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Welcome to todayâs episode! Iâm joined by the incredible Amy Margolis, LCSW, a licensed therapist and co-clinical director at Santa Monica Counseling, where she specializes in guiding individuals, couples, and groups through healing from eating disorders, addictions, anxiety, and more. Amy is also a talented Meisner and Groundlings-trained voice actor, lending her voice to projects with Nickelodeon, Netflix, and Disney. Beyond her professional life, Amy is a proud mom of three and wife to her husband, Hank.
In our conversation today, we dive deep into Amyâs journey, from her personal recovery story to why she became a therapist. We discuss her perspectives on the roots of eating disorders, her advice for those on the path to recovery, and the concept of a âdeprivation mindsetâ in womenâa topic she explores in her book. This episode is packed with insights for anyone on a journey to healing and self-discovery. Letâs jump right in!
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In this episode of The Body Love Binge, Victoria Kleinsman discusses strategies for overcoming fear, specifically in the context of eating disorder recovery. She explains why it's necessary to face your fears head-on in order to find freedom on the other side.
What to Expect:
Listeners can expect to gain an understanding of why their eating disorder-related fears feel so real despite being imaginary constructs. Victoria outlines the process of uncovering core wounds that underlie these fears so they can be healed. She also provides encouragement, compassion, and a mantra for moving through fears consistently: "Face your fears, find freedom."
Main Discussion Points:
- Why avoiding fears makes them stronger
- How fears are imaginary yet feel very real
- Getting clarity on where fears originate from
- The difference between danger and fear
- You have to walk through fear to overcome it
- Freedom comes at a cost (giving up control/safety)
- Facing fears with compassion, commitment
Key Quotes:
"Fear isn't real. I'm sorry, what?... Let me just say that again, fear isn't real." (00:09)
"When you face your fear with courage the scary vision turns into something funny." (00:04:42)
"You have absolutely everything you need within you to overcome all of your fears." (00:12:32)
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Welcome back to the podcast, queens! Today, I have a great guest joining us, Robyn Shumer. Robyn wears many hats: sheâs a leadership development facilitator at Johnson & Johnson, a TEDx speaker, a yoga teacher, an executive coach, a mental health advocate, and even a working mom. Robyn is truly dedicated to helping others share their personal and professional stories with impact, all while managing her own journey of self-love and mental wellness.
Robyn is also the author of *Bones: Anorexia, Anxiety, and My Path to Self-Love*, her powerful memoir where she dives deep into her story of healing and transformation. She believes in the power of sharing our most vulnerable stories and even says that preparing for her TEDx talk was more impactful than years of therapy.
In todayâs conversation, weâre exploring some powerful themes: the pivotal moments in Robynâs own recovery, the inspiration behind her mantra, âDonât be afraid to share the stories that shaped you,â and her thoughts on how our cultureâs view of bodies has evolved since her own experience growing up in the 1980s. Weâll also hear about her initiative, *Whatâs Your Story, USA*, and her advice for those of us who want to share our stories but may feel hesitant.
Robynâs insights on storytelling, healing, and mental health are sure to resonate, so letâs dive in!
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Today, I have the incredible Cath Counihan joining me, a trauma therapist, touch practitioner, and psychotherapist specialising in developmental trauma. Cath dives deep into the intersection of childhood trauma, attachment styles, and the ways these affect our relationships, self-worth, and behaviours in adulthood, especially for those on a journey of self-acceptance and recovery.
In this episode, Cath and I explore everything from the impact of family dynamics and early childhood patterns to the roles of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and shame in our lives. We also discuss the importance of emotional regulation, creating safety, and how trauma shapes our coping mechanisms, particularly around food and body image.
Get ready for a raw, enlightening, and inspiring conversation that will give you tools, insight, and hope for healing and finding true freedom.
Letâs dive in!
Cath Counihan is a Trauma Therapist (UKCP accredited) working in London. Cath specializes in complex trauma, maternal mental health, perfectionism, nervous system healing, shifting dysfunctional patterns in our families and reparenting. One of her areas of expertise is how our own childhoods impact our parenting journey. Shifting shame to help each client gain an embodied sense of being good enough is her passion. She hosts a weekly podcast Grow Yourself Up; focused on tending to ourselves in adulthood when we have not had our needs met as children, and the complexity of doing this as we parent. She writes, delivers workshops and has taught for the Bowlby Centre in London and the International Attachment Network. She has more than 12 years of clinical experience and a previous career in financial services. Cath is the mother of twin girls.
This is her website: www.cathcounihan.com
And here is her latest workshop: https://www.cathcounihan.com/triggers-rage-reparenting-workshop
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Welcome to today's episode of the podcast, where I had an inspiring conversation with the wonderful Emily Spence. Emily is an animal-loving, adventure-seeking life enthusiast who has fully recovered from her own restrictive eating disorder. Now, as a passionate advocate for full recovery, sheâs dedicated to supporting others in their journeys to complete freedom as a coach.
In this episode, we dive deep into whether full recovery and full freedom are truly possible. We also explore the powerful process of rediscovering your identity in recovery, and we unpack the often complex journey of neural rewiring, especially around compulsive movement.
Iâm so excited for you to listen to this conversation, and I hope it brings you insight, hope, and inspiration as you continue on your own journey toward food and body freedom. Letâs get into it!
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In this episode of The Body Love Binge podcast, I dive into a question I get asked all the time: How do you pursue health while allowing yourself to eat whatever you want during your eating disorder recovery journey?I believe that health should never be used as a reason to judge or shame yourselfâor anyone else, for that matter. Instead, I argue that mental and emotional health, as well as self-care, should be prioritized over rigid definitions of "healthy eating."Main Discussion Points:Health is so often defined by physical metrics alone, but itâs important to recognize that true health also includes mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being.Shame and guilt about food choices donât lead to healthâthey lead to disordered eating cycles. What really helps is self-acceptance and compassion.Choosing foods that bring you comfort can actually be an act of self-care for your mental health.Forcing yourself into rigid "healthy" eating often backfires. Allowing yourself all foods creates space for you to make genuinely healthy choices when you feel ready.Itâs about quality of lifeânot just extending it at the cost of your happiness.Health looks different for everyone. Make choices that feel right for your body and your unique needs.Key Quotes:"Shame and guilt do not make you healthier. They make you miserable." [00:05:52]"You deserve a life where your worth is not measured by the number on the scale or the type of food that you eat." [00:11:53]"Allowance creates space for choice. You cannot rush to this stage." [00:09:55]I hope this episode brings you the reassurance you need as you continue your journey toward true health and freedom!Join my free support group: https://victoria-kleinsman.circle.so/c/free-support-group/ Free masterclass âHow To Stop Bingeingâ https://victoriakleinsman.com/how-to-stop-binge-eating-without-the-need-for-willpower/ Work with me: https://victoriakleinsman.com/work-with-me/
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Victoria Kleinsman interviews Phaith Montoya, a plus-size fashion influencer, about her journey to self-love and body positivity. They discuss Phaith's struggles with binge eating disorder, society's fatphobia, and learning to embrace your body no matter its size.
Guest Bio:
Phaith Montoya is a 26-year-old content creator from New Jersey. After losing her teaching job during the pandemic, Phaith found community and passion for sharing fashion advice for plus-size women. She now has over 1 million social media followers.
Key Quotes:
"I think kindness leads me to minding my own business and leads me to not, like, be really harsh and react to everybody's moves as the way that I feel like people are so critical on the Internet now, but it's because they're not kind to themselves." (00:35:52)
"I think it was just the exhaustion of choosing that first choice for so long...I used to write in my journal all the time, when you're at this weight, you can wear a bikini to the beach. When you're at this weight, you'll be able to do this. You'll be able to do this. And it was like, oh my gosh. Like, how exhausting, but life waiting for a milestone before I allow myself to live." (00:27:56)
Main Discussion Points:
â€ïž Learning self-compassion and body neutrality after years of disordered eating and fatphobia
đȘđ» Taking small actions to push past body image barriers
đ đ»ââïž Leaving partners who refuse to unlearn fatphobia and respect your body
đŻââïž Finding community and inspiration from people who love you as you are
đ Decentering Eurocentric beauty standards that claim only thin bodies are attractive
I hope you love yourself and your body after listening to this podcast! Sending you so much compassion. Let's end fatphobia together! đ
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In this surprising episode, Victoria shares that she is 33 weeks pregnant after never wanting children before. She talks about her journey to accepting and embracing pregnancy and motherhood despite actively avoiding it for years. Listeners can expect to learn about Victoria's personal growth through pregnancy, tips for improving body image and self-love, and her excitement for giving birth at home.
Key Discussion Points:
- Victoria's shock at discovering the pregnancy after 4 years of natural birth control
- Her husband's initial traumatic reaction and request for an abortion
- Their shift after an emotional healing session to welcome the baby
- How the pregnancy has taught Victoria to surrender, nourish herself, and put her needs first
- Preparing mentally and physically for an unmedicated, home-water birth
- How working with Victoria now means getting free coaching from two other incredible coaches during her maternity leave
Quotes:
"I felt like I didn't want him to say that. I just wanted support. And deep down, I knew I wanted this baby." (06:33)
"I'm in absolute awe of the way my body's changing. I'm just in awe of it all." (17:08)
"I'm so fucking grateful I've done all the work I have on myself bringing a girl into this world around body image and self-love." (15:14)
"I'm so ready for this. I'm ready to surrender and just trust." (45:28) on preparing for birth
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Hey lovely people!
I had a few questions about my coaching business, so I thought I'd share the info here in case anyone else is interested too.
Iâm excited to officially announce that Iâm now taking clients who are ready to become coaches themselves. Over the years, Iâve coached several individuals to become established coaches in the ED recovery and self-love coaching space, and it's been such an incredible journey. If youâre interested in stepping into this field and making a real impact, Iâd love to support you in building a successful, aligned coaching business.
Feel free to reach out if you'd like more info or have any questions!
Much love,
Victoria xx
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This podcast episode features Victoria Kleinsman interviewing Georgia Gidney, who recovered from an eating disorder with Victoria's help. They discuss Georgia's recovery journey, including the fear she felt around recovery, how she pushed past that fear, her experience with extreme hunger, and the hardest parts of recovery for her.
Key Discussion Points:
- Georgia's history with disordered eating started at a very young age and her eventual anorexia diagnosis at age 17
- The pivotal moment when Georgia decided to get a recovery coach
- The intense fear Georgia felt about starting recovery and how she moved past it through self-talk and opposite action
- Georgia's experience with extreme hunger during recovery, eating up to 8,000 calories per day
- The hardest part of recovery for Georgia is learning to rest and be less productive
- How recovery transformed not just Georgia's relationship with food but her entire life
Key Quotes:
"I had a great fear that me recovered me would be, I don't know... Just stereotypically, like, not being able to do anything, not be productive." (Georgia, 00:42:46)
"I want people to know that they might be so super, super, super duper scared, but they can still recover, go through recovery. And it's possible." (Georgia, 00:53:44)
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In this podcast episode, Victoria Kleinsman interviews therapists Dr. Teralyn Sell and Jenn Wagner about mental health, therapy, and the challenges within the industry.
Listeners can expect to gain insight into issues like over-medication, problems with diagnosis labelling, lack of nutrition education among providers, and more.
Main Discussion Points:
- Problems with overuse of psychiatric medications and lack of emphasis on nutrition, sleep, movement etc. in mental healthcare
- Issues around diagnosis labelling and misuse of the DSM manual
- Why providers often fail to obtain full informed consent with medications
- Flaws in the "chemical imbalance theory" used to justify psychiatric meds
- The benefits of taking a more holistic, individualised approach to mental health
- How to safely deprescribe psychiatric medications if desired
Guest Bios:
Dr. Teralyn Sell is a therapist and podcaster. She has over 15 years experience working in corrections and mental health.
Jenn Wagner is a therapist and popular mental health influencer on TikTok. She is passionate about bringing more empowering narratives to the mental health space.
Both have a podcast together called "The Gaslit Truth" where they challenge conventional thinking in therapy and mental healthcare.
Key Quotes:
"The biggest bullshit is the chemical imbalance theory of mental health. That's the biggest bullshit." (Jen Wagner, 00:36:35)
"If you're listening to this podcast and something clicks or resonates with you, right, and you go, I need a starting point, what I what I tell people is, like, just get curious about the idea in general of what things could feel like or look like if you were taking just a little bit less." (Dr. Teralyn, 01:02:05)
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In this episode, Victoria Kleinsman interviews eating disorder recovery coach Tabitha Farrar about her experiences helping clients recover from eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia. They discuss the recovery process for those with additional diagnoses like autism or OCD, dealing with fears around weight gain and health implications of eating more, as well as Tabitha's own journey to recovery. Expect candid stories and practical advice for supporting loved ones with eating disorders.
Main Discussion Points:
- Recovery process and adaptations needed for those with autism, OCD, or trauma histories [00:00:20]
- Knowing when you are fully recovered and your brain is "rewired" [00:03:54]
- Taking a "sledgehammer" approach at first by acting opposite to eating disorder urges [00:01:10]
- Missing extreme hunger once it's passed - it's normal [00:38:58]
- Tabitha's journey giving up excessive exercise cold turkey [00:23:56]
- Ideas around taking time off work to focus on recovery [00:45:52]
Guest Bio:
Tabitha Farrar struggled with anorexia and compulsive exercise for 10+ years before recovering. She shares her story and advice freely on her website, podcast, and YouTube channel. Tabitha now coaches limited clients part-time while running her horse farm.
Quotes:
"We have to be accountable for our actions. Your eating disorder cannot physically make your legs run a 10k every morning." [00:14:52]
"I decided, look. You're gonna gain weight. It's gonna happen. So you may as well enjoy it because I could choose to gain weight and engage with all those negative emotions and have an awful time." [00:31:53]
On giving up exercise: "I just decided I'm I'm stopping, and I meant it, and I stopped...I thought that all hell would break loose, and it just kinda didn't. It was just fine." [00:24:55]
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In this week's episode of The Binge Love Podcast, host Victoria Kleinsman interviews her previous coaching client Amanda Dixon about her journey to recovery from an eating disorder.
Listeners can expect to learn about Amanda's decades-long struggle with various disordered eating behaviours, what finally led her to seek help, and how she was eventually able to achieve full recovery with Victoria's guidance.
Key Discussion Points:
- Amanda traces her issues with food back to childhood, when she would sneak downstairs at night to binge eat without her family's knowledge
- She cycled through years of restrictive dieting, bingeing, cutting, and over-exercising in an attempt to numb her trauma
- Hitting rock bottom after a failed attempt to make herself throw up, Amanda discovered Victoria's podcast and law of attraction work and reached out for coaching
- With Victoria's help, Amanda practised mirror work, sat with anxiety and learned to surrender rather than fight her extreme hunger and exercise addiction
- now in a fully recovered and peaceful state, Amanda shares insights with those still struggling and prepares to start her own coaching business
Connect with Amanda
Website
Podcast
Key Quotes:
"I would wake my sister up in the night when I was probably 4 or 5 to go downstairs and eat snacks that we were not supposed to eat during the day, like cookies and things like that." (00:07:53)
"And I remember I just laid on the floor, and my throat was bleeding and throbbing. And I was like, I can't do this anymore." (00:12:17)
"You have opened me up to this the me that I was, and I can see my potential and my strength, and I feel it." (00:50:37)
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In this empowering solo podcast episode, Victoria courageously shares her personal journey with overcoming body shame and reconnecting with pleasure and intimacy. Listeners can expect raw vulnerability as Victoria guides us through the tools and mindset shifts that enabled her to fully embrace her sensuality.
Main Discussion Points:
- The extreme lengths Victoria went to in order to hide her body and avoid intimacy
- The journey of healing her relationship with her body and sexuality by hiring a coach and committing to the work
- Practical tips for building body confidence like naked mirror work, focusing on sensations over appearances, and giving herself permission to receive pleasure
- The importance of open communication with her partner about her feelings and challenges
- Adopting the attitude of "he really doesn't seem to be giving a shit about what I'm worried about in my head right now"
- Allowing herself and her partner to see the real, authentic her
- How embracing herself transformed intimacy from a performative act focused solely on her partner's pleasure into a mutually fulfilling, deeper connection
Key Quotes:
"I would fake noises. I would fake moaning." (03:04)
"I was basically performing during intimacy." (03:36)
"Relaxation is the gateway to pleasure." (05:57)
"I would literally pretend that he absolutely loved pleasuring me." (07:24)
"Women take longer â€ïž and that is okay." (04:13)
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This podcast episode features life coach Victoria Kleinsman interviewing her former coaching client Iruka. They discuss Iruka's decades-long struggles with disordered eating, body image issues, restrictive dieting, and compulsive exercise.
Listeners can expect to gain insight into Iruka's journey to recovery, including what finally enabled her to break free of restrictive dieting for good.
Main Discussion Points
- Iruka first started dieting around age 9-10 when she had negative thoughts about her body after wearing an ill-fitting PE uniform
- She suffered from years of restrictive eating, "good food/bad food" outlooks, calorie counting, over-exercise and recurring cycles of bingeing
- A realisation that even her attempts at moderate eating plans kept failing her was an "aha moment" that doing more of the same wouldn't cut it
- Working with Victoria taught her that stopping restriction is key to ending binge urges and finding balance with all foods
- Exercise was previously compulsive and led to injury; now she works out for mental/physical health without tracking or calories goals
Quotes
"It's not about any bullshit, quite frankly, which is all short termist and temporary, and external...This is about, you know, what feels good inside." [00:39:16-00:39:36]
"I truly didn't believe that it was possible to be at this point where I'm at now." [00:28:21-00:28:29]
"The cost at the beginning of recovery, this was my experience anyway...that cost isn't as it doesn't feel as big now as it did when you made that decision of, like, right. I'm gonna go forward with Victoria, and then these things might happen as a consequence of that." [00:47:07-00:47:25]
Bios
Iruka is a 44 year-old general practitioner (doctor) and mother of two. Victoria Kleinsman is a certified eating psychology coach who helps women heal their relationship with food and body using a non-diet, Health At Every SizeÂź aligned approach.
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Join Julia Trehane and Victoria Kleinsman, two ED recovered women, as they have an enlightening discussion around eating disorders and body image. In this candid conversation, they share their personal recovery journeys, insights, and advice for overcoming fears around weight gain and self-acceptance.
Key Discussion Points:
- The importance of self-compassion in recovery
- Letting go of restrictive rules and behaviours
- Not settling for "quasi-recovery"
- Surrendering control and trusting your body's wisdom
Key Quotes:
"When I truly realised that nothing means anything, that the way we feel about, let's say, weight gain...it was just a story I'd been told my entire life that I believed." (Julia at 00:01:51)
"Self compassion is the biggest game changer of all." (Victoria at 00:01:18)
"It's not healthy to exercise if you are not fuelling your body. No matter what society says, it's just not." (Victoria at 00:31:02)
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In this episode of the Body Love Binge Podcast, host Victoria Kleinsman interviews Tracey Yokas, an advocate for mental health and wellness. Tracey shares her family's journey with mental illness to help others know they are not alone.
The conversation focuses on Tracey's experience as a mother to a daughter struggling with disordered eating and depression. She provides insight into how a parent's past can impact how they show up for their children, especially when difficulties arise.
Overall, listeners can expect to gain perspective on mothering children with mental health issues. There is also helpful advice around self-care, healing generational trauma, and embracing imperfection.
Guest Bio:
Tracey Yokas is dedicated to supporting women on their wellness journeys. She earned her master's degree in counseling psychology and lives with her family in California. Tracey creates art and writes about mental health to help destigmatize related issues. She recently published a memoir entitled "Bloodlines: A Memoir of Harm and Healing."
Tracy's book: https://traceyyokascreates.com
Main Discussion Points:
- The grief over Tracey's mother's passing preceded the onset of her daughter's eating disorder symptoms at age 13 (06:50). She believes death and grief can trigger mental health struggles.
- As a parent, Tracey felt confused, scared and angry in response to her daughter's eating disorder behaviors (12:02). She sought professional help, but her daughter continued declining.
- Tracey emphasizes the importance of parents getting therapy to heal themselves. This enables them to be better support systems (14:44).
- Her daughter ultimately spent time in intensive outpatient therapy as well as two residential treatment centers. Tracey says there's no one answer, but time and engagement played a big role in recovery (29:02).
Quotes:
"I realised that the only thing I could do was start doing my own work to heal that and then allow my daughter to see me taking my own journey seriously." (39:44)
"The relationship we want with other people is on the other side of the one we have with ourselves." (43:11)
"Our children are people. Can we look at them without all of that baggage that was put on us by our parents?" (52:01)
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In this week's episode, I dives into the challenging topic of facing loved ones after gaining weight while recovering from an eating disorder. I share vulnerable insights into my own journey, along with practical strategies to navigate self-consciousness and fear of judgement.
What you'll learn:
- Ways to practice self-compassion after weight gain
- Tips for setting boundaries with loved ones
- Reframing negative thoughts and old stories
- Living fully now instead of waiting to lose weight
Main Points
- Seek specialised support for binge eating and emotional struggles â€ïž
- Replace negative self-talk with kindness and focus on inner qualities
- Accept the reality of weight gain and process difficult emotions
- Ask loved ones not to comment on your body; set boundaries
- Focus on self-care over physical appearance
- Live fully now instead of waiting to lose weight
- Change the narratives you tell yourself about your body
Key Quotes
"I practiced pouring a whole lot of compassion into myself. This wasn't easy as my normal narrative in my head was based in self flagellation." [00:05:28]
"I choose to let go of the attachment to a certain body size. I choose to live my life regardless of whether I like the way my body looks or not." [00:28:33]
"Why not allow yourself to actually fully live? Because if not now, when?" [00:24:41]
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Today I chat with my former coaching client Aga about her journey recovering from an eating disorder and improving her body image. Aga shares openly about her struggles with feeling fat, food guilt, and low self-worth, and how coaching helped her shift to intuitive eating, self-love, and living more aligned with her values.
Key Discussion Points:
- Aga's history with an eating disorder that stemmed from childhood trauma and using restriction to "disappear"
- Her daily battles with body image, feelings of fatness and shame around eating
- The impact of the eating disorder on her social life and relationships
- Trying therapy and realising she needed specialised support
- Deciding to invest in coaching and the self-discovery work she did
- Shifts towards body neutrality, intuitive eating, increased self-worth
- The power of group coaching calls in realising you're not alone
Guest Bio: Aga lives in Barcelona and works as an agile coach. She struggled with an eating disorder and severe body image issues for years before discovering Victoria's coaching.
Key Quotes & Timestamps:
"I had very much the feeling of being fat. So every time I passed by a mirror or somewhere where I could see my reflection, I would look at myself and the kind of feeling of hate would just grow." [00:09:43]
"If we don't do anything about it now, tomorrow might be too late." [00:21:39]
"You're very authentic, and you have lived experience, which I think is very important in this scenario." [00:31:52] describing Victoria
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In this podcast episode, I discuss the differences between extreme hunger and binge eating in eating disorder recovery. I provide an in-depth explanation of the underlying drivers of both to help you understand why they happen and how to overcome them.
Expect to gain clarity and reassurance around extreme hunger and binge eating through my candid wisdom and personal recovery story.
Main Discussion Points:
- Extreme hunger is a biological and psychological response to restriction and past starvation, while binge eating tends to be a reaction to current restriction
- Binge eating cannot happen if you keep allowing extreme hunger without attempting to restrict or compensate
- Emotional eating is using food to cope with emotions, not the same as binge eating
- Physical deprivation (dieting), mental deprivation (fear or guilt around food), and emotional deprivation (not letting yourself enjoy food) lead to binge eating
- The only way out is to eat freely without restriction forever
Key Quotes:
"Binge eating is simply a healthy response to any type of restriction." (00:10:53)
"The quickest way to the other side in freedom is allowing all foods." (00:16:08)
"The only way to full recovery and mental freedom is to eat unrestrictedly for the rest of your life." (00:18:17)
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