Episodes
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This interview with Dr. Kristin Neff is a breath of fresh air for parents aspiring not only to nurture their children, but also empower them to be strong and agentic. And guess what!? Growing your own fierce and tender self-compassion skills is key to helping your child do the same.
In this episode of the We Are in It Together podcast, Dr. Kristin Neff describes fierce self-compassion and how it can inform our interactions with our children. Jamie Lynn and Kristin also discuss how gender roles can prevent boys from embracing tender self-compassion, and girls from owning strong self-compassion, and what we as parents can do to empower our children and ourselves (listen to a discussion of gender roles starting at the 9:50 minute mark).
At the end of this podcast, Dr. Neff guides listeners through a tender and/or fierce self-compassion break that can be applied to many different situations.
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Visit Kristin Neffâs website, self-compassion.org, to learn more about self-compassion and/or join her community. Dr. Kristin Neff is a self-compassion researcher at the University of Texas, Austin. She is author of the best-selling books, Self-Compassion, Fierce Self-Compassion, and co-author of the Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook.
Kristin Neffâs community features a host of resources for individuals aspiring to grow self-compassion in community with others. Her community is hosting a Nurturing Self-Compassion in Children Workshop taught by Jamie Lynn Tatera in February 2025. Visit https://self-compassion.org/event/how-caregivers-can-nurture-self-compassion-in-children-with-jamie-lynn-tatera-february-15-2025/ to register or watch the free intro session.
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For more resources to help children and caregivers grow resilience and self-compassion, including the Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Workbook for Kids, visit https://jamielynntatera.com.
If youâd like to have a companion on your parenting journey and receive weekly tips on how to help kids (and yourself!) grow mindful self-compassion, sign up for Jamie Lynnâs We Are In it Together Substack: https://jamielynntatera.com/newsletter/.
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What do our children and loved ones really need when things go wrong? Often itâs not our words, but rather itâs our simple presence. In this insightful interview with Cori Doerrfeld, Jamie Lynn and Cori discuss why itâs so hard to remember that what people (including our children!) often need most is our patient listening ear.
And itâs not just others who need our presence, but we also need our own loving presence. Cori Doerrfeld is the author of one of Jamie Lynnâs favorite childrenâs books, The Rabbit Listened. Jamie Lynn and Coriâs interview unpacks how the book can serve as a jumping off point for teaching kids (and grown-ups!) how to best show up for others and how to treat ourselves with kindness when we are struggling.
Cori Doerrfeld is both author and illustrator of many awesome books, including The Rabbit Listened, Ready to Soar, and Beneath. Her website is https://www.coridoerrfeld.com/, and you can find her on social media @coridoerrfeld.
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For more resources to help children and caregivers grow resilience and self-compassion, including the Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Workbook for Kids, visit https://jamielynntatera.com.
If youâd like to have a companion on your parenting journey and receive weekly tips on how to help kids (and yourself!) grow mindful self-compassion, sign up for Jamie Lynnâs We Are In it Together Substack: https://jamielynntatera.com/newsletter/.
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When adversity strikes, do you ever fear that you are going to experience a mental health setback? What if the opposite were true?
Dr. Chris Willard suggests that something positive can (and often does!) emerge from challenging life circumstances: post-traumatic growth. In Chris and Jamie Lynnâs candid conversation, they talk about resources we can bring to our adverse experiences (including mindfulness, self-compassion and EACH OTHER) that can help us transform something difficult into something life-promoting. Chris even suggests that post-traumatic stress can co-exist with post-traumatic growth (could this really be true!?).
Highlights from our conversation include:
* Chrisâs story of moving from opioid addiction to flourishing through mindfulness and connection
* Tips for making mindfulness trauma sensitive (for example, stationary mindfulness can be unsettling for some, but mindfulness in motion can be more accessible)
* Having a caregiver practice mindfulness may actually be more beneficial for a child more than teaching the child mindfulness (your practice matters!)
* The importance of community for healing (thatâs why We Are in It Together!)
Dr. Chris Willard is an instructor at the Harvard Medical School, an intergenerational mindfulness teacher, and the author of numerous books, including How We Grow Through What We Go Through, Growing Up Mindful, and numerous childrenâs books, including the up-and-coming Feelings Are Like Farts. His website is drchristopherwillard.com, or you can find him on social media @drchriswillard.
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For more resources to help children and caregivers grow resilience and self-compassion, including the Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Workbook for Kids, visit https://jamielynntatera.com.
If youâd like to have a companion on your parenting journey and receive weekly tips on how to help kids (and yourself!) grow mindful self-compassion, sign up for Jamie Lynnâs We Are In it Together Substack: https://jamielynntatera.com/newsletter/.
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Jamie Lynn's daughter, Maya Lynn, is the vibrant little being that brought Jamie Lynn to Mindful Self-Compassion (through repeated tantrums in the early years ;). Maya Lynn is now 16 years-old, and she not only has her own mindful self-compassion practice, but also has helped Jamie Lynn create the Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Workbooks for Kids.
Podcast highlights include:
* Maya shares about post pandemic-related social anxiety (3:30)
* How to open to emotions - âWhat you resist persistsâ (5:05)
* Examples of how she uses self-compassion in sports (7:00)
* Mayaâs experience creating and teaching the Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Workbook for Kids (10:05)
* Tips for helping kids learn self-compassion (hint: use play!) (10:45)
* A workbook preview by Maya Lynn (14:30)
* Whatâs your inner voice like?
* Comics!! (15:45)
* The Quest (17:17)
* Relatability - Real Kids and Real Quotes (19:20)
* Fun Activities & Animals (20:25)
* The Research (20:45)
* Feelings Habit Animals (21:05)
* A Diamond (23:00)
* The We Are in It Together Song - composed by Maya Lynn and performed by Jamie Lynnâs family
For more resources to help children and caregivers grow resilience and self-compassion, including the Mindfulness and Self-Compassion Workbook for Kids, visit https://jamielynntatera.com.
If youâd like to have a companion on your parenting journey and receive weekly tips on how to help kids (and yourself!) grow mindful self-compassion, sign up for Jamie Lynnâs We Are In it Together Substack: https://jamielynntatera.com/newsletter/.
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Listen to Jamie Lynnâs favorite podcast episode so far! This rich conversation with Dr. Christine Lathren includes:
* Perfectionism in parenting
* Letting go of the lie that we can control outcomes if we do everything ârightâ
* Not taking things personally
* Being there for ourselves during our kidsâ difficult moments.
* How stress plus self-compassion builds resilience
* What the research says about the power of self-compassion and the power of being part of a community who shares our struggles
Dr. Christine Lathren and Jamie Lynn discuss how self-compassion can transform not only our lives, but our whole family, as well as practical tips for what this looks like in parenting and in all of our relationships. Christine Lathren is an MD, researcher, and mom of two boys.
For more resources to help children and caregivers grow resilience and self-compassion, visit https://jamielynntatera.com.
Sign up for Jamie Lynnâs newsletter to receive weekly tips on helping kids and grown-ups grow mindfulness and self-compassion resources: https://jamielynntatera.com/newsletter/.
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How many of us know a child or teen that we wish would learn mindfulness and self-compassion? Listen to this episode to discover what inspired this 17-year-old to embark on a Mindful Self-Compassion journey.
One of Grantâs biggest take-aways from the mindfulness and self-compassion classes he took was learning that he was not alone with his struggles. When Grant discovered that his peers struggled with difficult thoughts, he became less judgmental and more accepting of himself.
Take aways for grown-ups:
* Your own self-compassion matters. According to Grant, before his mom began practicing mindfulness and self-compassion, she tended to get frustrated with his big feelings, and they would have conflict. After his mom started practicing mindfulness and self-compassion, she became more understanding with Grant and helped him learn how to handle his emotions. Even if your child is grown, even if you donât have childrenâŠyour increased ability to be mindful and self-compassionate will help you show up more compassionately for others.
* There is tremendous power in helping your child understand and experience that they are not alone (We Are in It Together!!). Share your struggles, and model being mindful and self-compassionate in the midst of them.
As Grant said in the interview: understand yourself, forgive yourself and try new things!
Visit https://jamielynntatera.com/ to learn more about mindfulness and self-compassion for adults and youth.
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Would you like to give your kids a resource that can help them cope with challenging situations and thrive? Join Jamie Lynn and Dr. Karen Bluth for an honest conversation about the struggles that youth face and how self-compassion can help.
Dr. Karen Bluth is a researcher, author, educator, and Mindful Self-Compassion for Teens program creator and teacher.
Early intervention can help prevent future problems. Self-compassion offers a protective mechanism that can protect kids from secondary problems when they experience depression, low self-esteem, and set-backs. Learn about the research and practices that can bolster youth resilience.
To learn more about Dr. Karen Bluthâs work, visit https://karenbluth.com/. Her books and workbooks for teens and educators are available at https://karenbluth.com/books-1 or online vendors.
For more resources to help children and caregivers grow resilience and self-compassion, visit https://jamielynntatera.com.*
Sign up for Jamie Lynnâs newsletter to receive weekly tips on helping kids and grown-ups grow mindfulness and self-compassion resources: https://jamielynntatera.com/newsletter/.
*Please note that Jamie Lynn Tatera is a resilience and self-compassion educator. The information in this podcast is not therapy, and is not a substitute for consulting with a medical professional.
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Having a sticky mind is common for many children (and adults!). In this podcast episode, Jamie Lynn and Gwen Tatera have an honest conversation about childhood OCD and explore helpful questions for parents. How can adults spot symptoms of childhood OCD? How can caregivers respond effectively when a child has a sticky mind? What tools and resources are available to help kids and grown-ups practice resilience and gain freedom from obsessive thoughts and urges?
Gwen Tatera is an educator and author of the childrenâs book, The OCD Beaver, which is available on Amazon.
A note from Jamie Lynn: This episode is special to me because Gwen Tatera is my mother. As a child, I was acutely aware of the effects that Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) had on my mom and on our entire family. My momâs courage to talk about her journey and recovery from OCD feels like a healing balm.
We are In it Together Podcast is dedicated to helping children and their caregivers grow resources to thrive and understand that they are not alone when they struggle. The podcast is hosted by Jamie Lynn Tatera, a mom and experienced self-compassion educator for adults and kids of all ages. How can you access the Podcast? You can listen and subscribe on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Youtube, or by using the Substack app. If you find the podcast valuable, please follow it, rate it, and share it with others. You all are part of my dream team. Together we can help kids grow resilience and suffer less. Thank you for helping to make this dream a reality!
Visit https://jamielynntatera.com for more resources to help children and caregivers grow resilience and self-compassion.*
*Please note that Jamie Lynn Tatera is a resilience and self-compassion educator. The information in this podcast is not therapy, and is not a substitute for consulting with a medical professional.
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Hello Friends,
Itâs a big day! Itâs the launch of the We Are in It Together podcast! Our new podcast is dedicated to helping children and their caregivers grow resources to thrive and understand that we are not alone when we struggle.
Our first ever podcast episode is about social anxiety and kids, and I interview Tyler and Cody Feder. Cody and Tyler both have experienced social anxiety challenges, and they share not only their experience but also fabulous resources, including their precious childrenâs book, Are You Mad at Me.
Join us to experience the âcommon humanityâ of struggling with social anxiety as well as ways of responding that can help children (and grown-ups) grow self-compassion and resilience.
Also, thereâs a special song at the end of the Podcast that my daughter, Maya, composed, and our whole family plays, entitled, We Are in It Together. Because, truly, friends, we are in it together!
How do you access the Podcast? You can access the Podcast by using the Substack app or website (if you click the video above, it will take you to my Substack video). A video of the podcast is also available on my YouTube channel (linked below). The audio podcast is also available on Spotify and Apple Podcasts.
If you find the podcast valuable, please follow it, rate it, and share it with others. You all are part of my dream team. Together we can help kids grow resilience and suffer less. Thank you for helping to make this dream a reality!
Wishing you light and love,
Jamie Lynn
P.S. If youâd like to access other self-compassion-related resources for children and caregivers, including upcoming classes and a free info session, you can visit my website here. Together we can harness the power of self-compassion to help kids and caregivers be their happiest, most authentic selves.
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