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Happy Valentine's Day. Sure we talk about spreading the love at work but in our current culture, any affection can be misleading or misunderstood. So, how do you celebrate this Hallmark/FTD style "holiday" without your motives being questioned? PURPOSE OF THIS EPISODE Knowing how to show others you care without being misunderstood is a skill you need to develop. TALKING POINTS FOR THIS EPISODE Celebrate Valentine's Day as a team, not as individuals Zig Ziglar and the redhead Suddenly, VP Mike Pence and his wife are the examples of appropriate behavior The very awkward hug that cannot be misinterpreted What if you already work for a company with very questionable values? LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Book: Everything I Know I Learned in Kindergarten Book: Crucial Conversations TWEET IT FORWARD [bctt tweet="Hugging with a closed hand may be awkward, but you can't be accused of groping." username="@Coffee4YourSoul"] [bctt tweet="Always express your intent before sharing your content." username="@Coffee4YourSoul"] Please drop by the podcast at the app store in iTunes and give us the rating you feel we've earned. We would appreciate it very much. Find it here.
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Do you lug your work home with you every night? Maybe just on the weekends? If you do, just stop. You are not doing your boss any favors. It just tells him you can't get it done in the time he's given you during the day. It also tells your spouse/family that your work is more important than your time with them. It's time to find a better way. PURPOSE OF THIS EPISODE Bringing your work home doesn't help your work and doesn't help your home. TALKING POINTS FOR THIS "ESPRESSO" EPISODE It's not fair to your boss ... AND ... It's not fair to your family Don't bring the physical work home Don't bring the mental work home Don't bring the emotional work home When you're at work, BE at work. When you're at home, BE at home But what if you work at home? Then what? TWEET IT FORWARD [bctt tweet="Be committed to always say NO when considering bringing work home." username="@Coffee4YourSoul"] [bctt tweet="Startup and shutdown rituals at work safeguard you from bringing work home." username="@Coffee4YourSoul"] Please drop by the podcast at the app store in iTunes and give us the rating you feel we've earned. We would appreciate it very much. Find it here. What type of work have you had to bring home on a regular basis?
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When you work for the best company in the world, it's easy to be excited and represent them well. That's the case for most of us. Some of you work for a company and you have no clue what their mission statement is or the values. You just work there. Some of you work for a company you hate. Their values don't represent yours and you're there because you need the job. Regardless of what your situation is, you represent that company both on the job and off the job. How do you do this honorably? PURPOSE OF THIS EPISODE When you represent the company you work for well, it is for your benefit. TALKING POINTS FOR THIS EPISODE Separate but together⊠Kill the assumptions "Oh, so you work for himâŠ" Coffee should not be a political statement - a Starbucks Story Believe in the company first, your boss second, yourself always What if you already work for a company with very questionable values? TWEET IT FORWARD [bctt tweet="What does your company's missions statement mean to you personally?" username="@Coffee4YourSoul"] [bctt tweet="No matter where you work, you represent yourself first." username="@Coffee4YourSoul"] Please drop by the podcast at the app store in iTunes and give us the rating you feel we've earned. We would appreciate it very much. Find it here.
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Have you ever lost your Job? You know, got fired, pink-slipped, let go, downsized. No matter how it's stated, it's no fun at all. Your ego is bruised. Your confidence is shaken. Finances immediately come to mind. What will your spouse say? So many feelings. Then you have to start the process of looking for a new source of financial stability. What do you do? PURPOSE OF THIS EPISODE How you handle being fired is your best decision moving forward. TALKING POINTS FOR THIS EPISODE Put a time limit on wallowing in misery Avoid the negative people in your life Look ahead, not back. Itâs not âWhat did I lose?â rather âWhatâs ahead for me?" You work ethic will show up for better or worse. Anticipation is a good thing, paranoia is not. (article) Arguing helps no one Make job hunting your new job YouTube (yes, YouTube), Udemy, Lynda, Thinkific and more are ways to gain skills needed for jobs you may want to get. LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Article: 19 Subtle Signs Youâre About to Get Fired udemy.com lynda.com coursera.com thinkific.com upwork.com Youtube.com (Yes, believe it or not.) TWEET IT FORWARD [bctt tweet="How you handle being fired speaks more of your character than anything else. " username="@CoffeeForYourSoul"] [bctt tweet="Your first day of unemployment is also your first day of beginning a new chapter in your life." username="@CoffeeForYourSoul"] THANKS FOR LISTENING It would be very helpful for us if you would give us the rating you feel is deserved over on iTunes. We would be grateful. How have you handled a sudden "job shift?"
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You have a job that you're really into. You're good at it and the company likes you. You have it made. You dive in and give it everything you've got. Then the company restructures and you're out. That sucks but there's good news. Your job does not define you. At least, it shouldn't. Purpose of this Episode Defining your life is what makes you great at your job. Talking Points of this Episode Defining yourself is a lifelong journey Pursuit of goals vs. the pursuit of growth NASCAR drivers "Office Space" the movie Colossians 3:23-24 You are more than your job Kind of a big dill Abstract art - I don't get it "Hitch" the movie Acts 18:3, 20:34-35 Links Mentioned in this Episode "Hitch" synopsis on IMDB "Office Space" synopsis on IMDB A great resource for this concept can be found in our interview with Kevin Monroe. Tweet It Forward [bctt tweet="Be yourself on the job, not what people expect you to be on the job." username="@CoffeeForYourSoul"] [bctt tweet="The definition of your job should not make you shine. Who you are should make the job shine." username="@CoffeeForYourSoul"] Thank You for Listening Did you enjoy this episode? If so, weâd be honored if you would leave a rating and review on iTunes. Also, share it by using the social media buttons at the top or bottom of this post or by clicking one of the tweets above. Sharing is caring! Don't forget to subscribe to the show on iTunes to get automatic updates. How do you define the job or position you have?
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Leading when you're at work is hard when you don't have the fancy title or shiny nametag to tell the rest of the company how important you are. Truth is, leading has very little to do with titles or paychecks. Yes, the bigger the title, the bigger the paycheck. Both can get in the way of being a true leader, especially when it comes to your faith. As we tackle 2018 with an emphasis on being spiritually awake in the breakroom and other offices, Be a great follower. Ask âHow high?â Your co-workers notice how you work. We know this because you notice how your co-workers work. Let them see how great you are at following. Do your job well. Everybody Has a Title. You Just May Not Like Yours. Peon, laborer, CEO, Administrative/Executive Assistant, bottom-rungâer, janitor/custodian/maintenance tech... everyone has a label. Don't be intimidated by anyone's title. Don't look down on anyone's title. Leadership has nothing to do with whether or not you've been noticed. If you are consistent with your work and attitude, good or bad, people will notice. (The AV guy at church is doing his job well when nobody notices him.) Take Responsibility For Whatever Happens. Give the Credit. Being responsible for work is a great way to take the lead. Don't take credit for successes that aren't yours. Don't take the blame for failures you had nothing to do with. Find ways to be responsible for the work you do and give credit for the work of the team you work with. [bctt tweet="Tooting your own horn is always heard as sour notes." username="@DoingStuffDaily"] Actions Speak Louder Than Name Tags. If everyone everywhere had to wear a name tag announcing their "title", what would yours say? The answer is, it doesn't matter. Let your actions speak for who you really are.[bctt tweet="Those who say it canât be done are usually interrupted by others doing it. - James Baldwin" username="@DoingStuffDaily"] Over-Communicate. Say the same thing as many different ways as possible so everyone gets the message and no one feels left out. The Loftier the Title, the More Headaches They Have. People rise to the level of their own incompetence (The Peter Principle). Therefore, they are stressed. How can you help them? How are you in a position to help make their job easier? RECOMMENDED ACTION BONUS: Prayer is the most under-utilized workplace tool available. After you get to work and before you get out of the car... pray these simple words. âLord use me today in spite of myself. Let my work honor you.â
Listen to a leader and servant in the area of living your purpose. An Interview with Kevin Monroe.
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Having a Happy New Year is more than just a single day (or eve) celebration. It should be a whole year. Not just a one-year party. That'd get old very quickly. (Imagine the hangover!) I'm talking about a year like no other. It just doesn't have to be another year closer to retirement. It doesn't even have to be another year "older." It can be a year where you do something completely different. As we begin the new year, here are our talking points for making 2018 like no other. There's nothing new under the sun, BUT... Focus on giving, not getting. Focus more on yourself. (No, this one doesn't contradict the previous one.) Become more uncomfortable on purpose. Step Up. Step Out. Step On It. Focus on the "YET!" Following these ideas in 2018 will give you a new perspective and new challenges to conquer. One book that was mentioned is "Ordering Your Private World" by Gordon MacDonald. It's a great read. What is one thing you plan to do completely different this year?
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2018 is almost here. So shake off the past and look forward to another great year. Our last podcast of the year should be no shocker. We challenge each of you to grab hold of at least one of these slightly unconventional goals. It may make the difference between just another year or a life-changing year. You never know until you try. MERRY CHRISTMAS - HAPPY NEW YEAR GOD BLESS From co-hosts Jamey French and Bill McConnell What great things do you have planned for 2018?
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Trauma is many times an unavoidable part of life. Darlene Kinchen experienced such an unavoidable event at age 14. What she did with it has shaped a life of service, passion, and intercession. Her story is what shaped her life and destiny. Her story needs to be heard. Jamey and I thought this interview was going in a certain direction. We were wrong. Isn't the first time. We were leaning toward the effects that media has on children and families. Few things startle me but the very beginning of Darlene's story did. I didn't see that coming. We ended up hearing Darlene's story and the direction her life had taken since witnessing something no one should ever have to witness. Which is worse: Simply not caring or caring and choosing not to do anything? Worse than both is wanting to do something, begging to be able to do something and not be allowed to do anything. You cannot just go on with life and ignore what you just saw. Darlene couldn't do anything at the time but the rest of her life has been all about being active and involved in the lives of families and children. Her life is all about making a difference for them. Some of our talking points regarding Darlene's career path: Hockey sticks. Being a parent outranks trying to be their friend. If you fail to be their parent, you have failed at being their friend. "I'd rather pray than be the leader." Darlene has written a book called Stoke the Fire. She goes in depth about her helpless situation at age 14 and the trauma that led her to a life full of service and caring for children and parents alike. Connect with Darlene on her website: DarleneKinchen.com Grab a copy of her book, Stoke the Fire, on Amazon here. You can catch our other interviews here: Generosity, with Pete Benson Positivity, with Tayleur Farrier Purpose, with Kevin Monroe Camino de Santiago, with Thurland & Lorraine Brown
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Resolutions are an annual opportunity to start the year off with failure. Wouldn't you agree? A new year is almost here and with it comes new opportunities, the idea of a fresh start and yet another chance for you to state your New Year's Resolutions and take them to a kitchen appliance. For the record, resolutions suck. Goals are the way to change and grow. Resolutions are the quick way to failure and regret. How do I know this? It's no secret. Most of America knows it. Sad, but true. You may be in the habit of stating your resolutions for the coming year. Good for you. Could you tell me exactly what those resolutions were last December and did you succeed in achieving them? If you can, that's fantastic. That puts you in the top 8% of the 45% of US adults who join in on the annual New Year's Resolution fad. Obviously, the rest try and fail. Not just fail but fail miserably. Before we get too deep, can you sit down with paper and pen and accurately list the top ten New Year's Resolutions that people make just about every year? Yes, there's a list and I bet you'd get at least seven out of ten with very little effort. Try it before listening to the podcast. Then ask yourself, "How many of these resolutions have I made at least once in my life?" Hmmm..... Here Are Our 2018 NYR vs. Goals Talking Points Impulsive versus Calculated All or Nothing Mentality Motivation versus Motive (Yes, there's a difference) Wishful Thinking "Easy In - Easy Out" Approach Too Big to Conquer Hey, did you catch the interview we did last week with Thurland and Lorraine Brown? They are an amazing couple who just got back from walking their second Camino de Santiago. In case you didn't know, that's a very long walk through Europe with a spiritual impact you may not believe. Next week: 18 Unconventional Goals for 2018 What are your New Year's Goals for 2018?
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The Camino de Santiago is more than a walk. It truly is a spiritual journey. Thurland and Lorraine Brown have done this walk two times and they may just be getting started. My former youth pastor and his wife from way back in the nineteen seventies join the podcast for an interview following their second 800km trek of the Camino de Santiago. It was much more than just a hike for them. Here are the highlights... We could. We should. We're compelled. Every step a prayer. Deep relationships happen quickly. Who is this Spanish Angel? ...and then there's Mia from Korea. Thurland is a retired pastor who started walking in order to slow the possible onset of diabetes. One thing led to another and he ended up walking much more than the average person. The suggestion of 10,000 steps a day seemed massive at first. Now, not so much. It's more than just a walk. They're told that people do the Camino for one of four reasons: religious, spiritual, social/cultural or physical. Everyone's experience is different but they share some very common goals that stretch far beyond the simple answers. I'll let Lorraine and Thurland tell you the rest. If you'd like to read their blog co-written by Thurland and Lorraine during their 2014 Camino, HERE'S THE LINK. Pictures from this year's Camino are found HERE. Thurland's website is thurland.com In addition to walking Thurland and Lorraine are involved with a company that is working hard to eliminate childhood malnutrition. In tghe last 21 months, 11 million servings have been provided. The would love to show you how to become a part of this, while at the same time improving your own helath and well-being. You can contact Thurland or Lorraine by email: [email protected] or [email protected] What have you felt compelled to do lately?
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Finish what you start. That's been a theme in our household as I brought up my daughter. I wanted to teach her how not to quit when things got hard. It paid off. She sticks to things and doesn't quit. Dad is proud. I find myself today trudging through a few things because I know they need to be finished. Not for a boss or for money, but because they just need to be done. So, what does it take for you to quit something? It's a question we ask ourselves many times each week. We start by making a list of things we need to finish. We need to get them done. Some jobs are big and some just take a few minutes. We tend to gravitate toward finishing the easy things first, just to check them off our list. But if we do that all the time, eventually the big things that need our attention and require much more effort, may get started but don't get finished. [bctt tweet="Sometimes people do work they enjoy and they're getting absolutely nowhere in life. " username="@DoingStuffDaily"] So what does it take to get you to quit? I hope it isn't just bad scheduling. I hope it isn't poor prioritizing. Not quitting speaks volumes about your character and your overall goals in life. Just how serious are you about the things you commit to? To encourage you to keep going at whatever it is that you really want to quit, we came up with 6 thoughts As Jamey and I contemplated the idea of not quitting, here's the conversation that kept us going. 6 Reasons to Finish What You Start "100% is easy. 99% is hard." (Thanks, Jeff Walker) Crackerjacks... There's a prize at the end. Goals versus the Prize. Phil. 3:14 Make it fun if you want it done. (Thanks, Jon Acuff) Do not let your self or others down. Done is better than perfect. [bctt tweet="Perfectionism is the single biggest killer of a completed task than anything else." username="@DoingStuffDaily"] How Do You Make Sure You Finish What You Start?
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Thanksgiving just screams tradition. Your traditions may not be my traditions and mine may not be yours. Let's just hope we all agree on good pumpkin pie. Am I right? In this episode, Jamey and I drop some individual activities that make for a memorable Thanksgiving day. It does not include Black Friday, for which both of us are truly thankful. We do, however, discuss Jamey's Rain or Shine Turkeybowl, the fear of having to face those relatives that you just don't like, or who don't like you and the true opportunity of connecting with the relatives we are stuck with. [bctt tweet="Friends may come and friends may go but you're stuck with your relatives. Play nice this Thanksgiving." username="@Coffee4YourSoul"] My family lives at least 2,000+ miles away from my nearest relative. It's further than that for my wife's side of the family. Connecting with relatives during the Thanksgiving season hasn't happened for many years. We do connect with good friends when the opportunity is there. We work with their schedule and are honored to be included in their traditions. We do not get into any food issues or special secret recipes. So if you're looking for my secret stuffing recipe, you are out of luck. 3 Adoptable Rules for a Great Thanksgiving Day Key on Community and Connectedness. Enhance your own experience. Just have some fun. Lighten up a bit. Beware the distractions and focus on what's most important. Adopt the mindset to be generous, regardless of your circumstances. Here's a great interview on generosity. What's Your Favorite Thanksgiving Tradition? Why?
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Holiday issues. Everybody has them. Even you. There's something that you don't like about the holidays and you need to find a way to either get over it or deal with it. So what is it for you? Consumerism. Crowds. Misplaced priorities. What? In early August, our local grocery store had Halloween candy on the shelves. That's a little too early for me. By September, there were a few shelves of Thanksgiving decorations. By the end of September, the shelves were competing with early Christmas decorations. C'mon people. This is not what it's about. At least, not for me. This is what depresses me about the holiday seasons. It shouldn't but it does. Too much stuff, too soon, too commercial. I know I'm not alone in this thought process. It bleeds far beyond the Christmas season. Consider it a year-round problem. Yes, I understand that some businesses rely heavily on the October through January holiday season just to stay open. I'm just happy I'm not one of them, although I am more than willing to shop at those stores than at Walmart or Target. They can use the income and I need to cut down on buying too much stuff. On the podcast today clearly we have some issues, but please don' write us off as scrooges. We're not those guys! We love the holidays. There are just some things the world around us are doing that bug us to death when it comes to what holidays, any holidays, actually mean and represent. [bctt tweet="The point is not to honor a holiday based on Christ. The point is to honor Christ" username="@Coffee4YourSoul"] Here are our holiday talking points: Starting too soon and dragging too long Budget killers Consumerism Pageantry versus Purpose Depression Higher Expectations Our one-word conclusion won't surprise you. At least, I hope it won't. Here's a great story to combat "Scrooge-ism" during the holidays. Seriously. Without being a Scrooge, what holiday issues do you deal with?
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Unexpected events happen in our lives more than we care to admit. It's not just the little daily things that can shift us off center. It's those big things, the unexpected things that blindside us that change our lives forever. How do you deal with them and how well do you handle them? What kind of events blindside you? Jamey and I came up with a few of the obvious ones, like a death in the family, major accidents, financial setbacks, suddenly losing your job. Both Jamey and I talk about personal experiences with being suddenly fired. I share some more about my wife almost left me seven years into our marriage. It gets personal and that's OK. We're all going to get blindsided in life. You cannot see everything coming. It just doesn't work that way. [bctt tweet="The person who's never blindsided is either oblivious or numb to reality." username="@Coffee4YourSoul"] How you handle the worst of life is a testament to who you are as a person. It speaks to your integrity. Dealing with the unexpected things life throws at you gives you an opportunity to show those around you where your trust lies. A few of the talking points... You don't have to see it coming to be ready for it. Plan for the worst, hope for the best. God is never blindsided. Here are a few suggested podcasts to help prepare you for the idea of being blindsided. Tayleur Farrier on Positivity Worried Sick Adjustments What are those things that blindside you? How do you deal with them?
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Selfishness is the best way to kill a friendship, relationship, business venture or any other kind of interaction with, well, anyone. It is a lacking of consideration for other people. Simple and lethal. When it's all about you, other people suffer. They may not tell you but over time it will kill a relationship. You don't notice as much because, well, it's all about you. Selfishness in it's simplest form is a lack of consideration for others. It comes out when you're driving and other don't drive the way you think they should. (Isn't that always the case?) It comes out when the two of you can't decide what TV show to watch. It becomes a battle of wants over things that, most of the time, are not worth the argument or the effort. It becomes a battle of wills and the will many times is just selfishness. Being selfish is a spiritual battle that's not just between you and God. Your selfish actions are a distraction from God to those around you. Awareness is a wonderful thing when it comes to your relationships. Talking points for this podcast include the following: Does all sin revolve around the idea of selfishness? Can a person be selfish about wanting more of Christ in their life? Christlikeness is not a competition. Selfishness makes it a competition. The Robinhood Syndrome. Is playing it safe an act of selfishness? This was a very easy podcast for both Jamey and me find ourselves running down rabbit trails but we always found ourselves back on the right pack eventually. The opposite of selfishness is generosity so if you need the other side of this coin, listen to this earlier podcast with guest Pete Benson. His life is one filled with a generous spirit. What's your best advice for dealing with selfishness?
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"Gossip is the devil's radio," said Beatle's George Harrison. Everybody talks about everybody else and yet, nobody wants to admit it. It takes a disciplined mind and heart to keep ourselves from sharing the juicy story we're just not sure is true. In this podcast, we do our very best not to talk about the Kardashians or anyone else, although I do mention my neighbors to the north and the south in the best way possible. Our Gossip Talking Points for this podcast... Prayer request announcements Where and how does gossip originate Reality TV She can't be involved in ministry because... We need to pray for our pastor because, well, I'm sure you've heard by now that... The reason for cliques If the information is true, is it Ok to talk about it? After all, it is true. Jamie and I both share the worst gossip told about us. Well, at least the worst we've actually heard was spread about us. This is a slightly lighthearted look at a topic that is killing the church, and sometimes the pastors, from within. [bctt tweet="Gossip is when you hear something you like about someone you don't like." username="@coffee4yoursoul"] Have you registered for the Navigating North Summit on Oct. 30-Nov. 3? It's free and full of great speakers all on the topic of life purpose. Hosted by Kevin Monroe. It's not too late. How has gossip hurt you? Dare to Share.
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Advice is something all of us want at some point in our lives. Good advice at the right time can be an amazing blessing. However, if the timing is bad, your advice may be doing more harm than good. In this episode, we unpack some very untimely advice that is given when people really don't want to hear it. Although both Jamey and I agree that most of these sayings are true, the timing and intent can do much more harm than good. We're talking about statements like, "God has a plan for all of this." or "God won't put you through something He knows you can't handle." We even dive into the total turnoff of "Christian-ese." You know, someone talking and can't get through a single sentence without using what many would call "Biblical slang." If an unbeliever hears someone talk about being "washed in the blood of the lamb" you know they're running for the door. They just don't understand. Although we have some fun with this topic, we don't make light of the fact that most of these statements are, in fact, true. Also, here are some suggestions for exactly what to do in times when a friend needs your help and advice and you actually want to help. This is coming up in a few weeks. Navigating North Summit, hosted by Kevin Monroe, who was our guest on the podcast a couple of weeks ago. What's your best advice you've been given during a hard time in your life?
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Worry is the main course of stress in our world today. The sad thing is that about 90% of everything we worry about never happens. So, we worry about nothing. Absolutely nothing. What are you worried about right now? In this episode, Jamey and I unpack the idea that people are worried sick about stuff that just won't happen. Politics are out of control. Weather disasters are happening whether we like it or not. Personal struggles are there when we wake up every morning. Relationships are pulling at us in several directions. Yet, none of them are solved by worry.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7
Let's get real about how we handle worry in our own lives? These two earlier podcast are a good supplement to this topic: How to Focus on God Daily "Even If..." DISCOVER YOUR PURPOSE FOR BUSINESS AND LIFEFree online summit October 30-November 3 Hosted by Kevin Monroe, Podcast guest from last week
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Purpose is a very hot topic these days and Kevin Monroe has what we all need to hear. In this week's podcast, Kevin unwraps the ideas of personal life purpose in a way you haven't heard before. This topic is a welcome expansion on our earlier podcast on purpose.
Kevin is captivated by the idea that God has a higher purpose for life, leadership, and service. He believes the people who find and fulfill their higher purpose have more fun, experience greater fulfillment, and make the world better and brighter for everyone else.
It is those beliefs that energize his work as an executive coach, leadership consultant, and keynote speaker. He helps individuals and organizations give authentic expression to their higher purpose.
He is the founder of X Factor Consulting and host of The Higher Purpose Podcast. Kevin has an MA in Organizational Leadership from Gonzaga University where he also studied Servant Leadership and a BA from Mercer University.
Kevin is the host and organizer of the Navigating North Summit: Discover Your Purpose for Business and Life on October 30 â November 3. Connect with Kevin: KevinDMonroe.com, @kevin_monroe, Facebook.com/kevinmonroeonline, or linkedin.com/in/kevinmonroe.
This podcast interview was a blast. Kevin shared how he was led into a life of purpose that most people don't understand. The "pinhole concept" in a universe is a very narrow way to live. Kevin expands the pinhole with a an understanding of higher purpose in life for all of us. In case you're wondering, the Navigating North Summit is offered free to everyone. Kevin explains this reasoning in the podcast. He truly lives to give value to others. One great way to start each day with purpose is to start early and start well. Here's a great resource for starting well. What's your best takeaway on purpose from the podcast? - Montre plus
