Episodes
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Why Is Dating So Hard? It's a common question I see asked or pondered by a lot of people.
Here are a few things I cover:
1) We are afraid to “fail” – so we don’t try.
2) We aren’t taught how to date or be attractive. It’s more blanket theory that loses its practicality. ("Just be confident"etc.)
3) The Difficulties of finding needles in a haystacks.
4) Not understanding your true value.
5) Trying to run before they can walk.
6) Unrealistic expectations of self and others.
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Questions:
"Become less political"
I try not to be but it seems anymore the things I say always have some political twists to them. It seems anytime I read a news story, watch a movie, or just read a book I always tend to see and interpret it in a political sense. I’ve been trying for a while to kick this nasty habit and am struggling.Anyone else dealing with this or have any useful advice? I know it sounds simple but damn.
"Advice for 30s?"
I’m 35 now and dating a lot through apps. I keep wondering if I should be more mature or more playful/exciting. I got my life together and love where I’m at, but in an attraction lull (not hitting it off the way I was when I was a broke, depressed musician). I’m worried I’m coming across as a sweater vest wearing dork as girls keep complaining about the burning man guy in their 30s, but keep dating the burning man guy in their 30s. Kind of like the Mark Manson thing of girls wanting to sleep with the guy sleeping on friend’s couches. Any experience with this?"How do you get into a deep emotional conversation or emotional state with someone?"
I’m not very good at feeling emotions and I’d say my emotional intelligence is incredibly poor. I’m very logical with everything I do. A lot of women find me attractive and they find me interesting because I love to learn about a lot of various things that people wish they could do. A big problem for me is when I’m attracted to someone or even with anyone, guy or girl. I don’t know how to get past a surface level relationship with people and get to a more deep and emotional state.Says she's interested, but that I need to be patient?
Recently approached a girl from a class last semester. Got her snap and then asked her to get coffee that weekend, she said she was busy, but if I was patient, we could later on.Okay, sounds like a rejection -- right?
Another week goes by and we're snapping back and forth, sending selfies and dumb shit. So, I ask again about getting coffee later on in the week. She says that she's interested, but that she's incredibly busy working two jobs and that I just need to be patient. Almost what she said last time, but instead saying that she IS interested.
I've heard the "busy" thing before, but this is something else. Been about a week since she said that, and we're still snapping once in a while.
Should I just pull away and see what happens, or is this a dead end?
"How much should you pay attention to texting patterns?"
So I'm trying to get with this chick. Usually, I try not to pay attention to text patterns but her text patterns have annoyed me to the point where I'm thinking about never hitting her up again.Now she's cool and I've already hung out with her twice... she always continues the convo(I'm usually the last to stop texting) texts me back long answers, seems very excited about me talking to her and also even texts me first a decent amount. Shes even suggested going out in the city sometime. Problem is...she takes too damn long to respond!!! I'll text her and at the least, she will take 30 mins, sometimes even hours to respond even when she texts me first.
I know she's in grad school and probably "busy" but at the end of the day, it's 2018... Everyone is always on their phone in this day and age, and I don't think it's possible to be that bad of a texter. Which is why I'm thinking of deading her.
I honestly think she either has a hard time in simply showing or stating she's not interested or she's playing a silly game of hard to get.
I'm not really hung up on her and probably wouldn't date her right now but I JUST moved to a new city and I don't have that many options rn so that's probably why I'm a little madder at this situation than I normally would be. Any suggestions? I'm leaning towards deading but maybe I just need to be more straightforward (even though she'll probably take 15 hours to respond lol).
THANKS FOR LISTENING!
"Some girls are strange"
I guess this is just a rant, but why do some girls make the initiative to introduce themselves, then you guys are friends
and hang out for a good bit of time (2 months or so), and when you make your move, she tells you "no, but we can be friends", and then you never hear from her again? I guess she's just filling her time. I need to stop with this whole needing an emotional connection first bullshit.If you're terrified of rejection, make sure you grab my guide called "rejection proof" just go to wwww.honestcasanova.com/rejection/
If you've just been dumped, make sure you grab your guide to the biggest mistakes you need to avoid after a breakup. Go to http://www.honestcasanova.com/breakup/
And finally, if you really want to transform your dating life, attract some high-quality women and become the confident man you wish you were, then check out my flagship course at http://www.honestcasanova.com/course
To share your thoughts:
Ask a question over on The Honest Casanova Community. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/HonestCasanova/) Share this show on Twitter or Facebook. Email me at [email protected]. -
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I am currently 4 weeks out from my first Men's Physique competition, and it got me thinking about how great it is to have a coach in your corner. A professional to help you grow as a person, to keep you accountable, to ENSURE that you get results.
I am no stranger to coaching. I've invested a lot of money into myself (Over $22,000 at least - most likely higher. So what have I learned?
In this episode, I outline what I've learned, why coaching is so valuable, and what to expect.
If you want to book a discovery call with me (Usually $100 - but I'll waive it for a short time) then click here: https://calendly.com/honest-casanova/discovery
THANKS FOR LISTENING!If you're terrified of rejection, make sure you grab my guide called "rejection proof" just go to wwww.honestcasanova.com/rejection/
If you've just been dumped, make sure you grab your guide to the biggest mistakes you need to avoid after a breakup. Go to http://www.honestcasanova.com/breakup/
And finally, if you really want to transform your dating life, attract some high-quality women and become the confident man you wish you were, then check out my flagship course at http://www.honestcasanova.com/course
To share your thoughts:
Ask a question over on The Honest Casanova Community. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/HonestCasanova/) Share this show on Twitter or Facebook. Email me at [email protected]. -
Congruency matters – a lot. People can tell when someone is acting incongruent. And with regards to attracting the right women, congruency will make or break your chances with them.
LINKS:The Big 5 Personality Test: https://www.truity.com/test/big-five-personality-test
Myers-Briggs Personality Assessment: https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
Book: “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" (Susan Cain): https://amzn.to/2wsrSUE
THANKS FOR LISTENING!If you're terrified of rejection, make sure you grab my guide called "rejection proof" just go to wwww.honestcasanova.com/rejection/
If you've just been dumped, make sure you grab your guide to the biggest mistakes you need to avoid after a breakup. Go to http://www.honestcasanova.com/breakup/
And finally, if you really want to transform your dating life, attract some high-quality women and become the confident man you wish you were, then check out my flagship course at http://www.honestcasanova.com/course
To share your thoughts:
Ask a question over on The Honest Casanova Community. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/HonestCasanova/) Share this show on Twitter or Facebook. Email me at [email protected]. -
What does it mean to be a real alpha male? A real man that women are attracted to, like flies on shit. A man who commands respect, goes after what he wants - and fucks life into submission.
It turns out, alphas have specific character traits. Traits that ANY man can develop. So I've got my buddy George Kats back on the podcast so we can talk about how to become an INTEGRAL Alpha male.
Enjoy.
George's FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theintegralalpha/
THANKS FOR LISTENING!If you're terrified of rejection, make sure you grab my guide called "rejection proof" just go to wwww.honestcasanova.com/rejection/
If you've just been dumped, make sure you grab your guide to the biggest mistakes you need to avoid after a breakup. Go to http://www.honestcasanova.com/breakup/
And finally, if you really want to transform your dating life, attract some high-quality women and become the confident man you wish you were, then check out my flagship course at http://www.honestcasanova.com/course
To share your thoughts:
Ask a question over on The Honest Casanova Community. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/HonestCasanova/) Share this show on Twitter or Facebook. Email me at [email protected]. -
Ajay is an ex-client of mine who came across the podcast at tia me when he was at rock bottom - after a breakup. In this episode w,e cover his amazing journey from rock bottom, to where he is today – where he is more confident, happier, and better than he has ever been.
If you're feeling lost or stuck, this might be the episode that inspires you to grow.
LINKS:HC069: http://podcast.honestcasanova.com/hc069-no-more-mr-nice-guy-with-dr-robert-glover/
Book: “No More Mr Nice Guy” (Dr Robert Glover): https://amzn.to/2MlQNDr
Book: “Models: Attract Women Through Honesty” (Mark Manson): https://amzn.to/2MrXSkP
Book: “The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire” (David Deida): https://amzn.to/2vLo9Ba
THANKS FOR LISTENING!If you're terrified of rejection, make sure you grab my guide called "rejection proof" just go to wwww.honestcasanova.com/rejection/
If you've just been dumped, make sure you grab your guide to the biggest mistakes you need to avoid after a breakup. Go to http://www.honestcasanova.com/breakup/
And finally, if you really want to transform your dating life, attract some high-quality women and become the confident man you wish you were, then check out my flagship course at http://www.honestcasanova.com/course
To share your thoughts:
Ask a question over on The Honest Casanova Community. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/HonestCasanova/) Share this show on Twitter or Facebook. Email me at [email protected]. -
What do you do to start cold-approach pickup when you're super anxious?
How do you get over crippling social anxiety?
What should you do when you feel "lost" and unsure about what to do with your life?This episode covers all of these, plus a little bit more. Enjoy.
THANKS FOR LISTENING!Thanks for listening to the Honest Casanova Podcast. It would mean a lot to me if you could hit that subscribe button on iTunes or whatever app you're using. The more of you that subscribe and give me a review and a 5-star rating, the more men I can reach and help.
If you're terrified of rejection, make sure you grab my guide called "rejection proof" just go to wwww.honestcasanova.com/rejection/
If you've just been dumped, make sure you grab your guide to the biggest mistakes you need to avoid after a breakup. Go to http://www.honestcasanova.com/breakup/
And finally, if you really want to transform your dating life, attract some high-quality women and become the confident man you wish you were, then check out my flagship course at http://www.honestcasanova.com/course
To share your thoughts:
Ask a question over on The Honest Casanova Community. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/HonestCasanova/) Share this show on Twitter or Facebook. Email me at [email protected]. -
Most men think that once you get a GF it's all over and you just run out the clock until death. Dating, pickup, seduction etc. is easy - it's being in a relationship that is hard work.
You get bored, things become monotonous, it can feel like groundhog day, you take each other for granted, you get annoyed at the tiniest of things, bicker over dumb shit, and ultimately you both lose sight of the big picture as you get stuck in the trenches of the battle of life.
This is where most guys will say "I'm goin' MGTOW" or whatever other boys club of emotional avoidance that they decide to join.
I’ve just painted a pretty ugly picture of what a relationship can be – but that was just some of the bad things that can transpire if you neglect to work ON the relationship.
Which doesn't mean you should avoid it, as a great relationship is where you will find the most fulfilment and self-growth in life (so long as you're dating the right person).
I’ve always talked about seducing a woman every day. This is why learning game is so important in your development as a male. Yes, some men go too far down the rabbit hole of pickup and become these game-robots that are emotionally avoidant narcissists that figuratively and literally fuck women over for a quick boost of ego. It’s just their way of avoiding intimacy from deep insecurities of unworthiness. But every man who wants to be successful, in ALL area’s of life, must have a great understanding of seduction and creating desire.
So how do you seduce her every day?
THANKS FOR LISTENING!Thanks for listening to the Honest Casanova Podcast. It would mean a lot to me if you could hit that subscribe button on iTunes or whatever app you're using. The more of you that subscribe and give me a review and a 5-star rating, the more men I can reach and help.
If you're terrified of rejection, make sure you grab my guide called "rejection proof" just go to wwww.honestcasanova.com/rejection/
If you've just been dumped, make sure you grab your guide to the biggest mistakes you need to avoid after a breakup. Go to http://www.honestcasanova.com/breakup/
And finally, if you really want to transform your dating life, attract some high-quality women and become the confident man you wish you were, then check out my flagship course at http://www.honestcasanova.com/course
To share your thoughts:
Ask a question over on The Honest Casanova Community. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/HonestCasanova/) Share this show on Twitter or Facebook. Email me at [email protected]. -
Is this episode about "Butt's" or "Buts"? Better listen to find out.
THANKS FOR LISTENINGThanks for listening to the Honest Casanova Podcast. It would mean a lot to me if you could hit that subscribe button on iTunes or whatever app you're using. The more of you that subscribe and give me a review and a 5-star rating, the more men I can reach and help.
If you're terrified of rejection, make sure you grab my guide called "rejection proof" just go to wwww.honestcasanova.com/rejection/
If you've just been dumped, make sure you grab your guide to the biggest mistakes you need to avoid after a breakup. Go to http://www.honestcasanova.com/breakup/
And finally, if you really want to transform your dating life, attract some high-quality women and become the confident man you wish you were, then check out my flagship course at http://www.honestcasanova.com/course
To share your thoughts:
Ask a question over on The Honest Casanova Community. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/HonestCasanova/) Share this show on Twitter or Facebook. Email me at [email protected]. -
How do you give a woman the night of her life, and make her want to come back for more?
Well... you've got to learn how to fuck like a champion.Dave Perrotta (PostGradCasanova.com) is back today as we talk about his new book "The Hook Up Handbook: 28 Fundamentals to Keep Her Coming Back for More." (https://amzn.to/2zLPZlh)
IF you want to give women the best sexual experiences, then this is the episode for you.
LINKS:Book: The Hook Up Handbook: 28 Fundamentals to Keep Her Coming Back for More." (https://amzn.to/2zLPZlh)
Book: "Conversation Casanova: How to Effortlessly Start Conversations and Flirt Like a Pro" (https://amzn.to/2NWZy3Z)
Podcast Episode: HC043 - How To Be Flirty As Fuck (http://podcast.honestcasanova.com/hc043-flirty-fk/)
THANKS FOR LISTENING!
Dave's Youtube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCl7GLJo420GdYP7mYZh-yEgThanks for listening to the Honest Casanova Podcast. It would mean a lot to me if you could hit that subscribe button on iTunes or whatever app you're using. The more of you that subscribe and give me a review and a 5-star rating, the more men I can reach and help.
If you're terrified of rejection, make sure you grab my guide called "rejection proof" just go to wwww.honestcasanova.com/rejection/
If you've just been dumped, make sure you grab your guide to the biggest mistakes you need to avoid after a breakup. Go to http://www.honestcasanova.com/breakup/
And finally, if you really want to transform your dating life, attract some high-quality women and become the confident man you wish you were, then check out my flagship course at http://www.honestcasanova.com/course
To share your thoughts:
Ask a question over on The Honest Casanova Community. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/HonestCasanova/) Share this show on Twitter or Facebook. Email me at [email protected]. -
Hey guys! It’s time for a Q&A. Here are today's questions:
What is growing yourself? Do you have any practical recommendations?
THANKS FOR LISTENING!
Does dressing nice, grooming, taking care of your skin etc make women more attracted to you?
How do I get over feeling bad about how I look?Thanks for listening to the Honest Casanova Podcast. It would mean a lot to me if you could hit that subscribe button on iTunes or whatever app you're using. The more of you that subscribe and give me a review and a 5-star rating, the more men I can reach and help.
If you're terrified of rejection, make sure you grab my guide called "rejection proof" just go to wwww.honestcasanova.com/rejection/
If you've just been dumped, make sure you grab your guide to the biggest mistakes you need to avoid after a breakup. Go to http://www.honestcasanova.com/breakup/
And finally, if you really want to transform your dating life, attract some high-quality women and become the confident man you wish you were, then check out my flagship course at http://www.honestcasanova.com/course
To share your thoughts:
Ask a question over on The Honest Casanova Community. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/HonestCasanova/) Share this show on Twitter or Facebook. Email me at [email protected]. -
If you're wanting everything to be "perfect" or are waiting for the "right moment" then this is for you. Perfectionism is usually just a cover for a fear of vulnerability, so I figured I'd do a #Yolo episode to get you men out of your heads and into action.
Raw. Unedited. Kind-of-a-shitfight.Perfectly imperfect.
Enjoy.
THANKS FOR LISTENING!Make sure you check out today’s sponsor SCENTBIRD (www.scentbird.com) and put in the code ‘HONEST25’ for 25% off your first purchase.
Thanks for listening to the Honest Casanova Podcast. It would mean a lot to me if you could hit that subscribe button on iTunes or whatever app you're using. The more of you that subscribe and give me a review and a 5-star rating, the more men I can reach and help.
If you're terrified of rejection, make sure you grab my guide called "rejection proof" just go to wwww.honestcasanova.com/rejection/
If you've just been dumped, make sure you grab your guide to the biggest mistakes you need to avoid after a breakup. Go to http://www.honestcasanova.com/breakup/
And finally, if you really want to transform your dating life, attract some high-quality women and become the confident man you wish you were, then check out my flagship course at http://www.honestcasanova.com/course
To share your thoughts:
Ask a question over on The Honest Casanova Community. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/HonestCasanova/) Share this show on Twitter or Facebook. Email me at [email protected]. -
"Women don't like me because I'm ugly!"
I hear this excuse all the time. It drives me nuts. Sure, looks count, but nowhere near as much as what you think. Most times I find the men that complain are using this shortcoming as an excuse so they don't have to confront what they really need to work on instead.
There is no point in me telling you my thoughts on ugly dudes doing well with women over and over, so I decided to get Jade back on the podcast and get her perspective on what actually makes a man ugly.It isn't what you think.
THANKS FOR LISTENING!Make sure you check out today's sponsor SCENTBIRD (www.scentbird.com) and put in the code ‘HONEST25’ for 25% off your first purchase.
Thanks for listening to the Honest Casanova Podcast. It would mean a lot to me if you could hit that subscribe button on iTunes or whatever app you're using. The more of you that subscribe and give me a review and a 5-star rating, the more men I can reach and help.
If you're terrified of rejection, make sure you grab my guide called "rejection proof" just go to wwww.honestcasanova.com/rejection/
If you've just been dumped, make sure you grab your guide to the biggest mistakes you need to avoid after a breakup. Go to http://www.honestcasanova.com/breakup/
And finally, if you really want to transform your dating life, attract some high-quality women and become the confident man you wish you were, then check out my flagship course at http://www.honestcasanova.com/course
To share your thoughts:
Ask a question over on The Honest Casanova Community. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/HonestCasanova/) Share this show on Twitter or Facebook. Email me at [email protected]. -
If you aren’t attracting the type of women you want to attract RIGHT NOW there is something that you are doing that is preventing you from this.
Might be the wrong place. Wrong strategy. Wrong bait. Or a combination of all.To attract high-quality women – the ones YOU deem as high quality – you must first identify her.
Just go to www.honestcasanova.com/call to book your call with me.
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