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CW: Mentions of DV, Assault, Body Shaming
EMDR is going to be very, very hard for me to do. And I know I can f*cking do it.
This is what trauma does, though. It breaks you into pieces.
I needed to let myself break, instead of absorbing it all and eroding slowly into dust.
And I can put myself back together, perfectly imperfect.
This is The Art of Falling Apart.
Four years ago, during the first year of the pandemic, I became a victim of intimate partner violence. In order to survive and cope with the ongoing abuse, I suppressed my emotions and memories, and denied my reality. Finally, after leaving in December 2020, I began my journey of healing - and part of this journey involved content creation and community. In the years that followed, I was not yet in a stable enough place, emotionally, to be confident that I could handle EMDR. Now, after completing DBT, building my support system, and taking my time coming to terms with various traumas from the past, I am finally in a position to try.
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a psychotherapy approach aimed at alleviating distress associated with traumatic memories. We can process these memories using bilateral stimulation, such as eye movements, taps, or sounds.
I recorded this voice note before going to bed after doing an Assessment Phase of EMDR that day. Here's how it worked:
Assessment: We went into my personal history, current symptoms, and trauma experiences. This is to help my therapist have a look at my unique needs, triggers, and areas of distress. We talked about specific memories that were especially coming up for me and causing problems for me. We then talked about my particular goals with EMDR.Target Memories: We talked about some of my specific memories that are causing me distress. These memories are really emotionally charged, recurrent, and have a significant impact on my functioning and specifically my self-worth.Distress Levels: My therapist asked me to rate the level of distress associated with each memory. For her, this helps to prioritize which memories to address first and provides a baseline for tracking progress.The Container: We went through a visualization exercise with me in order to bring me back to the present and manage my difficult emotions after.Need a DBT Skill? DBT Pocket Guide
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Content Warning: Discussion of Self H*rm
Behaviorism is a scientific approach in psychology that focuses on the study of observable behaviors rather than people’s internal mental processes. The reason it's good to consider Behaviorism when learning about Interpersonal Effectiveness, is because it's helpful for us to understand how to reinforce the behaviour we want to see in ourselves and in others, and to make sure we're conscious of the ways we might be reinforcing unwanted behaviours without realizing.
In this episode, I’ll go over my reflections on the FINAL WEEK of the course, including:
What is Classical and Operant Conditioning?What is Positive and Negative Reinforcement?Why do we need to reinforce behavior when people should just know it's the right thing to do?What is the difference between Continuous and Intermittent Reinforcement?Are we reinforcing other people's behaviour without even realizing it?What is the difference between Positive and Negative Punishment?Why isn't punishment effective in eliminating behaviours in the long term?MICROHABIT TRACKERS: Reinforcing your own behaviorThank you to Roland, Alicia, Jesse, and the TheraHive team for collaborating with me and allowing me to try out this course!
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In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), the fourth and final module - known as Interpersonal Effectiveness - teaches you skills to communicate effectively, set boundaries, and maintain relationships while achieving your personal goals. If you'd like to take this exact course, here's a 25% discount code you can use on your deposit - just cause you listen to my pod. (QUIETBPD25)
Many people with BPD have a tendency to think in polarized ways, referred to as black and white thinking, or “splitting”, in the sense that you’re split right down the middle and can only think on one side or the other - no in-between. In our relationships, we often subconsciously engage in idealization and devaluation: coping responses to a fear of abandonment.
This week is all about Dialectics: the foundation of DBT. Dialectics refer to the concept that two opposing things can BOTH be true at the same time. That there is no one OR the other. That there is instead, a Yes, AND.
Thank you to Roland, Alicia, Jesse, and the TheraHive team for having me try out this course!
P.S. The first Patreon BPD n CHILL WAS AMAZING!! Thanks for coming! The full hour is now on Patreon. And if you missed this one... You're invited to the next one!
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In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), the fourth and final module - known as Interpersonal Effectiveness - teaches you skills to communicate effectively, set boundaries, and maintain relationships while achieving your personal goals. If you'd like to take this exact course, here's a 25% discount code you can use on your deposit - just cause you listen to my pod. (QUIETBPD25)
In this week of TheraHive's course, we'll go over two DBT tools: FAST, and The Dime Game.
FAST is a skill you can use in an interaction where your self-respect should be prioritized. It stands for Fair; Apology-Free; Stick to your values; Truthful.
The Dime Game is a great tool you can refer back to any time, especially with issues where you're unsure who to go to for advice on the situation.
You also don't need to memorize it all. Here's The Dime Game.
In this episode, I’ll go over my reflections on Week 4 of the course, including:
What kind of things can I used the FAST skill for?Am I right to prioritize my self respect sometimes?What does it look like to use the FAST skill effectively?How do I balance the priorities of both my self respect and my relationships?Am I justified in asking for things or saying no?Ten things to consider when determining how strongly you should ask or say noWhat does it look like to use The Dime Game to say no to someone?What does it mean when we need to put our safety or survival before using the Dime Game?Thank you to Roland, Alicia, Jesse, and the TheraHive team for having me try out this course!
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In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), the fourth and final module - known as Interpersonal Effectiveness - teaches you skills to communicate effectively, set boundaries, and maintain relationships while achieving your personal goals. If you'd like to take this exact course, here's a 25% discount code you can use on your deposit - just cause you listen to my pod. (QUIETBPD25)
A lot of times, it’s not what you say that can be effective, it’s HOW you say it. The GIVE skill stands for: Gentle, Interested, Validate, and Easy Manner.
The GIVE skill in DBT is all about the Relationship Effectiveness objective when it comes to interpersonal situations, and it’s meant to help you leave that situation with the other person thinking well of you.
Do you wanna be RIGHT, or do you wanna be EFFECTIVE?
In this episode, I’ll go over my reflections on Week 3 of the course, including:
Why do we sometimes make threats or make our behaviour someone else's responsibility?How do we stop using these kinds of coping mechanisms in order to make ourselves heard?How can I be gentle, without being passive?What happens when we effectively use the GIVE skill in tougher interactions?What does it mean to validate someone? Should we validate things even if they're invalid?Is there such a thing as HELPFUL invalidation?How do we recover from corrosive, or harmful invalidation?A letter to my 15 year old self, validating them after a big moment of invalidationThank you to Roland, Alicia, Jesse, and the TheraHive team for collaborating with me and allowing me to try out this course!
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In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), the fourth and final module - known as Interpersonal Effectiveness - teaches you skills to communicate effectively, set boundaries, and maintain relationships while achieving your personal goals. If you'd like to take this exact course, here's a 25% discount code you can use for your deposit - just cause you listen to my pod. (QUIETBPD25)
This week, TheraHive’s Interpersonal Effectiveness course is gonna teach me about the DEARMAN skill, which is one of my personal favourite skills. I’m REALLY excited to share my experiences with this part of the course.
DEARMAN is an acronym that stands for Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear confident, and Negotiate.
This one you typically use when you have an objective that you need to be effective with: asking for something; saying no; finding solutions; and making sure the way we’re expressing these things are taken seriously and are constructive, rather than destructive.
In this episode, I’ll go over my reflections on Week 2 of the course, including:
How to be assertive and ask for what you need - with the DEARMAN skillWhat does it mean to be assertive, vs demanding?Why is DEARMAN especially helpful for recovering people pleasers?What if the other person is being difficult, despite us being effective?THE FIRST TIME I ever used DEARMAN - with a very difficult roommate and her boyfriendThank you to Roland, Alicia, Jesse, and the TheraHive team for collaborating with me and allowing me to try out this course!
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In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT), the fourth and final module - known as Interpersonal Effectiveness - teaches you skills to communicate effectively, set boundaries, and maintain relationships while achieving your personal goals. If you'd like to take this exact course, here's a 25% discount code you can use for your deposit - just cause you listen to my pod. (QUIETBPD25)
This is my favourite module by far with DBT because it’s helped me significantly with conflict resolution, and empowered me to ask for my needs without feeling guilty, without letting my emotions make things worse, and without burning bridges.
Back in Season 1, I had interviewed Dr. Jesse Finkelstein on his insights about DBT. It was such a fun chat that Jesse and the team over at TheraHive offered to let me try out this module for free with them. I thought, yes! I'll do it, and this way, I can share my experience with the course and all of my DBT reflections with you.
In this episode, I’ll go over my reflections on Week 1 of the course, including:
My SMART goal for this course that I'll focus on when I'm putting the skills to actionDo only people with BPD become dysregulated during interpersonal conflict?What if I'm communicating effectively, but I still don't get what I need? Does this mean I'm the problem?What is the Actor-Observer Bias?What are the three main priorities in our interactions with others?Why shouldn't I always make it my first priority to be liked by everyone?Why shouldn't I always make it my first priority to focus on myself, or being right?Thank you to Roland, Alicia, Jesse, and the TheraHive team for collaborating with me and allowing me to try out this course!
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At its core, validation is communicating to someone that their internal experiences and emotions make sense.
Dr. Kiki Fehling, PhD, (she/her) has always been a highly sensitive person. When she learned about DBT, it just clicked for her: "the practical coping skills... the focus on cultural and contextual factors in understanding emotional suffering, and the dialectical philosophy that both acceptance and change are needed for emotional health."
Kiki's content on TikTok and Instagram clicked for ME: especially the way she explained the Six Steps of Validation in DBT. I'm incredibly delighted to have spoken to her about it! This episode is a must-listen for those with BPD and their loved ones if you're asking yourself:
How do I talk to my loved one with BPD?How do I navigate difficult conversations without escalating conflict?How do I learn to validate myself when other people cannot?How do I learn to validate myself if I keep wondering if I'm being irrational?Six Steps of Validation, by @dbtkiki:
Pay AttentionReflecting BackReading MindsUnderstanding the CausesAcknowledging the ValidShowing Equality, aka. Radical Genuineness[ s o c i a l s ]
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Self Directed DBT Skills: A 3-Month DBT Workbook, by Kiki Fehling, PhD and Elliot Weiner, PhD
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DBT Self Help: Validation
Does Validating Condone Troubling Behaviour?
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In a culture that markets caring for ourselves as bubble baths and expensive spa days, Laura Hughes (she/her) takes a realistic and innovative approach to putting ourselves first.
With a teaching background and a passion for equity and inclusion, Laura built Self-Care With Laur to teach manageable and meaningful self-care, help you prioritize yourself, and guide you to break free from busyness and burnout to create a balanced life.
Self Care with Laur: Website | Instagram | TikTok
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Content Advisory: mentions of DV, genoc*de
At the end of each year, I place a theme on it and reflect before going into the new year. 2023 was a year that taught me gratitude and humility.
I have never posted an unedited voice note, but I am a strong believer in authenticity, of openness, and of real talks. Turns out I like doing voice notes. :)
I am grateful to be healing.
I am grateful to be able to create.
I am grateful for you to let me in to your own journey.
Thank you
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Emotions are a fundamental part of the human experience, but sometimes they can become overwhelming and challenging to navigate. DBT's Mindfulness of Current Emotions skill provides a structured approach to understanding, accepting, and effectively managing your emotions.
Mindfulness of Current Emotions
Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions
Emotions in the Body - (2013 Study)
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Mindfulness isn't just about calming the mind; it's also about connecting with your body and the present moment. The Body Scan technique is a powerful way to do just that. The essence of the Body Scan is in its sensory awareness. Understand how to notice and accept bodily sensations without judgment or the need to change them.
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Mindfulness is a powerful tool for navigating your emotions with grace and compassion. Tara Brach's RAIN method is a simple yet deeply effective approach that can help you break free from patterns of suffering, self-judgment, and reactivity. In this mindful moment, we'll explore the four steps of RAIN and I'll guide you through it so that you can experience its benefits.
More on The RAIN method: www.tarabrach.com/rain/
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In this exclusive episode of the BPD Wayfarer, we embark on a journey to understand anger—the fires that burn within us, the waves that threaten to engulf us—and how we can navigate this complex emotional landscape.
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Why is anger helpful?How do we typically feel anger in our bodies, and what are the urges that come with it?What is BPD rage? How is anger known to show up, especially with quiet bpd?What are some common prompting events for anger?How do I know if my anger fits the situation?How can we nail down our anger and put words to it?What does it look like to act opposite to anger? How do we bring our Swords Down?What if we slip up when we’re trying to regulate?What is the BPD Rage cycle? What happens after a rage episode?How do we deal with the guilt that comes on?Personal Case Study: Wayfaring the AngerNeed a DBT Skill? DBT Pocket Guide
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This exclusive part of the BPD Wayfarer is all about exploring long term emotion regulation tools we can keep in our toolbelt while we’re traversing our emotional landscapes.
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Many mental health conditions out there create emotion regulation and impulse control issues for people, like ADHD, Bipolar Disorder, Autism, and PTSD, to name a few. BPD also has major emotional regulation issues - and in fact, in other parts of the world, this condition is even referred to as Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder. Emotion regulation issues are the core struggle when it comes to BPD - it is the driving force pretty much of our struggles and bleeds into every other symptom we struggle with.
What gets better when we learn to regulate our emotions?What goes on in an emotionally dysregulated person's mind when they're in that state?Is emotion dysregulation a character flaw?What are some things that can trigger a person with BPD into a dysregulated state?How can we learn to regulate our emotions in healthier ways?What are some DBT skills we can use to help with long term emotion regulation?Need a DBT Skill? DBT Pocket Guide
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Content Warning: Discussion of Coping with Emotions after DV, ~21:30-27:30
When you’re starting off on your path to navigating your emotional landscape, compare it to preparing for a hike. Looking at a map of the terrain can be really helpful and even proactive, so you generally know what to expect when you embark, and you’re not just setting off into unknown territory.
In this episode, we'll chat about:
What are primary and secondary emotions?How do emotions typically show up in our bodies?How do we figure out if our emotions are justified?What does it mean to use Opposite Action to Emotion?When is it GOOD to act on your emotions?What if I mess up?What are vulnerability factors when it comes to emotion regulation?How do we practice self compassion?This episode wraps up Season 1, and I'm so pleased to have been able to make this podcast for you. Season 2 is on its way! Stay tuned! Keep going, keep growing 🌱💟
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Emotions in The Body (2013)
Opposite Action to Emotions
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Imagine yourself as a wayfarer, looking to embark on a journey through an emotional inner landscape. As people with BPD, we often feel lost, and for many of us, we begin our journey after being in the depths of despair, where the path ahead of us is shrouded in mist, making us uncertain of our next steps.
Imagine emotions as points on a compass, representing different feelings like joy, sadness, anger, and fear. People who have a high level of emotional awareness can navigate this emotional landscape with ease, recognizing and identifying each emotional point on the compass. Their emotional compass is finely tuned, allowing them to accurately read their emotions and understand what they're feeling.
On the other hand, people with BPD tend to have a less precise emotional compass. It's as if their compass is missing some of the markers or has a weak signal.
This episode is about calibrating our emotional compass: when you learn how to recognize your feelings and then put words to them, you become that much more in control of your journey.
What is Alexithymia?Why do people suppress their emotions?Why do we need to feel our emotions in order to heal?How do I get more comfortable feeling my emotions?What if I never stop crying?What gets better when you learn to identify your emotions?How do I become mindful of current emotions?How do I create a safe space for myself?[ m e n t i o n e d ]
Mindfulness of Current Emotions
Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions
Emotions in the Body - (2013 Study)
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Content Warning: Substance Abuse, Su*cidal Ideation, Mentions of Abuse
After a long and challenging battle with addiction, Molly (they/them) has reached a major milestone: one year of sobriety.
Throughout their journey, they’ve discovered a profound truth: the importance of feeling in order to heal. For years, drugs had become a means to suppress their difficult emotions. After making the choice to take back their autonomy, and never giving up on that choice, Molly has cultivated a fulfilling life for themselves and confronted their deepest wounds head-on.
Molly was kind enough to share with me their insights, experiences, and realizations they've gained along the way. And I feel like their journey can really serve as a beacon of hope, reminding us that embarking on a path of sobriety and self-love is so, so possible.
Follow Molly on TikTok: @damagedxdolly - Instagram: @damagedxdolly
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Jennifer McDonough (she/her) is a force to be reckoned with. In just two years as a content creator, she has amassed hundreds of thousands of followers collectively on Instagram and TikTok as @thickabodcranebpd, posting authentic and raw content about her struggles with BPD, parenting, and grief. She is unapologetically herself - and this is why I was so delighted to be able to speak with her about her recovery journey.
In this episode, Jen and I get to chat about:
How does anger show up for us and how is it linked to our child modes?How has awareness of her trauma and BPD influenced Jennifer's parenting style?What does finding balance and setting boundaries with her child look like?Should people with BPD have kids?Which therapy modalities has Jennifer tried? How have they benefitted her?How does EMDR work? What is a trauma network?What is schema therapy and how does it help?What is Vulnerable Child Mode? Can people switch into different modes?What does soothing her vulnerable child mode look like for Jennifer?Find Jennifer on Instagram: @thickabodcranebpd - TikTok: @thickabodcranebpd
Transcript: averythequiet.com/blog
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Understanding Schema Therapy (Schema Institute)
Being a Parent with BPD (Borderline in the ACT)
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Content Warning: Su*cidal Ideation, Substance Abuse, Violence/Assault
With his larger-than-life personality, Luciano has amassed over 120k+ followers on TikTok and Instagram from speaking about his experiences with BPD. But what really sets him apart is his unique way of coping with his BPD: by making creative videos that showcase his goofy side, and bring levity to our struggles. If you've ever come across his page, you'll recognize him immediately by his infectious smile.
In this episode, we got to chat about an issue that is often overlooked - how toxic masculinity affects men's emotional well-being. The attitude that showing any emotion is a sign of weakness and character is not a sustainable one. It robs us of our humanity, and it stops men from feeling safe in asking those around them for help.
Luciano is here to show you that there is strength in vulnerability.
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