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I lost 30 pounds without dieting, here are 3 pieces of advice if you want to do the same. If you want to lose 30+ pounds without dieting work with me. You can go to https://www.basicallyitmeals.com/ to get started. 1: stop looking for the right diet. The more you search for other people's advice about what to eat, the more disconnected you become from your body's own wisdom about what you should be eating. 2. Spend your time focussed on where your mindset is right now around food and your weight, and where your mindset would be if you already lost the weight. Bridging the gap between those two is your weight loss work. 3. What you practice, you get more of…keep that in mind. Let’s go!
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Be the first thin person in your family Get your weight loss cheat sheet: bit.ly/cravingsheet Do you want to be the first thin person in your family? About a year ago I had a client come to work with me and she said the weight she lost made her the first thin person in her family. SHe said she was breaking the cycle of obesity in her family. And i truly believe there is a familial cycle of obesity that happens in our families. So if you are overweight, eating in a way that you don’t love and you don’t want to pass those habits down to your kids, here are my 3 tips. 1. Stop listening to all the “diet” “eat this” information, instead start listening to your body's natural signal for when and what to fuel. This might include not listening to your relatives advice about how to eat, breaking your preconceived notions about what losing weight, living in a thin body or eating less actually means. What you want it to mean for you. It might also mean that you need to get to the bottom of someone from your past critisizing you and your weight and deciding how you want to think about that Your body knows better than any guru out there, and it trust me it doesn’t want to be overweight. You might have this idea that your body is working against you to be overweight, this is not true and thinking that does not help you to lose weight at all. Your body wants to lose weight, too. And it has a built in system for doing so. You have to get back to listening to it 2. Change your mindset! Whatever you are thinking about all day long right now is driving you to eat, it’s driving you to eat junk and its driving you to be checked out from your body. Your mindset should effortlessly lead you to eating that causes you to lose weight. You probably think you need to take a different set of actions, like stop eating carbs and start going to the gym every day…but the actions are only part of the picture. You take action from your mindset, so the key is to actually change your mindset and then your actions will change naturally Pretty much all of my clients are action focussed, so when they say this is what I need to do to lose weight this week I ask them and what do you need to be thinking in order to take those actions effortlessly 3. Practice! It’s how your brain learns, it’s how you will lose weight and keep it off. This is not talked about in the diet space…but think about how you learned to play a sport or play a new instrument: you tried and failed and you listened to your coach tell you what worked and what didn’t work and what do differently next time. You don’t know how to weigh 50lbs less than you do right now, you have to learn how to be that weight. What types of food do you eat? How much? How many indulgence do you have each week? Why do you eat those indulgences? This is the process of learning something new and it’s wha you need to apply to lose weight and keep it off
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3 Tips if you are starting your weight loss journey in your 50’s And no, it’s not too late! https://bit.ly/hayleysohnplan Lose 10 Pounds with me for FREE! I am actually prepping for a beach vacation right now and if you have been thinking about changing up your weight loss journey i’ve got something for you. If you feel stuck and overwhelmed and you are tired of dieting and suffering and the scale hardly goes down. If you want weight loss to feel easy, to feel like you can live your life and weigh what you want, go to https://bit.ly/hayleysohnplan And join me in losing a few pounds and feeling your absolute most confident! Here are my 3 best tips to help you lose weight despite your hormones or metabolism. You can lose weight even if your hormones have changed and your metabolism sucks. Your body has a built in system to help you weigh what you want, but you forgot how to listen. This system will adjust for changing hormones and metabolism, so yes, it still works in your 50’s. What my clients focus on is resetting their bodies natural weight loss system One of my clients who is about 50, had been through chemo treatments and had thyroid issues was really concerned about her hormones and metabolism. She was not feeling confident about her weight loss journey. She gave herself 6 months to lose 10 pounds she wanted and she lost it, you guys, in 2 weeks. And she never gained it back Because she was able to tap into her bodies natural system for weight loss 2. You aren’t making good food choices and that's not because you don’t want to, it’s because you’re missing a piece of information about your brain. Simply planning your meals ahead of time can have a great impact on your weight loss journey. One of my clients is about 50 years old, and isn’t super active. She is so great at planning and evaluating though and despite her hormones and metabolism,. By thinking ahead, planning her indulgences and tracking she was able to lose 19lbs in two weeks. 3. You don’t need to fix all your bad habits at once, choose one and start there. This is where so many of you are flubbing up. You are really focussed on everything that isn’t working, and things that aren’t working that are out of your control, such as your hormones and metabolism. One of my clients had a medical history and was struggling hormonally, metabolically, she was working full time, never had time to workout and when I talked to her she was freaking out about it all. How would she overcome all these hurdles and lose weight. I said we aren’t going to tackle any of those. We are just going to focus on one thing that is in your control. That thing was stress eating. She just focussed on managing her stress without food. She realized she was way overeating all because of stress and that when just focussed on what she could control she lost 8 pounds in two weeks. She said it wasn’t hard and that was after a year of trying to lose weight and not seeing any success!
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https://bit.ly/hayleysohnplan Lose 10 Pounds with me for FREE! I am actually prepping for a beach vacation right now and if you have been thinking about changing up your weight loss journey i’ve got something for you. If you feel stuck and overwhelmed and you are tired of dieting and suffering and the scale hardly goes down. If you want weight loss to feel easy, to feel like you can live your life and weigh what you want, go to https://bit.ly/hayleysohnplan And join me in losing a few pounds and feeling your absolute most confident!
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Connie spent 40 years dieting with no lasting success. Her weight was something she always struggled with. When Connie decided to take a different approach to her weight loss and ditch the diets she really began to see success. This is Connie's journey from failing at weight loss to finding lasting success by focusing on her mindset.
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the billion dollar diet industry doesn't want you to know these Seven truths about weight loss.. GET YOUR FREEBIE HERE: https://bit.ly/cravingsheet As a thank you for listening I created a freebie for you One thing almost everyone I talk to struggles with is eating things you don’t actually want to eat. You feel like the day is going great and then bam, breakroom cookies pop up. Or it’s 3pm and you are crushing chips and queso before they have to pick up the kids from school. OR you feel super out of control around tempting foods, or don’t realize they were eating until the entire bag of chips is gone. You think you are the problem, we need more willpower or to be more strict, but none of that actually works. So i created a worksheet to help you not only prepare for the unexpected moments like the breakroom cookies, but feel in control during even those times you haven’t been able to get in control of for years. Diets aren’t the answer. They want you to think that they are, but if they were the answer then the weight problem wouldn’t exist anymore, would it? My goal for each and every one of my clients is to NOT NEED me anymore…instead of creating dependence, I create independence Random people on the internet don’t know more about how much and what you should be eating than you and your body do. You are out there asking everyone but yourself what you should do to lose weight. The secret is you already know, your body knows, you just need a coach to show you the path If you don’t weigh what you want it’s because your primitive brain is making food decisions for you from a place of survival mode. There is a process to getting you our of survival mode so you can make food choices that will help you lose weight and stop self sabotaging You have to use your human brain, prefrontal cortex, to make food decisions. When you can tap into the part of your brain that has the ability to plan ahead and set goals, the part that wants tto lose weight to make food decisions then the weight can begin to come off Plan for the times when your brain will tell you to eat all the food instead of pretending like it won’t happen today. This is a huge mistake you are probably making. You eat a huge bag of chips on the couch every night and every morning you wake up and tell yourself last night was the last time…when you handle it that way you don’t learn how to stop. You pretend that “knowing better” will help you get through it next time when it won’t. You need to think about the times when you are eating out of control, ask yourself good questions and make a plan for it. How you lose the weight is how you’re going to keep it off…aka if you lose it by restricting and dieting, that’s what you’re going to have to do for the rest of your life to keep it off. Ask yourself how you want your life to look when you have lost the weight. What kind of relationship do you have with food, with your body? Do you workout, what do you eat, how do you eat? That is what you need to start doing now Your mindset is so powerful for weight loss, tap into it What you think about shows up in your life. If you are thinking weight loss is hard, you aren’t capable of doing it, youll never be able to stop self sabotaging…then that is what you are going to get How can you flip those thoughts to believing in yourself? Now repeat that
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5 ways to tell if you are an emotional eater Overcome emotional eating: bit.ly/cravingsheet You might be an emotional eater but not realize you are. Which means, you might not be able to lose weight and have no idea why you can’t get yourself to stop eating. When i say “emotional eater” that doesn’t mean you have to be crying into a carton of ice cream. What it does mean is that any type of emotion, positive or negative, could be driving you to eat. If you suspect you are, or you want to learn how to move forward if you are this is a great episode for you. When you feel X you eat You know for sure you get stressed out at work, you’re grabbing something from vending machine. Had a busy day, ice cream on the couch after everyone’s in bed will help you decompress. These are classic emotional eating signs because you are literally avoiding emotion with food. You feel a strong emotional tie to food Someone just mentions chocolate cake and you get excited, anxious, now that’s all you can think about. You know when you have a bad day, food will help If you have a crap day and immediately start planning all the foods you’re going to eat to feel better than you’re an emotional eater You use food to self sooth or get through certain situations You consider food to be self care or love. You “wake up” after having eaten a lot and you’re not sure what happened If you are ever so checked out that you don’t remember eating If any of these rings a bell, a great piece of advice I can offer is to download the worksheet I have for you. This will help you gain some insight about your emotional eaing habits and how you can begin to take control of them!
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GET YOUR FREEBIE HERE: https://bit.ly/cravingsheet If you are the person who tells yourself you look terrible so you should lose weight, you need to be better, youre bad because of the food choices you make, you need to look better all in an effort to lose weight Many of us try to beat ourselves into weight loss What you practict you get more of You are practicing being mean to yourself, Put this into a model and what does it look like T: you look terrible you need to lose weight F: shame A: hide from yourself, dont pay attention to your mind/emotions, ignore yourself, eat without paying attention Practicng beating yourself up isn’t goint to suddenly lead you loving yourself and feeling happy Whatever you are doing now to lose weight is what you are going to have to continue to do to keep it off: how you get there is how you will be there Self fulfilling prophecy Telling yourself i just cant figure it out, i never keep it off, i always eat when i shouldn’t, i cant give up my netflix and snack habit…guess what? You are going to keep getting that How to turn it around, especially if you are using negative thoughts to keep lose weight How to begin being positive If you are negative now you can’t just jump to being positive, you need to just take one step at a time, go from negative to neutral How to drop your old habits Habits are the actions you take from the thoughts on repeat in your mind…to interrupt your habits, you must interrupt your mindset Its not 7 days or 21 days to break a habit, it’s discovering your mindset, and moving it forward When your mindset changes, your actions change and pretty effortlessly The one step you can take today Know wher you are now! Don’t hide from it Get out your journal and ask yourself what you are thinking about now that is causing you to eat. You will get good answers How can i shift this forward to be more neutral
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The Biggest Mistake You’re making to lose weight and how to fix it GET YOUR FREEBIE HERE: https://bit.ly/cravingsheet Hi, my name is Hayley Sohn and I am a Nutritionist and Brain Training Weight Loss Coach. I teach my clients how to lose 10lbs in 30 days without dieting by wiring their brain to eat less. This might not even sound like something you need help with because it is so engrained in you to lose weight by focusing on your actions However, focusing on your actions to lose weight is the biggest mistake you are making in your weight loss journey and there is actually a simple fix for it. Effortless weight loss happens when you make the shift i am going to teach you in this episode This is what my clients work on with me in my program each day. What is happening now and Why its not working: This is how weight loss usually looks: Clothes don’t fit and you are unhappy with how you look Choose a diet you are going to follow- you focus on the foods you can and cant have Start out monday with the best of intentions By 5pm you are using willpower to try and not eat the chips and queso you usually have You are stressed out, asking yourself what is wrong with you that you want to eat all these things that wont help you lose weight. Youre trying to stay excited and motivated to lose weight but you just really need something to help you check out from the pressure and overwhelm you’re feeling You keep reminding yourself to use willpower- if you can just hang on and not eat until you go to bed tomorrow will be easier… Maybe you do hang on, maybe you hang on for a month and the scale goes down. But you don’t feel like anything has changed or gotten easier. You feel exhausted and you still want to eat the chips and queso THis is the style we use to lose weight and what is happening is we are focused on our actions only. And i will explain why that doesn’t work We are taught to lose weight by changing our actions. And indeed, certain actions will cause you to lose weight…but you just can’t get yourself to take those actions. Why? Because there is actually something the precedes action, something that causes you to take the actions you are taking. It goes like this: you have a thought, a sentence in your brain and each thought has an emotional reaction, a physiological response to that thought, you actually feel emotions in your body. From emotion, from the feeling you have in your body you take action and actions create your results. Such as you lose weight or you don’t lose weight. So before we take action we have a thought that creates an emotion that causes us to take action So telling yourself to just take this action or that action when we are actually thinking “there is no point because it never works” and feeling despair will not lead to effortlessly eating less because that action does not align with that emotion. The actions that align with despair are giving up, eating all the snacks in the house, eating even when you’re not hungry, not exercising and those will result in the scale going up and further proving your point trying to eat less doesn’t work So if there is always a thought and emotion that precedes every action and you are trying to force yourself to take actions that don’t align with your current think you are probably getting into willpower, pressure, stress The problem is those emotions are a lot of work, we run out of the energy needed to keep going with them. So when we lose weight from this place it often doesn’t last What you need to do: This is how it can be: You decide to focus more on your mindset around food than the food itself. You don’t tell yourself you cant eat this or that or try to restrict yourself to a number of calories You simply begin by telling yourself your thoughts and emotions are your number one focus, you stop obsessing over all the foods you can and cant have You start to be able to move from doubt and regret each morning into calm and confidence. No matter what happens today you know you can handle it Food choices are way less dramatic, you are able to listen to your bodies signals and let them lead you in your food choices. Your brain starts to quiet down about food. You don’t need willpower because you have confidence The scale starts to go down but you feel like you haven’t really changed that much…it has all been really effortless. In order for your actions to happen naturally you have to work on the thoughts you are having and the emotions those thoughts are creating. This is what my clients are doing when i tell you that they lost weight and didn’t feel like they changed that much…what happened was they changed their thought which changed their emotion which created a different action for them effortlessly so they were able to eat less without it being a struggle or go to a buffet and feel amazing and still lose weight. Here is what mine looked like when i was losing my postpartum weight: Instead of: Cutting out carbs Eliminating sugar Not stress eating Drinking a lot of water Going to the gym Making my husband diet with me I did this: What thoughts are going to create confidence, calm and certainty for me as I lose weight after having a baby? I want to lose weight I genuinely do not want to stress eat because it will cause me more stress I want to handle my stress with breathing and walks I know i can do this, I have done this before and this time will be no different With the emotions of calm, certainty and confidence i effortlessly took these actions Slowed down when i felt stress and addressed the stress instated of looking for food Made a daily food plan and committed to sticking to it Listened to my bodies natural signals for hunger and satiety Got outside and moved around with my baby Made sure i was drinking water Took it slow and evaluated: aka didn’t beat myself up if the scale didn’t go down And i lost 10lbs in a month
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GET YOUR FREEBIE HERE: https://bit.ly/cravingsheet As a thank you for listening I created a freebie for you One thing almost everyone I talk to struggles with is eating things you don’t actually want to eat. You feel like the day is going great and then bam, breakroom cookies pop up. Or it’s 3pm and you are crushing chips and queso before they have to pick up the kids from school. OR you feel super out of control around tempting foods, or don’t realize they were eating until the entire bag of chips is gone. You think you are the problem, we need more willpower or to be more strict, but none of that actually works. So i created a worksheet to help you not only prepare for the unexpected moments like the breakroom cookies, but feel in control during even those times you haven’t been able to get in control of for years. GET YOUR FREEBIE HERE: https://bit.ly/cravingsheet
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Perfectionist eating GET YOUR FREEBIE HERE: https://bit.ly/cravingsheet As a thank you for listening I created a freebie for you One thing almost everyone I talk to struggles with is eating things you don’t actually want to eat. You feel like the day is going great and then bam, breakroom cookies pop up. Or it’s 3pm and you are crushing chips and queso before they have to pick up the kids from school. OR you feel super out of control around tempting foods, or don’t realize they were eating until the entire bag of chips is gone. You think you are the problem, we need more willpower or to be more strict, but none of that actually works. So i created a worksheet to help you not only prepare for the unexpected moments like the breakroom cookies, but feel in control during even those times you haven’t been able to get in control of for years. GET YOUR FREEBIE HERE: https://bit.ly/cravingsheet I am sitting here eating lunch and I realized my lunch is kind of gross! I packed it myself but like it is seriously not a proud moment So I thought I would pop in and talk about perfectionist eating If you want to live your life and weigh what you want…eating like a perfectionist will not get you there Perfectionist eating is an extension of all or nothing thinking I either eat perfect Or i eat everything When you can’t eat perfectly you say F it and just eat all the things And how often are you able to have complete control and eat perfectly? Look at the scale and it will tell you how often. If you don’t weight what you want, then never. In order to drop the perfectionist eating and consequently the overeating you must: Make a plan Making decisions ahead of time allows you to plan to be messy, not perfect and have indulgences The goal of this plan isn’t to punish yourself if you aren’t perfect and don’t follow it but to show you the areas where your brain really wants to eat so you can work on that with my next tip Manage your brain around wanting to eat off the plan Breathing Practice practice practice
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My name is Hayley Sohn, I am a nutritionist and brain training weight loss coach specializing in helping women lose 30lbs in 90 days without dieting by eliminating emotional and stress eating. Work with me: basicallyitmeals.com I have told this story many times here before, but I am breaking it down into a few lessons here on today’s podcast. Lessons i learned in 5 years of NOT losing weight Diets don’t work As a nutritionist, i was trained in prescribing diets. Knowing the exact macros, calorie counts, food lists that would equal weight loss When i was 30lbs overweight i was doing all the diets but I Felt more out of control than ever before Was eating more than ever before Thought about food all the time I realized it didn’t matter what “diet plan” i said i was going to follow…because my brain and my mindset were setting that diet plan up to fail and i didn’t know how to begin to fix it When i finally dropped all the restrictive diets and began to focus on my mindset in a productive way i saw the weight fall off You can eliminate emotional eating in a pain free way I remember thinking one day as I laid in bed eating cheetos feeling super stressed and out of control (hello, I’m working full time as a nutritionist and running a healthy meal delivery service, like what am I doing) that i didn’t want to give up food as my emotional support system The thought of that scared me One of my clients refers to all of her past dieting as “suffering” and a huge part of that is when food is your emotional support system and you sort of yank that out from under yourself with a restrictive diet you are left with no tools to handle your life, your stress, anxiety, without the food. Its scary, its feels like suffering So i really focussed on learning how to deal with stress without food, learning how to deal with boredom without food, learning how to deal with anxiety and not eat When i focussed there all of the sudden i could eat less without pain, without feeling like i didn’t have a way to deal with my life Emotions are important Almost everyone i speak to who wants to lose weight tells me this: I want to feel something other than what i am feeling daily right now Yet!! They also tell me they aren’t very emotional and they don’t understand where emotions come from I used to not consider myself an emotional person, but really i just didn’t understand emotions, how they work and their role in our lives Plus, one universal law: you have emotions whether you realize it or not, they are created by your thinking Emotions don’t happen to you, you create them. Even if you don’t think you are experiencing or creating emotions for yourself, you are When you can harness thinking, you can take control of your emotions and start to FEEL the way you want to feel everyday! Effortless Peaceful Confident Happy Actions don’t work Yes, ultimately actions will get us the result we want…if we eat less we will lose weight. BUT what we all try to do is decide the actions we will take and then take them even though we are feeling doubtful, overwhelmed, pressure, stress, anxiety… When you do it that way you have to use willpower: the actions don’t feel good when you take them and you can’t keep them up Your mindset is everything Mindset isn’t abstract; There is a clear process for creating a mindset that will help you lose weight When you focus on your mindset, this impossible weight loss game suddenly happens and it feels easy and natural You are not set in your ways, you can change your brain If you practiced your golf swing wrong from childhood to your 50’s would a golf instructor say oh im sorry, that is set in stone you won’t be able to change it? No because our brain is elastic, its always capable of learning something new and undoing something old Years ago scientists thought your brain was set in stone by age 18, then it was late 20s and recently I read that your brain is actually never set in stone What I think personally is that we have thought process we use. The longer we use them the more practiced we are at them, the more challenging they are to undo and begin doing something else. It is never impossible Exercise because you want to not because you have to “have to”, need to, should, trying need to be swapped for want to, have, gratitude When you tell yourself “I should lose weight”, does that make you feel ready to go out and do what what you need to do to lose weight? No? Then why are using that sentence to try and create the actions needed to lose weight? Odds are you are using “have to”, need to, should, trying in with any weight loss and diet attempts. They are not effective. Why? Because they don’t generate positive emotion Swap those for I want to I know how I am capable of I already am Im grateful for I already have This isn’t semantics. This is mindset
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Willpower vs Confidence I posted a picture in my stories of some food I was eating the other day and I got this message from an Instagram follower simply saying “willpower” And I replied “never! Confidence” And it got me thinking about the difference between these two when it comes to weight loss My name is Hayley Sohn, I am a nutritionist and brain training weight loss coach specializing in helping women lose 30lbs in 90 days without dieting by eliminating emotional and stress eating. Work with me: basicallyitmeals.com I used to use willpower. Every morning i would wake up and tell myself Today is the day i have enough willpower to not want to eat handfuls of cereal out of the box To not overeat dinner To not snack until i felt sick and it was time for bed I would make a ridiculous diet plan for myself And then 3pm would roll around I would be exhausted from the day Hungry from my diet and i didn’t know how to handle it I believed i had no control over my desire to eat other than just “trying not to eat” and i would tell myself that- i have to try not to eat all the crap But trying wasn’t enough Telling myself i wanted to but i can’t wasn’t enough Telling myself it was gross, it was bad, it just never was enough Ultimately i still wanted to eat all the time, i was still thinking about food all the time Willpower for weight loss This is our go to…why? Two big reasons Becasue its what we are told we need Because we lack belief in our ability to not want to eat something C T: I have to use every ounce of willpower i have to not want to eat this food, i can’t not want to eat, i want to eat it but i can’t F: willpower A: think about food all the time, tell yourself you wont eat it, make up diets excluding foods, skip social events R: you still want to eat the food The results of using willpower You still want to eat the food Sometimes you might not eat it, but ultimately you always feel like you want to If you dont eat it, if you drop weight, you ultimately cant keep it up You feel out of control You never feel like you are in control of your desire to eat or your weight You never learn to not desire food! Food will always be the only thing that can help you in the way it is helping you now Help you unwind, disconnect Help yuo destress Help you with anxiety Be the thing you love to have on the couch after your kids go to bed Be the thing you obsess over Essentially, you are always going to have the same relationship with food that you do now Confidence for weight loss When i realized there was an alternative to using willpower to lose weight i began to focus on building my confidence around food What this looks like C T: i want to feel confident around food, here are the areas where i already feel confident around food, this is a huge reason i believe i can feel confident around food, feeling confident around food is possible for me T: now its- you can put any food in front of me and i am in complete control of if i eat it or not, i don’t desire foods i don’t want to desire, i never overeat, i don’t eat if im not hungry F: confidence A: don’t overeat, don’t eat when not hungry, don’t think about food when im not about to eat, i easily listen to my body signals and eat only for that R: i can weigh what i want with ease, i know that how i feel about food and around food are within my control I now have a completely different relationship with food than i did before This picture of some tempting food that i previously would have had to use willpower to get through was not like that for me at all. I was enjoying time with my family, there happened to be food there. I wasn’t thinking about it, worrying, obsessing, counting, i was just there enjoying
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Does losing weight have to be hard? My name is Hayley Sohn, I am a nutritionist and brain training weight loss coach specializing in helping women lose 30lbs in 90 days without dieting by eliminating emotional and stress eating. Work with me: basicallyitmeals.com Shout out to ashley! She lost a pound in a week This was sparked by a conversation i had with my parents about my postpartum weight loss, and so many conversations I have had with you about what the process of losing weight looks like. I was at the pool with my baby and my parents the other day and they were saying you lost the weight so quickly, you don’t look like you just had a baby. How did you do it? Was it hard? I said no, i didn’t work hard to do it. It got me thinking about the idea of working hard to lose weight vs working confidently So many of us think- I know i have to work hard if i want to lose weight… But what if weight loss just feels natural and relaxed? So that’s what we are going to dive into today When weight loss is hard work You think in order to lose weight it has to be hard, a punishment of sorts, that you are going to struggle because you are used to or want to overindulge right now. The idea that you have to give up things you enjoy to lose weight and go to the gym and do things you don’t enjoy to get there… I want to point out that being overweight, overeating all the time, using food to manage your emotions is hard! You are already in the hard, why not make losing the weight something you enjoy! That is a mindset. T: i have to work hard, I am going to struggle, its not going to be fun or easy, i will have to sweat and deprive myself F: struggle, doubt, overwhelm, willpower, deprivation A: gym, restrict, cut out foods you like, eat super clean R: what do you learn when something is hard? What is the result of weight loss is hard? You can’t maintain it The process isn’t fun You dont enjoy it, you don’t show your brain that eating less can enjoyable You are pulling in two opposite directions The pendulum My postpartum weight loss journey I want to preface this by saying that i used to lose weight with “hard” I worked out like crazy I was super restrictive or diet mentality I was also very judgemental of others at times None of it was fun and none of it was successful….i was always working! I never could just relax and live my life I focussed on slowing down and listening to my body, an opportunity to reconnect, i was excited to do it, i committed to not using food to help me deal with stress or other emotions, working out was not a part of it, there was no specific diet a part of it although i did make decisions ahead of time and stick to them It was fun, exciting, self love, confidence, calm No sweat, no tears, no punishment I practiced patience with my body and always said if it doens’t feel right or if it feels like too much I will back off….but the way i lose weight and the way i teach my clients to lose weight never feels that way. It feels like slowing down to listen to your body and eat for those natural signals and releasing all the thoughts taht don’t serve you to feel good physically in your body So what can you do at home to release the hard and embrace the calm? What would weight loss look life for you if you used calm instead of willpower? Plan ahead today…follow through on those decisions. Reach out to me…i will show you the path! www.basicallyitmeals.com
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Hangry- how to handle it without eating everything My name is Hayley Sohn, I am a nutritionist and brain training weight loss coach specializing in helping women lose 30lbs in 90 days without dieting by eliminating emotional and stress eating. Work with me: basicallyitmeals.com Shout out to Ashley! She lost a pound in a week! Defined as Being irritable or angry due to hunger Is it a real thing? Low blood sugar My dad talking about playing 5hr of sports without food, very lean Nowhere in there was there anger… Angry is the result of a thought in you brain, by conscious or unconscious you do have control over it For most of us who have plenty of fuel on our bodies, two options Unbalance blood sugar- your body can’t tap into fat Hunger might come on without physical necessity It may feel strong Its your mindset around hungry You are feeling the physical sensation of hunger and having a lot of thoughts about it Those thoughts create angry, irritable, anxious, fear…whatever that might be The important thing to figure out is what is your hunger mindset? Here are two examples of mine When I got hangry on the bike ride Situation Thoughts i went into Action: Ate a lot of popcorn unnecessarily Result: What i learned from it The stadium hunger: What happened and how I handled it How is Hangry affecting your life? What is the result of feeling Hangry? C: feel hunger T: I can’t stand this, I need to eat now, this is not comfortable, I want to eat F: feel angry, anxious, irritable A: don’t make rational food decision, eat more than you are hungry for, eat fast, don’t listen to body, be rude to other people R: scale up, and you don’t learn how to have a better relationship with hunger When you can’t handle your hunger are you going to be able to lose weight? What to do about hangry Expect it Less fear More feeling prepared Make a plan for it How will you handle it when it happens When it comes: Deep breaths Be with it, not avoiding it Birthing class example Describe to yourself the physical sensations
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It can look like cutting out food groups like sugar or gluten, restricting yourself to a number of calories or points, blaming the food or ourself for wanting to overeat If i cut out these things all my problems of wanting to overeat them will be solved Restriction is the go to weight loss method when we lack a belief in yourself and your ability to change your brain and trust yourself around food. What and why: Action you take… this is important because as i talk about here a lot that means there is a thought process and emotion the precedes taht action. Simply taking action to lose weight rarely works Knee jerk reaction, usually take it out of frustration, regret, guilt, shame C: overeat, eat foods we know wont serve us T: this is the only thing that will help, i don’t know how else to get myself to stop eating those foods, im out of control, im fed up with myself, something is wrong with me F: frustrated, regret, doubt, no self confidence A: restriction R: we don’t actually have the ability to self regulate because we don’t trust ourselves around food When we react in this way we keep the cycle of restricting and then overeating alive. The pendulum What is really happening is we don’t trust ourselves around food and don’t believe in our ability to not want to overeat eat those foods, so we try to draw a line and say we can’t have it The result is we don’t build trust with ourself, we don’t build our self confidence around tempting foods, we don’t build belief that we can be around that food and not overeat After the tension of wanting to eat the forbidden thing becomes unbearable…we run out of the energy to keep resisting. If you tell yourself you can’t have something then you are making it top of mind. What you focus on you get more of. Now you are thinking about the forbidden thing all the time…and resisting eating it. It takes a lot of energy Ex. tell yourself today you can’t have any sugar. Tell yourself sugar is the problem, there’s a problem with your ability to want to eat sugar, you have a problem with sugar and you shouldn’t have it, you can’t have any sugar. No cookies, no ice cream, no dessert, you better watch out for salad dressings, is fruit ok? Where do you draw the line? Now you are just focussed on sugar…you are thinking about it all the time. It’s top of mind….so of course if it’s on your brain, and you don’t have any tools to manage your mind around desire to eat, building your confidence around food, then you wont know how to stop wanting to eat it You are going to spin out in this for however long you can hold out. You blame the food, you blame yourself, but really you are missing the right tools! Eventually you eat and you determine the food and you are the problem, but you can’t escape either one….so what do you do? Give up, tell yourself you don’t have what it takes, you don’t have the willpower or motivation. The problem never gets solved this way because you haven’t learned anything What to do instead People sometimes say but if i don’t restrict myself i wil ljust go crazy and eat everything. Restriction is not what is preventing you from eating all the things, and it isn’t by the way, because you are! Your mind is… That will come out of a thought process that looks like: T: restriction is the only thing stopping me from eating, im out of control, i can’t stop F: out of control, But this also takes a lot of energy, and it feels terrible physically What you focus on your get more of…When you take the focus off of the food and off of your ability to not want it and put it instead on: It’s possible to not want to eat this food My brain is capable of change I am working on building my confidence around food I am learning to trust myself and my body When you stop eliminating foods or restricting yourself to a number of points or calories you begin to build trust in yourself.. In your ability to be around food and not want to overeat it In your ability to change your brain and manage your midn around food In your ability to listen to your body and not your brain My name is Hayley Sohn, I am a nutritionist and brain training weight loss coach specializing in helping women lose 30lbs in 90 days without dieting by eliminating emotional and stress eating. Work with me: basicallyitmeals.com
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Mindset weight loss for beginners Hi, I'm Hayley, Nutritionist and brain training weight loss coach. Ready to quit dieting and lose weight for the long term in a way that feels effortless? Join my proven weight loss program: basicallyitmeals.com If you feel like mindset, brain training, tackling emotional eating is where you need to go to lose the weight you want but you aren’t sure where to begin, this episode is for you. The first thing to do for yourself at home is to make a plan. First thing in the morning or the night before write down what you are going to eat today. This plan isn’t about punishing yourself or restricting yourself. It is about living your life. Don’t make it strict, that is not what this is about, plan your indulgences too How do you want to feel physically during the day What will help you get through your day feeling energized What food choices will make you proud What this plan does: This process is not about punishment or losing 10 pounds tomorrow, it is about gathering data, learning about your brain and your body Because you wrote down what you are going to eat you will see where your brain is wanting to make changes in the moment out of emotional eating or cravings That looks good Everyone else is doing ti One bite wont hurt, but it’s never one bit Youve had a really hard or stressful day You need to know where your brain is looking for opportunities to eat so that you can start working on that part of your brain, retraining it to not desire to eat all the time The other thing the plan will help you uncover is how much food your body is actually asking for and what foods feel good in your body Smoothie story Postpartum weight loss story A huge part of my clients weight loss journey is the brain-body connection so that you are able to listen to your bodies natural cues and when coupled with brain retraining you can honor them no matter what your brain starts telling you about snacks, cookies in thre breakroom what have you My challenge to you is to plan for one week. Evaluate it each day. See what is working and what isn’t and make daily tweaks. If you don’t follow the plan that is ok! THis is a learning expedition, not about perfectionism .
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GET YOUR FREEBIE HERE: https://bit.ly/cravingsheet Focus on your brain, not the diet - episode 30, 6 ways to lose 4lbs in one week Weigh in daily - episode 30, 6 ways to lose 4lbs in one week If you pull a pendulum… you are in the cycle of restricting and overeating. You want to get the pendulum centered so there is no reacting and no fixing- from episode 27, get unstuck When you let go of restriction, you also let go of all the guilt you are creating around indulgences. - from episode 27, get unstuck Plan your indulgences - anonymous One thought can help you lose 10lbs…that’s all it takes. - 46. One thought away “No matter what is at the event I can make it work for me” Which gave her confidence It eliminated the worry and frustration - 46. You Are One Thought Away From Losing 10 Pounds Your affirmations arent working for you now because you don’t believe them - 47 affirmations The sign of a healthy brain is that it is very efficient and repeating itself over and over. The sign of a healthy human is that you are able to overcome that part of your brain that doesn’t want to do the work and do it anyway - 24 magic weight loss solutions Practice is everything, its why you are where you are and its how you get where you’re going - anonymous Ground yourself in the confidence that your body knows best - 36. Losing 10lbs in 30 Days After Having a Baby: My Postpartum Weight Loss Journey Doubt Stress Overwhelm Anxiety- These are some of the most common emotions that we eat to relieve, so be aware of them. What i teach my clients and what i did in this process was anticipate them and decide ahead of time how i would handle them - 36. Losing 10lbs in 30 Days After Having a Baby: My Postpartum Weight Loss Journey Other people’s opinions do not serve you - talked about in episode 35 and 36 about my pregnancy weight gain and loss story When you believe it is 100% your hormones, you start thinking: Whats one more bite I may as well because hormones, Nothing i do works so… And when i told her to just slow down, only focus on her bodies signals she realized she was eating way more than her body needed! - 36. Losing 10lbs in 30 days after having a baby Studies show that 80% of people who shed a significant portion of weight don’t keep it off for even one year when strictly dieting. They have made no change in their brain. - 1. How to lose weight without dieting You body has a natural ability to self regulate its weight and that is by the signals its sends you of when to eat and when not to eat - 4. Lose 5lbs one week Practice creating space between the urge to eat and food going in your mouth - 2. Cravings When you refuse to throw food away that you are no longer hungry for, you treat and utilize your body as the trash can instead. - 13. Throwing food away Focus on loving how you feel when you have hit satiety: One of my clients recently shared a story about being served some bread pudding. It was delicious, she had two bites and was finished. Her friend asked her if she was going to finish it and she said not, I am going to throw it away. Despite this person not loving that idea, she felt so good knowing she was doing this for her. - 13 throwing food away Another one my clients who often takes leftovers home from restaurants talked about regretting tossing them. She decided she had gotten all the enjoyment from that meal she was going to get. Her money was spent on the enjoyment she got, no matter how big the portion was. - 13 throwing food away Losing weight starts with tuning into thoughts and feelings to allow ourselves to get to a deeper awareness and understanding of WHY we eat. - angie Practice practice practice unlearning habits of thoughts and action that no longer serve us and then practice practice practice learning new thoughts, emotions and actions that will serve us. - angie 3. The journey to sustainable health doesn’t have to be hard, heavy, burdensome and shameful. This journey can be light, hopeful, joyful, playful and fun if we give ourselves permission to let it be that way. - angie Losing weight just to look good is a good enough reason - anonymous 3 emotions to lose weight: confidence - 19 Calm Certainty No amount of “knowing you shouldn’t be doing it” will prevent you from doing it. The work is deeper than knowing the problem. 34. I should know better is preventing you from losing weight Everything that you’ve tried before has been wrong: Diets don’t go to the source of the problem, your brain. 34. I should know better is preventing you from losing weight The diet industry does not promote any sort of brain/mind management around food. What they tell you is if you have a craving, if you are wanting to eat things that don;t serve you you either: Need to distract yourself, Get more willpower, OR substitute the craving for something healthier! What this does is teach your brain that when it asks for food, it gets food. Even if its not what it asked for, it got rewarded for asking It perpetuates your brain asking…constantly substituting cravings for something healthier does not make managing your cravings easier, it makes it more difficult! Ep 21. When substitutions work against you Weight loss can and should be enjoyable, not miserable. When you enjoy the process it can become a part of your life… ep 8 How to love losing weight If you want to lose weight just to look good that is 100% valid and a great reason to lose weight. Telling yourself that this reason isn’t good enough means you are waiting for another more valid reason to show up for you to lose weight. So what are you waiting for? A scary diagnosis? Don’t delay, wanting to look good is a great reason to start losing weight AND prevent disease associated with obesity. - ep 33 Wanting to look good Make room for all your true desires, a lot of times people say “i would love to lose 50lbs but 25 is probably more realistic”, don’t limit your belief in yourself because of doubt, or past failures, because you are scared to fail again, because you don’t think it’s possible to lose the weight you want, or you don’t think wanting to look good is enough- acknowledge all of that. 33 wanting to look good In many challenging social situations you are the one making it into something in your head, so you get to decide what everyone else is thinking (for the most part, probably nothing!) - 7- people judging you When you overeat the best thing to do is to wait until your body tells you it is ready to fuel again, don’t do anything else- 42 how to recover on a monday You want peace with food, but when you are practicing reacting to your diet you are not practicing peace… 42- how to recover on monday Prep them ahead of time: i forewarn my husband if he is cooking or wanting to go out to eat that I am not very hungry and I am not eat or eat that much. This helps to set that expectation for him. I may take a few bites and save the rest for later or offer to split something with him - 49 when your spouse wants to eat all the time If you are in weight loss that feels like a struggle, it’s because of your thinking - 44 effortless weight loss Effortless is an emotion created by your thoughts - 44 effortless weight loss You need to get back to YOU when it comes to weight loss, you are bombarded by other peoples opinions - 22 diet and weight loss overwhelm Ultimately, weight loss is a lot less about what you eat but HOW you think about eating - 22 diet and weight loss overwhelm We let one failure mean that we will not succeed at weight loss. Your past failure at weight loss has nothing to do with your potential to succeed at weight loss. What actually dictates your ability to succeed is your willingness to fail, learn and keep going… I was listening to a podcast where an athlete was talking about failing. She said I am not failure averse because i learned as an athlete the only way to become good, the only way to become great is by failing. You are going to fall, you are going to miss the ball, you are going to lose point after point and shot after shot and that is all part of it. It doesn’t mean anything about me as an athlete or my athletic ability. It means I am doing it right. She said as a coach the athletes with the most fear of failure get injured and quit, they are so scared to do it wrong they can’t handle it when they do it wrong. - 14 failing at weight loss The brain is elastic: it is ever changing and if you have the tools and a way to direct it you can change it. You can create new habits that aren’t driven by willpower and restriction. If you are going to help your brain change, permanently do something other than what you have been doing, you have to prepare to fail and you have to prepare to practice. This is how the brain changes- 14 Learn how to create emotions for yourself - 22 how to get unstuck Create from your future not from your past - 38. Lose weight faster with future you You need to know where you are now and where you want to go - 38 future you Focus on the real reason for the event - 9 travel and lose weight Decide your indulgences ahead of time - 9 travel and lose weight If you don’t plan to go to the gym, will you end up at the gym? Probably not - 32 start today instead of monday When you trust your body, you also don’t need someone else to tell you what to eat. I don’t need someone else telling me what to eat, i need to learn how to listen myself - anonymous There is a reason the scale went up, when you react you don’t identify that, there is no room for growth. - 11 when you gain weight If you eat healthy but don’t weigh what you want, you are eating too much fuel and you need to look at your brain.
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What i eat in a day to lose 10lbs in a month- mindset version Basically all the thoughts and feelings i use to drive action and get result Hi, my name is Hayley Sohn and I am a Nutritionist and Brain Training Weight Loss Coach. I teach my clients how to lose 10lbs in 30 days without dieting by wiring their brain to eat less. Come work with me: basicallyitmeals.com Ok i got this idea from the very popular “what I eat in a day” posts you see everywhere, thought it would be fun However… this is going to be a little bit different because you know I am mindset focussed, not diet focussed so we are going to go through what my daily mindset in a day when I am losing weight is that causes me to take certain eating actions and results in weight loss is Losing weight as a whole is something I love. It feels amazing; easy and effortless. I still eat what I want, I don’t cut anything out. When i go to lose weight it looks completely different from how others lose weight. Mindset is: thought → emotion → action → result I focus on thought and emotion and action falls naturally in line I don’t focus on a specific diet, macros, points, calories, going to the gym or someone elses advice about what I should be doing. I don’t focus on actions at all, like typical diets do All of the actions I take, which is what most others focus all their attention on, actions, are completely dictated by what I am intentionally thinking about. Therefore, my actions are effortless, not forced. I lose weight utilizing specific thoughts that create specific emotions. Right now you might be using willpower, pressure, stress and you feel out of control, exhausted, frustrated, doubtful and overwhelmed When I lose weight I feel confident, relaxed, calm, and present What i mindset in a day: When I am losing weight i focus on thoughts that create specific emotions for me: confidence, calm and certainty My Models for weight loss I know how to lose weight Confidence The weight will come off quickly and easily as I slow down to listen Certainty I will lose weight as my body is ready to Calm The process of weight loss is about getting to know myself better Self love I want to lose weight Desire i am so excited to dive into it Excitement I love feeling good in my body as i lose weight Self love I love paying attention to my hunger and satiety Present I love the feeling of eating less Present When I think these things they create these specific emotions for me and from those emotions I take action. Here are the actions I take from these emotions Weigh in daily or weekly (depending on if I remember) I never stress over it or worry about it. It is a loose focus Make a plan daily Sometimes it is written down, sometimes it is in my mind and based on how my days normally look. I always recommend writing it down for my clients The plan focuses on my bodies natural signals for hunger and satiety and how I will utilize them to help my body tap into fat stores for weight loss. My daily plan includes: Get to a certain hunger level before eating and stop at a certain satiety level Focus on fats first thing in the morning, i usually put coconut oil in my coffee to balance my blood sugar and eliminate hormonal hunger Protein focussed lunch if i get to hunger level Dinner might be protein and vegetable or pizza, i adjust my satiety level depending on what I am eating dessert - I love chocolate, Perfect bars or popcorn Wine- have 2 glasses of wine 1-2 nights of the week Narrow down the junk foods I actually enjoy. Previously I used to just eat whatever junk I was craving in that moment or could get my hands on…then I realized I don’t actually like all junk food. So i started actually paying attention to what I like and don’t like. Plan to eat junk I never say I can’t have anything. Its all on the table even when I am loosing weight. When you say you can’t have it it becomes a point of focus…you obsess over it. Instead i focus on how my body feels and I plan to have my indulgences. That way I look forward to them, I enjoy them, there is no need to obsess over them Stick to the plan A big point of focus for me when I am losing weight is emotional eating/cravings. These are the times my brain is like “just eat the thing it will fix all of your problems” It is the handful of cereal as I put my husbands box away The three extra bites of dinner my stomach is too full for The tortilla chips eaten out of the bag when I am super stressed The crackers eaten mindlessly so I can check out for a minute How I focus on these productively is by knowing when they are coming and planning for them. When will they pop up today? How do i want to handle it when it does? Sometimes i choose to mindlessly eat even when I am losing weight!!!! And I simply make adjustments to my intake at other times The more I cut back on Mindless eating just to check out of an emotion, the more I can enjoy things I actually enjoy and actually enjoy them! Wine with cheese and crackers Milkshakes Peanut butter pretzels If you want help applying these mindset tools to your weight loss journey, join me and all my clients
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3 essentials for losing 10lbs These are 3 must haves when it comes to losing 10lbs. They are the cornerstones of my weight loss program You will notice none of them have to do with dieting. No counting, measuring, points, macros, specific foods. ANd this still works. Works better in fact. You might feel right now like you can’t trust yourself. Like you need outside force to lose weight. It’s why you keep looking for the next diet, the next trainer, the next weight loss shot. But what you really need are these 3 things Brain body connection Your body is sending you signals all the time, you don’t know how to listen. In face of the information being passed between your brain and body: 80% is coming from your body to your brain, not the other way around. You forgot how to listen because that voice in your mind is overpowering! You need to/have to learn how to stop listening to that voice and start listening to the wisdom of you body How can they do this at home? Here’s how you can get started at home before you join my program: deep breathing. In for the count of 8, hold for 4, out for 10 Mindset It’s not the actions you take, it is the sentences in your brain and the emotions they cause that drive your actions Simply saying you are going to take this list actions without looking at what you are currently thinking and feeling or what thoughts and emotions will drive those specific actions (how we lose weight now) will result in you using a lot of willpower to lose and feeling exhausted Planning indulgences A lot of times when we are wanting to lose weight we think it has to look perfect, no sugar, no flour, whatever it is. But you also want to live your life. Which means you need to plan to live your life. How will you strike a weight loss balance when you are living your life? Begin by looking at your calendar: have a dinner out coming up? What is one thing you would like to enjoy during that meal that is a bit of an indulgence, something you might deny yourself if you’re trying to lose weight. Now tell yourself you are eating that thing. You’re not going free for all and eating all the inudlgences because you are having one, you are simply having that thing and you are going to enjoy it to the fullest. Really slow down, taste it. A lot of times we eat indulgences super fast because we have this mindset that it’s not allowed, we have to sneak it, and this is the last time we’ll ever eat it so eat all of it. Planning ahead is being an adult about it. You are choosing to have this, not sneaking it. Ok, that’s our time. Hi, my name is Hayley Sohn and I am a Nutritionist and Brain Training Weight Loss Coach. I teach my clients how to lose 10lbs in 30 days without dieting by wiring their brain to eat less. Come work with me: basicallyitmeals.com
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