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In the latest episode of the "Get Your Life Together Girl" podcast, we are diving into an invaluable tool I call the Growth Factor. The episode is packed with insights on how to manage those pesky moments that can derail your day and offers practical advice for maintaining inner peace.
Understanding A Common ProblemsWeâve all been thereâthose small aggravations like a rude cashier or traffic jam that somehow ruin our entire day. Itâs not the isolated incidents themselves, but rather our reaction to them that holds significant power over our mood and overall well-being.
The Rule of 6 Explanation:Imagine having a bad interaction at the grocery store which leaves you irritated. That irritation could then affect your interactions throughout the rest of your dayâpotentially impacting six other people negatively as well as yourself multiple times over.
This ripple effect illustrates why it's crucial to control initial negative reactions before they snowball into larger issues affecting others around us.
Rule Of Six Explained:1. A small event triggers an emotional response.
2. This response influences subsequent actions and reactions.
3. These reactions create a ripple effect impacting multiple people (up to six in this example).
This understanding shows us how a singular unfavorable encounter can potentially multiply into half-dozen sequentially impacted parties due to how things spread when we do not address them. The way to stop these triggered downslides of events is to look at the Growth Factor.
THE GROWTH FACTOR:The âGrowth Factorâ is looking for potential outcomes. If I lean into this emotion, this moment, what could possibly happen? When we evaulate, we look to the statement: âThe energy that breaks you has the power to repair you." Your brain craves resolution; they need complete stories with clear endingsâeven if they're fabricated based on perceptions rather than facts! By consciously choosing calm responses instead of letting emotions run wild, we provide ourselves much-needed mental closure without unnecessary drama.
The question is how do we get there?
Practicing Mindfulness and Emotional RegulationMindfulness is the key to moderating emotional responses effectively. By staying present and understanding that most people's actions aren't personally targeted at us, we can better regulate emotions and prevent unnecessary stress from dominating our lives.
Detailed Breakdown: The Growth Test QuestionsTo apply this method practically, we turn to four critical questions under Growth Test framework:
What is this moment worth?
Evaluate if letting negative emotions grow will have any substantial benefit.
Is this how I want to feel?
Reflect on whether your current emotion aligns with how you wish to feel.
What is within my control?
Distinguish between aspects you can control (your response) versus those you cannot (external circumstances).
What am I hoping to get out of this?
Focus on desired outcomes instead of being swept away by immediate frustrations.
These questions guide us towards more thoughtful responses rather than knee-jerk reactions driven by fleeting irritations.
Enhancing Emotional Intelligence Through PracticeA growth mindset balances logic with emotionâa skill essential for developing high emotional intelligence (EQ). By practicing presence and mindfulness regularly using tools like the Growth Factor test, we gain greater command over both ourselves and situations around us without relinquishing control unnecessarily due to heightened emotions.
When faced with heightened emotions:
1. **Pause** - Be mindful.
2. **Check-in** - Understand what you're feeling.
3. **Evaluate** - Is this emotion worth it?
Conclusion & Call To ActionMinor inconveniences should never dominate oneâs mental state; perspective matters greatly! Using this tool allows you to better handle your feelings, which leads to improved mental health overall!
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In today's fast-paced world, many of us find ourselves grappling with feelings of discontent, anxiety, or general unhappiness. But have you ever paused to consider that these emotions might be stemming from unmet needs in various aspects of your life? Today, we are deep diving into what unmet needs are, how they impact you, and the way you can course correct to help yourself feel connected to yourself, something bigger than you, and the relationships you deem most important.
Understanding NeedsOur needs range from basic physical necessities like food and water to more complex emotional and spiritual requirements such as love, self-esteem, and inner peace. When these needs go unmet, they manifest as negative emotionsâsadness, anxietyâand coping mechanisms that often do more harm than good.
The Five Master Areas of LifeCategorizing our essential needs into five master areas:
Mental: Cognitive well-being.
Emotional: Love, affection.
Physical: Basic survival (food, water).
Spiritual: Inner freedom.
Financial: Economic stability.
Understanding these categories helps us pinpoint where we may be lacking fulfillment.
Signs of Unmet Needs Physical Needs:Fatigue
Frequent illnesses
Stress
Brain fog
Safety Needs:Constant anxiety
Trust issues
Paranoia
Emotional Needs:Loneliness
Emotional exhaustion
Difficulty expressing emotions
Esteem Needs:Insecurity
Self-doubt
Fear of failure
Spiritual Needs:Feeling adrift
Lack of purpose
Recognizing these signs is the first step towards addressing them effectively.
Coping vs Safety MechanismsSafety mechanisms are preventive actions we take based on past experiences (e.g., avoiding alone time with strangers after trauma), while coping mechanisms are reactive behaviors like overeating or substance abuse when faced with stressors. Both can become maladaptive if not properly managed.
Steps to Identify & Address Unmet NeedsReflection: Examine areas causing frustration.
Listen to Emotions: Understand what your feelings indicate about unmet needs.
Seek External Insights: Consult friends or professionals for new perspectives.
Try New Experiences: Engage in activities outside your comfort zone.
Take Small Steps: Gradually address each need without overwhelming yourself.
We must emphasize the need for patience throughout this journey; understanding one's unmet needs is a complex process requiring gradual implementation rather than drastic changes overnight.
Imposter Syndrome Episode may be helpful to understand this process and how it may be showing up.
In conclusion:
Addressing your unmet personal needs isn't just about achieving short-term happiness but fostering long-term well-being through proactive steps:
1 . Practice self-care regularly . 2 . Set realistic goals . 3 . Express emotions freely . 4 . Build supportive relationships .
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Negativity from another person is bad enough, but when it comes from inside your head, itâs tough to hear! Your inner conversation, the monologues that run through your mind and generally right out of your mouth, can cause heartache and a spiral of negativity.
Today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into why how you speak to yourself matters, the toxic impact of negative self-talk, and then, we will talk about how to change the negatives into neutrals, then positives once and for all.
Letâs get right to it.
Key Takeaways:
00:00 Intro
02:03 If we are constantly criticizing ourselves, we create a negative mindset
03:07 What negative self-talk is
04:06 The levels of negative inner conversation & simple negatives
06:41 The impacts of negative self-talk
10:10 How the âbouncerâ of the brain takes your negative instruction and uses it
11:29 Name your inner critic
13:29 Your brain has a negativity bias, which defaults our thinking
14:35 Moving your thoughts from negative to neutral
16:45 Step 1 in changing your negative thought pattern/conversation
18:20 Step 2
19:14 Step 3
21:23 Step 4
24:14 Step 5
25:32 Step 6
28:41 Say it out loud!
30:03 Visualization exercise to stop the thoughts
31:48 Next-level tools to step up your mindset game
34:09 What you gain when you think and conversate with yourself in a healthy way
35:34 How you talk to yourself is the instructional manual to your life
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In the latest episode of the Get Your Life Together, Girl podcast, we are kicking your excuses out of your mindset as we delves into the pervasive nature of excuses and their detrimental impact on your life. Excuses are an all-too-common human behavior that significantly hampers progress and personal growth and the excuses you make need to be addressed head-on to help you shift your mindset for a better outcome in every experience you come across.
This insightful conversation dissect why you make excuses, how they affect you, and offer actionable strategies to overcome this negative behavior.
Defining the Problem Questions That MatterWhy do you act against your best interest despite knowing that making excuses is harmful?
Core Drivers of ExcusesThree primary drivers behind excuse-making:
Fear: Fear of failure or rejection keeps many from stepping out of their comfort zones.
Indecision: Uncertainty can paralyze decision-making processes.
Lack of Responsibility: Failing to take responsibility encourages a cycle where making excuses becomes habitual.
ConsequencesWhile making an excuse might offer short-term relief, it ultimately prevents long-term growth and success. The consequences include:
Procrastination leading to missed opportunities.
Poor mental and physical health due to stress.
Strained relationships resulting from unmet commitments.
How to Overcome ExcusesActionable strategies:
Take Responsibility
Accept accountability for your actions.
Reflect on questions like "What am I avoiding?" or "How does this excuse serve me?"
Develop Self-Control
Practice self-discipline through small daily habits aligned with your goals.
Combat Procrastination
Identify deeper issues causing procrastination such as fear or lack of motivation.
Track Behavior
Monitor actions regularly using journals or apps designed for habit tracking.
Alter Perspective
View challenges as opportunities rather than obstacles blocking your path forward.
Exercise Boundaries Define what is enough; address feelings related to inadequacy directly instead allowing them fester unchecked over time."
âOvercome Middle Problemsâ Stay committed even when initial excitement fades away during middle phases projects/goals.â
âAct Unconditionallyâ Take action without expecting perfect outcomes valuing effort itself more than results achieved.â
Emphasis On Lifelong GrowthThe focus remains steadfastly upon continuous personal development regardless end outcome expected. Acting unconditionally allows individuals grow beyond limits previously imposed themselves thereby achieving greater sense fulfillment overall .
ConclusionExcuses may seem harmless but are toxic towards realizing oneâs full potential.
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In this transformative session, we are drowning out the outside noise, rejecting negative thoughts and behaviors, and embracing opportunities with realistic optimism. How? By betting on yourself, especially when it scares you the most! Betting on yourself often seems daunting; we fear failure and prefer comfort over risk. But taking that bet is crucial for success.
Letâs break it down.
Key Points Discussed:Assuming Negative Thoughts are Wrong and how to challenge them.
Open doors to new possibilities by questioning initial assumptions about yourself and situations.
Worthiness & Personal Responsibility:
Emphasize self-worth.
Coming to terms with the fact that only you can bet on yourself; others may not always have your best interests at heart.
Embracing Failure & Risk:
Recognize failure as part of the journey.
Learn from setbacks instead of fearing them.
Taking Calculated Risks:
Shift mindset towards potential gains rather than focusing solely on risks or losses.
Raising Standards:
Increase personal value through positive habits and decisive actions in pursuit of success.
Opportunity Mindset vs Scarcity Mindset:
Cultivate an outlook that sees potential growth in every situation rather than limitations.
Truth & Personal Responsibility:
Own up to one's role in their circumstances. â Stop blaming external factors for personal dissatisfaction or lack of progress.
Examples of Betting On Oneself:
â Continuous learning â Career changes or starting businesses
â Committing to personal development â Prioritizing physical health
â Investing financially for future independence
â Strengthening emotional intelligenceIn all of it, I share my personal experiences with limiting beliefs instilled during childhood and how she overcame them by choosing to bet on herself above average expectations set by others. In the end, you are offered a powerful tool to empower yourself into placing the bet. But, grab a piece of paper! Youâre going to want to write this down.
In conclusion, do not just dream big, put those dreams into action regardless of fear or uncertainty. Those that bet on themselves lead richer, more fulfilling lives.
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Today we're exploring hidden opportunities â those gems within challenges that successful people leverage for growth in all areas of their lives: mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, and financial. We'll uncover how being specific about goals and seizing moments can propel you towards success.
You see, success is not a stroke of luck; itâs an art and science that can be mastered with the right mindset and approach. In this enlightening episode, we are breaking down the anatomy of success into digestible pieces so that you can apply a new approach for any transformational change.
The Blueprint of Intentional SuccessImagine success as a complex structureâevery beam or brick represents an attribute or habit cultivated by those who consistently achieve their goals. Unlike what many believe, successful people don't just stumble upon good fortuneâthey build it with intentionality and precision. This is the path:
Specific Goals Lead to Specific ResultsSetting vague aspirations is like trying to hit a target blindfolded. Successful individuals know this all too well; they set clear-cut objectives because clarity breeds motivation. When you define your destination in specific terms, every step you take has purpose and direction.
Seize Each Day Like It's âThe Oneâ that changes everything!Opportunity doesnât wait around for anyoneâand neither do those on the path to greatness. They seize moments big or small because each one holds potential for progressâeven if it means stepping out of comfort zones.
Keeping Score: Tracking ProgressWithout knowing where you stand in relation to your goals, how can you strategize effectively? Regularly checking in on progress isn't obsessiveâit's strategic. It ensures you're always steering your ship towards uncharted waters instead of circling familiar islands.
Realistic Optimism: Hope Grounded in RealityBlind optimism leaves one vulnerable; realistic optimism equips them for battle. By expecting positive outcomes while accounting for potential hurdles, successful folks maintain productive mindsets even when skies are gray.
Grit Over Glamour Every TimeItâs easy to overlook gritty perseverance when celebrating someoneâs achievementsâbut grit often makes all the difference between fleeting interest and lifelong passion-fueled pursuit through thick and thin.
Hidden Opportunities: Turning Setbacks into ComebacksLife will inevitably throw curveballs at usâin these moments lie hidden opportunities waiting to be unearthed by those willing enough to dig deep. Failures arenât dead ends but detours leading potentially toward more scenic routesâif we choose resilience over resignation.
A Daily Practice That Fuels GrowthFour introspective questions as part of our daily ritual:
What do I want?
What do I need?
How do I want to feel?
How am I going to get there?
By answering these regularly, we align our actions with our deepest desiresâcrafting a life script where we're both playwrights and lead actors.
Conclusion: Crafting Your MasterpieceIn essence, success is akin to crafting a masterpieceâit requires foresight, discipline, creativity within constraintsâand above all elseâthe willingness to find beauty amidst imperfections by seizing hidden opportunities everywhere.
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Have you heard the term âInner Child Healing?â Itâs a popular topic on social media, but do you understand what it is and the impact it has on a healing journey? In todayâs episode, I walk you through the common misconceptions and provide you with practical tools to help explore your inner child wounds.
Key Points Discussed:The Impact of Childhood Trauma: How unresolved trauma from childhood can resurface in adulthood affecting our behaviors and relationships.
Four Core Wounds:
Abandonment
Guilt/Shame
Trust Issues
Neglect
Unaddressed childhood trauma resurfaces in adulthood but recognizing these patterns allows us to heal past neglect or emotional pain. From ages 0-9 we learn safety; when this is disrupted without adult support, shame lingers long-term.
Carl Jung introduced "inner child" as part of our psyche linked to younger years affecting adult perceptionsâespecially after trauma which alters our sense of security.
Abandonment makes us repeat cycles of rejection; guilt leads to boundary issues; trust deficits create validation needs; neglect causes dissociation from self-needsâall impacting relationships deeply.
Inner child healing involves confronting our deepest woundsâthose feelings of being unsupported, unseen, or unheard. By acknowledging and working through these traumas transparently with ourselves, we open the door to change and happiness. Imagine accepting every part of yourself, including those neglected pieces craving love. This self-acceptance is powerful; it leads to a fulfilling life.
Healing Strategies:
Writing letters to your younger self
Acknowledging past hurts
Listening to what feelings emerge when thinking about childhood
Identifying emotional triggers
Tools for Supporting Inner Child Work:
Hugging oneself as a form of physical comfort
Butterfly hug technique for those uncomfortable with touch due to trauma
Mirror work with affirmations
Practicing self compassion through journaling or meditation
Notable moments:"When we begin to acknowledge our hurtsâŠwe open the door to connect with ourselves."
"Every time we get to a new place [in healing], itâs likely that you open something else."
"âŠinner child healing is about identifying the core wounds where we didn't feel supported, seen or heardâŠ"
Remember, it's never too late to begin healing. You can learn to express emotions healthily and cultivate self-love and worthâit's all within reach. Choose what you want over trauma.CLICK HERE: I'm excited to welcome you to my new course and school! The Blueprint to Growth! Youâll find two NEW COURSES, DIGITIAL DOWNLOADS, SESSIONS, AND SO MUCH MORE!
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We are exploring balance â how it impacts every aspect of our lives and finding a version that suits you. We dive in with work-life balance expert Alison Mandell, who shares her journey from an unfulfilled executive producer to discovering true harmony between personal satisfaction and professional success.
Alison opens up about her past struggles and reflects on the pivotal moment she chose authenticity over external validationâa decision that led her down a path of profound change. discuss practical steps towards balance like starting your day phone-free to cultivate presence before facing daily demands. It's not just about time management but aligning actions with internal values for joy-filled days that feel genuinely yours.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:Realizing no one else will save you; itâs time for change. â The power of envisioning future outcomes if no changes are made.
Defining Balance:
True balance stems from self-belonging and an inner knowing that aligns with your flow of life rather than fitting into prescribed ratios or schedules.
The Experience of Time: â Discusses how time feels different when rooted in the self versus caught up in reaction mode or chasing after tasks.
Practical Advice for Creating Balance: â Emphasizes starting the day without checking your phone as a way to keep centered before letting the world in through social media or emails.
Self Advocacy at Work: â Differentiating between reacting out of frustration versus advocating based on understanding what you truly want out of your career and life.
SHIFTING AWAY FROM SOCIETAL VALIDATIONOur culture often equates productivity with worthiness, but Allison challenges this notion head-on. She advocates for compassionate shifts towards living genuinely rather than adhering strictly to discipline as the path to balance.
MINDFULNESS OVER TECHNOLOGYOne practical tip she shares is starting your day phone-freeâa small change that can have a big impact on stress levels and inner peace.
SUSTAINABLE CHANGES FOR LASTING IMPACTA reminded that it's not about overhauling your entire routine overnight; it's those incremental changes that cultivate presence over reactivityâreorienting our days around what truly matters instead of external demands.
Start each day with mindfulness
Implement small changes gradually
Prioritize genuine needs over pressures
Foster self-authenticity for a fulfilling life
This conversation delves deep into emotional regulation within professional dissatisfaction while encouraging personal growth through intentional practice:
STRATEGIES FOR EMOTIONAL REGULATION:Daily Self-checks: Begin your day understanding your current needs.
Facing Discomfort: Confront internal discomfort directly.
Grace Periods: Allow time before reacting emotionally.
Understanding Reactions: Identify core wounds influencing reactions.
Navigating Complexity: Time aids in reorienting emotional responses.
Micro Shifts & Joy Incorporation: Integrate joy-inducing activities daily.
Continuous Self-examination & Adjustments align with personal satisfaction.
APPROACHING CHANGE WISELY:Avoid radical lifestyle upheavals based on fleeting feelings.
Commit to manageable steps forward despite fear or uncertainty.
Recognize stillness as vital in understanding oneself deeply.
View experiences as lessons shaping individual metrics of acceptability.
Ultimately, this conversation serves as an inspiration for cultivating balance by integrating mindful practices, setting technology boundaries, fostering authenticityâand most importantlyâallowing ourselves the grace period needed for transformational growth without succumbing to guilt or societal pressures.
đĄ Inspiration Alert: "Balance isn't just dividing time evenly; itâs also ensuring our hearts feel light." - Allison Mandell
To find out more about Allison, visit her website: www.allisonmandell.com or her various offerings:
Finding Time Program: www.allisonmandell.com/finding-time-program
Other Business: www.omnianetwork.com
Instagram: @life.over.work, @omnianetwork.com
Thank you for taking the time to listen to this episode! I hope youâve enjoyed it as much as we did.
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Sometimes our problems stem from taking things too personally. Today's episode is about learning not to see everything as an attack or personal affront. We'll explore how to shift away from negative self-talk often rooted in trauma and lacking emotional support. For those who are quick to feel hurt or responsible for others' actions, this one is for you. This tendency can lead to anxiety and stress which leads to low self-esteem. It's crucial that we understand the difference between what belongs to us emotionally and what doesn't.
Weâre breaking it all down!
Strategies Discussed:
Challenge Assumptions: Ask yourself critical questions about your perceptions in emotionally charged moments.
Therapeutic Approaches: Consider therapies like CBT or group therapy for deeper issues related to trauma or insecurity.
Boost Self-Esteem: Work on improving your view of yourself; higher self-esteem reduces sensitivity to criticism.
Curiosity Over Insecurities: Investigate what triggers your insecurities when faced with hurtful situations.
Letting Feelings Pass: Accept negative emotions without dwelling on them excessivelyâacknowledge but don't ruminate.
Actionable Tips:
Practice emotional resilience by asking clarifying questions during conflicts instead of immediately reacting with hurt feelings.
Give people the benefit of the doubt; misunderstandings happen frequently and itâs seldom all about you.
To combat taking things too personally:
1. Challenge assumptions: Was this really directed at me? Am I being oversensitive?
2. Consider if feelings will pass naturally.
3. Improve self-esteem: Work on how you perceive yourself.
4. Reflect on insecurities: What triggers sensitivity?
5. Embrace positive aspects of sensitivity like compassion.
6. Practice emotional resilience by asking questions instead of reacting impulsively.
7. Donât dwell on every situation; seek clarity rather than assuming the worst.
Remember that being sensitive can have benefits like deeper relationships but donât let it overwhelm youâseek help if needed so minor criticisms don't disrupt daily life disproportionately.
Lastly, practice self-compassion by acknowledging feelings without dwelling negatively on themâfocus on growth over control since we cannot dictate others' behaviors or reactions but only our responses.
Additional Resources Mentioned:
Positive Affirmations Course: Learn how positive affirmations combined with brain chemistry can enhance emotional regulation.
Empath Burnout Episode: Understand if you're an empath and learn strategies for managing burnout
After years of prioritizing others, you may feel too drained to care when they start treating you better. You might not believe them because it's different from your past experiences. It's normal but remember, self-awareness can change everything. Focus on what you want to feel and how you want to live.
Ask yourself if the approval of others is truly important or if apologizing constantly is worth it. Are anxiety and poor self-esteem defining your life? To move forward, don't take on burdens that aren't yours. Practice the tools I've shared; change takes time.
One key question to ask in any situation is: "Is this about me?" If yes, explore deeper; if no, let it go. Recognize that not everything involves us and owning that helps put our lives together.
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Let me ask you a question: What do you see when you stand in the mirror? Do you like the way you look? Do you immediately notice your perceived flaws and begin to feel upset with what is before you?
Body image is not merely superficial. It can be so intense that it dysregulates your emotional well-being and mental and physical health, while it creates a storm so big that you struggle to find balance, self-love, and inner peace.
So, today, we are taking a one-on-one deep dive into loving ourselves from the outside in! First, weâre unpacking the one mistake most women make when loving their physical form, and itâs different than you might think. And then, weâll talk about how to change your relationship with yourself so that you can elevate your life.
This deep dive is filled with big a-ha moments.
Key Takeaways:
00:00 Introduction
01:49 A question that all of us must ask ourselves
03:25 Approaching your life from a mind, body, and soul aligned mindset & truth #1
05:40 The biggest mistake most women make when it comes to being at war with their bodies
08:22 Our thoughts impact our physical form
09:00 Releasing the tapes that play in your headâan example of their impact
12:15 Truth #2: If you can find reasons to hate your body now, you will always find reasons to be dissatisfied
14:53 The way we change the war is to access your relationship with your body
17:35 Truth #3: The thoughts about your body is the relationship you have with your body
18:01 What a scarcity relationship with yourself looks and sounds like
20:13 Positive thoughts support neuropathway change
22:11 Step 1: Challenge the narrative
24:15 Truth #4: If you genuinely and wholly believed the negative narrative, you would not have moments of positive feelings
24:32 Step 2: Reflect on your beliefs and values
26:38 Step 3: Move into the value of likeness
28:00 Step 4: Practicing body gratitude: how and why itâs needed
31:49 Step 5: Focusing on body functionality
35:04 Truth 5: Just because the worldâs view on exercise and diet has shifted does not mean that your thought patterns and habits have
35:48 Step 6: Reframing your thoughts around diet and exercise to best benefit your body image
37:19 Using Approach Goals/Approach Mindset
42:20 A list of ways to stop the war beyond the steps
Challenge yourself, my dear. Because in the end, youâll be amazed at how proud you feel when you change the narrative. And do you deserve to change the narrative; doing so is an essential step in getting your life together, girl.
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In this episode of the Get Your Life Together, Girl podcast we delve into the revolutionary benefits of slowing down for our mental and physical health.
This conversation was sparked by my own step back from constant busyness. The insights I share here are the ways I did less to gain more!
Key Takeaways:Presence Over Productivity: Prioritize being present in each moment rather than ticking off tasks.
Mindfulness Encouragement: Slowing down fosters mindfulness which allows us to be more aware without judgment.
Gratitude & Contentment: Embracing slowness can cultivate gratitude for simple pleasures leading to increased happiness.
Improved Decision Making: A slower pace helps clarify thoughts for better decision-making aligning with personal needs.
Enhanced Relationships: By reducing rush, we nurture deeper connections with loved ones.
Health Benefits: Slowing down reduces stress on our mental and physical well-being while potentially boosting productivity through restorative breaks.
Setting Boundaries & Accepting Limitations: Recognize your limits and set boundaries accordingly without guilt.
Fun & Joy Importance: Make time for activities that bring joy as it recharges you emotionally and physically.
9. Silence Practice & Journaling Reflections: Utilize quiet moments for introspection; journaling can help process emotions like guilt related to slowing down.
10. Mindfulness Habits Establishment: Anchor points such as meditation or breath work are crucial habits for returning focus during busy times.
You are invited to slow down through the simple tools I applied.Step one: grant yourself permission. Listen to the full episode to uncover more...
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1200Do you ever feel like you are a different person to different people in your life? Do some people see one side of you while others do not? Or, do you ever feel like you struggle to express yourself fully? Maybe you knowingly hide behind who you truly are deep inside?
If so, you are not fully engaging with and living through your most authentic self.
Many women are on a quest to live a more authentic life, yet to do so, you must be clear about what being authentic means to you.
This week weâre taking a one-on-one deep dive into authenticity. First, weâll dive into what it means to be authentic, then how itâs built, experiences and feelings that keep us away from it, and then Iâm going to give you eight strategies you can use today to start living and trusting yourself and others with the most genuine version of yourself.
So, letâs shift our perspectives and our ability to show up.
Key Takeaways:
00:00 Introduction
01:40 What it means to be authentic
04:58 Why we hide aspects of ourselves and let go of our authentic self
06:55 Quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson is the baseline to authenticity
09:42 If you have a desire to be more connected to your life, you are seeking authenticity
10:41 Authenticity requires vulnerability and how that challenges us
15:43 Why is it so hard to be who you are?
16:34 Understanding the Adaptive Self
19:05 Strategy 1: Get to the baseline of who you are
26:00 Strategy 2: Open a dialogue with yourself
30:53 Strategy 3: Making an active decision to be present with yourself
32:38 Strategy 4: Owning your gifts is a baseline for authenticity
35:00 Strategy 5: Speaking our truth
37:03 Strategy 6: Work towards daily actions of authenticity
39:00 Strategy 7: Allow yourself to gain perspective anytime you need
42:49 Strategy 8: You must love yourself
44:10 Bonus Strategy 9: Connect yourself within an authentic circle
46:19 Recap of the strategies
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Most of our suffering and upset come from how tightly we hold onto our perspectives as truths and the emotional, mental, and physical behaviors we cling to that never serve us, such as perfectionism, procrastination, negative self-talk, and avoidance. When we live from a space that prevents us from experiencing our life to the fullest, where we are closed to everything and open to nothing, we keep ourselves in a cycle that pushes against growth and ourselves.
Thereâs a term for this behavior, and itâs self-sabotage.
Today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into self-sabotage, what it is, and how it impacts us. Then we will move into a space where we learn to be observers of ourselves and our behaviors so that we may grow, find self-love, rest in inner peace, and fully thrive as the souls we are in our human experience.
So, letâs dive right in.
Key Takeaways
00:00 Introduction
01:59 Weâve all engaged in self-sabotaging behaviors
04:06 What is self-sabotaging?
05:18 Behaviors that show up when we are in full sabotaging mode
06:33 Signs you are self-sabotaging
16:01 Why do people sabotage themselves?
Episode 71: Limiting Beliefs
19:07 The four areas sabotage causes us the biggest issues
22:14 The type of sabotage
22:47 The impact of procrastination. Epi 37
24:51 The impact of perfectionism
25:24 The impact of self-criticism
26:00 The impact of resisting change
27:00 The impact of poor self-care
27:47 How to become the observer
34:40 Emotional scale and the importance when it comes to self-sabotaging
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1200Welcome to Pause & Affirm! This quick hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace!
TAKE A MOMENT TO RELAX AND ALLOW THESE WORDS TO SETTLE IN YOUR MIND, HEART, AND SOUL.
Affirming with me:
Itâs time for some radical life ownership! My voice matters. My words matter. My emotions matter.I am the definition of strength built by fire and desire.
I am surrendering and welcoming abundance in a way Iâve never known possible.
I am everything I am because that is who I want to be.Every little piece of my soul matters.
And from now on I will not let one piece of living slip through my fingers because nothing will be lost again.
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1200In this episode of the Get Your Life Together Girl podcast, we are diving into the complex emotions surrounding feelings of invisibility. We all have times were we feel unheard and unseen; itâs a natural experience in life, sadly. But there is always a reason why overlooked and unheard. The discussion includes personal experiences with feeling invisible, the impact it has on self-esteem and confidence, as well as actionable steps to break out of this cycle.
Key Topics Discussed:
The Impact of Feeling Invisible: How being constantly overlooked can erode self-esteem.
Understanding Why You Feel Invisible: Exploring reasons including mental health issues like depression or anxiety.
Childhood Experiences: How they contribute to feelings of invisibility in adulthood.
Shyness vs. Social Anxiety: Understanding how these traits affect visibility in social settings.
Communication is Key: The importance of expressing your desire to be seen and heard.
Practical Tips Shared:
Tune into your feelings through mood journals or meditation practices.
Stop hiding by engaging authentically with those around you.
Communicate openly about your need for inclusion in social activities.
Build healthy relationships based on mutual respect and understanding boundaries.
Takeaways: There's no one-size-fits-all solution to overcoming feelings of invisibility, recognizing its root causes is essential for change. With these tools you can work towards internal validation while actively seeking connections where you feel valued.
Remember that seeking help from professionals like therapists when struggling with deep-seated emotional challenges is always a viable option.
Join us next week as we continue our journey toward reaching your greatest potential!
For more insights and therapeutic perspective on life improvement strategies:
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I also invite you to check out the new 15-day Affirmation Course, where I take you on a journey through how to your brain chemistry and your greatest desires to your benefits. Itâs available to start right now!
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Welcome to Pause & Affirm! This quick hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace!
TAKE A MOMENT TO RELAX AND ALLOW THESE WORDS TO SETTLE IN YOUR MIND, HEART, AND SOUL.
Affirming with me:
This is the last moment, day, week, month, and most certainly, the year that I willingly accept anything less than what I deserve. Iâm claiming it now and refuse to go back on my word. What I deserve is far greater than what Iâve allowed, and that stops now. From now on, what I create and accept is written by my standards and no one elseâs. This is my season of reawakening. This is the season of honoring myself. This is the season that I toss out the limits and unwind my anxious mind. This is the season of me, and thereâs not a single person, feeling, event, or thought that is going to get in my way. As of today, I WILL no longer accept anything less than what I deserve!
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Welcome to another enlightening episode of the Get Your Life Together Girl Podcast. Today's episode is a must-listen as we explore the complex world of validation â both internal and external â and how they coexist in our quest for self-acceptance. We all seek validationâto feel accepted and understood. Social media bombards us with ideas of what validation should look like but remember it's both an inner and outer process.
Today we'll explore how validating yourself can reduce dependence on others' opinions. Letâs dive into why both internal and external validation are necessary for a fulfilling life.
Letâs dive right in!
Key Points:
The Need for Validation: We delve into why every person craves validation, the role social media plays in shaping our perceptions of it, and why seeking external affirmation isn't inherently negative.
Two-Step Process: Discover how validation operates on two levels â outer (external) and inner (self-validation). Learn why balancing both is essential to personal growth.
External vs Internal Validation: Danielle breaks down what each type entails, their importance, potential pitfalls, and misconceptions surrounding them.
Self-Validation Challenges: Understand the barriers that prevent us from validating ourselves including limiting beliefs, past traumas, and societal expectations.
Practical Tips & Techniques: Receive actionable advice on how to start affirming yourself through examples of self-validation statements and a four-step process aimed at fostering self-appreciation without over-reliance on others' opinions.
Radical Genuineness: Embrace radical genuineness by accepting all parts of yourself unapologetically; learn to differentiate between feeling an emotion versus being defined by it.
Past Influences on Present Feelings: Gain insight into recognizing when past experiences influence current emotions affecting self-validation efforts.
Why Self-Validation Can Be Hard: Explore reasons behind struggles with self-validation linked to cultural norms or individual upbringing that may hinder relying on oneâs judgment.
Remember:
No amount of outside approval will fill you up if there's an absence inside; true fulfillment comes from syncing internal acknowledgment with positive external feedback.
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I also invite you to check out the new 15-day Affirmation Course, where I take you on a journey through how to your brain chemistry and your greatest desires to your benefits. Itâs available to start right now!
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Welcome to Pause & Affirm! This quick hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace!
TAKE A MOMENT TO RELAX AND ALLOW THESE WORDS TO SETTLE IN YOUR MIND, HEART, AND SOUL.
Affirming with me:
I deserve to feel my best, and it's now my focus!I deserve the life of my dreams, and I'm taking daily action to create it.I am capable of creating everything I desire without blocks or getting in my own way.I am prepared to take advantage of the opportunities before me, because I deserve to do just that!I will never give up my dreams to make others happy, because I am giving myself permission to be happy!I am focused on me. I love me. I am strong. I am confident. I am grateful for my life.My thoughts are becoming my reality as I say YES to everything I am, have been, and am wildly becoming! From today forward, I am living a life of HELL YES, and I'm doing it for me!
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No matter where we look in life, there are expectations. It's when the expectations become a problem that we begin to build anxiety. How we deal with it can lead to our overall mindset and life satisfaction. That's why today, you and I are taking a one-on-one deep dive into expectations and high-functioning anxiety. That space where we look like we have it all together, yet inside, we can be frozen with fear and self-doubt. We're breaking it. All down and I'm giving you some tools. And tips to help. You win at your mindset and learn to set your expectations. While dealing with some form of anxiety. So, let's not waste another second.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
00:00 Introduction â Expectations and high-functioning anxiety
01:40 The 3 things that most people come into therapy for
03:05 Definition of expectation
05:30 How expectation and anxiety go hand-in-hand and high functioning anxiety
08:43 The wins and loses of high-functioning anxiety
11:54 Safety mechanism vs Coping mechanism
14:16 When anxiety creates issues
16:00 How to cope with expectations
19:20 Dealing with anxiety in a healthy way â tools
22:03 Looking at your thought patterns
24:18 Grounding exercise â 5-4-3-2-1
29:25 Connecting to your body â breath, mantras, affirmations, talk to your fear
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Welcome to Pause & Affirm! This quick hit of inspiration is meant to remind you of your greatness, inner light, and peace!
TAKE A MOMENT TO RELAX AND ALLOW THESE WORDS TO SETTLE IN YOUR MIND, HEART, AND SOUL.
Affirming with me:
The old version of me is proud of the person I am today. I realize now how far I have come. I know that the weight of not being good. Enough and not there yet are self-imposed roadblocks that have kept this version of me standing on the sidelines of my life. Those sidelines are not covered in peace. They are battlefields tIhat destroy me from the inside out. So, today I'm making a choice, a decision, a choice to no longer stand there. I will no longer be hindered by judgment, fear, or lack. I give myself permission to be prosperous. I allow myself to step back and step forward and give myself joy. I am on the path of discovery that ultimately builds and rebuilds the very best of me in this whole, happy, complete life. Yes, those old versions of me are proud. I know today that I am a beautiful, wonderful soul.
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