Episodes
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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, I talk about accepting what is. Sometimes we create so much drama around discomfort that, which only adds unnecessary suffering to an already stressful situation.
Today we talk about one of the biggest skills you can have, which is accepting what is and accepting the circumstances in your life. Coming to the realization that you don't control and canât control everything can free up so much more space to problem solve. Then going about your life not adding all of the unnecessary drama to it, which weâve discussed before as dirty pain. You can learn to take care of yourself and your needs despite the uncontrollable and ever-changing variables in your life.
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In this episode of Lessons from a Quitter, we talk about the importance of taking vacation time. I emphasize on the fact that taking a break is not a luxury, but a necessity. The capitalist system has conditioned us to believe that productivity equals worth, and as a result, many of us struggle to take time off work. We need to change our mindset around vacation time and stop equating rest with laziness.
The Puritan work ethic, combined with the capitalist system, has led to the idea that hard work equals godliness. This narrative has been ingrained in us for decades, and it can be hard to break free from it. However, taking time off is essential for our mental and physical health. Tune in to this episode to check in on your thoughts around taking a break. Are you able to enjoy your vacation without feeling guilty or trying to maximize that time to do more?!
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This week I talk about understanding the difference between the tasks you are hired to do and the problems that are your employer's responsibility. It's important to recognize that your employer's problems are not your problems, and corporate America loves to take advantage of employees' perfectionism and people-pleasing tendencies, which leads them to take on extra work that they are not paid to do. We have to remember that our jobs are transactional relationships, and we get paid for performing a specific set of tasks.
In this episode I encourage you to evaluate the tasks you were hired to do and what you are doing that is beyond your pay grade, figure out when you agreed to take on extra work, and how you can change this situation. There are four common problems that arise from employees taking on work they are not paid to do, including doing more work than we are paid for, taking on someone else's responsibilities, working beyond regular hours, and fixing other people's mistakes. Listen in as I encourage you to set boundaries, advocate for yourself, and give back work that is not your responsibility.
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This week, Iâm replaying an episode I did in 2019 with Dave Hollis. Unfortunately, Dave unexpectedly passed away last month from heart failure. I wanted to replay this episode as a tribute to him. But, more importantly, I wanted to replay it because there is so much we can learn from Dave and how he lived his life.
In this episode, I dive into what I learned from Dave during our brief interaction on the podcast, how focusing on the fact that life is short can help drive you towards the life you want, and why tragedies like this really put into focus how little it matters what other people think about you and your choices.
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This week, Iâm sharing a podcast that I LOVE and had the pleasure of being a guest on: The Get Paid Podcast with Claire Pelletreau.
Claire has a way of asking all of the questions we want to know but are usually afraid to ask: How much money do you make? What do you spend it on? How did you get here (literally step by step)?
If you want to hear my entire journey and get the juicy details of every step, make sure to check out this episode.
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One of the biggest lies we love to believe is that itâs âeasierâ to just stay where we are. Itâs easier to not go after those dreams. But itâs not easier, itâs just more familiar. And that familiarity leads to resentment, bitterness, hopelessness, despair, and dread. Itâs not easier living like that. So if youâre not going to go after your dreams, at least stop lying to yourself by saying that itâs easier this way.
This week, we dive into this topic and how we can start seeing the price we pay for staying in that comfort zone.
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Studies have shown the most important factor for reaching your goals isnât more motivation or willpower. It is being surrounded with people that will hold you accountable and support you. You already know youâre more likely to give up on your goals if youâre the only one who knows about it. On this weekâs podcast, I talk about how being in communities that supported me through this journey of career change is the only reason I have the business I have today and how you can start finding your community too.
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One of the main principles I try to live by and teach my students is to focus on one thing
Focus on one goal for the year. Focus on one area to improve. Focus on one limiting belief.
Just slow down and take as much time as it takes to get the result you want in that ONE area and then move onto the next thing. But most people push against this because weâve been conditioned to believe we need to change it ALLâŠand FAST. So we set a ton of goals, tell ourselves weâre behind, and scramble because we think there isnât enough time.
But we all know what happens. We get overwhelmed and give up. The irony is that if you slow down to work on one thing until youâve mastered it, you actually start solving your problems.
Thatâs exactly what Betty Dao did. She was in my program Pave Your Path and she took my advice to focus on just ONE thing. She got to work on that. She even stopped coming to the coaching calls because she didnât want to be influenced to work on other things and she changed her life!
Sheâs on the podcast today to talk about her journey.
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Hereâs why self-love is CRITICAL.
You think your problem is:
People pleasing
Perfectionism
Caring too much about what other people need
Overachieving
Imposter syndrome
But the root of all of those is a lack of self-love. And this isnât in some woo-woo âall we need is loveâ kind of thing. Iâve coached thousands of people and the root of almost every problem is some underlying belief of:
Iâm not good enough.
Itâs a worth issue. Think about it.
Thatâs why we so desperately need other people to approve of or like us.
Thatâs why we try so hard to be perfect.
Thatâs why we keep checking off all the boxes society tells us to in order to be âgood enoughâ.
Theyâre all defense mechanisms.
Because weâre terrified that somehow our deepest insecurity might be trueâŠthat maybe weâre really not good enough in some way.
And so we hustleâŠwe performâŠwe give and giveâŠ
But no amount of other peopleâs love or accomplishments or perfection will ever outrun that thought.
If it would, you wouldâve done it by now.
It only changes when we decide to change our own thoughts about ourselves.
Itâs available to you right now.
No need to do or be anything else.
And itâs one of the most important skills to cultivate.
On todayâs podcast episode, I dive deeper into why self-love is critical.
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My friend, Scarlett Cochran, is back on the podcast today to talk about how to think about your money in a way that lets you create the rich life you want today.
If you didnât catch Scarlettâs first episode on the podcast where she talked about her incredibly inspiring story (she went from single teen mom in the military making $25k a year to putting herself through Yale Law School to becoming a Banking and Consumer Finance Attorney to growing her platform One Big Happy Life to multiple six figures as a side hustle) make sure to check it out here.
But after coaching thousands of people on how to build wealth, Scarlett started seeing a pattern: People were living by other peopleâs money rulesâŠeven if it made their lives miserable.
So she set out to change that.
She wrote her first book, Itâs Not About the Money, to change how people approach their money. The book gives a simple system for understanding and managing your money in a way that feels good to YOU so you can create the life you want to live TODAY and every day after that.
And sheâs on the podcast to talk about it with us today.
Make sure to snag her book and follow her here:
Book - https://onebighappylife.com/book Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@OneBigHappyLife Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/onebighappylife/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/onebighappylife/ -
Everyone focuses on teaching you how to set goals. But what happens after you set it? We all know that the hard part comes from following through. Most of know what we want to do but we just feel like we can't get ourselves to do it. On today's podcast, I'll teach you why that's a myth (you really can follow through) and how to start doing it.
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One of the main issues I see with people who give up on their goals is that theyâre setting too many.
You get 1 goal per year. Thatâs it. No exceptions.
On today's episode I explain how picking one goal can
help you skip overwhelm give you a filter to make decisions and get you to be nicer to yourselfIt's the difference between hitting your goals and giving up.
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Your self-concept is the thoughts you have about yourself. And it dictates everything.
Whatever you believe is possible, or not, for you is based on your self-concept. Every goal you set is an attempt to change your self-concept. Meaning, you hope to achieve the goal to change how you view yourself. But the biggest life-hack is knowing that you can change your self-concept without having to achieve those goals first. In fact, learning to change your self-concept can help you achieve your goals faster.
On todayâs episode, Iâm sharing how Iâve changed my self-concept and how you can too
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This weekâs podcast is my year in review.
If you want to know how much money I made and how I made it last yearâŠ
If you want to know the good, bad and the ugly (like how I had 2 of my worst launches EVER!)...
If you want to know about some of the other things I was battling outside of workâŠ
Check out the episode today.
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Last week on the podcast, we talked all about being open to the possibilities. Well, Dielle Charon is an example of what is possible.
Starting out her career as a Social Worker, Dielle was doing something she loved but wasnât making enough money to even cover her student loans. Realizing she needed to make additional income, she began her entrepreneurial journey on the side. She grew her coaching business to replace her income while working her full-time job and commuting 3-hours a day!
She finally quit in 2020 and went from making $40,000 in her coaching business to making $1 million in 2022. Her story is simply incredible.
Dielle is a certified life coach and 7 figure sales expert for WOC Coaches. She is the host of the Black, Banked, and Booked Out Podcast and runs two sales programs: Five Figure Freedom and Six Figure Liberation.
Make sure to check out all of her amazing teachings here:
Diellecharon.com/Podcast
Diellecharon.com/free-training
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Are you open to the possibility that things could be so much better than they are now?
That you could have more time.
More money
More opportunities
More creativity
More connection
More flexibility
More of whatever you want
If you're not open to that, ask yourself âwhy?â Because here is the unfortunate truth:
If youâre not open to it, it wonât happen.
In todayâs episode, Iâll dive into:
Why your belief in what is possible has to be the first step Why believing other people have more possibilities is a problem How to start opening yourself to more possibilitiesCheck out the episode for more!
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Right now can be a difficult time for many.
With the announcement of tens of thousands of layoffs and the signs of a pending recession, itâs easy to fall into tons of negative thinking.
While we canât change the circumstances that we encounter in lifeâŠ
We can change how we respond to them.
In fact, thatâs the only thing we control.
On todayâs podcast, I dive into how you can reduce all the anxiety, stress, and frustration that comes along with uncertain times or difficult things in the world.
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This week's episode is a replay of Episode 117: How Kristina Barile Went From MIT Rocket Scientist to Living Off The Land In Panama.
On this week's episode, I interview the incredible Kristina Barile on her journey from a Harvard and MIT-grad rocket scientist to living in a mud home in Panama, teaching holistic, nutritional Ayurveda and freelance writing. In last week's episode, we talked all about how unnatural our lives have become and the effects it is having on our lives. Kristina and her husband recognized this deep restlessness in corporate America and decided to embark on a journey to find a better way. Her journey opened her up to a wide array of experiences: traveling 30 hours up to Mount Kailash in the Himalayan Mountains, to living in India for 5 months to focus on meditation and self-awareness, to finally building a sustainable mud home in Panama. Kristina's story is still evolving but her unwavering desire to ground herself and live an authentic life will keep her moving forward.
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Iâm launching my membership, the Quitter Club, for the first time and I want to tell you all about it. Why did I switch to a membership? Whatâs included? Who is it for? All of that and more is included in this weekâs episode.
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