Episodes
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Do you believe that your mindset has the power to shape your outcomes and determine your level of success? As Henry Ford once famously said, "Whether you think you can, or you think you can't, you're right." This thought-provoking statement reminds us of the immense impact our mindset has on our lives.
In this episode of the ReLearned podcast, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa explore the significance of adopting a growth mindset for personal and professional development. They discuss how mindset shapes our experiences and the importance of being open to new perspectives. The conversation covers the malleability of mindset, the influence of upbringing, and the role of mindset in leadership and resilience. They emphasize the benefits of curiosity, documentation, sharing, and applying new knowledge. They also discuss finding positive lessons in negative events and conclude the season by encouraging listeners to embrace growth and look forward to future episodes with expert guests. The episode aims to empower listeners on their journey of transformation and growth.
Key Takeaways
Mindset is pivotal in shaping our view of the world and our success.
A growth mindset believes in the development of abilities through effort, while a fixed mindset sees abilities as unchangeable.
Leadership is more effective with a growth mindset, promoting empowerment and avoiding micromanagement.
Mindset affects health and pain perception, with a positive mindset potentially improving treatment outcomes and reducing pain intensity.
Strategies to foster a growth mindset include adopting a "not yet" attitude, using the two-minute rule, the one new thing challenge, and reframing self-talk.
Curiosity and the act of documenting and sharing knowledge are crucial for maintaining a flexible mindset and personal growth.
In This Episode:
[00:03] The definition of mindset
[02:50] The impact of mindset on achievement and performance
[05:06] The malleability of mindset
[06:23] The influence of upbringing on mindset and resilience
[07:29] The role of mindset in leadership effectiveness
[09:49] The power of mindset in influencing outcomes
[10:05] The impact of mindset on decision-making and leadership style
[13:43] Mindset's influence on health outcomes and pain perception
[16:16] Embracing a growth mindset and the "not yet" approach
[17:27] The two-minute rule for conditioning the mind.
[19:26] Tricking the mind
[22:36] No complaint challenge
[26:11] Embracing curiosity and diverse perspectives for personal growth
Notable Quotes
[01:22] “When you have a growth-oriented mindset, you're all about agility, flexibility, malleability, adaptability.” - Nidhi
[02:42] “People who believe that abilities can be developed through effort outperform those who have a fixed mindset.” - Billy
[11:35] “The best leaders in the world don't just hold a title and hoard power, they democratize power, and they create more leaders because they see the potential in others as well.” - Nidhi
[22:06] “Challenge yourself to go a period of time without complaining, without voicing negative thoughts, and ideally without even thinking negative thoughts.” - Billy
Resources and Links
Nidhi Tewari
https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/
https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW
https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/
https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi
Billy Samoa
https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/
https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/
https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa
https://twitter.com/BillySamoa
https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/ -
Are we just adult-sized children yearning to play? As adults, our lives often become consumed with responsibilities, work, and societal expectations. We leave behind the carefree days of childhood, where play and imagination were at the center of our existence. But what if we told you that play still holds immense value in our adult lives? Just like a river that constantly flows and adapts to its surroundings, so does play in our lives. It may change its form and shape, but its essence remains a vital part of who we are as human beings.
In this episode of the ReLearned podcast, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa discuss the importance of incorporating play into adult life, particularly in learning and training experiences. They share personal anecdotes and reflect on the benefits of play, such as enhancing memory, fostering bonding, and improving overall well-being. They also discuss the societal discouragement of adult play and the need to overcome this. They highlight the importance of play in fostering creativity, innovation, and meaningful connections. They conclude by encouraging listeners to reintroduce play into their lives for a more fulfilling existence.
Key Takeaways
Play has a significant role in adult life, despite societal discouragement.
Incorporating play and games into educational and training settings enhances learning outcomes and creates a fun and engaging environment.
Play fosters creativity and allows adults to reimagine the world and find creative solutions.
Integrating playfulness into relationships deepens bonds and connections.
Relearning play can enhance learning and overall well-being.
Recognize the influence of past experiences and early childhood development in incorporating play.
Bringing more play into our lives can potentially extend our lifespan.
In This Episode:
[00:07] The importance of play in training
[01:12] Memorable and enjoyable training experiences
[03:11] Personal journey with play as an adult
[06:56] Play and creativity in adulthood
[08:27] The role of play in building connections
[11:01] The importance of integrating light and playful elements in relationships
[12:08] Engaging in playful activities during the holiday season
[13:05] The value of incorporating play and creating a secret language
[16:46] The importance of play in childhood
[19:21] The benefits of play on brain development
[21:37] Play as a tool for strengthening relationships
[22:38] Recognizing and breaking conditioning
[22:38] The life-changing power of play
Notable Quotes
[01:12] "Play does so much for me personally. Honestly, my career was what it was in the corporate space because of play specifically." - Billy
[02:23] "Play allowed us to strike a chord with so many people who went through our training. It became a very almost-famous part of the culture within our company." - Billy
[03:11] “Engaging elements make learning memorable. Without play, training can be dull and forgettable." - Nidhi
[22:42] "Relearning play and bringing play to the forefront could literally change your life, could help you live longer."- Billy
Resources and Links
Nidhi Tewari
https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/
https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW
https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/
https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi
Billy Samoa
https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/
https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/
https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa
https://twitter.com/BillySamoa
https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/ -
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In the relentless pursuit of professional success and personal growth, we often overlook the simple joys that anchor us. Among these treasures is the profound impact of laughter—a universal force that bridges divides and deeply unites us.
In this episode of the ReLearned podcast, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa explore the transformative power and multifaceted benefits of laughter. Dive deep into topics like self-induced laughter, the rejuvenating practice of laughter yoga, and the tangible rewards: from stress alleviation and enhanced immunity to uplifted spirits and extended longevity. Billy candidly shares how laughter became his antidote to depression, urging listeners to maintain their own "laughter diaries." Tune in for a compelling conversation that underscores the vital role of humor and laughter in nurturing holistic well-being.
Key Takeaways
Laughter yoga is a practice that artificially creates laughter and releases happy chemicals in the body
Laughter can help alleviate depressive symptoms, moderate anxiety and trauma responses, and improve overall mood and well-being
Laughter can help you live longer by stimulating your heart, lungs, and muscles through the intake of oxygen
Laughter can be a key component of sleeping soundly by decreasing stress hormones and relaxing the muscles
Laughter can be used to manipulate brain chemistry and avoid negative emotions
Keeping a laughter diary can help document moments of laughter and revisit them in the future
In This Episode:
[00:06] - Introduction to the topic of laughter as a magical medicine
[01:19] - The concept of self-laughter and its benefits
[02:21] - Artificially creating laughter.
[03:25] - Laughter for connection and memorability.
[06:14] - Laughter's physical benefits.
[07:58] - Laughter and the immune system.
[09:08] - Laughter as a social connector.
[12:24] - Laughter as a social lubricant.
[13:33] - Reconnecting with old relationships.
[16:24] - Laughter and facial expressions.
[18:29] - Laughter's mental health benefits.
[20:05] - Physical health benefits of laughter.
[22:38] - Laughter and memory retention.
[25:05] - Laughter as a wake-up call.
[26:15] - Long-term benefits of laughter.
[27:28] - Laughter and sleep.
[31:26] - The benefits of self-laughter.
[32:34] - Keeping a laughter diary.
[33:07] - Being intentional about laughter.
Notable Quotes
[04:14] "The fact that there's an emotion tied to this experience in laughter brings on an emotion you're automatically going to remember something a whole lot more than if it was just said without any laughter or any humour." - Billy
[06:14] "If we can hone in the skill of laughing and integrate this into various points in our day, it will help us to live healthier lives, which I think is interesting." - Nidhi
[17:29] "Laughing increases the blood supply in your cheeks which ultimately nourishes the skin and gives you that glow. When you have that joy in your face, it creates this magical connection between you and other people." - Billy
[19:35] “Incorporating more humour and laughter can better read and be easily read by others. It also bolsters our own mood and mental health." - Nidhi
Resources and Links
Nidhi Tewari
https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/
https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW
https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/
https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi
Billy Samoa
https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/
https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/
https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa
https://twitter.com/BillySamoa
https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/ -
Conflict–a word that often evokes feelings of tension and discord—is far more multifaceted than its negative connotations suggest. At its core, conflict represents a collision of differing perspectives. With a fresh lens, we challenge conventional views on conflict, revealing its transformative power and emphasizing the importance of constructive engagement.
In this episode of ReLearned, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa embark on a comprehensive exploration of conflict, dissecting its definition and diving deep into its evolutionary role. From understanding the anatomy of conflict to leveraging techniques such as establishing conflict-free zones and using conflict journals, Billy and Nidhi uncover actionable strategies for effective resolution. Along the way, they emphasize the pivotal roles of empathy, self-awareness, and clear communication.
Key Takeaways
Challenge the status quo with a fresh perspective on conflict, revealing its capacity to spark positive change.
Embracing techniques such as establishing conflict-free zones, using conflict journals for emotional clarity, and leveraging synchronous communication to minimize misunderstandings.
Understanding personal triggers and practicing self-awareness as foundational elements in effective conflict resolution.
Recognizing the pivotal role of empathy in fostering understanding and resolving conflicts constructively.
In this Episode:
[00:52] - Understanding the definition of conflict
[03:04] - The importance of compromise in conflict resolution
[03:58] - Effective communication and empathy
[04:43] - The evolutionary role of conflict
[05:13] - The internalization of conflict and its consequences
[06:02] - The positive outcomes of conflict
[07:03] - The role of understanding in conflict resolution
[07:43] - The importance of articulating needs in conflict
[18:37] - The impact of conflict in the workplace
[19:51] - Understanding the anatomy of conflict
[20:30] - Conflict as a mirror
[23:49] - The use of conflict mapping in understanding conflict
[32:40] - The importance of conflict education
[34:51] - Visualizing conflict as a dance
[36:28] - Embracing opportunities for growth
[36:42] - Transforming conflict into positive change
Notable Quotes
[02:45] “Conflict is much more about finding the middle ground than it is about standing on our opposing sides.” - Nidhi
[06:00] “Sometimes conflict has a very positive outcome. And so we have to remember that it can lead to increased awareness about a situation or about a topic.” - Billy
[08:56] “The biggest mistake I see couples make is that when they face conflict, they sweep it under the rug.” - Nidhi
[36:36] “Conflict doesn't need to be a dirty word. What starts as a conflict can absolutely end as positive change.” - Billy
Resources and Links
ReLearned
https://www.relearnedpodcast.com/
Nidhi Tewari
https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/
https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW
https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/
https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi
Billy Samoa
https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/
https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/
https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa
https://twitter.com/BillySamoa
https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/
Mentioned
https://hbr.org/2017/07/how-to-handle-a-disagreement-on-your-team -
Ever wondered what makes a workplace truly exceptional? What sets apart companies that not only succeed in their business endeavors but also create a compassionate and inclusive environment for their employees? The answer often lies in a single word: empathy.
In this episode of the ReLearned podcast, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa discuss the importance of empathy, especially in leadership and business. They explore the neurological effects of empathy, its role in altruistic behavior, and its influence on decision-making. The episode also covers the impact of social media on empathy, the concept of empathy fatigue, and the fear many CEOs have of showing empathy. They suggest practical ways to cultivate empathy, such as active listening, mindfulness, and engaging with diverse content. The episode concludes with a discussion on the importance of empathy as an essential skill in personal transformation.
Key Takeaways
Empathy drives altruistic behavior, as individuals are more likely to help those they empathize with.
Technology can positively and negatively impact empathy, with social media limiting exposure to diverse viewpoints.
Empathy fatigue can occur, and it is important to set boundaries and take breaks to avoid emotional depletion.
CEOs often fear showing empathy in the workplace, but empathy is crucial for creating connections and better outcomes.
Cultivating empathy involves active listening and reducing judgment.
Curiosity and mindfulness play a role in developing empathy and fostering deep connections and attunement to emotions.
Showing empathy involves exceptional listening skills, validating emotions, and offering support to build trust and connection.
Empathy is an essential skill that greatly impacts relationships and should be practiced and developed in daily interactions.
In This Episode:
[00:03] Empathy as a critical skill
[01:09] Empathy and neural activity
[03:09] Empathy and altruistic behavior
[06:20] The importance of understanding diverse viewpoints
[07:13] The negative impact of social media on empathy
[08:38] The balance between empathy and self-care
[14:16] Cultivating empathy in daily lives
[16:23] Different types of empathy
[17:31] Lowering the volume of judgment
[19:05] Curiosity and asking questions
[21:06] The role of mindfulness in increasing empathy
[23:25] Expanding perspectives
[25:25] Empathy in effective communication
[27:35] Deepening the conversation with empathy
[28:48] Empathy as a trust-building skill
Notable Quotes
[00:51] “Empathy is one of those things that as a leader, I often reflect and think if I didn't have empathy, I wouldn't be able to lead people in the way that I need to.” - Billy
[02:28] “When we're experiencing an empathetic connection with somebody, their pain quite literally becomes our own pain” - Nidhi
[10:59] “Empathy plays a pivotal role in moral decision making, influencing important decisions based on emotions.” -Billy
[13:03] “Empathy is actually critical to creating connection and better outcomes in the workplace." - Nidhi
Resources and Links
ReLearned
https://www.relearnedpodcast.com/
Nidhi Tewari
https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/
https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW
https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/
https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi
Billy Samoa
https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/
https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/
https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa
https://twitter.com/BillySamoa
https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/ -
In today's workplaces, feedback emerges as a crucial catalyst for professional development and organizational success. Whether you're steering the ship as a captain or navigating the waters as a vital crew member, it serves as the compass guiding individuals and teams toward excellence. Beyond being a managerial tool, feedback is a cornerstone of effective leadership, offering insights into team strengths and weaknesses to foster continuous improvement. Employees, too, benefit immensely from constructive feedback, gaining clarity on performance, understanding expectations, and unlocking their full potential.
On this episode of the ReLearned podcast, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa delve into the pivotal role of feedback in personal and professional growth. They address the gap between perceived and actual feedback from managers, explore the emotional impact of feedback, and share strategies for ensuring its receptiveness. The conversation extends to fostering a culture where seeking feedback is comfortable, addressing biases in feedback, and the importance of discernment in considering whose feedback matters. The hosts emphasize the key elements of clear expectations, capability, measurement, and consequences of ineffective feedback.
Key Takeaways
There is a significant gap between the importance of feedback and the lack of managers providing it.
Creating a culture where people feel comfortable asking for feedback is crucial.
Positive reinforcement and constructive feedback are both important in improving performance.
Leaders should be aware of their biases when giving feedback.
Four key elements to consider when giving feedback are clear expectations, clear capability, clear measurement, and determining consequences.
In This Episode:
[01:17] - The importance of feedback and the lack of managers providing it
[02:31] - The impact of unsolicited feedback on emotional reaction
[04:51] - The need to create a culture of proactive feedback-seeking
[05:56] - The importance of feedback and its impact on learning
[06:50] - The value of negative feedback and the need for constructive feedback
[09:00] - Managing anxiety and staying calm when giving feedback
[15:13] - Finding the right approach for feedback
[17:31] - The importance of separating positive and negative feedback
[18:33] - The impact of positive feedback on a fixed mindset
[19:36] - The role of culture in providing feedback
[23:35] - The importance of timing in giving feedback
[23:59] - Tailoring feedback to the recipient's needs
[29:13] - Giving unsolicited feedback
[30:20] - Crab mentality and discerning feedback
[31:19] - Regulating feedback based on mood
[34:04] - Clear expectations and commitment
[35:15] - Clear measurement and tracking progress
[36:13] - Consequences and accountability
Notable Quotes
[22:52] "Sometimes you have to be more direct with somebody, sometimes you have to give the hard feedback, and by us telling people how they should communicate and what they should communicate.” - Nidhi
[27:28] "Expect it but don't internalize it, be critical of the source of the feedback that you're receiving." - Billy
[33:07] "I had to accept the fact that I'm a night owl and that means that when I am giving or receiving feedback, I have to be conscious." -Nidhi
[38:13] "When it's all said and done, life's short. We want to get the most out of it. To make every minute count, we have to embrace good feedback." - Billy
Resources and Links
Nidhi Tewari
https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/
https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW
https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/
https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi
Billy Samoa
https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/
https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/
https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa
https://twitter.com/BillySamoa
https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/ -
Ever wondered about the essential nature of sleep? In a world that often prioritizes productivity over rest, the importance of a good night's sleep can be easily overlooked.
In this episode of the ReLearned podcast, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa explore the fundamental necessity of sleep, delving into its functions, stages, and the optimal amount required at different ages. The conversation sheds light on the benefits of quality sleep for physical and mental well-being, emphasizing the risks associated with sleep deprivation. Additionally, the two discuss the impact of sleep on emotional well-being and brain chemistry, offering practical tips for enhancing sleep quality and exploring various supplements that aid in achieving restful nights. Tune in to gain valuable insights into the often underestimated yet crucial realm of sleep.
Key Takeaways
Sleep is essential for physical and mental well-being, memory consolidation, muscle repair, immune system function, hormone regulation, and metabolism.
There are two main categories of sleep: REM sleep and non-REM sleep, each with its unique characteristics and functions.
Chronic sleep deprivation can lead to serious health risks, including obesity and heart disease.
Practical tips for improving sleep quality include creating a sleep-friendly environment, considering the benefits of certain supplements, and understanding the impact of napping, alcohol, and smoking on sleep.
The importance of a comfortable bed
In This Episode:
[01:34] - Stages of sleep
[04:46] - Ideal amount of sleep
[06:46] - Importance of sleep and its benefits
[09:32] - Sleep's impact on brain function and memory
[10:58] - Sleep's impact on emotional health and regulation
[13:05] - Importance of sleep for mental health
[13:29] - Long-term lack of sleep and its health risks
[14:43] - Tips for improving sleep quality
[19:26] - Importance of supplements for better sleep
[22:35] - Creating a conducive sleep environment
[25:03] - Importance of timing naps
[25:52] - Optimal timing for napping
[27:00] - Effects of alcohol and smoking on sleep
[31:24] - The importance of sleep
[31:24] - Functions of sleep
[31:24] - Ideal amount of sleep
Notable Quotes
[00:21] “Sleep is as crucial as food, water, or oxygen—it's the cornerstone of our physical and mental well-being.”- Nidhi
[04:47] "The amount and quality of sleep are interconnected; it's not just about the hours, but the rejuvenating power of good sleep." - Billy
[12:01] “Getting good sleep can actually help you to be able to show up better at work, to be able to communicate more effectively within your family system and your relationships with people, and it can help you to feel less stressed and overwhelmed on a day to day basis." - Nidhi
Resources and Links
Nidhi Tewari
https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/
https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW
https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/
https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi
Billy Samoa
https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/
https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/
https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa
https://twitter.com/BillySamoa
https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/ -
In the pursuit of success, organizations often walk a fine line between productivity and employee well-being. In today's fast-paced business landscape, burnout has emerged as a prevalent concern. Beyond mere fatigue, burnout is a chronic condition that permeates organizations, impacting both individuals and the overall workplace.
In this episode of ReLearned, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa delve into the concept of burnout, exploring its implications for individuals and organizations while offering strategies for prevention and coping. They define burnout as a syndrome resulting from chronic workplace stress, highlighting its three dimensions: energy depletion, increased mental distance from the job, and reduced professional efficacy.
Throughout the episode, the two draw from personal experiences, suggesting practical coping mechanisms. They stress the importance of fostering a positive work environment and implementing well-being initiatives in businesses. Tune in to gain insights into navigating the delicate balance between productivity and employee welfare.
Key Takeaways
Burnout is a real health crisis that impacts individuals and organizations worldwide.
Working longer hours does not equal increased productivity and can contribute to burnout.
Burnout is preventable by understanding its root causes and recognizing its symptoms.
Practical strategies for preventing and coping with burnout include setting boundaries, seeking support, incorporating rest and recharge, and job crafting.
Managing burnout is about creating an environment where people look forward to coming to work and fostering a positive work culture.
It is important to prioritize well-being and work towards a healthier, more balanced work-life.
In This Episode:
[00:56] The definition of burnout
[02:38] The five phases of burnout
[05:39] The impact of burnout on work and personal life
[08:51] Sleep and its connection to burnout
[10:40] Cognitive functioning and burnout
[12:14] Recognition of burnout as an occupational phenomenon
[13:35] The impact of burnout on individuals and society
[13:50] The role of leaders in setting expectations
[14:46] Burnout as a contagious phenomenon
[20:23] The impact of burnout on entrepreneurs and high achievers
[22:17] Emotional regulation as a protective factor against burnout
[25:03] Shifting organizational systems to manage burnout
[26:24] The importance of setting boundaries
[27:38] Seeking support and processing stress
[29:00] Deliberate rest and recharge
[38:40] The future of work and treating people
Notable Quotes
[01:42] “I think it's important that we recognize that burnout is actually a very gradual process. It's one that doesn't occur suddenly, it develops over a significant period of time, usually over the course of months if not years.” - Billy
[18:12] “We have to help them not only just individually but we also have to create systems that support people taking care of themselves and operating from their best self because they are able to replenish their stores.” - Nidhi
[22:19] “If you know your natural tendency is a perfectionist tendency, be more aware that burnout might be causing some problems in your life.” - Billy
[38:40] “If you allow yourself to get burned out, if you allow stress to become chronic, your success, unfortunately, will be a moment in time instead of something that you see pay off dividends over your lifetime.” - Nidhi
Resources and Links
Nidhi Tewari
https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/
https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW
https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/
https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi
Billy Samoa
https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/
https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/
https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa
https://twitter.com/BillySamoa
https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/ -
Ever catch yourself in a room, staring at the walls, struggling to recall why you walked in? Or maybe you've noticed how a melody effortlessly transports you back in time, stirring long-buried emotions. Memory, that enigmatic thread in the fabric of consciousness, captivates and confounds. How can we vividly remember childhood song lyrics, yet fumble for our keys moments after setting them down?
In this episode, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa dive into the intricate world of memory. Unpacking aspects like repetition, emotions, the role of forgetting, diverse learning styles, memory distortion, and the impact of sleep on consolidation, they also touch on cognitive disorders such as dementia and Alzheimer's, along with the future of memory storage. The hosts stress the need to comprehend our memory, offering strategies for retention, while cautioning that memories evolve over time and may not always stand as steadfast truths.
Key Takeaways
The brain's memory system is incredibly complex, with over 100 billion nerve cells and intricate connections.
Repetition alone is not enough to strengthen memory connections; storytelling can also improve memory retention.
Emotions play a significant role in how memories are stored, with positive and negative emotions stored in different parts of the brain.
Forgetting is a necessary part of the memory process, allowing us to focus on important events and prevent overwhelm.
Factors such as learning styles and memory distortion can influence how individuals remember things.
In This Episode:
[01:06] The brain's complexity and memory formation
[02:34] Repetition and making connections
[05:22] Using storytelling for memory recall
[05:30] Emotion's role in memory
[06:53] Different types of memories
[10:47] Forgetting is an important process
[12:45] The different styles of learning
[14:10] The impact of traumatic memories
[15:39] Memory reprocessing and shifting perspectives
[17:29] The Doorway Effect
[20:35] Dream Journaling
[22:36] The stages of sleep and memory consolidation
[23:52] The importance of challenging the mind for memory formation
[24:58] Continuing the journey of personal growth
[28:16] The importance of memory in shaping our perception
[29:01] Tips for improving memory
[29:27] The fallibility of memory
Notable Quotes
[02:34] “Repetition does matter; however, repetition by itself won't do. You want to make it somewhat difficult for that neural pathway to be found because that makes the connections stronger.” - Billy
[04:35] “The less exposure that we have to a particular experience, the weaker the connections are from a neuronal standpoint.”- Nidhi
[26:36] “The body keeps score. It's not just about thoughts. It's about the feelings and the physical sensations that are related to that as well.” - Nidhi
[00:27:27] “Remember, sometimes your brain will try and fill in the gaps, sometimes your brain is going to get ideas from other people and make stories up, and so even though our brain is super powerful, remember that it may not always be giving you accurate information.” - Billy
Resources and Links
Nidhi Tewari
https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/
https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW
https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/
https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi
Billy Samoa
https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/
https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/
https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa
https://twitter.com/BillySamoa
https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/ -
In an era that often values traditional intelligence as the key to success, one facet of human capacity tends to be underestimated - emotional intelligence. Unlike standard cognitive measures, emotional intelligence delves into our ability to comprehend, control, and channel not only our own emotions but also those of people around us. This profound concept has the potential to reshape our personal and professional landscapes, equipping us to cultivate healthier connections, sharpen our decision-making prowess, and lead more gratifying lives.
In this episode of ReLearned, Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa delve into the realm of emotional intelligence, exploring its significance across diverse life domains and its potential for growth. They draw inspiration from Daniel Goleman's work and shed light on the telltale signs of low emotional intelligence. While sharing personal anecdotes, the hosts underscore the value of empathy, accountability, and self-awareness, and they also touch on the influence of parenting styles on emotional intelligence, referencing Dr. John Gottman's research. The episode culminates with an empowering message encouraging listeners to continue their journey of emotional intelligence development and explore additional resources for further enrichment.
Key Takeaways
Emotional intelligence is a powerful skill that can be developed over time.
Low emotional intelligence can negatively impact relationships and overall success.
Taking accountability and acknowledging mistakes is crucial for building trust in relationships.
Mental health issues can affect a person's ability to regulate emotions and interact with others.
Parenting plays a significant role in a person's emotional intelligence.
Developing emotional intelligence is a lifelong journey that can be pursued through resources and learning opportunities.
In This Episode:
[00:03] The concept of emotional intelligence
[00:36] The importance of practicing emotional intelligence
[05:23] Signs of low emotional intelligence
[06:02] Lack of self-awareness and defensiveness
[07:10] Taking responsibility and acknowledging mistakes
[09:15] Mental health issues and low EQ
[12:13] Alexithymia and its relationship to emotional intelligence
[14:56] The importance of parenting in developing emotional intelligence
[16:22] Exploring childhood messages about emotions
[19:25] The importance of emotional coaching
[21:37] Getting comfortable with discomfort
[22:44] Repairing ourselves and learning emotional skills
[23:42] Resources for learning about emotional intelligence
[25:13] Continuing the journey of personal growth
Notable Quotes
[08:21] “I respect someone so much more when they say they messed up. When they say that they made a mistake because we all make mistakes.” - Billy
[12:51] “When people experience trauma, especially in their early childhood with their parents, often what I see is that they were in an environment where emotions weren't safe to feel and express. - Nidhi
[22:12] “My perspective is we've got to get comfortable being able to just let people experience things and not to feel compelled to make it stop, to try to make it better, to try to push it away or sweep it under the rug.” - Nidhi
[23:49] “Don't get down on yourself if you feel like you're behind. If you feel like you're in a position where the cards you were dealt left you in a position to have lower emotional intelligence, that's okay.” – Billy
Resources and Links
Nidhi Tewari
https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/
https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW
https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/
https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi
Billy Samoa
https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/
https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/
https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa
https://twitter.com/BillySamoa
https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/ -
Do you remember a time when life threw unexpected challenges your way, pushing you to your limits and testing your ability to bounce back? Did you emerge from the experience stronger, or did you find yourself struggling to regain your footing?
In this episode of the ReLearned podcast, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa embark on a deep dive into the fascinating world of resilience. Together, they unravel the notion that resilience isn't an innate trait but a dynamic skill that can be nurtured and refined with time. They explore the pivotal role adversity plays in nurturing resilience, the vital support of community in its cultivation, and its profound relevance in the workplace.
Nidhi and Billy also discuss the art of taking well-deserved breaks and tapping into coping mechanisms, the advantages of strategic pessimism, and the significance of self-reflection and emotional intelligence in fortifying one's resilience.
Key Takeaways
Resilience is a skill that can be developed and honed over time, not a fixed trait.
Adversity can be an opportunity for personal growth and post-traumatic growth.
Resilience plays a crucial role in physical health, reducing chronic disease and inflammation.
Resilience encompasses mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual dimensions.
Self-reflection is important for gaining perspective and viewing challenges as learning opportunities.
In This Episode:
[00: 03] Resilience as a lifelong skill
[03:37] Adversity as a catalyst for growth
[05:51] Resilience and aging
[06:58] The benefits of resilience for physical health
[07:17] The role of community in resilience
[13:56] The importance of resilience in the workplace
[15:03] The power of laughter in building resilience
[20:31] The importance of taking breaks
[21:32] The benefits of nature therapy
[23:10] The four dimensions of resilience
[26:49] Pessimism and resilience
[29:05] Radical acceptance and pessimism
[31:15] Embracing challenges and anti-fragility
[33:45] The importance of self-reflection
[35:48] Resilience as a long-term solution
Notable Quotes
[01:07] “All humans are innately resilient. We have a component of resiliency in us, which is why we're all still here.” - Billy
[00:01:45] “It's important to remember that those setbacks that we have in life, those are the greatest teachers that we have. Those are the things that help us become more resilient.” - Billy
[04:41] “At the end of the day, don't try to avoid the tough stuff. In fact, the tough moments are the fertile ground from which resilience blossoms and blooms." - Nidhi
[16:29] “It's important to underscore and remember that when we're going through life, we sometimes take things way too seriously and sometimes we've just got to let loose and laugh.” - Billy
[36:40] “Resilience is a long-term solution. If there's one skill that is needed to be cultivated, it's absolutely resilience.”- Nidhi
Resources and Links
ReLearned
https://www.relearnedpodcast.com/
Nidhi Tewari
https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/
https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW
https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/
https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi
Billy Samoa
https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/
https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/
https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa
https://twitter.com/BillySamoa
https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/ -
In the debut episode of the ReLearned podcast, hosts Nidhi Tewari and Billy Samoa delve into the intricate world of perfectionism. They explore its roots and the significant impact it wields on success and well-being. The episode also unveils the perils of perfectionism, shedding light on its genetic and modeling origins, as well as its effects on mental and physical health. The hosts also discuss its links to imposter syndrome, creativity, and social media's influence.
Throughout the episode, Nidhi and Billy stress the importance of effective perfectionism management, emphasizing realistic goal setting, self-compassion, and personal growth acknowledgment. They discuss various perfectionism types and provide strategies for adept management, including self-awareness cultivation, progress celebration, and seeking support when necessary. Tune in to this episode to uncover the complexities of perfectionism and gain insights to break free from its constraints.
Key Takeaways
Perfectionism can be a double-edged sword, potentially hindering our ability to reach our full potential despite being associated with high achievers.
Social media can have a significant impact on perfectionism, and it is crucial to be aware of how it affects our mental well-being.
Managing perfectionism involves setting realistic goals, practicing self-compassion, and being self-aware of our perfectionist tendencies.
Language plays a powerful role in dealing with perfectionism, and asking ourselves key questions can help shift from shame to guilt.
In This Episode:
[00:53] The pitfalls of perfectionism
[03:07] The impact of perfectionism on mental and physical health
[06:40] The battle between perfectionism and creativity
[07:30] The importance of taking action and iteration
[10:40] Perfectionism and societal expectations for women
[11:52] The impact of perfectionism at different stages of life
[13:15] The journey towards self-assurance and confidence
[15:54] The influence of social media on perfectionism and imposter syndrome
[20:12] Identifying types of perfectionism
[22:34] Managing perfectionism
[23:22] The importance of self-compassion and understanding that perfection is subjective
[24:35] The negative impact of living in an instant-gratification world
[25:05] How perfectionism is a sign of a fixed mindset
[26:27] Challenging perfectionistic thoughts and seeking support
[31:54] Ruminating and problem-solving
[33:23] The difference between shame and guilt in the context of perfectionism
Notable Quotes
[02:05] “Your psychological well-being is at stake if you continue to pursue perfectionism as your goal, and the mental piece connects to the physical piece." - Nidhi
[12:30] “If you're looking at somebody else, you're comparing yourself to somebody else. Not only do they have a totally different story than you but have they led a different life.” - Billy
[20:12] “It's not that the world is putting expectations on you, it's that you yourself have these really exceedingly high expectations of what you should be achieving” - Nidhi
[24:44] “We got to give ourselves a little bit more grace and compassion when it comes to doing whatever it is that we're called to do.” - Billy
Resources and Links
Nidhi Tewari
https://www.wellbeingspeaker.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/nidhitewarilcsw/
https://www.facebook.com/NidhiTewariLCSW
https://www.instagram.com/NidhiTewariLCSW/
https://twitter.com/LCSWNidhi
Billy Samoa
https://www.linkedin.com/in/billysamoa/
https://www.instagram.com/billysamoa/
https://www.youtube.com/user/billysamoa
https://twitter.com/BillySamoa
https://www.facebook.com/BillySamoaSaleebey/
Mentioned or Researched
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)- https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/patients-and-families/cognitive-behavioral
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)- https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/treatments/eye-movement-reprocessing -
Are you ready to challenge your mind and expand your knowledge? Relearned will take you on a journey of discovery that explores the mysteries of the mind, the secrets of the universe, and the fascinating twists and turns of history. Join hosts Billy Samoa Saleebey and Nidhi Tewari as they unpack the latest research, ideas, and discoveries that turn what we thought we knew on its head. From the depths of the human psyche to the furthest reaches of the cosmos, ReLearned takes a fresh look at conventional wisdom and beliefs to see what we may need to rethink, unlearn, and ultimately ReLearn!
