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In this powerful episode of the Sober Friends podcast, host Matt shares his deeply personal experience with Step 2 of Alcoholics Anonymous, tackling one of recovery's most challenging hurdles: connecting with a higher power. Whether you're new to sobriety, curious about AA, or a seasoned veteran in recovery, Matt's candid storytelling breaks down the misconceptions about spirituality in recovery and offers fresh perspectives on finding your own path.
Key highlights include:
Confronting the "God thing" in AA without religious pressureCreative alternatives to traditional concepts of a higher powerReal talk about the challenges of early sobriety and meeting attendancePractical advice for working through Step 2 at your own paceHow humility and openness become stepping stones to recoveryPerfect for the sober curious, newcomers to AA, or anyone seeking understanding about the role of spirituality in addiction recovery. Matt's authentic approach and vulnerable sharing make this complex topic accessible and relatable for everyone, regardless of their religious or spiritual background.
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When life feels overwhelming, where do we find the resilience to get through it? In this episode, Matt and Steve have an honest discussion about coping with stress, loss, and difficult news. They explore strategies like finding purpose, building community, and focusing on what's within your control. With empathy and real-life examples, they provide hope and practical advice for anyone struggling to maintain their sobriety or wellbeing during challenging times.
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Acknowledging the validity of your feelings, even if they don't match others' experiencesUsing coping mechanisms like exercise, meditation, and spending time in natureCultivating a sense of purpose and looking for ways to be of service to othersLeaning on your support network and recovery communityMaintaining healthy routines and habits to provide stabilityThis episode is perfect for listeners in recovery, as well as anyone seeking guidance on building resilience and finding joy even in the midst of life's storms. With thoughtful discussion and relatable stories, Matt and Steve offer a compassionate roadmap for weathering challenges.
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Anger and resentment can feel like a never-ending battle, especially for those in recovery. In this raw and relatable conversation, hosts Matt and Steve dive deep into their personal struggles with these challenging emotions. From childhood trauma to strained relationships, they share how anger has impacted their lives and sobriety.
Discover strategies they've learned through therapy, the 12 steps, and outside resources to manage these powerful feelings. Hear about those "ah-ha" moments that shifted their perspectives, as well as the setbacks they continue to face. Whether you're grappling with your own anger demons or supporting a loved one, this episode offers hope and practical advice for finding more peace.
Don't miss this honest discussion about a topic that's all too common, yet often stigmatized. Tune in to learn how Matt and Steve are working to reclaim their power and rebuild the relationships that matter most. Your own journey with anger and resentment may just find validation here.Do you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.
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Looking for deeper connections in recovery? Join Steve and Matt as they explore the transformative power of recovery retreats. From intimate 35-person gatherings to step-focused weekends, discover how these getaways offer more than just a break from daily life. Learn why investing in a retreat might be exactly what your recovery needs, whether you're newly sober or years into your journey. Steve shares his recent retreat experience, including a powerful revelation about anger and emotions, while Matt reflects on how retreats helped him early in sobriety. This episode demystifies recovery retreats and shows how they can strengthen your program through fellowship, structured discussion, and meaningful connections with others serious about their recovery. Perfect for anyone curious about taking their recovery to the next level or seeking deeper connections in the program.
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Are you questioning your relationship with alcohol but thinking "I haven't lost everything yet"? In this raw and revealing episode, we dive into what it really means to be a "high bottom" alcoholic in today's world.
Matt shares his personal struggle with Step One, challenging the traditional "rock bottom" narrative from the 1930s Big Book. From the exhausting mental gymnastics of "just one drink" to the profound revelation that unmanageability isn't always about losing homes or jobs โ sometimes it's the quiet chaos in your head that's the real wake-up call.
Key moments in this episode:
The eye-opening story of a family gathering that became a battlefield of "should I drink?" decisionsWhy comparing your story to others might be keeping you stuckThe unexpected conversation with a well-heeled woman that changed everythingWhat unmanageability really looks like when you still have the house, the job, and the familyWhether you identify as a "high bottom" drinker or you're just questioning your relationship with alcohol, this episode offers a fresh perspective on what it means to be powerless over alcohol in today's world. You don't have to wait until you lose it all to make a change.
๐ง First episode in our special series exploring the 12 Steps through a modern lens.
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Are you stuck in survival mode, always waiting for that "one thing" to make you happy? In this raw and insightful episode, Matt shares a powerful revelation from an AA meeting that struck him "square between the eyes." Discover how the constant struggle to just get by can fuel addiction, and learn how embracing vulnerability and asking for help can transform mere survival into true thriving. Whether you're newly sober or years into recovery, this episode offers a fresh perspective on breaking free from the survival mindset and building a life of purpose and fulfillment. Tune in for practical tips on silencing negative self-talk, finding value beyond external measures, and unlocking your potential to not just survive, but truly thrive in sobriety.
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Join us for an illuminating conversation with Tricia Lewis, host of the Recovery Happy Hour podcast and advocate for inclusive sobriety. In this episode, we dive deep into the evolving landscape of recovery, challenging traditional notions of what it means to be "alcoholic" and exploring the diverse paths to sobriety in today's world.
Tricia shares her personal journey and insights on:
Why you don't need to hit "rock bottom" to choose sobrietyThe role of non-alcoholic beverages in recoveryNavigating trauma and mental health in sobrietyBreaking free from rigid recovery labelsThe importance of finding your own path while staying connected to communityWhether you're sober curious, in recovery, or just interested in understanding modern approaches to sobriety, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on creating a life beyond alcohol. Discover why sobriety isn't just about survivalโit's about learning to thrive.
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In this raw and honest episode, Matt and Steve dive deep into the challenging journey of self-forgiveness and building self-worth in recovery. They explore how the weight of past mistakes can fuel addiction and hinder progress, sharing personal stories of their own struggles and triumphs.
Discover practical strategies for letting go of guilt, embracing patience in personal growth, and finding self-esteem through "estimable acts." Whether you're new to sobriety or years into your journey, this episode offers valuable insights on:
Overcoming imposter syndrome and feelings of inadequacyThe power of making amends and owning your pastFinding balance between self-improvement and self-acceptanceHow to build self-esteem through small, meaningful actionsJoin Matt and Steve for this powerful discussion on transforming self-doubt into self-compassion โ an essential step in maintaining long-term sobriety and living a fulfilling life in recovery.
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In this thought-provoking episode, we dive deep into a compelling New York Times article that challenges how we view obesityโis it a disease or just a symptom of a larger issue? This sparks a broader conversation about alcoholism and addiction. Could it be that, like obesity, alcoholism is merely masking deeper, underlying problems?
Join Matt and Steve as they explore their personal journeys with recovery and weight loss, drawing fascinating parallels between the two. They discuss the struggles of overcoming addiction, whether to alcohol or food, and how societal perceptions might be missing the mark. Is it time to rethink how we approach recovery and treatment?
Whether youโre navigating your own path to recovery or simply curious about a new way to think about addiction, this episode is sure to spark some insightful reflections. Plus, donโt miss the link to the original article for a deeper dive into this eye-opening perspective!
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Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction by Judith GriselDo you find value in what the Sober Friends Podcast does? Consider buying us a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/soberfriendspod. Your donation helps us with hosting and website fees and allows up to maintain our equipment. You keep us on the air for the new guy or gal.
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Are you feeling stuck in your recovery journey, seeing the same faces and hearing the same stories over and over again? Youโre not alone. In this episode, we dive deep into the rut that many of us experience and how stepping out of your comfort zone can reignite your passion for sobriety. Join Matt as he shares his recent experience as a speaker at a virtual newcomerโs meeting, where the fresh energy and diverse voices revitalized his commitment to service. We also explore the value of switching up your routine, from virtual meetings with international participants to intimate small group gatherings, and the unexpected ways these can help combat that feeling of disconnection. Whether youโre struggling with motivation or just curious about how others are keeping things fresh, this episode is packed with insights and practical tips to help you reconnect with your recovery. Tune in, and letโs rediscover the joy of the journey together!
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In this episode of the Sober Friends Podcast, we dive into the deep end of social anxiety and imposter syndromeโtwo common struggles that many of us face, especially on our sober journeys. Join us as we share personal stories of navigating awkward social situations, feeling like outsiders, and the challenge of finding our place in new communities. Whether itโs at a kidโs soccer game or a fancy dinner party, weโve all experienced those moments of not fitting in. But what do we do when these feelings become overwhelming, and how can we learn to cope without turning to alcohol?
Weโll also explore the surprising connections between social anxiety and drinking in isolation, and share practical strategies for building connections, one person at a time. Plus, a heartfelt shoutout to our amazing listener who bought us a coffee and shared how our podcast helps them stay positive on their sober path. If youโre struggling with social anxiety, or just want to hear some relatable stories and tips on staying true to your sober self, this episode is for you.
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In this deeply personal episode, we dive into the striking parallels between food indulgence and the battles of addiction. It all started with a simple craving for greasy food that spiraled into a night of severe discomfort and unexpected reflection. Join us as we explore how one small slip-up triggered memories of past struggles with alcohol, leading to a profound conversation about recovery, self-destruction, and the daily battles to maintain sobriety. Whether itโs greasy food or alcohol, sometimes the things we enjoy the most are the ones we must learn to live without. This episode is a candid look at why we fall into destructive patterns, how we pick ourselves back up, and the vital importance of sharing our stories along the way.
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The fourth and fifth steps can cause a lot of fear when we first come into a twelve step group. For me, they were liberating. We discuss why the fourth and fifth steps are so important. This is not a how to, this is why they are great steps, how they help you learn more about yourself and why you drink and help you understand how to stay away from the bottle. The fifth step helps you build trust and to have a deep conversation with an another alcoholic about your defects and how you have similarities.
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In this episode, we dive deep into the world of sobriety among well-known public figures. From presidents to Hollywood stars, many famous faces have openly battled addiction, offering both inspiration and complex reflections on the struggle with substance abuse. Steve and I explore what it means to see these celebrities maintain sobriety, how it resonates with those of us in recovery, and whether their stories bring hope or highlight the harsh realities of this relentless disease. Join us as we discuss the triumphs and trials of living a sober life, no matter the resources at hand.
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You get both of these amazing episodes in one day! If you have not listened to my excellent interview with William Schaberg, then you are in luck today! If you have, you'll love going over this again! I hope you consider buying his book, "Writing the Big Book," which I will link in the notes. You'll be blown away by Bill's insight.
What really happened when Ebby Thatcher visited Bill Wilson (The Kitchen Table Story)The problem with most AA historyThe many stories Bill told on how the steps were writtenWho really wrote, โTo Wives,โ and the urban legends about this chapterHank Parkhurtโs role in writing the Big Book and his later resentment of Bill Wilson
In Part 2 of the interview with Bill Schaberg, we discuss:Check out Bill Schaberg's site writingthebigbook.com where you can pick up his book, Writing the Big Book.
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I love this episode and its so far in the back of the catalogue, you may not have seen it, especially if you are a new listener. I got the privilege of interviewing William Schaberg, author of the book, "Writing the Big Book." To me, it's the definitive history of the period when Bill write the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. Here is what we discuss:
The genesis of the why he wrote the bookBill Wโs realization of why a book was writtenBill Wโs original plan to help alcoholics recoverHank Pankhurst - the founder that drank and how there would be no Big Book without himThe Oxford Group - how the originals got soberBill Schabergโs controversial take on who should be on the AA Mount RushmoreCheck out Bill Schaberg's site writingthebigbook.com where you can pick up his book, Writing the Big Book.
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In this episode of the Sober Friends Podcast, Matt dives deep into the often challenging topic of faith and spirituality in recovery. Reflecting on his personal struggles with the concept of a higher power, Matt shares his experiences and doubts, from growing up in a Catholic household to grappling with the notion of an afterlife. He explores the conflicts many face when reconciling scientific reasoning with spiritual beliefs, especially within the context of sobriety and 12-step programs.
Join us as Matt candidly discusses the feelings of envy towards those with strong faith, the fear of vulnerability in giving control over to a higher power, and the desire for a more concrete understanding of the divine. Whether you're religious, agnostic, or just curious, this episode offers a thought-provoking exploration of belief, doubt, and the quest for meaning in a sober life. Tune in to connect with Matt's journey and share your own experiences and insights on faith in sobriety.
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I struggle with what I can't control. If things are not going my way and I have no control over it, it can cause me great stress. That's when I think of the serenity prayer and try to learn from it's wisdom. In this episode, we discuss those things we think we'd control much better and learn when to let go.
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Join Steve and Matt in this enlightening episode as they delve into the transformative power of peace, serenity, and mindfulness. They discuss the importance of recognizing the universe working in our favor and the profound impact of the 11th Step Prayer, also known as the Prayer of Saint Francis. Steve shares his personal journey of navigating sobriety, the challenges of maintaining a spiritual practice, and the benefits of incorporating prayer and meditation into daily routines. Discover how these practices, alongside mindful exercise, can help cultivate inner peace and improve overall well-being. Whether you're struggling with personal challenges or seeking ways to enhance your spiritual life, this episode offers valuable insights and practical tips for creating a more centered and harmonious existence.
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Summer is a time we get out of the house and start socializing. For those of us without the alcohol crutch, how do you survive? We talk about it on this week's episode. Having a 12 step group is helpful because you have a group of people you know. Even if you don't belong to a fellowship, you can learn some tricks to stay sober and happy!
Have a planLeave if you have toTake two carsBring your own drinksWe talk about how to survive socializing without booze this week.
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