Episodes
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In this episode of Untidy, Matilda and Hannah are joined once again by returning guest and fan fav, sex and relationships therapist, Jo Robertson, this time to talk about the very real dangers children are facing online.
Content Warning: This episode contains discussions around child grooming and online sexual exploitation. Listener discretion is advised. Please listen with care for yourself and others around you.
With nearly two decades of professional experience in sexual health, child development, and trauma, Jo brings deep expertise to the table as she breaks down the alarming trends in online harm. From predatory contact on social media platforms to the rise of self-generated sexual content among children, Jo reveals what’s really happening when kids are left to their own devices.
She shares her insights from working with the Before 16 campaign, which is lobbying to raise the legal age of social media access from 13 to 16. Jo explains why current laws and parental controls aren't enough, why big tech isn’t keeping pace with predators, and how New Zealand is falling far behind other nations in digital safety policy.
But this episode isn’t just about problems, it’s packed with practical advice. Jo outlines how to start tricky but essential conversations with children, and how parents can use both control and influence to keep their kids safe in the digital world.
This conversation is a must-listen for any parent or caregiver navigating the online world with kids.
Links as mentioned in the show:
Before 16 Campaign & Petition Tricky Chats Parenting Course Yoti Age Verification Info RNZ Article: The teens saying no to social media (and yes to brick phones)If you want to hear more from Jo, listen to her previous episodes on Untidy called, ‘Navigating New Sexual Landscapes with Jo Robertson’, ‘Sex and relationships Q&A (Part one) with Jo Robertson’, ‘Sex and relationships Q&A (Part two) with Jo Robertson’, on your favourite podcast app.
You can find Jo and a lot of resources via her website https://www.jorobertson.org/, and on Instagram @jorobertson.therapy. You can also sign up for her parenting course @trickychatsparenting by visiting the Tricky Chats Parenting website.
If you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
Don’t forget! Untidy is made for YOU — the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order.
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In this mini-episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah revisit one of our most powerful conversations with author and researcher Kasey Edwards, the co-author of the books 'Raising Girls Who Like Themselves', and, 'Bringing up Boys who Like Themselves'. Kasey discusses what it really means to raise emotionally resilient boys in today’s world.
Kasey challenges the long-held idea that boys need to be ‘tough’ to survive, and suggests that resilience comes from helping boys develop emotional bravery. She explains how ‘toughness’ often leads to fragility, not strength, and why helping our boys feel, name, and carry their emotions is the key to raising good men.
This is a must-listen for anyone raising boys who want to grow into confident, connected, emotionally intelligent men.
To hear the full episodes with Kasey, head to:
Raising kids who like themselves with Kasey Edwards on Spotify Raising kids who like themselves with Kasey Edwards on AppleIf you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
Don’t forget! Untidy is made for YOU — the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order.
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In this chaotic episode of Untidy, Matilda and Hannah come in hot (and festering) with gripping chat about the questionable states of their drink bottles and the confusing double standards of various hygiene rules.
Matilda gets hit on in a hotel lift and Hannah reveals how successful influencing has her with the facial skin of and infant. There’s full analysis of Apple Watch data she’s collected while having midday “Pilates” in committed example of ‘doin’ it for the pod’.
They unpack Kris Jenner’s impossibly smooth features and wonder where it ends ... and begins ... Then pay a visit to the cast of characters reading for parts in Matty’s head. Lastly, Hannah’s sage parenting advice gets turned around to bite her in the olfactory nerves.
It’s unhinged, far too revealing, and full of giggles. Bon appetite!
If you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
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In this punchy and powerful mini-episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah talk to parenting educator, Maggie Dent, about the impossible expectations placed on modern parents. From the myth of the perfect house to the mental load of keeping it all together, Maggie shares practical wisdom, humour, and one incredibly liberating tip that saved her sanity.
This is five precious minutes of solidarity, and, your permission slip to let go of the pressure, laugh at the chaos, and remember: you’re not failing — you’re just raising humans.
Maggie’s latest book, ‘Help Me Help My Teen’, is a guide for parents to help their teens when they're struggling with the challenges and increased pressures today’s teens are facing, i.e. vaping, anxiety, sexuality, school grades, self-harm and sexual harassment. Check it out!
Follow Maggie Dent on Instagram @maggiedentauthor, and find much more at her website maggiedent.com. Buy her books at Mighty Ape, Paper Plus or in audio book format. Maggie is also the host of The Good Enough Dad podcast and has hosted six seasons of the award-winning ABC podcast, Parental As Anything.
To hear the full episodes with Maggie, head to:
Surfing the waves of adolescence with Maggie Dent of Spotify Surfing the waves of adolescence with Maggie Dent of AppleIf you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
Don’t forget! Untidy is made for YOU — the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order.
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In this episode of Untidy, Matilda and Hannah speak with Dr Victoria Thompson, a clinical psychologist based in Ōtautahi Christchurch, about the juicy (often triggering) topic of attachment theory and how it show up in dating, relating, and parenting.
Ever wondered why you keep dating the same kind of person, feel panicked when someone pulls away, or find it hard to open up? In this episode, Dr Victoria Thompson unpacks how our early relationships shape us, how our attachment style influences how we love, connect, chase, avoid and fight in our adult lives, and, how we can use this knowledge to help nurture secure kids.Victoria shares how we can move from anxious and avoidant attachment styles, toward secure attachment in relationships and parenting, with one small step at a time.
Victoria works in private practice in Christchurch and specialises in child and adolescent mental health, eating disorders, forensic psychology, and couples therapy. She's also a new mum and brings both professional expertise and personal honesty to this powerful kōrero.
Links as mentioned in the show:
Find Victoria online www.victoriathompsonpsychology.com Follow Dr Victoria Thompson on Instagrat @drvictoriathompsonIf you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
Don’t forget! Untidy is made for YOU — the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order.
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In this mini-episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah talk to Dr Stacy Sims to break down the science around ice baths for women, the benefits of saunas, and if science backs up contrast therapy. Here’s the mini episode with all you need to know! The science says women need to do things differently. While the internet’s busy telling us to jump into freezing water, Stacy explains that women get the benefits of cold therapy at a much warmer temp of around 15°C. Ice baths? Overkill. And contrast therapy? Turns out, the research doesn’t really back it. For real results, Stacy says keep your hot and cold sessions separate, skip the suffering, and lean into what actually works for your body. Stacy also shares her top three tips for longevity. Tune in for this ‘Best bit’ with the legendary Dr Stacy Sims.
To hear the full episodes with Stacy, head to:
Puberty, power and progress with Dr Stacy Sims on Spotify Puberty, power and progress with Dr Stacy Sims on Apple Puberty, power and progress with Dr Stacy Sims on YouTube Dr Stacy Sims – Courses & Resources Follow Dr Stacy Sims @drstacysims. Book: Roar by Dr Stacy SimsIf you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
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In this episode of Untidy, Matilda and Hannah speak with Theophila Pratt, a Gloriavale cult survivor, qualified paediatric occupational therapist, author, and fierce advocate for freedom and healing. Theo, formerly known as Honey Faithful, grew up in Gloriavale, an isolated and highly controlled Christian community on the West Coast. At 18, she was cast out after challenging the regime, with nothing but a suitcase, a ticket to Auckland, and little understanding of how the outside world worked.
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode includes discussion of religious trauma, psychological abuse, coercive control, childhood neglect, and sexual abuse. While we approach these topics with care and sensitivity, some content may be distressing for listeners. Please take care while listening and prioritise your wellbeing.Theo shares what life inside Gloriavale was really like — from the oppressive rules that haunted every moment, to the calculated psychological control that deprived people of their individual identities, especially for girls and women. Theo talks about the subtle acts of rebellion that sparked her path to freedom, what it took to start again from scratch, and how she’s now helping others do the same.
Theo reflects on trauma, therapy, rage, spirituality, and walking a determined road to self-trust and reclaiming her voice and identity. Her memoir, ‘Unveiled: A Story of Surviving Gloriavale’ exposes the realities of life inside the cult and offers hope to those seeking freedom from high-control environments.
Links as mentioned in the show:
Buy Unveiled by Theophila Pratt from https://www.theopratt.com/ Gloriavale Leavers’ Trust: https://gloriavaleleavers.org.nz/ Follow Theo on Instagram @lifeischoicenz Watch TVNZ documentary, Escaping UtopiaIf you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
Don’t forget! Untidy is made for YOU — the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order.
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In this mini-episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah talk to sex and relationships therapist, Jo Robertson, about how couples can reconnect emotionally and physically during the unsexy seasons of raising kids, working jobs, and navigating the fatigue of everyday life. Jo shares why desire doesn’t just “magically turn up at the supermarket,” how we can reframe sex as intentional intimacy, and the code words that can take a conversation from getting awkward to feeling fun.
Ever felt tapped out, touched out, or like intimacy has slipped off the priorities list? Whether you're struggling with mismatched libidos, fear of rejection, or simply feel like you're “never in the mood,” this one’s for you.
To hear the full episodes with Jo, head to:
Sex and relationships Q&A (Part one) with Jo Robertson Sex and relationships Q&A (Part two) with Jo Robertson Navigating new sexual landscapes with Jo Robertson Follow Jo @jorobertson.therapy on InstagramIf you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
Don’t forget! Untidy is made for YOU — the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order.
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In this episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah (Bean) are together again and giddy with the excitement of being reunited, but not ruling out bringing new friends into the mix. From fluid friendships and actual bodily fluids, to traumatic office flashbacks and passive-aggressive colleagues, the chat is a glittering constellation of unmoderated carnage.
As mentioned in the show:
Abi Mills Comedy — The co-worker that secretly hates you Ready for School book by My Big MomentsIf you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
Don’t forget! Untidy is made for YOU — the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order.
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In this mini-episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah talk about what’s really on their minds — Turning into “feral dragons” with their kids, the art of repair after rupture, and why it’s not always on your preferred time schedule. There’s chat about the pressures we put on ourselves of parenting perfectly and why it’s crucial to learn how to give yourself grace and stay connected to the authenticity of your feelings.
Grab your ice cream and listen in for a good, slightly unhinged kōrero about life’s less-than-reel-worthy moments.
To hear the full conversation, head to:
Listen to ‘Surrendering to imperfection’ on Spotify Listen to ‘Surrendering to imperfection’ on Apple PodcastsIf you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
Don’t forget! Untidy is made for YOU — the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order.
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In this episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah welcome back one of their most-loved guests, Georgia Vavasour, to take us deep into the cosmic world of Vedic astrology — or Jyotish, the ‘science of light’.
If you’ve ever wondered what the exact time of your birth might reveal about your life’s blueprint — your strengths, your ‘stuckness’, your timing, your relationships, and even your parenting, this one’s here to enlighten. Georgia, one of the world’s most experienced Vedic meditation teachers, has added Jyotish to her toolkit, and the way she deciphers charts is a lot less woo-woo and a lot more practical wisdom.
They explore what your birth chart can reveal about your soul’s journey, why some life phases feel like a slog and others feel effortless, and how we can align ourselves with planetary energy instead of constantly swimming against the tide. She also shows us how our children’s charts can reveal exactly what they need from us, emotionally, energetically, and spiritually, and why this knowledge can be an absolute game-changer in how we show up as parents.
They obviously talk dating and if it’s okay to finagle someone’s birth time out of them ... And, Matty has her chart read live on air (for the very first time), and we find out why she and Hannah are so freakishly well matched as ‘podcast partners’.
Links from the episode:
Georgia Vavasour Vedic Meditation website Georgia Vavasour Vedic Astrology website Follow Georgia on InstagramPrevious episodes with Georgia:
Not ‘just a mum’ with Georgia Vavasour Q&A with meditation teacher, Georgia VavasourIf you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
Don’t forget! Untidy is made for YOU — the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order.
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In this mini-episode of Untidy, Steph Campbell shares her extraordinary journey to heal her daughter’s extreme food intolerances. Steph found herself facing a stark reality: she would have to live indefinitely on only three foods for breakfast, lunch and dinner — lamb, leeks and green beans. Even the smallest mistake, as she breastfed her baby daughter, sent them to hospital. Desperate for a solution when no one else could help, Steph discovered the power of a supportive community of mums, and gut healing through anaerobic fermentation — and within just weeks, everything changed.
Off the back of Steph’s life-changing discovery, she founded Clover Ferments, a company born from a mother’s love, sheer grit and determination! Steph’s story is filled with hope for anyone struggling with allergies, gut issues, or feeling let down by the traditional system.
To hear the full conversation with Steph and for links mentioned in the episode, head to:
Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple Podcasts Clover Ferments website Follow Clover Ferments on InstagramIf you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
Don’t forget! Untidy is made for YOU — the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order.
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In this episode of Untidy, Alice Soper is back behind the mic with Hannah, stepping in as co-host once more while Matilda continues to handle the jandal.
Alice and Hannah get into Alice’s journey toward motherhood in a queer partnership. From wanting to be a mum, tweaking her fiancee’s algorithm, finding sperm donors, considering whakapapa, and choosing to step outside the medical system; Alice takes us on her queer journey towards motherhood.
Alice opens up about the big conversations with her partner, the moment she knew she wanted to carry, and how they’re hoping to build their whanau with love, intention, and community.
The girls take a detour into Alice’s elaborate proposal, a history lesson on the rebellion of women’s rugby, and a solid rant about gender politics in sport.
Links from the episode:
Open Play by Sheree Bekker & Steve Mumford Full Credit podcast with Alice Soper and Les Elder Where to watch: Girls Can’t Surf – Documentary My Big Moments – Kids’ books (Use code UNTIDY for 10% off)If you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
Don’t forget! Untidy is made for YOU — the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order.
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In this moving mini episode of Untidy, we revisit one of the most powerful moments from our full conversation with journalist, author, and advocate Ali Mau in the episode, ‘No Words for This with Ali Mau’.
Ali shares what compelled her to write ‘No Words for This’ — a raw and courageous memoir that dives into the personal alongside decades of work supporting survivors of sexual harm. She speaks about the emotional toll of writing, the breakthrough moment of realising that the compassion she extended to others applied to her too, and how honesty, family, and purpose became the backbone of her healing.
It’s an honest, affirming listen for anyone navigating their own healing or supporting others who are.
To hear the full conversation with Ali, including her work with the Tika Project and the advocacy that’s changing lives, head to:
Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple Podcasts Get the book: No Words for This by Ali Mau published by HarperCollins https://www.tika.org.nz/ Support Tika Email Ali at Tika Follow Tika on Instagram Follow Ali Mau on Instagram Safe to talk — sexual harm helpline 0800 044 334 ACC — Support if you’ve experienced sexual abuse or assaultAlison (Ali) Mau is an award-winning journalist, writer, and advocate for equity in Aotearoa. With over two decades anchoring top news and current affairs programmes like Breakfast, One News, Seven Sharp, and Fair Go, Ali is one of New Zealand’s most respected media figures. In 2018, she launched the pioneering #MeTooNZ project with Stuff, revolutionising how the media reports on sexual harassment through a survivor-focused, trauma-informed approach. In 2021, she was named Reporter of the Year at the Voyager Awards. Ali is also the co-founder of Tika, a legal aid charity supporting survivors of sexual harm.
If you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
Don’t forget! Untidy is made for YOU — the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order.
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In this episode of Untidy, Matilda and Hannah are joined by internationally renowned exercise physiologist and nutrition scientist Dr Stacy Sims — a trailblazer on a mission to revolutionise how women train, eat, and perform.
Known for her viral TED Talk “Women Are Not Small Men”, bestselling book Roar, and over 100 peer-reviewed papers, Stacy has dedicated her career to closing the gender gap in sports science. In this conversation, she dives into the often-overlooked physiological and emotional challenges girls face during puberty — challenges that are too often misunderstood or ignored, causing many to lose confidence and drop out of sport.
With her new course NEXT GEN, Stacy is focused on educating coaches and parents to better support developing girls. She explores how puberty impacts performance, confidence, and injury risk, and why it’s crucial to rethink how we train and talk to our daughters. From the damaging effects of language like “girl pushups” and “sissy squats,” to the ripple effects of diet culture and uniform design, Stacy highlights the changes we need to make — and how to do it.
This episode is a rallying cry to shift the culture around girls’ health, sport, and self-image — and to give them the tools, language, and support they deserve.
Links and resources discussed in the show:
Dr Stacy Sims – Courses & Resources Follow Dr Stacy Sims @drstacysims. Book: Roar by Dr Stacy Sims Book: Welcome to Your Period – Yumi Stynes & Dr. Melissa Kang Where to watch: Girls Can’t Surf – Documentary Banff Centre Mountain Film Festival On DemandIf you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
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In this powerful mini episode of Untidy, we revisit one of the most resonant moments from our popular conversation with Dr Libby Weaver from the episode, ‘Rescuing the ‘rushing woman’ with Dr Libby’.
Dr Libby unpacks a profound truth about modern women’s stress: we’re not just rushing because life is busy — we’re rushing because we care, and often, because we care what others think of us.
She introduces her practical “forward words” tool to help you uncover whose approval you're seeking and how that quietly drives stress and burnout. This segment is a must-listen if you’ve ever found yourself running on empty trying to keep everyone happy.
To hear the full conversation, including more insights on hormones, nutrition, perimenopause, and how to reclaim your wellbeing, head to:
Listen on Spotify Listen on Apple PodcastsDr. Libby Weaver (PhD), is a nutritional biochemist, bestselling author, and founder of BioBlends Supplements. Dr. Libby has spent decades helping women understand the connections between nutrition, stress, and hormones, offering both a compassionate and scientific approach to wellbeing. With over 25 years of experience in clinical practice, Dr Libby is one of the most trusted voices in women’s health today. Follow her on Instagram @drlibby.
If you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
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In this episode of Untidy, Hannah is joined by fellow neuro-spicy, and guest co-host, Alice Soper. Alice is a multi-award-winning sports broadcaster, co-host of the ‘Full Credit’ podcast, women’s rugby obsessive, and unfiltered advocate responding to a broad spectrum of the world’s f*ckery. With Matilda away wrangling the most feral life admin, Alice takes the mic for an unmoderated kōrero about identity, queerness, relationships, and throwing out outdated life scripts.
Together, Hannah and Alice unpack the tyranny of gender expectations, the temptation of dating a ‘broject’, and how to recover from being a ‘Band-Aid Bitch’. They explore the parallels between coming out and getting divorced, and each share their personal experiences of neurodivergence, ADHD, overstimulation, and the freedom that comes with being able to remove the mask.
And, if you’ve ever felt on the sidelines of sport, Alice makes the most compelling case for why this is the year to get behind women’s rugby. The Black Ferns are gearing up to defend their World Cup title, and if Alice can’t get you excited, no one can.
As mentioned in the show:
Full Credit podcast with Alice Soper and Les Elder Black Ferns V Canada tickets NZ Rugby 2025 Season ticketsIf you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
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In this raw, courageous, and compelling episode of Untidy, Matilda Green and Hannah Davison sit down with award-winning journalist, author, and advocate Ali Mau to talk about her new memoir, ‘No Words for This’. Known widely for her fearless leadership of the #MeTooNZ movement and a 20-year career fronting many of New Zealand’s most notable current affairs shows, Ali opens up about the personal experiences that shaped her career, her advocacy, and her voice.
Trigger warning: This episode discusses sexual harm, harassment, and gendered violence. Please listen with care. Links to resources for where to find support are listed in the show notes of this episode.
Ali’s memoir is not just a story of a pioneering journalist, but of a woman confronting devastating truths about her past. Her book charts a path through trauma, identity, resilience, and ultimately, the reclamation of voice and purpose.
In this episode, the conversation spans Ali’s early years in Australian and British media, the sexism that saturated her career, the moment she broke from silence, and the complex intersection of love, family, abuse, and healing. The hosts explore Ali’s role in leading a national conversation on sexual harm, how society still silences victims, and what it truly takes to be heard.
This is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand the cost and the power of speaking out.
Alison (Ali) Mau is an award-winning journalist, writer, and advocate for equity in Aotearoa. With over two decades anchoring top news and current affairs programmes like Breakfast, One News, Seven Sharp, and Fair Go, Ali is one of New Zealand’s most respected media figures. In 2018, she launched the pioneering #MeTooNZ project with Stuff, revolutionising how the media reports on sexual harassment through a survivor-focused, trauma-informed approach. In 2021, she was named Reporter of the Year at the Voyager Awards. Ali is also the co-founder of Tika, a legal aid charity supporting survivors of sexual harm.
Link mentioned in the show and resources:
Get the book: No Words for This by Ali Mau published by HarperCollins https://www.tika.org.nz/ Support Tika Email Ali at Tika Follow Tika on Instagram Follow Ali Mau on Instagram Safe to talk — sexual harm helpline 0800 044 334 ACC — Support if you’ve experienced sexual abuse or assaultIf you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
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In this episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah (Bean) let the wheels come off completely as they settle in for an in-person sofa session, a glass of kombucha, and a potent case of end-of-day delirium. They discuss how Warkworth is ripe for a cosy crime and how Matty’s the next Miss Marple, Hannah’s ADHD diagnosis and how she feels about it, how Art’s motivational morning text gave them both the boost they needed, and, a few hot takes of what they’re watching and listening to. Get ready for a giggle — if they can be this b*tched on kombucha, don’t give them a spicy marg ...!
As mentioned in the show:
Blink podcast on Spotify The Telepathy Tapes on Spotify Adolescence on Netflix The Murder at the Vicarage: The first Miss Marple Novel on Spotify The Bill theme tuneIf you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
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Breakups can be brutal, but is there a way to do them well? In this episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah chat with award-winning journalist and author Sarah Catherall to discuss both the realities and opportunities of separation, co-parenting, and moving forward to survive and thrive.
Sarah has spent over 30 years writing for publications such as New Zealand Listener, The Spinoff, The Post, Stuff, and international media including Vanity Fair and the BBC. She is the author of ‘How to Break Up Well: Surviving and Thriving After Separation’, a candid and insightful guide that combines expert advice with her personal journey through breaking up and beginning again.
Sarah opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of her marriage ending, co-parenting challenges, dating again, and reclaiming her sense of self after separation. She shares wisdom from relationship psychologists, divorce coaches, and her own experiences, making this a must-listen, and an essential handbook, for anyone considering, navigating, and recovering from a breakup, or, supporting someone going through it.
Link mentioned in the show:
Get the book: How to Break Up Well by Sarah Catherall Sarah's Website: sarahcatherall.co.nz Follow Sarah on Instagram @scatherall Related podcast episode: ‘Navigating the wild world of modern dating with Hannah Davison’ on The O-Studio Podcast Related podcast episode: ‘Separation & Co-Parenting — The honest messiness with Hannah Davison’ on The O-Studio PodcastIf you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx
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