Episodes
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This week I get to sit down with a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership, Nicole, who is exploring the challenges of parenting while navigating her own inner healing journey. In this session I guide Nicole through shadow work and an inner child healing, validate her unmet needs, and help release the burdens of feeling "broken" and "not good enough."
This conversation offers a roadmap for intergenerational healing and the courage to show up authentically, even in the midst of our own imperfections.
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In this episode, I take you back to 2018, when my relationship was taken over by darkness. My partner Justin was battling depression, and I was trapped in a cycle of trying to "fix" him, making his pain and discomfort my responsibility. It led us to a breaking point, where we both felt unseen and alone.
Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can use again and again!
Upcoming Events for Codependency Alchemy👉🏾 GET 10% OFF ON MEMBERSHIP
As a Codependency Alchemy member, you have access to a library of resources aimed at helping you bring deeper awareness to the root of your codependency tendencies. Members looking to get the most out of their membership and wanting to start making profound shifts in their life can access masterclasses, meetups, private podcast episodes, and guided meditations.
Monthly Masterclass | September 5th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻
Monthly Meetup | September 12th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻
AMA Chat | September 19th | 10am-12pm (PDT) | Click here to RSVP for Chat 📱
Shadow Work Sunday | Every Sunday | Thread on Substack🧵
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On today's episode, I sit down with KaRonna, a working mom struggling with something I think many of us can relate to— the inability to prioritize herself and her own needs amidst the demands of career, parenthood, and life in general, fearing she'll make the wrong decision.
Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can use again and again!
Upcoming Events for Codependency Alchemy👉🏾 GET 10% OFF ON MEMBERSHIP
As a Codependency Alchemy member, you have access to a library of resources aimed at helping you bring deeper awareness to the root of your codependency tendencies. Members looking to get the most out of their membership and wanting to start making profound shifts in their life can access masterclasses, meetups, private podcast episodes, and guided meditations.
Monthly Masterclass | September 5th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻
Monthly Meetup | September 12th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻
AMA Chat | September 19th | 10am-12pm (PDT) | Click here to RSVP for Chat 📱
Shadow Work Sunday | Every Sunday | Thread on Substack🧵
Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!
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In this raw and vulnerable episode (my first time actually crying on the podcast), I open up about my recent experience with depression and feeling discomfort with slowness and spaciousness in my life, which was triggering fears around losing my sense of purpose and self-worth if I'm "not doing anything.”
Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can use again and again!
Upcoming Events for Codependency Alchemy👉🏾 GET 10% OFF ON MEMBERSHIP
As a Codependency Alchemy member, you have access to a library of resources aimed at helping you bring deeper awareness to the root of your codependency tendencies. Members looking to get the most out of their membership and wanting to start making profound shifts in their life can access masterclasses, meetups, private podcast episodes, and guided meditations.
Monthly Masterclass | September 5th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻
Monthly Meetup | September 12th | 10am (PDT) | Click here to RSVP on Zoom 💻
AMA Chat | September 19th | 10am-12pm (PDT) | Click here to RSVP for Chat 📱
Shadow Work Sunday | Every Sunday | Thread on Substack🧵
Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!
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In this 1:1 session I sit with a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership. Lena was struggling with codependency, insecurity, and fears around her partner leaving her or cheating which was triggering past traumas. Her goals were to build self-acceptance, heal from past hurts, and develop the ability to set compassionate boundaries in her relationship.
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Here’s the thing that we need to really start understanding: we have spent countless days, months, and years over-identifying and picking apart our mind’s stories, beliefs, and thoughts. In doing so, we have completely neglected our bodies stories which hold the keys to our deepest forms of healing and transformation.
In today’s episode I guide the women on the call through a somatic practice where you will take away information and an experience that will illuminate how your body is physically responding to certain patterns and tendencies.
With this wisdom and practice you can begin to access the precise actions needed for you to clear what is blocking you from living your most fulfilling and authentic life.
Need help or support in doing the shadow work and inner child healing? Join us in our Monthly Masterclasses, Meetups, and AMA Chats in the Codependency Alchemy Membership!
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I recently did a free 3-day immersion where I walked those who signed up through a masterclass on Identifying Codependency, using shadow work and a somatic practice to explore in community.
The next two episodes are from this masterclass, and I hope you enjoy the conversations we had as much as I did!
What we cover in today’s episode:
* What is the mother wound?
* What is codependency?
* Reflection on close relationships to see where codependency shows up in your life
* How to do shadow work for codependency patterns and why this is so important for deep healing
Receiving support and perspectives from others can really deepen our healing process. I encourage you to share your experiences and insights in the comments or our Codependency Alchemy chat. This helps build connection and encourages us as we navigate these parts of us.
Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me or our community if you need guidance or accountability in implementing the inner child healing practices. You can join the Codependency Alchemy Membership by upgrading your subscription for $9/month and get ongoing support, resources, and community with like-minded souls healing codependency.
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In today’s episode Crystal asks for support on what to do when conflict comes up in her relationships, how self-sabotage has started to show up, and fears around her partner leaving and finding someone better.
Resources:
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👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.
👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.
👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore
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This week I share about my journey navigating food and meals in our home when we have different health/eating goals. Learn how to establish autonomy over food choices, practice self-trust, and support your partner's (and your own) individual journey.
Resources:
* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram
* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.
* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.
* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore
Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!
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Many of us struggle with vulnerability and getting close to people, even though deep down it is what we deeply desire. In this episode I get to witness Aaron, who moved a lot in his childhood and felt like he learned to not get attached because everything was temporary.
Resources:
THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN!👉🏾https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5
👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram
👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.
👉🏾The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.
👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore
👩🏽🤝👩🏻Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!
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In this episode, we explore how choosing compassion and grace over self-criticism can help heal codependency and the mother wound.
When we are hard on ourselves for our perceived flaws or mistakes, we perpetuate feelings of not being good enough. It is through showing ourselves compassion and accepting where we are in our journey that we actually create enough spaciousness to heal codependency and the mother wound within us.
I’ll be reading from my book “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” today, and sharing from the section titled, “Destiny”.
I hope these words are like a salve to your soul, and that they remind you of who you truly are.
Resources:
IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN!👉🏾https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5
👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram
👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.
👉🏾The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.
👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore
👩🏽🤝👩🏻Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!
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In this episode I get to sit with Santia and explore the challenges that come from a relationship ending, and I know that many of us can relate!
Shadow Work Prompt
* “If I let go, then…” (what am I afraid it will mean about me?)
* “If I let go, then…” (what am I afraid will happen?)
Resources:
IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN!👉🏾https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5
👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram
👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.
👉🏾The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.
👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore
👩🏽🤝👩🏻Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!
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Today we’re going to get into some of the most common codependency warnings signs that I’ve learned along the way.
Resources:
* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram
* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.
* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.
* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore
Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!
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I'm going to be doing a long-awaited podcast episode on something I promised you a long time ago— and to be quite honest, I forgot! This episode is going to be about the tool that Justin and I used to help rebuild the trust in our relationship when we got back together.
Resources:
IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN!👉🏾https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5
👉🏾 Check out June Events for Codependency Alchemy: The Membership
👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram
👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.
👉🏾The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.
👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore
👩🏽🤝👩🏻Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!
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In this weeks podcast episode we explore shadow work and inner child healing with Marella, who has noticed her our anxious tendencies in her relationship and is curious about how to start exploring more healthy and supportive patterns for herself and her relationship.
Listen to this full episode by subscribing to Codependency Alchemy: The Membership for $9/month (or less when you join annually)
Resources:
IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN! 👉🏾https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5
👉🏾 Check out June Events for Codependency Alchemy: The Membership
👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram
👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.
👉🏾The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
👉🏾How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.
👉🏾Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore
👩🏽🤝👩🏻Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!
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This week’s podcast episode is my personal share on what transpired over those few days where we were not on the same page, how I managed to stay aware that I was triggered by the things he was saying to me, and instead of getting defensive and fighting with him, how I was able to bring the conversation forward in a way that allowed for deep and meaningful connection and repairs in our relationship.
👉🏾 Check out June Events for Codependency Alchemy: The Membership
Codependency Alchemy Immersion- June 23rd-25th
I’m am so excited to hold a free 3-day immersion, where you can get a glimpse into what it is like in The Membership. Each day of the immersion we will be experiencing a different aspect of The Membership!
* Sunday, June 23rd: We will be coming together for a masterclass on Exploring Codependency and The Mother Wound.
* Monday, June 24th: You’ll get to expereince what our Monthly Meetups are like and receive hot-seat coaching, where I will guide you through shadow work and inner child healing for whatever you are presently expereiencing in your relationship.
* Tuesday, June 25th: You’ll get to join me for a private AMA chat (Ask Me Anything) where I will go back and forth with you on whatever you are needing or looking for support on! Think of this as a private chat room where you can be supported and witnessed.
Resources:
* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram
* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.
* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships.
* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore
Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!
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If you feel like it'd your job to make everyone happy, or that it's always your fault when someone is upset, this definitely listen to today's episode. To learn more about why we do this, and practical solutions that you can implement in your life and relationships to help you navigate this pattern, you can check out the masterclass we did on this in the Codependency Alchemy Membership.
Resources:
* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram
* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.
* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. ONLY $25 FOR THE MONTH OF MAY!
* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore
Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!
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I’ll never forget when I was in my situationship back in 2019 and all my sexual abuse trauma came bubbling up to the surface. I was completely confused because I felt like I had forgiven and put that past me, and I couldn’t understand why it so loud all of a sudden.
I learned that I had really repressed some very real feelings and emotions that a very young part of me was still holding. And in today’s podcast episode, Marcee was experiencing something very similar.
Please keep in mind when listening to today’s podcast episode that we will be discussing sexual abuse and trauma, so if this topic is sensitive to you please take care of your needs and check in with yourself before listening.
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For those of us with codependent or anxious attachment patterns, it's super common to find ourselves making a new person or relationship mean something about us. We start dreaming up this whole future with them and attaching our sense of self-worth and belonging to how much they like us.
Resources:
* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram
* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next step in your healing journey and join a supportive community.
* The Codependency Quiz: 9 questions to help you see where codependency is influencing your life and relationships.
* How to Heal Codependency in Your Relationships: A 5-week self-paced course that guides you through the tools & practices I use to get clients from resentful to reciprocal relationships. ONLY $25 FOR THE MONTH OF MAY!
* Get your copy of “Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth” on Amazon & BookBaby Bookstore
Let's connect! Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and you can even subscribe and watch the full episodes on YouTube!
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When we have experienced abusive relationships, it can be challenging to trust ourselves and others. I remember feeling betrayed by myself, like how could I allow myself to be in something so toxic for so long? If I didn’t know better then, how could I trust myself to know better in the future?
Here is the shadow work prompt we explored in this episode:
“If I trust (this person/the good things that are happening), then…?” (what are you afraid will happen?)
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