Episodes
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In this current episode, Alanis has a deep dive conversation with Dr. Ramani Durvasala about narcissism and personality disorders, and their effects on relationships and culture.
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Alanis sat down with Dr. Gabor Maté for this month’s podcast to talk about the de-stigmatization of addiction and how best to understand and support the recovery process, ADHD and how sensitivity and a sense of self directly affects the body.
Below are books by Dr. Gabor Maté:
In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction
When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress
Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder
Hold On to Your Kids
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Alanis sat down with Karen Koenig for this month’s podcast to talk about emotional and restrictive eating and how to maintain a healthy relationship with food.
Below are books by Karen Koenig:
Starting Monday: Seven Keys to a Permanent, Positive Relationship with Food
The Rules of "Normal" Eating: A Commonsense Approach for Dieters, Overeaters, Undereaters, Emotional Eaters, and Everyone in Between!
The Food and Feelings Workbook: A Full Course Meal on Emotional Health
What Every Therapist Needs to Know about Treating Eating and Weight Issues
Nice Girls Finish Fat: Put Yourself First and Change Your Eating Forever
Outsmarting Overeating: Boost Your Life Skills, End Your Food Problems
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In this episode, Alanis talks with Gordon Neufeld about developmental psychology, the power to parent, and the value in staying connected with our children as they get older.
Below is a book by Gordon Neufeld:
Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers
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In this episode, Alanis talks with Nina W Brown about the four kinds of destructive narcissistic patterns and how to navigate relationships with them.
Below are some books by Nina W Brown:
Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents
Loving the Self-Absorbed: How to Create a More Satisfying Relationship with a Narcissistic Partner
Whose Life is it Anyway? When to Stop Taking Care of Their Feelings & Start Taking Care of Your Own
The Destructive Narcissistic Pattern
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In this episode, Alanis talks with Daniel Goleman about Emotional Intelligence, empathy, different styles of leadership, and emotional competency.
Below are some books by Daniel Goleman:
Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ
Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships
Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence
Altered Traits: Science Reveals How Meditation Changes Your Mind, Brain, and Body
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In this episode, Alanis talks with Pia Mellody about codependence and addiction recovery as well as parenting and creating functional relationships.
Below are some books by Pia Mellody:
Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives
Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love
The Intimacy Factor: The Ground Rules for Overcoming the Obstacles to Truth, Respect, and Lasting Love
Additional information:
Pia developed the Developmental Model of Immaturity which is used by the Meadows where she is a Senior Fellow.
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In this episode, Alanis talks with Byron Katie about Self Inquiry.
Below are some books by Byron Katie:
Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life
I Need Your Love - Is That True?: How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead
A Thousand Names for Joy: Living in Harmony with the Way Things Are
Who Would You Be Without Your Story? Dialogues with Byron Katie
A Mind at Home with Itself: How Asking Four Questions Can Free Your Mind, Open Your Heart, and Turn Your World Around
Additional resources:
Free worksheet mentioned in the podcast by Byron Katie.
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In this episode, Alanis talks with Dr. Alexandra Katehakis about sex addiction.
Below are some books by Dr. Alexandra Katehakis:
Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex After Recovery from Sex Addiction
Sex Addiction as Affect Dysregulation: A Neurobiologically Informed Holistic Treatment (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)
Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence
Making Advances: A Comprehensive Guide for Treating Femail Sex and Love Addicts
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In this episode, Alanis talks with Bryan E. Robinson Ph.D. about work addiction.
Below are some books by Bryan E. Robinson Ph.D.:
Chained to the Desk: A Guidebook for Workaholics, Their Partners and Children, and the Clinicians Who Treat Them
Overdoing It: How to Slow Down and Take Care of Yourself
Work Addiction: Hidden Legacies of Adult Children
The Smart Guide to Managing Stress
Sites mentioned in the podcast:
Work Addiction Risk Test
Workaholics Anonymous
Workaholics Anon
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In this episode, Alanis talks with Dr. Elaine Aron about highly sensitive people.
Below are some books by Dr. Elaine Aron:
The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You
The Highly Sensitive Child: Helping Our Children Thrive When the World Overwhelms Them
The Highly Sensitive Person's Workbook
The Highly Sensitive Person in Love: Understanding and Managing Relationships When the World Overwhelms You
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In this episode, Alanis talks with Howard Gardner about his theory of multiple intelligences.
Below are some books by Howard Gardner and outlets which are referenced in the podcast:
The Good Project
Frames of Mind: The Theory of Multiple Intelligences
Multiple Intelligences: New Horizons in Theory and Practice
The Unschooled Mind: How Children Think and How Schools Should Teach
Truth, Beauty, and Goodness Reframed: Educating the Virtues in the Age of Truthiness and Twitter
The App Generation
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In this episode, Alanis talks with Karen Kleiman about postpartum depression and all the activity that it entails from depression to anxiety to stress.
Below are books by Karen Kleiman which are referenced or discussed in this podcast:
This Isn't What I Expected: Overcoming Postpartum Depression
The Art of Holding in Therapy: An Essential Intervention for Postpartum Depression and Anxiety
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Perinatal Distress
Therapy and the Postpartum Woman: Notes on Healing Postpartum Depression for Clinicians and the Women Who Seek their Help
Dropping the Baby and Other Scary Thoughts: Breaking the Cycle of Unwanted Thoughts in Motherhood
Moods in Motion
Tokens of Affection: Reclaiming your Marriage After Postpartum Depression
The Postpartum Husband: Practical Solutions for Living with Postpartum Depression
What Am I Thinking?: Having a Baby After Postpartum Depression
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In this podcast, Alanis talks with Richard Schwartz about his Internal Family Systems which he developed in response to clients' descriptions of experiencing various parts–many extreme–within themselves.
Below are references discussed in this podcast:
The Mosaic Mind
Metaframeworks
Internal Family Systems Therapy
You Are The One You've Been Waiting For
Introduction to the Internal Family Systems Model
The Center for Self Leadership
Chart mentioned in the podcast
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In this podcast, Alanis talks with Dr. Peter Levine about stress and trauma recovery, resilience, Somatic Experiencing, and more.
Below are the references discussed in this podcast:
In an Unspoken Voice
Waking the Tiger
Trauma and Memory
Healing Trauma
Trauma-Proofing Your Kids
Trauma Through a Child's Eyes
Freedom from Pain
The Polyvagal Theory —Stephen Porges
SIBAM—five core components of Somatic Experiencing
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In this podcast, Alanis talks with Dr. Sue Johnson about bonding, attachment, and adult romantic relationships.
Below are the references discussed in this podcast:
Hold Me Tight
Love Sense
The Practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy
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In this podcast, Alanis talks with Dr. Dan Siegel about mindfulness, parenting, relationships, neurobiology, and more.
Below are the references discussed in this podcast:The Developing Mind
The Mindful Brain
The Mindful Therapist
Mindsight
Brainstorm
Parenting From the Inside Out
No-Drama Discipline
Alanis' Tattoo
Center for Culture, Brain & Development
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In this podcast Alanis talks with Wendy Maltz about relationships and sex.
Below are the references discussed in this podcast:
The Sexual Healing Journey
Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women's Sexual Fantasies
Incest and Sexuality: A Guide to Understanding and Healing
Intimate Kisses: The Poetry of Sexual Pleasure
The Porn Trap
Planned Parenthood Recommended Books & Resources
Where Do I Come From?
What's Happening To Me?
Your Body Belongs To You
It's My Body
Relearning Touch Video
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In this podcast, Alanis speaks with Stan Tatkin about his book Wired For Dating.
Below are the references discussed in this podcast:
Wired For Dating
Imago Therapy
The Intimacy Factor
Facing Codependence
Facing Love Addiction
Wired for Love
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In this podcast, Alanis talks with Margaret Paul about Inner Bonding, a six-step self-healing process.
Below are the references discussed in this podcast:
Inner Bonding
Step 1: Willingness to Feel Pain and Take Responsibility for Your Feelings
Step 2: Move into the Intent to Learn
Step 3: Dialogue with Your Wounded self and Core Self
Step 4: Dialogue with Your Higher Guidance
Step 5: Take Loving Action
Step 6: Evaluate Your ActionRead more about each step of Inner Bonding here.
Books & Music Referenced in this Episode:
Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved by You by Margaret Paul
Healing Your Aloneness by Margaret Paul
Inner Bonding by Margaret Paul
"Lens" song from the album Havoc and Bright Lights
The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo - Montre plus
