and disembodied, reportedly held back by feelings they label âdysphoria?â What developmental shifts have occurred in parenting over the last few generations that might explain this phenomenon?
Laura shares her insights on how the lack of dyadic careâone-on-one nurturing relationshipsâhas contributed to a generation of children who struggle with self-perception and emotional regulation. Could the rise of screens and social media be robbing our kids of the deep, relational connections they need to thrive? We explore the implications of group care environments and how they may hinder the development of essential social skills.
As we discuss the alarming trend of young adults romanticizing their emotional turmoil, I ask: what happens when a young man on estrogen experiences mood swings reminiscent of a teenage girl? Is this a sign of deeper unresolved issues? Join us as we unpack these critical questions and more, revealing the intricate web of attachment, trauma, and the urgent need for effective parenting in todayâs world. Tune in to discover how we can better support our children in navigating their identities and emotions.
Laura Wiley Haynes is a writer, a mother & grandmother, and a former CASA. Follow her on X @haynes_wiley.
Books mentioned in this episode:
Emotional Blackmail by Dr. Susan Forward
Episodes mentioned:
123. Identity-Based OCD: Dr. Elliot Kaminetzky on Trans & the Fear of Living Inauthentically
00:00 Start
[00:01:41] Intergenerational aspects of gender crisis.
[00:06:46] Impaired grownups and child distress.
[00:11:21] Early attachment trauma effects.
[00:13:06] Developmental needs and selfhood.
[00:19:39] Self-regulation and emotional responses.
[00:22:50] Authenticity and children's identity struggles.
[00:27:39] Boundaries and communication in parenting.
[00:30:28] Parenting teenagers and communication.
[00:34:26] Parenting and cultural changes.
[00:40:23] Failure to launch in youth.
[00:44:56] Parenting and boundaries for children.
[00:49:21] Authority in parenting dynamics.
[00:51:33] Strategic apologizing in parenting.
[00:57:07] Boundary setting in parenting.
[01:00:25] Parenting and children's disappointment.
[01:03:34] Parental honesty in difficult discussions.
[01:08:41] Reading between the lines.
[01:14:15] Cluster B behaviors and attachment.
[01:15:34] Cluster B relationships and control.
[01:20:40] Parenting and setting boundaries.
[01:24:40] The importance of saying no.
[01:29:09] Parenting and setting boundaries.
[01:34:52] Identity instability and self-perception.
[01:37:39] Hostage negotiation techniques.
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SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.
MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude & permission.
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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.
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Like so many other young women Iâve met in my counseling career, Taylor was prescribed both SSRI antidepressants and hormonal birth control shortly after she hit puberty, and remained on both types of pills until her 20âs, impacting her libido, identity, body image, and self-esteem. Somewhere along the way, she developed gender dysphoria and a fixation on the idea that becoming a âtrans manâ would solve her psychological problems. But when she stopped taking meds, her âdysphoriaâ lifted like a fog. What happened here? And what can Taylorâs story tell us about the possibility of a massively underreported iatrogenic pipeline of young women being ushered from hormonal contraceptives and SSRIâs at puberty, to testosterone and mastectomies in their 20âs after years of low libido and identity instability?
Due to the many years Taylor Murphy spent thinking she was transgender and wanting to transition into a man, she now shares her cured experience of gender dysphoria and how it was related to the medication she was on. She shares her concerns on the side effects of medication and transition. Follow her on X @taymurph26
Books mentioned in this episode:
This Is Your Brain on Birth Control: How the Pill Changes Everything by Sarah E. Hill, PhD.Thank you for making purchases from Amazon affiliate links, helping support the show.
00:00 Start
[00:00:47] The impact of medication on identity.
[00:06:42] Effects of hormonal birth control.
[00:09:34] Mental health and medication effects.
[00:14:51] Feeling trapped in gender identity.
[00:18:16] Exploring gender identity and expression.
[00:22:11] Inner struggles with transition.
[00:23:42] ROGD Repair Course + Community for Parents.
[00:25:42] Parenting and questioning gender identity.
[00:27:38] Gender Identity Struggles
[00:32:55] Awakening after medication withdrawal.
[00:37:35] How birth control affects psychology.
[00:41:58] Gender dysphoria and hormonal effects.
[00:44:27] Medication impact on gender identity.
[00:48:24] Life after overcoming dysphoria.
[00:52:35] Medication and managing emotions.
[00:55:57] Adolescence and resilience.
[00:59:33] Discovering teenage sexuality.
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COZYEARTH: Visit CozyEarth.com/sometherapist and use code SOMETHERAPIST for 40% off their selection of bedding, towels, skincare and other cozy home items.Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.
MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude & permission.
PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services.
To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
Learn more about Do No Harm.
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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.
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Parents of trans-identified adolescents and young adults need educational resources that go beyond merely explaining why gender ideology and medicalization are harmful. They need tools that help them understand the psychological state their adolescent and young adult children are in, and teach them different approaches to communicating that are more likely to succeed than to backfire given their kidsâ state of mind.
I created The ROGD Repair Course and Community with this in mind. Itâs a comprehensive toolkit designed to empower concerned parents to help get their kids out of this mess while restoring their relationships â and their sanity.
ROGD Repair is a promising new program designed to equip parents of trans-identified adolescents and young adults with a comprehensive and customizable toolkit of psychology concepts and communication skills, curated specifically to help them walk their children toward desistance while protecting parentsâ own sanity.
Imagine if parents of âtransâ identified kids actually had a way to walk them out of this mess, wisely and strategically, and bring them home to safety and sanity.
Imagine if every new ROGD parent knew which pitfalls to avoid when communicating with zealous adolescents and young adults. What if, instead, these parents could skillfully apply time-tested communication techniques, suited to address the mental state of gender-confused youth? What if the youthâs own fears and motivations could actually lead them toward health, harmony and wholeness?
What if parents could protect their sanity and their most important relationships at the same time, all while improving their odds of rescuing their children from the clutches of a harmful ideology before any bodily harm takes place?
The ROGD Repair Course + Community for Parents is designed to do all of that. And now, itâs available to the public, at a fraction of the cost of coaching.
Parents can learn the tools from 90+ video and written lessons on their own time and begin implementing them immediately. Discuss the Reflection Questions with their spouse or a buddy, or journal straight into the program. Ask questions, share insights, and request new topics in the community forums.
Right now I am offering the first 100 people to enroll post-launch an incredible offer that wonât come again. Coupon code FIRST100 takes 50% off every month a student remains enrolled in the program, for as long as they need to stay. Simply visit ROGDrepair.com and enter the code FIRST100 at checkout to use this offer. This special offer is my way of saying thanks for being part of the launching phase of this project, while we are still building a robust community.
If that code has been used up, you can still use code SOMETHERAPIST2024 to take 50% off your first month until the end of the year.
If you have an audience of your own who you think would want to know about ROGD Repair (eg., a popular podcast or blog), and you would consider promoting this resource, reach out to me with your website and a bit about you, and I will give you access to the course so you can check it out. [email protected].
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[00:02:40] ROGD Repair explained.
[00:07:21] Creating accessible educational tools.
[00:10:45] ROGD Repair.
[00:13:35] Family systems view and gender ideology.
[00:17:19] Talking to kids about detransitioners.
[00:20:30] Detransitioning and transphobia.
[00:24:37] Parenting and health concerns.
[00:28:10] Combating gender identity ideology.
[00:33:46] Female-specific issues.
[00:36:03] Reducing Screen Time Techniques.
[00:41:14] Parenting and activism balance.
[00:44:37] Double binds in parenting.
[00:48:34] Assertive communication techniques.
[00:52:18] Therapeutic communication techniques
[00:55:22] Recognizing signs of uncertainty.
[00:57:19] ROGD Repair offering.
[01:03:00] Special discount offers.
[01:08:03] A total game changer.
[01:11:13] Overcoming challenges in success.
[01:14:26] Battling gender ideology.
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SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.
MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude & permission.
PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services.
To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
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Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST at EightSleep.com.
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Check out my shop for book recommendations + wellness products.
Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deep...
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Dr. Elliot Kaminetzky is a child and adolescent psychologist specializing in parenting based interventions for child anxiety, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, and behavioral challenges. He received his PhD at Hofstra University. Dr. Kaminetzky is the founder and clinical director of My OCD Care and The Center for Child Behavioral Health. Dr. Kaminetzky has publicly spoken out against unethical practices in the area of pediatric gender medicine and the silencing of concerned medical and mental health professionals. Recognizing the challenges parents face in parenting children with gender related concerns, Dr. Kaminetzky founded Serenity Parent Consulting to provide parents with accurate information, useful resources, and emotional support.
Together, we delve into the intriguing world of identity-based OCD. We explore the fears and obsessions associated with OCD, from concerns about being in the wrong body to the fear of living inauthentically. But what if these fears are not just about identity but also about the fear of being ordinary? How do these fears manifest in transgender-identifying young people, and what role does societal influence play in shaping their identities?
We uncover the complexities of OCD, from intrusive thoughts to compulsive behaviors, and how they can impact one's sense of self. How do individuals with OCD navigate the fine line between seeking reassurance and finding inner validation? And what happens when therapy becomes a battleground for seeking external validation versus trusting one's own judgment?
Join us as we unravel the layers of identity-based OCD, exploring the nuances of authenticity, societal constructs, and the quest for certainty in a world filled with uncertainties. Tune in to discover how individuals grapple with their fears, seeking validation from external sources while yearning for inner peace and self-acceptance.
All books mentioned on this podcast can be found at sometherapist.com/bookshop
00:00 Start
[00:00:22] Identity-based themes in OCD.
[00:04:41] Trauma and public shaming.
[00:10:28] Therapists' differing beliefs.
[00:15:18] Fear of ordinariness.
[00:18:48] Identity and societal expectations.
[00:22:45] Identity-based OCD.
[00:28:26] Fear of being ordinary.
[00:30:34] Fear of being ordinary.
[00:37:21] Maladaptive beliefs about identity.
[00:38:50] Fluidity of Male Sexuality.
[00:44:19] Intrusive thoughts and OCD.
[00:49:43] Mild OCD in therapy.
[00:51:38] OCD therapy techniques.
[00:56:03] Pain reprocessing therapy and acceptance.
[00:59:57] Finding your life's mission.
[01:05:21] Exposure therapy in podcasting.
[01:09:17] Gender-related OCD.
[01:12:24] Gender identity and mental health.
[01:17:22] Cultural changes regarding suicide.
[01:19:44] Gender crisis.
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PRODUCTION: Looking for your own podcast producer? Visit PodsByNick.com and mention my podcast for 20% off your initial services.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.
MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude & permission.
To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
Learn more about Do No Harm.
Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST at EightSleep.com.
Take 20% off all superfood beverages with code SOMETHERAPIST at Organifi.
Check out my shop for book recommendations + wellness products.
Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.
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Audra's firsthand experiences with heinous crimes provide a chilling insight into the lack of guilt and empathy in certain offenders. What drives these individuals to commit such atrocities? How do they navigate the world with a narrow focus on their selfish and sadistic desires, devoid of remorse?
As the conversation unfolds, we touch on the importance of mothering in the 21st century and the delicate balance between protecting children and navigating societal norms. We discuss the risks associated with daycare and the need for vigilant screening of caregivers. What red flags should parents watch out for? How can they ensure their child's safety in a world where predators lurk in unexpected places?
The episode takes a thought-provoking turn as we explore the complexities of mental health services and the challenges faced by individuals with various conditions. From the need for social skills training for autistic young adults to the debate surrounding the treatment of chronic offenders with antisocial traits, the conversation delves into the gaps in the current system. But where do these individuals truly belong? Are prisons the answer, or is there a need for more specialized care? Tune in to uncover the answers to these pressing questions and more.
Audra Worlow has a Bachelors of Applied Health Science from BGSU. She worked in criminal law for her local county prosecutor's office for five years dealing with homicide and sex crimes, before leaving the field to focus on her family and writing. She is Catholic as well as a Conservatarian. She writes about science, politics, culture, humor, and morality. Follow her on X at @audrawrongspeak
Books mentioned in this episode:
The Gift of Fear by Gavin DeBecker00:00 Start
[00:01:45] Mothering in the 21st century.
[00:06:18] Daycare safety concerns.
[00:09:19] Choosing a trustworthy babysitter.
[00:14:36] Reading physiological cues in gerbils.
[00:19:49] Stepfathers' hidden motives.
[00:22:27] Stepparenting and relationship dynamics.
[00:26:09] Stepmothers and abusive behavior.
[00:30:36] Living in a rape culture.
[00:35:52] Grooming in abusive situations.
[00:37:42] The nature of sexual impulses.
[00:42:54] Lack of empathy in criminals.
[00:48:31] Autistic young adults and identity.
[00:52:51] Criminal justice and mental health.
[00:55:35] Bipolar disorder and borderline personality.
[00:58:26] Mental health and stigma.
[01:01:18] Conflicting values and bodily autonomy.
[01:07:26] Hormones and mental health consequences.
[01:10:33] Personality disorders in trans-identified people.
[01:14:32] Personality disorders in society.
[01:19:02] Religious element in detransitioning.
[01:23:07] Gaslighting and manipulation techniques.
[01:28:14] Envy and resentment in relationships.
[01:30:13] Surgeons and psychopathy.
[01:34:34] Injecting cross-sex hormones into others.
[01:37:51] The gender crisis.
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Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.
SHOW NOTES & transcript with help from SwellAI.
MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude & permission.
To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
Learn more about Do No Harm.
Take $200 off your EightSleep Pod Pro Cover with code SOMETHERAPIST at EightSleep.com.
Take 20% off all superfood beverages with code SOMETHERAPIST at Organifi.
Check out my shop for book recommendations + wellness products.
Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.
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Jane Wise is a certified addictions counselor who, like me, provides both individual and group support for parents of ROGD kids. After learning that parents who questioned their children's gender identity were not only lacking in support, but were being called bigots and transphobes just for worrying about their kids, Jane decided to use her skills as a group counselor to help provide a space for them to support each other.
In this episode, we compare and contrast our approaches to helping ROGD parents, work that occupies relatively new and uncharted territory in a cultural and political landscape that remains hostile toward the concerns of both parents and mental health professionals. Jane shares her personal evolution from a staunch supporter of the trans movement to a critical observer, shedding light on the struggles faced by parents navigating rapid onset gender dysphoria in their children.
The episode touches on the delicate balance between offering support and avoiding enabling harmful decisions, drawing parallels between addiction dynamics and gender identity exploration. We discuss the emotional turmoil experienced by parents, the impact of societal pressures, and the importance of maintaining hope amidst uncertainty. We explore the concept of motivational interviewing and its application in guiding parents through difficult conversations with their children. I also share a sneak preview of a few concepts from my upcoming course for parents.
Jane Wise is a certified addictions counselor who facilitates one of the regional, monthly parent support groups for Parents of ROGD Kids. Jane is not a parent herself, but after learning that parents who questioned their children's gender identity were not only lacking in support, but were being called bigots and transphobes just for worrying about their kids, she decided to use her skills as a group counselor to help provide a space for them to support each other. Jane also provides free individual support to parents of ROGD kids by appointment, and they do not have to belong to the support group she facilitates.
Books mentioned in this episode can be found via these Amazon affiliate links:
- Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss
- The Righteous Mind by Jonathan HaidtCheck out the rest of my recommendations for ROGD parents in the second section down in my bookshop.
Thank you for purchases that support the show.00:00 Start
[00:01:10] Supporting parents of ROGD kids.
[00:04:29] Detransitioners and changing perspectives.
[00:09:25] Parental dynamics in transition.
[00:13:32] Maintaining Connection with Trans Children
[00:16:15] Cluster B personality traits.
[00:19:57] Catch-22 situation.
[00:21:41] Double binds in parenting.
[00:28:23] Parenting and problem-solving strategies.
[00:31:12] Motivational interviewing technique
[00:35:17] Addiction and gender exploration.
[00:37:32] The nature of gender ideology.
[00:40:08] The nature of evil.
[00:44:31] The concept of being an ally.
[00:50:52] Love and limits in parenting.
[00:54:29] Parenting challenges and dynamics.
[00:57:02] Cluster B personality traits.
[01:01:22] Moral psychology and disgust.
[01:05:16] Powerful, destructive habit.
[01:09:16] Puberty blockers and suicide rates.
[01:13:40] Destructive vs. good addictions.
[01:15:03] Recognizing harms of gender affirmation.
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My good friend Amy Sousa is a brave and resilient woman presently battling stage 3 breast cancer. We delve into the complex emotions and decisions Amy faces as she navigates her cancer journey. Amy shares her unique perspective on the significance of breasts, challenging societal norms and gender ideology. We explore the impact of cancer on her embodiment activism and the importance of self-acceptance and love.
Amy discusses her holistic approach to treatment, incorporating a metabolic approach alongside traditional chemotherapy. We uncover the power of nutrition and lifestyle choices in supporting the body's natural healing processes.
We explore the boundaries and intersections between the psyche and the body in the context of illness. Why might people who identify as transgender claim to have âphantom limb sensationsâ about body parts theyâve never had? And when cosmetic, optional, life-shortening procedures are reframed as âmedically necessary,â how does this affect the flow of medical resources toward those truly in need?
Join us as we unravel the complexities of cancer treatment, the mind-body connection, and the resilience of the human spirit.
Amy E. Sousa holds a MA in Depth Psychology. She is a women's rights activist, lecturer, and educator, with an expertise in embodiment. She holds one-on-one coaching, teaches classes, and facilitates workshops to help women strengthen their intuition. She also posts educational videos about embodiment & boundaries on her YouTube. Sousa has organized multiple rallies, protests, and free speech events on behalf of women/girls sex-based safeguarding provisions and against the unnecessary medicalization of children. For more about Amy follow her on Twitter, Instagram, & TikTok @KnownHeretic, on Substack at theknownheretic.com, or on YouTube @KnownHeretic.
00:00 Start
[00:00:00] Breast cancer and gender identity.
[00:05:19] Embodiment and breast cancer.
[00:09:49] Self-acceptance and body image.
[00:15:05] Elective surgeries and privilege.
[00:18:31] D-trans women's reproductive challenges.
[00:22:03] Identity and authenticity.
[00:28:42] The pleasure of having breasts.
[00:32:00] Sensation and personal choices.
[00:38:08] Gender role-playing among men.
[00:40:18] Phantom limb sensations.
[00:43:33] Obsessive thoughts and compulsions.
[00:47:03] Ketosis and cancer treatment.
[00:52:33] Gender-affirming care and passive models.
[00:56:26] Neuroplasticity and self-fulfilling prophecies.
[01:03:24] Resilience and self-identity.
[01:07:11] Internalizing vs. externalizing behavior.
[01:11:07] Misdiagnosing depression as abuse.
[01:15:06] Self-diagnosis in mental health.
[01:20:38] Time blindness and consequences.
[01:22:23] Time blindness in modern society.
[01:25:17] Cancer and self-reflection.
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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.
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MaryCate Delvey is a female rights activist and satirist. She created the video series âListen To Trans People,â which exposes the dark nature of transgender ideology in their own words.
In this episode, she helps me uncover the disturbing inner worlds of porn-saturated misogynists, incel Redditors, and autogynephiles, shedding light on the fetishistic nature of some men who simultaneously seek to become women while mocking us and undermining our safety.
What is hypno sissy porn? Is âgender euphoriaâ just a euphemism for inappropriate erections? What drives these men to seek validation through violating women's spaces and boundaries? How do their actions reflect possible deeper issues of narcissism and sadism? And what do parents of young heterosexual men with Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria (ROGD) need to know about the dark corners of the internet their sons may be spending time on?
Join us as we navigate through the murky waters of gender identity and the blurred lines between sexual orientation and fetishism. Are you ready to uncover the unsettling realities behind the Transmaxxing Manifesto and its implications on society? Tune in to find out more.
MaryCate Delvey is a female rights activist and satirist. She created the series âListen To Trans People,â which exposes the dark nature of transgender ideology in their own words. She enjoys painting, Chinese soap operas, and rescuing elderly and special-needs animals. You can find her on X at @marycatedelvey
Books mentioned in this episode:
Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters by Abigail ShrierFour Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman00:00 Start
[00:00:00] Transitioning for dating pool expansion.
[00:07:55] Pornhub model confusion.
[00:08:33] Super straight and gender critical.
[00:16:09] Dark revelations about transgender communities.
[00:19:51] Desire to escape sexualization.
[00:22:31] Gender euphoria and arousal.
[00:25:43] The sick thrill in sissy porn.
[00:30:50] Effects of extreme porn on youth.
[00:37:35] Sexual fetish and violation.
[00:41:43] Unusual encounters in locker rooms.
[00:44:43] Fear of speaking up.
[00:49:29] Genital preference.
[00:54:26] Gender identity in young lesbians.
[00:57:45] Sexuality and identity complexities.
[01:00:15] Trans Maxing Manifesto.
[01:05:20] Parenting challenges in ROGD cases.
[01:09:48] Men coming out as trans
[01:13:04] Psychological dynamics in relationships.
[01:14:27] Merger and self-respect in men.
[01:19:07] Fetish and hypnosis in therapy.
[01:24:32] Psychedelics for personal growth.
[01:26:12] Psychedelics and ego death.
[01:31:21] Life's Difficult Decisions
[01:34:46] Sacrifices for living.
[01:39:25] Veganism and health.
[01:42:34] Pregnant men and Twilight Zone.
[01:46:12] Twisted relationship with evil.
[01:48:55] The importance of dialogue.
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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.
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In this episode, I sit down with Tamara Pietzke, a mental health therapist best known for having blown the whistle on gender affirming care this past February in a Free Press article. What has she been up to since then?
We discuss the complexities of therapists being pressured to rubber stamp gender identities and recommend medical interventions. Tamara shares her experiences challenging the status quo and the backlash she faced for questioning the rush to affirm identities.
We explore the ethical dilemmas therapists face when young clients demand immediate medicalization, and confront the myths surrounding suicide risk and prevention in the transgender population. How do we navigate the fine line between supporting individuals in the moment and ensuring their long-term well-being? The conversation touches on the hot-cold empathy gap, the sunk cost fallacy, and the conveyor-belt nature of the gender industry, shedding light on the challenges of helping vulnerable youth in today's society.
Join us as we unravel the layers of social contagion, neuroplasticity, and the impact of social transitioning on young minds. Can therapy provide a safe space for exploration beyond immediate demands for medical interventions? Tune in to discover how therapists like Tamara navigate the delicate balance of protecting the holistic health of their clients.
Tamara is a mental health therapist (licensed independent clinical social worker) and has been a therapist for twelve years. She has worked a number of places, but most recently was working at Multicare, one of the state's largest hospital systems, for the past six years. When she raised concerns about the shift towards mandated "gender affirming care," she was bullied and dismissed. She stopped working there January of 2024, a couple weeks before her whistleblowing article came out in the Free Press. From Multicare, she went to another practice, but they let her go after three weeks, the same week the article came out, simply saying she wasn't "the right fit for the position." She has since been working on building a private practice. Meanwhile, the state is now investigating her license on account of not being "gender affirming.â
Links & Resources:
Free Press article 1
Free Press article 2
City Journal article
Give Send Go
Pietzke Counseling
00:00 Start
[00:01:10] Gender affirming care concerns
[00:07:11] Gender-affirming therapy for teenagers.
[00:12:25] Symbolic exploration of identity.
[00:14:25] Gender identity exploration challenges.
[00:17:48] Suicide risk and gender-affirming care.
[00:20:51] Teenagers and parental involvement.
[00:27:02] Therapists' reaction to detransitioners.
[00:29:10] Therapists' reaction to differing views.
[00:31:27] The gray area in ethics.
[00:36:59] Challenges in therapy practice.
[00:40:21] The hot cold empathy gap.
[00:44:05] Conversion therapy and gender identity.
[00:45:05] Gender dysphoria and identity confusion.
[00:48:57] Power dynamics in adolescence.
[00:53:35] Navigating marketing in therapy.
[00:59:10] Ethics of helping endangered children.
[00:59:29] Detransitioning concerns in youth.
[01:05:03] Ethics in Therapy
[01:08:28] Whistleblowers and support network.
[01:10:50] Gender crisis.
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Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.
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LaRell and Valerie Herbert are a married couple with a very unique story. During their time together, LaRell first believed he was a transgender woman and went through full sex trait modification before awakening to self-acceptance as a man.
Join us as we explore their journey through somatic psychology and psychedelic integration. How did their relationship withstand the challenges of detransitioning, medical trauma, and identity crises? What impact did their individual traumas have on their journey?
Discover the intricate dynamics of their blended family and the unexpected twists that unfolded as they navigated the medical pipeline of gender transition. How did their experiences with therapists and surgeons shape their perspectives on identity and healing? Tune in to uncover the profound insights and personal growth that emerged from their transformative journey.
Valerie is a somatic trauma-informed mentor and teacher. She is an earth ceremonialist and weaves wisdom through understanding and learning more about our innate goodness and wildness from connection with Mother Earth and learning from her elements. Although she is classically trained as a systems thinker and understands theoretical approaches and methods of healing trauma, she finds that creating a deep, loving, consistent, and safe relationship and container is how people heal. Valerie helps people remember the wholeness of who they are.
LaRell Herbert is a former transwoman who lived for years believing he was a female born in the wrong body. This belief led him to pursue hormone replacement therapy in 2017 at 36 and gender reassignment surgery in 2019, despite being married to a loving and supportive woman. Through introspection and self-growth, LaRell realized his gender identity was rooted in childhood trauma. In October 2023, he de-transitioned and returned to living as his biologically male self. His journey through trans ideology and lived experience as a trans woman has made him acutely aware of the tragedies young people face when sold the idea of medical transition for happiness. LaRell and his wife Valerie aim to raise awareness about the impact of transition on spouses and family members, recognizing that while transition is a personal choice, it significantly affects those around you.
Books mentioned in this episode:
"The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk"The End of Gender" by Debra Soh00:00 Start
[00:00:00] Identity exploration and transition journey.
[00:05:30] Shame and trauma in childhood.
[00:11:45] Discovering transgender identity.
[00:14:10] Inner dissonance in marriage.
[00:18:51] Repression and trauma in relationships.
[00:23:02] Transition and addiction parallels.
[00:25:46] Taking female hormones' impact.
[00:30:42] Hormone effects on emotionality.
[00:33:45] Femininity and bone mass.
[00:38:17] Fear of suicide and transition.
[00:41:22] Blended family challenges.
[00:44:32] Relational healing and gender ideology.
[00:52:20] Vaginoplasty experiences and complications.
[00:53:02] Post-surgical challenges in transitioning.
[00:57:08] Gender identity and self-love.
[01:01:19] Dissociation and body acceptance.
[01:07:00] Gender identity and transition journey.
[01:09:58] Gender identity realization.
[01:12:55] The journey of self-discovery.
[01:17:30] Unique life path and experiences.
[01:22:16] Men's initiation retreats.
[01:24:43] Best friends with therapist.
[01:30:25] Real-life relationships and complications.
[01:31:51] The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care.
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Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.
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In this episode, I dive into a fascinating conversation with Dr. Camilo Ortiz about a groundbreaking concept he coined as "independence therapy." Dr. Ortiz shares insights on how giving kids age-appropriate responsibilities and freedoms can help them overcome anxiety. We discuss the evolution of this idea from classic exposure therapy to empowering kids with independence. How does this therapy work, and what age group is it suitable for? Dr. Ortiz reveals the surprising results and the potential impact on children's anxiety levels.
We explore the importance of allowing kids to experience discomfort, danger, distress, and disappointment to build resilience. Dr. Ortiz shares real-life examples of how parents can support their children in developing independence, highlighting the risks of overprotective parenting. What are the risks of inaction, and how can parents strike a balance between safety and independence? We also touch on the legal aspects of children's independence and the role of parents in fostering self-reliance.
Join us as we uncover the hidden benefits of independence therapy and discuss practical strategies for parents to empower their children. Discover how small changes in parenting approaches can have a significant impact on children's confidence and self-reliance. Are you ready to learn how to support your child's journey towards independence and resilience? Tune in to this episode for valuable insights and actionable tips from Dr. Camilo Ortiz.
Camilo Ortiz, Ph.D., is an associate professor and director of clinical training in the clinical psychology doctoral program at Long Island University-Post. He is also a fellow with the Flourishing in Action project at the Archbridge Instituteâs Human Flourishing Lab. His scholarship focuses on parenting, disruptive behavior problems in children, child anxiety, elimination disorders, and cognitive behavior therapy for child and adult psychiatric disorders. He completed a pre-doctoral internship at Montefiore Medical Center and a postdoctoral research fellowship at Stony Brook before joining the faculty at LIU-Post in 2001. He teaches cognitive-behavior therapy (CBT) and evidence-based treatment of children and adolescents. Dr. Ortiz is a licensed psychologist in New York State and maintains a private psychology practice where he sees adults and children. He received a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Massachusetts, Amherst. DrCamiloOrtiz.com
X: @DrCamiloOrtiz
Treating Childhood Anxiety with a Mega-Dose of Independence - Profectus Magazine
New York Times articleBooks recommended on this show can always be found at sometherapist.com/bookshop. Thank you for purchases that support the show!
00:00 Start
[00:01:38] Independence therapy for anxious kids.
[00:07:16] Children's decline in mixed-age play.
[00:11:17] Independence activities for children.
[00:13:37] Changing parenting dynamics over generations.
[00:18:25] Developing sense of competence.
[00:22:11] Broken bone resilience discovery.
[00:25:28] The four Ds for kids.
[00:28:05] Trust in Independence Activities.
[00:33:42] Interacting with kids in society.
[00:37:41] Parental support and independence.
[00:41:04] The risks of inaction.
[00:44:00] Kids needing practice with danger.
[00:49:53] Independence and life skills.
[00:52:40] Therapist's role in politics.
[00:55:21] Therapist referral service and talks.
[01:00:07] Generational differences and media influence.
[01:03:23] Living life consistent with values.
[01:09:15] Therapists' online presence discussed.
[01:13:16] Gender-Affirming Care.
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Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals comm...
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I sit down with three remarkable gentlemen to discuss the complexities of black fatherhood in America. Speaking from their hearts, Adam, Mike and Jeremiah share how it has shaped their characters to embrace the responsibilities, challenges, and blessings of fatherhood. They critically examine societal norms, narratives, and myths that keep black families in survival mode, and explore what it truly means to âdo your bestâ as a parent.
As the conversation unfolds, we touch on the concept of generational curses versus generational choices. Are we destined to repeat the mistakes of our ancestors, or do we have the power to make different decisions and break free from the cycle? We delve into the importance of hope and resilience in the black community, highlighting the need for healing and self-awareness to overcome past traumas and societal limitations.
Join us as we navigate through the complexities of fatherhood, resilience, and societal expectations. How can parents empower themselves and their children to break free from the constraints of generational curses and embrace a future filled with hope and possibility?
Adam B. Coleman is the Author of âBlack Victim To Black Victorâ, Op-Ed Writer, Public Speaker, host of the âBreaking Breadâ video series, and the Founder of Wrong Speak Publishing. Adam is a columnist for Human Events, a frequent contributor for The New York Post and has articles published in Newsweek, The Telegraph, The Federalist, The Epoch Times, Daily Mail, The Post Millennial, Unherd, The Publica, ScoonTV, Free Black Thought, Life News HQ & Human Defense Initiative. Substack
Twitter: @wrong_speak
Michael David Cobb Bowen is a Stoic writer, data engineer and author of the award-winning blog Cobb. He has been published in Newsweek and was a regular NPR contributor, host at Cafe Utne, founder of the Conservative Brotherhood, Rights Universal and Free Black Thought. His online writing projects on political, cultural and philosophical subjects reach back over 23 years. His latest project, Stoic Observations, can be found at mdcbowen.substack.com.
Jeremiah Wallace is a health coach and founder of RenewYou Health & Fitness. Over the last seven years, he has supported his clients to achieve renewal in their bodies, minds and behaviors. He is also host of the podcast Blended - Navigating The Blended Family Experience. As a stepparent himself, Jeremiah supports stepfamilies and those that are facing the complexities that exist within the blended family unit. His desire is for parents to have the clarity, competence and conviction necessary to lead well and to walk in purpose for their families. https://linktr.ee/jeremiahwallace
Books written by guests of this show can always be found at sometherapist.com/bookshop. Or follow the Amazon affiliate links below for books mentioned in this episode. Thank you for purchases that support the show!
Black Victim to Black Victor by Adam B. Coleman
00:00 Start
[00:00:21] Fatherhood myths and realities.
[00:06:09] Fatherhood and personal growth.
[00:11:13] The impact of fatherlessness.
[00:12:13] Importance of family structure.
[00:16:33] Fatherhood myths and misconceptions.
[00:22:10] Family dynamics and relationships.
[00:27:13] Parenting challenges and gender dysphoria.
[00:31:20] Generational curses.
[00:33:09] Fatherhood and challenging stereotypes.
[00:39:13] Living a life without hope.
[00:41:25] Learning from privilege vs. trauma.
[00:45:56] Generational curses.
[00:51:17] Getting out of survival mode.
[00:56:21] Learning from parental struggles.
[00:57:15] Building discipline and success.
[01:03:33] The breakdown of marriage.
[01:06:11] Commitment and relationship standards.
[01:09:47] Shame and celebrity culture.
[01:14:44] Impact of fathers on daughters.
[01:20:21-01:20:32] Crisis of identity and values.
[01:24:37] Ancestry and identity crisis.
[01:26:08] Parental Responsibility and Guilt.
[01:30:13] Forgiveness and self-improvement.
[01:34:24] Gender crisis and community dialogue.
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MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude & permission.
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I sit down with Maia Poet, a 24-year-old Israeli-American writer, researcher, and public speaker with an extraordinary story. Maia began identifying as transgender at the tender age of 12 and recently desisted from this identity after living as a man in the Middle East for several years. What led her to this profound change? How did her experiences in Israel and Palestine shape her understanding of gender and identity?
Maia shares her harrowing escape from the October 7th attacks, narrowly avoiding the chaos due to a last-minute change in plans. What was it like to be on the brink of such a life-altering event? How did her involvement in peace activism between Jewish and Arab children influence her worldview? Maia paints a vivid picture of the optimism and innocence that existed just before the world around her was shattered.
We delve into Maia's unique cultural background, exploring how her Russian Jewish roots and her deep connection to Arab culture influenced her journey. How did studying Arabic and immersing herself in Middle Eastern culture help her reconnect with her Jewish identity? And what role did her trans identification play in her integration into both religious Muslim-Palestinian and Orthodox-Jewish communities?
Join us as we navigate through Maia's compelling narrative, from her early intellectual obsessions to her life-changing experiences in Israel. How did a chance encounter in a West Bank coffee shop and an unexpected Bar Mitzvah at the Western Wall cement her male identity? And what ultimately led her to desist from her trans identity? Tune in to hear Maia's fascinating story and gain insights into the complex interplay of culture, identity, and survival.
Maia Poet is a 24 year old Israeli-American writer, researcher and public speaker. She began identifying as transgender at the age of 12, and has recently desisted from a trans identity which has lasted for half of her life. Maia is reflecting on her experiences of desistance, in hopes of providing insight for young people struggling with gender distress and, for their parents.
Twitter/X: @thepeacepoet99
Maia's YouTube channel
Speech for Detrans Awareness Day
Book co-authored with Israeli social worker, Tal Croitoru, based on Maiaâs life and journey of desistance, Lia's Journey
00:00 Start
[00:00:21] Challenging beliefs about body image.
[00:03:50] Peaceful coexistence among Israeli kids.
[00:10:25] Youthful optimism in challenging times.
[00:15:32] Building bridges between communities.
[00:18:53] Interconnectedness of Jewish and Arab cultures.
[00:21:52] An intergenerational longing for connection.
[00:24:18] A rare pituitary tumor.
[00:29:10] Discovering newfound physical sensations.
[00:33:14] Cultural and social influences.
[00:37:16] Identity and political alignment.
[00:41:09] Gender identity realization.
[00:43:49] Bar Mitzvah surprise.
[00:49:29] Maia is looking to mingle.
[00:51:50] LARPing as an Orthodox Jewish man.
[00:55:39] Pro-Palestinian views and differences.
[00:57:54] Paradigm-shifting realization about anti-Zionism.
[01:03:34] Regrets of transition journey.
[01:06:14] Detransitioning experiences.
[01:09:14] Gender identity realization.
[01:13:18] Re-envisioning identity post-transition.
[01:19:34] Gender ideology and children's books.
[01:20:16] Gender identity exploration journey.
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Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.
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Many cultural critics have expressed a mounting concern about prevalent attitudes that promote fragile mentalities, potentially crippling a generation and leaving them underprepared for the demands of adult life. Todayâs roundtable panel brings together experts in mental health, social work, and social-emotional learning to discuss these concerns. How do narratives about our ability to bounce back from adversity shape our mental health and impact our outcomes?
The discussion touches on the importance of self-awareness and the practice of mindfulness in strengthening our emotional resilience. But what happens when our nervous system goes haywire, and we can't trust our emotions? How do we navigate through moments of distress and disorientation?
The guests share personal experiences and insights on how to cultivate mental fitness in a world filled with fear and self-censorship. Join us as we unravel the complexities of emotional well-being and resilience in the modern age.
Jake Wiskerchen, LMFT owns and operates Zephyr Wellness in northern Nevada and serves on the board of Walk the Talk America. His emotional functioning videos mentioned in this episode can be found here. Follow him at Twitter/X: @jakewisk
Zander Keig, LCSW, is an award-winning social worker, speaker, caregiver, and educator who presents sought-after emotional well-being webinars and hosts the popular Umbrella Hour podcast. Zander co-founded the LGBTQ Caregiver Center, publishes change-maker stories at Third Space Press, and serves as a Caregiving.com LGBT Expert and Pride 365 Champion.
Jason Littlefield is an educator and advocate for personal well-being and societal well-being. He is the author of Empowered Humanity Theory: A Framework For An Empowering And Dignified Life. He's served more than years in public education in the capacity of teacher/coach, assistant principal and Social Emotional Learning. Jason has impacted students globally, including in Taiwan, China, and Benin, Africa. He works to reduce human division and promote personal well-being through EmpowerED Pathways, Free Black Thought, and The Institute for Liberal Values.
Books mentioned in this episode:
"The Psychology of Emotions" by Carroll IzardPrevious episodes mentioned:
Jake Wiskerchen: episodes 2 & 97Zander Keig: 38Jason Littlefield: 46Sara Stockton: 93
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Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.
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Sidewalk Steve earned this nickname from boldly positioning himself on the streets of New Hampshire to discuss whatâs wrong with pediatric sex trait modification with hundreds of passers-by. How has an introvert like Steve worked up the courage to speak in public about the most controversial issue of our time, despite fear of cancel culture and even assault? What communication techniques does he use to reach people? And what has he observed changing in the public consensus over the past several years?
Join us as we explore the communication techniques and talking points essential for challenging gender clinics, puberty blockers, and pediatric sex trait modifications. How do we navigate the delicate balance of engaging with those who vehemently oppose our views? And what about the suicide narrative that often clouds discussions on this topic? Can we break through the barriers of cognitive dissonance to truly connect with individuals who may have been hurt by gender ideology, while they project that hurt onto those of us trying to help?
Discover the power of listening, not lecturing, as we uncover the emotional and psychological complexities that drive individuals to cling onto identities that may not serve their best interests. How do we address the need for belonging and reassurance in a world where online forums can easily groom vulnerable youth into irreversible decisions? Tune in to gain insights into the nuanced challenges of advocating against harmful gender practices and the importance of creating safe spaces for individuals to question and explore their true identities.
Stephen Scaer is a special education teacher and an activist fighting sex-trait modifications for children. SidewalkSteve.org
X: @sidewalk_steve
Books mentioned in this episode:
Irreversible Damage by Abigail ShrierWhen Prophecy Fails by Leon FestingerAlso mentioned:
My testimony against a proposed Oregon bill banning misleadingly named âconversion therapyâMy testimony in favor of Alaska House Bill 33800:00 Start
[00:00:37] Activist fighting sex trade modifications.
[00:05:29] Overwhelmingly positive responses to activism.
[00:08:15] Autism and transgender activism.
[00:11:33] Children and puberty blockers.
[00:16:57] Cognitive dissonance and reactions.
[00:19:08] Cognitive dissonance and defense mechanisms.
[00:22:33] Millennial movements throughout history.
[00:27:36] Listening and understanding diverse perspectives.
[00:30:39] The balance of information overload.
[00:34:43] Regret rates in medical procedures.
[00:39:39] Detransition and autism in identity.
[00:42:51] Gender identity exploration journey.
[00:49:25] The suicide narrative.
[00:52:08] Gender Affirming Care.
[00:54:56] Suicide rates among trans youth.
[01:00:29] Suicide rates among genders.
[01:06:26] Teaching kids about suicide.
[01:08:08] Manipulation and mental health.
[01:11:59] Gender identity and autism.
[01:16:27] Speaking up in public forums.
[01:20:09] Personal stories in advocacy.
[01:23:03] Speaking up for a cause.
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MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude & permission.
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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.
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Iâve brought together a panel of two detransitioners and an elder therapist with many years of experience treating transition regret in psychoanalytic psychotherapy. Together, we explore the barriers to effective psychotherapy for individuals experiencing transition regret and the importance of a relational approach in therapy. But what happens when therapists fall into the trap of ego issues and countertransference? How do detransitioners navigate the shame and blame that often accompany their experiences? And what role does the mind-body connection play in healing trauma and emotional wounds? Join us as we uncover the challenges detransitioners face and the need for a holistic approach to mental health care.
Nicolas Blooms describes himself as a Detransitioner and Gender Shaman full of fruity passion to create ways for people to spark the deeper magical wisdom within their hearts to root in their inner resilience. Witness his liberating journey to self-love and remembering his Soul by soaking in his graphic novel, Trans to Detrans: A Soul Solution. He believes itâs totally possible to heal gender dysphoria and any other mental dis-ease! He previously appeared on episode 98. Trans to Detrans: A Graphic Novel Journey from Self-Hate to Self-Compassion, with Nicolas Blooms.
Layton is a detransitioned woman, conversion therapy survivor, artist, and psychic somatic practitioner. She previously appeared on episodes 95. Transing the Gay Away? Cults, Actual Conversion Therapy, & Dissociation: part 1 with Layton, and 96. From Cult to Gender Clinic: Misdiagnosis, Detransition & Healing â Layton, part 2. Follow her on X @origina1ange1 or visit her website at psychicsomatic.com.
Bob Withers is a Jungian analyst with over 35 yearsâ experience as a psychotherapist. During that time he has worked with several transgender people in various stages of transition and detransition. He has written a series of articles about that work including the 2020 article âTransgender Medicalizationâ. Bob is a former senior lecturer on the University of Westminsterâs masterâs program, where he specialized in the history and philosophy of the mind/body relationship in medicine. He is also co-founder of The Rock Clinic, a charitable, community based psychotherapy and counseling service in Brighton England, where he lives. He previously appeared on episode 47. The Scapegoated Body: Transition Regret in Psychotherapy with Bob Withers.
All books mentioned on this podcast can be found at sometherapist.com/bookshop or by following the Amazon affiliate links below.
Trans to Detrans: A Soul Solution, by Nicolas Blooms
00:00 Start
[00:00:49] Detransitioners in therapy.
[00:03:54] Complex psychiatric needs in counseling.
[00:07:21] Overcoming mind-body dissociation.
[00:13:30] Suicide narrative discussion.
[00:16:33] The effect of estrogen on suicide.
[00:18:20] Transitioning without therapist guidance.
[00:24:26] Mentorship in therapy relationships.
[00:28:09] Boundaries in therapy.
[00:31:40] Therapist-client relationship dynamics.
[00:35:14] Individualized approach in therapy.
[00:40:22] Challenges in mental health care.
[00:43:14] Bodily care and mental health.
[00:46:10] Trauma stored in the body.
[00:49:39] Somatic experiencing and healing.
[00:55:23] Taking healing into own hands.
[00:59:04] Detransitioning and medical issues.
[01:02:24] The needs of detransitioners.
[01:03:38] Gender dysphoria treatment controversies.
[01:09:35] Gender identity and detransitioning.
[01:13:38] Challenges in therapy dynamics.
[01:14:48] Reintegrating anger after dissociation.
[01:20:45] Hope and healing after trauma.
[01:23:04] Join my community at somekindoftherapist.locals.com.
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MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude & permission.
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Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at -
Todayâs episode is unlike any other. Although I had an entirely different episode planned, something came up recently that needed to be addressed. I said something on social media that hit a nerve for a lot of anguished people, namely, ROGD parents â ironically, the population I am most focused on addressing, and typically have great relationships with in the markedly different context of personal consulting. But this wasnât consulting; it was the social media platform X, where misunderstandings and pile-ons abound while tone and context are in short supply. In turn, the reaction of people who felt hurt left me feeling quite hurt as well.
I spent two days intensively processing what happened and discussing it with trusted advisers. This episode is the result of that processing, and it is probably the most vulnerable thing I will ever express to the public. I ask that anyone impacted by the recent drama take the time to listen. I hope it will also be of value to others interested in how to help families impacted by the gender crisis.
If you were one of the people who felt hurt by what I said on the internet, or perhaps questioned how you should feel about it, please consider what I have to say with an open heart and mind by listening to this message in full. It may resonate in unexpected ways. In an effort to address the ocean of pain inflicted by gender ideology and the ripple effects of brushing up against them, I illuminated aspects of the nature of the beast we are up against, and addressed several interconnected matters many of us have been feeling for a while but perhaps not put words to. Along the way, I addressed matters of grief and anguish; shame and blame; victim/rescuer/perpetrator dynamics; good and evil; idealization and devaluation; and what happens when society is overtaken by a dark force that raises the stakes of our smallest foibles into life-and-death matters. Finally, I suggest a way forward that restores innocence through grace and redemption.
Although I am not normally in the habit of posting videos of myself crying on the internet, on this occasion, it felt important to share my innermost experience with you as I face the heart of the beast that is hurting us all. I invite you to grieve with me. For a fuller experience including body language, you may wish to view this episode as a video on YouTube.
If you donât want to spend an hour of your time this way, I only ask that you be willing to withhold judgment and refrain from making comments to disparage my reputation, since you are making the choice not to take into consideration what I have to say. Thatâs a fair request, and I would certainly do the same for you.
Likewise, if you have made critical remarks of me to others, or on social media, but you do take the time to hear me out, and you do end up feeling differently after this, I would appreciate you following up and sharing with those people how this episode impacted your perspective. Again, I would do the same for you.
In case youâre wondering: the hurt and drama surrounding these events caused me to delete the tweets in question, temporarily lock my account, and stop looking at it for a few days. While I thought I screenshotted everything, all I am left with when I look is screenshots of hurtful comments left by others, so I actually find myself without a record of what I originally said. Some people may have taken my choices to delete the tweets, lock my account, and/or ignore social media for a few days to mean something in particular, but my choices meant only that I needed a break from all of it to collect myself. What I have to say is contained in this episode when listened to as a whole.
No timestamps, no ads, no âwhere to find me,â no outro today.
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Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.
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In a rare solo episode, I reflect on a few key themes that have emerged during the course of my work consulting with with parents who are worried about losing their kids to the gender craze. Join me as I share insights on how to help families facing this challenge. When is it actually a bad idea to tell your kids about the harms of sex trait modification? How can parents express concerns to headstrong adolescents without pushing them away? What strategies can you employ to understand their perspectives while maintaining your own boundaries? Tune in to discover the power of strategic apologizing and the importance of listening without necessarily agreeing.
We'll also explore the impact of porn and social media on youth's perceptions of gender and sexuality. How does exposure to certain media influence their beliefs and behaviors? And what part do male and female role models play in shaping their identities? Plus, we'll touch on the dynamics of splitting and triangulation within families facing the gender crisis. How can parents navigate these complex relationships to support children effectively? And what common pitfalls must be avoided in order to prevent the rift from deepening?
Books mentioned in this episode:
Never Split the Difference by Chris VossLost in Trans Nation by Miriam GrossmanBooks mentioned on this podcast can also be found in my bookshop. My recommended reading list for ROGD parents is the second section down on that page. If I can help, book a discovery call.
00:00 Start
[00:02:25] Gender craze in family dynamics.
[00:05:27] Origins of gender dysphoria.
[00:10:04] Importance of being strategic.
[00:11:31] A tightrope marathon.
[00:15:47] Avoid sharing too much information.
[00:20:48] Navigating teenage pride and knowledge.
[00:24:11] Hormonal effects on reproductive system.
[00:27:14] Hostage negotiation techniques.
[00:33:40] Apologizing for giving access to technology.
[00:36:21] Internalizing female oppression.
[00:39:44] Boys and porn addiction.
[00:43:35] ROGD parent role models.
[00:47:21] Cry for help in parenting.
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MUSIC: Thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude & permission.
To support this show, please leave a rating & review on Apple, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. Subscribe, like, comment & share via my YouTube channel. Or recommend this to a friend!
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Show notes & transcript provided with the help of SwellAI.
Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude and permission.
Watch NO WAY BACK: The Reality of Gender-Affirming Care (our medical ethics documentary, formerly known as Affirmation Generation). Stream the film or purchase a DVD. Use code SOMETHERAPIST to take 20% off your order. Follow us on X @2022affirmation or Instagram at @affirmationgeneration.Have a question for me? Looking to go deeper and discuss these ideas with other listeners? Join my Locals community! Members get to ask questions I will respond to in exclusive, members-only livestreams, post questions for upcoming guests to answer, plus other perks TBD.
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In response to a viral tweet that sparked a heated debate about the natural bond between mothers and babies, Iâve brought together a panel of wise women to delve into the controversial topic of motherhood, daycare, and child-rearing in the 21st century. My guests share personal experiences and expertise in reproductive mental health, child development, and embodiment, shedding light on the biological and cultural aspects of mother-child attachment.
The conversation explores the biological foundations of mother-baby bonding, emphasizing the critical role of early attachment in a child's development. We touch on the impact of daycare on children's emotional well-being and the importance of self-regulation in early childhood. We also examine generational shifts in parenting styles, from stay-at-home moms to working parents, highlighting the evolving dynamics of modern families.
As the discussion unfolds, the guests propose innovative solutions, including on-site daycare at universities and workplaces, and a reimagining of welfare systems to support postpartum parents. They challenge societal norms that undermine women's reproductive biology and advocate for a more holistic approach to childcare. The episode leaves listeners pondering questions about the ideal environment for children, the role of attachment in emotional development, and the need for systemic changes to support families. Tune in to discover how these experts navigate the complexities of motherhood and childcare in today's world.
Robin Atkins is a licensed mental health counselor with nearly 2 decades of experience overall and nearly a decade of experience in reproductive mental health. She speaks professionally regarding reproductive mental health, concerns with the current state of affairs in the mental health field, and ethical practice, particularly in regards to informed consent.
Website: www.charisetveritasllc.com
Twitter: @TruthAgape
Email: [email protected]
Laura Wiley Haynes is a writer, a mother & grandmother, and a former CASA. Read her article on Wesley Yangâs Substack, Universal Early Childhood Daycare Has Been Proven to Damage the Children Who Have Been Through It.
Amy E. Sousa holds a MA in Depth Psychology. She is a women's rights activist, lecturer, and educator, with an expertise in embodiment. She holds one-on-one coaching, teaches classes, and facilitates workshops to help women strengthen their intuition. She also posts educational videos about embodiment & boundaries on her YouTube. Sousa has organized multiple rallies, protests, and free speech events on behalf of women/girls sex-based safeguarding provisions and against the unnecessary medicalization of children. For more about Amy follow her on Twitter, Instagram, & TikTok @KnownHeretic, on Substack theknownheretic.com, YouTube @KnownHeretic.
Books mentioned in this episode can be purchased in my bookshop or by following the Amazon affiliate link below. Thank you for purchases that support the show!
"The Anxious Generation" by Jonathan Haidt00:00 Start
[00:00:21] Babygate 2024- Controversy Over Daycare
[00:06:20] Emotional impact of daycare separation.
[00:10:47] Controversy around daycare comments.
[00:12:45] Centering children's well-being.
[00:15:47] Ideal parenting and societal norms.
[00:22:33] Ideal childhood development strategies.
[00:25:36] Mother's role in teaching self-regulation.
[00:30:41] Importance of attachment.
[00:33:00] Moms and babies designed connection.
[00:37:31] Importance of mother-baby bonding.
[00:39:27] Shifting Parenting Styles.
[00:43:11] Women's reproductive choices and support.
[00:46:22] Misogyny in parenting culture.
[00:50:24] Devaluation of mothers.
[00:55:32] Motion and emotion.
[01:00:00] Building self-trust in children.
[01:04:00] The role of bonding and trust.
[01:07:23] The normalization of separating babies.
[01:12:08] Therapists sharing opinions online.
[01:14:48] Therapist-patient dynamics and opinions.
[01:20:29] Unhinged behavior in adults.
[01:23:30] Gender movement values and daycare.
[01:25:44] Ego attachments and self-validation.
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Special thanks to Joey Pecoraro for our theme song, âHalf Awake,â used with gratitude and p...
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