Episodes
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Ever find yourself stuck on the question, âBut why did they do that?!â
Whether youâre single, dating, engaged, or married, weâve all been thereâbaffled, hurt, or just plain annoyed by the things people do. This week, weâre unpacking a powerful truth: your healing isnât tied to getting an answer to âwhy.â In fact, as much as we want closure or explanations, sometimes the âwhyâ is overrated (and, letâs be honest, probably not as satisfying as we hope).
Join Cosmo and Suzi as they draw from wise words by Matthias Barker (@matthiasbarker), personal experience, and biblical encouragement to reveal what real healing actually looks like. Spoiler alert: itâs found in loving, safe relationshipsâfirst with God, then with others who truly see you, hear you, and walk with you. Weâll talk about faith, forgiveness, how to process pain, and why sometimes God invites us to focus on what He wants to do IN usânot on unraveling someone elseâs motives.
If youâve ever wrestled with questions that donât have neat answers or felt stuck waiting for someone to make things right, this episode is your invitation to experience Godâs love in a whole new way. Letâs discover how Christian relationships, spiritual growth, and trusting God can move us from wounded to wholeâno âwhyâ required.
James 1:12..."Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life, which God has promised to those who love him."
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Ever feel like youâve done all the right things in your relationshipâread the books, learned the skills, aced the communicationâbut somethingâs still off? Like, youâve got the conflict resolution part down pat⊠but it still feels like somethingâs missing? Maybe itâs not the mechanicsâitâs the heart behind them. This episode dives into a powerful clip from a conversation between Simon Sinek (@simonsinek) and Jay Shetty (@jayshetty) that got us fired up (in the best way!) about the deeper skill set we donât always talk about: the skill set of love.
Join Cosmo and Suzi as they unpack what it means to not just solve problems in your relationships, but to love each other through them. From married life to dating dynamics, and everything in between, we talk real talk about how to uncover your âI feel loved whenâŠâ momentsâand how showing love in ways that feel like love can be the difference between surviving a storm and being anchored through it. With Scripture, personal stories, and some good olâ baklava metaphors (yes, really), we laugh, reflect, and pray our way into deeper connection.
Whether youâre single, dating, engaged, or married, this episode is for anyone wanting to build a Christ-centered relationship that lasts through tsunamis, not just tiffs. Weâll help you see why knowing what makes you (and your person) feel genuinely loved is vital spiritual workâand how trusting God in that process makes all the difference. Letâs go beyond checklists and lean into love thatâs layered, lasting, and full of grace.
Ephesians 4:2...With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love...
Original Reel found here.
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In your relationships, do you create chaos or confusion?
In this episode, we dive into a much-needed conversation about real masculinity. Spoiler alert: itâs not about bravado, control, or having something to prove. It's about stability, consistency, and being a safe placeânot just physically, but emotionally, relationally, and spiritually.
Inspired by a thought-provoking reel from mindfulness educator Case Kenny (@case.kenny), we explore what it really means for a man to be anchored in Christ and how that inner stability flows into every relationshipâwhether youâre single, dating, engaged, or married. We share some personal stories (including Cosmoâs youth group wake-up call and an always-welcome Gandalf reference đ) that highlight how God can transform even our toughest moments into opportunities for growth and grace.
If you're navigating the journey of Christian relationships or wondering how faith, emotional safety, and spiritual growth intersect with masculinity, this episode is for you. Trust usâitâs deep, itâs real, and it just might change the way you think about what strength really looks like.
Original reel can be found here.
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Is your 5-year plan causing a full-blown panic attack⊠today?
In this episode, we dive into the sneaky ways fear of the future (and regret from the past) can steal your peace, your presence, and your trust in God. We'll listen to @julienhimself and why we shouldn't fear the future simply because you've already got a 100% success rate of surviving the present!
We take his thoughts and interpret them for ourselves, investigating what it means to live in the moment with Christ and let Him be the one in charge of both your calendar and your character.
We explore how our imaginationsâthough creative and powerfulâcan quickly lead us into fear, fantasy, or even apathy when left unchecked by faith. Whether youâre single, dating, engaged, or married, youâve likely faced moments where trusting God for whatâs next felt impossible.
If youâve ever wrestled with anxiety about the future, regret over a decision, or paralysis over making the ârightâ choice, this episode is for you. Letâs talk about walking with God one day at a time, learning from the past, preparing for the future, and embracing the present with the Holy Spiritâs guidance. Because in Christian relationshipsâand in lifeâspiritual growth doesnât come from control, but from trust.
Isaiah 41:10...So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
Watch original Instagram reel here.
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Are you asking God for transformation, but hoping it doesn't require your participation?
Have you ever prayed for healing while still clinging to the very thing that's hurting you? Itâs like asking God to fix your burnt hand while keeping it in the flame! In this episode, Cosmo and Suzi unpack a powerful quote from Breaking the Patterns That Break You by Tori Hope Petersen: âWe cannot beg God to heal us while staying loyal to the patterns that hurt us.â Youâll laugh, reflect, and maybe squirm a little as they dig into how our habits can block the very healing weâre asking for.
Whether you're single, dating, engaged, or married, this episode invites you to look honestly at the spiritual, emotional, and relational patterns youâre holding onto. Through relatable stories and solid biblical truth, Suzi and Cosmo connect the dots between spiritual disciplines, renewing your mind, and trusting God in the middle of the stormânot just for the outcome, but for transformation along the way.
This conversation will challenge you to go deeper in your faith walk, stop self-protecting, and start asking God not just for changeâbut for your part in it. From forgiveness to community, from busyness to brokenness, this one is for anyone ready to move from hurting to healing in Christian relationships.
Romans 12:2âŠDo not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what Godâs will isâhis good, pleasing and perfect will.
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Are You Being Manipulated by Guilt? How to Recognize and Resist It
Ever had someone try to guilt you into doing something? Maybe itâs the friend who sighs dramatically when you canât drop everything for them, or the family member who reminds youâagainâhow much they sacrificed for you. Guilt can be a powerful tool of manipulation, and as Christians, we can be especially vulnerable to it because we want to do the right thing. But hereâs the truth: God never manipulates us through guilt. So why do we allow others to?
In this episode, we dive into how guilt-based manipulation sneaks into relationshipsâwhether you're single, dating, engaged, or marriedâand how to recognize it before it takes root. We unpack practical ways to set healthy boundaries, communicate with love, and stand firm in our God-given identity. Plus, we share a simple but powerful question you can use to call out guilt tactics when they show up: "Are you trying to make me feel guilty?" Trust us, this one can change everything!
Join us as we explore what it means to build relationships on truth, love, and mutual respectâwithout guilt trips or manipulation. Whether itâs family, friends, or even your own thought life trying to keep you stuck in guilt, weâll help you shift from unhealthy patterns to freedom in Christ. Ready to break free? Tune in!
Romans 16:18...Such people are not serving Christ our Lord; they are serving their own personal interests. By smooth talk and glowing words, they deceive innocent people.
Original Reel can be found here.
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Why do we think boundaries are about making others behave when theyâre actually about our choices?
Ever set a boundary only to feel like it didnât work? Maybe you told someone not to do something, and they did it anywayâso much for boundaries, right? Turns out, a lot of us have been thinking about boundaries all wrong! In this episode, we break down a powerful yet simple truth: a real boundary is something you will do, and it doesnât require the other person to do anything. đ€Ż
Join us as we unpack what healthy, biblical boundaries actually look like in friendships, dating, marriage, and even work relationships. Weâll share real-life stories, Scripture-based wisdom, and practical ways to set boundaries that strengthen relationships rather than create unnecessary conflict.
Plus, if youâve ever struggled with people-pleasing, overextending yourself, or feeling guilty for saying no, this episode is for you! Boundaries can bring freedom, peace, and deeper connections with the people we love.
Hebrews 12:11...No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.
Original reel can be found here.
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Ever felt like itâs your full-time job to keep your partner happy? Guess whatâitâs not even in your job description!
In this episode of the "I Feel Loved WhenâŠ" Podcast, we break down an Instagram reel from @buildthepositivity w/ Jef DeWitt that challenges the idea that a healthy relationship is all about happiness. Whether youâre dating, engaged, married, or even just navigating friendships and family relationships, we dive into what it actually means to love and support others without carrying the weight of their emotions.
Join us as we unpack practical ways to cultivate trust, stability, and genuine connectionâwithout slipping into people-pleasing. Weâll also tackle the difference between happiness and holiness (hint: one is the goal, the other is a byproduct) and how pursuing godliness strengthens every relationship in your life. With real-life examples, biblical insight, and a few laughs along the way, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking Christ-centered relationships.
So, what does it really mean to love well? And how do we set an atmosphere that fosters both joy and holiness? Tune in as we explore these questions, share personal stories, and offer encouragement for singles, couples, and everyone in between. Letâs grow in faith and loveâtogether.
Listen to original reel here.
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If someone had to marry you right nowâwould they be getting a great deal or a fixer-upper? đŹ
Turns out, the secret isnât in finding the perfect person but in becoming the person youâd want to marry! In this episode, we dive into a powerful (and slightly humbling) truth: the character traits you seek in a partner should be the ones youâre cultivating in yourself. Whether youâre single, dating, engaged, or married, this conversation will challenge you to look inward and ask, Am I becoming the kind of person Iâd want to commit to for life?
We unpack the wisdom of adopting godly characteristics and how mirroring Christâs traits in our own lives leads to stronger, healthier relationships. Through scripture, real-life insights, and a few good laughs, we explore how faith, trust, loyalty, and kindness arenât just qualities to look for in a spouseâtheyâre the very traits that shape a Christ-centered marriage (or prepare you for one).
If you're tired of the never-ending search for âthe one,â maybe it's time to refocus. Instead of checklist dating, letâs talk about how God transforms us as we seek His kingdom firstâbecause the right relationship starts with a heart anchored in Him. Tune in for encouragement, practical wisdom, and a fresh perspective on what it means to truly prepare for love.
Matthew 6:33-34... But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Original Reel can be found here.
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Whatâs the difference between a toxic person and someone whoâs just having a bad day? Letâs clear up the confusion!
Weâve all been thereâstuck in a fog of confusion, questioning if weâre the problem, or if something deeper is at play. In this episode, we dive into a thought-provoking discussion sparked by Donald Millerâs insights on identifying toxic people. But hereâs the real question: how do we separate truly toxic behavior from normal conflict in relationships? And more importantly, how do we handle it in a Christ-centered way?
Join us as we explore the key traits of a toxic person, contrast them with healthy conflict, and unpack what the Bible has to say about it. Weâll talk about setting godly boundaries, guarding our hearts, and making sure weâre not unintentionally the difficult ones in our own relationships. Whether youâre single, dating, engaged, or married, this conversation will help you discern, grow, and navigate relationships with wisdom, grace, and truth.
At the heart of it all, relationships are about loving one another as Christ loves us. But what happens when love isn't reciprocated? When manipulation, deceit, and blame take center stage? Letâs talk about what it means to build godly relationships where both people take responsibility, honor one another, and reflect the love of Jesus. If youâve ever struggled with relational confusion, this oneâs for you!
Romans 12:10... Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.
Original Reel can be found here.
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Ever wonder if something as small as a âGood morningâ text could actually change someoneâs life? Sounds almost too easy, right? But scienceâand more importantly, Scriptureâtell us that intentional connection can make all the difference in battling loneliness and strengthening relationships. In this episode, we dive into why checking in can be a game-changer for emotional and spiritual well-being.
Join us as we explore the biblical and practical power of simple daily connection, from friendships to dating relationships to marriage. We talk about how a quick message can remind someone theyâre not alone, encourage them in faith, and even act as a âspotterâ in life's heavy-lifting moments. Plus, we share real-life stories of how small acts of reaching out have made a huge impact.
So, whether youâre single, dating, engaged, or married, this episode is your nudge to be intentional. Who in your life could use a quick âI see youâ today? Letâs embrace Hebrews 10:24-25 and spur one another on to love, encouragement, and good deedsâone text at a time.
Hebrews 10:24-25âŠAnd let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one anotherâand all the more as you see the Day approaching.
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How long does it take to build transformative connection? 8 minutes!
In this episode of the "I Feel Loved When..." podcast, we explore how a tiny window of time can bring profound comfort and connection, even in the busiest of days. Whether you're single, dating, engaged, or married, this episode will inspire you to rethink how you show up for othersâand how you ask for help when you're struggling.
We take a fun, faith-filled journey through friendship, communication, and the biblical importance of supporting one another. With a little help from Simon Sinek's insight on emotional needs, Suzi and Cosmo discuss the simple yet profound idea of having a "code" for asking for helpâlike saying, "Do you have eight minutes?"
They highlight the power of lifting each other up, even with just a moment of intentional connection.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10âŠ"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up."
Original reel is here.
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Do you know when to listen, when to help, and when to just make sâmores?
How often do we rush to fix, solve, or advise when a friend is hurting? In this episode, we take a heartfelt and humorous look at what it means to truly be present in Christian relationships. Inspired by a poignant Instagram reel from psychotherapist Matthias J. Barker (@matthiasjbarker), we explore how simply showing upâwithout judgment or solutionsâcan bring comfort and healing to those we love.
Sometimes the best ministry is as simple as sâmores and silence. đ«đ€«đ„
We dive into biblical insights like Jobâs journey with his well-meaning (but flawed) friends, unpack Galatians 6:2 and Philippians 4:6-7, and reflect on how carrying each otherâs burdens fulfills the law of Christ. Whether youâre single, dating, engaged, or married, learning to "just be" in the midst of someoneâs struggles is a spiritual practice that grows empathy and strengthens connections.
Tune in to be encouraged, equipped, and anchored in Godâs love as you navigate the messy, beautiful work of walking alongside others.
Philippians 4:6-7âŠ"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
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Original reel can be found here.
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What if at the end of the year, you had a jar filled with evidence of Godâs faithfulness?
In this episode, Suzi and Cosmo dive into a fun and faith-filled idea weâre calling the Jar of Joy. Spoiler alert: it involves colorful paper, weekly reflections, and a big dose of gratitude. We'll share how this simple practice can help you spot Godâs hand in your life and celebrate His blessings, big and small.
We'll explore how intentionally recording daily joys shifts your focus from lifeâs challenges to Godâs goodness. By the end of the year, your jar could be brimming with Godâs faithfulness and everyday victories to revisit and rejoice over.
So grab a jar, start jotting down what went well, and join the fun! Donât forget to share your progress with #JarOfJoy and #SoulAnchoring on Instagram and celebrate how Godâs goodness is anchoring your soul.
Philippians 4:8âŠFinally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirableâif anything is excellent or praiseworthyâthink about such things.
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Ever feel like New Yearâs resolutions are just promises waiting to be broken? đ Us too!
In this first episode of 2025, weâre kicking off Season 2 with a look back at the previous year and look ahead to what God has in store for the year to come. Forget the guilt-laden âIâll do betterâ lists. Instead, letâs reflect on Godâs guidance, explore how to grow spiritually, and seek to deepen our understanding of His purpose for our lives.
Join Cosmo and Suzi as they share candid insights into their year of personal ministry, from navigating unplanned coaching opportunities to creating meaningful one-on-one connections with those seeking support in dating, marriage, and singleness. Youâll hear how they turned missed opportunities into blessings and laid the groundwork for exciting new resources, like online courses and soul-anchoring guidebooks, designed to help Christians strengthen their relationships and walk closer with God.
Plus, get your hands on six reflection questions to help you process the past year and set faith-focused goals for the new one! Whether you're married, dating, or single, this episode offers encouragement, practical tools, and a sprinkle of laughter to inspire you in your relationships, spiritual growth, and trust in Godâs plan for 2025. Donât miss itâyour soul (and your relationships) will thank you!
The Six Reflection Questions plus helpful Scripture:
1. What is one area of my life where Iâve seen Godâs growth or guidance this past year? How did I respond to it?
Philippians 1:6âŠ"Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."Isaiah 30:21..."Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, âThis is the way; walk in it.â"Colossians 2:6-7..."So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness."2. What small habits or routines did I establish this year that brought me closer to God or others? How can I continue or build on them?
Galatians 6:9..."Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up."Hebrews 10:24-25..."And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one anotherâand all the more as you see the Day approaching."1 Timothy 4:7-8..."Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wivesâ tales; rather, train yourself to be godly. For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come."
What are 3 character traits God has been working to develop in me this year, and how have I noticed changes?Galatians 5:22-23..."But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law."Philippians 1:6..."Being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."Romans 12:2..."Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what Godâs will isâhis good, pleasing and perfect will."
Whatâs something I did this past year that I regret or want to do less of in the future, and what did I learn from it?1 John 1:9..."If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."Proverbs 24:16..."For though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again, but the wicked stumble when calamity strikes."Philippians 3:13-14..."Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus."5. Whatâs something I discovered that brought me joy or fulfillment this past year that I want to do more of?
Psalm 37:4..."Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart."John 15:11..."I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete."Ecclesiastes 3:12-13..."I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while they live. That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toilâthis is the gift of God."6. How did I make time for what I loved this year, and what did I learn about prioritizing my passions and values?
Ecclesiastes 3:1..."There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens."Psalm 37:4..."Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart."Colossians 3:17..."And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him." -
Hi friends and Happy Holidays!
This time of year is one of our favorites, and like many of you, we find ourselves extra busy! To ensure we continue sharing meaningful content with you, weâre re-broadcasting our 5-part mini-series of core concepts over the next 5 weeks. These episodes dive into some of our foundational ideas and concepts, perfect for revisiting or discovering for the first time or sharing with friends and family (hint, hint).
Mark your calendarsâseason 2 of the âI Feel Loved WhenâŠâ podcast launches with brand-new episodes on January 13th! Until then, we wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
Our fifth core concept is the Weekly Meeting!
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Hi friends and Happy Holidays!
This time of year is one of our favorites, and like many of you, we find ourselves extra busy! To ensure we continue sharing meaningful content with you, weâre re-broadcasting our 5-part mini-series of core concepts over the next 5 weeks. These episodes dive into some of our foundational ideas and concepts, perfect for revisiting or discovering for the first time or sharing with friends and family (hint, hint).
Mark your calendarsâseason 2 of the âI Feel Loved WhenâŠâ podcast launches with brand-new episodes on January 13th! Until then, we wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
Our fourth core concept is Managing Expectations!
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Hi friends and Happy Holidays!
This time of year is one of our favorites, and like many of you, we find ourselves extra busy! To ensure we continue sharing meaningful content with you, weâre re-broadcasting our 5-part mini-series of core concepts over the next 5 weeks. These episodes dive into some of our foundational ideas and concepts, perfect for revisiting or discovering for the first time or sharing with friends and family (hint, hint).
Mark your calendarsâseason 2 of the âI Feel Loved WhenâŠâ podcast launches with brand-new episodes on January 13th! Until then, we wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
Our third core concept is Brownie Points are Evil!
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Hi friends and Happy Holidays!
This time of year is one of our favorites, and like many of you, we find ourselves extra busy! To ensure we continue sharing meaningful content with you, weâre re-broadcasting our 5-part mini-series of core concepts over the next 5 weeks. These episodes dive into some of our foundational ideas and concepts, perfect for revisiting or discovering for the first time or sharing with friends and family (hint, hint).
Mark your calendarsâseason 2 of the âI Feel Loved WhenâŠâ podcast launches with brand-new episodes on January 13th! Until then, we wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
Our second core concept is No Nagging!
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Hi friends and Happy Holidays!
This time of year is one of our favorites, and like many of you, we find ourselves extra busy! To ensure we continue sharing meaningful content with you, weâre re-broadcasting our 5-part mini-series of core concepts over the next 5 weeks. These episodes dive into some of our foundational ideas and concepts, perfect for revisiting or discovering for the first time or sharing with friends and family (hint, hint).
Mark your calendarsâseason 2 of the âI Feel Loved WhenâŠâ podcast launches with brand-new episodes on January 13th! Until then, we wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
Our first core concept is Believing the Best!
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