Episodes
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What are you avoiding right now? What are the rules about doing it “right” that are keeping you stuck?
Get unstuck, move out of perfectionism, avoidance procrastination and into action that feels good again.
Build evidence in your skills and your ability to follow through with the things you care about by using Draft Mode in all your goals and intentions.
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You were taught to abandon yourself in small and discreet ways through your whole life and now, as an adult, you feel like garbage because you don't do the things you say you're going to or you don't "follow through" (go back to ep 223 to listen).
In this episode, we give you the first 3 steps to stop abandoning yourself so make sure you grab paper and pen to take notes. Let us know what you discover as you put these into motion - we LOVE hearing from you.
Make sure to share this episode with your friend or partner if you found it valuable and if you share this episode on social media, tag us @rulesandrebellion so we can thank you
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You can join The Village, our Perfectionism and Burnout Healing Membership: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/village
Or if you're new here, check out our Burnout and Perfectionism Starter Kit: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/starter-kit
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What if you aren't actually bad at follow through?
There are some sneaky rules about "follow through" that are making it impossible for your goals and dreams to become a reality. If you don't real about your complex life and the reality of living in survival mode the last 2-3 decades, you will never see or feel a difference.
When you redefine follow through, consistency, success, etc. you get to live more fully AND you inevitably see more progress.
If you like actionable steps, this episode has 2 homework assignments for you and we want to hear how they go so DM us when you do them.
Make sure to share this episode with your friend or partner if you found it valuable and if you share this episode on social media, tag us @rulesandrebellion so we can thank you
Sign up for our next Free Group Coaching Call (the first Monday of every month): https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/freegroupcoaching
We are bringing back one of our most popular free masterclasses on July 15. Register Regulate to Elevate here: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/elevate
You can join The Village, our Perfectionism and Burnout Healing Membership: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/village
Or if you're new here, check out our Burnout and Perfectionism Starter Kit: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/starter-kit
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I don't understand how this is something more people aren't talking about but there is a mountain of evidence showing this is a non-negotiable piece to a healing burnout and cPTSD. Humans are not meant to do life solo - we are co-creators, we rely on one another for feedback, encouragement, challenges and passing on wisdom.
In this episode, Brandon and I talk about the impact of relationships and how they will make or break your healing journey.
Share this episode on social media and tag us @rulesandrebellion
Sign up for our next Free Group Coaching Call (the first Monday of every month): https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/freegroupcoaching
We are bringing back one of our most popular free masterclasses on July 15. Register Regulate to Elevate here: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/elevate
You can join The Village, our Perfectionism and Burnout Healing Membership for $200 through July 10: https://www.rulesandrebellion.com/village
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Working the hardest and the longest has NOT brought you the results you've been looking for. In this episode, we break down the S.H.E. Method and give you homework so you can move out of the hustle and grind pattern and finally focus your energy and attention on what matters. And there is a great question at the end that might resonate with you a lot.
You'll see the progress and momentum you crave when you implement these 3 factors.
The Boldly Becoming You Workshop is June 22 & 23 - grab your spot here
I also promised the Instagram link for this episode - that's here
Schedule a clarity call to see which of our programs could be a fit if you're ready to make some changes.
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In this episode, I share from my heart about why I am so passionate about the work I do. I have been doing intense healing over the last year and something clicked in the last week making it feel easy breezy to share from my heart vs the overthinking, research based, data oriented place I forced myself to work from for years.
If you want a shot of mojo, this episode is one to save.
Join us June 22 & 23 at the Boldly Becoming You Workshop
If you want to explore working together for a deeply transformational experience, snag a clarity call to see if one of our programs fits what you're looking for.
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In this episode, we talk about why your day has become about other people's goals and dreams, the questions Brandon and I habitually ask ourselves, and how Brandon's phone countdown timer has helped him ask himself: What can I do right now? What new choice can I make right now that is aligned with any of my goals?
We dig into the difference between reacting and responding to the demands from the outside world vs proactively deciding how you're going to start your day and prioritizing YOU.
And what to do if you don't know how to make your dreams and goals the first thing on your to do list.
The Boldly Becoming You Workshop is June 22 & 23 and I'd love to guide you through my signature process of making yourself the main character in your life without losing what you already love about it.
DM us on Instragram or Facebook to let us know what came up for you.
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How does burnout REALLY happen? What is happening in your body?
What is happening in your everyday life that could be fast tracking you to burnout?
In this episode, Tasha gets a little nerdy with some of the science of allostatic load, stress vs stressors and 4 specific actions you can start doing today to decrease the impact of stress on your mind, body and soul while also moving away from burnout.
Ep 193: How to do the "I'm Proud of Myself" Daily Practice
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Amelia Nagoski
Grab our FREE Burnout Recovery Starter Kit to understand where and how you can start making some of these changes.
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I wish I knew that part of healing and actually creating the life you want to experience - with joy, attunement, connection, authenticity and feeling safe in the space you exist in - wasn't all gamor and ease. There is a period of adjustment that I wasn't expecting and in this episode my intention is to pass along this lesson to you, to enable you to move through it with less overwhelm and more ease.
When your perspective filter has been set to "what is the worst possible scenario? and what do I need to do to prevent it or at the least, prepare for it?" ...it's really hard to see and receive the goodness that accumulates as you do the work of boldly becoming you.
It takes practice, knowing what to do in the transition period and genuine safe support. This is part of the healing journey humans cannot do alone - it's simply not how we're all wired.
But knowing what's ahead and how you can navigate the swamp of accumulating the new evidence to see how safe, and lovely, your life has become can make it a shorter journey, I believe.
I would love to hear if this episode resonated with you. Do you have a hard time experiencing the joy and seeing the goodness, despite it being right there in front of you? Do you find yourself constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop?
You're not broken, and it's not that something is wrong with you. You just need some practice clocking the safety in the new reality you've been creating.
Tag @rulesandrebellion if you share this on social, it means a lot to me, and it helps get these ideas to other people, which helps our community grow with more support and attunement.
If you want help in navigating this swampy healing journey, you can schedule a clarity call to chat to see if we're a good fit.
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In this episode of The Boldly Becoming You podcast we travel back in time to the dark ages of our relationship.
A time without communication. A time…without boundaries 😱😵😵😱
We cover:
How the older you get, the more overwhelming boundaries can become How capacity but also the fear of being a burden, inconveniencing someone else and what we see others do inform our ability and willingness to identify our needs. An important question to ask if you are in a relationship that has a long future 🌞😎 And the life-changing tip we learned in therapy 💃💃We would love to hear what came up for you. DM us on Instagram
Share this episode with a friend or on your stories and tag us @rulesandrebellion…and don’t forget, all month long our Nervous System Regulation mini-course is only $17!
Schedule a clarity call if you're ready to put your needs at the top of your list.
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This one might hit you right in the trauma. You are sacrificing your time, energy and your future far too often for far too little.
The reality is…you’re a problem, you’re a real problem.
But so were we.
In this episode, we talk about:
Tasha and Brandon talk about the silent fight in sharing Instagram posts with each other
How I kept telling myself, I just don't have enough time to do all the things I want to do
How Brandon’s title as the “perfect husband” was BAD for both of us
You want to follow through, you want to show up for the people you love and you want your life to feel…more better more of the time.
The answer is definitely in this episode. (the answer is definitely Nervous System Regulation + Boundaries 🤫)
Schedule a free clarity call to figure out the best way to work together here.
Make sure to tag us @rulesandrebellion when you share this episode on your socials!
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What started out as a fun, lighthearted exploratory adventure has turned into a journey to trust myself and my body after years of feeling untethered from it.
One of the biggest disappointments in getting sick in 2014 and being officially diagnosed in 2017 with myalgic encephalomyelitis, ME/CFS, was that Brandon and I were told, "It's unlikely you'll get better. And you'll be lucky, you'll be lucky to not get worse."
In this episode, I share some of that journey and the bigness of one of my 2024 goals to see 10 waterfalls in 1 day by hiking 8 miles, or 18291 steps.
I have used vision boards every step of the way over the last 6 years to keep me focused and believing in myself. And this next goal is not different.
I would love to show you how to create these same beacons of light and inspiration for you in your goals. Register for the Boldly Becoming You Workshop here and join me for a life changing, inspiring and energizing weekend.
DM me to let me know what you thought about this episode!
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If you’re a list maker, note taker, or a to-do guru then you KNOW that if it’s not on a list, it ain’t happ’nin.
So then why oh why does everyone get all weird when we bring up the topic of Vision Boards?
…is it maybe because they have been turned into this big scary expectation of happily ever after or else?
Or maybe it’s because no one ever told you how you are actually supposed to use the damn thing.
In this episode we talk about how to unlock the magic of your vision boards so you can fully unlock them as the powerful tool they are (hint: you just move ‘em around)
Ps. it’s not “magic,” it’s nueroscience that makes so much sense.
Grab your seat at the Boldly Becoming You Workshop here.
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In this episode, we get into the weirdly challenging concept of Visualization - what it really is, why it feels hard and what to do to make it easier AND more effective.
As we battle our self-imposed timer we dig into our respective relationships with visualizing and goal setting…And we talked about goats, and to a lesser extent, chicken.
Seats to The Boldly Becoming You Workshop are currently $97. If you’re fed up with trying to figure out a system to make your goals actually happen, this is where you want to be February 24 & 25. Grab your seat here.
Visualization mentioned:
https://insig.ht/9oLmGUYULGb
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In this episode we talk about a concept that is overlooked by almost everyone.
Capacity.
Where does it all go? Why do we think we have more of it than we do, and a few ideas that will get you thinking…”oh yeah, that does make me tired”.
AND we give you a few tips to navigate this whole “capacity” issue.
This is a big deal, because without understanding the capacity you have, setting and achieving your goals is going to be impossible.
You wouldn’t go on a 5 hour drive without looking to see if you had enough gas to get there, don’t start on a journey towards your goals without knowing how much energy, time, and ability you actually have available to you.
And just in case you missed it, here is the replay link to Tasha’s live masterclass The SHE Method - where you learn the 3 factors responsible for making your goals a reality.
DM us on Instagram and let us know what you think about today's episode.
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Earlier this week we asked the question: “What do YOU think is stopping you or standing in the way of you having what you want”
In this episode, we dig into your responses and our own relationship with goals, success and how we completely shifted our focus to out of burnout and off the neverending treadmill of letdown and disappointment in ourselves and our results.
Specifically:
Being too tired and overwhelmed to even think about setting goals past sleep
Wanting to want to have the energy to set goals
That frustrating feeling of getting started but not having the energy to keep things going
This one’s a good one for all of you go-getters out there.
Oh and…we did a new thing on the podcast to keep us “on time”...and it sort of worked…ish
DM us what came up for you in this episode!
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I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but almost all of the 2024 new year content on social media is basically gone. That’s because all of that “New Year, New You” crap is all based on the idea of having everything PERFECTLY mapped out all before January 1st.
At R & R, we know that expecting yourself to have your entire year perfectly planned and ready to go by the end of December is based on a bunch of arbitrary rules that throws perfectionists into anxiety fueled fight/flight survival mode.
You’ve got a real life and rarely, if ever, does it line up with a calendar.
Today's episode is all about picking a word/intention for the year. It came out mid-month because you deserve the time and grace to join the party when you are ready and able.
The intention behind picking a word of the year is to have a mental filter to align yourself and your actions with. With that chosen word, you create a guiding principle to keep coming back to, and make decisions with, no matter what kind of weird shit happens between now and 12 months from now.
Picking a word for the year isn’t a brand new concept, but…do you actually know how to use your word of the year so that it's not just some woowoo exercise you forget about in a week?
In this episode we talk about what our words are and why we chose them, but also what the hell to do with them next.
DM us on IG with your word so we can celebrate with you!
And if you want to use this word as a spring board to create a year that you become the boldest, truest version of you, book your clarity call here today.
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2023 was a BIG year for my personal growth and healing. It was a lot of inner work and in this episode I share the big lessons I learned including the new non-negotiable I made a vow to do before I touched anything I care about.
As a result of the commitment I made last year to keep facing my fears, and having the support I needed to stick with it, I grew my capacity and am dreaming bigger, attracting more abundance than I ever have as a result. My ability to see a more expansive future for myself feels surreal. I've never felt this calm and confident about such enormous goals for my future.
I can't wait to hear what comes up for you from this reflection and what resonates with you. Shoot me a DM on Instagram and let me know which parts stuck out for you.
Ready to make 2024 the year you boldly become the YOUEST YOU? Schedule a free clarity call if you 100% committed 🙌
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If you’re like I was, a successful business owner making 6 figures for multiple years, but thinking that one more hour, one more call, one more post was going to be the thing that makes or breaks your business, you need to listen to this episode.
I share a very personal story about a distressing couples' therapy session that had me REELING, raging and angry sobbing the rest of the day. But ultimately, was the catalyst for so much growth, healing and expansion into a life I am grateful to live now.
Since then, I've learned to stop beating myself up for making the "wrong" decisions, have gotten crystal clear on what, and who, the non-negotiables are in my daily life and allowed myself to explore fun and what play looks like in my life without guilt.
If this episode resonates with you, schedule your clarity call to see if our 5 Essential Pivots program is the right fit for you. We can answer your questions and see if we all mesh. And if so, you'll be well on your way to breaking free from that toxic hustle culture to find your joy and inspiration, while still making bank.
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Doom scrolling IG and binge-ing New Girl and Schitt’s Creek are not hobbies or special interests 😉 my friend. But if you're like me, or Brandon, you have a complicated relationship with fun, creativity and "leisure time" because ...like who has time for that?
In the long-term, not having activities that are exclusively for your joy or pleasure will 100% land you in burnout. And not just the I’m tired and unmotivated stage, the full-fledged body shutting down, chronic health issues burnout.
Research shows that the long-term benefits of hobbies drastically improve your quality of life and longevity. In the short term, you get to bring new energy and inspiration to your relationships, your work, your clients, your art.
In this episode, we cover 3 specific signs it is absolutely time to discover some hobbies AND the practicality of having hobbies with your perfectionist dysregulation and limited energy.
If you are someone who has a successful business, you know you can make the hard stuff happen - you've been doing it your whole life but the easy stuff like hobbies and enjoying your days feels hard - you need to schedule a clarity call.
Whether you want to etch glass, take walks wandering your area, crochet wobbles or write poetry, we're ready to help you make 2024 the year you put YOU back at the top of the to-do list.
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