Episodes

  • In this episode of the Intentional Marriage Podcast, Cresta and Justin discuss the power of belonging in a marriage and how it serves as the foundation for a fulfilling relationship. They share personal experiences and insights, highlighting the importance of building mutual trust and transparency. Emphasising the significance of feeling a sense of belonging in a marriage and how it can positively impact the overall health and success of the relationship. They also encourage couples to invest in their marriage and seek resources, such as coaching, to improve their connection and create a thriving partnership.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    The power of belonging in a marriage is significant and can greatly contribute to a strong and healthy relationship.Building mutual trust and transparency is essential in creating a sense of belonging in a marriage.Starting a gratitude journal can help couples appreciate and recognise the positive aspects of their spouse and their relationship.Taking time apart and engaging in activities outside of the marriage can actually strengthen the sense of belonging and appreciation for one another.Couples need to take ownership of their marriage and be willing to invest time, effort, and resources into improving it, rather than accepting the status quo.

    BEST MOMENTS

    "I've never felt like that in a relationship at all, not even close."

    "You've got to determine what anything is to you. I would do anything for my wife. What does that really mean to you?"

    "Be the leader in your family. Take the initiative. Don't make excuses for things being the way they are."

    "I would do anything for my wife. I'd do anything for my wife. That is awesome to be able to say."

    "We know where we want our marriage next year. We know where we want our marriage in five years. And we know that it's not going to get there by just coming home, plopping on the couch, flipping on that TV."

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    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialize in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."

    Though they have a great sense of humor and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • Justin is joined by his youngest son, Derek, to discuss the topic of doing the right things for the right reasons. Derek reflects on his upbringing and how he has always been disciplined and strived to do the right thing. They delve into the influence of their family values, the importance of discipline, and the impact of sports on Derek's character development. They also touch on Derek's future plans, including his interest in cybersecurity and his desire to join the military. Overall, this episode offers a heartfelt conversation between a father and son, exploring the values and aspirations that shape their lives.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    The importance of instilling discipline and doing the right thing for the right reasons: Derek attributes his strong sense of discipline and desire to do the right thing to his upbringing and the values instilled in him by his parents.

    The impact of consistent discipline and consequences: Derek mentions that being disciplined and facing consequences for his actions as a child helped shape his character and taught him the importance of taking responsibility for his actions.

    The value of setting goals and working hard: Derek's dedication and commitment to giving his best effort in football and other areas of his life demonstrate the importance of setting goals and working hard to achieve them.

    The influence of parental role models: Derek looks up to his father and credits him for being a positive influence in his life. He mentions that seeing his father deal with the consequences of not taking care of his back injury has influenced his own decision-making process.

    The uncertainty and excitement of the future: Derek expresses both excitement and uncertainty about his future plans, particularly regarding his decision to join the military and his career path. He acknowledges that his goals and aspirations may change over time, but he is focused on finding happiness and building a family.

    BEST MOMENTS

    "I just feel like that's weird. Like I wonder how I was raised to be like that."

    "You have to be a follower to be a good leader as well."

    "I think it'd be really cool to work for the NSA or like work inside the Pentagon or do some cool government job like that."

    "Personally, emotionally, I feel like if I just had a wife and kids, I'd be a happy family."

    "I'm excited for you. I'm proud of you. And yeah, words just can't describe how proud I am of you."

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    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialize in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."

    Though they have a great sense of humor and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • Justin and Cresta are joined by special guest Nikki Gianni, an experienced coach and former military leader. They discuss the challenges and importance of effective leadership in various contexts, from corporate environments to entrepreneurial ventures. Nikki emphasises the need for leaders to genuinely want the role and to establish trust with their team members. They also explore the significance of accountability and setting clear expectations for employees. Through personal anecdotes and insights, the episode highlights the impact of strong leadership on organisational culture and success.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    The lack of proper training and preparation for new leaders is a common issue. Many leaders are promoted based on their technical skills rather than their leadership abilities, which can lead to challenges in effectively managing and leading a team.

    Trust is a crucial element in leadership. Micromanaging employees can be detrimental to their performance and motivation. Leaders should trust their team members and empower them to do their jobs whilst providing guidance and support when needed.

    Accountability is often lacking in the workplace. Leaders should set clear expectations and hold employees accountable for their actions and performance. This includes addressing issues promptly and providing constructive feedback.

    Effective communication is essential for successful leadership. Leaders should clearly communicate expectations, changes, and goals to their team members. Regular check-ins and open dialogue can help foster a positive and productive work environment.

    Leading by example is important. Leaders should demonstrate the behaviours and values they expect from their team members. This includes being punctual, following through on commitments, and treating others with respect and fairness.

    BEST MOMENTS

    "You have to want to do it. That's the first step, right?"

    "People micromanage because they're afraid people aren't going to do what they're supposed to do."

    "You just have to be able to put your trust in other people and that will pay off exponentially if you are sincere."

    "Accountability, what's that? That's like a whole series of conversations that we could have, right?"

    "You can't just expect that somebody knows what you expect. You have to communicate it."

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    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialize in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."

    Though they have a great sense of humor and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • In this episode of the Intentional Marriage Podcast, host Justin is joined by his eldest son, Ethan. Justin reflects on his past struggles with balancing work and family life, particularly during his time working long hours for a company. He shares how every decision he made during that time seemed to be the wrong one, as he desperately tried to save his family. However, this experience led him to prioritize his children and become more present in their lives. Justin and Ethan discuss the importance of fatherhood and the impact it has on a child's upbringing. They also touch on the significance of setting boundaries and instilling healthy habits in children, such as limiting screen time. Ethan shares his perspective on his father's parenting style and offers advice to new fathers on being involved in their children's lives, particularly in activities like sports. The episode concludes with Justin expressing his pride in his son and excitement for his future endeavours.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    The importance of being present and involved in your children's lives: The podcast emphasizes the significance of being actively engaged in your children's activities and spending quality time with them. This can create lasting memories and strengthen the parent-child bond.Balancing work and family life: The host shares his personal experience of struggling to balance his demanding job with his family responsibilities. This serves as a reminder to prioritize family time and consider the impact of work on family dynamics.Setting boundaries and limits: The host mentions implementing rules and limits for his children, such as screen time restrictions. This teaches them the importance of self-discipline and helps them develop healthy habits.Reflecting on past decisions: The host acknowledges that some of his decisions as a father may not have been ideal, particularly in terms of work-life balance. This highlights the importance of self-reflection and learning from past mistakes to improve as a parent.The impact of parenting on children's future choices: The host discusses how his parenting style and values have influenced his son's decision-making process, particularly in terms of choosing a career that aligns with his desired family life. This emphasizes the role parents play in shaping their children's values and priorities.

    BEST MOMENTS

    "I don't want my picture taken. I don't want to be on video."

    "I'm trying to build a business and while yes there are some selfish implications in there, the end goal is not that. The end goal is to help out you and Derek and that is kind of the driving force behind it."

    "Every decision I made was a bad decision." - Justin reflecting on his struggles during his marriage.

    "I paid more attention to my kids after this."

    "I guess just make sure you're involved in their life
 make sure you're there for that because when they get older they remember that."

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    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialize in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."

    Though they have a great sense of humour and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • In this episode of the Intentional Marriage podcast, hosts Justin and Cresta discuss the five pillars of a successful marriage. They delve into the importance of fatherhood, partnership, leadership, being a provider, and being a lover. Justin emphasizes the significance of being a good dad and the positive impact it has on a marriage. They also stress the importance of being a supportive and equal partner, taking the lead in decision-making, and actively providing for the family. The episode concludes with a discussion on the importance of maintaining a strong physical and emotional connection as lovers. Listeners are encouraged to prioritise these pillars to strengthen their relationships and create a successful marriage.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    The five pillars of a successful marriage discussed in the podcast are fatherhood, partnership, leadership, being a provider, and being a lover.Being a good father involves not only loving and caring for your children but also providing discipline and guidance.Being a good partner means being an equal in the relationship and actively supporting and serving your spouse.Leadership in the household involves taking responsibility for making decisions and being a servant leader, putting the needs of your family first.Being a provider means contributing financially to the family and continuously striving to improve your financial situation. Additionally, taking care of your physical health and appearance is important in being a lover to your spouse.

    BEST MOMENTS

    "If you're not having sex with your wife, this could be one of the reasons why they find fatherhood attractive."

    "We are on the same team and we're fighting for the same goals."

    "You are going to become the average of your five closest friends."

    "The dad bod is not cool. Get the fat off your body. Get some muscle on you."

    "Implementing these things is life-changing. The rewards are going to be so outrageous."

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    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialize in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."

    Though they have a great sense of humour and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – give a brief health update of Cresta before talking about the main topic of this episode which is very much linked to the health update and what Cresta and Justin are going through right now.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    You have to be intentional. How easy would it be to neglect things by just coming home from work or from the hospital and going straight to bed because we’re tired? We neglect a lot of things – like the dishes or the vacuuming – but not each other or our marriage. Are we eating out more than we should right now or neglecting some things around us right now? Absolutely. But, as far as we and our relationship goes, we’re having to make sure that those things are staying intact, and while it doesn’t look the same as it did 6 months ago, the core is still there.It’s all about making the time to just be together and taking the little opportunities with your family, with your kids and make the most of them because you don’t know what life holds. As much as we want it, we’re not guaranteed tomorrow, we’re not guaranteed the next minutes so you’ve really got to take every opportunity and moment you have an just enjoy it.How have you been showing up in your marriage? Husbands, I’m specifically talking to you. If you do the things you know you’re supposed to do in your marriage to take care of your wife and be the leader you’re supposed to be in the marriage your marriage is going to go a lot better because, correct me if I’m wrong, your wife (most wives) is looking for a leader. She’s not looking for somebody who is desperate for her attention, or is needy and is lost like a puppy-dog without it. I want to be wanted not needed.Showing up takes work, effort, energy and thought initially to constantly show up. But after a while, like everything else, it becomes routine (but still intentional), and after a while it’s part of who you are and becomes naturally ingrained in you. Once it’s who you are you can do it with ease and it’s not work any more.

    BEST MOMENTS

    ‘I don’t know if it’s the courage Cresta has, or the digging down deep to find it, but there’s something about it that makes her that much more attractive.’
    ‘Your last excuse was yesterday. Stop making excuses.’
    ‘I’m tired of being a strong, independent women – I didn’t that for too long before you – I’m sick of picking what I want for dinner.’
    ‘Part of the joy of marriage are the little differences between us and having fun with it.’

    ABOUT THE HOSTS

    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialize in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."

    Though they have a great sense of humor and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    CONTACT METHOD

    Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching

    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching/

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • On this episode of Intentional Marriage, Justin Burt is going solo as his wife, Cresta, isn’t feeling great after her recent breast cancer diagnosis to talk about the situation he finds himself in: Looking after your spouse when they aren’t feeling well as well as advocating for medical care.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    Cresta is doing well. She had her first chemo session about a week ago which went as well as could be expected. She’s journaling her experience almost every day on Tik Tok @crestaburt. A couple of days ago she got a shot to stimulate bone marrow and we think that was what knocked it outta her for today’s recording.As a partner who has a spouse who is sick, it’s really important that you be there for them for support, especially when you’re dealing with medical stuff. Those of us who aren’t medical staff can really be at a loss on what to do and lean on the advice of the professionals. For men that can be hard because we like to take charge and be in charge.Be your advocate for your medical care. There’s a lot of people out there that don’t want to go the chemotherapy route because of the toxins, and that’s fine, but whatever route you go down whether it's holistic or modern medicine just be your advocate. If you’re not staying on top of it, at the end of the day, you’re the one responsible, it’s your life, it’s your health, it’s your well-being that’s being messed with. The squeaky wheel gets oiled – be the squeaky wheel when it comes to your health and well-being.

    BEST MOMENTS
    ‘Just seeing her there helpless and knowing I can’t do anything for her really hit home and was probably the hardest time I’ve had through this process.’
    ‘If you have a spouse who is sick long-term, you’re going to have to plan the small things – like grocery store visits, washing the dishes, laundry – around their needs and to make sure they’re done without them having to worry about doing them.’
    ‘The end goal is getting through it together and being there for each other.’
    ‘We invest in our retirement, vehicles, homes, but how much do we invest in our marriage? Maybe a couple bucks here and there, but really, we should be investing in our marriage like we invest in other parts of our lives.’

    ABOUT THE HOSTS
    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialise in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."
    Though they have a great sense of humour and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    CONTACT METHOD
    Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching
    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching/

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about some of the challenges that couples can face when parenting.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    The challenges can start from before you even have kids, from the moment you start talking about the decision to have them, not have them, to how many you’re going to have. When my ex-wife and I started to have discussions about kids, we had a difference of opinion about how many we were going to have, not when we were going to have them. I wanted 5 (which is a lot!) and she wanted 2, so she said: “Let’s start with one”. Which is the best advice I can give anybody; start with one because you don’t know how much they’re going to change your life.People want to raise their kids similar to how they were raised, so there’s going to be a natural challenge where some parents will be naturally more easy on their kids, some will be harsher, more strict, disciplinarian and so there’s a natural tug-of-war going on within the parenting structure. As the kids grow little things like being able to ride down to the corner store to get a soda might be more than one parent might not want them to leave the house on their own. The challenges start early and they really don’t end, even past them being grown. Once they’re graduating high school, what if your child wants to enlist in the military? One parent could be willing to sign and another not. It continues.Kids take time, effort, money, a lot of everything away from marriage. So date nights become harder to do because you may not have the time or money to do that, it’s a legitimate concern. So you have to start being creative and think about how you can have a date night on $5-10. You’ve got to learn to balance your marriage and parenting because the 15-20 years you’re not feeding your marriage while you’re raising your kids, is a long time to not feed something that could last another 40 years after the kids have left home. If Mom and Dad are happy and healthy the children will be happy and healthy.

    BEST MOMENTS
    ‘Kids change your life in a good way and very drastically, but you don’t know what that change looks like for you.’
    ‘You’re pretty good about giving me whatever I want, if I’d wanted kids I’m pretty confident that’s what I would have had.’
    ‘We’re going to be freakin’ awesome grandparents.’
    ‘Sometimes I think it’s good to see their parents disagree, because that’s what real life is like, but it depends how they disagree. If it’s a conversation without any yelling, that’s a healthy way to show them how to handle conflict, especially if you show them how you come to a resolution.’

    ABOUT THE HOSTS
    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialise in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."
    Though they have a great sense of humour and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    CONTACT METHOD
    Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching
    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching/

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about Cresta’s recent breast cancer diagnosis and how they’re both dealing with it.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    I guess you could call it a miracle, some would call it coincidence or happenstance, but in February I was having heart condition issues that I’d never had before. They did and echocardiogram (an ultrasound on the heart) and found a spot on my liver, so I was sent to have a CT scan to figure out what that was. Eventually we got results and found out the ‘spot’ was just a glitch on their machine but found a mess in my breast. I was then sent for a mammogram. I had a biopsy about a week later and we were told that it was late stage 2/early stage 3.Today we went back in to have a PET scan and, all things considered, got the best news we could have gotten: that’s it’s early stage 2A because it’s gone to the lymph node but had not metastasised outside of that.There are so many questions. You hear so much about cancer and about what people go through, and everybody has advice because everybody’s had somebody close to them go through it. One thing we’re learning early on is it’s good to be there for people for support, but just keep your mouth shut about other people’s experiences because everybody’s experiences are so different.Doctors are far more educated than we are. That’s not to say you don’t want to do your own education or maybe you have an alternative method that you want to try. I’d encourage everyone to take the lead in their own healthcare, but also listen to the advice of doctors.

    BEST MOMENTS
    ‘You don’t ever want to talk to a cancer patient about somebody else that’s died. At some point I’m going to do a list of things you don’t say to a cancer patient!’
    ‘Somebody telling you their mother had it and they got through it real quick doesn’t take your fear away, it doesn’t ease your concerns, and everybody’s cancer is different, there are so many different possibilities and variables.’
    ‘Somebody said to me today: “It’s not your cancer, it’s cancer, and it’s your diagnosis not both of yours diagnosis.” So, Justin has no part in it. Justin gives her the benefit of the doubt that she made a bad job of saying what she was trying to say.’
    ‘We would encourage everybody to is to go get yourself checked out on a regular basis, annual physicals.’

    ABOUT THE HOSTS

    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialize in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."

    Though they have a great sense of humor and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    CONTACT METHOD

    Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching

    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching/

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about how we sometimes let emotions dictate the course of our lives and how it’s important to try not to.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    Just look at our political spectrum, whatever side you’re on there’s good people and bad people. So many people are letting their emotions dictate their responses to things. One of the things you really need to pay attention to in your marriage is not to get caught up in your emotions. That’s not to say emotions are bad, but we too often get caught up in our emotions.In marriage we get stuck in ruts, good, bad or otherwise and we become friends, roommates, “I love this person but I’m not in love with them anymore.” What they’re saying in reality is that they still love you, there are still feelings there, but there’s no longer that emotion high, that lust for desire or adventure, there’s not that spark that we get when relationships are new. If that’s something you’re feeling in your marriage it’s not a bad thing, it’s a good thing, because now you know there’s something you can go work on to rekindle that.Sometimes as men when we mess up our wives have a right to be angry with us and lash out at us. It’s our job to stay strong and realise that we’ve made mistakes. The same is true for wives if the wife is in the wrong. Don’t get upset if your spouse gets angry at you after you’re trying to repair this, that is a natural human reaction to you doing something wrong. If they’re showing some emotion they care about you and the relationship still, you may have hurt them or lost a little bit of trust but they care and you’ve got to let them go through that healing process. Sometimes that means being lashed out at.There are things you can do like go on date nights to repair some of the brokenness in the relationship. If you’re repairing a marriage you may not experience that physical intimacy as far as lovemaking is concerned, but you’ll get the emotional intimacy and you’ll start laying the framework to rebuilding. You need to get that emotional connection back.

    BEST MOMENTS
    ‘You can’t be emotional and logical at the same time, your brain just doesn’t work that way.’
    ‘A marriage is in trouble if there’s zero emotion. When there’s zero reaction to anything, I don’t know that there’s a turning back.’
    ‘Be careful what you say, there should not be any “nuts” in “I love you”, it should be “I love you AND this is where my mind is”. The “but” says “I don’t love you”.’
    ‘One thing that I recommend people don’t say is: “I love you, but you need to calm down”! I was a 911 dispatcher and the words “calm down” it’s going to make it so much worse. Tell them they need to take a deep breath, but don’t tell them to calm down.’

    ABOUT THE HOSTS
    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialise in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."
    Though they have a great sense of humour and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    CONTACT METHOD
    Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching
    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching/

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about how to, and when to, respond to your partner's emotional calls and needs.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    According to research, for a happy, healthy marriage you should be responding to about 86% of your partner’s emotional calls. (Justin: “Bullshit! What kind of researcher is coming up with 86%?”) And unhealthy marriages – the ones that are right on the cusp of divorce – are only responding to 33%. (Justin: “How about more often than not? That seems like a more realistic measure that people can use.”)Probably more men than women need to keep in mind, just because your wife asks for a few minutes doesn’t mean she’s being needy or clingy. She just wants that quick connection to say: “How are you doing, how was your day?” Though men are more needy than women!No matter how bad I want to get something done, you come first. It lets you know that you’re the primary focus in my life and that whatever else I’ve got going on, I have the time to stop and say: “Hey, how are you?” and check in on your emotional needs.On the other side, as the one asking for an emotional need. Ask yourself: Is this ask realistic for them to do? Some people have jobs where they work away from home with no contact for weeks at a time or are unable to leave at a moment’s notice. You have to be realistic with your expectations of what your partner can do.

    BEST MOMENTS
    ‘More often than not you should be responding to your partner’s emotional needs.’
    ‘Even in times I would say you’re being ‘needy’, you’re needing something by definition.’
    ‘Being on Facetime or Zoom is nowhere near being face-to-face with a person.’
    ‘Sometimes you need to anticipate your spouse’s emotional needs, you should know your spouse well enough to know what’s coming, to an extent.’

    ABOUT THE HOSTS
    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialise in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."
    Though they have a great sense of humour and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    CONTACT METHOD
    Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching
    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching/

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about the little things in life that give them joy.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    This weekend Justin bought Cresta a Baby Yoda Lego set. Cresta had never built with Lego before, she’s got a decent collection of puzzles, 3D puzzles and Middle Earth models and had never done Lego because she knew, if she did, it would become excessive and expensive. On May 12th the new Zelda game dropped and Justin gotta play that.The last month has been really hectic and busy, just taking time out to veg, together, has been important for us. They may be separate activities but we’re not separate, we’re a foot away from each other. We literally didn’t do anything this weekend but build Lego and play Zelda. We feel rejuvenated and refreshed, as a couple you need to find the things that get you there.These things are good to do, but in moderation. I (Justin) tend to get consumed in things and it’s easy for that to start to take over and I start to neglect things. I (Cresta) get consumed in my husband and everything else gets neglected! I can get really into a puzzle and I think Lego could be dangerous! But, when things get all-consuming it can negatively affect your marriage.If you can incorporate your spouse into your hobbies, that’s even better, whether or not you’re taking part in each other’s hobbies or simply being interested in what the other person is doing and being in the same space while they do it (as long as you’re engaged as well).

    BEST MOMENTS
    ‘So often we forget it’s the little things that are mindless that can be a lot of fun and actually help rejuvenate you.’
    ‘These things act as a distraction when you’ve got shit on your mind and you don’t want to think about it.’
    ‘So often we overlook the little things that reset us.’
    ‘You’ve got to find that couple of hours a day where you can do that.’

    ABOUT THE HOSTS
    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialise in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."
    Though they have a great sense of humour and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    CONTACT METHOD
    Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching
    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching/

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – give you a run down of their three-day mini course about what marriage coaching is, does it work, who is it good for, and who should not do coaching.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    If you’ve got your shit together and there are no problems, you are just rockin’ and rollin’ in the marriage, but you still want to improve your marriage. Coaching will improve it whatever stage you’re at. If you’re struggling and both of you are on the same page and you really want to get things rockin’ and rollin’, then coaching is for you. Wherever you’re at on the spectrum, coaching will help you get better.Family of origin is basically the environment or culture you were raised in, it has nothing to do with genes or biology, it’s how you were raised and the people you were raised around and how that impacts your relationships. A good example is: There are a lot of families out there that when they have an argument their voices get really loud, it’s not out of anger or frustration it’s just the way they are, and there are other families that are very quiet. If two people from different types of families marry and in an argument one gets very vocal the other will retreat into herself. This can cause a lot of problems in a marriage. What can help is understanding where your spouse comes from and that’s the way they’re going to argue. That’s not to say that they can’t learn to change that behaviour.We still ask these questions to each other after years of being married and it’s still fun to hear the answers. Sometimes they’re the same but sometimes they change. Things change based on what you’ve experienced in life and it’s cool to find out how the answers have changed from when we were engaged to now we’re married and we can look at what’s changed.We’re going to train you and get you where you need to be, but at the end of the day for people to succeed in any type of coaching is for individuals to own it. You need to set your own individual goals then after the exercise you come together and put together those goals as a couple.

    BEST MOMENTS
    ‘There’s always room for improvement.’
    ‘This course takes 3 days for you to go through on your own before calling us and having a coaching session. You’ll see some benefits right away.’
    ‘At the end of our course is not where we want you to stop.’
    ‘As open ended questions and be active in listening. That’s probably the biggest hindrance to couples having conversations. When you’re thinking of what you’re going to say next your attention has been divided.’

    ABOUT THE HOSTS
    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialise in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."
    Though they have a great sense of humour and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    CONTACT METHOD
    Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching
    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching/

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – follow up on last episode’s theme of how to cope with families visiting by talking about how things went with your spouse in the aftermath of large family gatherings.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    When you’re in the middle of something emotional you tend to say or do things that aren’t who you are naturally. They overreact a lot of times. Especially when you’re dealing with a partnership, one or the other can get emotional. Don’t say things in the moment because you want to reflect on what went well, what didn’t go well, and what are we going to work on or change next time? In this thing called life there’s always going to be room to grow, room to change, room to evolve and I think it’s important for couples that have gone through something, even if it was a horrible experience, don’t look at it as a negative, what can we do different next time that’s going to make this more successful for our family, where did our family struggle and where can we look at next time to make things better?Those who are dealing with a blended family and you have to deal with your child’s mother/father, it’s important that you get along for the kids. It’s important that you can be adults together, and when your child wants a single party for graduation that you'd be able to give that to them. We make so much stuff up in our minds about what things can be, what things are going to be, and really when you look at it, most people are ‘get along’ types of people just to get through events and that’s the proper perspective to have going into it.

    BEST MOMENTS
    ‘If we could just keep emotions out of everything, everything would be better!’
    ‘There are always things that can be improved on.’
    ‘If I were to re-do the situation I would do everything the same because I think we learned a lot.’
    "We all, as people in relationships, need to understand how you act when something puts me outside your comfort zone.’

    ABOUT THE HOSTS
    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialise in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."
    Though they have a great sense of humour and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    CONTACT METHOD
    Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching
    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching/

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about the fact that they have a lot of family coming to visit because one of their children is graduating high school, and how to deal with such an unusual situation.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    What a lot of people don’t understand, and that I will communicate with my boys once they get married, is that we come second to them. A lot of parents don’t have that view, especially if they’re young and married. Their family comes first, they’re always welcome here for Christmas, for holidays, for everything and anything, any day of the week. We’ll give them cool gifts and bribe them to come, but if their family time becomes more important we’ve got to be able to provide them the opportunity of saying “no” without feeling bad.When we have all this family visiting, the most important advice is: We come first in our decision making. That’s not to say we don’t think about other people or take their thoughts and feelings into consideration. However, we have to make the decision that is best for our family. That comes first and foremost, and that applies to graduation, Christmas, Thanksgiving, any holiday you celebrate (apart from Father’s Day, then I can be a little selfish!).For Christmas this year, we made our plans and then told our family what we had chosen to do. Some family chose not to spend as much time as they would normally, but that was their decision.Whatever your immediate family unit looks like (husband, wife, kids), that’s what you’ve got to base your decisions on. You can’t base it on your parents or a rogue cousin that comes around once in a while and throws a fit, it’s your decision to make. That’s where a lot of people are scared to make that decision because they’re scared of making people upset. I was that way for a long time, but you’ve got to realise that if their feelings are hurt – while that’s not fun – it’s on them and the expectations they’ve set.

    BEST MOMENTS

    ‘There was a lot of tension for us in these situations initially, and then we figured it out.’
    ‘When you get married, your spouse is first, you are your own family and everybody else comes second.’
    ‘When you have a spouse, and you may have divorced parents, you could have up to four families to see over Christmas time. That does present some challenges when you’re making those decisions about how to divide up your time.’
    ‘Start your own traditions, it’s your family, be your own family unit. Incorporate in-laws and parents into that because family is very important, but do not allow them to dictate what will and will not happen.’

    ABOUT THE GUEST

    ABOUT THE HOSTS

    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialize in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."

    Though they have a great sense of humor and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    CONTACT METHOD

    Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching

    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching/

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about Justin being away on work for the first time in three and a half months, how that’s affecting their relationship and tips and tricks you can use if you have a situation like this.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    Being together for three and a half months and then trying to go back to how it was made me feel close to panicking, I was not OK with going back to the way that it was. But it’s been easier this week than I thought it was going to be. I just have to get used to you being gone, things get done when you’re not here, like me chopping my hair off!This time we’ve kept ourselves busier than we were before when we didn’t really have anything going on, now we’re busy every night. Our focus has shifted in the last three and a half months and I think that’s a positive thing for us and it’s helped the week-long separation that we have each and every week; we work during the day, get back and have a bite to eat, and then get busy working. Instead of sitting across the desk from you I’m sitting across a computer screen, and while it’s not as nice or enjoyable it’s still a chance to connect and talk with you, even if it is with other people.Find out what communication tools you’re going to use, are you going to text, call or video-chat? Find something that works for you, especially when you’ve got kids at home, and you can’t spend four hours on the phone every night. For the person travelling use the time that your partner is busy doing something to get your extra work done.Because you are separated by so much it’s easy to lose that connection if you’re not making it intentional, if you’re not doing it on purpose. When you get home, if you’ve lost that connection or touch point and you need to re-engage every time you get home, now you’re spending a day, a day and a half trying to re-engage before leaving again. If you do that enough pretty soon you’re just coming home to a roommate. You’ve got to work on keeping it together, it can be done, it’s just difficult to do and it takes time, practice, messing up and trying something differently. Don’t be afraid to try something and if it doesn’t work try something else.

    BEST MOMENTS

    ‘It’s been a change, not good not bad just a change. It opens up some doors for us and makes some other things challenging.’
    ‘Get your work done while you’re on the road. It’s much better to be fully focused when you get home than be sat on the couch more focussed on your work than your partner.’
    ‘Text throughout the day, be in constant communication, take your lunch break together and call on the phone. These are really important especially if you’re miles apart.’
    ‘Think about how you can fill up your partner’s love tank and making them feel that they are important to you, that they are loved, and cared for, it really goes a long way.’

    ABOUT THE HOSTS

    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialize in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."

    Though they have a great sense of humor and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    CONTACT METHOD

    Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching

    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching/

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about how to achieve intimacy and connection on your date nights.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    Date nights look different for every couple and they’re different every week – for us specifically – and they should look different, they should not look the same. What fun is that? More than that, you want to connect physically, emotionally, and spiritually on date night. That’s why they’re so important and what they’re all about; keeping that stuff alive, and you should be intentional about making those things occur.It needs to scheduled and planned, especially for the first time. Block out 4-5 hours (from 6-10), go and have a nice dinner and make sure you have about 2 hours at the end of uninterrupted time – no kids, turn off your phones. Make or choose a comfortable, relaxing atmosphere (playlist, lights, candles).Use open communication with your spouse to share thoughts and feelings with them on where you’re at. Take turns discussing your day, tell them how you’ve been feeling lately, maybe something that feels like it’s got away from your or built up through the week because you don’t want to go into your intimacy session with that on your mind. Talk about expectations for the session, where do you want to go? Do you know? Do you want to try something new or similar?The locations and the things you do don’t matter, it’s the time you spend and the time you’re investing in your partner that matters. Sit close together as you’re talking and sharing your thoughts and feelings, hold hands. Physical touch reinforces your bond, your physical and emotional connection and creates a sense of comfort and security.

    BEST MOMENTS

    ‘You should engage in activities that foster communication, vulnerability and a shared experience.’
    ‘This works for couples no matter where you are in your journey of intimacy. You can take it to any level, and you can morph it into what works for you.’
    ‘Finances are not something to openly communicate about on date night, there’s a time and place for those things.’
    ‘The first time you do this it’ll be a little awkward, but the more and more you do this (weekly preferably) it becomes more natural and fun.’

    ABOUT THE HOSTS

    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialize in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."

    Though they have a great sense of humor and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    CONTACT METHOD

    Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching

    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching/

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk to Dr Willow Brown and Leah Piper about Daoist sexology, tantra, sacred sexuality and using sexuality as a platform to have a deeper, more spiritual connection with yourself and your partner.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    For a lot of us growing up in the West with a predominantly Christian/Judeo society, there’s a lot lacking when it comes to modelling a healthy, romantic, spiritual, sex positive relationship. That’s what started my path in seeking a place where sex and God come together. Why is it so separate? Why was I growing up made to feel afraid, ashamed, guilty, and scared of the consequences of sexuality when something inside of me was telling me this is a place that you can open, where there’s some kind of profundity and a more meaningful connection to spirit. Why do we think that’s supposed to be left outside the door?I started doing yoga when I was 13, my grandmother was my first yoga teacher. It was always in my life. As I got into my early 20s and started teaching it and talking to people in their 30s and 40s doing yoga for the first time they were blown away by the profound revolution they were getting. It’s like cleaning a really dirty surface and seeing the cleanliness underneath.The three types of couples we get to our sessions are: Kinda new and they are so into each other and excited for where they’re headed. They’re adorable, on an adventure and are so excited about life. Then you have another couple where we are their last stop before divorce lawyers. They’re praying for a miracle and the stakes are high. Then, we’ve got couples who have been married for 30+ years and they’re looking for something that will help them get closer now the kids are out of the house, or are preparing for retirement, they’re seeking something but they’re not quite sure what that is.We all come from sexuality, essentially it’s the root of who we are. If you look at it from a Chinese medicine or Daoist perspective, our sexuality is our essence. That’s one of the first things that I like to get people in tune with: What is your essence? What does it look and feel like, how does it move through the world, how do you nourish it? So many people have no idea or have never thought about it before.

    BEST MOMENTS
    ‘My first experience with tantra was so beautiful, something opened inside of me that forever changed me
 once you taste it you can never go back to regular sex!’
    ‘Wherever you’re at is where you should start
 there’s no shame if you’re 40 and you haven’t learned this stuff before.’
    ‘60% of the time, the couples that are heading for divorce have a breakthrough at our classes and find each other again, the other 40% know it’s not going to work.’
    ‘Tantra doesn’t promise to save marriages, tantra promises to help you get connected to your truth.’

    ABOUT THE GUESTS
    Dr Willow Brown, a Chinese medicine doctor, functional medicine expert and internationally recognised teacher of sexology, bridging sexuality, spirituality, and medicine so that her students can truly understand how to use their sexual energy to create the life that they desire.

    Website: https://drwillowbrown.com/

    Leah Piper has taught thousands of couples and individuals all over the world over the past 20 years through her school, More Love Works. She’s an intimacy expert with multiple advance certifications in tantra, yoga, positive psychology, and somatic therapies.

    Website: https://www.moreloveworks.com/

    ABOUT THE HOSTS
    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialise in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."

    Though they have a great sense of humour and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    CONTACT METHOD
    Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching
    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching/

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk about friendship in marriage and recount some stories from their own relationship and marriage.
    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    We were friends for nine years before we started even seeing each other. We weren’t great friends, more acquaintances, we worked together – Cresta told me where to go and how to get there, and still does today! Our friendship started to develop after we started dating. The acquaintanceship was a great foundation for what we built as soon as we started dating.You can’t have a healthy relationship without some kind of friendship. Friendship is a base, knowing somebody helps you understand them and why they do or say the things they do, who they are, and where they come from. That friendship helps you know them, understand them and love them.We have daily communication. Set aside time every day – whether it’s five minutes or an hour – to talk to your spouse, to ask open-ended questions, not just “was your day good?”, but “how was your day? Tell me about it.” It doesn’t take that long to have a meaningful conversation with your friend.Sitting in your car and talking after doing the grocery shopping isolates you from all the distractions that will happen as soon as you go inside, like putting the groceries away, maybe the dogs need to be fed, kids to bathe. By isolating yourself for 3-5 minutes you can connect and find out how things are going.

    BEST MOMENTS
    ‘We knew what type of person each other were and knew very basic details about each other, Justin didn’t even know I was straight!’
    ‘If you take care of her emotional needs, that is taking care of your own physical needs – women are emotional creatures and men are physical creatures.’
    ‘Don’t judge your friend. You have to be open to who they are. You married them, hopefully you knew who they were before you married them. You have to create that space where they feel it’s OK to come to you.’
    ‘If it’s easy to talk to somebody it’s easier to get through whatever it is you’re going through.’
    ABOUT THE HOSTS
    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialise in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."
    Though they have a great sense of humour and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.
    CONTACT METHOD
    Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching
    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching/

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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  • On this episode of Intentional Marriage, co-hosts and married couple – Justin and Cresta Burt – talk to Avigail Gimpel about her 20-year-journey to understand ADHD and how to reverse it in her students as well as her own children, and more specifically how married couples can navigate an ADHD diagnosis.

    KEY TAKEAWAYS

    When both people in a relationship are struggling with ADHD symptoms it really makes for an extremely challenging relationship. I have less success there and the marriages usually don’t last that long. But, what I see very often is that people with ADHD symptoms tend to attract people that are a little more stable. The first piece of advice I give to the spouse that doesn’t have ADHD symptoms is that your spouse is healthy, this isn’t a pathological condition, it is a lack of habit, and it’s certainly a way of doing things that is very different. What we need to do is bridge the gap by education and understanding each other. You need to understand what’s going on with them, what challenges your spouse is facing, what path they’re taking, as well as working with that person who has ADHD symptoms and helping them gain those skills.It’s not just about accepting the person, both member of the couple really have work to do gaining new skills, gaining patience and the main issue that I’ve seen over and over again is that the couple gets enmeshed in each other and they don’t know how to stop relying on the spontaneity or stability of the other and be their own person first and then part of a couple. Once they can stand as their own person they can work better as a couple.Mom’s with ADHD typically have a higher level of empathy towards their children and they’re able to bond better with their children. But, they’re a little more boundaryless which is problematic because you need to have clear rules and expectations for children. That’s something that I coach couples through, the bonding is so important and is at the centre, but because of that overwhelming empathy, I generally have to train them on the rules and the follow-through and not feeling sorry for your children and therefore turning them into sorry children.

    BEST MOMENTS

    ‘My husband is extremely ADHD, he travels all over the world, he’s the life of the party, and is a lot of fun, but I’m definitely the anchor here.’
    ‘There are many, many different reasons why a person may behave in this way, from lack of skills to trauma and abuse to gut issues.’
    ‘Any couple that are not great at boundaries or their communication is not smooth and therefore their children are hearing a lot of fighting, arguing and childish bickering, that they get help right away. If you’re going to bring children into the world you need to raise them in a home where they’re not having to suffer with strife.’
    ‘Any parent whose child is diagnosed with ADHD: Take a deep breath, your child is healthy, it’s not your fault, you didn’t do anything wrong, you just need to learn more.’

    ABOUT THE GUEST

    Avigail Gimpel is a mom and educator who has earned her stripes! As her students grappled with ADHD symptoms and her own children were diagnosed with ADHD, she took a deep dive into the research (turning up unexpected results), studied and applied the best programs available, and developed many of her own. HyperHealing is the result of over twenty-five years of research, development, and application of cutting-edge intervention programs for her clients, children, and hundreds of students.

    Website: https://www.hyperhealing.org/

    ABOUT THE HOSTS

    Justin and Cresta Burt are marriage coaches who specialise in helping couples regain their intimacy inside and outside the bedroom. They share how their Intentional Marriage principles can help couples find their "Happily Ever After."

    Though they have a great sense of humour and enjoy making people laugh, Justin and Cresta take their work seriously. They know that marriages can be healed and relationships can be restored when both partners are intentional about making things better.

    CONTACT METHOD

    Facebook page - https://www.facebook.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching

    Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/intentionalmarriagecoaching/

    marriage,counselling,support,improvement,relationship,advice,partner,help: https://deviationbydesign.com/


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