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Do you suffer from "should itis"?
I should exercise more
I should be more productive
I should spend more time with my kids
I should spend more time outside
I should go to bed earlier
I shouldnât drink so much
I should eat better
I shouldnât eat so much sugar
I should be happy
I should be more grateful
I shouldnât be so greedy!
It shouldnât take me this long.
I should do better
I should know better
I should BE better
Whatever the âshould, or shouldnâtsâ are on your list, they always add up to the same thing: âYou should be better, you should know better, youâre not doing it right.â It leaves you feeling like youâre not enough as you are.
We have been taught, mistakenly, that if we don't "should" ourselves into action, we will become lazy, useless, worthless lumps. And worse, if we don't "should" ourselves into being good, we won't be good!
The irony is that while we think by shoulding all over ourselves, weâll get ourselves into action, the opposite happens - we end up feeling overwhelmed and guilty, which causes us not to do any of the things we think we âshouldâ.
Feeling guilty and overwhelmed breeds inaction and stagnancyâŠit keeps you stuck. So, the more you feel like you âshouldâ do something, the less likely you are to actually do it.
There are exactly zero circumstances in which âI shouldâŠâ is the most specific, accurate, powerful, and useful language to express a thought.You could literally stop saying the word should forever, and you wouldnât be missing anything. There is always a better, more accurate and more helpful linguistic choice.
So, when you hear yourself saying, or thinking, "I should...", get curious. Where did you learn this should? To whom does this should really belong? Whose voice do you hear when you âshouldâ on yourself this way? Do you actually agree with this should? What are you afraid will happen if you donât do this thing youâre telling yourself you should do?
It has been drilled into us what we "should" want - by parents, peers, media, society - to the. point where we no longer know what we actually want, and often confuse the two.
Rarely do we say âI shouldâ about stuff we feel totally aligned with, so let the word be a red flag indicating where youâve internalized something that doesnât quite feel right, or aligned to you.
Uncovering and exposing our automated âshouldsâ, digging into them, untangling ourselves from the web of self-imposed obligation by getting clear and honest about what you want, is how we become the conscious creators of our lives, the bosses of our brains, the authors of our own stories, and the thinker of our thoughts,
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ADHD stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. But, as my guest Coach Lara Dawn helps us understand today, that label is somewhat of a misnomer. The truth is that ADHD is neither a deficit of attention (actually, people with ADHD have an abundance of attention), nor a disorder. In fact, some people consider ADHD to be a superpower.
Provide the tools and strategies to stop the fighting and quiet the yellingâRestore your confidence as a parent âStrengthen your connection as a family
Lara is the founder of the wonderful ADHD Village, a community that offers brain-based, science-backed support for families raising children with ADHD.
She supports moms in learning how to eliminate stress while navigating their childrenâs ADHD, so that they are calm, confident and deeply connected to their children.
ADHD is often misunderstood by the general public. Kids with ADHD are not lazy, or stupid, or slow, or bad. And, ADHD is not a result of poor parenting. It is simply a brain difference - a neurological diversity.
Today, Lara shares some of the intricacies of ADHD in the brain, and some insights into what it is like to live with it - about which she has first-hand knowledge. She also shares some tips for parents and educators (again, from her own first-hand experience parenting her 2 boys, who also have ADHD, and her 20+ years as an educator & Special Education Resource Teacher).
Lara also shares details about her upcoming FREE 8-day virtual event, featuring 35+ ADHD experts, Calming the ADHD Family (March 21-28, 2022). This summit will:Register through the link below. I am honoured to be part of this event! My interview will be air on March 22nd. I look forward to seeing you there.
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If you've ever felt discomfort over a decision you've had to make, tried to justify a choice you've made, or regretted something you've done because you thought to yourself "I don't know why I did that, that's not me!" you have likely experienced cognitive dissonance.
Cognitive Dissonance Theory was presented by a social psychologist, named Leon Festinger, in 1957.
Cognitive dissonance is a term for the state of mental or psychological discomfort we feel when two or more modes of thought (beliefs, values, or attitudes) contradict each other - when our modes of thought are out of Alignment.
We are averse to inconsistencies within our own mind. Itâs not comfortable to be at odds, to feel resistance. Our brain does not like discomfort. It feels threatened by it.So, when we experience this dissonance, our brain goes to work to try to adjust when our thoughts, words, or behaviours seem to clash with each other.
In this episode, we learn about how exactly our brains work to restore alignment, and you'll experience this for yourself in real time as we play with it a bit.
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Have you ever found yourself staring into the fridge, looking for something that was right in front of your nose all along?
Do you ever wonder why your kids, or students, can't seem to just focus on one thing, or can't hear you when you call their name 100 times, but can remember all the details of what you told them 4 1/2 years ago?
It may have something to do with Selective Attention and Inattentional Blindness.
Adults are quite skilled at focusing on one thing, and disregarding all other "unimportant" information, but it turns out that kids don't share the same level of skill in that area.
Find out more in today's episode.
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What does "play" mean to you? Do you consider yourself a playful person?
Do you engage in play on a regular basis, or are you resistant to play?
Many of us understand that play is good for children's development, but do you know how, or why? Do you know that play is also good for adults?
Play reduces stress, helps strengthen relationships and trust, enhances imagination, develops social skills, and even increases productivity and creativity.
And, it doesn't have to be extensive or extravagant, simple things like putting on a silly hat, making goofy faces, playing fetch with the dog, turning your child's sock into a puppet, sending a funny meme to a coworker, playing charades, or having a laugh with your friend all count as play, and can offer many of the benefits listed above.
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What expectations do you have of your students? Of your partner? Your family? Your friends? Yourself?
I expect my kids to be polite. I expect my students to listen to me. I expect my partner to remember my birthday. I expect my friends to be on time. Sound familiar?
What happens when your expectations are not met? How do you feel?
The problem with having expectations is that they are all about other people. They often originate from a place of wounding, fear, and lack. We impose expectations because we think they will prevent us from being let down. But, in so doing, we relinquish our power to another person. We hand them our happiness and hope they don't drop it.
And, while awaiting the outcome of the expectation, we put ourselves in emotional limbo. "If you meet my expectation, I'll be happy. But, if you don't, I'll be disappointed. In the meantime, I'll sit here in limbo, not knowing what to feel." It doesn't make much sense, does it?
But, if we don't have expectations of people, won't they walk all over us?
Today, as always, I invite you to examine the stories and beliefs you have about expectations, and I offer you an alternative. I invite you to play around with it, try it on, see how it fits. And, if you like it, and/or find it helpful, please consider leaving a review, to help share it with others who might find it helpful as well.
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This week, I was invited onto the Create a Life You Love video podcast hosted by the amazing Chantal Cox. Chantal is a fellow educator and Master NeuroCoachTM, an author, a friend, and a wonderful human being doing great things in the world.
We had a delightful conversation about creating a life we love, and collaborating on an incredible project!
Enjoy!
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Wait, what?! Positivity is toxic?
It can be.
Positivity can become toxic when it is used to mask, suppress, avoid, or cover up negative emotions. It's the belief that no matter how dire or difficult a situation is, people should maintain a positive mindset, or put a positive spin on all experiences. It's a "good vibes only" approach to life.
Toxic positivity denies people the authentic support that they need to cope with what they are facing. It paints negative emotions as a failure or weakness.The problem is that denying certain emotions doesnât make them go away. In fact, it just causes them to fester and clog up our system - like on a cellular level - causing pain, discomfort, illness, disease, etc.
Persistent reminders to reflect on âhow good we have itâ in the midst of strife and struggle donât make sadness, fear or anxiety dissipate. They discourage, stress out, and piss us off. They make us feel like something is wrong with us because we canât keep a positive outlook, when (it seems like) everyone else can.
The way that weâre treated gets played out in the way we treat others (for the most part). For example, when educators are being told to have patience and grace and understanding for their students, but thatâs not what is being extended to them, they subconsciously perpetuate the false toxic positivity that they are being offered themselves.Or are you slapping on a happy face, and what for? AND howâs it working for you?
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Manage your negative emotions, but don't deny them. Remember, the only dangerous emotion is a suppressed emotion.Your feelings provide important information that can lead to beneficial changes in your life.Be realistic about what you should feel. When you are facing a stressful situation, itâs normal to feel stressed, worried, or even fearful. Donât expect too much from yourself. Focus on self-love and taking steps that can help improve your situation.Itâs okay to feel more than one thing. If you are facing a challenge, itâs possible to feel nervous about the future and also hopeful that you will succeed. Your human emotions are complex Focus on listening to others and showing support. When someone expresses a difficult emotion, donât shut them down with toxic platitudes. Instead, let them know that what they are feeling is normal and that you are there to listen. Notice how you feel. Following âpositiveâ social media accounts can sometimes serve as a source of inspiration, but pay attention to how you feel after you view and interact with such content. If you are left with a sense of shame or guilt after seeing âupliftingâ posts, maybe consider limiting your social media consumption - at least from those accounts.LINKS
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What makes you angry?
What really makes your blood boil?
How do you feel about anger itself?
What do you do when you feel angry?
Weâre taught to avoid, is anger. We learn that anger is bad. Itâs scary. Itâs destructive. But, the truth is, that anger is just an emotion, like any other we experience as humans. Itâs a vibration in our body. Itâs neither good, nor bad. Itâs just energy in motion.I talk a lot about feelings and emotions in my coaching, and here on the podcast because feelings are what drive us to do all the things we do in life, to want all the things we want, and to be all the things we want to be.
Today, I talk about anger.
Mahatma Gandhi saw anger as a good thing, as âthe fuel for changeâ, but that takes maturity and wisdom... and is up against the intoxicating allure of the immediate gratification we get from lashing out violently and mindlessly.
Anger feels powerful, and so we often choose it over guilt, shame, insecurity, jealousy, or vulnerability.
In her book, The Way of Integrity, Martha Beck offers some fascinating insights into anger that I share in this episode.
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Do you believe in signs, or nudges from the universe - or God, or whatever you might call it?
Oprah calls them whispers from the universe. She says that, for example, when we have an idea, or desire on our heart, first, we may hear a whisper of that idea or desire. She says, when we ignore that little whisper, which we often do, the universe then starts speaking more loudly to us.
And this is when we may start to get little ânudgesâ (that feeling that I should do a certain thing and you don't know why), or we experience âsynchronicitiesâ (which are sort of like coincidences, but from the position that there are no coincidences, but rather hints that things are all lining up for us to make that thing that we want to happen happen). We get more clues. Patterns start showing up.Have you ever had that experience where like you hear someoneâs name somewhere, and then you hear it again from someone else, then maybe you have a dream about that person, or you run into them somewhere? Thatâs what Iâm talking about - synchronicities.
Iâve been noticing lately, is this question: Now what?!
And, I've learned that when I notice these things - repeated words and messages, etc, I should pay attention.
Because when I ignore them, especially the nudges, the universe tends to then deliver a big ol' slap in the face. And I don't particularly enjoy being slapped in the face.
So, when I heard the question "Now what" in those words, from a bunch of different people, in a bunch of different contexts, I looked inward. What's my "now what?"
Today I talk about moving out of, what Dr. Joe Dispenza calls, the familiar past, and into a new desirable future - and, as always, it starts with a thought.
If you want something you've never had, you have to think something (possible) you've never thought (possible).
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Heads Up: this episode may trigger (or as I like to refer to it, "activate") you. I encourage you not to shy away from your feelings. Allow them to come. Sit with them. Get curious. Don't be afraid of your emotions - whatever they may be. They are clues to what drives you (in either direction). Remember, the only dangerous emotion is a suppressed emotion.
With this being National Indigenous History Month, and the recent discovery of mass unmarked graves at some of Canada's residential schools weighing heavily on my mind and heart recently. I didn't think I could do an episode on anything else this week.
Below are some resources I've learned about recently - PLEASE share any that you know!!
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94 Calls to Action - Truth & Reconciliation Commission of Canada
Indian Residential School Survivors Society
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Nunatta Sunakkutaangit Museum - Voices From Nunavut
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They Called Me Number One - Bev Sellars
Five Little Indians - Michelle Good
The Education of Augie Merasty - Joseph Auguste Merasty
Dear Canada, These Are My Words - Ruby Slipperjack
Broken Circle - Theodore Fontaine
Up Ghost River - Edmund Metatawabin
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Have you ever been in an audience of something and someone coughs, and it seems to start a chain reaction of coughing. Or, youâre talking to someone, and they scratch their nose, so then you scratch yours?
Ever wonder why?
Well, it may be, at least partly due to something called, mirror neurons. Mirror neurons were discovered accidentally, in macaque monkeys in 1992.
A mirror neuron is a neuron that fires both when an animal acts and when the animal observes the same action performed by another. They are neurons inside your mind that mirror whatâs happening outside.
They allow us to run a sort of virtual reality simulation of what it would be like for ourself to perform that action.
The scientific community got very excited about the discovery or mirror neurons and the possible implications of their purpose and function, hypothesizing their significance in empathy, learning, evolution, healing, and even autism.
Can anybody truly be themselves, or are we all just a bunch of Copy Cats?
Today, we dive into the fascinating world of mirror neurons.
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If I told you I'd give you $1000 to work out every day for a year, do you think you'd do it?
The answer might surprise you! Studies show that external rewards (like money), can actually have negative effects on motivation! Not only that, but they squelch creativity, encourage cheating and can result in exploitation of the reward-based system.
Like most things, the answers are within.
Intrinsic motivation is long-lasting, and has positive benefits to self-esteem, resilience, achievement, and engagement.
In the 1940s, Professor Harry F. Harlow discovered intrinsic motivation while he was studying rhesus monkeys. Up until then, it was believed there were only 2 types of motivation, and external rewards were believed to offer the greatest motivation for behaviour. Harlow proved that untrue.
However, his discovery didn't become validated until 2 decades later when Edward Deci picked up where Harlow left off. He discovered that not only did extrinsic reward not increase motivation, it actually decreased it.
In 2011, Daniel H. Pink published the book, Drive, on the matter. In it he identified the 3 pillars of intrinsic motivation as:Today we dive in!!
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We are all just in this human experience, trying to figure things out as we go.
And sometimes we get it wrong. Sometimes we get it REALLY wrong. And when that happens, we can be hard on ourselves.
And when the coin is flipped, and itâs about other people, we can be really hard on them! We throw the baby out with the bathwater, as they say. We judge the whole by some of its parts.
And we do this all the time, in big ways and small.
Someone cuts us off in traffic, and we yell (internally, if not out loud), âA-$h*le!â
Someone makes a mistake, or says something, or does something, thoughtless, or unkind, or even maybe racist, and we peg them as âan idiotâ, âa jerkâ, like thatâs their whole being.
Weâve created this binary, where we expect all or nothing - youâre either a good person, or bad, youâre either batting a thousand, or striking out. Thereâs no middle ground.
Weâve created this impossible standard of perfection where anything less than perfection means youâre a bad person.
We need to move away from the idea that being a good person is a fixed characteristic, and shift toward seeing being good as a practice that we carry out by engaging with our imperfections.
If an apple has a bruise, we donât throw the whole thing out, we just cut out the bruise, or eat around it.
We can hate something someone did, and still love them as a person.
Everybody makes mistakes.
Even monkeys fall from trees.
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Have you ever sat down to get a moment's rest, take a "brain break", or meditate, or even gone for a "peaceful" walk in nature, and all that starts running through your mind is all the terrible stuff that has happened in your past, or all the terrible things that might happen in your future?
What's up with that?!
Well, it turns out, we have a "demon" in our brain. Our DMN (Default Mode Network), like most other functions of our brain, is designed to keep us safe by running all the negative programming - scanning through our memories, and projecting them into our future - when our brains are at rest, in order to alert us of possible danger.
A human mind, is a wandering mind. And a wandering mind is an unhappy mind.
But don't worry, today I'll explain what exactly the DMN is, what it does, and how to conquer it, so you can increase your emotional intelligence (and that of the Little Brains around you), and gain more Bliss into your life!
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You are the boss of your brain!
We are sleepwalking our way through life. 80-95% of our daily decisions and actions, are made on autopilot - by our subconscious... without our having to think about them consciously - without our permission, even. We are letting our subconscious run the show - and we don't even know we're doing it.
Those automations are formed by the repeated thoughts and feelings we had as a child - based on what we saw and experienced of the people around us.
Your beliefs run the show. You make decisions and take actions based on those beliefs. And then, the results you see in life, the things you have (and have not), the reality you live, is a result of those decisions and actions.
It all starts with a thought.
And the thoughts and actions I've seen from "Little Brains" around me, are heartbreaking. 6 year-olds calling themselves stupid, 10 year-olds committing suicide. THIS is why I started Teaching Little Brains! To help those "Little Brains" (and the big brains who love and teach them - YOU) that you are not your thoughts!
Your brain is programmed to search for threats, and present you with negative thoughts, in order to keep you safe. Your brain is just doing what it's been programmed to do for millions of years - it's why you're alive now, in fact.
And the good news is that now that you know this, you can hack the system. You can choose what thoughts we have, and which we repeat, and therefore which beliefs we want to keep, and which ones we want to rewire. You are the true master of your mind. YOU are the boss of your brain! You can physically rewire the networks in your brain to automate the thoughts and beliefs you want to have - the ones that serve, and move you toward being, doing, and having the things you want in life - and prune away the ones that do not.
Everything I've learned, and everyone I've learned it from, emphasizes the importance that "We need to learn this in school!" And so, I created a video learning series to help make that a reality.
My Be The Boss Of Your Brain video series is ideal for classrooms and families! It breaks down the neuroscience into bite-sized pieces that are easy and engaging for "Little Brains" (and big ones). Each video is accompanied by a creative brief / challenge to apply the learning, and some prompting questions, to help you dig deeper into the concepts. GET IT HERE!!!
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When was the last time you had a good cry?
Did you know that our tears contain natural pain-killers?
Emotional tears are made of higher concentrations of toxins that accumulate during stress. The hormones, including adrenocorticotropic hormone & leucine enkephalin (a natural painkiller), get excreted from the body through crying, suggesting that crying helps in balancing stress hormone levels.
Additional studies also suggest that crying stimulates the production of endorphins, another of our bodyâs natural pain killers, and âfeel-goodâ hormones.â
Stress tightens muscles and heightens tension. Crying helps to purge those pent up emotions, so they donât lodge in your body as stress symptoms such as fatigue or pain. Crying activates the parasympathetic nervous system and restores the body to a state of balance. Typically, after crying, our breathing, and heart rate decrease, and we enter into a calmer biological and emotional state.
Some cultures consider crying to be undignified, or that itâs ok for women and girls, but not men and boys, or that it should be done in private, not publicThe good news is that you get to choose what you believe. If you donât like the idea that crying is shameful, then you can choose what you believe about it, instead.
Tears also express a need for help and foster willingness to help in an observer.
Many of us have been brought up to believe that you need a REASON - and not just any reason, but a GOOD REASON to cry.... Do you remember being asked as a kid âWhy are you crying?â âDonât be sadâ or being told âThereâs no reason to cry!â Have you caught yourself saying those things to yourself, or the Little Brains in your life? I have - and have since shifted my language.But, sometimes we just donât know why. Havenât you ever had a moment where you just want to cry, and you donât know why? You donât have a reason? You just want to, or need to, or feel inclined to cry.
Because emotions are not logical.
When we try to apply our grown-up logic and reason to illogical, un-reason-able emotions, we perpetuate the notion that you have to have a reason to feel something, and if you donât have a reason, and a good one at that, you shouldnât feel that emotion.That some emotions are good, and justified, and some are not - theyâre frivolous or shameful.
The truth is, for both men and women, tears are a sign of courage, strength, and authenticity. They are a sign of release of stress and toxins.
We need to let go of outdated, untrue, conceptions about crying. And we need to become comfortable in our discomfort when we cry - especially in front of others, or someone else cries in front of us.
It is good to cry. It is healthy to cry. It helps to emotionally clear sadness and stress.
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A few weeks ago, Roni Habib from EQ Schools, co-hosted an incredible and interactive (virtual of course) keynote event for educational staff in our area.... and beyond.
Roni shared his genius with us around Emotional Intelligence, mental wellness, and rest, and engaged us in some simple, fun, and impactful activities and techniques that we could easily implement daily for ourselves, and with our students to benefit our wellness.
Our mutual purpose and vision is so aligned that I knew I had to invite him here to talk to us asap! Even the catalyst for each of our work has a very similar, and unfortunately tragic, foundation.
Roni is an expert in helping leaders, educators, and parents, become happier, more resilient, more connected to their purpose, and more playful. The founder of EQ Schools, he leads workshops and speaks in organizations nationally and abroad.
Early in his career, Roni struggled with the high stresses and demands of teaching even losing touch with why he wanted to be a teacher in the first place. It was so painful that he finally discovered the power of integrating mindfulness, emotional intelligence, and positive psychology in his own life as well as in his classroom and felt called to share this new approach with the world.
In the first four years of establishing EQ Schools, Roni has taught and inspired thousands of Teachers, Principals, Superintendents, and Parents.
Prior to earning his Masters of Education and teaching credential at Harvard University, he lived in Israel and Belgium. Most importantly though, Roni has a huge heart and loves helping people.
I'm so excited to share this episode with you, and would love to hear your takeaways! Enjoy!
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Do the "Little Brains" in your life love watching, listening to, and/or doing the same thing over and over...and over...and over again?
What's up with that?
I decided to ask an expert, 6-year-old, Zoey Nykoruk why she loves hearing the same book, same podcast, and watching the same movie over and over... and over again. She had some interesting things to say about repetition.
And then, I did some research and found out even more interesting things about our affinity for repetition.
It turns out, it's not just Little Brains who love it - us big kids love it too.
It's how we learn new skills, how our brains seek connection, what makes songs so catchy, and how we build beliefs... and we're sensitive to it even before we're born!
Join me inside to learn more!
This week's episode is dedicated to my friend and colleague, Matt Coleman, who posed the focus question that inspired this episode, and whose son, Quinn, shares Zoey's affinity for repetition (whose podcast Zoey likes to listen to... repeatedly!)
Special thanks to Claire Gillespie, who sent me lovely encouraging message right when I needed it most! Thank you, Claire!
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Today we're going to get uncomfortable in the uncomfortable. We're going to give your brain a workout.
Has someone ever said something to you like âOh my goodness, thank you so much, that was so helpful!â and you respond with something like âWell, I didnât do anything!"Or, âCongratulations on that award! Thatâs so great!â and you brush it off with a âOh my gosh! No, So-and-so should have gotten it. I didnât do anything to deserve itâ
Or even âOh my gosh! You totally smashed your goal!â âNo, that doesnât COUNT, I didnât earn it!â
So, what is that? Whatâs that about? Why do we do that?
Why do we not feel we deserve the praise or acknowledgement people give us? I mean, we crave it - we tie our worth to IT, but then we donât ACCEPT it when it comes. Crazy!
When we come into the world, all naked and squirmy and giggly (or screaming), we have one frequency. One vibration. Love. And, that has been scientifically proven by the way, like with tools and gear and gadgets and smart people.We emerge head first (or in some cases feet or bum first) adorable little bundles of love and wonder.
We have no doubts about our capabilities, reservations about our worth, no concerns that we didnât DO anything to EARN the nourishment that is given to us, that we are not deserving of the love, or clothing, or bath from the people caring for us.
That is all learned. And itâs all bull$h!t!
BOTH of these concepts (worth and deservingness) are human constructs. Do you know what that means? It means, humans made them up. They're completely made up concepts.So, YES! You are you deserving of everything you want. And.. NO! No one is deserving of anything, because being deserving is not even a real thing.!
WHAAAAAAAAAAT?!?!?!
Join me today as I share some mind-bending perspectives and ideas that will stretch the edges of your comfort zone, and possibly blow your mind wide open!
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