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  • S04E32 - The Gift of Choice

    S04E32 - The Gift of Choice

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    ​​It's almost the holiday season, a season of joy and giving.  And during this giving season it’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day of things and get weary in the difficulties that life seems to send our way.  We may want to be a giver but raising kids, building a business, providing a living and all other demands on our life, can rob us of the ability to give. And while it may seem counterintuitive, the greatest gift you can give your family and the world is a healthy you. If you are emotionally unhealthy, you can’t give your time and inspiration to others.  If you are mentally unhealthy, it’s almost impossible to have the strength to persevere, lead and give. If you’re spiritually unhealthy, you can’t inspire, uplift or be the example you want to be.

    In this episode, McKay tells the story of Philip Stern, a photographer and book editor. Stern gifted the US servicemen and women in World War II by editing, compiling, and resizing hundreds of popular books to fit into the pockets of military uniforms.  During this inspired time of Stern’s life, he would write the famous story of The Greatest Gift.  It would eventually become the award-winning film It’s A Wonderful Life. Taking Philip Stern's example, McKay elaborates on how we impact the world in unique ways with our choices, and asserts that one gift, our lives, and the choices we make, can bless others for years to come. He shows how selfishness and the pursuit of bringing more to ourselves halt this impact, and draws lessons from the 1987 Jessica Morales rescue story.  McKay then asserts that the greatest gift you can give your family and the world is a healthy you, and shares a life experience when his renewed Mustang got stolen from his garage and relates it to the choice to be healthy. Listen in today as McKay shares lessons learned from both fiction and real life that open our eyes to the ways in which doing good and making healthy choices can lead to a healthier and happier life.

    The Finer Details of This Episode:

    Philip Stern’s gift to US World War II servicemen and womenA lesson to be grateful for lifeThe award-winning film It's a Wonderful LifeHow one gift and your life can bless others for years to comeThe effect of selfishness and the pursuit of bringing more to ourselvesThe Morales Family storyThe greatest gift you could give yourself – a healthy youThe reintroduction of the Mustang of the 1960sHow you begin to make choices that lead to a healthier youThe 2003 movie Freaky Friday, starring Jamie Lee Curtis and Lindsay LohanHow our frame of reference determines our healthGym owner and workout Coach Marc Zalmanoff Lessons from the movie GladiatorLessons from the story of Theodor Geisel, aka Dr. Seuss

    Quotes:

    "Our life is a gift. It is both the greatest gift we've been given and the greatest gift we have to give."

    "Raising kids and building a business and providing a living and all the other demands on our life can rob you of any ability or desire to give."

    "The greatest gift you can give your family and the world is a healthy you."

    "When we're always looking for the right person or the next job or more money or whatever we think is going to bring us happiness, we lose sight of what is right in front of us."

    "Good choices are not perfect choices."

    "We often just say ‘no’ to good things because we don't have the time or resources to do everything."

    "Choose what makes you healthier, not what's easier."

    "If you're striving for a happier, healthier life, you may have to walk away from the habits and behaviors causing discontent."

    "We get to choose our frame of reference."

    "What we do in life echoes in eternity."

    "If choices...

  • S04E31 - Bridging the Gap

    S04E31 - Bridging the Gap

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    We all have gaps. Gaps in our awareness of others’ feelings, in how we communicate or don’t communicate, or in the many ways we don’t measure up particularly in dealing with people. Our emotional intelligence allows us to navigate through life and difficult times and, as such, the topic of emotional intelligence is one of great importance. McKay enlightens us on the subject today and how we can bridge the gaps many of us tend to have in our emotional lives.

     

    McKay starts with the story of the Golden Gate Bridge which was built despite the many apparent impossibilities and how this bridge has become a great landmark in the city of San Francisco. He likens us to this bridge - when we decide to improve our emotional intelligence, we bridge gaps that we have in our lives. Our host also discusses the impact of negative emotions and avoiding the ‘me-monster’ that neglects the views of others, and identifies some ways to strengthen our emotional quotient - bridge gaps by seeing the views of others, and show genuine interest in things that interest them. McKay finishes up by sharing his message for us all to harness the power of time, use the NIB rule - Notice, Importance, and Belonging, and watch how strength comes into our lives as a result.

     

    The Finer Details of This Episode:

     

    -   Creating landmark moments in your life; lessons from the Golden Gate bridge

    -   Recognize that you have a gap

    -   Why does your emotional quotient matter?

    -   The impact of negative emotions

    -   How do you avoid difficult emotions?

    -   Ways to strengthen your EQ and bridge your gaps

    -   Walk in the shoes of others

    -   Harness the power of time

    -   The NIB rule

     

    Quotes:

     

    “There's something about us or what we're doing that needs to be overcome, and this isn't easy.”

     

    “It's our shortfalls that are at the heart of our gaps in life. And here's the thing, bridging the gaps in our life is possible.”

     

    “It is critical to remember that we all have gaps, we all fall short, and sometimes we need to step up and do what we think isn't possible.”

     

    “When we overcome and become more of who we can and should be, we find landmark moments in our life.”

     

    “A ‘me-monster’ is someone so self-absorbed that no one else matters. Someone who thinks and makes decisions out of their mood or need or perspective.”

     

    “It's easy in life to get so focused on ourselves, that we don't see the major things going on around us, and this makes us blind to the gaps that exist in our life and with people.”

     

    “EQ is the ability to perceive, control, and evaluate emotions. It is the ability to understand things from the view of other people, empathize with others, and overcome challenges in dealing with people and defuse conflict.”

     

    “Success in school is 75% IQ, and 25% EQ. In life, it's exactly the opposite.”

     

    “Every time we strengthen our emotional intelligence, we bridge a little more of the gap.”

     

    “When you can step into another person's view with ease, and empathize with their way of thinking, and do that with a variety of people, you don't get stressed or upset or thrown off course in life because you understand others.”

     

    “As we learn to catch our emotional reactions before we act them out, we become more...

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  • S04E30 - The Propensity to Hope

    S04E30 - The Propensity to Hope

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    The force of hope is a potent one that has the power to brighten our lives and bring happiness. No matter how isolated or stuck in your business or life you may feel, it is so very important to hold on to hope and allow it to influence the decisions you make. It is a key ingredient in helping you to live the life you want to live, and in this week’s episode, McKay explores the propensity to hope, demonstrating just how powerful it can be even in the bleakest of situations.

     

    Trapped in a sinking cave for two weeks, 12 young boys and their coach held onto the hope that they would survive without food and sufficient air. This moving story acts as our opener in this episode as McKay correlates it to situations we face in life. The propensity to hope is having a behavior or pattern that results in a habit of holding on to hope. Today, Mckay discusses what hope encompasses and how it can be defined, and also delves into how to find hope when all seems lost. The episode comes to a close with McKay encouraging us to always choose hope because when we let hope make our decisions, we discover a better and happier way of living.

     

    The Finer Details of This Episode:

     

    -   Having hope in a bleak situation- the story of the Wild Boars of Thailand

    -   Understanding what propensity means

    -   Hope in Pandora’s box

    -   What does hope encompass?

    -   How to stop thinking about the ‘nevers’

    -   How do you find hope when you are down and discouraged?

    -   A story of hope told in a painting

    -   The choice of hope

    -   The benefits of holding on to hope

    -   Ways to acquire the trait of being hopeful

    -   Hope as a force multiplier

     

    Quotes:

     

    “We all get buried, stuck from time to time, whether by our own poor judgment or by factors completely beyond our control.”

     

    “We had each other and we had hope.”

     

    “We all face storms and darkness and are lost in isolation from time to time. Sometimes we lose, fail, regress and it's in those times that we're unsure whether we can, in fact, do what we're being asked to do.”

     

    “Hope is a passion for what is possible. When things around you say give up, hope always remains.”

     

    “The definition of propensity is an established pattern, behavior, or an attraction to a thing.”

     

    “Are you a person of hope? What's your propensity?”

     

    “When we have hope, we have more than we think.”

     

    “Don't give in to your depravations, live up to your expectations.”

     

    “You weren't placed here to peek into your future, but to open the door wide and walk through with confidence.”

     

    “Hope is the belief that circumstances will get better. It's not a wish for things to get better, it's the actual belief, the knowledge that it will happen.”

     

    “Remember, you can't make someone else's choices, and you shouldn't let them make yours.”

     

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  • S04E29 - The Least You Can Do

    S04E29 - The Least You Can Do

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    Too often, we seek to get by doing the least we can do. And, after a while, the least we can do becomes a way of life for many of us.  The problem is that we then work and live well below our ability and level of performance possible.  And this habit or way of living begins to take over our life. Imagine an Olympic athlete whose attitude is to do the least they can do in their training as they prepare for the Olympics. It would be foolish to assume you could excel with that mindset.  World class athletes instead do the most they can do to reach their goals.

    For example, many people dream of becoming wealthy without having to put forth any effort. Today’s episode begins with a discussion of why playing the lottery seems tempting but is an unwise investment. McKay points out that the real lottery winners are the IRS and state governments, which take in almost half of the winnings, while those who buy the tickets lose week after week and would be better off putting that money into savings instead. He argues that we’ve developed a habit of wanting to do the least possible to earn money but that this attitude will catch up to us eventually, like a bank robber who makes one mistake and loses the money and their freedom. Instead, McKay encourages a change in attitude, leaving behind “the least possible” and instead developing a culture of excellence in ourselves, our families, and our work environments. Using examples of big-name companies, including Procter & Gamble and Disney, he demonstrates how the pursuit of excellence can have huge benefits, both in business and in our personal lives.

    The Finer Details of This Episode:

    -   Why do so many people play the lottery despite the odds being stacked against them?

    -   Federal and state governments are the big lottery winners

    -   The story of Alan Pace, who tried to get rich by doing the least possible (by robbing a bank) but wound up in jail after one simple mistake

    -   How to encourage your children to strive for excellence (featuring the story of creating spelling bee champs by encouraging teamwork)

    -   Scarcity mentality vs. abundance mentality in the workspace

    -   The pursuit of excellence as a business strategy

    -   Disney’s development of The Lion King as an example of the pursuit of excellence in action

     

     Quotes:

     

    “Let’s say I put $100 million inside a house somewhere in North America, somewhere in Canada, the United States, Mexico, Guatemala, etc. And then I gave you a key, and you had to pick the right house, you had one chance to pick the right house. Those are better odds than your winning the Mega Millions lottery.”

     

    “I also think people enjoy the fantasy of it, they dream of what it would be like to have all of that money, right? And that’s a little exciting and brings excitement to their day. But most of all, I think they get in the habit of chasing the least they can do to be wealthy.”

     

    “If I were to ask you if you’d rather win the lottery or not, of course, you’d rather win the lottery, right? But here’s a proven fact. When you have to work to build wealth, you build yourself, you build your life, you build your capabilities.”

     

    “The least we can do becomes a way of life for many of us.”

     

    “When you begin, even in small ways to invite excellence into your life, you will feel a spirit of self-worth and peace enter into your life. And that spirit will invite you to rise, to do things with the best part of you, instead of the least part of you.”

     

    “Excellence is not an act but a habit.”

    “When you stop doing the least you can do and do your best, it brings you back to who you can and should be.  It restores you, your hope and your future.  Excellence...

  • S04E28 - A Noble Responsibility

    S04E28 - A Noble Responsibility

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    How do you find your true worth? Our self worth is determined not by how much we get, but how much we give.  When you see your noble responsibility to use your gifts for good, you find your worth. In this week’s episode, McKay delves into the subject of noblesse oblige, explaining the noble responsibility we have of helping others by giving, and getting inspired to live happy lives along the way.

     

    He starts off with the story of Chhiring Dorje who, in spite of being in danger himself, carried out the most daring rescue on the deadly K2 mountain. McKay also talks about finding inspiration by giving, explains the law of giving, and encourages us to practice the Five-Minute Favor to incorporate a lifestyle of giving into our lives. He finishes off by advising us to accept the noble responsibility of sharing our strengths and gifts with others - not to get something in return, but to live fulfilled and enriched lives.

     

    The Finer Details of This Episode:

     

    -   The most daring rescue in climbing history- Chhiring Dorje Sherpa’s story

    -   Finding inspiration by giving

    -   Stories of those who gave

    -   The law of giving

    -   Conditioning yourself to a lifestyle of giving

    -   The Five Minute Favor

    -   The gift of La LibertĂ© Ă©clairant

    -   Getting from giving

    -   How to become a genuine giver

    -   The noblesse oblige concept

     

    Quotes:

     

    “When we turn from getting to giving, we find strength and inspiration we didn't know we had before.”

     

    “But when we forget ourselves and focus on helping others in their climb or goals or efforts, we get inspired. We also find our true capability.”

     

    “Perhaps there should be a different kind of Forbes list— a list of people who give.”

     

    “In giving, you find your worth.”

     

    “The law of giving is a law or principle with a promise that if you become a person who focuses primarily on giving, you will find a greater return than might otherwise be possible.”

     

    “Every time you find five minutes, think about how and to whom you can give. It's amazing how rich your life will become if you take all the extra five minutes in your day to give.”

     

    “Self-worth is perfectly correlated with two important outcomes —happiness and freedom from stress.”

     

    “Giving creates reciprocity. Giving creates influence.”

     

    “Your Maker and life and circumstances have given to you certain endowments, and the purpose of these gifts is to be an ongoing blessing to those around you.”

     

    “We have all been given gifts, and some are different than others, but we all have them. And they don't need to be something magnificent - just often a simple talent.”

     

    “Your talents are embedded in the nucleus of who you are. You are more gifted than you know, and these gifts were given to you because you have the unique characteristics and talent to, in turn, give these gifts to the world.”

     

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  • S04E27 - Do What Is Great While It Is Small

    S04E27 - Do What Is Great While It Is Small

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    What goal are you pursuing in your life? Perhaps it’s to be healthier, or to save a relationship, or maybe it’s to break long standing bad habits. It might be to succeed in business, academics, or your spiritual life. Whatever it is, in this week’s episode, McKay gives insight into the most effective way to achieve your goal, and that’s by doing small, consistent actions over time.

    He kicks off by narrating the story of a 544 BC Chinese Grandmaster credited with being the author of the famous book The Art of War, which has been used by modern day leaders up to this day. McKay then cites his favorite quote from the book, “Plan for what is difficult while it is easy, and do what is great, while it is small”, and goes on to reveal how a small and quick apology early on can prevent a potentially large disagreement later. He also shares examples of how doing something small may not seem urgent today, but could lead to something great in the future or even prevent a disaster, and emphasizes the need for consistency in doing the small things for they have a cumulative effect and become more powerful. In essence, today, McKay reveals why the “go big or go home” mentality may not be the most effective, and in doing so, reminds us that what is simple to do is also simple not to do, so we need to be apt to take small, consistent actions to reach our goals.

    The Finer Details of This Episode:

    ·  Stories and examples of the effects of doing or not something great when it’s still small.

    ·  The law of attraction.

    ·  How doing something small led to Stanford University.

    ·  The fallacy of the “go big or go home” mentality.

    ·  The principle of action-oriented momentum.

    ·  How small things lead to great outcomes.

    ·  Being apt to act.

    Quotes

    “In the midst of chaos, there is also opportunity.”

    “Plan for what is difficult while it is easy, and do what is great while it is small.”

    “Small things done consistently alter the trajectory of your life.”

    “It's easy to do something today rather than trying to make up lost ground tomorrow.”

    “Small is easy, small is fast, small doesn't take much time, and small is doable.”

    “Small choices are at the root of almost every result in life.”

    “A small thing that will lead to something great comes about just by doing the next right thing.”

    “While small may not be sexy, small moves are successful and sustainable.”

    “Small has a sister and her name is simple.”

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  • S04E26 - Reset Your Thermostat

    S04E26 - Reset Your Thermostat

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    In this week’s episode, McKay explores the concept of the life thermostat, showing how people set internal limits and how they can reset those limits to achieve personal and professional growth. Through the stories of individuals who faced significant challenges on their journey to achieving greatness, our host highlights themes of resilience, breaking through barriers, and resetting your thermostat. 

    David Goggins’ journey, from surviving childhood abuse and battling a learning disability to transforming his life through Navy SEAL training and ultra-marathon running, showcases the power of resetting one's mental thermostat. McKay also shares Simu Liu’s story of defying his parents’ expectations to pursue an acting career, eventually landing a role in a Marvel superhero film. He also documents Brian Epstein’s rise from working in his family's record store to managing one of the greatest bands in history, The Beatles. Each story presented here today emphasizes the importance of perseverance, embracing change, and shedding old identities. McKay concludes with a powerful message: by resetting our internal thermostat and refusing to settle for mediocrity, we can unlock our true potential and lead ourselves and others to new heights.

    Main Themes:

    Understanding the life thermostat and how it governs behavior
    The power of resetting your mindset to overcome past traumas and personal limitations
    David's inspiring journey from hardship to becoming a Navy SEAL and ultra-marathon runner
    The role of resilience and commitment in achieving personal transformation
    How great leaders model change and set the tone for their teams
    Practical tips on making small adjustments to realign with your personal and professional goals
    The importance of shedding old labels of self-doubt and stepping into new identities

    Top 10 Quotes:

    "Every breakthrough you want to make in this life requires a break with your old identity."

    "We live in a society where mediocrity is often rewarded, but I wanted to be like those guys who detest mediocrity."

    "I've been scared to death of this guy, but this time, I stood up and started helping my mother."

    "I realized no one was coming to help me, and that was the moment I decided to change."

    "Change is a daily activity that, if practiced, becomes easier the more you do it."

    "When you set your thermostat, you establish a range in which you operate—it's up to you to reset it when needed."

    "I knew I could be something special, but I was afraid of the work it was going to take."

    "Momentum in life and leadership is easier to maintain than to recreate."

    "Hope remains for you and me, and it is hope that helps us create a new belief of who we are and can be."

    "Reset your thermostat and find the life and person you’ve hoped for—you can change and rise to your true setting."

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  • S04E25 - Confidence Wears Red Lipstick

    S04E25 - Confidence Wears Red Lipstick

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    McKay undertakes an exploration into the transformative power of confidence this week, illustrating how it can lead to extraordinary achievements in both personal and professional realms. Using the massive success of the Barbie movie as a central example, he examines how confidence can change perceptions, drive success, and inspire others, even when faced with doubt or setbacks.

    McKay expands on this theme by sharing stories of such influential figures as Margot Robbie, whose belief in the Barbie movie’s potential turned it into a billion-dollar phenomenon, and Ruth Handler, whose confidence in her vision created the iconic Barbie doll. The episode highlights that confidence isn’t an inherent trait but something nurtured through practice, dialogue, and learning from others. He goes on to note that, by modeling confidence, individuals inspire those around them, creating a ripple effect that empowers others to act boldly. All told, the stories and insights McKay shares here today emphasize that confidence can be contagious, and with persistence, anyone can unlock their potential and achieve great things.

    Episode Highlights:Margot Robbie’s confidence in Barbie movie success
    Ruth Handler’s vision behind Barbie creation
    Blake Mycoskie’s path to founding TOMS
    Angela Duckworth’s research on grit and perseverance
    Temple Grandin’s confidence through mentorship
    John Hancock’s bold signature of confidence
    The Apostle Paul’s call to maintain confidence
    Confidence as a contagious leadership quality
    Building confidence through practice and dialogue
    Quotes:

    "Confidence wears red lipstick—it steps into the room unapologetically, radiating self-assurance."

    "Margot Robbie didn’t just star as Barbie; she was confident enough to produce the film and make it a global phenomenon."

    "Ruth Handler’s belief in Barbie was unshakable, even when others doubted her vision."

    "Confidence isn't just a trait, it's a statement—a bold declaration that says, ‘I know who I am, and I’m not afraid to be myself.’"

    "Practice builds confidence, whether you’re diving into a pool or pitching a new business idea."

    "Dialogue with those who know more than you helps accelerate growth and boosts confidence in any field."

    "John Hancock signed his name large enough for King George to read—because confidence makes a statement."

    "When we model confidence, we give others permission to lean into their own strengths and abilities."

    "Confidence doesn’t wait for someone else to lead—it steps up and takes the first move."

    "You were not put on this earth to be passed by; your confidence is the key to unlocking your future."

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  • S4E24 - What Matters Most

    S4E24 - What Matters Most

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    There are two primary sources of unhappiness: living focused on the wrong things, and living in a way not in harmony with what matters most to you. Today, McKay opens our eyes to see why we need to discover what matters most to us and how to live in harmony with our values to live a happy and purposeful life.

     

    In this episode, McKay tells the story of the integrity possessed by Tony Finau, a man who valued honesty and decided to live with his values. He goes on to discuss the reasons why many are unhappy, the importance of deciding what matters most to you, and ways to identify your governing values. As McKay makes clear here today, when you become a light, and not a judge, and write down your governing values, you become set on your way to a happier and better life.

     

    The Finer Details of This Episode:

     

    -   Tony Finau’s integrity

    -   The sources of unhappiness in life

    -   Why you have to decide what matters most

    -   How to live in harmony with what matters most

    -   Beethoven’s Fifth Symphony- the pursuit of what matters

    -   How do you determine what matters most to you?

    -   Ways to identify your governing values

    -   Be a light, not a judge

    -   Living in harmony with your chosen values

    -   The power of planning your day

     

    Quotes:

     

    “To be happy and to pursue a purposeful life we have to decide what matters most and then seek to live in harmony with what matters.”

     

    “A deal is a deal. A handshake is a handshake. Integrity is integrity.”

     

    “It seems like selfishness, operating without common respect, and other such things, are the trades growing in our society.”

     

    “Be yourself, but be that perfectly.”

     

    “Our daily actions are in line with what matters most to us.”

      

    “Our purpose in life is to become the best we can be, to become a person of noble actions and virtues.”

     

    “We only have one life on this earth. I mean, I haven't heard of anyone going around for a second try, and if we aren't doing what matters most, then what in fact are we doing?”

     

    “You must take responsibility for your belief window and remove the erroneous beliefs on that window.”

     

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  • S04E23 - A Leader with Influence

    S04E23 - A Leader with Influence

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    In this latest episode of Open Your Eyes, McKay delves into how lessons from football, business, and life can shape leadership and influence. Building upon a foundation featuring the legendary strategies of NFL coach Bill Walsh, our host unpacks the ways in which teamwork, preparation, and foresight are essential to becoming a leader of influence in any field.

    McKay highlights Walsh's remarkable transformation of the San Francisco 49ers, emphasizing key leadership principles such as talent recruitment, organizational excellence, and seizing opportunities. Through this and other compelling stories, listeners learn how successful leaders anticipate challenges, foster a culture of accountability, and inspire teams through humility and authenticity. The episode underscores that great leadership isn’t just about strategy—it's about genuinely investing in people and creating a clear vision for success. Ultimately, McKay reminds us all that true influence stems from preparation, belief in others, and bold, decisive action.

    Episode Highlights:Bill Walsh’s strategy for gaining influence through team connection
    Identifying and nurturing hidden talent
    Turning mistakes into opportunities to build credibility and influence
    The role of preparation and foresight in maintaining leadership influence
    Humility as a key trait for leaders
    Mentoring future leaders to expand influence within an organization
    Fostering trust and loyalty through belief in your team
    Key Takeaways:

    "Everything Walsh did was to gain influence over the hearts and minds of his team."

    "Leaders of influence know it's not about the shoes, but what you do in them."

    "In your organization, be a first-class noticer. Learn from mistakes and seize opportunities."

    "Recruiting and finding talent is key. You are only as good as your people."

    "Leaders with influence force everyone in the organization to think at a higher level."

    "Anticipating the what-ifs makes you a better leader and a leader of influence."

    "Success doesn’t care what road you take to its doorstep."

    "Walsh's leadership wasn’t just about strategy—it was about instilling confidence and clarity in his team."

    "Humility is perhaps the greatest quality of a leader of influence."

    "Great leaders believe in their people, and that belief permeates every action."

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  • S04E22 - Start Your Impossible

    S04E22 - Start Your Impossible

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    Today, McKay brings to us an important topic - starting your impossible. Recognizing that we all have to face what appears to be the absolutely unachievable from time to time, McKay shares with listeners, using real world examples, how to start and keep doing the impossible.

     

    He begins the episode describing the accomplishments of the Wright brothers, who, through the challenges associated with air travel, were able to do the impossible. McKay also speaks about finding inspiration as the path to success just like the Wright brothers did, the impact of walking with giants, and why social learning is effective for doing the impossible. He rounds off the episode with a story about some wives who showed immense courage and encourages us to forge our own courage by building our optimism so we can start our own impossible.

     

    The Finer Details of This Episode:

     

    -   The impossible challenges that came with air flight in the past

    -   How the Wright brothers dared the impossible

    -   Otto Lilienthal’s impact on the Wright brothers’ success

    -   Why you need an inspiration to start the impossible

    -   Why do Alcoholics Anonymous have high success rates?

    -   John Woolman’s mission

    -   Walking with giants

    -   The reason why social learning works

    -   The power of faith in doing the impossible

    -   The castle of the loyal wives

    -   Gathering courage for the impossible

    -   Keeping your optimism for courage

     

    Quotes:

     

    “We all have the impossible from time to time - a change needs to happen, but it seems impossible.”

      

    “You need a connection with other people where you can find inspiration.”

     

    “The people with which you surround yourself have a huge impact on how you see yourself, your challenges, and your ability to face those challenges.”

     

    “When you learn from others, and you learn from ongoing interaction with others, you store those memories with emotion, and, as a result, they're more powerfully recalled and used.”

     

    “I believe that the moment you let faith into your life, you will see more power and peace enter into your life. You worry less, you trust more.”

     

    “There is power in faith. Faith is an enabling power. ”

     

    “Open your eyes to the fact that you can do what you set out to do.”

     

    “Courage is the mental or moral strength to resist opposition, danger or hardship. It implies firmness of mind and will in the face of extreme difficulty.”

     

    “The truth is that whenever you're facing the impossible at its deepest, most fundamental level, it requires courage.”

     

    “We must fix our minds on the fact that we can do the impossible, and we have to decide in advance that it is worth it.”

     

    “Find your courage.”

     

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  • S04E21 - The Story of Your Life

    S04E21 - The Story of Your Life

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    In this latest installment of Open Your Eyes, McKay examines the powerful impact of the narratives we create and how they shape our lives. By sharing compelling stories of individuals who overcame immense challenges, the episode emphasizes the importance of consciously crafting life stories that inspire growth and change.

    McKay begins with Japan’s historical rise as a world power, leading to the story of Hiroo Onoda, a soldier who remained committed to his mission for decades after World War II, believing the war had not ended. He then shifts to the inspiring life of Jessica Cox, born without arms, who defied the odds to become the world’s first armless pilot. The narrative continues with William Kamkwamba, whose determination to harness wind energy transformed his village in Malawi. McKay also reflects on Alice Sommer, a Holocaust survivor who found solace in music, and Mother Teresa, who, despite deep spiritual struggles, remained dedicated to her mission. These stories, along with McKay’s personal anecdotes about his daughter illustrate how the narratives we embrace can either limit us or empower us to achieve greatness.

    Main Themes:

    The influence of narratives on personal and collective identity
    The historical significance of Japan’s expansion leading to World War II
    Hiroo Onoda’s story of unwavering belief in his mission, long after the war ended
    Jessica Cox’s determination to overcome physical limitations and redefine what is possible
    William Kamkwamba’s innovative spirit that brought hope to his village through wind energy
    The inspiring stories of Alice Sommer and Mother Teresa
    The role of education and persistence in transforming one’s life and community.
    The importance of consciously crafting and revising our life stories to align with our true potential.

    Key Quotes:

    "The stories we tell ourselves, the deep-seated beliefs we all hold, shape our reality in ways that go beyond what seems rational."

    "Hiroo Onoda continued his mission for 30 years, driven by a narrative he believed was true."

    "Jessica Cox didn’t let her physical limitations define her, choosing instead to rewrite her life story."

    "William Kamkwamba’s narrative of education and belief transformed not just his life, but his entire community."

    "Our job as parents is to give our children the experiences to write their own narratives."

    "Music saved Alice Sommer’s life, providing a narrative of beauty and positivity amidst the horrors of a concentration camp."

    "Even in the face of spiritual darkness, Mother Teresa crafted a narrative of unwavering commitment to her mission."

    "Reflecting on your life story can help you open your eyes to your true potential."

    Links:

    https://www.mckaychristensen.org/

  • S04E20 - Reframe Your View

    S04E20 - Reframe Your View

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    Do you ever wonder why some people know exactly where they’re headed and are willing to take calculated risks? Why, no matter what they face, they are determined and have clear-headed goals? They have the power of positive reframing.

    In this episode, McKay gives insights to what positive reframing is about, beginning with the story of the scientist, Galileo, and how he was able to reframe his mindset despite criticism. McKay also shares his personal story of reframing, goes on to discuss the benefits of reframing your mindset, and finishes by sharing some reframing tools that you can use to help get you started.

    The Finer Details of This Episode:

    A lesson from the man who proved that the Earth orbits, Galileo Galilei. How your belief window affects your life. The thinking of the best golfers—Jack Nicklaus’ principle. The positive expectancy of Jeff Bezos— The Amazon story. How McKay changed his mindset with the help of his teacher. Why you should step up and take calculated risks. Building your belief window through cognitive framing. 4 basic steps to reframing your mindset. A reframing technique health practitioners use. 4 reframing tools you can apply immediately.

    Quotes:

    “People who are not moved seem to have a fixed view and the ability to only see their end goal.”

    “This prevailing view interprets all that goes on in your life.”

    “Too many of us fail to take calculated risks in life.”

    “What lens are you looking through? What is your frame of reference? What telescope, so to speak, is forming or framing your belief?”

    “You've got it inside you. Step up and be yourself.”

    “The stuff of life is made from a new purpose.”

    “Everything in your life has improved by passion and challenge.”

    “Doubt is a mental habit, and it can, and does, spread to other areas of your life.”

    “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again.”

    Show Links:

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  • S04E19 - What Glasses Are You Wearing?

    S04E19 - What Glasses Are You Wearing?

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    ï»żThe transformative power of perspective-taking is the focus of this week’s episode as McKay examines its role in personal growth, stronger relationships, and deepened compassion. Drawing upon his vast store of inspiring stories and examples, McKay highlights how viewing life through the lens of others can lead to profound changes in our understanding and interactions.

    Among these narratives, our host recounts Nikola Jokić's remarkable act of empathy during the recent Olympics, illustrating the impact of seeing beyond our own experiences. He also discusses the developmental journey of perspective-taking in children and shares stories of how this ability can foster compassion in the face of adversity, such as the inspiring forgiveness shown by a grieving father. By reflecting on these diverse examples, McKay encourages listeners to embrace new perspectives, ultimately leading to personal growth and more meaningful connections with others.

    Episode Highlights:The importance of perspective-taking in personal and professional growth
    Nikola Jokić's act of empathy and sportsmanship during the Olympics
    The developmental stages of perspective-taking in children
    Examples of how perspective-taking can lead to compassion and understanding in challenging situations
    The impact of personal experiences on shaping our worldview
    The role of perspective-taking in building strong relationships
    The power of empathy in leadership and community building

    Key Takeaways:

    "There’s great power when you put on the perspective of another person."

    "Perspective-taking is arguably the single greatest aspect of our uniqueness in the animal kingdom."

    "Our perspective is our version of reality, shaped by our experiences."

    "When we open ourselves to seeing life through the lens of another, it’s like looking through a telescope rather than a microscope."

    "We see the world as we are, not as it is."

    "The more you see things from another person’s view, the more your paradigms will change."

    "Seeing another’s view is so much more rewarding and fulfilling than the things we often get upset about in our everyday lives."

    "By putting on someone else’s glasses, you may find your view of the world, and yourself, becomes more complete."

    "Perspective-taking is the foundation for one of the most powerful tools through which we can relate to and build relationships with others."

    Links:

    https://www.mckaychristensen.org/

  • S04E18 - Why I Admire You

    S04E18 - Why I Admire You

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    In this episode of Open Your Eyes, McKay explores the theme of admiration, examining why certain individuals capture our respect and reverence. By delving into the annual Gallup poll on the most admired men and women, McKay sheds light on the lives of a number of famous figures, offering profound insights into living admirably.

    Sharing such inspiring stories as Billy Graham's devout faith and service, Queen Elizabeth's unexpected rise to the throne, and their enduring legacies, our host goes on to highlight the admirable qualities found in everyday people, such as perseverance, courage, and genuine kindness. By showcasing how ordinary actions can lead to extraordinary admiration, he also emphasizes the role of resilience, low-key generosity, and the power of genuine compliments. Join McKay here today as he celebrates the impact of these admirable traits and encourages us all to adopt these qualities to foster personal growth and greater fulfillment in life.

    Episode Highlights:

    The significance of admiration and its impact on personal and public lifeInsights into the lives of highly admired figuresThe role of faith, service, and resilience in shaping admirable livesEveryday acts of kindness and perseverance that inspire admirationThe influence of genuine compliments and low-key generosityOvercoming challenges and the importance of tenacityPersonal growth through adopting admirable qualities

    Quotes:

    "Our view is critical to our happiness and success."

    "Queen Elizabeth II never expected to become queen, but history demonstrated her talent."

    "Graham was known as America's pastor, admired for his goodness and self-declared imperfections."

    "It's interesting how even in the midst of activity, we can have a sudden sense of loneliness."

    "People admire your pursuit of your goals when you're willing to try despite challenges."

    "Jan Koum took a bold step to create WhatsApp, facing numerous setbacks but believing in its potential."

    "Muhammad Ali started his career speaking of his own greatness but finished it speaking of the greatness of others."

    "The rewards that await us in the hereafter may likely be those that we did not seek for ourselves here on earth."

    "Living our life in a way that is worthy of admiration is an excellent way to live."

    Links:

    https://www.mckaychristensen.org/

  • S04E17 - What’s Next?

    S04E17 - What’s Next?

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    What do you do when something does not go as planned? What’s the way forward? McKay provides the simple answer to this - pivot to what’s next. So many people get frustrated when things go wrong and forget that, as McKay demonstrates today, asking and doing what’s next is the path of happiness.

    He starts the episode with the story of Karen McWatters who lost her leg and a close friend in the Boston Marathon bombings. Despite the adversities Karen encountered, she asked herself ‘What next?’, and went on to find opportunities even in the face of despair. McKay then talks about the power of asking ‘What’s next?’, how it can propel us to move forward, and the importance of developing the habit of ‘What’s next?’, as well as ways to develop this habit. The episode rounds off with McKay drawing lessons from the life of Rachel Ray who went on to start a new path by focusing on what’s next. There is great power to be found in posing and answering this simple question - listen in today to hear how it can change your life.

    The Finer Details of This Episode:

    -   The devastating event that made  Karen McWatters go on her quest of ‘What’s next?’

    -   Finding what’s next in horrible circumstances

    -   The power of  ‘Yes, and?’ - lessons from improv

    -   Why you need to master the habit of ‘What’s next?’

    -   What is prospective psychology?

    -   How to think prospectively and why you should

    -   Harvard University’s study results on happiness in life

    -   Why the habit of ‘What’s next?’ is important for a happy life - the story of Bill Graham

    -   Ways to develop the habit of ‘What’s next?’

    -   Removing the ticks in your life

    -   Starting another path - lessons from Rachel Ray’s life

    Quotes:

    “Her attitude of ‘What's next?’ changed everything.” 

    “’Yes’ is awareness and acceptance and appreciation. It means ‘I'm listening’
and is saying ‘What's next?’. It is fueling you with agency and autonomy and action, and is taking a clear step forward to add to whatever you've received.”

    “There's tremendous power in developing the habit of ‘What’s next?’”

    “Prospective psychology is the practice of creating an image in your mind of your possible future.”

    “The habit of ‘What's next?’ helps us to be happy.”

    “Over time, researchers observed it's not the bad things that happen to us that determine our happiness, but what we choose to do with those things that matter.”

    “Don't let yourself get dragged down into other people's complaints.”

    “Even though you might not like the situation you're in, you can choose to accept it, and once you learn to accept what it is and then focus on what you can control in the future, you win. Remember, the only thing that matters is your response.”

    “You can't change others, you can't change the past, you can only change your response.”

    Show Links:

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  • S04E16 - A Few Facts You Should Know

    S04E16 - A Few Facts You Should Know

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen
    McKay unlocks the door to self-discovery in this week’s episode, exploring how the science of psychology can empower us to live richer lives. Unveiling the hidden potential withiï»żn our minds, he leverages captivating real-life stories to bridge the gap between theory and human experience.Listeners will be captivated by the story of Phineas Gage, a man whose personality dramatically shifted after a traumatic brain injury - a case study that serves as a powerful illustration of the intricate link between the brain and our behaviors. McKay also explores the story of Genie, a feral child who learned language later in life, showcasing the remarkable adaptability of the human mind. By weaving these and other captivating narratives with current research on the connection between factors like religion, social connection, sleep, and even our "shadow selves" with happiness and well-being, McKay equips listeners with practical tools to cultivate emotional health and achieve personal growth.

    Episode Highlights:

    Historical cases and recent findings illustrating psychological principles and their impact on behavior and mental well-beingStudies emphasizing the role of social connectionsThe mental health consequences of sleep patterns and offering practical tips for better sleepCarl Jung's ‘shadow self’ concept, suggesting personal growth through self-awareness and integration of repressed traitsFindings that walking boosts creativity and physical health.A discussion on human motivations, emphasizing love as a key motivator, illustrated through personal stories

    Key Takeaways:

    "Phineas Gage's case provided one of the first pieces of evidence that specific areas of the brain are related to particular functions such as personality and social behavior."

    "Genie's case also highlighted the importance of social interaction for cognitive and emotional development."

    "Researchers concluded that as our annual income rises, so does our emotional well-being, but after a certain point, more money really doesn’t make you more emotionally well."

    "Religious individuals are, on average, happier and more satisfied with life than non-religious individuals."

    "Sleeping too much is linked to depression, headaches, and heart disease, and the lack of sleep also impacts our well-being."

    "Carl Jung explored the concept of our ‘shadow self’, which includes the things we may not be aware of or fully consider."

    "Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate."

    "A person's creative output increased by an average of 60% when walking."

    "Love is also a key reason why we do what we do, and being motivated by love is evident in people who are happier and more self-aware."

    "Happiness is the only thing in the world that doubles each time you share it."

    Links:

    https://www.mckaychristensen.org/

  • S04E15 - You Never Know

    S04E15 - You Never Know

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    Unveiling the power of the unexpected, McKay ushers listeners into yet another captivating episode of the Open Your Eyes podcast here today. As he conducts his exploration into life's unpredictable nature, our host showcases how seemingly random events can spark profound change. 

    Through the inspiring journeys of Olympic gymnasts Bart Conner and Nadia Comaneci, the episode highlights the impact of chance encounters that led to not only athletic brilliance but also an enduring partnership. From tales of paleontologist Sue Hendrickson's hunch leading to the most complete T-Rex skeleton, to Tom Selleck's fortuitous television appearance launching his acting career, the podcast emphasizes the importance of embracing life's detours. By remaining open to the whispers of intuition and unexpected encounters, McKay empowers listeners to find joy, forge connections, and discover their own extraordinary path in the ever-unfolding story of life.

    Episode Highlights:

    The importance of sticking with goals and overcoming challenges
    Trusting intuition and taking chances on seemingly random opportunities
    How chance encounters can lead to profound life changes
    Personal anecdotes of life-changing moments triggered by random events
    Alfred Bandura's studies on the impact of chance encounters and their role in shaping our lives
    Embracing the unpredictable nature of life and remaining open to unexpected opportunities
    Examples such as a father's daily post-it notes to his daughter, showing how small actions can have a profound impact
    The remarkable achievements and perseverance of such individuals as Bart Conner and Nadia Comaneci, who overcame significant challenges

    Key Takeaways:

    "You are filled with immense potential, and sometimes seeing things in a new way can unlock that potential."

    "From a chance meeting at a gymnastics competition to building a life together, their journey is a reminder that the future is often unpredictable."

    "Bandura believes that chance encounters with people and circumstances are the prominent forces that shape our life."

    "Sue Hendrickson found one of the most complete T-Rex skeletons ever discovered because she followed a hunch."

    “The journey of life is a tapestry woven with threads of uncertainty, possibility, and resilience.”

    “Embracing the idea that ‘you never know’ empowers us to navigate life's challenges with courage and curiosity.”

    “So today, take a chance, introduce yourself, try something new, follow a hunch, listen to the voice inside that gives you a little inspiration.”

    Links:

    https://www.mckaychristensen.org/

  • S04E14 - When People Look At You, What Do They See?

    S04E14 - When People Look At You, What Do They See?

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    In this enlightening episode of Open Your Eyes, McKay guides listeners through a gripping real-life incident involving a truck driver, a catastrophic accident, and the heroic efforts of bridge builder C.C. Myers. This narrative serves as a powerful exploration of the vital question: "When people look at you, what do they see?" highlighting the importance of perception and the signs of success we project.

    McKay recounts the dramatic fuel tanker accident in Benicia, California, and how C.C. Myers' exceptional skills and confidence transformed a potential disaster into a remarkable success. The episode delves into Myers' strategic approach to winning the project bid, the importance of projecting confidence, as well as Christian Laettner's legendary basketball moment as an illustration of knowing you can succeed. It further examines how inspiring visions and focused goals, as demonstrated by Howard Schultz's turnaround of Starbucks, can lead to significant achievements. Practical advice on eliminating distractions, embracing a second brain for better productivity, and the importance of being coachable and learning from mistakes rounds out the discussion. Through his reflections on a variety of narratives, McKay unearths profound insights into presenting ourselves as reliable and successful individuals in both personal and professional realms.

    Episode Highlights:

    The dramatic account of a fuel tanker accident in Benicia, CaliforniaThe heroic and efficient bridge rebuilding efforts led by CC MyersAnalysis of Myers' confident and strategic approach to winning the project bidThe significance of projecting confidence and knowing you can succeed, illustrated by Christian Laettner's legendary basketball momentThe role of inspiring visions and focused goals in achieving successLessons from Howard Schultz's turnaround of Starbucks by eliminating friction and streamlining operationsPractical advice on eliminating distractions and embracing a second brain for better memory and productivityThe importance of being coachable, learning from mistakes, and projecting humility and confidence

    Key Takeaways:

    "A frog in a well cannot conceive of the ocean."

    "We can't be what we can't see. Our view is critical to our well-being, happiness, and success."

    "People are attracted to people who show the signs of success."

    "In order to succeed, you must first believe you can."

    "Ubuntu: A person can only be a person through others."

    "An inspiring vision will shape the path you travel."

    "Eliminate resistance that could hinder your progress."

    "Get a second brain. Always carry a notebook."

    "Celebrate small victories often, mourn failures quickly."

    "Think purposefully about what you're saying to the world."

    Links:

    https://www.mckaychristensen.org/

  • S04E13 - It’s An Inside Job

    S04E13 - It’s An Inside Job

    · Open Your Eyes with McKay Christensen

    On today’s episode of Open Your Eyes, McKay sheds light on the concept of excellence, revealing it to be a personal philosophy rather than an external prize. Taking inspiration from the legendary Michael Phelps among others, our host dives deep into the secrets of achieving greatness, demonstrating how it is, indeed, an inside job.

    McKay peels back the layers of Michael Phelps' record-breaking journey, exploring his rigorous training routines, unwavering commitment, and the invaluable guidance of his coach, Bob Bowman. Transcending the realm of physical prowess, today’s episode emphasizes the critical role of mental fortitude and a relentless pursuit of improvement. By weaving in inspiring stories of excellence in everyday life, from education to personal growth, McKay demonstrates how exceeding expectations leads not only to success but also to profound fulfillment. Listen in today and you are guaranteed to walk away with actionable strategies to foster a culture of excellence, transforming both your personal and professional spheres.

    Episode Highlights:

    Seeing excellence as an internal commitment rather than an external achievementInsights into Michael Phelps' intense training schedule and dietary habits that contributed to his successThe critical role of Phelps' coach, Bob Bowman, in instilling a relentless pursuit of perfectionStories of how excellence manifests in different areas of life, including education and personal growthThe significance of mental focus and overcoming distractions to achieve extraordinary resultsHow a mindset of doing more than what is required leads to greater fulfillment and successPractical advice on fostering a culture of excellence in both professional and personal settings.

    Key Takeaways:

    "Excellence is an inside job; it starts with a decision and a commitment to be your best."

    "Michael Phelps' success was not just about his physical attributes but his mental toughness and dedication."

    "In life, doing the least becomes a habit, but so does striving for excellence."

    "The pursuit of excellence fills people with energy and positivity."

    "Excellence is not about stress or extra hours; it's an attitude and an intention."

    "When you decide to be excellent, amazing things happen."

    "Teaching children to strive for excellence begins with instilling the right beliefs and attitudes."

    "Creating a culture of excellence involves modeling the behaviors and attitudes you want to see."

    Links:

    https://www.mckaychristensen.org/

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