Episodes
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1:04- behind the scenes: podcast stats - number of countries, downloads and fan favourite episodes.
6:11 - We're putting the podcast on hold indefinitely.
9:54 - Mark's favourite episode: Chris Marhefka.
14:38 - Adrian Spear episode: distance between stimulus and response.
15:39 - Grant Herbert episode: be yourself.
16:13 - funniest moments: Lisa Linke, Christian Fleck, Daisy Simonis.
19:32 - most inspiring guests: Dr Everett Worthington, Ashley Kesner, Ricardo Gonzalez, Greg van Borssum.
24:29 - most surprising moments: grief (Jillian Rosoff and David Richman) and erotic empathy (Amanda Luterman), backburners (Dr Michelle Drouin).
30:45 - the counter-intuitive Danish way of parenting: Jessica Joelle Alexander.
34:07 - most informative: Dr Timothy Levine.
38:43 - episodes on trust: Marie-Clarie Ross and Melanie Marshall.
39:00 - presenting and storytelling: Laurie Gilbertson.
40:26 - story telling: Francisco Mahfuz, Gabrielle Dolan.
44:07 - quick recap of topics covered in the podcast.
45:17 - leadership episodes: David Neal and Ryan Hartley.
48:02 - topics that we would have liked to do?
50:26 - benefits of doing the podcast: meeting people.
51:14 - empathy: Dr Ashok Bhattacharya and Daniel Murray.
53:11 - relationships are at the heart of life: Dr Michelle Drouin, Craig Bulmer and Ashley Fico.
54:48 - knowing better does not mean doing better: Divan's communication mistake.
59:32 - feedback: Jason Rosoff and Paul Farina.
1:01:09 - Tina Robinson: "all behaviour is communication".
1:01:40 - Mark's recommendations: Chris Marhefka, Dr Michelle Drouin, Amanda Luterman, Jessica Joelle Alexander.
1:02:45 - Divan's recommendations: Jessica Joelle Alexander, Francisco Mahfuz, David Neal, Dr Ashok Bhattacharya, Jason Rosoff, Dr Timothy Levine.
1:05:15 - practice is as important as knowledge.
1:05:50 - wrapping up the podcast.
1:09:52 - connect with Divan and Mark.
1:10:28 - final words.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/the-finale/
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1:33 - being present rather than prepared.
4:26 - the moments that happen when we're present.
6:04 - being in the moment allows you to interact with your audience.
7:56 - does the costume help to lower inhibitions?
9:43 - curiosity, empathy and naivete.
11:28 - training yourself to see as if it was your first time seeing.
14:00 - how did clowning start for Angie?
16:23 - clowning is vulnerable and authentic.
24:10 - how Angie's previous careers helped with clowning.
27:31 - clowning in the corporate environment.
32:10 - you are more than the role you perform.
34:23 - the value of staying in the mess.
36:50 - those moments of stuck aren't real.
38:32 - making the time and space to play.
39:53 - status games.
45:23 - clowns play, they don't act.
46:22 - overthinking makes us perform worse.
48:18 - the role of the court jester.
51:22 - how the class transforms through clowning.
56:51 - we connect through our imperfections.
1:00:02 - connect with Angie.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/angie-wakeman/
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Episodes manquant?
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1:21 - the first person to disagree on LinkedIn.
5:20 - the countries Florian has lived in.
7:18 - most difficult country to adapt to.
9:17 - are people less friendly in some countries?
12:32 - some cultures are more indirect.
14:36 - how to get an insight to the country’s unwritten rules.
16:30 - how Florian felt about going to a boarding school in a new country where he didn’t speak the language.
18:09 - why should people live in a different country?
24:45 - a new country is a clean slate.
27:10 - finding yourself when travelling.
32:00 - fear of failure stopping us from starting.
36:57 - don’t overthink what you say because people don’t care.
39:10 - tying self worth to people’s opinions.
41:48 - learning and fear and failure.
44:18 - is social media a waste of time?
47:50 - create a learning entourage.
50:30 - the benefits of learning new languages.
57:45 - how to learn a new language?
1:09:21 - connect with Florian.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/florian-decludt/
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2:43 - no fear of public speaking after doing a body building competition.
8:38 - focus on who you want to be, not what you want to be.
15:33 - people are not trusted to do the job they were hired for.
16:26 - being trusted is not up to you to decide, its up to the other person.
17:36 - why Melanie wrote the book, Trust.
20:37 - respect comes from feeling trusted.
21:41 - the core of communication and leadership.
22:52 - what do organisations look like when there is no trust?
27:26 - trust is just as important for personal relationships.
31:9 - getting people to own up to bad news.
38:5 - deal with conflicts early.
42:47 - why beliefs about trust are important.
45:46 - belief about whether trust is earned or given.
47:23 - earning trust.
51:50 - HEART + SOUL model of trust.
55:19 - honesty: does it require trust or build trust?
56:20 - earning trust is on their timeframe, not ours.
58:53 - don't jump in with the answer.
62:5 - does helping others build or erode trust?
64:29 - responding from values rather than reacting from emotion.
72:36 - can you be too nice?
75:39 - when you have to build trust very quickly.
81:0 - taking time to connect at work can feel non-productive.
94:10 - connect with Melanie.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/melanie-marshall/
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2:10 - Alexander Hamilton.
5:02 - what drew Laurie into criminal law?
10:26 - the most important lessons Laurie's father taught her was about communication.
11:55 - importance of credibility when making your case.
14:18 - logic vs emotion in arguing a case.
17:32 - the importance of primacy: making the most of an opening statement.
23:53 - knowing your audience when the audience is very diverse.
27:37 - dealing with difficult people in the audience.
30:25 - we can easily misread our audience.
31:57 - the stories we tell ourselves can hinder communication.
33:16 - how to prepare for presentations.
38:16 - can you prepare too much?
43:23 - making a closing argument.
46:36 - communication lessons from interrogating witnesses.
48:58 - if you want honest feedback, ask kids.
52:01 - let your witness be the star of the show.
55:32 - arguing cases you don't believe in.
1:02:27 - adapting your presentation style for television.
1:04:26 - biggest barrier to good presentations: being yourself.
1:06:24 - do people struggle more with content or delivery?
1:09:56 - be like a child when speaking on stage.
1:12:13 - connect with Laurie Gilbertson.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/laurie-gilbertson
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1:31 - Radical Candor in the Rosoff household.
2:08 - what drew Jillian to grief counselling.
4:30 - people are scared to talk about death.
7:06 - what to say when someone is grieving.
9:47 - we will all say the wrong thing at some point.
10:50 - people get less support during grief than we think.
12:25 - avoiding resentment when people don't reach out.
14:39 - when the platitudes don't fit.
16:40 - don't give advice.
17:59 - we grieve in context.
19:50 - different styles of grieving.
20:45 - grief has more emotions than sadness.
21:54 - can grief lead people to detrimental paths?
24:41 - healthy ways to deal with grief.
26:27 - scared to be in the present because that's where the emotions are.
28:09 - how to stay calm and take care of yourself to help others?
32:55 - not feeling the "right" emotions when grieving.
35:06 - what value does a grief counsellor add?
37:48 - kids communicate through play.
41:51 - people can have very different rituals when grieving someone.
44:28 - the impact of not being able to attend funerals during COVID.
48:48 - we only know how to live if we've been confronted with death.
51:02 - the power of humour.
55:40 - feeling like we have to be strong for others.
1:0:24 - enjoying the present vs reminiscing about the past.
1:01:55 - what is most important when people look back on their life?
1:03:23 - sharing our stories can be a way to connect with each other.
1:06:00 - connect with Jillian.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/jillian-rosoff/
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2:05 - what drew Ryan to work at a call centre for the police.
4:28 - lessons from a emergency call centre.
6:45 - hire for character and social skills.
7:55 - de-escalating highly emotional situations.
10:17 - the hardest phone call Ryan ever took.
12:02 - importance of self-care in high stress jobs.
16:06 - managing your own emotions in high stress situations.
18:34 - the importance of being calm as the leader.
19:45 - leadership is an act, not a title.
21:18 - everyone has a purpose.
26:25 - candid conversations are not an excuse for being blunt and harsh.
27:01 - mindset, skillset and heartset.
31:09 - how Ryan developed a servant-leadership approach in a status-driven environment.
33:03 - a leader's job is to be a greenhouse.
35:01 - the importance of team identity.
39:32 - the culture deck from the founder of Netflix.
41:07 - leading with your heart is hard but worth it.
45:04 - feedforward instead of feedback.
45:34 - love tough.
49:02 - attachment theory applied to leadership.
49:55 - it's more important to be relational than to be right.
53:38 - the importance of courage in leadership.
54:44 - coming to the world from love, not for love.
57:43 - how Ryan's marriage survived a rough patch.
1:02:36 - what lessons did marriage troubles teach Ryan.
1:04:21 - self-defence mechanism to rejection.
1:05:35 - everyone deserves to be loved.
1:08:21 - what does "always better than yesterday" mean to Ryan.
1:10:24 - leaving a heartprint.
1:12:07 - the ripple effect of leadership.
1:13:09 - get in touch with Ryan Hartley.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/ryan-hartley/
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1:53 - phantom phone vibrations.
2:35 - from development psychology to technology impact on relationships.
3:53 - is technology helpful or harmful to relationships?
7:24 - parents' concerns about kids on technology.
9:06 - technology opens up communication with people across the world.
9:47 - phone addiction is not all bad.
11:07 - using our phones for social good.
12:56 - calling her Grandma.
14:28 - millennials are scared of phone calls.
16:10 - does talking to strangers make us happy?
21:19 - a small kindness to a stranger can make their day.
23:06 - the intimacy famine why it matters.
25:37 - the life-giving power of physical touch.
30:24 - the importance of a shared bedtime routine with your partner.
33:05 - using technology together can still build intimacy.
34:35 - rules are important to avoid conflict.
36:28 - make rules when you are calm.
38:30 - rewards are more effective than punishment to change behaviour.
40:40 - how can singles get more intimacy?
42:59 - back burners - a threat to your relationship?
48:35 - Ex-partners are most likely to be backburners.
49:20 - social media is the cause for up to 30% of divorces.
50:27 - rules around social media?
52:10 - people may have different intent than you when using social media.
54:31 - the lies people are most disappointed by when online dating.
56:36 - lying on dating sites reduces relationship length.
57:52 - pitfalls to avoid when dating online.
1:00:23 - the criteria you are looking for when dating.
1:02:10 - relationships are so important.
1:03:21 - persisting with our current relationship vs looking for something new.
1:05:32 - what if our relationship has lost it's spark?
1:09:19 - connect with Michelle.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/dr-michelle-drouin/
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1:39 - from enemies to best mates.
6:12 - there is nothing noble about being harmless.
7:06 - avoiding or engaging with conflict.
7:27 - what makes a leader?
8:50 - good leadership looks different in different contexts.
11:40 - the leadership style in the military.
12:59 - how values and beliefs impact team performance.
15:12 - navigating the conflicts that arise from having a diverse team.
15:35 - definition of leadership.
16:30 - diversity is contextual. What are you trying to achieve?
18:43 - are you trying to be right or correct?
20:36 - leaders represent people authentically in forums where they cannot represent themselves.
22:18 - trying to be right disengages people around you.
23:41 - it's better to lose the battle and keep the relationship, especially with your kids.
25:07 - extreme ownership and admitting mistakes.
27:28 - where the name Eighth Mile Consulting came from.
29:18 - owning our mistakes turns our weakness into a strength.
31:39 - owning your faults increases your credibility and your ability to influence.
32:55 - steelman and strawman debating tactics.
36:01 - influence starts by listening, not speaking.
38:14 - it takes discipline to shut up and listen.
41:55 - I don't have time to listen.
44:02 - why boundaries give more freedom.
52:14 - boundaries with children.
54:46 - just do what makes you happy is terrible advice.
56:46 - the standard you walk past is the standard you accept.
58:18 - sometimes leaders only have bad options to choose from.
1:00:14 - leadership is not about you.
1:02:44 - a leader's reputation is their influence.
1:06:1 - making an unpopular decision that you believe will be best for the long term.
1:10:49 - reputation is based on your character but not fully in your own control.
1:12:57 - how to become more self-aware as leaders.
1:15:30 - everyone is a leader.
1:16:11 - how to create a safe space for people to speak up.
1:18:55 - empathy saved the world.
1:24:7 - our ego can be our greatest enemy.
1:26:12 - connect with David Neal.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/david-neal/
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2:28 - how Cheri and Jackie first came across the idea of Appreciative Inquiry.
4:04 - how many hours in a day are you in conversation?
4:32 - what is appreciative inquiry.
5:34 - difference between a good and a bad conversation.
7:18 - you can feel when you are in a destructive, depreciative conversation.
7:42 - how many of our conversations can be worth having?
9:42 - our words affect each other.
11:13 - what to do when the conversation is turning sour.
12:02 - our conversations with loved ones are often less intentional than with strangers.
12:41 - example of using Appreciative Inquiry in the real world.
14:14 - Appreciative Inquiry is not about having rose-coloured glasses.
15:22 - the technique of flipping.
16:52 - how Appreciative Inquiry has impacted Cheri and Jackie's life.
17:15 - our words matter immensely because they shape our world.
19:08 - conversations worth having at home.
20:57 - how to get your children to actually talk to you.
24:26 - the constructionist principle.
26:32 - the poetic principle.
29:01 - Are appreciative conversations something we're born with or can it be learned?
31:01 - there is a place for the sceptic.
31:40 - appreciative inquiry doesn't mean you ignore problems.
31:54 - analytical approach: looking for positive deviants.
33:17 - overcoming negativity bias.
36:15 - how to manage your emotions in the moment.
37:47 - asking generative questions.
42:11 - dealing with negative people who don't want to have constructive conversations.
44:45 - a conversation worth having is not just a positive conversation.
45:23 - don't assume people don't want to talk to you just because they are shy or introverted.
47:30 - example of how leaders can use appreciative inquiry.
51:55 - why appreciative inquiry is more likely to influence and create change.
54:21 - How Jackie used appreciative inquiry in the hardest conversation of her life.
1:01:03 - connect with Jackie and Cheri.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/cheri-torres-and-jackie-stavros
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2:09 - how do people respond when Amanda introduces herself at a networking event.
3:52 - scared of talking about sex.
5:06 - how Amanda's journey into erotic empathy started.
6:43 - what is erotic empathy.
7:47 - we push our partner away because of the way we feel about ourselves.
8:57 - not being judgemental about your partner's sexual preferences.
11:08 - is it usually females who are more likely to find themselves unattractive?
12:52 - how to open up with your partner about your sexual preferences.
16:01 - asking your partner: what were you fantasizing about during sex?
16:16 - power dynamics are a common sexual fantasy.
16:47 - example of initiating sex with a power dynamic.
18:54 - the way people engage in partnered sex contradicts the way people masturbate.
21:57 - lessening the pressure and expectations in sex.
24:30 - how important is sex in a romantic relationship.
25:57 - your marriage isn't over just because you develop feelings for someone else.
27:06 - the pressure men feel during sex.
29:50 - a lover is not responsible for both people's pleasure.
30:35 - being good at sex is not about technique.
32:18 - religious or moral constraints on sex.
34:36 - therapy can help couples communicate their sexual needs and expectations more safely.
35:32 - how to get better at talking to your partner about sex.
38:12 - what do women want? what do men want?
40:22 - power switching and taboo fantasies are super arousing.
41:44 - is there hope if you are no longer attracted to each other?
46:42 - marriage is a promise to look after yourself for the other person.
48:21 - what if I'm not into the same things that turn on my partner?
51:48 - can sharing fantasies of sleeping with other people go too far?
53:52 - controlling your emotions so your partner can share their sexual preferences openly with you.
54:51 - sex is about communication and emotion regulation skills.
55:34 - the paradox of building confidence in your sexuality.
57:01 - how important is sexual compatibility when choosing a partner.
59:38 - why is sex important for your relationship and your health.
1:02:02 - connect with Amanda.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at https://candourpodcast.com/amanda-luterman/
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2:40 - what attracted Ricardo to the topic of belonging.
4:06 - Diversity and inclusion should have its foundation on belonging.
5:52 - why belonging is more powerful than inclusion.
7:46 - diversity and belonging.
8:44 - what constitutes a culture?
9:20 - cognitive diversity.
9:41 - should all people to all groups?
10:41 - why a team needs a strong culture
11:45 - can't we choose to which groups we want to belong?
12:49 - to belong or not to belong.
14:01 - I did not belong at my own house party.
16:58 - we can't belong if we have different beliefs and values.
17:42 - diversity vs team fit.
19:40 - company culture statement.
23:26 - high context vs low context cultures.
27:01 - why leaders need to be more high context.
28:00 - caught in-between cultures.
33:03 - how to find a place where you belong.
36:39 - people are attracted to people like themselves.
37:19 - belonging vs fitting in.
38:41 - lack of integration has been demonised.
41:14 - being unfairly rejected by the group where you thought you belonged.
47:40 - ex-communication and cancel culture.
48:37 - root of ex-communication is that leaders value results over people.
49:06 - empathy vs sympathy vs compassion.
50:27 - how to regroup after you've been hurt.
53:35 - the link between belonging and performance.
57:30 - making people feel like they belong in order to use them.
58:18 - about the book: To belong or not to belong.
01:00:02 - connect with Ricardo.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/ricardo-gonzalez-e2/
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3:06 - life is abundant.
6:26 - MBA consultant who turned to acting.
9:50 - pursuing the path less travelled led to more admiration than judgement.
12:07 - acting started from a young age.
13:15 - managing your energy when you need to be "on" in front of people.
15:40 - my best is different at every moment.
17:56 - it's impossible to do it all.
19:55 - what is improvisation.
22:01 - we've learnt to supress our ability to be spontaneous.
24:14 - I can say anything! vs "I can say anything?"
25:30 - improv is the art form of putting the focus on the other person.
26:16 - what improv can teach us about being better listeners.
28:30 - we communicate better when we are in the moment.
30:23 - the audience is rooting for you.
31:22 - The improv philosophy of "yes, and..."
35:35 - you can influence more by listening than by speaking.
36:10 - the ability to listen impacts every relationship.
40:16 - using "yes, and..." to improve collaboration.
44:15 - creating a safe space where people can share ideas.
46:39 - how to bring a brick, not a cathedral.
48:29 - the best worst idea.
50:04 - nothing speaks louder than who you are.
51:25 - walking ten thousand steps per day is a lie!
52:51 - teaching presence to executives.
55:48 - no one cares what your head is doing.
57:30 - being intentional about how you come across: put the audience first.
1:00:55 - the Dreyfus model of skill acquisition.
1:03:52 - getting involved in improv.
1:04:39 - the benefits of improv.
1:06:10 - connect with Lisa.
1:07:18 - live improv exercise!
1:09:45 - debrief on the improve exercise.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/lisa-linke/
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2:18 - A sports coach who makes you push further than you thought possible.
4:19 - pushing people to perform better without being a dictator.
8:10 - getting better at leading yourself and others under pressure.
13:38 - managing stress.
15:43 - how to break free from stress.
18:50 - stress reaction is not useful.
20:51 - how can we change our habits and behaviours?
23:31 - change is emotional.
25:19 - how can we get beneath the surface to the values and identity level in a conversation?
29:19 - who am I and what do I want?
30:53 - be specific with your questions.
31:16 - how to let people find their own solutions.
33:24 - getting more clarity about what they want.
35:07 - being honest with ourselves about what we want.
39:16 - it's not about finding the thing we love to do, it's about the meaning we give to the things we do.
40:40 - being honest about yourself.
44:49 - honesty is not always simple.
48:02 - how to deal with our shame better to avoid needing to lie.
53:32 - how painful honesty opened up the relationship.
54:08 - connect with Niki.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at https://candourpodcast.com/niki-vinogradoff/
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2:39 - first impressions about Danish culture.
6:24 - after reading hundreds of parenting books, Jessica still preferred the advice from her Danish family.
8:13 - the birth of the book.
9:49 - our default setting for parenting.
12:7 - authoritarian vs authoritative style of parenting.
15:7 - free play is better than structured activities for kids.
18:0 - we want our kids to win but happiness is not about winning.
20:30 - we are scared that our kids fall behind if they are just left to play.
23:37 - how play creates an internal locus of control.
26:4 - self-esteem is not built by giving praise.
31:25 - cultural difference in values, such as humility.
36:49 - the happiest country in the world doesn't like stories with happy endings.
40:4 - sad endings normalise all feelings and improve emotional intelligence.
41:40 - training empathy as a skill.
45:13 - cooperation is more important than competition.
46:55 - importance of reframing.
48:47 - difference in how Danish people approach divorce.
51:53 - Hygge: we-fulness.
55:57 - get in touch with Jessica.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/jessica-joelle-alexander/
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00:01:35 – welcome Jason Rosoff from Radical Candor.
00:02:19 – the feedback Jason got about his thinking face.
00:05:37 – why is it important to give feedback?
00:07:06 – challenging the importance of feedback: discussion on The Feedback Fallacy published by the Harvard Business Review.
00:13:01 – what is Radical Candor?
00:19:18 – feedback does not have to be calculated and does not need a model.
00:20:55 – do people default to ruinous empathy or obnoxious aggression?
00:23:48 – how to start implementing Radical Candor with your team?
00:28:47 – you can't fake caring personally about people."
00:32:35 – creating a culture where people do care about each other.
00:35:13 – what about advice saying you shouldn't get too close to your employees?
00:41:55 – overcoming the fear of hurting the other person by challenging directly.
00:47:09 – most of a manager's job involves emotion.
00:51:11 – how do deliver feedback in a way that avoids the fight or flight response.
00:55:03 – leaders who are not good at receiving feedback.
01:01:02 – getting indirect feedback about people not in your team.
01:03:52 – giving feedback in an open plan office.
01:05:57 – models to help give feedback instead of a value judgement.
01:07:47 – get in touch with Jason.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at https://candourpodcast.com/jason-rosoff/
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00:01:35 – endurance sport.
00:05:04 – Running is meditative.
00:06:50 – the life events that motivated David to start endurance sports.
00:08:50 – the importance of caring for yourself first instead of impressing people all the time.
00:11:03 – adversity can make you better or it can make you bitter.
00:13:56 – I have to vs I get to.
00:16:55 – receiving help in difficult times.
00:20:37 – not worrying what others think of you.
00:24:14 – do people know how to deal with grief?
00:26:14 – why David's sister was so important in his life.
00:31:25 – how did the book, Cycle of Lives, come about?
00:35:13 – Just put your feet on the ground and make your bed every day.
00:40:07 – how to have open conversations where people were open to talk about trauma and grief.
00:44:48 – how can we best support people through difficult times?
00:47:15 – what to say when someone is going through a tough time?
00:50:25 – you might be the only person who showed care.
00:52:58 – asking open questions is more important than saying the right thing.
00:55:35 - scared of saying the wrong thing.
00:59:45 – we can choose our response.
01:00:50 – we are all passer-by's in each other's lives.
01:04:55 – get in touch with David.
More detailed show notes with links to references can be found at: https://candourpodcast.com/david-richman/
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2:05 - book recommendations from someone who read over 200 books on business and personal development.
4:47 -want to impact your business, family or community? Be the light.
6:12 - reading addiction. Did reading more books help you to grow?
10:33 - why is it so hard to sustain a change in habit?
14:39 – does willpower and discipline work to change a habit?
18:16 – how to get beneath the surface to identify and change thought patterns.
24:40 – we think that stress is normal and a sign of success.
29:34 - isn't stress needed for growth?
35:02 – overcoming fears that seem to trap us.
42:52 – achievement vs fulfilment.
48:27 – we need an appropriate amount of pain before we change.
52:19 – Chris' story of burn out that caused him to change.
59:31 – how do we have a fulfilled life?
1:02:41 – the perfect day?
1:06:03 – relationships can be greatest source of pain or fulfilment.
1:10:23 – we treat other people through the lens of our own experience, often without realising.
1:15:37 – avoiding unnecessary conflicts in relationships.
1:19:22 – navigating conversations when emotions are high. The importance of trust and vulnerability.
1:23:21 – when I do nothing, that's when I find my best something.
1:25:00 – you get to choose.
1:28:08 – get in touch with Chris.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/chris-marhefka/
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2:19 - what drew Dr Healy to study bullying?
4:18 - the difference between bullying and teasing.
6:30 - hurtful comments can be innocent or intentional.
8:40 - teasing can actually be relationship building.
10:32 - is bullying more prevalent now?
11:23 - is bullying getting worse or are we more sensitive now?
12:41 - effects of bullying.
15:46 - the risk factors that perpetuates bullying.
17:56 - how should we respond to bullying?
21:47 - standing up to the bully.
27:59 - effective strategies for responding to bullies.
31:44 - how can parents help when their child is bullied?
34:22 - empathy for the bully.
42:01 - what causes people to bully?
45:48 - what if my child is the bully?
46:54 - saying "no" to your child.
48:16 - how home life impacts bullying.
49:38 - does teaching empathy improve bullying?
54:41 - do buddy benches work?
56:04 - how to make friends?
58:50 - choosing the right school.
59:57 - importance of teaching kids to be independent.
1:01:51 - programs that address bullying.
1:05:38 - how to intervene when you notice bullying.
1:09:05 - connect with Dr Karyn Healy.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/dr-karyn-healy/
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3:20 - are you allowed to talk about stories at home?
5:50 - why is story so important to Francisco.
8:55 - can you remember the story you told?
10:57 - does the audience remember the story?
12:25 - homework for life.
13:41 - path to making storytelling a profession.
18:35 - impact kids had on Francisco's speaking career.
22:32 - Is content or delivery more important in a speech?
26:48 - how did Francisco learn about storytelling?
29:39 - the old science of storytelling: ethos, pathos and logos.
31:24 - you cannot make decisions without emotion.
36:08 - the new science of storytelling.
39:40 - why can stories make us cry?
43:46 - what is a story?
49:43 - how to make stories easy.
53:12 - sharing with vulnerability.
59:41 - Get in touch with Francisco.
You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/francisco-mahfuz/
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